WOMEN AGES 50 + FOR SEPTEMBER 2015

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  • bwcetc
    bwcetc Posts: 2,826 Member
    Joyce ... It's not true that your health doesn't impact the care Charlie can receive. If the home visit believes you are capable of taking care of him, then yes, you wouldn't get in-home services. But if you're health renders you incapable and could possibly affect Charlie's safety (ie you can't help him move or clean him ) then you would qualify. When I was pregnant with second son (a high risk pregnancy) , I received services for first son who is in wheelchair. Safety and well being are the key words.

    Joyce ... Sylvia suspects that Adrienne was sexually molested. Mothers boyfriend a convicted sex offender.

  • trisH_7183
    trisH_7183 Posts: 1,486 Member
    edited September 2015
    Heather,great news about the baby!So glad for all of you.Your Grdaughter is so sweet. She is loving her bunny sweater.

    Beth,my husband went on the Honor flight. Our DD&SIL joined us in volunteering for several flights.It's a great event with caring ppl making it happen.

    Sylvia,so glad your Grdaughter has you to make things right.

    Katiebug,how great that you are able to help your Sister.Mine will have her 2nd knee replacement Monday.BIL will take good care of her.She will be in a home for 3 wks for extensive therapy.

    Heather,how hard it must of been to put yourself out there. You are so brave,so caring....you are the best.
    Carol NC......glad you are coming along.

    OK......it's been a fantastic way of replying on my iPad Air.New update lets me use split screen,so I am reading posts & replying on same screen. So cool.
    Now if I can just remember how I did it ...Pat]


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  • jmkmomm
    jmkmomm Posts: 3,247 Member
    bwcetc wrote: »
    Joyce ... It's not true that your health doesn't impact the care Charlie can receive. If the home visit believes you are capable of taking care of him, then yes, you wouldn't get in-home services. But if you're health renders you incapable and could possibly affect Charlie's safety (ie you can't help him move or clean him ) then you would qualify. When I was pregnant with second son (a high risk pregnancy) , I received services for first son who is in wheelchair. Safety and well being are the key words.

    Joyce ... Sylvia suspects that Adrienne was sexually molested. Mothers boyfriend a convicted sex offender.

    Thanks for the insight into Sylvia's grand daughter. I really hope it will be some time next week that I am up to par. I am not eating regularly with him there and me here. That I'll improve with him here. I also think some of all of this is my worry about the combination of all his illnesses. The ulcerative colitis is affecting his whole life and it isn't getting any better.

    Joyce
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 18,998 Member
    edited September 2015
    @exermom Thanks for the welcome. I have been reading everyone's posts and will chime in from time to time.

    About hospital food: waiting lists in the UK for hip surgery are over 18 months, so I opted for a private clinic, so food was pretty amazing. Even the smallest portions were far too generous. However, it had to be ordered the day before, so I was able to continue to pre-plan my menus. General hospital food is reputed to be pretty good in our local hospitals, although possibly more sensible portions.

    Snacking: I have stopped buying a lot of what I used to buy, and have found healthy alternatives for others. No alternative for my favourite chocolate however, so I have to ration it out. I find that if I pre-log including treats, I don't feel deprived. Before the op I just left the house and went walking when I got the munchies. Then if I still have to have something, I have earned it lol. I spent a lot of time out walking after dinner. I have developed a wet weather 'relationship' with Leslie Sansome on YouTube over the last few months as we have had rather a wet summer this year.

    Salads: I have discovered that naked salad is very tasty, especially if you are picking fresh from the garden. Pickles are a great addition and are mostly low calorie.

    I have hit many plateau on the scales, but use other measures of gauging my progress. I measure waist/hips twice monthly. I have to say that I only record downward progress. Weigh fluctuates so much day to day, so I only record a loss if it is sustained over a week. This is a new permanent lifestyle for me, It works so well after all the years of yo yo dieting.

    I have realised that I have to take responsibility for my bad choices in the past. But I don't have to continue to feel guilty about them. They are firmly in the past, done and dusted! I treat every day as a new start.

    To those of you going through bad times, I raise my hat! Stay strong and hang in there.
  • NO_Excuses_515
    NO_Excuses_515 Posts: 220 Member
    Just a quick post...

    Sylvia – My heart goes out to you and your granddaughter. I’m just crying with you learning about the ex’s last boyfriend. Prayers for your family. (((hugs))) :'(

    Polly – I’m sorry that your son is struggling with his chemotherapy but I hope that it is doing its’ job. (((hugs)))

    Becca – Thanks for the kind words and congrats on losing another pound. :)

    It’s not that life has been easy, perfect, or exactly as expected. I just choose to be HAPPY and GRATEFUL no matter how it all turns out.

    Today, I am grateful for my youngest daughter. She may drive me crazy on those mornings when she refuses to get out of bed, but she gives the best hugs of anyone I know, and even at the age of 15, she is very generous with her hugs.

    Linda/IA
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,249 Member
    damnit - yes, my rocky was very beautiful and so obedient, i did train him seriously well. because of him everyone said i should be a dog trainer... i got lucky with him. still miss him.
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,518 Member
    barbie - as I recall, the hospital food down in FL is quite decent. Guess maybe it's because this is the South

    Laurel - welcome! How exotic that you are from STX

    Alison - LOVE your kitchen, thanks for the pics. Is that cherrywood?

    terri - I am just amazed at your son's bowling. To be against a PBA bowler. I consider myself lucky if I break 100, much less 200. That's not going to happen in this lifetime.

    pip - Jess brought Lexi (in a bag with a towel over her) to see Vince. I'm not sure that the hosp would allow therapy dogs/cats but I think it would be wonderful if they did.

    dim - I can tell you that if I don't exercise first thing in the a.m it doesn't get done. One time I had to take a friend to the eye MD and by the time we got back I REALLY REALLY had to talk myself into just doing a walking video. That works for me. I try to plan out my exercise for the week. Sometimes I have to switch things up, but at least I don't have to stop and think about what it is that I need to do

    DJ - do you know that very seldom when I was a kid did we have cake/pie/ice cream for dessert? Dessert was a piece of fruit. It wasn't until I met Vince that we started having cakes, etc. So I'll make them for him, but I also try to give them away. Like I know that I'll give Lynette some of the desserts if there are any left over.

    Joyce - what kinds of dishes will you be making?

    Gloria - I swear, when I was reading that book I kept saying "are they a fly on my wall?"

    Michele in NC
  • nccarolb
    nccarolb Posts: 858 Member
    Well, to add to all of the fun and joy in my life, I am now officially on a 60 day probationary period at my second job. Instead of talking to me me and asking questions, they just handed me a list of all the things I've ever done wrong. I think I will re-investigate a part-time job that I got information about last week. I'm about ready to blow this joint! And, I just save their sorry a*&^% from fines of $100 per day per employee for being out of tax compliance with health insurance. I'll keep my mouth shut from now on and let them dig their own hole to hell.

  • Annr
    Annr Posts: 2,765 Member
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    That is a great phrase. I need to remember that when I think about my sister that lives not 2 hrs from me. She called me on my b'day in June and that is the last I have heard from her. I leave messages but nothing. Doesn't she realize that I wish to grow old with my middle sis? Yes I have told her how I feel, but it doesn't sink in. Yep I need to let all that go, but its really hard sometimes...
    Becca

  • Annr
    Annr Posts: 2,765 Member
    ((((((((((((hugs to you all)))))))))))
    So today I volunteered at the Community Centers weekly Thursday senior luncheon. There were about 80 people in attendance, so the three of us were quite busy! They served scalloped potatoes, ham, veggies, rolls, coleslaw and cake with ice cream. The 3 of us are TOPS people, and even though we didn't cook anything we were doing and getting from 10am to about 2pm. I am tired! I came home and scarfed down 1/2 a cream cheese muffin thingy, and opened up my free meal I get for volunteering. I ate the blob of frosting that had separated from the white cake. Then I scarfed down the veggies I know my husband wouldn't like, and the container of homemade cole slaw. Everything is logged in, and if I stick to my guns at dinner time I will be fine!

    Thanks for your kind words on my 1 lb loss. We had a great meeting on trying to not be so organized. To be dis-organized, can be a good thing. Don't pile all your laundry and try to do one trip. If you aren't so organized then take multiple trips and its called exercising! It was enlightening! The lady that did the program is so sweet, and about 80 yrs old. She is as sharp as a tack, and her whit is so refreshing. She even has the funny pauses down pat, so she knows how to draw you in.

    Well today my 16 yr old is taking the ASFAB test, (the test that you take to join the military). This is his first crack at it, and he was downright nervous this morning. He has never taken a test when he didn't know alot of the material. I have always referred to him as my scary smart kid, and now I think he is abit humbled when he looked at some of the questions. Im excited for him.

    Becca

  • trisH_7183
    trisH_7183 Posts: 1,486 Member
    edited September 2015
    Annr wrote: »
    patceoh wrote: »

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    That is a great phrase. I need to remember that when I think about my sister that lives not 2 hrs from me. She called me on my b'day in June and that is the last I have heard from her. I leave messages but nothing. Doesn't she realize that I wish to grow old with my middle sis? Yes I have told her how I feel, but it doesn't sink in. Yep I need to let all that go, but its really hard sometimes...
    Becca
    Awwww......that's a shame. My Sis lives in Minn.She is bad about keeping in touch,but that is just her.

    Been there & done that with a few other ppl,including a few family members.Thank heaven I finally got it all together.They can hint,ask etc,but it's up to me to decide & these days it's usually a fast decision.

    Alison......the kitchen is beautiful.....love the cabinets.You did good! Pat





  • janemartin02
    janemartin02 Posts: 2,653 Member
    happy thurs
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,194 Member
    :) Alison, when I saw the pictures of your kitchen, I wanted to remodel mine to look like that but when I read about the trouble with countertops and the sink, I was grateful for my old, not so wonderful kitchen, that is functioning fine and already here and paid for. I don't think I have the patience to deal with remodeling.

    :) dim, I exercise first thing every morning....I started going to bed a little earlier every night after realizing that a lot of what I did the last few hours before bedtime was a waste of time (TV, mindless stuff on the internet, etc.)...by going to bed earlier, I could get up earlier and exercise first thing in the morning when I had more energy. I walk early in the morning with blue tooth headphones to listen to podcasts or audio books on my phone....I burn calories and enjoy something interesting at the same time....sometimes I listen to inspirational spiritual podcasts. sometimes listen to fun novels, and sometimes listen to books that inspire me on my journey to wellness.

    There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who wouldn't jump puddles for you. :)<3 Thank you to whoever posted this first and to those of you who quoted it so it would stay in my mind.

    <3 Barbie
  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
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    A picture from the trail that I walk on. I'm sorry to hear that so many of you are going through tough times. (((Hugs))) I have been really busy but have read all of your posts. Welcome to all the new people!

    Have a great night everyone!

    Mary from Minnesota
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,249 Member
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  • terri_mom
    terri_mom Posts: 748 Member
    Michele - My son amazes me, too. My highest bowling score in life is 101. If you go to bowl.com , find a member and search Payne Fakler, you will see that he has been better than I could ever imagine since he was younger than 7 (that's when his average was 117, and for some reason the site doesn't go back further than 2007). In all fairness, all the Fakler's are incredible bowlers, and his Dad is now Bronze Coach Certified, and has had a 200 average since WAY before I met him, so it's in his genes.
  • bwcetc
    bwcetc Posts: 2,826 Member
    Carol ... Hugs... The people at the second job absolutely do not know what they're doing!! Sadly, church politics can be the worst! Sorry they've gone after you instead of taking care of things in a moral and ethical manner. Killing the messenger I think they used to call it...
  • jmkmomm
    jmkmomm Posts: 3,247 Member
    Michelle, you asked me what I will be fixing for Charlie. Well I'm sorry, you healthy eaters, this may be to harsh for your healthy hearts. He loves the butterfly pork chops, cooked until almost done then add a can of cream of mushroom soup. Add several servings of mashed potatoes with lots of butter in it along with green beans that I doctor up with salt, pepper, butter and a cube of chicken buillion, a side of salad and several slices of jellied cranberry sauce. Now I know he won't eat all of that now so I won't offer it all now.another dish is my version of Salisbury steak which is ground beef, doesn't like the healthy stuff, doctored up with onions and salt . I cook it the way I do with the pork chops. He thinks you can just put cream of mushroom soup on mashed potatoes and it's good. Sloppy joes with cottage cheese, an old family recipe called Minnestronie burgers which is ground beef a can of Minnestronie soup and then put on half a bun with a piece of cheese. He loves Mac and cheese, Velveeta. So those plus, Little Debbie Swiss cake rolls and also some almonds is what I bought him to get him to eat. I got me some chicken breasts, salad, more fruit, fresh veggies along with my usual lean ham, eggs, etc.

    He did at least thank me for all I have done and my acceptance of getting him home. I don't think men understand the female emotion. I mean 3 weeks ago yesterday when I walked into his room, thinking I would be taking him home, I walk into his room and he can't put together a phrase or word. I am thinking life changing stroke where my Karaoke husband will never talk or sing anymore. He doesn't know why I am sail emotional about this past 3 weeks.

    Ok, I am done. It's time for me to get on with life. Tomorrow hopefully is the last phase in this journey and life will get back to normal.

    Joyce
  • walker54
    walker54 Posts: 64 Member
    Carol, sorry about your second job. If you know you are right, just get out as soon as you can and don't lose any sleep over people who don't value you. Easier said than done, but in my experience the worry and upset usually lead to overeating, weight gain, and poor health. None of those things are on your agenda for your life, right? My fingers are crossed that you can find something else quickly.

    Alison that's a beautiful kitchen. I hope DH has gotten over his frustration and that you are both enjoying it.

    dim, I struggle to change my eating and exercise habits all at once. Since I really don't like exercising, I'm concentrating now on logging everything I eat so I can see where I can make better choices. I'm planning dinner menus once a week so I don't have to think about what to defrost or cook. All my week-night recipes have to be less than 20 minutes -- preferably less than 10 minutes. On weekends I can cook something more involved, and then I freeze stuff. I'm walking at least 30 minutes a day in any combination I can manage. I'm starting small, at a level I think I can maintain so I can be successful. When I start to see results, I will be motivated to do more -- I think. :-)

    Mary, thanks for the beautiful photo from your trail walk! I took pictures on my walk today, too, but they are still in my phone.

    Does anyone have good recipes for tofu? I bought a tub of extra firm because I want to try it but don't know how to prepare it.

    Hope everyone has a great Friday!

    Polly in Virginia
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,249 Member
    stats for the day:
    ride hm 2 gym- 13.11min, 13.1amph, 2.9mi = 108c
    Spin- 35min 85r 87w 9-17g 8.9mi = 338c
    ride gym 2 dome- 6.12min, 12.9amph, 1.3mi = 62c
    ride dome 2 hm- 18.56min, 7.8amph = 183c
    total cal 691
  • DamitJanit
    DamitJanit Posts: 1,329 Member
    Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .

    Good Evening Ladies,

    Heather, what a cool BD gift! That one will be a win-win for you both. Do have fun with the grands and I’m sure DS and his wife appreciate it.

    Allison, don’t you know that you are our locally scheduled program!?  I hope he doesn’t open his mouth when he gets home but if he does, you have my permission to let him have it with both barrels. You know how bad they (Our DHs) are at waiting for service people but when we are the ones to have to wait and put up with the problems, it’s all a piece of cake. You are too nice. I’ll admit, if it had been me, I’d have taken the urine sample to the vet and let Tom get his own dinner.

    Joyce, hang in there and one of these days it will get better and easier. Cook what you must but don’t think you have to eat any of it. Big (((((HUGS)))))

    Gloria, good point about the listening. I think many of us are so ready to help fix a problem that we forget that part.

    PaT, I love your sign and oh how true!!!

    Linda, a 15 yr old girl that hugs????? Where did you find her? That is wonderful. I’d enjoy that too.

    CarolNC, well isn’t that a fine How Do You Do? I’d look into a different job too. Did you ask them to see the list of all the things you’ve done right? So sorry!!! ((((Hugs))))

    Becca, it sounds like a good program on being dis-organized. I like that! Not so good on your eating when you got home.  Do you not get to take a break from 10 to 2:00? That’s not good. But great that you volunteer.

    Mary, purdy picture. Enjoy your walks while the weather is pretty. It will start getting cold up there in a few months.

    Joyce, just so glad for you and Charlie that he has improved so much in the last 3 weeks and is able to go home. I know you had your doubts and fears at first. Be patient and remember to be good to yourself! (((Hugs)))

    Polly, you are starting out the exact right way! That is with baby steps and goals you can easily reach. Good for you.

    welcome.gif to any Newbies that I missed. Come often and join in the chat. This thing works!! Please sign your post with what you want to be called. It makes it easier for us to respond to you. Also a location is great, be it specific or general. We are happy to have you join us.

    I took my friend shopping today. She is the one with the hip problem that the doctor scared to death telling her she could have bone cancer. Now he says she doesn’t but needs surgery after she gets a second opinion from a school friend of his down in Charleston. (sounds a little fishy to us since he “must” see her and not just the X Ray and MRI results. He can’t see her hip through her skin.) Anyway, she got around fine with the use of a cane and was just glad to get out of the house. She is about to go stir crazy and on the verge of depression from being cooped up, in pain and just waiting for so long. She sees the 2nd opinion doc on Monday and her doc on Tuesday. She hopes by then he will finally be ready to schedule surgery.

    I hope all of you have a healthy and happy day. rose.gif

    Words I live by:
    Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
    and
    Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
    I Love you, smiley-love013.gif
    DJ
    Myrtle Beach, SC
  • nccarolb
    nccarolb Posts: 858 Member
    Thanks for not being offended by my two cents worth, Beth. And, thanks for the support on the job situation. The two churches I work for are like night and day.

    Janet - Thanks for your comment about my son's lack of gratitude. It did hurt because I was doing everything I could to help him and worrying myself sick over it.

    Polly - Thanks for your support. I'm already working on my resume and doing job searches.

    After my stressful day, I did a training session at my own church and walked in the door at 9:15 pm. Thirteen-plus hour days are not my idea of fun and I am dead tired.

    Joyce- I hope you can get the help you need with Charlie. I would certainly investigate all of the options available to protect the health of both of you.

    Michele - I'm glad Vince is doing better. I'm surprised they started him with straight heparin and Coumadin. Most doctors nowadays start folks with Lovenox injections to ease the body into the thinning of the blood.

    I'm thinking of each of you as I read but falling asleep before I can respond to more.

    Carol in NC
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,518 Member
    NCCarol - yes, keep silent. I'm so sorry this has happened to you

    I need to take Vince to get his blood tested tomorrow and then we'll go to see about a new microwave.

    Becca - all the best for your son

    Mary - you are so lucky to be walking on that trail. Thanks for posting the pics

    Joyce - your big heart never ceases to amaze me.

    Vince is still a bit sore from the incisions. He doesn't know if he'll go bowling Monday or not, but that's a few days away so we shall see what happens. But on the whole, he's getting better all the time. He's amazed at how much his medication has been decreased!

    Michele in NC
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,249 Member
    does anyone have experience wearing a sling? i am lucky that it will be my left shoulder. i have figured the following:
    1- i need to buy a few button up shirts (bigger)
    2- need to buy a sports bra that zips in front
    3- need to buy a couple of cheap boulder holders (aka bra) that snaps in front
    4- ask for 2 slings, one to workout/sweat in and the other to go to work in
    anything else?
  • Lilymay2
    Lilymay2 Posts: 2,525 Member
    Kim from N. California - Here is my pear recipe. It comes from an old Betty Crocker cookbook. And DH says it tastes like apple pie.

    Makes 9 inch pie.

    1/2 cup sugar
    1/3 cup all purpose flour
    1/2 tsp mace, if desired
    4 cups sliced pared fresh pears
    (about 7 pears)
    1 tbs lemon juice
    2 tbs butter or margarine

    Heat oven to 425 degrees
    Stir together sugar, mace and flour; mix with pears.
    Turn into pastry lined pie pan; sprinkle with lemon juice and dot with butter.
    Cover with top crust, seal and flute edges, slits in top.
    Cover edge with 2 - 3 inch strip of aluminum foil to prevent excess browning; remove foil for the last 15 minutes of baking.

    Bake 40 to 50 minutes

    Lillian in West Central Saskatchewan
  • miriamwithcats
    miriamwithcats Posts: 1,120 Member
    Pip, when dressing, put the injured arm in first. I found zippers on pants were hard with just one hand but putting a string through the hole in the tab gave me something to grab for without having to turn back the edge. Belts are hard too- maybe just skip them for a while.

    DJ, most likely the doc has to have hands on rather than just looking at the films so he can get paid.

    Having problems with my asthma the last few days. when I use my inhaler, I cannot get to sleep. And I have court tomorrow for the termination of parental rights. Argh.

    Good news for my son. Just by keeping up with my activity level this last 6 weeks, he has lost over 20 pounds. He was somewhere above 320 when he left Boulder and is now sitting at 300. He is a BIG tall guy with broad shoulders, big bones and muscles, so his goal is 250. The high school football coach approached him when he was in junior high, "You are going to play on my team, right?!" He was very disappointed that my son had zero interest in playing football. Anyway, that loss is totally from increased activity. He has not changed his diet at all- but is eating a good dinner with the girls every night.
  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    edited September 2015
    Pip - Rocky was gorgeous, I'd love to have animals come visit. Have never seen any at this hospital.

    Vicki - Thanks, They had little steps that made it easy to get into the chair. :)

    Janetr OKC

  • lizmil79
    lizmil79 Posts: 566 Member
    Hi I am Liz Miller, I have been a regular on here but went off course. Now working my way back.

    1. To log every bite or drink
    2. Walk or clean house get out on tapes to do.some extra moving
    3. Drink my water
    4. Because of budget half to.eat what is on the pantry shelf first but to measure, everything to get right normal serving on my plate. Not double. :)
    5. To keep going and not quit. That are my goals
  • Lagopus
    Lagopus Posts: 1,016 Member
    Oh Mary, there were sumacs in your picture... with red leaves... I think I've mentioned how much I miss them. smiley-sad010.gif
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,087 Member
    morning my friends~
    well the old goat isn't speaking to me,which is fine, I told him he was rude and I had literally just sat down.. so let him stew a bit.. he will get over it..
    my profile picture is me and our local weatherman, and he will be in our town so, going to visit him before I go to work...7:30-5 today for work.. and it will be a doozy