Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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FluffySandwich wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »
On Season 30 and I'm not really sure who I like and dislike. I'm kind of going for Tyler and Carolyn... and I don't like Rodney much at all. Though of course it can change... my opinions of people in these shows usually change as it progresses.FluffySandwich wrote: »
Any later seasons of Survivor you would recommend?kelly_c_77 wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »WestCoastJo82 wrote: »Well, this is totally not a real problem, but pity party commenced. (Warning this is rather lame and I really just need to be told suck it up buttercup).
I hate how bothered I am by numbers on the scale. I'm recomping currently - which should not include weight gain as I am not attempting to bulk - but I've been over the top number I would like to be at for a couple of weeks now. I know it's probably just DOMS as Stronglifts is kicking my butt and my clothes fit the same if not better, but it really gets to me and I'm considering reducing calories even though I know its a bad idea for recomp progress but I'm letting the scale rule me.
I don't like how I let the scale rule me in general. On one hand it's good - even though I was using hair ties to extend the buttons on my pants instead of buying a bigger size - it wasn't until I saw 150 on the scale, which meant 25 BMI and officially over weight that I decided to do something about it. It's also great because I don't have to track food, make sure I stay in my 5 pound range and all's well. But then I have days like today and want to throw a giant pity party because the scale says a number I don't like which is actually not a real problem and I need to suck it up.
Pity party over. Sorry it's a lame pity party.
It's not lame at all. I admit the scale rules my life too...not that I want to..but it does. It can ruin my day...even when I know it's just water weight from the day before.
LOL I used to be like that and I still weigh a few times a week but now if it's < then I am YAAAY! If it's > then I am like WHATEVER *flips bird* Haha.
I try to have that attitude towards it and I'll have days where I say I don't care...but really, it weighs on me all day. Pun intended!
Blood vs Water sounds interesting
All of them! I love Survivor.
Couldn't stand Rodney from the start all the way through. Ugh. And Dan is from my state (Maine)...kind of an embarrassment.
He and Dan strike me as arrogant and annoying, especially Rodney. I like Joe, though, so I'm hoping he teams up with Tyler and Carolyn Think they'd be pretty cool together.
Why can't I think of who Joe is...I'll have to look him up.0 -
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quiksylver296 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »Just stopping in to post today's shoes....
Yep. We definitely need a Batcave thread for this!!!
There is a random pictures thread that you could use. If you haven't checked it out yet, then you should! Lots of beautiful scenery pictures and some really cute kids!0 -
Ugh...feeling like I'm going to cave in today and go redeem my free Blizzard from Dairy Queen...it expires in 3 days.
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riderfangal wrote: »A NSV victory today. I wore a pair of jeans to work today that I haven't fit into for 7 years!!! They are still a little snug in the tummy region but 5 months ago I couldn't get them past my thighs!!
Yay!! That's awesome
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riderfangal wrote: »A NSV victory today. I wore a pair of jeans to work today that I haven't fit into for 7 years!!! They are still a little snug in the tummy region but 5 months ago I couldn't get them past my thighs!!
Yayyyy!! That's awesome!!0 -
@TigerNY128 I'm totally jealous you went on vacay and come back weighing less, way to go!!0
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Teenage boys are truly disgusting, with their BO and brown teeth and devil-may-care attitudes.rungirl1973 wrote: »
Yeah, he wasn't Mr Popular.
Oh, so sorryrungirl1973 wrote: »Daughter went to the doctor this morning. If I wasn't there, she wouldn't have told them the whole story, so I went with. The anxiety, it's worse than I realized. Poor girl, she has anxiety over every social situation. I had no idea.
Anyhow, they are checking her thyroid, gave her a prescription, and she'll go back in 4 weeks to see how it's going.
My son went to the dentist. I know there are thousands of dollars of work that needs to be done on his teeth. The dentist sent him home with a "procedure plan" to review and plan for the next steps. Ugh. I guess I'll look at that when I get home. But, really, what am I going to do? He only has one set of teeth. They have to be taken care of, or he'll have dentures by age 25. Dang kid.
What was the prescription for? The anxiety?
I could have written this. My daughter is really struggling too (19 yo - the one with anemia, which is not improving), and we had to spend $2000 on fillings for my son because he didn't brush properly when he had braces. Seriously, kid?
My parents would have killed me.
The boy's teeth are literally rotting / chipping away. He has one that's chipped all the way down to the gumline. He said, "I wish I would have brushed more when I was younger.'
Really? What were you doing every day when I sent you to the bathroom to brush your teeth?
Ugh.
I nagged and nagged my oldest to take showers, brush his teeth, change his clothes etc etc. Nothing. Then he suddenly started doing all those things and I asked him why. A girl at school had told him he smelled bad. That was all it took. I'm thinking of paying a girl at #2 son's school to do the same for him.
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Teenage boys are truly disgusting, with their BO and brown teeth and devil-may-care attitudes.rungirl1973 wrote: »
Yeah, he wasn't Mr Popular.
Oh, so sorryrungirl1973 wrote: »Daughter went to the doctor this morning. If I wasn't there, she wouldn't have told them the whole story, so I went with. The anxiety, it's worse than I realized. Poor girl, she has anxiety over every social situation. I had no idea.
Anyhow, they are checking her thyroid, gave her a prescription, and she'll go back in 4 weeks to see how it's going.
My son went to the dentist. I know there are thousands of dollars of work that needs to be done on his teeth. The dentist sent him home with a "procedure plan" to review and plan for the next steps. Ugh. I guess I'll look at that when I get home. But, really, what am I going to do? He only has one set of teeth. They have to be taken care of, or he'll have dentures by age 25. Dang kid. What was the prescription for? The anxiety?
I could have written this. My daughter is really struggling too (19 yo - the one with anemia, which is not improving), and we had to spend $2000 on fillings for my son because he didn't brush properly when he had braces. Seriously, kid?
My parents would have killed me.
The boy's teeth are literally rotting / chipping away. He has one that's chipped all the way down to the gumline. He said, "I wish I would have brushed more when I was younger.'
Really? What were you doing every day when I sent you to the bathroom to brush your teeth?
Ugh.
I nagged and nagged my oldest to take showers, brush his teeth, change his clothes etc etc. Nothing. Then he suddenly started doing all those things and I asked him why. A girl at school had told him he smelled bad. That was all it took. I'm thinking of paying a girl at #2 son's school to do the same for him.
Bahahaha that's a good idea!!0 -
riderfangal wrote: »A NSV victory today. I wore a pair of jeans to work today that I haven't fit into for 7 years!!! They are still a little snug in the tummy region but 5 months ago I couldn't get them past my thighs!!
That is a crazy big NSV! Congrats
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pofoster21 wrote: »Ok since we are going to be more accountable and post what we do each day to motivate each other I figure if I post what I do and not what I was supposed to do then it won't work. Since none of you will know what I intended. So my goals for today:
Walk 25000 steps (not hard at barn)
Run 1 hour
Address my chairs comments on my prospectus
Not envy @MoHousdon her husband or her vacation.
Edited to add I may not be able to achieve the last one.
Edited again for no alcohol
The last bit made me smile.
I'm currently on 1102 but I'm reading EVERY SINGLE POST so I'm properly caught up when I jump back in.
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kellienw335 wrote: »@pofoster21 - Love the shoes, although not sure how you walk in those! I can't wait until I drop some more weight so I can wear cute shoes again. I wear tennis shoes to work at the moment. It helps me to get in more steps. Also, we have a program that awards leave time every quarter if you get a certain number of minutes of exercise every month. Totally worth it!
Dang! I wish my work had a program like that! I'd be banking the hell out of some leave time. lol
With that system, I think I'd be the only one here to get leave time. Oops, did I say that out loud?0 -
kelly_c_77 wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »A NSV victory today. I wore a pair of jeans to work today that I haven't fit into for 7 years!!! They are still a little snug in the tummy region but 5 months ago I couldn't get them past my thighs!!
That's awesome! Nice job!!rungirl1973 wrote: »I love the shoes, @pofoster21! I wear heels pretty much every day (in the office anyway...I switch to flats for my walk to and from work) and am definitely a shoe girl but I don't think I have a single pair of heeled sandals because I'm kind of weird about feet and like them to be covered. I'm jealous of the cute options for people who aren't weird like me though!
I'm currently trying to figure out what to wear with the (third...) dress I bought for the wedding this weekend because something open-toed makes way more sense in this weather, but I think my toes are too gross for the one pair of peep-toes I have....TMI WARNING: I lose my big toenails every year in March from skiing (hard boots, fast skiing, tons of pressure) so for most of sandal season they're only half grown back, which looks pretty awful.
Hmm. I've never lost my big toenail, but I have lost others. I usually just paint the nail bed and call it a day. Nobody notices unless they're REALLY looking at my feet. Maybe you could pull that off?
Same! I have so many toe nails that I've lost or that have turned black from running. Paint them and you hardly notice. I would die without my flip flops...no way I'm covering my feet all summer!
I only wear flip-flops at the beach - I live in a big city and five minutes on the sidewalk in sandals mean your feet are filthy. Grosses me out. I just wear breathable ballet flats instead so the sides and bottoms of my feet are protected.
I've tried the painting-the-nail-bed thing but it's pretty obvious on the big toe - especially now when I have half a nail grown back. Not a cute look, sadly. Worth it for all that bombing down the mountain I did all winter and spring, though.
I'm probably just going to wear my crying-unicorns-in-space shoes and call it a day, because crying unicorns in space go with everything no matter the weather....
I LOVE THESE!!! @peleroja you could be a stylist! Such fun clothes and shoes!0 -
riderfangal wrote: »A NSV victory today. I wore a pair of jeans to work today that I haven't fit into for 7 years!!! They are still a little snug in the tummy region but 5 months ago I couldn't get them past my thighs!!
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ETA: I "learned" to date in my 40's. I never "dated" like that before, I didn't know how to do it. It was so fun and cool (and scary) to discover so much about myself. I was always 100% myself and clear that I was looking for a good relationship. I did work hard on keeping good boundaries and only dating men who didn't raise red flags.
What are some red flags for people?
The one's I really looked for:
Very angry/resentful toward someone (i.e., ex, mother, sibling, etc.) even if deserved it should not come out in date #1 or #2.
Pushing for "cuddles" or anything else very quickly.
Not understanding what an appropriate level of activity for a first or second date would be (i.e. writing a song for me after one email exchange, planning a weekend away in another state for a second date.)
Not having an appropriate job for his age (i.e. I am in the middle age dating pool, I want to date someone not support him financially.)
What other red flags come to mind?
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rungirl1973 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »
Chiming in here....your date is probably over already, hope it went well!
post date update:
met the dude at a tavern downtown. really super nice guy. had good conversation, were able to laugh and joke a lot, which is awesome. not creepy and not meh (woo!) lol
issues i'm currently trying to reconcile in my brain: (remember NO JUDGEMENT)
- if i hadn't met him on a dating website, where orientation is posted, i would NEVER believe this guy is straight. i texted my friend (who is gay) that i was on a date with his straight doppelganger. so many times through out the night in my head i was just like, omg this is frank, i'm on a date with straight frank. boisterous, animated, like that always turned on and ready to take the stage personality.
- very very talkative. which isn't terrible, but he'd ask me something and half way through my story, he'd being going off on a tangent on something else, and completely cut me off. so like, a 3 minute story would take me like 10 minutes as i'd have to reel him back off the tangent, pick up where i left off and keep going. and the random tangents were funny and he had tons of interesting things to talk about, but seriously talked way more than me. way, way more.
- he's about an inch taller than me, and has a much more slender build. i'm quite "thick," i have tree trunk thighs that aren't going anywhere. so it's kinda like oh, here's dude and his fat girlfriend. and maybe that's dumb of me to think, but i do.
he did say he had a really good time and would like to see me again. which i might do to see if maybe he was just nervous/excited on the "first" date?
Glad he wasn't crazy.
I'd go out with him again and see how that goes. He may have been a nervous talker?
My husband is a little ADHD. He'll tell a story, go off on a tangent, and I have to reel him back in regularly. I've gotten used to that. That point hit home for me. LOL
I also sometimes have to say, "Can I finish my story?" when he cuts me off. He doesn't even realize he's doing it.
That's different than somebody who's so stuck on himself that he won't listen to you...
Interesting! So are you saying that you think he's actually gay but dating women, or that he just reminded you of your gay friend?pofoster21 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »
Chiming in here....your date is probably over already, hope it went well!
post date update:
met the dude at a tavern downtown. really super nice guy. had good conversation, were able to laugh and joke a lot, which is awesome. not creepy and not meh (woo!) lol
issues i'm currently trying to reconcile in my brain: (remember NO JUDGEMENT)
- if i hadn't met him on a dating website, where orientation is posted, i would NEVER believe this guy is straight. i texted my friend (who is gay) that i was on a date with his straight doppelganger. so many times through out the night in my head i was just like, omg this is frank, i'm on a date with straight frank. boisterous, animated, like that always turned on and ready to take the stage personality.
- very very talkative. which isn't terrible, but he'd ask me something and half way through my story, he'd being going off on a tangent on something else, and completely cut me off. so like, a 3 minute story would take me like 10 minutes as i'd have to reel him back off the tangent, pick up where i left off and keep going. and the random tangents were funny and he had tons of interesting things to talk about, but seriously talked way more than me. way, way more.
- he's about an inch taller than me, and has a much more slender build. i'm quite "thick," i have tree trunk thighs that aren't going anywhere. so it's kinda like oh, here's dude and his fat girlfriend. and maybe that's dumb of me to think, but i do.
he did say he had a really good time and would like to see me again. which i might do to see if maybe he was just nervous/excited on the "first" date?
I think you should definitely see him again, if only because you might make a great friend. Unless he talks too much!
Also, regarding physical differences, just to say that my parents are the same height, but for most of their marriage she's been probably a hundred pounds heavier than him. He's loved her and been attracted to her for 52 years, so try not to stress over that side of things.
I was going to say the same thing about the follow up date. If nothing else, maybe you will make a friend that is fun to talk to.
My parents are the same way as well. My mom is heavier than my dad but he has always loved her so much. They look fine together to me.
these give me hope
If nothing else, you are learning more about you, about what works for you and what does not work for you. If he is right for you and you are right for him that is wonderful. If that is not the case, no worries, you are that much closer to the right one!
I think I read the average number of "dates" to find the right one is 70. YIKES! I learned so much about myself in the time I spent dating. I got some funny stories too. There was a sweetheart of a man who really liked me, he was interesting and fun. He, sadly, looked JUST like my younger brother. I couldn't even go on a second date with him.
There was the one who looked (even more sadly) JUST like my former sister in law. I could barely look at him on our coffee date. As the numbers went I think I had (in about six months) 700+ emails of any kind, 100+ email and/or phone conversations, 30+ first dates, 5 second dates, 2 3rd and 4th dates and 4th date with SO is where he asked me to be his girlfriend (awwww). So - it is plain and simple a numbers game. You screen, you meet, you screen, you talk, etc. Take breaks as needed. I would also strongly recommend no more than 2 or maybe 3 dates a week and no more than one a day if you are in the dating pool awhile. No need to burn out on it, it should be fun. Good luck. You are super great!!!! No settling, get Mr. Super Great.
ETA: I "learned" to date in my 40's. I never "dated" like that before, I didn't know how to do it. It was so fun and cool (and scary) to discover so much about myself. I was always 100% myself and clear that I was looking for a good relationship. I did work hard on keeping good boundaries and only dating men who didn't raise red flags.
I'm lazy, and that all sounds like a lot of work lol. I'll just continue being single
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kelly_c_77 wrote: »Ugh...feeling like I'm going to cave in today and go redeem my free Blizzard from Dairy Queen...it expires in 3 days.
You can't waste something like that!! Express mail it to me I'll put it to good use! haha 0 -
kelly_c_77 wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »A NSV victory today. I wore a pair of jeans to work today that I haven't fit into for 7 years!!! They are still a little snug in the tummy region but 5 months ago I couldn't get them past my thighs!!
That's awesome! Nice job!!rungirl1973 wrote: »I love the shoes, @pofoster21! I wear heels pretty much every day (in the office anyway...I switch to flats for my walk to and from work) and am definitely a shoe girl but I don't think I have a single pair of heeled sandals because I'm kind of weird about feet and like them to be covered. I'm jealous of the cute options for people who aren't weird like me though!
I'm currently trying to figure out what to wear with the (third...) dress I bought for the wedding this weekend because something open-toed makes way more sense in this weather, but I think my toes are too gross for the one pair of peep-toes I have....TMI WARNING: I lose my big toenails every year in March from skiing (hard boots, fast skiing, tons of pressure) so for most of sandal season they're only half grown back, which looks pretty awful.
Hmm. I've never lost my big toenail, but I have lost others. I usually just paint the nail bed and call it a day. Nobody notices unless they're REALLY looking at my feet. Maybe you could pull that off?
Same! I have so many toe nails that I've lost or that have turned black from running. Paint them and you hardly notice. I would die without my flip flops...no way I'm covering my feet all summer!
I only wear flip-flops at the beach - I live in a big city and five minutes on the sidewalk in sandals mean your feet are filthy. Grosses me out. I just wear breathable ballet flats instead so the sides and bottoms of my feet are protected.
I've tried the painting-the-nail-bed thing but it's pretty obvious on the big toe - especially now when I have half a nail grown back. Not a cute look, sadly. Worth it for all that bombing down the mountain I did all winter and spring, though.
I'm probably just going to wear my crying-unicorns-in-space shoes and call it a day, because crying unicorns in space go with everything no matter the weather....
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Teenage boys are truly disgusting, with their BO and brown teeth and devil-may-care attitudes.rungirl1973 wrote: »
Yeah, he wasn't Mr Popular.
Oh, so sorryrungirl1973 wrote: »Daughter went to the doctor this morning. If I wasn't there, she wouldn't have told them the whole story, so I went with. The anxiety, it's worse than I realized. Poor girl, she has anxiety over every social situation. I had no idea.
Anyhow, they are checking her thyroid, gave her a prescription, and she'll go back in 4 weeks to see how it's going.
My son went to the dentist. I know there are thousands of dollars of work that needs to be done on his teeth. The dentist sent him home with a "procedure plan" to review and plan for the next steps. Ugh. I guess I'll look at that when I get home. But, really, what am I going to do? He only has one set of teeth. They have to be taken care of, or he'll have dentures by age 25. Dang kid. What was the prescription for? The anxiety?
I could have written this. My daughter is really struggling too (19 yo - the one with anemia, which is not improving), and we had to spend $2000 on fillings for my son because he didn't brush properly when he had braces. Seriously, kid?
My parents would have killed me.
The boy's teeth are literally rotting / chipping away. He has one that's chipped all the way down to the gumline. He said, "I wish I would have brushed more when I was younger.'
Really? What were you doing every day when I sent you to the bathroom to brush your teeth?
Ugh.
I nagged and nagged my oldest to take showers, brush his teeth, change his clothes etc etc. Nothing. Then he suddenly started doing all those things and I asked him why. A girl at school had told him he smelled bad. That was all it took. I'm thinking of paying a girl at #2 son's school to do the same for him.
My 9-almost 10 year old daughter is near the same way. Hates showers, tries to shirk brushing her teeth, wipes her mouth on her hand or wipes her fingers on her pants. Like literally, 2 days ago I made her a bean & cheese burrito, well afterwards I am looking at her and see all of this crud on her pants and I am like WTF is that??? Apparently that was from the filling would come out a bit and get on her fingers so instead of grabbing one of the many napkins right in front of her face, she elected to wipe them on her black pants. And her tablet is always grimy with gunk all over the screen (meaning everything else she touches also has the grime!) Uuugh!0 -
rungirl1973 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »
Chiming in here....your date is probably over already, hope it went well!
post date update:
met the dude at a tavern downtown. really super nice guy. had good conversation, were able to laugh and joke a lot, which is awesome. not creepy and not meh (woo!) lol
issues i'm currently trying to reconcile in my brain: (remember NO JUDGEMENT)
- if i hadn't met him on a dating website, where orientation is posted, i would NEVER believe this guy is straight. i texted my friend (who is gay) that i was on a date with his straight doppelganger. so many times through out the night in my head i was just like, omg this is frank, i'm on a date with straight frank. boisterous, animated, like that always turned on and ready to take the stage personality.
- very very talkative. which isn't terrible, but he'd ask me something and half way through my story, he'd being going off on a tangent on something else, and completely cut me off. so like, a 3 minute story would take me like 10 minutes as i'd have to reel him back off the tangent, pick up where i left off and keep going. and the random tangents were funny and he had tons of interesting things to talk about, but seriously talked way more than me. way, way more.
- he's about an inch taller than me, and has a much more slender build. i'm quite "thick," i have tree trunk thighs that aren't going anywhere. so it's kinda like oh, here's dude and his fat girlfriend. and maybe that's dumb of me to think, but i do.
he did say he had a really good time and would like to see me again. which i might do to see if maybe he was just nervous/excited on the "first" date?
Glad he wasn't crazy.
I'd go out with him again and see how that goes. He may have been a nervous talker?
My husband is a little ADHD. He'll tell a story, go off on a tangent, and I have to reel him back in regularly. I've gotten used to that. That point hit home for me. LOL
I also sometimes have to say, "Can I finish my story?" when he cuts me off. He doesn't even realize he's doing it.
That's different than somebody who's so stuck on himself that he won't listen to you...
Interesting! So are you saying that you think he's actually gay but dating women, or that he just reminded you of your gay friend?pofoster21 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »
Chiming in here....your date is probably over already, hope it went well!
post date update:
met the dude at a tavern downtown. really super nice guy. had good conversation, were able to laugh and joke a lot, which is awesome. not creepy and not meh (woo!) lol
issues i'm currently trying to reconcile in my brain: (remember NO JUDGEMENT)
- if i hadn't met him on a dating website, where orientation is posted, i would NEVER believe this guy is straight. i texted my friend (who is gay) that i was on a date with his straight doppelganger. so many times through out the night in my head i was just like, omg this is frank, i'm on a date with straight frank. boisterous, animated, like that always turned on and ready to take the stage personality.
- very very talkative. which isn't terrible, but he'd ask me something and half way through my story, he'd being going off on a tangent on something else, and completely cut me off. so like, a 3 minute story would take me like 10 minutes as i'd have to reel him back off the tangent, pick up where i left off and keep going. and the random tangents were funny and he had tons of interesting things to talk about, but seriously talked way more than me. way, way more.
- he's about an inch taller than me, and has a much more slender build. i'm quite "thick," i have tree trunk thighs that aren't going anywhere. so it's kinda like oh, here's dude and his fat girlfriend. and maybe that's dumb of me to think, but i do.
he did say he had a really good time and would like to see me again. which i might do to see if maybe he was just nervous/excited on the "first" date?
I think you should definitely see him again, if only because you might make a great friend. Unless he talks too much!
Also, regarding physical differences, just to say that my parents are the same height, but for most of their marriage she's been probably a hundred pounds heavier than him. He's loved her and been attracted to her for 52 years, so try not to stress over that side of things.
I was going to say the same thing about the follow up date. If nothing else, maybe you will make a friend that is fun to talk to.
My parents are the same way as well. My mom is heavier than my dad but he has always loved her so much. They look fine together to me.
these give me hope
If nothing else, you are learning more about you, about what works for you and what does not work for you. If he is right for you and you are right for him that is wonderful. If that is not the case, no worries, you are that much closer to the right one!
I think I read the average number of "dates" to find the right one is 70. YIKES! I learned so much about myself in the time I spent dating. I got some funny stories too. There was a sweetheart of a man who really liked me, he was interesting and fun. He, sadly, looked JUST like my younger brother. I couldn't even go on a second date with him. There was the one who looked (even more sadly) JUST like my former sister in law. I could barely look at him on our coffee date. As the numbers went I think I had (in about six months) 700+ emails of any kind, 100+ email and/or phone conversations, 30+ first dates, 5 second dates, 2 3rd and 4th dates and 4th date with SO is where he asked me to be his girlfriend (awwww). So - it is plain and simple a numbers game. You screen, you meet, you screen, you talk, etc. Take breaks as needed. I would also strongly recommend no more than 2 or maybe 3 dates a week and no more than one a day if you are in the dating pool awhile. No need to burn out on it, it should be fun. Good luck. You are super great!!!! No settling, get Mr. Super Great.
ETA: I "learned" to date in my 40's. I never "dated" like that before, I didn't know how to do it. It was so fun and cool (and scary) to discover so much about myself. I was always 100% myself and clear that I was looking for a good relationship. I did work hard on keeping good boundaries and only dating men who didn't raise red flags.
I'm lazy, and that all sounds like a lot of work lol. I'll just continue being single
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@TigerNY128 I'm totally jealous you went on vacay and come back weighing less, way to go!!
Me too. That doesn't happen often. Or ever, in my case lol.0 -
Teenage boys are truly disgusting, with their BO and brown teeth and devil-may-care attitudes.rungirl1973 wrote: »
Yeah, he wasn't Mr Popular.
Oh, so sorryrungirl1973 wrote: »Daughter went to the doctor this morning. If I wasn't there, she wouldn't have told them the whole story, so I went with. The anxiety, it's worse than I realized. Poor girl, she has anxiety over every social situation. I had no idea.
Anyhow, they are checking her thyroid, gave her a prescription, and she'll go back in 4 weeks to see how it's going.
My son went to the dentist. I know there are thousands of dollars of work that needs to be done on his teeth. The dentist sent him home with a "procedure plan" to review and plan for the next steps. Ugh. I guess I'll look at that when I get home. But, really, what am I going to do? He only has one set of teeth. They have to be taken care of, or he'll have dentures by age 25. Dang kid. What was the prescription for? The anxiety?
I could have written this. My daughter is really struggling too (19 yo - the one with anemia, which is not improving), and we had to spend $2000 on fillings for my son because he didn't brush properly when he had braces. Seriously, kid?
My parents would have killed me.
The boy's teeth are literally rotting / chipping away. He has one that's chipped all the way down to the gumline. He said, "I wish I would have brushed more when I was younger.'
Really? What were you doing every day when I sent you to the bathroom to brush your teeth?
Ugh.
I nagged and nagged my oldest to take showers, brush his teeth, change his clothes etc etc. Nothing. Then he suddenly started doing all those things and I asked him why. A girl at school had told him he smelled bad. That was all it took. I'm thinking of paying a girl at #2 son's school to do the same for him.
My 9-almost 10 year old daughter is near the same way. Hates showers, tries to shirk brushing her teeth, wipes her mouth on her hand or wipes her fingers on her pants. Like literally, 2 days ago I made her a bean & cheese burrito, well afterwards I am looking at her and see all of this crud on her pants and I am like WTF is that??? Apparently that was from the filling would come out a bit and get on her fingers so instead of grabbing one of the many napkins right in front of her face, she elected to wipe them on her black pants. And her tablet is always grimy with gunk all over the screen (meaning everything else she touches also has the grime!) Uuugh!
Sadly- I was one gross little girl growing up according to my parents. I hated showers and refused to take them so the only way I could get clean was a bath (I can't handle baths unless I've showered before it). Apparently I rarely changed my underwear and I picked my nose a lot. Such a beautiful little girl!
Surprisingly though I've always been an avid teeth brushing kid/adult. I just had my first cavity
Two weeks and I go have it filled! 0 -
It makes me feel bad when I'm trying to eat healthy and people are eating fried, greasy, salty, sugary, etc. foods right in front of me. I know it shouldn't effect me so much, but it does
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rungirl1973 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »
Chiming in here....your date is probably over already, hope it went well!
post date update:
met the dude at a tavern downtown. really super nice guy. had good conversation, were able to laugh and joke a lot, which is awesome. not creepy and not meh (woo!) lol
issues i'm currently trying to reconcile in my brain: (remember NO JUDGEMENT)
- if i hadn't met him on a dating website, where orientation is posted, i would NEVER believe this guy is straight. i texted my friend (who is gay) that i was on a date with his straight doppelganger. so many times through out the night in my head i was just like, omg this is frank, i'm on a date with straight frank. boisterous, animated, like that always turned on and ready to take the stage personality.
- very very talkative. which isn't terrible, but he'd ask me something and half way through my story, he'd being going off on a tangent on something else, and completely cut me off. so like, a 3 minute story would take me like 10 minutes as i'd have to reel him back off the tangent, pick up where i left off and keep going. and the random tangents were funny and he had tons of interesting things to talk about, but seriously talked way more than me. way, way more.
- he's about an inch taller than me, and has a much more slender build. i'm quite "thick," i have tree trunk thighs that aren't going anywhere. so it's kinda like oh, here's dude and his fat girlfriend. and maybe that's dumb of me to think, but i do.
he did say he had a really good time and would like to see me again. which i might do to see if maybe he was just nervous/excited on the "first" date?
Glad he wasn't crazy.
I'd go out with him again and see how that goes. He may have been a nervous talker?
My husband is a little ADHD. He'll tell a story, go off on a tangent, and I have to reel him back in regularly. I've gotten used to that. That point hit home for me. LOL
I also sometimes have to say, "Can I finish my story?" when he cuts me off. He doesn't even realize he's doing it.
That's different than somebody who's so stuck on himself that he won't listen to you...
Interesting! So are you saying that you think he's actually gay but dating women, or that he just reminded you of your gay friend?pofoster21 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »
Chiming in here....your date is probably over already, hope it went well!
post date update:
met the dude at a tavern downtown. really super nice guy. had good conversation, were able to laugh and joke a lot, which is awesome. not creepy and not meh (woo!) lol
issues i'm currently trying to reconcile in my brain: (remember NO JUDGEMENT)
- if i hadn't met him on a dating website, where orientation is posted, i would NEVER believe this guy is straight. i texted my friend (who is gay) that i was on a date with his straight doppelganger. so many times through out the night in my head i was just like, omg this is frank, i'm on a date with straight frank. boisterous, animated, like that always turned on and ready to take the stage personality.
- very very talkative. which isn't terrible, but he'd ask me something and half way through my story, he'd being going off on a tangent on something else, and completely cut me off. so like, a 3 minute story would take me like 10 minutes as i'd have to reel him back off the tangent, pick up where i left off and keep going. and the random tangents were funny and he had tons of interesting things to talk about, but seriously talked way more than me. way, way more.
- he's about an inch taller than me, and has a much more slender build. i'm quite "thick," i have tree trunk thighs that aren't going anywhere. so it's kinda like oh, here's dude and his fat girlfriend. and maybe that's dumb of me to think, but i do.
he did say he had a really good time and would like to see me again. which i might do to see if maybe he was just nervous/excited on the "first" date?
I think you should definitely see him again, if only because you might make a great friend. Unless he talks too much!
Also, regarding physical differences, just to say that my parents are the same height, but for most of their marriage she's been probably a hundred pounds heavier than him. He's loved her and been attracted to her for 52 years, so try not to stress over that side of things.
I was going to say the same thing about the follow up date. If nothing else, maybe you will make a friend that is fun to talk to.
My parents are the same way as well. My mom is heavier than my dad but he has always loved her so much. They look fine together to me.
these give me hope
If nothing else, you are learning more about you, about what works for you and what does not work for you. If he is right for you and you are right for him that is wonderful. If that is not the case, no worries, you are that much closer to the right one!
I think I read the average number of "dates" to find the right one is 70. YIKES! I learned so much about myself in the time I spent dating. I got some funny stories too. There was a sweetheart of a man who really liked me, he was interesting and fun. He, sadly, looked JUST like my younger brother. I couldn't even go on a second date with him. There was the one who looked (even more sadly) JUST like my former sister in law. I could barely look at him on our coffee date. As the numbers went I think I had (in about six months) 700+ emails of any kind, 100+ email and/or phone conversations, 30+ first dates, 5 second dates, 2 3rd and 4th dates and 4th date with SO is where he asked me to be his girlfriend (awwww). So - it is plain and simple a numbers game. You screen, you meet, you screen, you talk, etc. Take breaks as needed. I would also strongly recommend no more than 2 or maybe 3 dates a week and no more than one a day if you are in the dating pool awhile. No need to burn out on it, it should be fun. Good luck. You are super great!!!! No settling, get Mr. Super Great.
ETA: I "learned" to date in my 40's. I never "dated" like that before, I didn't know how to do it. It was so fun and cool (and scary) to discover so much about myself. I was always 100% myself and clear that I was looking for a good relationship. I did work hard on keeping good boundaries and only dating men who didn't raise red flags.
I'm lazy, and that all sounds like a lot of work lol. I'll just continue being single
It was work. I did get burned out and take breaks from it. It was also a time of enormous personal growth for me personally. I was rejected in various ways for whatever reasons. I also learned how to reject tactfully, firmly, and so on. The process was one I wanted to experience, good and bad. I did get to a point where I just could not stand to meet another person so I cancelled the dates I had set up and hid my profile for more than a month. When I was ready and excited to try again I did. Yes, it was work but it was what I wanted to do. However, single is super great too.
ETA: If it not completely obvious, I love projects and doing things and learning. I love taking on a challenge that I find interesting. I went into my field because I will never ever know everything and I can learn something new every day...so my approach to dating "fit" my personality and was overall fun for me.
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Teenage boys are truly disgusting, with their BO and brown teeth and devil-may-care attitudes.rungirl1973 wrote: »
Yeah, he wasn't Mr Popular.
Oh, so sorryrungirl1973 wrote: »Daughter went to the doctor this morning. If I wasn't there, she wouldn't have told them the whole story, so I went with. The anxiety, it's worse than I realized. Poor girl, she has anxiety over every social situation. I had no idea.
Anyhow, they are checking her thyroid, gave her a prescription, and she'll go back in 4 weeks to see how it's going.
My son went to the dentist. I know there are thousands of dollars of work that needs to be done on his teeth. The dentist sent him home with a "procedure plan" to review and plan for the next steps. Ugh. I guess I'll look at that when I get home. But, really, what am I going to do? He only has one set of teeth. They have to be taken care of, or he'll have dentures by age 25. Dang kid. What was the prescription for? The anxiety?
I could have written this. My daughter is really struggling too (19 yo - the one with anemia, which is not improving), and we had to spend $2000 on fillings for my son because he didn't brush properly when he had braces. Seriously, kid?
My parents would have killed me.
The boy's teeth are literally rotting / chipping away. He has one that's chipped all the way down to the gumline. He said, "I wish I would have brushed more when I was younger.'
Really? What were you doing every day when I sent you to the bathroom to brush your teeth?
Ugh.
I nagged and nagged my oldest to take showers, brush his teeth, change his clothes etc etc. Nothing. Then he suddenly started doing all those things and I asked him why. A girl at school had told him he smelled bad. That was all it took. I'm thinking of paying a girl at #2 son's school to do the same for him.
My 9-almost 10 year old daughter is near the same way. Hates showers, tries to shirk brushing her teeth, wipes her mouth on her hand or wipes her fingers on her pants. Like literally, 2 days ago I made her a bean & cheese burrito, well afterwards I am looking at her and see all of this crud on her pants and I am like WTF is that??? Apparently that was from the filling would come out a bit and get on her fingers so instead of grabbing one of the many napkins right in front of her face, she elected to wipe them on her black pants. And her tablet is always grimy with gunk all over the screen (meaning everything else she touches also has the grime!) Uuugh!
Sadly- I was one gross little girl growing up according to my parents. I hated showers and refused to take them so the only way I could get clean was a bath (I can't handle baths unless I've showered before it). Apparently I rarely changed my underwear and I picked my nose a lot. Such a beautiful little girl!
Surprisingly though I've always been an avid teeth brushing kid/adult. I just had my first cavity Two weeks and I go have it filled!
I was a gross kid too. I would wipe my hands on my pants, and didn't like showers/baths either. I would wear the same socks a few times. This is embarrassing to admit, but I remember once I was laying on the couch, and I got this whiff of an awful stench. Then I realized it was my socks that smelled so bad. I started being more careful with the clothes I wore after that.
And I also remember my mom asking "What's his name?". I'd started showering more frequently, and she figured it was because I had a crush on a boy. (She was right lol)
I am a clean person now though!0 -
@LBuehrle8 and @ShibaEars, I just kind of dress like a toddler, haha (my profile photo, for example...I frequently see three year olds at my ski resort in exactly the same colour combo.) I'm into fun stuff and bright colours...life is too short to wear black all the time. My husband says it's an aesthetic combo of Elle Woods from Legally Blonde and _____Barbie (depending on the occasion, I'm Ski Barbie or Airport Barbie or Camping Barbie or whatever), but fortunately he finds it endearing and doesn't laugh at me too much.
@riderfangal, congrats on the NSV! That's a huge deal
And @m1xm0d3, reading about your daughter made me giggle too, because it's true that girls are just as bad a lot of the time. My mom has run a day home my whole life and I have SEEN SOME THINGS, man.0 -
kellienw335 wrote: »@pofoster21 - Love the shoes, although not sure how you walk in those! I can't wait until I drop some more weight so I can wear cute shoes again. I wear tennis shoes to work at the moment. It helps me to get in more steps. Also, we have a program that awards leave time every quarter if you get a certain number of minutes of exercise every month. Totally worth it!
Dang! I wish my work had a program like that! I'd be banking the hell out of some leave time. lol
With that system, I think I'd be the only one here to get leave time. Oops, did I say that out loud?
Yes, out loud. Soooo incredibly out loud.
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Awwe, but grubby little girls are cute and quirky.
Teenage boys are truly disgusting, with their BO and brown teeth and devil-may-care attitudes.rungirl1973 wrote: »
Yeah, he wasn't Mr Popular.
Oh, so sorryrungirl1973 wrote: »Daughter went to the doctor this morning. If I wasn't there, she wouldn't have told them the whole story, so I went with. The anxiety, it's worse than I realized. Poor girl, she has anxiety over every social situation. I had no idea.
Anyhow, they are checking her thyroid, gave her a prescription, and she'll go back in 4 weeks to see how it's going.
My son went to the dentist. I know there are thousands of dollars of work that needs to be done on his teeth. The dentist sent him home with a "procedure plan" to review and plan for the next steps. Ugh. I guess I'll look at that when I get home. But, really, what am I going to do? He only has one set of teeth. They have to be taken care of, or he'll have dentures by age 25. Dang kid. What was the prescription for? The anxiety?
I could have written this. My daughter is really struggling too (19 yo - the one with anemia, which is not improving), and we had to spend $2000 on fillings for my son because he didn't brush properly when he had braces. Seriously, kid?
My parents would have killed me.
The boy's teeth are literally rotting / chipping away. He has one that's chipped all the way down to the gumline. He said, "I wish I would have brushed more when I was younger.'
Really? What were you doing every day when I sent you to the bathroom to brush your teeth?
Ugh.
I nagged and nagged my oldest to take showers, brush his teeth, change his clothes etc etc. Nothing. Then he suddenly started doing all those things and I asked him why. A girl at school had told him he smelled bad. That was all it took. I'm thinking of paying a girl at #2 son's school to do the same for him.
My 9-almost 10 year old daughter is near the same way. Hates showers, tries to shirk brushing her teeth, wipes her mouth on her hand or wipes her fingers on her pants. Like literally, 2 days ago I made her a bean & cheese burrito, well afterwards I am looking at her and see all of this crud on her pants and I am like WTF is that??? Apparently that was from the filling would come out a bit and get on her fingers so instead of grabbing one of the many napkins right in front of her face, she elected to wipe them on her black pants. And her tablet is always grimy with gunk all over the screen (meaning everything else she touches also has the grime!) Uuugh!
Sadly- I was one gross little girl growing up according to my parents. I hated showers and refused to take them so the only way I could get clean was a bath (I can't handle baths unless I've showered before it). Apparently I rarely changed my underwear and I picked my nose a lot. Such a beautiful little girl!
Surprisingly though I've always been an avid teeth brushing kid/adult. I just had my first cavity Two weeks and I go have it filled!
I was a gross kid too. I would wipe my hands on my pants, and didn't like showers/baths either. I would wear the same socks a few times. This is embarrassing to admit, but I remember once I was laying on the couch, and I got this whiff of an awful stench. Then I realized it was my socks that smelled so bad. I started being more careful with the clothes I wore after that.
And I also remember my mom asking "What's his name?". I'd started showering more frequently, and she figured it was because I had a crush on a boy. (She was right lol)
I am a clean person now though!
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