Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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quiksylver296 wrote: »T minus 4 days and I will be playing on the beach! This week cannot go fast enough! On a related note, my son is leaving today with my parents. They are going to go visit my grandparents for a few days before meeting up with us at the beach house.
Four nights child-free. Guess what the child-free-nights plan is? Yep, the gym. LOL
YAY so much to look forward to!!0 -
Patricia. Yup geeky. Chemist writing a haiku to an astrologist (his hobby/passion). He loved them which made me smile because they are so bad as poetry and yet accurate.
We are a good match
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Hey there all my lovely peeps! I've missed you all! I took some time off and have been really busy with life stuff, but I'm hoping things will settle down. Needless to say there's no way I'll be able to catch up.
Wanted to add a personal story to the "scale rules my life" sentiment. I was going through old papers over the weekend and glanced through my food and exercise logs for last year. Last March I was 10 lbs. lighter than I am now (thighs were an inch smaller and my waist was 2 inches smaller). My first thought was, "I've GOT to get back to that size!" Then I kept reading. I keep track of how I'm feeling physically, what's happening in life, and my moods along with my food intake and exercise because I believe it's all tied together. Turns out I was sick a lot, unhappy with some things, and was basically struggling. Today, I feel great. Nope, don't want to go back to that point.
Long story short: a lighter weight on the scale does NOT equal a happier self!
I was wondering how you were doing. I miss hearing all your advice, kind words.
I loved this story though. This makes me want to log my moods/feelings with my food as well. I think I will try this. I would love to look back and see how things change over time. Thanks for the idea!0 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »T minus 4 days and I will be playing on the beach! This week cannot go fast enough! On a related note, my son is leaving today with my parents. They are going to go visit my grandparents for a few days before meeting up with us at the beach house.
Four nights child-free. Guess what the child-free-nights plan is? Yep, the gym. LOL
YAY so much to look forward to!!
Awesome! Also, @LBuehrle8, has your gym opened back up yet?0 -
Confession: Class starts back up on Friday (it feels like it has been SO LONG since I last had homework) and I'm excited to get back to work, but worried that my gym-going (at least during the week) is going to suffer a bit because of it. I know working out isn't going to make or break my progress, but I don't want to fall out of the habit.0
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pofoster21 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »
Chiming in here....your date is probably over already, hope it went well!
post date update:
met the dude at a tavern downtown. really super nice guy. had good conversation, were able to laugh and joke a lot, which is awesome. not creepy and not meh (woo!) lol
issues i'm currently trying to reconcile in my brain: (remember NO JUDGEMENT)
- if i hadn't met him on a dating website, where orientation is posted, i would NEVER believe this guy is straight. i texted my friend (who is gay) that i was on a date with his straight doppelganger. so many times through out the night in my head i was just like, omg this is frank, i'm on a date with straight frank. boisterous, animated, like that always turned on and ready to take the stage personality.
- very very talkative. which isn't terrible, but he'd ask me something and half way through my story, he'd being going off on a tangent on something else, and completely cut me off. so like, a 3 minute story would take me like 10 minutes as i'd have to reel him back off the tangent, pick up where i left off and keep going. and the random tangents were funny and he had tons of interesting things to talk about, but seriously talked way more than me. way, way more.
- he's about an inch taller than me, and has a much more slender build. i'm quite "thick," i have tree trunk thighs that aren't going anywhere. so it's kinda like oh, here's dude and his fat girlfriend. and maybe that's dumb of me to think, but i do.
he did say he had a really good time and would like to see me again. which i might do to see if maybe he was just nervous/excited on the "first" date?
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May not be appropriate for @Susieq_1994!
Confession: I found out last night that a friend I used to work with has just been charged with second-degree murder of his wife, who has been missing since November. I'm having a hard time and am absolutely shocked, and still don't really believe it, even though the police quotes say he's been concealing the body at his home for the past 8 months. It just doesn't seem to compute at all against the person I remember.
Yikes.... news article link?
There's been a few, here you go:
http://www.calgarysun.com/2015/07/07/murder-suspect-joshua-burgess-was-eyed-early-in-investigation-into-shannon-madill-burgess-disappearance
http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/calgary/calgary-actress-shannon-madill-s-body-found-husband-charged-with-murder-1.3138983
http://calgaryherald.com/news/crime/murder-charges-laid-in-death-of-missing-calgary-actress-shannon-burgess0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »Hi everyone!!! I'm surprised that there are so many pages to catch up on. I'm currently working on it.
I had a good birthday. I actually got a swimming suit and swam for the first time in a LONG time. I swam Friday and Saturday before the storms rolled in. I got to see fireworks Thursday, Friday and Saturday (I love fireworks). I was able to eat bbq, s'mores and had a lot of fun. I'm sad it is over.
My boyfriend did hang out with me from Thursday to Sunday. We got along well. Last night we decided to take a break and he is going to work on himself. I think it is a good thing. I finally think he understands how hurt my heart was/is. I'm feeling better at least.
Glad to hear it!
And super jealous, I am dying to go swimming and today was the only day it would have been hot enough this week and I was stuck at work all day!!
I seriously hadn't been swimming since about 2007ish so it was a long time. I had to go buy a swimsuit. I was just glad I found a cute one that fit pretty good. I just hate that my hair is all dry now from the chlorine.
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Interesting! So are you saying that you think he's actually gay but dating women, or that he just reminded you of your gay friend?pofoster21 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »
Chiming in here....your date is probably over already, hope it went well!
post date update:
met the dude at a tavern downtown. really super nice guy. had good conversation, were able to laugh and joke a lot, which is awesome. not creepy and not meh (woo!) lol
issues i'm currently trying to reconcile in my brain: (remember NO JUDGEMENT)
- if i hadn't met him on a dating website, where orientation is posted, i would NEVER believe this guy is straight. i texted my friend (who is gay) that i was on a date with his straight doppelganger. so many times through out the night in my head i was just like, omg this is frank, i'm on a date with straight frank. boisterous, animated, like that always turned on and ready to take the stage personality.
- very very talkative. which isn't terrible, but he'd ask me something and half way through my story, he'd being going off on a tangent on something else, and completely cut me off. so like, a 3 minute story would take me like 10 minutes as i'd have to reel him back off the tangent, pick up where i left off and keep going. and the random tangents were funny and he had tons of interesting things to talk about, but seriously talked way more than me. way, way more.
- he's about an inch taller than me, and has a much more slender build. i'm quite "thick," i have tree trunk thighs that aren't going anywhere. so it's kinda like oh, here's dude and his fat girlfriend. and maybe that's dumb of me to think, but i do.
he did say he had a really good time and would like to see me again. which i might do to see if maybe he was just nervous/excited on the "first" date?
I think you should definitely see him again, if only because you might make a great friend. Unless he talks too much!
Also, regarding physical differences, just to say that my parents are the same height, but for most of their marriage she's been probably a hundred pounds heavier than him. He's loved her and been attracted to her for 52 years, so try not to stress over that side of things.
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Italian_Buju wrote: »Glinda1971 wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »
I love your avatar... Susie...you need to look at that one. The Hey, you...don't give up, OK?
Aww, thanks! I posted them to show someone how I looked at that age since I post so many pictures of my daughter on Facebook. Confession: I'm one of those moms
You were like a little doll! And speaking of dolls, I had a similar huge Raggedy Ann too. Kind of scary now, but it's funny how that stuff looks different to us now.
You're close! I think I can fix it. Here's @kecmw25:
If you right-click them and save the image url, you can just paste it in here like this:
What a cutie pie!! I might have some old pictures of me on Facebook. Maybe I can figure out how to get them on here...Thinking about me as a little kid inspired me to dig these out:
Past the bald-blob stage but I don't have any of those on my phone unfortunately, haha.
Anyone have any of themselves?
[ img ] www.yourcopyandpastedlink.com [/ img ]
but without any spaces.
You did! How did you fix it? How old are those pictures huh?
I don't think you looked like a blob at all, you were adorable!!
I think that is great.
I was going to make the same comment. Love that avatar!
P.s. –I hope your knee is okay!girldownsouth wrote: »
No, I haven't, it's things like eating food in certain orders, and knowing the calories in everything. I can't remember the others, just remember when I watched it realised almost all of them were things I do. But I've never even made it to my goal weight (or even halfway!), so I don't really think it's something to worry about. Although I think that was probably when I started trying not to eat all my food in order.Italian_Buju wrote: »
I think most people have some tendencies that can be considered OCD like.....the main difference is the focus and obsession in doing the task. It is odd though that so many people can have tendencies like that.girldownsouth wrote: »@Italian_Buju thank you for sharing that. I'm pretty sure I have some tendencies, I do the repeated checking of my bag, I always used to eat all of one thing on my plate, although I have mostly managed now to stop doing that. I actually have a lot of weird things with food, which watching tv discovered a lot were things people with anorexia do, so I'm not sure how come I'm the size I am! I think a lot of mine are checking and ordering things, that I don't really realise I do. My mum knows if I've been round while she's out because if there's a pile of coins on the side it'll have been stacked in height order.
That worries me about the anorexia tendencies, have you talked to someone about that??
I have a lot of food I have to eat in a certain order too. Then there are things like pizza where I have to take all the toppings/cheese off and eat the crust first. Then I eat all the toppings last. I get frustrated because I do this every time and sometimes I just think I need to eat like a normal person. Haha
I am exactly the same way with pizza and now I notice my son does the same thing haha
That would be four of us then! I do the same.
What is with all you guys ruining pizza??? Didnt we already discuss this earlier in the thread with pasta?? THESE ARE SINS AGAINST MY PEOPLE!!!
You are going to hate me. I'm Italian too. I know I'm ashamed of myself. 0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »Glinda1971 wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »
I love your avatar... Susie...you need to look at that one. The Hey, you...don't give up, OK?
Aww, thanks! I posted them to show someone how I looked at that age since I post so many pictures of my daughter on Facebook. Confession: I'm one of those moms
You were like a little doll! And speaking of dolls, I had a similar huge Raggedy Ann too. Kind of scary now, but it's funny how that stuff looks different to us now.
You're close! I think I can fix it. Here's @kecmw25:
If you right-click them and save the image url, you can just paste it in here like this:
What a cutie pie!! I might have some old pictures of me on Facebook. Maybe I can figure out how to get them on here...Thinking about me as a little kid inspired me to dig these out:
Past the bald-blob stage but I don't have any of those on my phone unfortunately, haha.
Anyone have any of themselves?
[ img ] www.yourcopyandpastedlink.com [/ img ]
but without any spaces.
You did! How did you fix it? How old are those pictures huh?
I don't think you looked like a blob at all, you were adorable!!
I think that is great.
I was going to make the same comment. Love that avatar!
P.s. –I hope your knee is okay!girldownsouth wrote: »
No, I haven't, it's things like eating food in certain orders, and knowing the calories in everything. I can't remember the others, just remember when I watched it realised almost all of them were things I do. But I've never even made it to my goal weight (or even halfway!), so I don't really think it's something to worry about. Although I think that was probably when I started trying not to eat all my food in order.Italian_Buju wrote: »
I think most people have some tendencies that can be considered OCD like.....the main difference is the focus and obsession in doing the task. It is odd though that so many people can have tendencies like that.girldownsouth wrote: »@Italian_Buju thank you for sharing that. I'm pretty sure I have some tendencies, I do the repeated checking of my bag, I always used to eat all of one thing on my plate, although I have mostly managed now to stop doing that. I actually have a lot of weird things with food, which watching tv discovered a lot were things people with anorexia do, so I'm not sure how come I'm the size I am! I think a lot of mine are checking and ordering things, that I don't really realise I do. My mum knows if I've been round while she's out because if there's a pile of coins on the side it'll have been stacked in height order.
That worries me about the anorexia tendencies, have you talked to someone about that??
I have a lot of food I have to eat in a certain order too. Then there are things like pizza where I have to take all the toppings/cheese off and eat the crust first. Then I eat all the toppings last. I get frustrated because I do this every time and sometimes I just think I need to eat like a normal person. Haha
I am exactly the same way with pizza and now I notice my son does the same thing haha
That would be four of us then! I do the same.
What is with all you guys ruining pizza??? Didnt we already discuss this earlier in the thread with pasta?? THESE ARE SINS AGAINST MY PEOPLE!!!
LOL! I would NEVER.
And, I don't think I mentioned it when we were on the subject of pasta, but I once caught my husband putting olive oil into the spaghetti while it was cooking. I made him start over. And, he claims his mother's family is Italian. Pfffftttt0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »@Susieq_1994 I hope you feel better soon! Stay strong, girl... we all know you're awesome! I wish I could send you some airplane pictures to maybe cheer you up a little.... but unfortunately the clouds were so dark and heavy when I flew to and from Punta Cana that I didn't see anything worth getting. Just a constant blanket of cloud
I've been watching Survivor today after a LONG hiatus away from this show. The thing about shows like these are that they give me huge adrenaline boosts. It's all the excitement, people blind-sighting each other... people I like winning challenges when they thought they were going home, etc. It's the same thing when singers perform really well on The Voice. My boyfriend doesn't understand how these happy adrenaline rushes come out of reality TV
The guy I want to win won an Immunity challenge (the underdog... I usually go for the underdogs...), so I was up out of my seat dancing around. Maybe I'm just a dork.
I LOVE SURVIVOR TOO!
Are you watching the last season now? I can't wait for next season!
Another show that I always say I'm not going to watch but always wind up watching. LOL
I watched the last season while it was on. I'm sure I'll watch the next season, too. My mom hates it when they bring back people from previous seasons. They already had their chance.
I sort of like it when they bring back the crazy ones.0 -
kelly_c_77 wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »T minus 4 days and I will be playing on the beach! This week cannot go fast enough! On a related note, my son is leaving today with my parents. They are going to go visit my grandparents for a few days before meeting up with us at the beach house.
Four nights child-free. Guess what the child-free-nights plan is? Yep, the gym. LOL
YAY so much to look forward to!!
Awesome! Also, @LBuehrle8, has your gym opened back up yet?
YES! It FINALLY did last week! It looks like they changed all the flooring and up on the 3rd floor there's no longer a movie theater but looks like another room to hold classes. All in all not much of a change, I was hoping they'd get all new machines and equipment!0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »
Chiming in here....your date is probably over already, hope it went well!
post date update:
met the dude at a tavern downtown. really super nice guy. had good conversation, were able to laugh and joke a lot, which is awesome. not creepy and not meh (woo!) lol
issues i'm currently trying to reconcile in my brain: (remember NO JUDGEMENT)
- if i hadn't met him on a dating website, where orientation is posted, i would NEVER believe this guy is straight. i texted my friend (who is gay) that i was on a date with his straight doppelganger. so many times through out the night in my head i was just like, omg this is frank, i'm on a date with straight frank. boisterous, animated, like that always turned on and ready to take the stage personality.
- very very talkative. which isn't terrible, but he'd ask me something and half way through my story, he'd being going off on a tangent on something else, and completely cut me off. so like, a 3 minute story would take me like 10 minutes as i'd have to reel him back off the tangent, pick up where i left off and keep going. and the random tangents were funny and he had tons of interesting things to talk about, but seriously talked way more than me. way, way more.
- he's about an inch taller than me, and has a much more slender build. i'm quite "thick," i have tree trunk thighs that aren't going anywhere. so it's kinda like oh, here's dude and his fat girlfriend. and maybe that's dumb of me to think, but i do.
he did say he had a really good time and would like to see me again. which i might do to see if maybe he was just nervous/excited on the "first" date?
That sounds like a possibility. Glad it was better than meh and not creepy!!!0 -
post date update:
met the dude at a tavern downtown. really super nice guy. had good conversation, were able to laugh and joke a lot, which is awesome. not creepy and not meh (woo!) lol
he did say he had a really good time and would like to see me again. which i might do to see if maybe he was just nervous/excited on the "first" date?
I've been waiting for that all morning! So, here's my 2 cents:
- The fact that he reminds you of a friend sounds like a good thing! Unless said friend really annoys you.
- Very talkative can go either way. Sometimes it's fun because they are so outgoing, and sometimes it's annoying because they might not listen.
- Some guys like thick girls, and you're super great, so please no negative self-talk!
- The fact that he didn't ask you to snuggle and then freak out when you wouldn't and there seemed to be sparks are all promising signs. Go out with him again and see where it goes!
ETA: I haven't been on a first date in over 10 years, so maybe I'm living a little vicariously through you!0 -
kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »WestCoastJo82 wrote: »Well, this is totally not a real problem, but pity party commenced. (Warning this is rather lame and I really just need to be told suck it up buttercup).
I hate how bothered I am by numbers on the scale. I'm recomping currently - which should not include weight gain as I am not attempting to bulk - but I've been over the top number I would like to be at for a couple of weeks now. I know it's probably just DOMS as Stronglifts is kicking my butt and my clothes fit the same if not better, but it really gets to me and I'm considering reducing calories even though I know its a bad idea for recomp progress but I'm letting the scale rule me.
I don't like how I let the scale rule me in general. On one hand it's good - even though I was using hair ties to extend the buttons on my pants instead of buying a bigger size - it wasn't until I saw 150 on the scale, which meant 25 BMI and officially over weight that I decided to do something about it. It's also great because I don't have to track food, make sure I stay in my 5 pound range and all's well. But then I have days like today and want to throw a giant pity party because the scale says a number I don't like which is actually not a real problem and I need to suck it up.
Pity party over. Sorry it's a lame pity party.
Awesome job on recomping & doing strong lifts. I bought the NROLFW & first I am reading the book & then will attempt to start weight lifting. I bought a barbell a few years ago; however, I am thinking I may need to join a gym to do some of the other exercises & perhaps have a trainer spot me on some of them.
We can start together! I'm joining my boyfriend's gym this weekend and he's going to train me (he's into bodybuilding). I also ordered NROLFW. It is supposed to arrive today!0 -
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kelly_c_77 wrote: »So Skye is back to her normal tail chasing, toy playing, furniture scratching, queen diva self. She was running laps up and down the hallway this morning and tackling the (much) bigger male cats. She even ate her dry food without any hesitation. YAY! Thanks for all the well wishes!
Yay for Skye!!!0 -
Cute. Love the shoes.pofoster21 wrote: »Just stopping in to post today's shoes....
I wear size 4.5 so I special order them.
We have nearly the same polish on today. Mine is half a shade lighter.
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MissKalhan wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »rungirl1973 wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »@Susieq_1994 I read a good book over the weekend. It is called What She left Behind by Ellen Marie Wiseman. Its about a young woman committed to an insane asylum in the 1930's by her father because she wouldn't marry who he wanted her too. Was so good I was sad when it ended
I'm going to add that to my Goodreads list. Sounds like it could be up my alley!
Me, too! I wonder if I order it off Amazon if it would arrive in time for my vacation?
ETA: I bought it and it's supposed to arrive by tomorrow. I love Amazon Prime! I also bought her other book, The Plum Tree, just because. Can't have too many books for vacation!
I have the kindle app for my tablet and Amazon has what is called Kindle Unlimited where for $9.95/month you can download up to 10 books at a time for that one price. Best thing ever!!
I also downloaded the Plum Tree . Going to start that one tonight lol
I've tried an e-reader. I just prefer real paper books...
Count me in as a real book reader. I got a kindle for christmas years ago, I just couldn't get into it. I recently signed up with the library in this City, man oh man I am in love all over again. So many books and so little time!
In the digital age this is an often forgotten resource!
Yes exactly! The thing is I work in the building with the library, they now rent all sorts of things out. Trying to engage the kiddlets0 -
May not be appropriate for @Susieq_1994!
Confession: I found out last night that a friend I used to work with has just been charged with second-degree murder of his wife, who has been missing since November. I'm having a hard time and am absolutely shocked, and still don't really believe it, even though the police quotes say he's been concealing the body at his home for the past 8 months. It just doesn't seem to compute at all against the person I remember.
Yikes.... news article link?
There's been a few, here you go:
http://www.calgarysun.com/2015/07/07/murder-suspect-joshua-burgess-was-eyed-early-in-investigation-into-shannon-madill-burgess-disappearance
http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/calgary/calgary-actress-shannon-madill-s-body-found-husband-charged-with-murder-1.3138983
http://calgaryherald.com/news/crime/murder-charges-laid-in-death-of-missing-calgary-actress-shannon-burgess
Wow that's crazy! Goes to show ya just never know about some people.
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This is to sooo many people, physically, emotionally, eating, etc. I don't have the time (unfortunately) to give you each an individual reply even though I want to very much.
Progress, not perfection. It is ok and normal to be less than perfect and look less than great while moving toward our goals. It is ok and normal to fall down (fail, goof up, etc.) just take a deep breath and dust yourself off (figuratively or emotionally) and start again. You CAN do it!!! I got my degree one breath at a time. Really. I got through my biggest heartbreak one little breath at a time. Trust me, if I can do it then you can do it too. I believe in you! (and you and you and you...)
Seriously, this is beautiful. It made me tear up. This is how I'm living at the moment. Just one step/breath/minute at a time. 0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »So today went pretty well. My kitchen floor is now done, which is good because it had a few bad breaks in it and that was dangerous for my feet!
I only got about two hours of sleep last night, and have been up since 4:10am, and it is not nearly midnight, so not sure how I am not dead yet, but I plan on sleeping tomorrow until I naturally wake up.
My Kyrie was super mad at my kids today for keeping her locked in their rooms (they had to so she would not get in the way of the kitchen floor thing), she made sure I knew about it when I came home.
She is also a giant chicken head kitty and when my daughter tried to bring her out for a bathroom break, and she saw what was happening out here, hid under her bed for the rest of the day until she heard me come in from work (even though the floor was done well before that).
Now that the floor is done, the stress of the last two weeks of super busy understaffed work, my son's bike saga and my sisters visit is all behind me, I am feeling MUCH better! Well, I will be after some sleep anyway!
Things with the SO are 'interesting'. We had another discussion about this problem yesterday and while I have eased up on him a bit (I took his call tonight after the third time he called) and I talked to him yesterday, things are still not proper. Thank you @FroggyBug for understanding how frustrating this is. I can appreciate what everyone else chimed in had to say but I cannot just let this go, I am too fed up, and God forbid he does not really get it this year, because if this happens again next year, I might snap and end up widowed. And like I said, he is well aware that I am correct in this situation, so it is not like I am just overreacting or something. And for what it is worth, every one that is aware of this problem in our RL ALL agree with me, even his own male friends, one of them even tried to discuss it with him because he was upset that I was so upset again.
@pofoster21 - I hope your leg heals quickly, that is a rough spot!
Ok, I have to be honest and said I am suddenly feeling discouraged from @bkhamill 's comment.....now I feel a bit like why try if I don't really have a chance to succeed? Losing weight isn't something I have ever been focused on, and it was not until my DR said something that I really thought 'ok, guess I should do this", because I always try and take the best care I can of my health, and follow what my DR says as best I can. But I have heard other people say that they could only do it when they wanted to, so maybe I am wasting my time? I put in a half assed effort a few years ago when a surgeon scared me, but then my current surgeon and my DR told me she was full of it, so that made me not worry. On the other hand I have heard the same thing about smoking, and I had no desire to quit, until my SO said I had to quit if I wanted to have a baby, and I did, before I got pregnant, and never looked back. Maybe this will be the same? It is not like I want to lose 250lbs or anything, she only asked me to lose 50.....although I wonder if I lose that 50 if she will want me to lose another 50 or something......ugh, now I am full of doubt......
Ok, I now see the fitbit thread has daily goals, will start to post there tomorrow!
Your Kyrie sounds similar to my Steve (Steve is a black female kitty) and Snowball (male white kitty). We have 4 cats, but nobody that comes to the house would ever know we have more than 2. Scaredy cats.
50 lbs is doable, no problem. Don't even think about what's going to happen after that. I know that's easier said than done, but any large goal can seem insurmountable if you don't break it up into small chunks.0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »berlynnwall wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »rungirl1973 wrote: »berlynnwall wrote: »Hi guys, checking in. I went camping over the weekend and it was pretty nice. It was my kid's first time camping in the actual outdoor woods. I know people do it, but I was very worried about camping with any babies, so this year was the first year I felt comfortable. They loved it, and I'm so glad because I plan on taking them out a lot this summer.
The thread is messed up for me and I lost my spot. If I missed anything someone said to me, I'm sorry. I haven't heard back from the police about my sister yet. I guess they don't care as much if someone pretends to be you as a witness instead of a criminal.
Thirdly - I saw someone mention Goodreads. If anyone wants to add me, you can! I love sharing books with friends.
https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/8630108-amber
I added you.
My name is Tammy, and my Siamese kitty Max is my profile pic there.
https://goodreads.com/user/show/5477691-tammy
Trying to fix so I can link...
Ok, I created a profile and added you both!
https://www.goodreads.com/review/list/44563667
Hope this works to link to me
Nice! I think Goodreads gives much better book recommendations than Amazon. Amazon is always recommending books that I bought from them. I already read that!
I never heard of goodreads, I am going to check it out after I finish catching up. But if we share book recommendations it won't do much to link to me... I mostly read historical romances these days as my poor brain can't handle anything else.
No worries I read those too!!0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »Just stopping in to post today's shoes....
Those are super cute!! I'm hoping after I shift this weight I can wear heels again.0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »
Ok, I have to be honest and said I am suddenly feeling discouraged from @bkhamill 's comment.....now I feel a bit like why try if I don't really have a chance to succeed? Losing weight isn't something I have ever been focused on, and it was not until my DR said something that I really thought 'ok, guess I should do this", because I always try and take the best care I can of my health, and follow what my DR says as best I can. But I have heard other people say that they could only do it when they wanted to, so maybe I am wasting my time? I put in a half assed effort a few years ago when a surgeon scared me, but then my current surgeon and my DR told me she was full of it, so that made me not worry. On the other hand I have heard the same thing about smoking, and I had no desire to quit, until my SO said I had to quit if I wanted to have a baby, and I did, before I got pregnant, and never looked back. Maybe this will be the same? It is not like I want to lose 250lbs or anything, she only asked me to lose 50.....although I wonder if I lose that 50 if she will want me to lose another 50 or something......ugh, now I am full of doubt......
Ok, I now see the fitbit thread has daily goals, will start to post there tomorrow!
Why worry about the "What if's" when you have a concrete goal. Take that 50 pounds, break it into goals that work for you and let us cheer you on. (((HUGS)))
I just got back out of bed to add something that has been bothering me since I last posted....I want to make it clear that I in NO way thought that @bkhamill 's comment was meant to be discouraging or anything like that. Lots of people say the "you need to do it for YOU' comment about many different things.....that was just where my mind went......that is me, not her.....
Honestly, do it for whatever reason you want but I think you should do it. Like someone else said earlier, we don't want you to get hurt/die either. Please just take care of yourself so you can be healthier. Find whatever reason you need (or maybe no reason at all-just do it). Don't get too discouraged. It's hard for a lot of people to do this. I know I've stalled out and stopped caring many times but I keep trying anyway just because I know I need to. Just make small changes and hopefully work your way up from there. I believe in you. We will be here to help as needed. 0 -
I weighed myself today...I was scared to since I've been on vacation. I'm actually .2 pounds lower than when I left for vaca!! I guess lifting in the gym helped out!!0
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pofoster21 wrote: »berlynnwall wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »rungirl1973 wrote: »berlynnwall wrote: »Hi guys, checking in. I went camping over the weekend and it was pretty nice. It was my kid's first time camping in the actual outdoor woods. I know people do it, but I was very worried about camping with any babies, so this year was the first year I felt comfortable. They loved it, and I'm so glad because I plan on taking them out a lot this summer.
The thread is messed up for me and I lost my spot. If I missed anything someone said to me, I'm sorry. I haven't heard back from the police about my sister yet. I guess they don't care as much if someone pretends to be you as a witness instead of a criminal.
Thirdly - I saw someone mention Goodreads. If anyone wants to add me, you can! I love sharing books with friends.
https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/8630108-amber
I added you.
My name is Tammy, and my Siamese kitty Max is my profile pic there.
https://goodreads.com/user/show/5477691-tammy
Trying to fix so I can link...
Ok, I created a profile and added you both!
https://www.goodreads.com/review/list/44563667
Hope this works to link to me
Nice! I think Goodreads gives much better book recommendations than Amazon. Amazon is always recommending books that I bought from them. I already read that!
Ugh this happens to me too! Why?! So annoying!
Because they get idiots like me who keep buying the same book and CDs I already bought!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And, THAT is why I have tracked every book on Goodreads for the past few years. I can't tell you how many times I've gotten halfway through a book before realizing I've already read this and know how it's going to end. Now, when somebody recommends a book that sounds like something I'd like, I always add it to my "To Read" list on Goodreads. Occasionally, when I search it on Goodreads, I find that I've already read it. LOL
Happens with movies, too. I get halfway through and go, "I've seen this."
And, when my husband and I got married last year and combined our CD libraries and got rid of the duplicates, we found a LOT of CDs that I had multiples.
You are not alone, @pofoster21 !!0 -
Interesting! So are you saying that you think he's actually gay but dating women, or that he just reminded you of your gay friend?pofoster21 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »
Chiming in here....your date is probably over already, hope it went well!
post date update:
met the dude at a tavern downtown. really super nice guy. had good conversation, were able to laugh and joke a lot, which is awesome. not creepy and not meh (woo!) lol
issues i'm currently trying to reconcile in my brain: (remember NO JUDGEMENT)
- if i hadn't met him on a dating website, where orientation is posted, i would NEVER believe this guy is straight. i texted my friend (who is gay) that i was on a date with his straight doppelganger. so many times through out the night in my head i was just like, omg this is frank, i'm on a date with straight frank. boisterous, animated, like that always turned on and ready to take the stage personality.
- very very talkative. which isn't terrible, but he'd ask me something and half way through my story, he'd being going off on a tangent on something else, and completely cut me off. so like, a 3 minute story would take me like 10 minutes as i'd have to reel him back off the tangent, pick up where i left off and keep going. and the random tangents were funny and he had tons of interesting things to talk about, but seriously talked way more than me. way, way more.
- he's about an inch taller than me, and has a much more slender build. i'm quite "thick," i have tree trunk thighs that aren't going anywhere. so it's kinda like oh, here's dude and his fat girlfriend. and maybe that's dumb of me to think, but i do.
he did say he had a really good time and would like to see me again. which i might do to see if maybe he was just nervous/excited on the "first" date?
I think you should definitely see him again, if only because you might make a great friend. Unless he talks too much!
Also, regarding physical differences, just to say that my parents are the same height, but for most of their marriage she's been probably a hundred pounds heavier than him. He's loved her and been attracted to her for 52 years, so try not to stress over that side of things.
i don't think he's actually gay, but his mannerisms, personality, and the such would give me that impression if i was completely unaware.pofoster21 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »
Chiming in here....your date is probably over already, hope it went well!
post date update:
met the dude at a tavern downtown. really super nice guy. had good conversation, were able to laugh and joke a lot, which is awesome. not creepy and not meh (woo!) lol
issues i'm currently trying to reconcile in my brain: (remember NO JUDGEMENT)
- if i hadn't met him on a dating website, where orientation is posted, i would NEVER believe this guy is straight. i texted my friend (who is gay) that i was on a date with his straight doppelganger. so many times through out the night in my head i was just like, omg this is frank, i'm on a date with straight frank. boisterous, animated, like that always turned on and ready to take the stage personality.
- very very talkative. which isn't terrible, but he'd ask me something and half way through my story, he'd being going off on a tangent on something else, and completely cut me off. so like, a 3 minute story would take me like 10 minutes as i'd have to reel him back off the tangent, pick up where i left off and keep going. and the random tangents were funny and he had tons of interesting things to talk about, but seriously talked way more than me. way, way more.
- he's about an inch taller than me, and has a much more slender build. i'm quite "thick," i have tree trunk thighs that aren't going anywhere. so it's kinda like oh, here's dude and his fat girlfriend. and maybe that's dumb of me to think, but i do.
he did say he had a really good time and would like to see me again. which i might do to see if maybe he was just nervous/excited on the "first" date?
That sounds like a possibility. Glad it was better than meh and not creepy!!!
lol, thanks! i think a second date will probably either solidify my first impressions which is he's a bit too overwhelming for me, or, he'll mellow out a bit and we can see where it goes from there.kellienw335 wrote: »post date update:
met the dude at a tavern downtown. really super nice guy. had good conversation, were able to laugh and joke a lot, which is awesome. not creepy and not meh (woo!) lol
he did say he had a really good time and would like to see me again. which i might do to see if maybe he was just nervous/excited on the "first" date?
I've been waiting for that all morning! So, here's my 2 cents:
- The fact that he reminds you of a friend sounds like a good thing! Unless said friend really annoys you.
- Very talkative can go either way. Sometimes it's fun because they are so outgoing, and sometimes it's annoying because they might not listen.
- Some guys like thick girls, and you're super great, so please no negative self-talk!
- The fact that he didn't ask you to snuggle and then freak out when you wouldn't and there seemed to be sparks are all promising signs. Go out with him again and see where it goes!
ETA: I haven't been on a first date in over 10 years, so maybe I'm living a little vicariously through you!
you are adorable!
i love said friend, but can only take him in doses as he's ALWAYS "on," and it can be very exhausting.
we actually shared a few okc dating disasters and i told him about snuggle dude, so then randomly through out the night he'd toss in, "but we're totally going to snuggle later, right? how could you not trust me!!" which i thought was cute.
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