WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2016

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Annr

Good morning ladies (((hugs))). It's 11:33 AM and I have just had my Van's waffles, with peanut butter, 1/2 sliced banana, drizzled with honey. And of course coffee... The specialized MRI was done at 9 PM ish, because she had room early, instead of 9:50 PM. We arrived at 3:30 PM and checked in, thinking that the lady would give us a priceless look because our appointment was at 9:50 PM, but sadly she didn't really react.... We then checked in at the appropriate area, and I set my phone for a 2 hr nap. There is a room that is dark off to the side of the Specialty Surgical Area, and when I lived at the hospital for 2 days while husband was getting his liver transplant, I found many places to sleep. So I made my nest of a chair and a small couch, and rested, but didn't really sleep. The evening went by sort of quickly, and I went down and grabbed an over-priced veggie wrap that had feta, olives, hummus, purple onion, spinach, avocado, and a bunch other stuff!

The trip home was long, and at parts scary. Driving 60 into darkness, and at various times cars on your bumper wanting you to go even faster is unsettling. We got home at 12:30 AM ish, and I had a bowl of cereal, took some Back & Body pain meds and crashed.

Dear husband had slept the whole way to Portland, so I think he felt bad on the way home. So he kept me company, and we sang to all the best songs. He is a great travel partner. These trips take such a toll on the man, I can tell. As we got into Seaside, he said his eyes were killing him. I think the fact that he has had jaundice for so long, his eyes feel so grainy, and itchy. Poor guy... He started his sleep when we got home, not wearing his brace...but then at about 3 AM I put the velco one back on him. Hoping to get an appointment scheduled to get x-rays on his knee and see how it is healing. He is tired of the dang braces.

Today we are hoping that the liver transplantation team will come up with a plan of action regarding my husband. The doctor when he called on Wednesday stated that my husbands case was going to be discussed at the weekly conference that they have. What is frustrating is that the doctors could never explain WHY my husbands original liver up and stopped working. Hopefully this isn't the same case with this transplanted one.

Thanks everyone for your continuing thoughts, I did think of that while I was zooming around in blackness. That you all were on my shoulders giving me strength and courage. It helped to know I am not alone in this.

Will update you on more as I know it. ((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) my ladies!
Becca
Oregon

KJLaMore

Heather- had to jump in and shout "Bon Voyage!" I would shout it in Norwegian, but I haven't taken that language yet!
Dogs- "I.like.big.dogs.and I cannot lie!" I like all animals, but I have always been partial to big dogs. As a child I grew up with a german shepard/ husky mix. Gentle as a lamb, but looked intimidating. Lots of big dog breeds are family animals and great with children. That said, I would never leave a child alone with any dog, big or small. While dogs can be unpredictable, so can children. What may be innocent curiosity of a child, could be interpreted as a threat by any dog. Shame on the owners who groom the aggressive behavior in a dog and don't control their animals. Keeping your dogs fenced/leashed is keeping them safe as well as keeping the community safe.
Allie-As one of the "newer kids" on the block, I don't know much of your history with Tom. I do know, from some of your descriptions of his "Royal Grumpiness" he reminds me of my husband. Tim and I blow hot and cold and we have our whole marriage. Before we married, we met when we were 14 and began dating in high school; but we never stayed together for more than maybe 6 weeks before I would call it quits. After an engagement of (you guessed it) about two months, then found out I was pregnant and we decided to get married (at age 23). We are the proverbial "odd couple". He is neat/ I was a slob(I hve gotten better at this), he is very organized/ I was very disorganized (also better here), he has a budget/ I was loosey-goosey with the finances (now I am a bigger tight-wad than he is), he is a pessimist/ I am an optimist. Perhaps we never should have married. We have had many great times; but there are days that I want to strangle him. He pisses and moans about EVERYTHING! When I am calm and logical, I do realize that most of Tim's moods are all coming from health issues, financial issues (budget tighter than a pair of "goal" jeans), stresses of aging parents. He does tend to lash out at me and until recently I took it. Now I give it back to him. I don't know. I guess I don't have any great advice for you. Miriam and the others have a great point about looking out for you and don't let him treat you badly. I guess I just wanted to say, I know where you are and you just have to follow your heart. When it is time to go, you will know. If it is time to stay, you will know that, too! Much love! And one of the girls advised you to start saying "no" to others. You are going to wear yourself out!

KJLaMore

Becca-Goodness! What a day! Hope the docs and figure out a strategy for you and I hope you and your dh are able to get some rest/peace! Love and hugs

lhannon062709

Quick note from work... Lenora, I had the surgery your DDnL's doc was talking about when I was 25, and yes, it is a huge cut, and it very emphatically did not work, my tubes scarred back over immediately. I'm glad the medical establishment has realized it's not effective. It was a lot of trauma without a good result.

Lisa in West Texas

Vickil57

Happy Friday, can you tell I have the weekend off? Well our rain has stopped and summer has arrived. It has been a strange week and not sure how I am feeling. I get off work in about an hour and then have a job interview. I have to part time positions open and otherwise we are at full staff. That has not happened in over a year. I am slowly learning how to be a supervisor and taking classes the hospital is offering. I was surprised at the number of new supervisors as two classes I have been to have had at least 6 people there.
Becca--Sending hugs and prayers for you and DH. I love the show the Tiny house. I know I could never live in one as have to many things I could not give up and with three fur babies.
Barbie-- Sending hugs and prayers for you and DH. I know losing a child is not easy, our son will be gone 17 years father's day.
Janetr--Pray that DGS is doing well with rehab and it works.
Jane--Sending prayer that your surgery goes well and you feel better soon.
Well ladies not much else to say. I love you ladies and keep you in my daily prayers.
Blessings, Vicki Grand Island, NE

jmkmomm

Becca, I think of you often and now that this testing is done, the waiting might even be worse. I'm glad his case will be discussed with other experts and they can get a plan for him which of course means you also. To go through this twice, well I just can't imagine.

Charlie's surgeon called me today, well he called us it's just that I answered the phone. I was impressed that he would do that. He was just checking to see how he was after a day at home. His biopsies were all negative and after examining the whole colon, there was another polyp. His drainage he is having is normal.

e have been catching up on some of our favorite shows that were on the DVR. I really need Charlie to help me understand Person of interest and Wayward Pines. They are to deep for this brain of mine. I think I am finally being able to understand Person of interest and it only has 2 more episodes until the series finale. But this is just the 2nd episode of this season's Wayward Pines. It's a weird one.

On the subject of a pit bull. My youngest, Michelle is a huge fan of proper training of the dog and the owner and any pit bull can be trained. She loves any dog if it's trained. One day I was at her company picnic with her and this big dog came and put his precious nose on my knees as I was eating my hot dog. Michelle just burst out laughing and told me that I was petting a pit. He did have some other dog mix in him as he didn't have the typical pit face. But he sure was a comic. And the ones he loved to make laugh the most was the children. Michelle frequently babysits her friends dogs and she loves to bring them over to our yard to run since she doesn't have to have them all on a leash as she walks them from her car to the fenced in dog park. It's easier just to bring them to our house. She has never told her Dad that this pit is playing in our yard and Charlie is enjoying it and petting him. We do realize that it is the bad ones that give them such a bad rap and also when there are more than 2 running around free without leashes.

Joyce, Indiana

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Marcelynh

Hey everyone. Guess what....

Yup. It's raining.

Four more days of rain then we get three days of sunshine followed by another week of rain. In a month we will be begging for rain because it will be 100+ degrees and 80% humidity. So... I have decided not to complain today, maybe cry but not complain... I did have about an hour of sunshine around noon and ran outside to finish planting some things. It was a wonderful hour.

I'm fighting the munchies with all this being inside.

Marcelyn
swimming upstream in Houston

KetoneKaren

On the subject of grumpy husbands:

A married couple in our little hometown in Nebraska were close friends with my parents. They were an "odd couple", he was such a grouch and she was such a gem. Lots of people wondered how it lasted, but it did, through four children and building 3 houses, and so on...for close to 60 years, before he finally passed away. Once, when I was home visiting Mom, we were at their house, and he was being his grumpy self, embarrassing his wife and himself, and she glanced at us, took a deep breath, and then looked him right in the eye and said: "He's a b@$t@rd, but he's MY b@$t@rd."

Long silence.

She kept looking at him, waiting. He looked so stunned and then so annoyed...and then he started to chuckle, and then guffaw, and finally tears were streaming down his face. We all got a little hysterical with laughter, it was such a tense/funny moment. He was so much nicer the rest of the evening, playing the host and being respectful of his wife. It was an interesting visit.

Sending support and hugs and bon voyages and Bloody Marys and hot tea and love and pocket angels to all who need them.

Karen in Virginia

grandmallie

KJLamore~ I cant thank you enough for your post, but gee i wonder if it's men whose name begins with T that are the ones with issues.. your hubby and mine sound like they could be twins...
I am by no means a slob, but he is I guess what you call Anal... everything has to be just so..but thanks for the insight on your situation and that I am not alone with living with someone like that..
Becca~ will keep your hubby in my prayers
Joyce~ Charlie too..
gonna give the kids a few days to get there self together up at the house ,get settled in etc... all my hard work is done with that...

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Gloworm46

Allie maybe you could suggest they put sheets or something up on the windows until they can afford something else. I'll bet most of us had to do that at one time or another. They might check with the water company about a shower head - ours was giving away free water conserving shower heads last year.

I was just wondering if you do so much for others because it's the only time you get a feeling of value while Tom's actions leave you feeling worthless. I was both physically and mentally abused in my last marriage. I think the mental was worse because it just went on and on until I was losing who I was. I still had kids at home who were smarter than me. As teenagers my daughters finally said that if I didn't leave they were. That was a wake-up call that made me look at what I was imposing on them and letting happen to me. You and only you can make the decision that is right for you and your self value.

DGS#2 home today with stomach issues again. He went to the nurses office twice yesterday and they tried to call me but my phone was in the car charging.

I'm going to miss my 18 yr old DGS's high school graduation as it Fallon same day and time as DGS#1s last band concert of the year. My DD#2 has the same situation. I need to divide myself into 3 so I can attend 2 band concerts and a graduation simultaneously . . . Darn it!

Beautiful here today and thankful I live on the bottom floor so my apt stays cool!

Love to all - Gloria in gorgeous WA

tryingtolive1

Emotionally and physically spent this past week. Made it to the gym a couple times which normally helps me both physically and mentally but this week was a bust on the emotional relieve area. Not sleeping well have not for awhile so I know that is part of my issue. Doctor gave me some meds for sleeping but they don't seem to help. Ok done whining.

For those of you who have said you try and live in the moment or now how do keep from wander from that. How do you focus on the moment? I have been trying to do this but thoughts of other things creep in all of the time. My future or lack there of all the things I need to get done. Why does he keep messaging me every single day if he does not want to be with me etc. Any advice would be appreciated. Having similar issues with meditation.

Karen love the grumpy husband story.

Marcelyn have that same issues during the winter here in Wisconsin. I bake cause I like to bake for others during the winter. Want to try everything I make though. Lol

Joyce. Wow a doctor that check up on them at home. Don't hear that to often anymore.

KJLaMore I have always been a large dog fan. My pit I currently have is one of the smallest dogs I have ever had. She is my rock when I am down and crying. Snuggles right up to me and stays right there till I am done crying.

Welcome to all the newbies.

Joyce Becca and Barbie you have been in my thought alot through the day. You remind me of what strong resilient women can be. You support others even when things are tough in your own lives. Hugs to all of you.

Hugs to all of you women. Supportive and caring no matter what is going on. The pictures jokes etc are great. Keep on posting.

Welcome newbies you have landed in a great place here. Look forward to getting to know you.

Anne in Wisconsin

GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS

Pip – Maybe we can just ‘agree to disagree’. Point taken, I won’t even go there. Unfortunately, sometimes I don’t ‘tip-toe’ around something that I want to get off my chest; listen or read enough as it is. I like this site because of the encouragement I get; but, I know that I’m not particularly well liked for it. Sorry.

Janetr – Same answer. I will just keep to myself and read and not comment. Life’s too damn short to be ‘called on the carpet’ for a comment IMHO.

Heather – DH thinks I pack to ‘stay’ a month (or longer). I make a list of things to take, in the order of importance: 1) medicine; 2) C-pap machine; 3) deodorant and make-up; 4) tops and shorts/slacks … on down. I’ve learned how to pack in such a way so that very few things have to be ironed. I can’t imagine packing for 4 seasons … I’d be standing on my suitcase trying to get it closed, or laying over it so I can reach the zippers.

Lisa – Her specialist told her that it was too dangerous to do and still unsure of results; would have to cut her hip-to-hip and takes too much time to recover from that. They’re looking into IVF (but, if that does not work) they will have done everything to have a baby that’s out there. Spoke to DYS today, he called me, not sure if he just wanted to hear my voice or what, he is like I am ... doesn't complaint a lot but when upset he keeps to himself; but, he will talk to me. DDnL#2 was home; he went to the lake house to check on his dog. I just told him that he needed to ‘love’ her … showing it was far more important than saying it. I know she is disappointed; but, DYS loves her so much and loves her daughter as if she were his own. They go fishing a lot, he’ll pick her up from school and they will go look for ‘sheds’ (deer racks that fall off after hunting season), he goes to her games and watches her cheer and play basketball. This summer she is adding ‘golf’ to her repertoire of things to learn. He’ll sit through a dance recital; but, still doesn’t understand why they have so many. “Baby, it’s a girl thing!” Then comes prom and football heroes and ‘hurt hearts’.

They've decided to put the search for a house/land to build on, on the back burner for a while. DDnL#2 said it would be her luck to be 'told she can't have any more children' then find herself pregnant at the age of 48. Gee, I might not be around to help her if that is the case. She is so precious and is loved by all of DYS's bosses. She never meets a stranger; and, loves to 'surprise' others. I still want to 'cry'; just to cry ... not that it will help anything. It just hurts, and I 'hurt' when I know my children 'hurt'.

Lenora

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Hello all: Finally caught up again. DH had his cataract surgery on Tuesday, had follow-up on Wednesday, so two mornings sitting in surgery center and doctor's office. He was so funny because his biggest worry was them injecting the lidocaine near his eye. He came out to recovery and told the nurse that they didn't do it. She said oh yes they did! However they gave him Versed before that so he did not remember. He was still insistent that they did not do it. But all went well and he is already starting to see better.Going to have the other eye done in two weeks.

I did PT evaluation today for my knee and for incontinence. I learned quite a bit and did some biofeedback. It was very interesting. I will continue once a week for a while. Need to improve strength and balance and pelvic floor muscles.

Becca - Yeah for you making those drives. I am proud of you.

Vicki - Hope your arm is healing and good for you taking those classes.

Katla - We leased our first horse just to make sure we would be committed to the time and effort it takes. Hope this works out for you.

Marcelyn - Dry thoughts for you.

Miriam - You always have such insight. Sounds like you have a fun summer planned.

Joyce - Glad Charlie is improving.

Heather - Bon Voyage!!!!

Anne - You might try this. Sit still and name 5 things you can see, 3 things you can hear and 1 thing you can feel. That will usually get me in the moment but it can be hard to stay there. I usually end up repeating it two or three times. Also I find writing down what I am grateful for helps. I think there are several people on here who keep gratitude journals.

Healing angels to all who need them and congratulations to those with victories. Sue in WA

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barbiecat

Peach, we have been vegetarians for only a year or so since we read a book about how animals are raised for commercial meat production. Since I stopped eating meat, I can't imagine myself going back. I don't talk to people about it because I don't want to sound like a crusader...it's just a personal choice.

Becca, once again, you are my hero...driving in the dark on scary roads....I send love and hugs to you and your hubby.

Today Jake got the news that the cardiologist and the spine surgeon agreed that he can have the surgery...the only hurdle left is his primary care doctor who will see him later this month and do some lab work and an exam.

I just got back from spending time with my friend who brought her 90 year old mother for a visit from Waco, and her mother fell and did serious damage to her shoulder. Mom has made two trips to the emergency room and is taking pain meds and can't be left alone. I picked some things up from the grocery store and helped her get back to looking at this "one day at a time", I also helped her make some lists---what to ask the doctor and which friends volunteered to do what.

Now I have to pack my suitcase and backpack for my overnight trip to the all day line dance workshop.

Stats for today:
19,000 steps
210 minutes of dog walking
45 minutes riding the exercise bike
taught the line dance class


Barbie from beautiful sunny NW Washington

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stats for the day:
ride hm 2 gym- 10.01min, 15.4amph, 142mhr, 2.5mi = 99c
SPIN- 35min, 97ar, 66aw, 8g, 122ahr, 148mhr, 8mi = 299c
ride gym 2 wk- 54.33min, 12amph, 122ahr, 162mhr, 10.9mi = 644c
ride wk 2 hm- 57.16min, 10.6amph, 125ahr, 156mhr, 10.1mi = 494c
total cal 1536

exermom

Did 1-1/4hr of Gilad's 45/45 split DVD. the plan for tomorrow is to do Gilad's step aerobics DVD

Karen - I'm not at all for diet sodas, etc. As a matter of fact, at this point, they taste "yukky" to me. I would really rather have water or fruit juice, even almond milk or soy milk. But don't give me a diet soda. If worse comes to worse, give me a real soda. I won't enjoy it, but at least it'll be decent to drink

miriam - so I'm not going crazy, the adoption wasn't that long ago. It's just that the girls came to live with you 3 years ago. Phew!!!! Do you know that one time since I've been down here I had sweet tea. Could wait to spit it out fast enough. That stuff's NASTY

barbie - I make a list of things that I need to take if I'm going multiple places. Somethings you need in both places like underwear. I usually write it down as I'm thinking of it

Carol/Peach (((HUGS))))

Lenora - what a heartbreak for your dnl. I know the pain of not being able to conceive, but with the help of modern medicine, I was and she will too. There are times when I don't even bother to add "makeup" to my list of things I need to take with me. Actually, that's practically most of the time. That's because I always keep a second set of makeup items in my bag

Heather - have a wonderful trip. And be sure to bring back lots and lots of pics

Becca - what a good choice you made in food at the hosp. I'm truly impressed

Vicki - (((HUG))))

Just made some "pops". Put them into MFP's recipe calculator and for 20 they come out to only 57 calories each. Good to have something cool now. They're in the freezer right now.

Helped Vince fix the tractor. We had to pull the deck off, and let me tel you, that's HEAVY. He extimated that it's about 75 pounds. Then he replaced the belt and three blades. I honestly thought it would be a multiple day job but it only took a day. You should have seen how much dirt was caked underneath! We had to get most of it off. Then went in the pool. My timer crapped out but it was working once I brought it in the house. We're thinking that it may be the heat on the concrete so next time I'll put the umbrella out and put it on the table. Then put some weed killer down. See, I don't mind being out in the sunshine. Oh, this morning I walked to Food Lion as I forgot to get some lime jello. I was going to take Vince's bike to the end of our development since Jess took mine back to VA. She kept asking me if I wanted it but I may have used it and I may not have so I told her to take it. Vince's bike is so so big I actually fell off trying to get on it. I don't know how Jess rode it. I was going to make a cake for the gal at the Green Room's birthday Tuesday and take it when I went Thurs. But now they called to say that there won't be any more box office. They added 2 more days to the show and so far there are only something like 12 tickets left. I think I'll just keep the jello for another time when I need to make the cake. Besides, if I were to make the cake, I'd just have to ask Vince to make another trip for me to take it to her.

barbie - to be honest, I didn't even realize that you were a vegetarian! Slow me! I've always wondered, I know there is a certain type of iron that is most easily absorbed by the body that only comes in meat -- I think it's called hemme iron. Anyway, what do you do to get it? I'm sure you can get it, its not impossible, but is it difficult?

Michele in NC

DamitJanit

Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding.

Good Evening, Ladies,

CarolNC, have fun visiting with your friends.

CarolGA, the rain is pretty much over here except for normal afternoon thunder showers from the heat build up. We should be able to get the garage sale done with no problems. We haven't had a drop today.

Barbie, have a ball at your workshop. My line dance teacher just got back from one and she always enjoys them.

I wasn't able to get on this forum all day until just now. I"m on my laptop so it could be my desktop? Worked much of the day preparing for the garage sale and need to get up very early so I'm going to bed early.
I hope you all have a happy and healthy day.

Words I live by:
Savor: I have to slow down and savor every bite.
Opportunity: Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.

Love you,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC

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Annr

What a tiring day.... Relaxing but awaiting a call from the doctor, (that never came). The liver transplant coordinator rec'd the results from the MRI at 2 PM (I got that info from the on-call nurse when I called at 5:45 PM). The trans. coordinator then passed the info onto the doctor, (which I guess has to confer with a surgeon). We got an email from our online hospital account at about 2:30 PM that stated that the results from the MRI showed a small 2mm stone blocking one of the bile ducts. OK that is good, but where do we go from here? The doctor dropped the ball, information-wise and I am disappointed. So, we have a whole weekend to worry. They should be glad we are computer savvy or we wouldn't have gotten any information. Where was the call stating that it wasn't his liver, but a stone? Or is it a norm to just inform when the surgery is, and other stuff like keeping the patient informed, calm, isn't a worry or a priority. pffffhhh.

I keep thinking that I hope the doctors have a great weekend, because my husband won't. He will be dealing with a body that is tired from working so hard. I suppose I need to show more patience with the medical "chain of command" and let the process happen, but my Momma Bear instincts kick in and all I want to do is claw and protect.

Tonight's dinner didn't go as planned. I ate way too many peanut butter cookies, and red bean triscuits and just deleted the original plan of spinach/kelbasa/ mixture. I made dear husband some boiled small potatoes, and he had that with a piece of toast, roast beef, and gravy over it all. He loved it, and had two plates. On the good side, his eating is pretty good throughout all of this. And I am fixing him everything he asks for, just because.

Shall nap until its time to go to bed...hahahaha....(((hugs)))) all for your thoughts. They mean so much!
Becca
Oregon

janetr7476

Becca (((hugs)))

Janetr okc

junethon

I have recently joined MyFitnessPal and my main goal is to check in daily and truly track my calories and exercise. I aim to get to the gym 2-3 times weekly and booster that with walking.
June Auckland New Zealand

genxrider

June goal - be able to trot on my horse for 20 minutes straight without either of us crying uncle. Keep up the 1-2 pound a week drop.

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janetr7476

Does anyone know what happened to Mindy in MA that worked ay Whole Foods? I keep wondering about her.

Janetr okc

GodMomKim

Hi gals,

Last night after graduation, I got home about 10:30pm and finished logging then read on my phone for a bit –

Miriam – I got to your post and was amazed at the insight..I went to bed with the thoughts you shared running around in my head. I so value your point of view – I really wish you lived down the street so I could just come sit with ice tea and soak up your knowledge and insight.

Heather – Happy travels

Becca – we are all with you!

Anne – I would start with using technology to it’s best and just block his calls… You can not move on if you are letting him hold on to your shoe laces!

Read it all did not write many notes - It is hot here and my brain doesn’t like heat, it is the 4 th plus day of too much heat, and we have a 3rd day of “spare the air” which is a smog alert, so no charcoal BBQ, limit driving, and of course no fires (but at 90-100 degrees who would want a fire). They are predicting 5-10 more days of the same. I don’t have air conditioning so do a lot of managing windows open at night, and a house fan, then closing windows when it heats up, and closing the drapes on the sunny side.

It was great to see my DN (darling nephew) graduate from High School, his dad did not graduate and neither of his parents have any college, and he is headed to community college and is excited. I will be dealing with the pictures tonight and will post some tomorrow.

Janetr - good question!

June Goals
1 fun thing a week - graduation!
Log everyday to the best I can, over if need be.
11,000 + steps everyday


Smiles.

Kim from N. California