Sleeping in seperate beds, what do you think?

Right now I am sleep deprived because my dear boyfriend snore!!!

So I vote for sleeping in 2 different rooms

I sleep in a seperate room for this very reason.

I hate it but my wife is the same way as you.

I didn't always snore when I met my beautiful amazing wife.

I gained 60 lbs which is when the snoring started.

Now I'm doing everything I can to get back into that bed. (going from 275-199)

This is us. We are pretty sure he has sleep apnea but he refuses to go get tested even though he is the first to say he needs it. Awesome job on your weight loss!

You'll find that a lot of couples sleep in different beds or even rooms. After a certain period of time, one can only go on with lack of sleep for so long. Some people just like to sleep and get quality sleep. Some people simply don't sleep well with others in the bed. I'm a single mother and my daugthers will occasionally sleep in my bed if they fall asleep watching a movie in my room or something, or when the power is out (they think it's creepy LOL) and I can't sleep. At all. I love my children, and I know it's a different love than relationships, but I cannot STAND to have someone else in my bed. Just my two cents.

I understand all the trouble that this can cause because I too insist on sleeping in different beds. I have my bed and my husband has his. He has restless leg syndrome and snores like a freight train. I have trouble functioning on the little dribbles of sleep that I am able to get when I sleep with him but he hates us sleeping in different beds, though he does admit that he too sleeps much better. I personally think that getting enough good quality sleep every night is way more important than cuddling. When you wake up in the morning, you can always go get into bed with him and snuggle. I know it isn't the same but it's a good compromise. :bigsmile:

His reason for sleeping in seperate beds is so that he can get a good sleep which I find weird considering I'm the most quiet sleeper in the world and he actually snores!

I'm thinking of breaking up with him over it, it's so hard not to take it personally and wonder if this is really about him or me. He has lived on his own for quite a long time though and I guess you become accustomed to that single lifestyle?

I think you answered your own question!! You find it weird and hard, and you are now thinking of breaking up, follow your heart. If you feel this way now, just wait another year and it will probably be doubled. You deserve to be happy and should be with someone more like yourself. I cannot live stressed and unhappy, and that would make me very unhappy.

I find is very odd. My boyfriend and I personally would share a twin to be together. Only thing I can think of is really strong religious beliefs or he's insecure about something.

Is your boyfriend **** Van *kitten*?



Oh, and of course his first name is censored.

We keep our house cool in the winter so when reading a book in the guest bedroom I would get tired and the bed would be warm and comfy. So for months I was sleeping in the guest bedroom and I loved it, because in the winter it is the coldest room in the house and I have nice sheets and down comforter on the bed. Friend would say that it was terrible that I would choose to sleep in the guest room. My reply was I didn't want to go across the house to a cold bed when I already warmed the guest bed and besides if we are going to be intamate we will before bed time when I go to bed it is to sleep!

I have been married to my husband 42 years, have never slept in separate beds and never will. If we wanted separate beds we would be living in separate locations. Just my opinion

Ugh, you also said you are in your early twenties and he has been living alone for a long time. Is he much older than you? I don't care who disagrees with me, but as a FABULOUS 42 year old woman - I am TELLING you, no good guy would want to be with a younger girl. People who are older have more life experience come from a position of power and an imbalance of power in a relationship is never good. PLUS are moving into his place? WHY? Do you plan on building a life together or just fitting into his? You should RUN!!!

What the heck?
You can't be serious ?!?

I never sleep with my husband, he's worked nights for a year now, I'm so used to sleeping alone that when he has nights off, we don't sleep together still.

My husband & I are the exact same way! Everyone thinks its really weird but it just works for us. We're both 22, we've been married almost 3 years & we're very much in love but people often assume we're not because of our sleeping arrangements. He has his separate bedroom & I have mine....don't get me wrong, there are nights when he's off ( i honestly cant remember the last time he was off because of all the OT he works) that we decide we want to sleep together but for the most part we just sleep alone. He grinds his teeth so badly at night that it wakes me up, this is another reason for sleeping alone. Before he started nights we always slept together...as we got used to sleeping alone it just became habit.

As for cuddling & sex...well nights & beds aren't the only places that those things can happen, nor should they be!!!

I'm not much of a sleep cuddler but if my husband gets out of bed in the middle of the night I'm like

Wow! You really got a lot of feedback here on this topic!! From a lot of what I read. . . . . you definitely need to re-evaluate your relationship! There are a lot of questions I would ask you in regards to this situation, but based on what you have shared. . . . . . if you can't get to the bottom of this in a civil conversation and get an acceptable reason for(him) not sleeping with you. . . . . . . I say start looking for your own place and pack your bags and let him know that "the sleeping issue" is a deal braker! I've been married 30 yrs and my husband would NEVER Choose to NOT sleep with me, unless he or I had the PLAGUE! LOL!
Seriously honey, don't waste too much time with this guy, you"re too young to waste too much time with someone like this. Ask yourself if you COULD really spend the rest of your life with this guy? Is he committed to you in every other area of your relationship? You deserve to have someone who WANTS to sleep with you!! Especially if that is what YOU want!
Good luck!!! {{{HUGS}}}}

Maybe you sleep like this

I laughed so hard at this I snorted! lol, love it:laugh:

My sister and her husband not only sleep in seperate beds, they have seperate rooms.

Reason being: he snores like a buzzsaw and she moves around in her sleep like she's in a Kung Fu movie.

They'll still get together in her room whenever they want intimate time, but when it's time to sleep he goes back to his room. They have a great marriage and love each other very much, they just cannot sleep in the same bed. While I do sleep in the same bed with my husband, I see nothing wrong with what they do.

Maybe either you or he do something in your bed while you're asleep that makes him want seperate beds.

Edit to add: My husband and I do sleep in the same bed, but we're both such cover hogs we have to have our own quilts. We ended up destroying our last comforter before we figured out we can't share.

Right now I am sleep deprived because my dear boyfriend snore!!!

So I vote for sleeping in 2 different rooms

I slept in the living room for months because I snore recently i've been allowed back in the bedroom, Its miserable not sleeping next to your wife.

Even though my wife break dances in her sleep i't rather be in bed with her than anywhere else.

SOMEONE ELSE WHO UNDERSTANDS MY PAIN!!! I miss my wife so much.