Ladies: Best Way To Approach You In The Gym?
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I don't have a problem with it ! yes your at the gym to sweat and get down and work it but when i am in the supermarket i am there to shop .. when i am in a pub i am there to drink.......would i be annoyed if i get hit on at any of these places ..hell no !! Its a compliment even more so if you look like a sweaty betty !!
I would just casually ask if shes finished on the equipment and get chatting or just go straight up to her and use the typical hey i have seen u in here loads and think ur hot/cute blah blah line ...go for it ..!!0 -
All these ladies saying that they're not at the gym to be hit on...well, are you really ANYWHERE (besides maybe a bar on girls night out) with the intention of being hit on? I know I don't go to the grocery store with the purpose of getting hit on, or to the gas station, or to Target, or wherever...but I have gotten hit on at all of these places. So? I don't see what the big deal is as long as a guy isn't being creepy.
The gym to me is a safe haven not to get hit on though and that's why it is a big deal to me.0 -
When a girl is trying to do squats or pull ups, just give her a spot. She won't ask for one because of pride, so just walk up behind her and put your hands on her *kitten* (you could go hips, but *kitten* is more intimate, it tells her you're interested in more than friendship, a major turn on). Provide support as needed, she'll be extremely grateful when she's finished her set, you'll be in for sure.
God I hope you're joking. I really hope you're joking. Because any random dude that grabs my *kitten* saying he's trying to "spot" me at the gym would get a swift backhand to the face. No joke.
Try to do that with 135 lb on your back, wouldn't want you to drop that now. :bigsmile:0 -
Maybe don't. What I'm at the gym I'm doing my best to avoid notice and I know some other ladies that feel the same way.0
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I don't like being approached by guys in the gym. I'm there to work out, not date. I don't mind making friends but some guys make it way too obvious they're desperate.
Maybe just ask her what her goals are, how her workouts are going, is she following any specific program. Start off with fitness related questions first then let her bring it to the next subject. If she does, you might have a chance. If she doesn't, move on, she's probably not there to be hit on.0 -
Everytime i go to the gym, i always get approached by a guy.
Sometimes it's when i'm leaving the gym, and a guy runs to the door and says "exuse me!! I couldn't help but notice you in there. i didn't want to interupt you but my name is [...], whats yours?"
or while i'm doing reps they would say "how many more sets do you have?" and then a conversation would go on from there
. the best thing you can do is just smile at a girl but don't scare her away. let her get her workout in. and then approach after
^^^ This. Not every girl wants to be avoided while she's in the gym. If I were still single I would think it's a perfectly acceptable place to be approached (in a non-sleazy way). You've already got a common interest in fitness, which is way better than picking up some drunk chick in a bar. If you're friendly, polite and not creepy (do NOT follow her to her car), she'll either respond nicely or tell you she's not interested. If there's already been some smiles/eye contact across the gym a few times I don't see anything wrong with approaching her.0 -
When a girl is trying to do squats or pull ups, just give her a spot. She won't ask for one because of pride, so just walk up behind her and put your hands on her *kitten* (you could go hips, but *kitten* is more intimate, it tells her you're interested in more than friendship, a major turn on). Provide support as needed, she'll be extremely grateful when she's finished her set, you'll be in for sure.
God I hope you're joking. I really hope you're joking. Because any random dude that grabs my *kitten* saying he's trying to "spot" me at the gym would get a swift backhand to the face. No joke.
Try to do that with 135 lb on your back, wouldn't want you to drop that now. :bigsmile:
That would absolutely be the last rep I did, and once my barbell was racked, then the backhand (or kick to the balls) would come. Better? I'm a pretty chill person, but somebody I don't know grabbing my *kitten* would NOT fly.0 -
My opinion... in order to avoid a swift hard punch in the face I'd say don't do it or if anything wait til you both are leaving the gym to approach her. I'm in the zone when I work out and the last thing I want is to be hit on while looking like a bag of *kitten*.0
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1. don't approach. you have to be cool about it, man. when people approach me at the gym, i generally think that they're there to pick people up.
2. the next time you guys make eye contact, smile at her. not a creepy, "your body looks smokin' hot" smile, but a genuine, friendly smile, the same one you might give to an acquaintance when you pass each other on the street. it's important that they know you notice, but you don't want to give the impression that you've singled them out, because that's creepifying and distracting.
3. continue going about your business. be serious about your work-out.
4. over time, if she starts conveniently finding ways to be closer to you during her work-out, like on a nearby machine, acknowledge her presence simply, by looking over and giving a slight nod or another smile.
5. if she's interested, she will probably eventually approach you.
6. if she approaches you, ask her what her name is and then introduce yourself.
the key here is to not be the aggressor. the gym is supposed to be a safe place for women, and making overt advances can make them feel targeted or like they're an object of your lust. even if they are, you don't want to give them those vibes. you want to appear friendly and approachable, like a hot guy at the gym who could have a normal conversation over a cup of coffee.
honestly, i wouldn't mind if someone noticed me or wanted to talk to me at the gym. what i don't want, however, is a guy who interrupts my work out to sling pick-up lines at me. also? out of all the times i've been hit on, i remember the guys who asked my name and introduce themselves the most. they seemed friendlier and less narcissistic.
also, a woman who doesn't want you to talk to her, either at the gym or on the streets? not a *****. she doesn't owe you ****. she doesn't owe you a conversation. she doesn't owe you prettiness or a piece of *kitten* to ogle, so cut that **** real short and be a decent ****ing person.0 -
Your question is how to approach "me" at the gym, and trust me..... you will not want to approach me. I put on my "do not disturb" sign.
However, I do not want to discourage you if you have someone in mind. "She" is not me. Maybe she doesn't mind meeting people at the gym.... who knows!?... maybe that is why she joined.....
So here is my advise.... just do it! Say hello and follow her signals. If she doesn't want to talk to you, you will know it. It's ok. It probably has nothing to do with you, just wants to be left alone. But what if she does want to talk to you?
I am going to make a statement that I hope will not offend you..... but get a backbone and speak up!
Good luck!
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Women go to the gym to work out, and thats the last place they want to be hit on!! Not to mention, she will wonder if you are watching her all the time, making her more self aware of what shes doing, and it will make her uncomfortable.
^ that woman is only talking about herself, she isnt speaking for the rest of us I SWEARTAGAWD.
I feel like im on a mission here just hoping some nutter here goes to my gym and can take the good news back to everyone else that all those myths about not hitting on girls at the gym are untrue.
It's not sour, some of us don't need men flirting with us acting like tramps to validate ourselves. If the roles were reversed I'm sure there be more men feeling the same way. My guy friends hate chatty people at the gym just as much as I do.
OMG. Are you serious?
Yes, I act like a tramp and need to flirt with men to feel good about myself. Right. Or maybe I'm just a social person and don't mind somebody finding me attractive? Is that so wrong? Get over yourself.0 -
When a girl is trying to do squats or pull ups, just give her a spot. She won't ask for one because of pride, so just walk up behind her and put your hands on her *kitten* (you could go hips, but *kitten* is more intimate, it tells her you're interested in more than friendship, a major turn on). Provide support as needed, she'll be extremely grateful when she's finished her set, you'll be in for sure.
God I hope you're joking. I really hope you're joking. Because any random dude that grabs my *kitten* saying he's trying to "spot" me at the gym would get a swift backhand to the face. No joke.
Try to do that with 135 lb on your back, wouldn't want you to drop that now. :bigsmile:
That would absolutely be the last rep I did, and once my barbell was racked, then the backhand (or kick to the balls) would come. Better? I'm a pretty chill person, but somebody I don't know grabbing my *kitten* would NOT fly.
I don't see how a kick to the balls is better, that's not going to make you any friends.0 -
Hmmm, I, like most women on here, just like to go to the gym to do my duty and get **** done. I'm not there to socialize. BUT, if there just happens to be an attractive guy there that wants to come up to me, I wouldn't exactly shoot him down either. He would just have to be respectful of my space and not be creepy. I would rather a guy approach me about workout tips etc. vs. just feeding me stupid lines.
Bottom line, just don't be a *kitten*, in the gym or not.0 -
Simple.
Don't.
Sorry.
this ^^ ... Sorry besides the fact that I'm already taken but i always feel more vulnerable when I'm working out. :ohwell:0 -
Personally, I don't think there is a "best way" to approach us at the gym. I always find it creepy and annoying when guys come up and talk to me. If they're stretching when I'm stretching and they just happen to say something witty, that's cool. But ONLY if they continue what they were doing afterwards, and they don't follow me around trying to talk to me. Of course I'm speaking from a last-year stand-point, because I've had a boyfriend for the past year and he often comes to the gym with me so that wards off any unwanted attention.0
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Simple.
Don't.
Sorry.
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ummm yeah ladies chill out. Perhaps if you are NOT single you could become friends with him just at the gym and you guys can learn new lifts from each other, big deal. We are all human beings with the obvious thing of working out in common, big deal if a guy talks to you. I think it is a compliment if its not dirty or rude.....I mean hey, at least you still have something someone notices right?
Boldness but clean works for me...hey how long you been lifting? I like your (whatever) muscle. etc. Keep it simple
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Agreed with the "please don't"s. I have been a serious gym goer for over 20 years, and I need to feel I can go about my business in that space, for that is what I paid for. I don my gym stare, don't dress in the holly wood style or give any vibes that I am interested, so I expect that people will catch on to this. Also, guys while you are at this convo, please rack your 45's. The reason I do free weights is to avoid injury, increase strength, and then burn calories at rest. I would prefer not to have to risk injury while cleaning up your mess. Thanks0
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Please, don't!0
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Women go to the gym to work out, and thats the last place they want to be hit on!! Not to mention, she will wonder if you are watching her all the time, making her more self aware of what shes doing, and it will make her uncomfortable.
^ that woman is only talking about herself, she isnt speaking for the rest of us I SWEARTAGAWD.
I feel like im on a mission here just hoping some nutter here goes to my gym and can take the good news back to everyone else that all those myths about not hitting on girls at the gym are untrue.
It's not sour, some of us don't need men flirting with us acting like tramps to validate ourselves. If the roles were reversed I'm sure there be more men feeling the same way. My guy friends hate chatty people at the gym just as much as I do.
OMG. Are you serious?
Yes, I act like a tramp and need to flirt with men to feel good about myself. Right. Or maybe I'm just a social person and don't mind somebody finding me attractive? Is that so wrong? Get over yourself.
Agreed. Go to a gym long enough and your bound to make friends, taking a few minutes to chat, especially about fitness, is definitely not a bad thing.0 -
I think that waiting until she is leaving the gym, maybe in the hallway or something would be a more accepted approach, I get annoyed when guys try to talk to me during my workout... I am there to look ugly, break a sweat and kick my own *kitten*... leave me alone... HAHA
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When a girl is trying to do squats or pull ups, just give her a spot. She won't ask for one because of pride, so just walk up behind her and put your hands on her *kitten* (you could go hips, but *kitten* is more intimate, it tells her you're interested in more than friendship, a major turn on). Provide support as needed, she'll be extremely grateful when she's finished her set, you'll be in for sure.
ok I just wanna ask is the guy hot that is grabbing or not? that make a difference.
geez, ladies, go easy....poor guys, its just a joke
God I hope you're joking. I really hope you're joking. Because any random dude that grabs my *kitten* saying he's trying to "spot" me at the gym would get a swift backhand to the face. No joke.
Try to do that with 135 lb on your back, wouldn't want you to drop that now. :bigsmile:
That would absolutely be the last rep I did, and once my barbell was racked, then the backhand (or kick to the balls) would come. Better? I'm a pretty chill person, but somebody I don't know grabbing my *kitten* would NOT fly.
I don't see how a kick to the balls is better, that's not going to make you any friends.0 -
That is one thing I have no plans to ever do...every girl in the gym looks downright angry and ready to bite every guy's face off if we so much as glance their way.
If I am at the gym, I am mad.. I hate the gym..
Plus if I am working out I don't want to be bothered but some dude trying to get my number... best to wait till she is done working out, maybe catch her on the way out... but don't sit in the parking lot like a super freak and bound out the car the second she walks out..
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Not sure if anyone already said this, but I think if she's making eye contact back to you and is making herself approachable, you should feel free to say something.
For me personally, I go there to workout and I have little patience for anyone or anything that hinders my poductivity. So, you may consider trying to catch her on her way out after her workout is done. Or maybe hop on the cardio machine next to her and try to say something as she's cooling down.
Any insightful comment like, "I see you're into your music, too. Do you have any recommendations to add to my playlist?" Or, "Have you seen the [insert comment about something playing on one of the TVs -or-mention something the gym is doing differently]?" and let a conversation begin. She will probably figure out that you are interested if you talk for a few minutes. Also, if you aren't sure about her relationship status, a simple conversation like that could give her the opportunity to mention a boyfriend or husband and you could save some embarassment and still make a good impression as a friendly person. (You never know, she might have a single twin sister or something.)
You don't necessarily have to come out and say "I find you attractive and you've caught my attention."
If you find it's just too difficult to catch her without the head phones in, you could cross her path on the way to her next machine, make sure you have eye contact, smile and say a short, sincere word of admiration, like "You are wearing me out, working so hard!" She might take off her head phones to interact.
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I have had a few guys try to hit on me. The one that worked simply told me that I have made great progress and to keep up the good work. There are lots of hot guys at my gym, I'd feel flattered if they approached me. Another way that would work is if a guy had a suggestion on how to do something better or something else to try. As long as he was polite I'd be interested in learning more.0
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As a personal trainer and club director at a large gym I can give you this advice.... DON'T ! We are there with purpose and when you think your eyes are meeting they probably are not or if they are it is by accident. Most women don't want to be bothered during their workout. I purposely put my music on so no one will bother me. if the ear buds are in take that as your cue that she is not intrested in talking while doing her work-out.0
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I don't have a bit.ch face at all.
I would be flattered if someone hit on me, no matter where I was, or what I was doing.
It's not all about you. Remember, it took courage for that person to approach you. Get off your high horse.0 -
I guess it depends on how she works out - some days I am happy to chat for a few with anyone who strikes a conversation up with me, but other days, I refuse to make eye contact. Also, one guy always jumps in on my circuit to talk to me. It makes me really mad, but it could be due to the fact he's not cute. Start with eye contact and a smile... and worst comes to worst, she blows you off, and you just go back to working out as normal. Take a chance.
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I forgot to add, women love guys that draw attention to themselves. Look at nature, it's always the bird with the most vibrant and colorful feathers which finds its mate. Buy spaghetti strap tops so your nipples hang out a bit and grunt very loud when doing all your lifts. That way they know you're top dog. Nothing sets off the pheremones like a sweaty meat head.
Result? The women approach you. Flawless strategy broski.0 -
For the record...OP no longer cares.
I defied you all and walked right up to the girl I was curious about...while she was all sweaty and in the middle of her workout...and you know what? She was pleasant and receptive...She even gave me her number, without me asking for it.
Lesson learned.
You are all free to continue bantering about how much you hate social interaction at the gym, in fear that it may disrupt your precious workout.0
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