Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

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  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,741 Member
    ShibaEars wrote: »
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    ShibaEars wrote: »
    I went to see the new Avengers movie yesterday. Loved it.

    I confess those kinds of movies always make me wish I was a ninja/spy/superhero.
    Star Trek movies make me want to stride purposefully around a starship in a mini skirt and knee-high boots.

    Any news on your house purchase? Is it happening?

    Yes, it is happening! I get possession on June 17. Unfortunately I will not be able to move in right away, so will most likely be renting it out for about a year first.

    Congratulations! Hope it all goes smoothly and quicker than you anticipate.
  • karenvsh
    karenvsh Posts: 6 Member
    I worry I won't ever lose the excess weight... but I also worry that I will lose the excess weight and then what will I obsess over?!
  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    Friday me and my boyfriend went to the cheesecake factory. I brought home an entire box of leftovers. I decided not to log the food for that day due to the fact that I would be grossed out by myself. So when I got home in order to avoid having to have an extra cheat day just for the leftovers I ate them in my room. Cold. Cold cheesecake factory leftovers.

    See, and I'm envious of your cold Cheesecake Factory leftovers because there isn't one anywhere remotely close to me... I've only eaten there once in my life, in Seattle. I think my friend was a little appalled that I wanted to go there, but she indulged me because I'd never been to one before.
  • quiksylver296
    quiksylver296 Posts: 28,439 Member
    Friday me and my boyfriend went to the cheesecake factory. I brought home an entire box of leftovers. I decided not to log the food for that day due to the fact that I would be grossed out by myself. So when I got home in order to avoid having to have an extra cheat day just for the leftovers I ate them in my room. Cold. Cold cheesecake factory leftovers.

    The only thing I would eat at The Cheesecake Factory is the cheesecake. I think their food is horribly overpriced and not that good. The cheesecake on the other hand - lemon raspberry with lady fingers crust.... I need a drooling emoji again, Ceci.
  • FluffySandwich
    FluffySandwich Posts: 1,293 Member
    edited May 2015
    Friday me and my boyfriend went to the cheesecake factory. I brought home an entire box of leftovers. I decided not to log the food for that day due to the fact that I would be grossed out by myself. So when I got home in order to avoid having to have an extra cheat day just for the leftovers I ate them in my room. Cold. Cold cheesecake factory leftovers.

    The only thing I would eat at The Cheesecake Factory is the cheesecake. I think their food is horribly overpriced and not that good. The cheesecake on the other hand - lemon raspberry with lady fingers crust.... I need a drooling emoji again, Ceci.

    I agree with you. Last time I went there I was NOT impressed. The service was pretty bad too, but I couldn't blame the guy... he seemed hassled and under a lot of stress, so he ended up getting a pretty good tip regardless. The main course wasn't so great, just bland pasta, but the cheesecake was yummy. Next time I go there I'm probably just going to stick with the desserts :tongue:

    By the way, I'm glad I'm not the only one who hates gum!!!
  • fr3smyl
    fr3smyl Posts: 1,418 Member
    edited May 2015
    Rabbit914 wrote: »

    I can't stand it when people chew gum like that! I have to have gum during cardio because my mouth gets dry really easily. There's a disease called 'Chronic Dry Eye' and I think I have 'Chronic Dry Mouth'. Is that even a thing?

    Likewise. Granted I am cycling with wind in my face and mouth but I will damn near cancel a ride if I can't find my ride gum. lol It keeps my mouth moist and not dry like the Sahara Desert!

    yes it's a thing. I have sjogrens' s syndrome. So I have chronic dry eyes and dry mouth. Your tear ducts and salivary glands dry up.
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    edited May 2015
    3200 calories today... 1200 over my TDEE. Hormonal hunger so I just overate on purpose so that horrible feeling would go away... so much for saving calories for Sunday. Going to take me 3 days to make up for it... I hate this. Now I'm feeling a little bit sick, but the sad thing is that it still feels better than that hunger. Just hoping I won't be hungry tomorrow (like that ever happens to me).

    Confession - when I go over like this I make sure to lift weights for 20 minutes so I can pretend I'm 'bulking'. Also wish my legs didn't need a rest or I'd go hit the treadmill for an hour (already had a 30 minutes Combat workout, 20 minutes of weights, and a 2 miles walk).
    Friday me and my boyfriend went to the cheesecake factory. I brought home an entire box of leftovers. I decided not to log the food for that day due to the fact that I would be grossed out by myself. So when I got home in order to avoid having to have an extra cheat day just for the leftovers I ate them in my room. Cold. Cold cheesecake factory leftovers.

    I do that too sometimes... so I can go back on track the next day without thinking about it.
  • orangesmartie
    orangesmartie Posts: 1,870 Member

    JPW1990 wrote: »
    I have 477 posts to catch up on.

    But just to say: I climbed a mountain on Sunday. Felt awesome. Didn't struggle. Photos on my just giving page soon (address on profile)

    Yay! And I bet the coat looked awesome up there, too


    Haha funny thing, I didn't need a waterproof, the weather was dry! So it stayed vacuum packed in my rucksack (until Monday, when we had torrential rain, that's Wales for ya).

    I'm still trying to upload my pics but they are too big for justgiving apparently

  • quiksylver296
    quiksylver296 Posts: 28,439 Member
    edited May 2015
    Francl27 wrote: »
    3200 calories today... 1000 over my TDEE. Hormonal hunger so I just overate on purpose so that horrible feeling would go away... so much for saving calories for Sunday. Going to take me 3 days to make up for it... I hate this. Now I'm feeling a little bit sick, but the sad thing is that it still feels better than that hunger. Just hoping I won't be hungry tomorrow (like that ever happens to me).

    Confession - when I go over like this I make sure to lift weights for 20 minutes so I can pretend I'm 'bulking'. Also wish my legs didn't need a rest or I'd go hit the treadmill for an hour (already had a 30 minutes Combat workout, 20 minutes of weights, and a 2 miles walk).
    Friday me and my boyfriend went to the cheesecake factory. I brought home an entire box of leftovers. I decided not to log the food for that day due to the fact that I would be grossed out by myself. So when I got home in order to avoid having to have an extra cheat day just for the leftovers I ate them in my room. Cold. Cold cheesecake factory leftovers.

    I do that too sometimes... so I can go back on track the next day without thinking about it.

    That's it! That's what I'm doing, too. (Better shag my butt to the gym tonight and work on my bulk.)
  • FluffySandwich
    FluffySandwich Posts: 1,293 Member
    Another rather lame confession: I haven't the slightest idea what to do with my hair. I haven't had short hair since I was a baby just starting to grow it. I wish I had the courage to chop it up or do something with it, but I'm just scared of making it look worse. It's extremely wavy (and in my opinion, not the good kind of wavy!!!) and hard to manage, so I just straighten it all the time to make it easier for me to deal with, at least. It also wants to always be parted in the middle. I went to see a hair stylist last year and she told me that my hair was "refusing to be parted down the side." Dumb hair.

    My sister has experimented with all kinds of cuts and colors (well, all shades of red), and I wish I could be more like her. For some reason I'm just too scared.
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,741 Member
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    Jesus H., the confessions keep coming. Ok, I confess that I ate a Hershey bar for lunch and it was delicious. That's all I got today.

    That was really sad. I think you should try harder. Give it up!
    Agreed. Pathetic confession. There's something dark lurking there...

    There's a lot of stuff that involves some sexual things, but I don't want to bore anyone with that stuff. Snoozeville.

    Oh yeah, like that's not going to get anyone's attention. (insert eye roll)

    BTW, just quoting myself because this sounded mean when I read it again after posting, but I meant it to encourage a good confession from @asflatasapancake! Sorry if it sounded bad.
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    Another rather lame confession: I haven't the slightest idea what to do with my hair. I haven't had short hair since I was a baby just starting to grow it. I wish I had the courage to chop it up or do something with it, but I'm just scared of making it look worse. It's extremely wavy (and in my opinion, not the good kind of wavy!!!) and hard to manage, so I just straighten it all the time to make it easier for me to deal with, at least. It also wants to always be parted in the middle. I went to see a hair stylist last year and she told me that my hair was "refusing to be parted down the side." Dumb hair.

    My sister has experimented with all kinds of cuts and colors (well, all shades of red), and I wish I could be more like her. For some reason I'm just too scared.

    My hair is the same... parted in the middle too. Plus it frizzes like crazy when it's humid out. I just do angles on the front. Honestly I gave up on it years ago, lol.
  • fr3smyl
    fr3smyl Posts: 1,418 Member
    Confession, since we're on that I ate two Ritter sport hazelnut milk chocolate bars yesterdayby myself. They didn't fit into my calories. And for dessert a had a slice of key lime pie.

    No regrets. ;)
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    fr3smyl wrote: »
    Confession, since we're on that I ate two Ritter sport hazelnut milk chocolate bars yesterdayby myself. They didn't fit into my calories. And for dessert a had a slice of key lime pie.

    No regrets. ;)

    I keep hearing about those Ritter sport bars and really need to try them out some day.
  • FluffySandwich
    FluffySandwich Posts: 1,293 Member
    Francl27 wrote: »
    Another rather lame confession: I haven't the slightest idea what to do with my hair. I haven't had short hair since I was a baby just starting to grow it. I wish I had the courage to chop it up or do something with it, but I'm just scared of making it look worse. It's extremely wavy (and in my opinion, not the good kind of wavy!!!) and hard to manage, so I just straighten it all the time to make it easier for me to deal with, at least. It also wants to always be parted in the middle. I went to see a hair stylist last year and she told me that my hair was "refusing to be parted down the side." Dumb hair.

    My sister has experimented with all kinds of cuts and colors (well, all shades of red), and I wish I could be more like her. For some reason I'm just too scared.

    My hair is the same... parted in the middle too. Plus it frizzes like crazy when it's humid out. I just do angles on the front. Honestly I gave up on it years ago, lol.
    Mine frizzes as well! Argh! Last night I commented to my boyfriend that everyone on Game of Thrones has amazing hair.

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    So curly and nice. Jealous of a bunch of dudes. :(


  • rorysmommy
    rorysmommy Posts: 7 Member
    fr3smyl wrote: »
    Rabbit914 wrote: »

    yes it's a thing. I have sjogrens' s syndrome. So I have chronic dry eyes and dry mouth. Your tear ducts and salivary glands dry up.

    You should check into autologus serum. The eye doc I worked for would have it compounded for patients with Sjogren's and it worked really well for the dry eye. Something to look into if it really bothers you. If you'd like more info, I'm happy to share.
  • DeivyLugoson
    DeivyLugoson Posts: 3 Member
    Last Saturday I ate a 1 1/2 pound hamburger... :/ I miss read the menu I thought that was an option of 1 pound and the other a 1/2 pound... with wedge fries and a Corona Extra...The point is that I ate just 4 or maybe 5 spoons from the dessert of chocolate cake and vanilla ice cream... I did NOT ate all the dessert
  • DeivyLugoson
    DeivyLugoson Posts: 3 Member
    So I thought maybe we could all use this to get something off of our chests. Confess to anything pertaining to your weight loss journey, it may even be a helpful tip for others! :)'

    Please please PLEASEEEE refrain from being mean. :)

    Here goes it!

    I wear a trash bag under my clothing when I exercise and also for about half of my day.
    Yeah it's not as sophisticated as a Wrap or Those belly wrap things but honestly I like it better. It covers my whole upper body besides my neck, head, and arms. Maybe one of you do the same thing :P

    Last Saturday I ate a 1 1/2 pound hamburger... :/ I miss read the menu I thought that was an option of 1 pound and the other a 1/2 pound... with wedge fries and a Corona Extra...The point is that I ate just 4 or maybe 5 spoons from the dessert of chocolate cake and vanilla ice cream... I did NOT ate all the dessert
  • DeivyLugoson
    DeivyLugoson Posts: 3 Member
    rabbitjb wrote: »
    I was craving something sweet the other night but had absolutely nothing in the house that would satisfy me except some hot chocolate. So I ate two spoonfuls of the powder. Two spoonfuls. Of the powder.

    Did that taste as disgusting as it sounds?
    Last Saturday I ate a 1 1/2 pound hamburger... :/ I miss read the menu I thought that was an option of 1 pound and the other a 1/2 pound... with wedge fries and a Corona Extra...The point is that I ate just 4 or maybe 5 spoons from the dessert of chocolate cake and vanilla ice cream... I did NOT ate all the dessert
  • xLoveLikeWinterx
    xLoveLikeWinterx Posts: 408 Member
    clover157 wrote: »
    Dnarules wrote: »
    Francl27 wrote: »
    I'm not having a very good day. Total pity party and tears over my parenting failures. I guess it's a good thing that I decided to go for a walk instead of digging in the ice cream stash.

    Sorry to hear this. Parenting is such a tough job. I hope the walk helped.



    Parenting is so hard, I am taking every effort to never have to do it. :smiley:

    And think about it, parenting with TWO parents is hard... and single parents...woah. AND if everyone is working?! :astonished:

    Everyone else can go ahead and make successful and wonderful humans. I do not feel strong enough to partake in that endeavor. :wink:

    ETA: I am serious about everything in this post. I see parenting as very difficult. It takes skills and abilities that I am pretty sure I do not possess.

    Here's something I've never confessed IRL before...
    I don't enjoy parenting. I don't think I was meant to be a mum.
    Don't get me wrong, I love my boys with all my heart. I give all of myself to them to ensure they feel loved, are happy and healthy.
    But I just don't think I was cut out for it. I've had pretty severe postnatal depression since my first was born 3 years ago and I'm sure that contributes, but I do wonder if its just my personality. Also, I carry a lot of guilt over my depression, its so unfair to them and I worry I'm messing up their whole lives :(
    Aaaaaaaand now I want to cover my feelings in food.

    I could've pretty much wrote this post, word for word. I have a 3.5 yr old and an 8 month old (both boys). Everyone tells me I'm an awesome mom, but I feel like I'm failing at it constantly. It's not effortless for me like everyone else I see on Facebook. I have to WORK at my patience.
    To be fair, I'm pretty sure I have PPD and my 3.5 yr old is a DRAMA QUEEN and can be difficult, but still. I give everything I have in me to them, literally, and I still feel like I'm doing it wrong.
    Part of my inability to keep the weight off is I eat my feelings at night alone when they're in bed, because I sit and relive my parenting failures for the day in my head, over and over.

    And hi, I've lurked but decided to post in the thread today :)
  • MoHousdon
    MoHousdon Posts: 8,723 Member
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    lemurcat12 wrote: »
    I feel pretty weird, because I know gum is loved by mostly everyone :tongue: I haven't chewed it in years, though I didn't have much of a problem with it when I was the one chewing it...

    I could basically co-sign your whole post.

    I hate gum.

    We can no longer be friends @quiksylver296

    I don't believe you. You'll take me back. B)

    You're right, but I will HAVE to have gum during our ZA missions. None of that fruity or dessert flavored crap though. I hate the way my mouth tastes after I have fruit flavored gum. Yuck!

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    On the very rare occasion I chew gum, it has to be peppermint. Can we compromise on peppermint gum? LOL

    I actually prefer mint (spearmint, peppermint, wintermint, bubblemint, sweet mint) over any other flavor of gum. I like having that just brushed my teeth feeling without having to brush my teeth.

  • MoHousdon
    MoHousdon Posts: 8,723 Member
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    I have to add that I think it is NOT selfish at all to realize you do not want children. What is selfish is to have children you do not want, just because you are 'supposed' to, and then treat them as such.

    The whole point of my last post was that I really wanted to be a mother, I do not think my life would be complete without it, but, it is not for everyone, and should not be taken lightly, nor should be taken on because of pressure.
    Agree 100%. My grandmother was a good example of someone who shouldn't have had children. Instead she had 4 and told them pretty regularly that they ruined her life. My mum's screwed up in many ways by this, but she made a conscious decision to not be a mother like that and she's wonderful (if a little nuts).

    My grandmother had 5 kids, and clearly didn't want the last two (my mom is #4), but took to them in very different ways. She's always been really hard on my mom (who is a whole lot like my grandfather - and was totally his favorite), but my mom's younger sister is her favorite. Go figure.

    She's also really judgemental, to the point of occasional cruelty, which she tries to justify with religion. I confess that I don't really like my grandmother as a person. :neutral:

    My grandmother also had 5 kids. My mom is #4.
    Kid #5 is 16 years younger than my mom. The other kids may as well have not existed after kid #5 came into the picture. When I was little, my grandparents followed my aunt (kid #5) and moved away, not telling any of the rest of their kids where they moved to and never contacting any of us again. Talk about dysfunctional. We found out from the newspaper when my grandfather passed away, after the funeral was over. My grandmother passed away a couple of months ago, my aunt let us all know about that before the funeral anyway. I did not attend.

    People are strange.

    They just moved away and didn't tell anyone where they were going? How crazy is that?! Did your aunt (#5) keep in touch with the family?

    I know! My mom has said that her childhood wasn't bad or anything, but once my aunt was born, it was as if the other kids didn't exist. My aunt didn't get back in touch with the rest of the family until my grandparents' health started failing (they were both 90 when they passed).

    My aunt had a daughter that was killed in a car accident on the way to her senior prom, several years ago. My parents and some other family members went to the funeral to pay their respects. They were asked to leave immediately after the service at the church as only immediate family and church members were welcome at the graveside.

    The whole thing is nonsensical.

    The funniest part (to me), my aunt is married to a preacher. Gives me that much less respect for people who label themselves Christian. The proof is in your actions.

    That is just awful and true Christ followers don't treat others this way.

  • CooCooPuff
    CooCooPuff Posts: 4,374 Member
    I can't for the life of me chew most gums properly. I end up swallowing anything that isn't the Eclipse type after a few minutes, ha.
  • Susieq_1994
    Susieq_1994 Posts: 5,361 Member
    This afternoon, I went to the supermarket and bought baking ingredients with the intention of baking cookies and blondies for my mother in law this weekend as a gift of sorts. As I was buying them, I strictly informed my husband that we would NOT be baking any sweets/desserts this week, and these were ONLY for my mother in law.

    Segue over to right now, midnight... There's a batch of brownies baking in the oven and my husband and I were co-conspirators in this devastating bashing of the "rules". ;)
  • ShibaEars
    ShibaEars Posts: 3,928 Member
    clover157 wrote: »
    Dnarules wrote: »
    Francl27 wrote: »
    I'm not having a very good day. Total pity party and tears over my parenting failures. I guess it's a good thing that I decided to go for a walk instead of digging in the ice cream stash.

    Sorry to hear this. Parenting is such a tough job. I hope the walk helped.



    Parenting is so hard, I am taking every effort to never have to do it. :smiley:

    And think about it, parenting with TWO parents is hard... and single parents...woah. AND if everyone is working?! :astonished:

    Everyone else can go ahead and make successful and wonderful humans. I do not feel strong enough to partake in that endeavor. :wink:

    ETA: I am serious about everything in this post. I see parenting as very difficult. It takes skills and abilities that I am pretty sure I do not possess.

    Here's something I've never confessed IRL before...
    I don't enjoy parenting. I don't think I was meant to be a mum.
    Don't get me wrong, I love my boys with all my heart. I give all of myself to them to ensure they feel loved, are happy and healthy.
    But I just don't think I was cut out for it. I've had pretty severe postnatal depression since my first was born 3 years ago and I'm sure that contributes, but I do wonder if its just my personality. Also, I carry a lot of guilt over my depression, its so unfair to them and I worry I'm messing up their whole lives :(
    Aaaaaaaand now I want to cover my feelings in food.

    I could've pretty much wrote this post, word for word. I have a 3.5 yr old and an 8 month old (both boys). Everyone tells me I'm an awesome mom, but I feel like I'm failing at it constantly. It's not effortless for me like everyone else I see on Facebook. I have to WORK at my patience.
    To be fair, I'm pretty sure I have PPD and my 3.5 yr old is a DRAMA QUEEN and can be difficult, but still. I give everything I have in me to them, literally, and I still feel like I'm doing it wrong.
    Part of my inability to keep the weight off is I eat my feelings at night alone when they're in bed, because I sit and relive my parenting failures for the day in my head, over and over.

    And hi, I've lurked but decided to post in the thread today :)

    It's not as effortless for them as it appears. People only post good & exciting things on FB. They don't necessarily talk about the bad stuff. (This goes for everybody on FB, not just related to kids.) Don't compare yourself to what you see on there, because it's not the whole reality.



  • quiksylver296
    quiksylver296 Posts: 28,439 Member
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    lemurcat12 wrote: »
    I feel pretty weird, because I know gum is loved by mostly everyone :tongue: I haven't chewed it in years, though I didn't have much of a problem with it when I was the one chewing it...

    I could basically co-sign your whole post.

    I hate gum.

    We can no longer be friends @quiksylver296

    I don't believe you. You'll take me back. B)

    You're right, but I will HAVE to have gum during our ZA missions. None of that fruity or dessert flavored crap though. I hate the way my mouth tastes after I have fruit flavored gum. Yuck!

    hbqo1b4r14r8.jpg


    On the very rare occasion I chew gum, it has to be peppermint. Can we compromise on peppermint gum? LOL

    I actually prefer mint (spearmint, peppermint, wintermint, bubblemint, sweet mint) over any other flavor of gum. I like having that just brushed my teeth feeling without having to brush my teeth.

    Spearmint makes me gag. I'm being a PITA today, aren't I? :D
  • fr3smyl
    fr3smyl Posts: 1,418 Member
    Francl27 wrote: »
    fr3smyl wrote: »
    Confession, since we're on that I ate two Ritter sport hazelnut milk chocolate bars yesterdayby myself. They didn't fit into my calories. And for dessert a had a slice of key lime pie.

    No regrets. ;)

    I keep hearing about those Ritter sport bars and really need to try them out some day.

    They are only chocolate I eat besides Ferroro Rocher or mint chocolate. But when it comes down to it they are my go to.

  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    Francl27 wrote: »
    Confession - when I go over like this I make sure to lift weights for 20 minutes so I can pretend I'm 'bulking'.

    That's what I was pretending for my entire three-day junk/fast/too much food vacation fest.
    Another rather lame confession: I haven't the slightest idea what to do with my hair. I haven't had short hair since I was a baby just starting to grow it. I wish I had the courage to chop it up or do something with it, but I'm just scared of making it look worse. It's extremely wavy (and in my opinion, not the good kind of wavy!!!) and hard to manage, so I just straighten it all the time to make it easier for me to deal with, at least. It also wants to always be parted in the middle. I went to see a hair stylist last year and she told me that my hair was "refusing to be parted down the side." Dumb hair.

    My sister has experimented with all kinds of cuts and colors (well, all shades of red), and I wish I could be more like her. For some reason I'm just too scared.

    Mine too. If I attempt a side part, it wanders over by itself over the course of the day, creating a bizarre hump effect. I always say that I don't have a hair "do", I have a hair "don't".

    A middle part is the least flattering for my face, of course, as it just draws attention to my nose -- not my best feature.
  • MoHousdon
    MoHousdon Posts: 8,723 Member
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    lemurcat12 wrote: »
    I feel pretty weird, because I know gum is loved by mostly everyone :tongue: I haven't chewed it in years, though I didn't have much of a problem with it when I was the one chewing it...

    I could basically co-sign your whole post.

    I hate gum.

    We can no longer be friends @quiksylver296

    I don't believe you. You'll take me back. B)

    You're right, but I will HAVE to have gum during our ZA missions. None of that fruity or dessert flavored crap though. I hate the way my mouth tastes after I have fruit flavored gum. Yuck!

    hbqo1b4r14r8.jpg


    On the very rare occasion I chew gum, it has to be peppermint. Can we compromise on peppermint gum? LOL

    I actually prefer mint (spearmint, peppermint, wintermint, bubblemint, sweet mint) over any other flavor of gum. I like having that just brushed my teeth feeling without having to brush my teeth.

    Spearmint makes me gag. I'm being a PITA today, aren't I? :D

    Yes, you are! However, I still love ya.

  • smashley_mashley
    smashley_mashley Posts: 589 Member
    clover157 wrote: »
    Dnarules wrote: »
    Francl27 wrote: »
    I'm not having a very good day. Total pity party and tears over my parenting failures. I guess it's a good thing that I decided to go for a walk instead of digging in the ice cream stash.

    Sorry to hear this. Parenting is such a tough job. I hope the walk helped.



    Parenting is so hard, I am taking every effort to never have to do it. :smiley:

    And think about it, parenting with TWO parents is hard... and single parents...woah. AND if everyone is working?! :astonished:

    Everyone else can go ahead and make successful and wonderful humans. I do not feel strong enough to partake in that endeavor. :wink:

    ETA: I am serious about everything in this post. I see parenting as very difficult. It takes skills and abilities that I am pretty sure I do not possess.

    Here's something I've never confessed IRL before...
    I don't enjoy parenting. I don't think I was meant to be a mum.
    Don't get me wrong, I love my boys with all my heart. I give all of myself to them to ensure they feel loved, are happy and healthy.
    But I just don't think I was cut out for it. I've had pretty severe postnatal depression since my first was born 3 years ago and I'm sure that contributes, but I do wonder if its just my personality. Also, I carry a lot of guilt over my depression, its so unfair to them and I worry I'm messing up their whole lives :(
    Aaaaaaaand now I want to cover my feelings in food.

    I could've pretty much wrote this post, word for word. I have a 3.5 yr old and an 8 month old (both boys). Everyone tells me I'm an awesome mom, but I feel like I'm failing at it constantly. It's not effortless for me like everyone else I see on Facebook. I have to WORK at my patience.
    To be fair, I'm pretty sure I have PPD and my 3.5 yr old is a DRAMA QUEEN and can be difficult, but still. I give everything I have in me to them, literally, and I still feel like I'm doing it wrong.
    Part of my inability to keep the weight off is I eat my feelings at night alone when they're in bed, because I sit and relive my parenting failures for the day in my head, over and over.

    And hi, I've lurked but decided to post in the thread today :)

    Welcome to the thread!

    That's the problem with Facebook. People post all their best happy moments and achievements to make themselves look better or make them appear as they are having the time of their lives every single day. People want to show everyone that they are "awesome" at everything and make it appear that they are having the most fun and nothing is ever wrong. No one is going to post pictures of themselves when they are hurling over the toilet from illness (except when friends post photos of you being an idiot after a night a drinking), changing diapers, the fights you have with your spouse, etc.

    This is why I don't have facebook - I don't feel it is "real life" - it is more an edited version of "real life"