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@CountessKitteh We didn't do the traditional songs either.
All of us walked down the aisle to an instrumental version of longer by Dan Fogelberg, we signed to an instrumental of you are my sunshine (because my husband tells me I'm his sunshine) and recessed to an instrumental of I was made for loving you by kiss.
It was great!
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orangesmartie wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »I've had an interesting challenge handed to me!
I've been pestering my husband and telling him that I want a Fitbit, because I think it'll motivate me to move around more so I can "win" steps and calories.
He thinks it's an unnecessary fitness gadget, and that I should probably just move around more by myself. 
So, to motivate me a little (since I've been struggling a lot lately, as you all know, and he's been trying to find ways to help me with it) he gave me a challenge: If I can get my weight down to 65 kg by my birthday, he'll buy me a Fitbit. I'm currently at 69.3, and my birthday is on the eighth of October, which means I have 3.5 months to lose 4.3 kilos--very doable.
So, by putting it out here, I'm hoping you guys will help me stay accountable so I can win myself a Fitbit for my birthday! (He'd probably buy it for me anyway, but I really want to win this challenge.)
Oooh your birthday is the day after mine!
Great challenge, you can really focus on the goal. Can you put notes on the cupboard doors in the kitchen to help?
Do you have stairs to your apartment? Can you aim to walk up and down them 10 extra times a day or something?
I love my Fitbit, I have a flex, it really motivates me to move more.
If anyone wants to be friends on Fitbit, I'm up for that
As I mentioned, so many October birthdays! October is going to be like one big party in this thread, which is totally awesome.
I think that's a great idea! I was thinking that I should post some sort of reminders around the house for when I'm feeling munchie or down, to try and keep me focused. Any suggestions for what to write? All I could think of was something like... "65 kg = Fitbit!"
Yup, I live on the top floor in a four storey apartment, so I could definitely do some stair-climbing! The neighbors might think I'm nuts, which is the only thing that has stopped me from doing that until now, but I should totally get over that...
I really think having a Fitbit would motivate me to move a lot more, so I'm really excited to get one. Once I get one, it would be nice if all of us Fitbit people could friend each other on Fitbit, don't you all think so? It seems a lot of people here own them, after all. pofoster21 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »I've had an interesting challenge handed to me!
I've been pestering my husband and telling him that I want a Fitbit, because I think it'll motivate me to move around more so I can "win" steps and calories. He thinks it's an unnecessary fitness gadget, and that I should probably just move around more by myself.
So, to motivate me a little (since I've been struggling a lot lately, as you all know, and he's been trying to find ways to help me with it) he gave me a challenge: If I can get my weight down to 65 kg by my birthday, he'll buy me a Fitbit. I'm currently at 69.3, and my birthday is on the eighth of October, which means I have 3.5 months to lose 4.3 kilos--very doable.
So, by putting it out here, I'm hoping you guys will help me stay accountable so I can win myself a Fitbit for my birthday! (He'd probably buy it for me anyway, but I really want to win this challenge.)
Oooh your birthday is the day after mine!
Great challenge, you can really focus on the goal. Can you put notes on the cupboard doors in the kitchen to help?
Do you have stairs to your apartment? Can you aim to walk up and down them 10 extra times a day or something?
I love my Fitbit, I have a flex, it really motivates me to move more.
If anyone wants to be friends on Fitbit, I'm up for that
I don't have a fitbit but I may get one just do I can be friends with you! I hate feeling left out.
SusieQ you can download pedometer apps on your phone. They aren't great but are directional. That may help you somewhat in the meantime. And to help motivate you let's post our steps every day. I track this anyway as part of my goals. I get crazy numbers on the weekends site to the barn but struggle during the week. 10k a day?
That wouldn't really work for me because I don't own a PHONE, per say--I own a 7-inch tablet, and I rarely cart it around. Even when I do, I have to keep it in my purse because it wouldn't fit in my pocket, so I doubt it would actually "catch" a single step I make. Do you think it would be able to do so from my purse? I'd be willing to take it with me everywhere if it would, although that would be some very difficult one-handed housework I'd be doing at home... 0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »Yeah, I'm just a leeetle bit older than you.
How are you managing with your Ramadan fasting?
Just an eeny bit, surely we can still be birthday almost-twins. So far so good! I've had my period for the last few days, so I haven't had to fast, but I'll start fasting again today since it finished off a few hours ago.
And to answer the question before it gets asked: In Islam, it's prescribed in the Quran and hadith that women who have their periods are excused from fasting, most likely due to weakness and blood loss (I also think it's so we can eat during the day, since we tend to crave like crazy and be super-hungry...); we're also excused from our five daily prayers during our periods. You aren't supposed to make up the prayers (most likely because you'd have like 35 prayers to pray if your period lasted five days!), but you do have to make up the fasts at another time, because it's obligatory to complete the full thirty days of fasting.
I have a lot of issues with my period.. endometriosis and fibroids. Before a surgery a good 10 years ago I was either getting, in the midst of, or recovering from my period. Or ovulating which involved period like symptoms so I was period free for about a week if I was lucky. How would you handle that?
There are plenty of Islamic recommendations/rules regarding periods, including what to do if you have issues like that, since we need to know whether we should fast/pray or not. The main rule is that if you aren't sure, do what you think is right and God always knows your intention; so you can't go wrong if your intention is good.
An "official" period is defined by the following (not necessarily all of them, but the ones that apply):- The blood has the specific color and smell that's associated with period blood (we all know what that's like...)
- The period doesn't extend past fifteen days--if you've bled longer than that, you are to perform ghusl (purifying wash--basically a shower) and begin to pray and fast again, but take extra care in keeping yourself clean when you're going to pray if you continue to bleed.
- If you have a fairly regular period, along with irregular bleeding that pops up in between your regular periods, only the regular period is considered as your period and you should pray and fast even during the other times of bleeding.
- If you are completely uncertain about when your regular period is and the cycle it follows due to bleeding all the time/bleeding heavily all the time, then you should follow whatever period schedule you might have had before it became irregular and count the period as lasting 6-7 days, because that's the average amount of days for most periods, then perform ghusl and begin to pray again.
I actually do deal with a lot of uncertainty regarding my period, because the depo shot has made me extremely irregular and I'm almost constantly dealing with random spotting. So I pay close attention to the above and have made a general rule for myself that I won't stop praying or fasting unless I'm completely sure that it's my period; otherwise it's just business as usual.
Fascinating. Who would think any religion would be so specific about something so female and personal.
And now I AM SURE we scared the men away. Ooops.
You definitely scared my husband away! He's a lurker and he's been around for ages, but he doesn't post in here. When he saw all the period questions (and answers), he was like... "I am NOT reading that post"
I assure you that he'll probably be back, though.
That's actually the reason why Muslims always say that Islam ISN'T just a religion. It's a way of life. We learn etiquette for eating, drinking, periods, marital relationships, owning houses, treatment of children, giving of charity, periods, intimacy, friendship, clothing, etc. Almost anything you can think of regarding living life, there's a way to do it Islamically, with the proper intention. If you have the intention of living your everyday life to please God, then everything you do is considered an act of worship; even just kissing your kid, for example, is a form of worship and is rewarded by God. 0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »I've had an interesting challenge handed to me!
I've been pestering my husband and telling him that I want a Fitbit, because I think it'll motivate me to move around more so I can "win" steps and calories. He thinks it's an unnecessary fitness gadget, and that I should probably just move around more by myself.
So, to motivate me a little (since I've been struggling a lot lately, as you all know, and he's been trying to find ways to help me with it) he gave me a challenge: If I can get my weight down to 65 kg by my birthday, he'll buy me a Fitbit. I'm currently at 69.3, and my birthday is on the eighth of October, which means I have 3.5 months to lose 4.3 kilos--very doable.
So, by putting it out here, I'm hoping you guys will help me stay accountable so I can win myself a Fitbit for my birthday! (He'd probably buy it for me anyway, but I really want to win this challenge.)
You can do it! How many lbs is 4.3 kilos?
As @misskarne mentioned, it's about 9.5 pounds. One kilo is 2.2 pounds, so if ever in doubt, just double the number and you'll be somewhat close. kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »pearso21123 wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »ok guys I am on the fence about something. I got asked out on a date this weekend. I don't date because in reality I don't have a lot of free time and I am certainly not wanting to take any time away from my son. But in spite of all this I am considering going. What's a girl to do?
Do you like date asker guy? If the answer is yes, then I say GO FOR IT!
I do like said guy lol
Well, then, buy yourself something pretty (sexy, but tasteful) and go and enjoy yourself. If you just get a meal and decent conversation but it doesn't go anywhere, at least you have a pretty new dress to wear later. But if it DOES go somewhere, I think we all expect to be invited to the wedding.
Hmmm sexy sounds like something I haven't done in a long time And of course you would all be invited honestly I feel closer to you guys lately than most of the people IRL
You HAVE to show us your choices before choosing though. I LOVE helping people pick out clothes and I've NEVER helped anyone get ready for a date before, well, besides myself of course.
The bold part: me too!
Mo, I just ordered a couple of dresses from Modcloth for a wedding and I'm not sure which I want to wear! It's an afternoon ceremony but evening reception at a mountain lodge, so I went for more "fun" than "formal"...
This pink one
Or this black embellished one (comes with straps)
When they actually arrive it might turn out that I hate the fit of one or both, but I couldn't decide and had to order both. All my cocktail dresses are either very winter-y (long sleeves, heavy fabrics, etc.) or too big, or make me look like a waitress (because I have an extensive collection of black cocktail dresses that I wore while bartending.)
There's a crazy four-hour gap between the ceremony and cocktail hour, though, so we were going to change, go for a hike, and come back and change back, so maybe I'll wear the pink one for the ceremony and the peacock one for the reception? Is that attention-grabby or weird?
I love love LOVE that peacock dress! But... I'm old school, so no black (or white) at weddings for me. Or is that concept passé now?
Black is very commonly worn at evening weddings here (at least the formal, hotel ballroom or whatever kind.) But I've read it's less common in the American South and in smaller cities/rural areas (where it's more traditional, I guess.) I even see black bridesmaids dresses quite often now.@peleroja both of those dress are AWESOME!! I'd wear the formal one for the ceremony and the fun one for the reception where you'll be dancing the night away!! That's just my opinion though, both dresses are fabulous, you have excellent taste!!
I thought the polka dots were more "daytime" than evening - I guess maybe I think it's weird to wear a black dress like that for an afternoon thing? Especially for an outdoor ceremony?
This is not my realm of expertise, though, because I normally just go to work events and wear the same couple of navy or black super conservative dresses, all high neck and sleeves and stuff.
I agree with you: I'd wear the pink one for the ceremony and the black one at night. That one would be super fun to dance in and if anyone even implies that you're taking attention away from the bride maybe tell a little white lie and say you spilled something on the pink one.
Or, maybe I'm a terrible person for thinking this way? Personally, I don't care about weddings being ALL about the bride. They eat up an enormous amount of my time on a weekend, so I'm going to look good and enjoy it!
I'm pretty much that person too because I mostly hate weddings so it's hard to have a good time. Even my own was hard to deal with and it was tiny and very nontraditional. But the whole spend a whole weekend, drive (or fly) for hours, get an expensive hotel room, wait around forever between the ceremony and reception, eat a mass-produced hunk of chicken or "prime rib" at a table full of people you barely know with a glass of mediocre Merlot, sit through hard-to-hear speeches and bouquet tossing and dances and "funny stories" while drunk randos get gropey and terrible music plays...is just not my idea of a good time.
I attend happily for people I really care about because I love them, but I'm always kind of shocked when I hear someone say they like weddings. Everything about them (apart from the actual ceremonies, which are usually nice) makes me unhappy.
Could NOT agree with you more! My husband and I are really role reversed in almost every aspect, including this one. He LOVES weddings. He gets way too excited and spends way more time figuring out what he's going to wear than I do. I dread them.
And, I've worn black to the past two weddings we've gone to. It's easier to wear for an all-day thing that involves food and drinks. Much more forgiving if someone bumps into you and causes a spill.
I'm exactly the same way. I hate attention, dressing up, and having people look at me. I don't dance, the vegetarian meals are usually not very good/filling, I don't drink...the list goes on and on.
When we have gone to weddings, I have worn black every time.
Yes ma'am! We are twins. I do drink, but I'm very careful at weddings. Nothing like being unsteady on my high heels to completely ruin a whole look! Plus, if I am the designated driver I have more say over how long we stay.
All of this! Having people look at me and making conversation with people I don't know well, wedding food, etc etc...they're such terrible events for me. I'm also horrified by the expense and the wastefulness. The idea of spending $30,000 on one party makes me die a little inside. I just...you could do so much with that money! I don't care if that's judge-y (as it's not directed towards anyone in this thread...) I just don't get it.
And re: cake...you're all wonderful people and all, but wedding cake is definitely not sufficient compensation for having to attend an entire wedding reception, haha.
Most of the time it's not even good cake, just sickly sweet and covered in stale fondant. Such a sad dessert.
I do like the "dessert table" trend, though...but still. Definitely doesn't soothe my wedding pain.
That, plus a ridiculous amount of money for a dress that will only be worn ONCE... and all the damned fuss leading up to it!
Unfortunately the "dessert table" thing hasn't caught on here yet, that might be some compensation for me, lol.
My SO's daughter is getting married six months from now and I'm already dreading it. Thankfully I'm not involved in any of the preparations -- other than I'm apparently supposed to be nagging the SO to get a new suit, custom made no less, wtf?? -- but every now and then I catch some of the ongoing planning saga and it makes me cringe every time. Naturally, we'll be stuck at the reception to the bitter end... no ducking out early from this one
I am hoping to dodge the photo shoot by insisting that I need to come home and feed the dogs. Since I'm not actually family, I think I can pull this one off successfully.
I hate weddings so much I was dreading my own. Luckily, my husband-to-be couldn't have cared less about the whole thing, so we ended up going to the JP. Only immediate family was invited (maybe 12 total). My dress cost $90. It was prom season and I found a white prom dress that was a perfect fit and looked just like my idea of a wedding dress. My husband borrowed a suit from his brother. His brother wore a suit from his closet, my sister wore a dress from hers (best man and maid-of-honor). Our "reception" was meeting back at my MIL for Stouffers lasagna, garlic bread, salad, and cake made at home in a regular cake pan. My sister worked at a florist and made my bouquet and corsages for my mom and MIL. No dancing, no speeches, no tapping of glasses (I HATE that). Total cost was under $300. I wasn't going out of my way to be cheap, I just don't understand spending loads of money on a ceremony. There are so many other things newlyweds could use that money for. I've never regretted it. We did spend actual real money on the rings, though.
Completely in agreement. I didn't want to waste money on a wedding at all, so I pretty much begrudged every penny that was spent on the thing. My mother wanted it badly, though. My wedding dress was this horribly heavy, traditional Omani wedding dress--It was a nightmare to get on and off. When I tried to take it off after the wedding was over, I pretty much just got stuck in it and my husband and I laughed 'til we nearly cried trying to rip the thing off of me. O.o Also, he laughed even more because my aunt had stuffed an ENTIRE box of tissue down the chest because apparently I didn't have enough to suit her, and when we were trying to pull it off a whole pile of ripped up tissue came floating down.
My dress:
... I almost killed myself in those heels, just so you all know.
Editing to add... Also, the make-up was so horrible that my husband actually pointed and laughed and laughed and laughed when he finally saw me. He also pulled out his phone and took a picture so he could laugh some more later. This was after he took his first look and said "Oh my God. I didn't sign up for this. I AM OUT OF HERE." and turned on his heel and pretended to run away.
It kind of sounds like he was being mean when I write it out, but it was actually pretty hilarious to both of us--we have a weird sense of humor. I mean, guys, seriously: THE MAKE-UP ARTIST DREW AN EXTRA LIP ON ME. She said I didn't have enough lip, whatever that means. O.O
Wow the dress looks intricate but the detail looks amazing. Was the dress in your family for a long time? LOL @ the whole extra lip. Maybe your husband should've drew another eye on the makeup artist?
It was very intricate, and it took the tailor who made it over a month to get it all done because of the crazy amount of detail. Nope, the dress was made specifically for me, insisted upon by my mom.
Maybe *I* should have drawn another eye on the makeup artist... O.o She framed my eyes so thickly that I looked like I'd been punched, and my lips looked SO WEIRD. It's a pretty common thing to really overdo the make up in Arab weddings and celebrations though, so I wasn't particularly surprised when all the Arabs went on and on about how beautiful it was...0 -
For reminders how about:
I can and I will.
You can only fail if you quit.
Keep your head up. You are so much better than you believe. You can do this. I promise.
I am not fat. I have fat. Fat does not define me.
There's a little morning motivation.0 -
Confession: I had a weird food day yesterday with timing and eating differently than I usually do, and my stomach is not thrilled about it. I feel a little bleck. Guess that's what I get for adhering too well to my plan all week.
Engagement party this afternoon. Perhaps the already feeling a bit ill will remind me to behave.0 -
Susieq_1994 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »I've had an interesting challenge handed to me!
I've been pestering my husband and telling him that I want a Fitbit, because I think it'll motivate me to move around more so I can "win" steps and calories. He thinks it's an unnecessary fitness gadget, and that I should probably just move around more by myself.
So, to motivate me a little (since I've been struggling a lot lately, as you all know, and he's been trying to find ways to help me with it) he gave me a challenge: If I can get my weight down to 65 kg by my birthday, he'll buy me a Fitbit. I'm currently at 69.3, and my birthday is on the eighth of October, which means I have 3.5 months to lose 4.3 kilos--very doable.
So, by putting it out here, I'm hoping you guys will help me stay accountable so I can win myself a Fitbit for my birthday! (He'd probably buy it for me anyway, but I really want to win this challenge.)
Oooh your birthday is the day after mine!
Great challenge, you can really focus on the goal. Can you put notes on the cupboard doors in the kitchen to help?
Do you have stairs to your apartment? Can you aim to walk up and down them 10 extra times a day or something?
I love my Fitbit, I have a flex, it really motivates me to move more.
If anyone wants to be friends on Fitbit, I'm up for that
As I mentioned, so many October birthdays! October is going to be like one big party in this thread, which is totally awesome.
I think that's a great idea! I was thinking that I should post some sort of reminders around the house for when I'm feeling munchie or down, to try and keep me focused. Any suggestions for what to write? All I could think of was something like... "65 kg = Fitbit!"
Yup, I live on the top floor in a four storey apartment, so I could definitely do some stair-climbing! The neighbors might think I'm nuts, which is the only thing that has stopped me from doing that until now, but I should totally get over that...
I really think having a Fitbit would motivate me to move a lot more, so I'm really excited to get one. Once I get one, it would be nice if all of us Fitbit people could friend each other on Fitbit, don't you all think so? It seems a lot of people here own them, after all. pofoster21 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »I've had an interesting challenge handed to me!
I've been pestering my husband and telling him that I want a Fitbit, because I think it'll motivate me to move around more so I can "win" steps and calories. He thinks it's an unnecessary fitness gadget, and that I should probably just move around more by myself.
So, to motivate me a little (since I've been struggling a lot lately, as you all know, and he's been trying to find ways to help me with it) he gave me a challenge: If I can get my weight down to 65 kg by my birthday, he'll buy me a Fitbit. I'm currently at 69.3, and my birthday is on the eighth of October, which means I have 3.5 months to lose 4.3 kilos--very doable.
So, by putting it out here, I'm hoping you guys will help me stay accountable so I can win myself a Fitbit for my birthday! (He'd probably buy it for me anyway, but I really want to win this challenge.)
Oooh your birthday is the day after mine!
Great challenge, you can really focus on the goal. Can you put notes on the cupboard doors in the kitchen to help?
Do you have stairs to your apartment? Can you aim to walk up and down them 10 extra times a day or something?
I love my Fitbit, I have a flex, it really motivates me to move more.
If anyone wants to be friends on Fitbit, I'm up for that
I don't have a fitbit but I may get one just do I can be friends with you! I hate feeling left out.
SusieQ you can download pedometer apps on your phone. They aren't great but are directional. That may help you somewhat in the meantime. And to help motivate you let's post our steps every day. I track this anyway as part of my goals. I get crazy numbers on the weekends site to the barn but struggle during the week. 10k a day?
That wouldn't really work for me because I don't own a PHONE, per say--I own a 7-inch tablet, and I rarely cart it around. Even when I do, I have to keep it in my purse because it wouldn't fit in my pocket, so I doubt it would actually "catch" a single step I make. Do you think it would be able to do so from my purse? I'd be willing to take it with me everywhere if it would, although that would be some very difficult one-handed housework I'd be doing at home...
Download the app and see!0 -
Susieq_1994 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »Yeah, I'm just a leeetle bit older than you.
How are you managing with your Ramadan fasting?
Just an eeny bit, surely we can still be birthday almost-twins. So far so good! I've had my period for the last few days, so I haven't had to fast, but I'll start fasting again today since it finished off a few hours ago.
And to answer the question before it gets asked: In Islam, it's prescribed in the Quran and hadith that women who have their periods are excused from fasting, most likely due to weakness and blood loss (I also think it's so we can eat during the day, since we tend to crave like crazy and be super-hungry...); we're also excused from our five daily prayers during our periods. You aren't supposed to make up the prayers (most likely because you'd have like 35 prayers to pray if your period lasted five days!), but you do have to make up the fasts at another time, because it's obligatory to complete the full thirty days of fasting.
I have a lot of issues with my period.. endometriosis and fibroids. Before a surgery a good 10 years ago I was either getting, in the midst of, or recovering from my period. Or ovulating which involved period like symptoms so I was period free for about a week if I was lucky. How would you handle that?
There are plenty of Islamic recommendations/rules regarding periods, including what to do if you have issues like that, since we need to know whether we should fast/pray or not. The main rule is that if you aren't sure, do what you think is right and God always knows your intention; so you can't go wrong if your intention is good.
An "official" period is defined by the following (not necessarily all of them, but the ones that apply):- The blood has the specific color and smell that's associated with period blood (we all know what that's like...)
- The period doesn't extend past fifteen days--if you've bled longer than that, you are to perform ghusl (purifying wash--basically a shower) and begin to pray and fast again, but take extra care in keeping yourself clean when you're going to pray if you continue to bleed.
- If you have a fairly regular period, along with irregular bleeding that pops up in between your regular periods, only the regular period is considered as your period and you should pray and fast even during the other times of bleeding.
- If you are completely uncertain about when your regular period is and the cycle it follows due to bleeding all the time/bleeding heavily all the time, then you should follow whatever period schedule you might have had before it became irregular and count the period as lasting 6-7 days, because that's the average amount of days for most periods, then perform ghusl and begin to pray again.
I actually do deal with a lot of uncertainty regarding my period, because the depo shot has made me extremely irregular and I'm almost constantly dealing with random spotting. So I pay close attention to the above and have made a general rule for myself that I won't stop praying or fasting unless I'm completely sure that it's my period; otherwise it's just business as usual.
Fascinating. Who would think any religion would be so specific about something so female and personal.
And now I AM SURE we scared the men away. Ooops.
You definitely scared my husband away! He's a lurker and he's been around for ages, but he doesn't post in here. When he saw all the period questions (and answers), he was like... "I am NOT reading that post"
I assure you that he'll probably be back, though.
That's actually the reason why Muslims always say that Islam ISN'T just a religion. It's a way of life. We learn etiquette for eating, drinking, periods, marital relationships, owning houses, treatment of children, giving of charity, periods, intimacy, friendship, clothing, etc. Almost anything you can think of regarding living life, there's a way to do it Islamically, with the proper intention. If you have the intention of living your everyday life to please God, then everything you do is considered an act of worship; even just kissing your kid, for example, is a form of worship and is rewarded by God.
Fascinating. Not sure I would love having my husband lurking in here.... but you never day anything bad about anyone so I guess you are safe. 0 -
Glinda1971 wrote: »@CountessKitteh We didn't do the traditional songs either.
All of us walked down the aisle to an instrumental version of longer by Dan Fogelberg, we signed to an instrumental of you are my sunshine (because my husband tells me I'm his sunshine) and recessed to an instrumental of I was made for loving you by kiss.
It was great!
This is so cute!0 -
@LBuehrle8 - I am here but most of the posting happens when I'm asleep so there's too much to catch up on to comment a lot. I really enjoy reading though
@pofoster21 well done on your race!
@orangesmartie glad Charlie had fun at the zoo again.
@Susieq_1994 good luck with getting the fitbit you CAN do it! I love mine. Your wedding dress was beautiful 0 -
Ok since we are going to be more accountable and post what we do each day to motivate each other I figure if I post what I do and not what I was supposed to do then it won't work. Since none of you will know what I intended. So my goals for today:
Walk 25000 steps (not hard at barn)
Run 1 hour
Address my chairs comments on my prospectus
Not envy @MoHousdon her husband or her vacation.
Edited to add I may not be able to achieve the last one.
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Coastalpath wrote: »Aww, that is my husband's favourite event ever - he's a big motor racing fan. We miss stuff like that where we are. Hope you had a great time!
Aw I'm now a fan it was a brilliant day. Hadn't seen F1 cars in the flesh before and the V8 and V10 engines were so loud, it was brilliant to witness. My favourites were the American Monster Trucks basically doing wheelies up the hill.
Sooo jealous that you're at Goodwood. I really miss the scream of the old F1 engines - the new type are a lot quieter. So many stars are usually there too.
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pofoster21 wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »ok guys I am on the fence about something. I got asked out on a date this weekend. I don't date because in reality I don't have a lot of free time and I am certainly not wanting to take any time away from my son. But in spite of all this I am considering going. What's a girl to do?
Do you like date asker guy? If the answer is yes, then I say GO FOR IT!
I do like said guy lol
Well, then, buy yourself something pretty (sexy, but tasteful) and go and enjoy yourself. If you just get a meal and decent conversation but it doesn't go anywhere, at least you have a pretty new dress to wear later. But if it DOES go somewhere, I think we all expect to be invited to the wedding.
Hmmm sexy sounds like something I haven't done in a long time And of course you would all be invited honestly I feel closer to you guys lately than most of the people IRL
You HAVE to show us your choices before choosing though. I LOVE helping people pick out clothes and I've NEVER helped anyone get ready for a date before, well, besides myself of course.
The bold part: me too!
Mo, I just ordered a couple of dresses from Modcloth for a wedding and I'm not sure which I want to wear! It's an afternoon ceremony but evening reception at a mountain lodge, so I went for more "fun" than "formal"...
This pink one
Or this black embellished one (comes with straps)
When they actually arrive it might turn out that I hate the fit of one or both, but I couldn't decide and had to order both. All my cocktail dresses are either very winter-y (long sleeves, heavy fabrics, etc.) or too big, or make me look like a waitress (because I have an extensive collection of black cocktail dresses that I wore while bartending.)
There's a crazy four-hour gap between the ceremony and cocktail hour, though, so we were going to change, go for a hike, and come back and change back, so maybe I'll wear the pink one for the ceremony and the peacock one for the reception? Is that attention-grabby or weird?
I love love LOVE that peacock dress! But... I'm old school, so no black (or white) at weddings for me. Or is that concept passé now?
Black is very commonly worn at evening weddings here (at least the formal, hotel ballroom or whatever kind.) But I've read it's less common in the American South and in smaller cities/rural areas (where it's more traditional, I guess.) I even see black bridesmaids dresses quite often now.@peleroja both of those dress are AWESOME!! I'd wear the formal one for the ceremony and the fun one for the reception where you'll be dancing the night away!! That's just my opinion though, both dresses are fabulous, you have excellent taste!!
I thought the polka dots were more "daytime" than evening - I guess maybe I think it's weird to wear a black dress like that for an afternoon thing? Especially for an outdoor ceremony?
This is not my realm of expertise, though, because I normally just go to work events and wear the same couple of navy or black super conservative dresses, all high neck and sleeves and stuff.
I agree with you: I'd wear the pink one for the ceremony and the black one at night. That one would be super fun to dance in and if anyone even implies that you're taking attention away from the bride maybe tell a little white lie and say you spilled something on the pink one.
Or, maybe I'm a terrible person for thinking this way? Personally, I don't care about weddings being ALL about the bride. They eat up an enormous amount of my time on a weekend, so I'm going to look good and enjoy it!
I'm pretty much that person too because I mostly hate weddings so it's hard to have a good time. Even my own was hard to deal with and it was tiny and very nontraditional. But the whole spend a whole weekend, drive (or fly) for hours, get an expensive hotel room, wait around forever between the ceremony and reception, eat a mass-produced hunk of chicken or "prime rib" at a table full of people you barely know with a glass of mediocre Merlot, sit through hard-to-hear speeches and bouquet tossing and dances and "funny stories" while drunk randos get gropey and terrible music plays...is just not my idea of a good time.
I attend happily for people I really care about because I love them, but I'm always kind of shocked when I hear someone say they like weddings. Everything about them (apart from the actual ceremonies, which are usually nice) makes me unhappy.
Could NOT agree with you more! My husband and I are really role reversed in almost every aspect, including this one. He LOVES weddings. He gets way too excited and spends way more time figuring out what he's going to wear than I do. I dread them.
And, I've worn black to the past two weddings we've gone to. It's easier to wear for an all-day thing that involves food and drinks. Much more forgiving if someone bumps into you and causes a spill.
I'm exactly the same way. I hate attention, dressing up, and having people look at me. I don't dance, the vegetarian meals are usually not very good/filling, I don't drink...the list goes on and on.
When we have gone to weddings, I have worn black every time.
Yes ma'am! We are twins. I do drink, but I'm very careful at weddings. Nothing like being unsteady on my high heels to completely ruin a whole look! Plus, if I am the designated driver I have more say over how long we stay.
All of this! Having people look at me and making conversation with people I don't know well, wedding food, etc etc...they're such terrible events for me. I'm also horrified by the expense and the wastefulness. The idea of spending $30,000 on one party makes me die a little inside. I just...you could do so much with that money! I don't care if that's judge-y (as it's not directed towards anyone in this thread...) I just don't get it.
And re: cake...you're all wonderful people and all, but wedding cake is definitely not sufficient compensation for having to attend an entire wedding reception, haha.
Most of the time it's not even good cake, just sickly sweet and covered in stale fondant. Such a sad dessert.
I do like the "dessert table" trend, though...but still. Definitely doesn't soothe my wedding pain.
My friend - who happens to be a trained pastry chef (!!!!) - is making our cake as her gift to us. She's going to make her basics, and the if I decide that the spice cake should be cinnamony-er or something, she'll adjust.
I am a bit over excited by the fact that I will not have terrible wedding food. Because that's what's going to save me from boredom.
Food tasting has been our favorite part of wedding planning so far! haha. we're actually having a pie buffet instead of cake, because neither of us are big cake fans. And we found a local pie store that makes DELICIOUS pies. The hardest part was deciding which five flavors we wanted!
For food we went with a local caterer who works out of a kitchen at her farm, and focuses on fresh, local ingredients. I'm so so so excited. And she's ordering bread from a local bakery, so it'll all be fresh and delicious. Yum! I hope people end up liking it, I'd hate for everyone to think that we had bland, so-so wedding food.
While this sounds fabulous I think you should fly SusieQ in to cater your wedding.
Why didn't I think of that!?!? Maybe we can add some hummus into the menu in @Susieq_1994 's honor0 -
orangesmartie wrote: »Coastalpath wrote: »
Aww, that is my husband's favourite event ever - he's a big motor racing fan. We miss stuff like that where we are. Hope you had a great time!Coastalpath wrote: »Checking in from page 1084 I'm far behind so won't quote anything. Back from a day at Goodwood Festival of Speed was brilliant and enjoyed my pieminister beef and ale pie followed by a large Mr Whippy. My Fitbit says I did 12500 steps so I'm not even sorry!
Aw I'm now a fan it was a brilliant day. Hadn't seen F1 cars in the flesh before and the V8 and V10 engines were so loud, it was brilliant to witness. My favourites were the American Monster Trucks basically doing wheelies up the hill.
I am a total petrol head and. A complete F1 fanatic, been to races across Europe and America, go to Silverstone every year, except this year I'll be up a mountain. I used to love in season testing, it was a great way of getting up close to cars and teams, met lots of drivers and used to go drinking with some of the mechanics (we still keep in touch) if anyone is interested, I can share photos
That's great to have had such an interest I'd love to see some photos. I'm quite new to it all it was my first motor show event. My husband is a massive life long F1 fan so I know drivers in that and that's about it. Been watching some shows about motorcycle stars too so feel I'm slowly learning a bit more...
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »ok guys I am on the fence about something. I got asked out on a date this weekend. I don't date because in reality I don't have a lot of free time and I am certainly not wanting to take any time away from my son. But in spite of all this I am considering going. What's a girl to do?
Do you like date asker guy? If the answer is yes, then I say GO FOR IT!
I do like said guy lol
Well, then, buy yourself something pretty (sexy, but tasteful) and go and enjoy yourself. If you just get a meal and decent conversation but it doesn't go anywhere, at least you have a pretty new dress to wear later. But if it DOES go somewhere, I think we all expect to be invited to the wedding.
Hmmm sexy sounds like something I haven't done in a long time And of course you would all be invited honestly I feel closer to you guys lately than most of the people IRL
You HAVE to show us your choices before choosing though. I LOVE helping people pick out clothes and I've NEVER helped anyone get ready for a date before, well, besides myself of course.
The bold part: me too!
Mo, I just ordered a couple of dresses from Modcloth for a wedding and I'm not sure which I want to wear! It's an afternoon ceremony but evening reception at a mountain lodge, so I went for more "fun" than "formal"...
This pink one
Or this black embellished one (comes with straps)
When they actually arrive it might turn out that I hate the fit of one or both, but I couldn't decide and had to order both. All my cocktail dresses are either very winter-y (long sleeves, heavy fabrics, etc.) or too big, or make me look like a waitress (because I have an extensive collection of black cocktail dresses that I wore while bartending.)
There's a crazy four-hour gap between the ceremony and cocktail hour, though, so we were going to change, go for a hike, and come back and change back, so maybe I'll wear the pink one for the ceremony and the peacock one for the reception? Is that attention-grabby or weird?
I love love LOVE that peacock dress! But... I'm old school, so no black (or white) at weddings for me. Or is that concept passé now?
Black is very commonly worn at evening weddings here (at least the formal, hotel ballroom or whatever kind.) But I've read it's less common in the American South and in smaller cities/rural areas (where it's more traditional, I guess.) I even see black bridesmaids dresses quite often now.@peleroja both of those dress are AWESOME!! I'd wear the formal one for the ceremony and the fun one for the reception where you'll be dancing the night away!! That's just my opinion though, both dresses are fabulous, you have excellent taste!!
I thought the polka dots were more "daytime" than evening - I guess maybe I think it's weird to wear a black dress like that for an afternoon thing? Especially for an outdoor ceremony?
This is not my realm of expertise, though, because I normally just go to work events and wear the same couple of navy or black super conservative dresses, all high neck and sleeves and stuff.
I agree with you: I'd wear the pink one for the ceremony and the black one at night. That one would be super fun to dance in and if anyone even implies that you're taking attention away from the bride maybe tell a little white lie and say you spilled something on the pink one.
Or, maybe I'm a terrible person for thinking this way? Personally, I don't care about weddings being ALL about the bride. They eat up an enormous amount of my time on a weekend, so I'm going to look good and enjoy it!
I'm pretty much that person too because I mostly hate weddings so it's hard to have a good time. Even my own was hard to deal with and it was tiny and very nontraditional. But the whole spend a whole weekend, drive (or fly) for hours, get an expensive hotel room, wait around forever between the ceremony and reception, eat a mass-produced hunk of chicken or "prime rib" at a table full of people you barely know with a glass of mediocre Merlot, sit through hard-to-hear speeches and bouquet tossing and dances and "funny stories" while drunk randos get gropey and terrible music plays...is just not my idea of a good time.
I attend happily for people I really care about because I love them, but I'm always kind of shocked when I hear someone say they like weddings. Everything about them (apart from the actual ceremonies, which are usually nice) makes me unhappy.
Could NOT agree with you more! My husband and I are really role reversed in almost every aspect, including this one. He LOVES weddings. He gets way too excited and spends way more time figuring out what he's going to wear than I do. I dread them.
And, I've worn black to the past two weddings we've gone to. It's easier to wear for an all-day thing that involves food and drinks. Much more forgiving if someone bumps into you and causes a spill.
I'm exactly the same way. I hate attention, dressing up, and having people look at me. I don't dance, the vegetarian meals are usually not very good/filling, I don't drink...the list goes on and on.
When we have gone to weddings, I have worn black every time.
Yes ma'am! We are twins. I do drink, but I'm very careful at weddings. Nothing like being unsteady on my high heels to completely ruin a whole look! Plus, if I am the designated driver I have more say over how long we stay.
All of this! Having people look at me and making conversation with people I don't know well, wedding food, etc etc...they're such terrible events for me. I'm also horrified by the expense and the wastefulness. The idea of spending $30,000 on one party makes me die a little inside. I just...you could do so much with that money! I don't care if that's judge-y (as it's not directed towards anyone in this thread...) I just don't get it.
And re: cake...you're all wonderful people and all, but wedding cake is definitely not sufficient compensation for having to attend an entire wedding reception, haha.
Most of the time it's not even good cake, just sickly sweet and covered in stale fondant. Such a sad dessert.
I do like the "dessert table" trend, though...but still. Definitely doesn't soothe my wedding pain.
My friend - who happens to be a trained pastry chef (!!!!) - is making our cake as her gift to us. She's going to make her basics, and the if I decide that the spice cake should be cinnamony-er or something, she'll adjust.
I am a bit over excited by the fact that I will not have terrible wedding food. Because that's what's going to save me from boredom.
Food tasting has been our favorite part of wedding planning so far! haha. we're actually having a pie buffet instead of cake, because neither of us are big cake fans. And we found a local pie store that makes DELICIOUS pies. The hardest part was deciding which five flavors we wanted!
For food we went with a local caterer who works out of a kitchen at her farm, and focuses on fresh, local ingredients. I'm so so so excited. And she's ordering bread from a local bakery, so it'll all be fresh and delicious. Yum! I hope people end up liking it, I'd hate for everyone to think that we had bland, so-so wedding food.
While this sounds fabulous I think you should fly SusieQ in to cater your wedding.
Ha, that would be fun! Endless cooking and baking for me to do.
Since I didn't even want a wedding to begin with (my mother insisted), I went for the cheapest option that had food provided with the cost of the wedding hall. I'm pretty sure it was terrible, but I didn't get to have any of it anyway, so I can't say for sure--In Arab weddings, generally the bride gets to sit on a bench and smile her face off while watching her guests pig out, and she doesn't get any of the food, and generally doesn't even get to dance.
The sad part was that we catered really, REALLY awesome cake from my favorite cake bakery ever and the guests finished all the cheesecake so I didn't even get any of my cake! *cries* We didn't get a wedding cake, since those aren't really popular in Arab weddings--we got ten huge cakes in three different flavors and put them into the buffet. AND EVERYONE ATE THEM ALL. 
Oh no, that is so sad!! I can't blame you for not liking weddings after that experience!
Should have had someone hide some cake for you! I will totally make my sister get and hide a piece of the Dutch cherry pie for me on the day of the wedding if it looks like everyone else is going to eat it before I get there. (We're doing the 'pie-cutting' with a sugar cream pie, that will have less staining power if it gets on my dress!)0 -
Glinda1971 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »I've had an interesting challenge handed to me!
I've been pestering my husband and telling him that I want a Fitbit, because I think it'll motivate me to move around more so I can "win" steps and calories. He thinks it's an unnecessary fitness gadget, and that I should probably just move around more by myself.
So, to motivate me a little (since I've been struggling a lot lately, as you all know, and he's been trying to find ways to help me with it) he gave me a challenge: If I can get my weight down to 65 kg by my birthday, he'll buy me a Fitbit. I'm currently at 69.3, and my birthday is on the eighth of October, which means I have 3.5 months to lose 4.3 kilos--very doable.
So, by putting it out here, I'm hoping you guys will help me stay accountable so I can win myself a Fitbit for my birthday! (He'd probably buy it for me anyway, but I really want to win this challenge.)
Your birthday is the same day as my (late) mum's.
I got my fitbit to track my sleep, but found it really motivates me to increase my steps. Last weekend I racked up 29,007 steps one day and my SO asked me if I'd ever broken 30K... I said I hadn't... and I was seriously considering trying for another 993 steps just so I could hit 30K... even though I was exhausted.
You can totally do this!!
How do you get so many steps? I spent a big chunk of my day on my feet and I'm going to hit 13,000 (new personal best).
I'm honestly really curious. Maybe I have a setting wrong or something.
I tend to get a lot of steps, 11 or 12,000 on an average day, and usually a lot more on the weekend. We make a special effort to walk the dog every day (2 to 3 miles) on top of our normal routines and we have a goal to hike every weekend. We don't achieve that goal every weekend, but we try! The most steps I have hit was 40,000, and that was on a camping day - hiking 16 miles, setting up camp, getting firewood, etc.0 -
"Susieq_1994 wrote: »
I think that's a great idea! I was thinking that I should post some sort of reminders around the house for when I'm feeling munchie or down, to try and keep me focused. Any suggestions for what to write? All I could think of was something like... "65 kg = Fitbit!"
Yup, I live on the top floor in a four storey apartment, so I could definitely do some stair-climbing! The neighbors might think I'm nuts, which is the only thing that has stopped me from doing that until now, but I should totally get over that...
Put up notes that say 1 biscuit = 20 star jumps or do i need this chocolate more than I need that Fitbit? Things that are meant to make you stop and think whether you really need that food or if it's boredom binging.
Yeah get over the neighbours, although I bet if you explained it was to increase fitness, they'd cheer you on.
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And I totally want to be Fitbit friends with everyone in here.
I was wondering whether people would be up for challenges, not super competitive, but things like how many steps in a day/weekend or how many calories burned in a weekend. The idea is.to motivate and give goals, rather than be winners and.losers and.moves away from scale victories
And not just for Fitbit people..so not Fitbit based, although we could have.Fitbit challenges
If anyone is interested, I'll start a thread in the bat cave
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