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Alcohol and Society

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  • lemurcat12
    lemurcat12 Posts: 30,886 Member
    edited September 2016
    I pretty much agree with Needs2. Not sure what "our society" is -- we are a multi-cultural site, after all, and even within the US there's no clear cultural way that alcohol is viewed, it varies.

    I think the way my own family viewed/used alcohol was pretty messed up, but that's certainly not the case with the way that others experience it. I don't drink now (haven't for several years), and I don't find that a problem or that others are bothered by it/care. Was just away for a long weekend with lots of people and some drinking (not me), which would have probably been stressful for me at one time, as I would have felt that drinking was expected, but it wasn't, and plenty of people did not drink and those who did didn't drink to excess.

    I am not unaware of the harm alcohol causes, but that's due to its legality (and therefore prevalence vs. some other drugs, not at all suggesting it shouldn't be legal) and, of course, is related to a limited number of users, percentage-wise. I do think it would be harmful for me to drink. For most people, it isn't, or isn't any more than me having some ice cream or cheese at night (which I use the calories I might otherwise use for wine for, often).

    So I suppose I think there is something wrong with how some aspects of the society I live in looks at alcohol, but not with others. The things I think were wrong with how I used to look at alcohol aren't shared by all who enjoy drinking it.
  • Need2Exerc1se
    Need2Exerc1se Posts: 13,575 Member
    newmeadow wrote: »
    newmeadow wrote: »
    But I'd have to say I do not think there is anything wrong with it on a societal level.

    But have you ever slept in the same bed with a person sleeping off three Absolut on the rocks and a bottle of wine? With the windows closed? The room filling stench of partially metabolized alcohol seeping out of their pores...it's like with the smokers - they can't smell it on themselves. And then they want to roll over for an innocent little smooch. It's societally devastating.

    "societally devastating" How many people are in that bed?? :o

    Even the dog opted out and slept in the other room on those nights. Not kidding.

    Still seems like a pretty small population for creating devastation on a societal level.
  • toe1226
    toe1226 Posts: 249 Member
    I love this debate. While I think that the market for alcohol should be free and people should participate in it as they please, as someone who lives in a metropolitan area, I find that much of the social behavior/activity is alcohol-centric. The idea of going for drinks is the most basic and go-to plan.

    I have lots of friends who I do non-drinking activities with, but I have some friends where I actually feel uncomfortable hanging out with them and saying that I am NOT going to drink, it's like drinking is the default.
  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    I want to hug this post ^^
  • stealthq
    stealthq Posts: 4,298 Member
    I don't really drink much.

    I'll have a cocktail if I'm at a fine restaurant known for its drinks, and for a while I was having a swallow or two of Sambuca after dinner as a digestif, but that's pretty much it. Oh, and the once a year Christmas egg nog.

    I don't like drinking 99% of wines, I really dislike drinking beer, and I despise the feeling of being a little 'out of it'. I won't take antihistamines or other OTC drugs that make me feel a bit spacey either, so it's not specific to alcohol. I do love cooking with alcohol, and I have a good selection of liquors at home for that purpose.

    If I'm at a party and people are getting past 'a little loosened up', I usually leave. My experience is that is when the fun stops and the stupid and sometimes nasty begins. Some of the people I typically party with feel that alcohol should to be a part of it or there isn't a party (these are people who always have a glass of wine with dinner), and some don't. None have a problem with alcohol.

    I have seen the effects of alcohol abuse in my family. If this person had not been abusing alcohol, they would have abused something else. I don't have a problem with how we view alcohol except for the way we handle it with kids. It's made into a special thing, only for adults, and as a result kids often start sneaking the stuff. That way lies dragons.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    edited September 2016
    Yeah, I do think that making it off limits is potentially more likely to lead to people not learning about it as a natural thing to be used in moderation. Kids are more likely to want to try it, and go to excess, and learn that as a pattern. When something is off limits and used in secrecy and people are not taught to normalize and moderate then they are curious and without guidance. So, with all things I would like to see kids asking questions and being honest about their curiosity. And adults not punishing their honest curiosity. To teach a healthy understanding and moderation. Edit: but with that said I was with my family once when I was 15 and they kept giving me alcohol. More than I wanted or could physically handle. But, I just accepted the drinks and tried to keep up. So, I really think we need to teach people to understand and respect their own limits. I just can't tolerate alcohol.
  • CasperNaegle
    CasperNaegle Posts: 936 Member
    As with anything else it can be abused. People have to take care of themselves. We have the government far to involved in things in my opinion. Two main differences in alcohol and tobacco in my opinion. One light drinking a few a week vs. a few cigarettes does vastly different damage to the human body. Second a person standing next to me drinking a glass of wine has no impact on me vs. a person standing next to me smoking. That said I think we have regulated smoking enough and again people have to take care of themselves.
  • robininfl
    robininfl Posts: 1,137 Member
    I drink every week but not every day, usually 2 drinks, times 2 days, so 4 a week total. Sometimes only one day a week, it depends. My ex was a terrible drunk, not in the sense of overusing, he wasn't ever a daily drinker, but it changed him from laid back stoner dude to evil abusive trailer park dad, he could not handle drink at all. His response to alcohol was to become violent, and for a long time he didn't see it, thought that everyone around him was oppressing him somehow. He no longer drinks, at all.

    I think that people have always wanted mind altering substances, and there just aren't a lot of legal ones around. The problem is that safe stuff gets prohibited, and the big industry behind alcohol can push to keep it legal, and also alcoholic drinks are closer to "food" than most drugs are, they are culinary - I can make a delightful pitcher of cocktails that will taste amazing and much better than a non-alcoholic version of the same thing, and beer tastes how it does because of the fermentation, that also causes the alcohol, same with wine, if you like those tastes they kind of just come with the alcohol.

    I don't think it's wrong to want to get high or drunk sometimes, but think more and safer substances should be legal for that, and that there should be some sort of safe way to experience it, without risking the safety of other people. Not sure why it is so squashed down like it's evil.

    Fiance has a glass (probably 2 shots, but served as one drink) of bourbon on ice every night, and coffee every morning first thing. Works out, sleeps well, it doesn't seem to mess him up at all.

    Alcoholic beverages have been around for thousands of years, that's a long record of consumption by humans.
  • lodro
    lodro Posts: 982 Member
    suppose we replaced "alcohol" with "heroin" or even "marihuana" in the replies above...

    "Although you are misrepresenting what it says about health influences ("it has no discernible favorable influence on health"), the article also agrees with my contention that one must take a sensible approach to reap the health benefits and avoid the douchebaggery of heavy heroin consumption:"

    Again, lots of justification. I wonder why.
  • xmichaelyx wrote: »
    betsym3 wrote: »
    we have spent A LOT of money on his alcohol, three DWI's, increased car insurance premiums, damaged vehicles, the cost of three rehabs, fines, etc.

    The problem isn't the alcohol; it's that the person you're describing is an a-hole.

    I love drinking. I drink daily, sometimes to excess. I love beer and bourbon.

    That said, I don't drink and drive, because I'm not an idiot. Addiction doesn't cause people to get DWIs or wreck their cars. Being an a-hole does.

    Alcohol by itself is neither harmful nor helpful.
    betsym3 wrote: »
    Alcoholic behavior is not fun!

    My gf and I are both very happy, functional, educated, well-paid alcoholics. It's tons of fun!

    Cheers! And personally I have to say the most miserable people I know are all teetotalers....
  • Alluminati
    Alluminati Posts: 6,208 Member
    Personally I have only one justification for drinking alcohol. I like it.

    I like the taste and I like the buzz. Anyone that has a problem with that can go suck an egg.

    +1
  • rsclause
    rsclause Posts: 3,103 Member
    I drink every day and enjoy it, it relieves stress. The good/bad for you bit I ignore. Studies always show something is good or bad depending on who "buys" it. Coffee, eggs, sugar, wine, beer, bacon and yes cigarettes have been on both sides of the good/bad argument. I leave you with my favorite quote.

    "I feel sorry for a man that doesn't drink. When he gets up in the morning that's the best he's going to feel all day"
    Frank Sinatra
  • Heartisalonelyhunter
    Heartisalonelyhunter Posts: 786 Member
    edited September 2016
    xmichaelyx wrote: »
    betsym3 wrote: »
    we have spent A LOT of money on his alcohol, three DWI's, increased car insurance premiums, damaged vehicles, the cost of three rehabs, fines, etc.

    The problem isn't the alcohol; it's that the person you're describing is an a-hole.

    I love drinking. I drink daily, sometimes to excess. I love beer and bourbon.

    That said, I don't drink and drive, because I'm not an idiot. Addiction doesn't cause people to get DWIs or wreck their cars. Being an a-hole does.

    Alcohol by itself is neither harmful nor helpful.
    betsym3 wrote: »
    Alcoholic behavior is not fun!

    My gf and I are both very happy, functional, educated, well-paid alcoholics. It's tons of fun!

    Cheers! And personally I have to say the most miserable people I know are all teetotalers....

    Maybe they are teetotalers that make a big deal out of it. I actually enjoy that there is alcohol in our social environment because people are relaxing and having fun. I would even enjoy a drink or two if I could. But, it makes me sick for months (I can't drink for medical reasons). My husband just doesn't drink. He just doesn't want to. But, no one knows we don't drink. They don't notice and can't tell either way. I'm the life of the party. Dancing when everyone else is sitting. I dance first and then get others to join. I'm very joyful. Not miserable at all. I think it depends on the person. Some drinkers are joyful, some miserable. Some teetotalers are joyful, some miserable. As long as we all respect each other's choices, we are happy. It's the adult thing to do. For me, I love dancing and sexuality. That's how I have fun.

    Note I said the most miserable people ''I' know are all teetotallers so I'm not sure why you had to write this self-congratulatory essay.
    But I love dancing and having sex too. I hate cake and ice cream. But again I'm not sure what that's got to do with a judgey thread about booze.
    I need a drink.
  • Need2Exerc1se
    Need2Exerc1se Posts: 13,575 Member
    xmichaelyx wrote: »
    betsym3 wrote: »
    we have spent A LOT of money on his alcohol, three DWI's, increased car insurance premiums, damaged vehicles, the cost of three rehabs, fines, etc.

    The problem isn't the alcohol; it's that the person you're describing is an a-hole.

    I love drinking. I drink daily, sometimes to excess. I love beer and bourbon.

    That said, I don't drink and drive, because I'm not an idiot. Addiction doesn't cause people to get DWIs or wreck their cars. Being an a-hole does.

    Alcohol by itself is neither harmful nor helpful.
    betsym3 wrote: »
    Alcoholic behavior is not fun!

    My gf and I are both very happy, functional, educated, well-paid alcoholics. It's tons of fun!

    Cheers! And personally I have to say the most miserable people I know are all teetotalers....

    Maybe they are teetotalers that make a big deal out of it. I actually enjoy that there is alcohol in our social environment because people are relaxing and having fun. I would even enjoy a drink or two if I could. But, it makes me sick for months (I can't drink for medical reasons). My husband just doesn't drink. He just doesn't want to. But, no one knows we don't drink. They don't notice and can't tell either way. I'm the life of the party. Dancing when everyone else is sitting. I dance first and then get others to join. I'm very joyful. Not miserable at all. I think it depends on the person. Some drinkers are joyful, some miserable. Some teetotalers are joyful, some miserable. As long as we all respect each other's choices, we are happy. It's the adult thing to do. For me, I love dancing and sexuality. That's how I have fun.

    Yeah, I know a lot of teetotalers that are marvelous fun to be around (my mother, who also loves to dance, being one). And some that are not. Same with drinkers. Some are great fun, some are not. Some are more fun before they drink and some more fun after.
  • richln
    richln Posts: 809 Member
    People use drugs because they like drugs. Despite the suppressing efforts of governments, religions, and public health officials, this behavior will likely continue for the entire future of humanity.
  • CSARdiver
    CSARdiver Posts: 6,252 Member
    lodro wrote: »
    suppose we replaced "alcohol" with "heroin" or even "marihuana" in the replies above...

    "Although you are misrepresenting what it says about health influences ("it has no discernible favorable influence on health"), the article also agrees with my contention that one must take a sensible approach to reap the health benefits and avoid the douchebaggery of heavy heroin consumption:"

    Again, lots of justification. I wonder why.

    The issue is one of risk management. This is why we classify and restrict certain products that have a high inherent risk of abuse, such as heroin (a Schedule 1 pharmaceutical) and alcohol (regulated, but sold OTC) accordingly.

    Adding clarity to your point would help the conversation.

  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    edited September 2016
    xmichaelyx wrote: »
    betsym3 wrote: »
    we have spent A LOT of money on his alcohol, three DWI's, increased car insurance premiums, damaged vehicles, the cost of three rehabs, fines, etc.

    The problem isn't the alcohol; it's that the person you're describing is an a-hole.

    I love drinking. I drink daily, sometimes to excess. I love beer and bourbon.

    That said, I don't drink and drive, because I'm not an idiot. Addiction doesn't cause people to get DWIs or wreck their cars. Being an a-hole does.

    Alcohol by itself is neither harmful nor helpful.
    betsym3 wrote: »
    Alcoholic behavior is not fun!

    My gf and I are both very happy, functional, educated, well-paid alcoholics. It's tons of fun!

    Cheers! And personally I have to say the most miserable people I know are all teetotalers....

    Maybe they are teetotalers that make a big deal out of it. I actually enjoy that there is alcohol in our social environment because people are relaxing and having fun. I would even enjoy a drink or two if I could. But, it makes me sick for months (I can't drink for medical reasons). My husband just doesn't drink. He just doesn't want to. But, no one knows we don't drink. They don't notice and can't tell either way. I'm the life of the party. Dancing when everyone else is sitting. I dance first and then get others to join. I'm very joyful. Not miserable at all. I think it depends on the person. Some drinkers are joyful, some miserable. Some teetotalers are joyful, some miserable. As long as we all respect each other's choices, we are happy. It's the adult thing to do. For me, I love dancing and sexuality. That's how I have fun.

    Note I said the most miserable people ''I' know are all teetotallers so I'm not sure why you had to write this self-congratulatory essay.
    But I love dancing and having sex too. I hate cake and ice cream. But again I'm not sure what that's got to do with a judgey thread about booze.
    I need a drink.

    Sorry. I didn't intend it as self congratulatory (I specified it was because of a medical issue). Just talking about having fun and how it doesn't matter either way (talking about not judging). I'm glad you love those things too! I thought it related because I was talking about the things that happen at social events which include alcohol, and saying I like that alcohol is there. And things which are fun, relaxing, release inhibition (alcohol being one, but there are others too). But, I could have left that last part out (it probably was over explaining). It's definitely not my intention to start an argument (but tone doesn't come across online). There are plenty of reasons why people can judge me. Plenty of things to be judgy about. I just think it's funner to respect differences and not judge it. I don't think we disagree there.
  • CSARdiver
    CSARdiver Posts: 6,252 Member
    xmichaelyx wrote: »
    betsym3 wrote: »
    we have spent A LOT of money on his alcohol, three DWI's, increased car insurance premiums, damaged vehicles, the cost of three rehabs, fines, etc.

    The problem isn't the alcohol; it's that the person you're describing is an a-hole.

    I love drinking. I drink daily, sometimes to excess. I love beer and bourbon.

    That said, I don't drink and drive, because I'm not an idiot. Addiction doesn't cause people to get DWIs or wreck their cars. Being an a-hole does.

    Alcohol by itself is neither harmful nor helpful.
    betsym3 wrote: »
    Alcoholic behavior is not fun!

    My gf and I are both very happy, functional, educated, well-paid alcoholics. It's tons of fun!

    Cheers! And personally I have to say the most miserable people I know are all teetotalers....

    /agree

    ...and there's a vast difference in people who don't drink and those who don't think anyone should drink.

    Unfortunately there are a lot of do-gooders out there projecting their internal flaws onto the rest of the population and effing up personal liberties.

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