WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2015
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Sylvia - been reading and just feel for you.
DH 's cold has gone to his chest and he is very under the weather.
My tooth woke me up in the night, but so far today it has succumbed to pain killers. 
My cold has improved.
We went to Avignon on the train and visited the Pont (bridge) in the old song and then, after a lunch of SNAILS, :laugh: we went to the Palais des Papes. (Popes' Palace) Wow, what an edifice! A huge fortress, with stern walls and a vibe of power. It was the seat of Popes and rival Popes for around 70 years in the 1300s. It was almost deserted on a winter Monday, which added to the atmosphere.
Then we caught the train back and DH was very weary. Hope he will rally for our last day tomorrow.
I've managed to make an appointment with my dentist for the day after we get back. The wonders of email!
Fillet steak tonight with broccoli and green beans. I will prepare a bit of garlic butter, but try to restrain myself on the portion.
Posting a pic of me with the Pont d'Avignon behind me. It's only half a bridge with a chapel half way across. The river kept sweeping most of it away so it never was very successful as a crossing.
Love Heather
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Alison: It sounds like you're having a good time in Florida. Good for you! :flowerforyou:
Lisa: I'm glad that you had a good time at your writer's group dinner, and that the roof work on the warehouse paid off & reduced the problems to only a few leaks rather than many. It sounds like you've made genuine progress toward your long term goals for the place. :bigsmile:
Penny: It was nice that you thought of your friend's nalgene bottle, were able to find it, and and dropped it off for her. She will remember your kindness fondly. The Christmassy milk carton is fun.
Sylvia: (((hugs))) 
Pip: I hope the pt appointments go well. :flowerforyou:
Today I plan to ship Christmas packages to DD's MIL's house in IL and also to DS's MIL's house in KY. We were scheduled to have a fun weekend with DS and DDIL last weekend, but were too sick to go. We would have taken them their presents. Now we're shipping them to KY and also shipping their presents to my daughter's family along with our own. We can have it all done today. Yay! I hope it actually happens. Neither of us is over the flu. :ohwell:
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison
December Goals :
1. Log every bite and swallow.
2. Cardio exercise at least 3 days a week. Work on flexibility and back strength.
3. Have fun every day.
4. Drink at least three glasses of water daily, preferably more!
5. Eliminate alcohol.
6. Monitor sleep. Try to average 7 or more hours of sleep nightly.
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I have a new found respect for people in wheel chairs and the people pushing them, especially in the city, it is crazy out there!! we able bodied people need to pay more attention!0 -
Sylvia - I teared up reading your post. I know that the thot of losing your only child is heart wrenching. I also know that you are the best grandma in the world and that as hubby says things will work out when you have to cross that bridge. Men just take a lot less planning than we do. It's our job to plan. Miriam had so many wise words to offer, of which I know nothing, but she is wise and is there herself. Also Mary had some very encouraging words from a totally different perspective, there are options. This group is the best for support and strength when you need it. I am praying for you and your entire family through this tough time. Your son, on the other hand, may live for many years to come, God willing. (((Hugs))).
DJ - just wanted to point out that I send all of my packages from home. You can go online to USPS, determine postage by size and weight and pay for postage and print out shipping label and postage. Either just drop at Post Office without waiting in line, or request on line that your mailman to pick them up. Easy peasy
Heather - the picture just captures all of my imaginings from when I read books. Wow. Thanks so much for sharing with us. I truly enjoy seeing them all, and of of course you. Hope hubby gets better too and that the tooth behaves until you get to the dentist.
I lost one more pound this week for a total of four for December. Working hard and truly miss it if I don't get the exercise in for the day, who would have thot?
Love to you all,
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Sylvia - you and your husband will be fine. Is this son you are talking about your only child? Not that it is any of my business; but, what does he have that makes him think he is going go die this week? Does he have a will that names you and/or your husband as his child(ren)'s guardians? Mom might change her mind about it if he dies. Does he have any insurance to help pay for expenses of raising his children? If so, he needs to double-check it and make sure that when he got divorced that it still does not name the 'ex-wife' as the beneficiary. If he names someone specifically on life insurance it does not go into the 'estate'. You don't want to put your 'estate' as a beneficiary because that would delay getting it (waiting on the Probate to be finished) and it would also go to pay off his funeral and/or last expenses or credit cards, etc. I worked in an attorney's office most all my life; and, one of the things we did was making Wills (especially for our divorce clients); and quite often for other clients as well. People sometimes name their parents to be the Guardians of their children rather than asking a brother or sister to do so; and, they don't take into consideration that the parents might die sooner than they do, or shortly thereafter. Hope this is not the case in your situation. If there is a sibling that could take on raising the children, that might be an alternative to think about.
Also, Sylvia, what prevents someone from crawling into your house through the doggie door (since your dogs are medium to large dogs)? Cracker will NOT go outside to potty when it is raining and so far we have not been able to get her to do so. If it is misting, she 'might' go outside; but, she doesn't like to get wet. I gave her a bath this morning; she smells good, I smell like a dog! LOL!
PEOPLE - if you do NOT have a Will that specifies things like where (to whom) your personal and real property goes; then, it will cost your children or beneficiary a small fortune to be able to 'sell' things you have such as car, house, jewelry (and a death generally brings out the worst in people). Normally, the non-custodial parent would get the child(ren);but, not if they are deemed unfit. Seems like you said earlier that y'all had gone to court for your son to get 'full custody' of the child(ren). For those who are younger, you need ,to ask someone close to your age and financially able to take care of your children and put that into your Will. Children are your most precious form of property; even though they are not 'property'. Life insurance should have that person named as the second beneficiary for the care of your children. Talk to an attorney about what to do on this matter. Sometimes leaving people money (meant to care for your children) does not get done unless they are accountable to the Probate Court to prove they are doing for YOUR children and not spending it to take vacations on. They can buy a car or something like that 'if' they are doing so for the benefit of those children. I believe strongly in having a will (and life insurance if you can buy it). When there are 'minor' children involved that stand a chance to inherit from a parent (usually) a Trustee is named to handle the money left to those children and the Trustee has to make an accounting (usually yearly) on how they have spent that money. It is up to the Probate Judge as to who is named - usually the other parent or someone totally unconnected to the will. None of us want to 'think' about death and a LOT of people refuse to make wills out of some sort of hesitation, thinking that it will cause them to die shortly after making it. BUT, they are important for a variety of reasons other than what is named before. They can be simple mirrored "I love you" wills, that leave everything to your spouse and then to your children (or their children). I am NOT giving 'legal advice' I am just saying that 'if' you do NOT have a will, you need to make an appointment with an attorney that draws them up and make one. IF you have more than a certain amount of money you can 'gift' money to others that will save all of you on 'inheritance taxes' and other expenses. Sometimes it is best to go to an 'estate attorney' to make sure what you can do; but, this is generally something that you can talk to them about beforehand. Most, but not all, attorneys will give you a Question and Answer appointment, to give you answers to your questions beforehand. They will ask questions about money and property and how you want it dispersed at your death. IF you have a 'lot' of money an 'estate attorney' can save you a lot of money and save your children/grandchildren a lot of expense. IMHO!
Miriam - if you (possibly) had a will prior to adopting those girls; you need to revisit it and make it to take into consideration that fact (especially if you have children of your own). A divorce, marriage, having a baby, or adopting children normally will 'null and void' a will (unless it is made in contemplation of those things). Having step-children can also be a tricky subject to take into consideration. When one parent/step-parent dies; the other one can remake their will and leave the other's children out of their will. You might not 'think' they'd do it; but, it happens a lot more than you think. Especially when there are 'adult' children involved and/or there isn't a good relationship between biological children and step-children. Each parent might make a will that leaves certain things to them; but, if they make a mirrored "I love you" will, what then happens to real property? You can set it out that it will be placed on the market and the proceeds be divided among all of the children. In that case, you would have to name each child (or exclude them). The terms 'per stirpes' or 'per capita' have totally different meanings and that is also something you need to talk to an attorney about. The first means that it continues going down generations. The later means that it stops at the next generation and then you have to decide who gets it, if the child(ren) die before you do Does it go to a surviving child or what? Do you wish to donate it to charity? So many questions, so little time. But, DO make a will and also sign papers that deal with what happens if you are incapacitated. Used to be called a "Living Will" now it is called some sort of 'directive' so that the medical team would know your wishes. It's about a 15-page long document that most attorneys that draw up will have.0 -
On Friday I taught a third grade the history of Hanukkah and sang a beautiful song about the Menorah in the window. I learned the word Hanukkah means rededicate. The Jews were celebrating the oil that should have burned for one day burned for eight in their temple. That is why it is eight days long. The dates are different every year just like Easter is a different date too. Last night was the last night this year.
Today is my friend's Kindergarten class we celebrated Sante Lucia day. She was a saint in Italy who helped Christians who were being persecuted. The Swedes make it a festival of lights and have the oldest daughter dress in a white dress with a red sash with a crown of greens and candles. She serves breakfast to her parents. The boy where a hat and carry a star wand. The children made hats and crowns and then we walked around the school serving cookies.
I like it when schools try to teach about these customs of other cultures. They also include Ramadan (Muslim) and Diwali
(India).
DH doctor appointment is Tuesday now. Margaret
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Margaret - how beautiful that children are taught of all the different celebrations, unfortunately I don't believe that happens often enough. Thank you for being a dedicated and caring teacher.
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Margaret - thank you for sharing your time with the children! Let us know how your DH does it his appointment tomorrow.
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Margaret - that is lovely! We do a lot of that in the UK too. Respect for everyone's beliefs and customs. Of course, it also means we get more celebrations!
France has just had the second round of its elections. Lots of hand wringing on the TV. Unfortunately my French isn't good enough to understand all the discussions.
One thing that I do not like about being in France is the smoking. Although statistically they do not come too high up the European smoking stats it does seem to be a much bigger problem than it is in our part of the UK. MUCH higher than the USA. In the UK it is very related to social status and income - where we live in the prosperous south you rarely see a smoker, but in France women smoke a lot and higher income people smoke. Lots of young women smoke. This makes sitting outside at a café an uncomfortable experience. They swathe the outdoor space in plastic walls and heat it in winter. But they are still allowed to smoke! Smoking is banned indoors, but to my mind that is indoors.
Tonight I almost burned the apartment down! I was unwrapping our selection of French cheeses for our dessert, when the paper cover of one caught fire on the candle! ! ! Whoops! We have a lot of ash on the table, the sink and the hallway in between. :laugh:
Love to all. Just for Janetr - another photo, taken from the bridge, of the Palais des Papes.
Heather
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Janetr- 4 pounds! Congratulations that is quite an achievement!
Grits - thanks for the information on making out a will. I know that I have been talking to my DH about doing that for the last five years and still nothing has been done.
Heather - you look great! Your pictures are fantastic. Thank you for sharing.
Mary from Minnesota
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HUGS from Il0
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Heather - Wow, it takes my breath away. That is gorgeous and thanks
Mary from MN - Thank you so much. I am just so determined to keep this 125 lbs off. Four more pounds and I'm back to my lowest at the doctors' office. I am really enjoying working out and it has just given me so much more energy. Thank you so much for your encouragement.
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Mary from Minnesota - Drag his 'kicking and screaming' - especially if you have children or own any property. Otherwise it will be 'expensive' for the one left; or for others, such as children. They'd have to advertise it in he local newspaper before they can sell anything. I know that my DH has tried talking to his brother about making one and he says that he doesn't own anything; he has a huge collection of coins; but, he only has one son. Still, I am sure that he would rather that his oldest granddaughter get everything. She is the daughter of his son that died 2 years ago from cancer. Caused by the contaminated water tables at Camp Lejeune in the 70's.0
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Beautiful pics ladies! Heather you are quite a classy looking lady may I say! There are ladies that carry themselves with grace and a confidence and you, friend are one of them :-)
Grits~ My advent calendar has a daily story that runs until Christmas Eve. My sons used to love it, but after awhile they had the thing memorized so it has been just a tradition for myself. I have tried to match my different "felt ornaments with the story, like when the story talks about the stable with the cows and sheep, well I have a cute head of a cow. Unfortunately some years the cow would end along with a picture of a"difficult" family member in the pockets! If you are bull-headed you will end up with the cow is my thoughts! hahaha!
MFP Advent Calendar
Dec 13th~ Before the wanderers went the star, it stopped at Bethlehem
and now they knew the miracle would be revealed to them.
Dec 14th~ They searched throughout the City,
for a place high and grand
that would be fitting for a King
who was to rule the land.
Today I chatted with a bunch of new people. My thing is always to meet a new person every day. So today I chatted with the two ladies I have met in past pool visits. Then met Nancy from Texas, Dale that was a Seabee, and Ray who was in the Navy for 33 yrs. Hot tubs are great for conversation! Lee and I have our best chats there, plus I make him give me a back rub.
Oh good deal, my neighbor Prudence just arrived back from her trip to California. She is in her eighties, and I worried so much about her driving from Oregon to California on hwy 101. Had visions of her off the side of the road somewhere. But, she proved me wrong and made it there to visit some of her architect partners, and back home again. Yes I admit, I get into peoples business, but you have to know your place in this world. When I was single I used to leave notes to myself, " Dear Me, I am going for a walk on such-and-such path, its 10 AM and I should be back by noon". I was worried that people would not know where to look. So now, I keep track of people if they wish me to. It guarantee's that they will look out for me I suppose.
So we have bought two gifts for son along with a gift card to a gaming site he loves. I have one present, and husband has one. Christmas is difficult for me, because I know my son remembers when he received 10 presents each. Maybe having a couple of "slim" seasons can be a good thing. We gave him $25 in cash, then a $25 to that gaming site that he loves...last month for his birthday. Then had to borrow $30 for milk and bread. We have paid him back....never want to be owing your children! Especially when they are just 17 yrs old for gosh sakes!
Last night I pried him out of his room to help me make chicken fried rice. I wanted him to know just how labor intensive it is! Plus all the great things I put in it. He is looking at the rice cooker, the pan of cooking bacon, the bowl of 5 eggs ready to be scrambled, AND the chicken sauteing in another pan. He exclaims, "This meal is like 4 meals all put together!" He had 3 huge bowls of it. This Mom smiles.
"All shall be well, and all shall be well, and we all shall be exceedingly well!" (my Aunts quote on a poem)
Becca
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@janetr7476 4 lbs!!!!!! Mentally doing a cartwheel for you!!! That is amazing considering the time of year, the rotation of the earth, and all the sweets people seem to put out in front of us! Congrats friend!!!!
Becca
Still at the same weight, maybe its a plateau of some sort? No, its me just eating too many carbs!0 -
Becca - I love fried rice! I haven't made that for years.
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I just accidently glutened myself. My mouth and throat already feel raw. Ugh. Not going to be a fun couple of weeks. And no one to blame but myself. Forgot to read a label. Ate about four bites before I realized something was off. Darn!0
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evening all~
took another walk.. but did something to my ankle.. hopefully a nights rest will help...
miriam~ gee I hope you feel better..0 -
Grits - my son (yes, my only child) has a thing called Alpha 1 Antitrypsthin Deficiency which destroys lungs and liver, and he is in the latter stages. There is no cure. I know that much is true, but often I worry that he milks it for all he can get. I never know if he is truly as bad as he pretends to be.
Now he says that the doctor cut off his meds. He says that same doctor prescribed some kind of decongestant which caused a false positive for methamphetamines at the ER, but the doctor wouldn't do anything to correct the test results, so my son got mad at him and fired him, so the doc called the pharmacies and voided his prescriptions, so he doesn't get the weekly infusions that he desperately needs. Now, I am reluctant to believe the false positive thing, because he used that excuse a lot several years ago when he really was on meth. I suppose it's possible, but his track record plus the fact that he has seemed to be strung out a lot lately, makes me worry. Every time I drop off the kids I feel the need to check his pupils. I honestly don't feel good about leaving the kids with him, but what can I do?
And he has no insurance. He lives on disability, food stamps, Medicare, subsidized housing and handouts from anybody he can mooch off of. Including me. Primarily me.
Supposedly he is going to see a new doctor in January if he makes it that far. I'm just at the end of my rope, hanging onto the knot.
Tonight was DGD's last choir performance. We took her out for supper afterward.
Good night everyone.
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@janetr7476 4 lbs!!!!!! Mentally doing a cartwheel for you!!! That is amazing considering the time of year, the rotation of the earth, and all the sweets people seem to put out in front of us! Congrats friend!!!!
Becca
Still at the same weight, maybe its a plateau of some sort? No, its me just eating too many carbs!
Thank you, Becca, artly my loss is because I started back to the pool when I hadn't gone for a couple of months due to the knee replacement surgery and then the darn sinus infection that wouldnt go away. Thanks so much for your cheerleading. You all keep me going, onward and upward, um...er....downward
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Sylvia ((((Hugs)))))0
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Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .
Good Evening Ladies,
Terri, how nice of you to win the Bucks tickets to give the Trainer. I’m sure he appreciated it. I do the same with raffle tickets but rarely win. You must just have the luck of the Irish.
Heather, that is so sad that DH is really feeling poorly. Beautiful picture!!! Enjoy your last day.
Pip, I agree about us able-bodied people. Even without a wheelchair, if you have a hard time walking it is sometimes hard to stay on your feet with all the bumping and shoving.
Janetr, thanks for the reminder about sending packages. I knew that but so rarely send any that I had forgotten. Congrats on the great loss this month. Wooo Hooooo
Margaret, interesting info on the different customs. Thanks.
Miriam, I hate that you glutened yourself. It will take two weeks for the effects to go away? Wow. Sorry!!
Well I don’t have to go stay with my friend until Wednesday but she needs me for 3 nights and again for 2 nights next week. Her doctor doesn’t want her staying alone at night. We laughed because she is up and doing more during the day when she could fall or something. At least I can leave during the days and get things done. I know she would do the same for me. *At least I think?* lol
I hope all of you have a healthy and happy day.
Words I live by:
Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
and
Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
I Love you,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC
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Sylvia: my heart feels for you!! So sorry!! Gayle Minneapolis0
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This afternoon the line dance performance group danced at an assisted living home and two rehab/convalescent hospitals. I had a real scare. My legs were really hurting and I thought I might lose my balance at the end of the second dance so I sat down and didn't dance the rest of the program. Everyone was worried about me. I took two ibuprofen and when I got to the second place I felt fine and danced there and at the last place. 0
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Popping in just to say hello. I am sorry that I've not had any time to read and catch up with each and every one of you ladies. Welcome to any newbies that have joined our group. Stay with us for as long as you like. This group of Phat Chatters really works!
Holiday plans are going full steam ahead! My DS got home from college on Saturday night safe, sound, and looking so handsome Also, added wreath's across America at Fort Rosecrans to our holiday things to do. It was wonderful, and we met so many nice people including young Navy Sailors.
Getting my steps in each day but drinking more then usual. I'm sure egg nog is not on my plan. I'll have to be more careful recording my food this week. That is the only thing that works... Just write all food down, own the extra calories, and move on
Wishing you all moment of peace in your day and all the beauty of the season. Rosie in So Cal 0 -
mollywhippet wrote: »Grits - my son (yes, my only child) has a thing called Alpha 1 Antitrypsthin Deficiency which destroys lungs and liver, and he is in the latter stages. There is no cure. I know that much is true, but often I worry that he milks it for all he can get. I never know if he is truly as bad as he pretends to be.
Now he says that the doctor cut off his meds. He says that same doctor prescribed some kind of decongestant which caused a false positive for methamphetamines at the ER, but the doctor wouldn't do anything to correct the test results, so my son got mad at him and fired him, so the doc called the pharmacies and voided his prescriptions, so he doesn't get the weekly infusions that he desperately needs. Now, I am reluctant to believe the false positive thing, because he used that excuse a lot several years ago when he really was on meth. I suppose it's possible, but his track record plus the fact that he has seemed to be strung out a lot lately, makes me worry. Every time I drop off the kids I feel the need to check his pupils. I honestly don't feel good about leaving the kids with him, but what can I do?
And he has no insurance. He lives on disability, food stamps, Medicare, subsidized housing and handouts from anybody he can mooch off of. Including me. Primarily me.
Supposedly he is going to see a new doctor in January if he makes it that far. I'm just at the end of my rope, hanging onto the knot.
Tonight was DGD's last choir performance. We took her out for supper afterward.
Good night everyone.
Sylvia
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