What nobody tells you about losing weight
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2 years and 6 mos in and I really wasn't expecting to (still) be treated like a walking freak show by my family and peers. And that ties into how difficult it's been to accept myself at a lower weight. Obesity was a major part of my identity and sometimes I remember it fondly and wish I could go back, but I respect myself too much to do that.42
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You may lose some friends, and gain new ones! I really am amazed how some of my relationships deteriorated, yet also new people I have met along the way!13
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How painful being thinner can be, having lost some of the fat cushioning.
My elbows hurt, a lot of the time. I have to be so careful not to knock them on door frames 'cos that's agony.
My arms, especially midpoint between wrists and elbow - it's started hurting and it's because I often use that part of my arm to rest on things.
My back, when I'm sat against something. The bones stick into whatever I'm sat against. Ouch. Even when it's something relatively soft.
My clavicle. My bra straps cause it pain.
The list goes on. But you get the picture. My children tell me that I'll get used to it. I haven't yet.
Some posture changes are called for!12 -
Clothes shopping: All of a sudden you realise that fitting most things comes with a draw back. Most fashion is still f*ugly to be honest. Yes I now fit all those cute-on-the-hanger things. But looking good on a hanger still does not mean looking good on a human22
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I'm sorry. New friends have come naturally from new activities for me. For me that's the gym, but it's a small garage gym where I know all the members and we often socialise together. If I was exercising at home, I wouldn't have new friends.
But if I wasn't in this gym, I'd have joined a running group or triathlon group where I expect I'd have a similar outcome.
But if you've a small group of good true friends that's all you need. If you want more you'll need to go out and join something that fits with your new goals/values.8 -
Am I crazy or does anyone else have a life friend (from work or a family member or whatever) who wants to workout with you but you really don't want them to because that's your time? In afraid to tell people I know when the exercise classes I take are because I had someone I know come for several weeks and it didn't feel like that class was my time away from the world any more. I like having my workout buddies but I don't want my real world permeating into that...41
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People thinking my wife is having an affair.... was at her tennis match and gave her a hug and kiss after the match was done and all her teammates didn't recognize me (I've lost 70 pounds). After I left they wanted to know who the "new man" she was with59
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The money you save on groceries by not buying junk food. Seriously!19
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No, I know exactly what you mean.LauraInTheWater wrote: »Am I crazy or does anyone else have a life friend (from work or a family member or whatever) who wants to workout with you but you really don't want them to because that's your time? In afraid to tell people I know when the exercise classes I take are because I had someone I know come for several weeks and it didn't feel like that class was my time away from the world any more. I like having my workout buddies but I don't want my real world permeating into that...
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LauraInTheWater wrote: »Am I crazy or does anyone else have a life friend (from work or a family member or whatever) who wants to workout with you but you really don't want them to because that's your time? In afraid to tell people I know when the exercise classes I take are because I had someone I know come for several weeks and it didn't feel like that class was my time away from the world any more. I like having my workout buddies but I don't want my real world permeating into that...
Eh...I have a friend who says she wants to come walking with me sometime (though I don't do much walking for exercise anymore). The thing is, when I'm walking for exercise, I'm not out for a stroll to look at pretty birdies and *kitten*. I'm really hoofing it and trying to make good time, which I don't have a lot of to begin with, and I know she'll show up in flip flops. I do like my alone time, but I'd sacrifice that if I thought she'd take it as seriously as I do.16 -
LauraInTheWater wrote: »Am I crazy or does anyone else have a life friend (from work or a family member or whatever) who wants to workout with you but you really don't want them to because that's your time? In afraid to tell people I know when the exercise classes I take are because I had someone I know come for several weeks and it didn't feel like that class was my time away from the world any more. I like having my workout buddies but I don't want my real world permeating into that...
I tell them they can, but they have to meet me there. I'm not being slowed down at ALL by having to wait on them.
Plus IF they aren't ready to quit after a couple weeks they are always ready to leave the gym before I am.9 -
Yeah, I add extra workouts if people want to join me. I don't invite them into what I'm already doing. I need that time and I like doing it alone.14
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LauraInTheWater wrote: »Am I crazy or does anyone else have a life friend (from work or a family member or whatever) who wants to workout with you but you really don't want them to because that's your time? In afraid to tell people I know when the exercise classes I take are because I had someone I know come for several weeks and it didn't feel like that class was my time away from the world any more. I like having my workout buddies but I don't want my real world permeating into that...
This is how I feel when my boyfriend wants to go on walks with me. I have let him come with me a couple of times and it's been fine. But my walks are when I get to catch up on Podcasts so when he's there I have to...like...talk to him. How annoying. Lol27 -
The money you save on groceries by not buying junk food. Seriously!
not for me. The money that was buying the convenience food is now going toward more produce and healthier options such as whole grain pasta, so my net grocery expenses has gone up, not down. But then again, even before I started the diet, I wasn't buying a bunch of junk food like chips or pizza or stuff, so that may explain why my grocery bill went up instead of down.5 -
Yup, I have family members wanting to join me on my workouts, but I'd rather exercise on my own because I know they won't be able to keep up. I just set aside extra time for them and don't count it as a workout, myself. For example, we'll ride bikes around the neighborhood for awhile then when they're done I'll drop them off at home and go for my real ride.16
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LauraInTheWater wrote: »Am I crazy or does anyone else have a life friend (from work or a family member or whatever) who wants to workout with you but you really don't want them to because that's your time? In afraid to tell people I know when the exercise classes I take are because I had someone I know come for several weeks and it didn't feel like that class was my time away from the world any more. I like having my workout buddies but I don't want my real world permeating into that...
Not crazy at all. At my gym a number of co-workers, friends and one of my neighbours are members too. I am very glad that we all chose different classes Only occasionally I see them but never work out with them. Very grateful for that.
That said I joined my father (he's 73) my brother (47) and my nephew (15 then) for a workout session at their gym three months back. They always go together. Brother and nephew were going to show off, dad was not so brash. Guess who was the last one standing? Yep me, and that was great fun.20 -
-that spices are your best friend in the kitchen and getting creative with your cooking can not only helo, but it can be a ton of fun!
-that sometimes you will feel crappy and you will eat that ice cream sunday. Try not to let it get to you, runfaster the next morning.
-that working out by yourself in front of the mirror listening to your favorite music and doing your own freestyle zumba can feel extreemely liberating and burns a ton of calories.
-that your partner, may not notice your weightloss right away, but his mom will.
-that the first few days while you get back on the wagon (if you fall out frequently like I do) are very *kitten*, but once you start reaching your goals you'll feel superhuman. Just try to hand on to that feeling and let it keep you motivated.28 -
Finally done reading through all of the awesome posts on here. I started losing weight back in 2014 and lost about 35 lbs, slowly gained about 20 back through the last 3 years and now I just started tracking again and since May 2017 I have already lost those 20 lbs I've gained and hope to keep going til I reach the goals I originally set for myself back in 2014. Since I started my weightloss journey so long ago, I have had a lot of time to reflect on the way weightloss has affected my life. Without even reaching my original weightloss goal in 2014, and just losing the 35 lbs, I had felt my entire life had changed for the better. Looking at who I was before 2014 when I was in a darker period and gaining weight I don't even recognize that person. when I started losing the weight and becoming healthy I suddenly felt ALIVE again. So I guess I would say that no one told me that it could help me feel so different, new, and alive. like I was becoming the person I was suppose to be instead of the depressed unhealthy person I was trapped in. Also no one told me that I was actually going to dislike when people notice I lost weight. Since losing weight this time around, I am still not comfortable when people notice my weightloss. I was awkward about it back then and I still am now. I don't know how to overcome this.21
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With every pound lost my motivation to lose another pound increases tenfold.
You can keep your hobbies from when you weighed more, but beware: they may become a hundred times more fun!
You become more assertive with family, especially if family is a big reason why you were fat.
How gross and nasty it is to eat junk food if you dare try eating it again.
Love the OP's example that people start treating you like royalty because, well, duh! So true.
So so so this. I didn't realize that I was binge eating after interacting with my family. I think it was because I'm very different than they are. Also, I think my mom is very unhappy, and part of me subconsciously didn't want to get smaller because I knew she would be jealous/resentful and internalize my success as her failure.
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