WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2016
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Margaret, I am so sorry. No matter how old or the circumstances, I imagine it is still very, very hard to let go of your mother.
Thanks to all who offered advice regarding Social Security. My DH and I are going to take the financial advisor's advice about what to do with a nest egg that we have and on DH's retirement accounts, but I think we are going to ignore his advice to wait on SS. We agree with whoever posted on here that they preferred to collect SS and let their investments ride since they would provide some inheritance for the children. We are going to have it deposited directly into savings and use it to do some home improvements as we accumulate enough to pay cash for the projects. That way we can save our emergency fund for true emergencies.
More interesting financial news at the bug household. You know we had to get a new HVAC and I let DH take care of the whole thing. Well, today in the mail we got a check for $600 from the company. Apparently, there was a rebate on our system. Did he even know? No, he did not! I think I would have known about $600. I did leave him strict instructions about the $100 rebate from our power company and you better believe I will remember to claim the tax credit when I do our income taxes. But this $600 was a very nice surprise.
Welcome, Debbie, and thank you for your service to our country. You have gotten good advice already so I will stick to welcome.
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Margaret, my sympathy for your loss. For most, the loss of a mother is a blow, no matter how old, no matter how expected. Seventeen years later, I miss mine still.
We have finally settled on next steps--we'll live our lives as we are now, fixing one thing at a time on the warehouse, and finishing up those things we've started. But, should it sell, we will go ahead and go find what we're looking for (if we haven't found it already). Neither of us can bear the thought of an apartment--nor does it make sense to us to live out of an RV park here (or elsewhere) long term. And renting a house would mean buying furniture again, etc., also not something we want to do here.
If it doesn't sell, we're looking at five more summers here... which makes me sigh, as living in a blast furnace for months on end is not my idea of a good time. But, we're comfortable, and by my 62nd birthday, in 2022, we should be able to put a sizeable nest egg away AND have the warehouse paid off. The amount we pay here at the warehouse, with taxes, insurance, and mortgage included, is still less than we would pay to rent a decent house here. And as it's in an industrial area, it's quiet 99% of the time in the evenings, not necessarily true in a residential area.
Off to the races - still cleaning and pricing to do for the final sale here at the warehouse. Being able to keep some of the things that matter to me for our "someday home," was actually quite comforting, and made a lot of the choices much easier on what to sell and what to keep. And, of course, there's Sunday morning laundry. I try to get there at 5:30 a.m. each Sunday--hopefully the bad people are sleeping off their drunken stupor, and the good people are sleeping the sleep of the virtuous, so there's only me and a couple other early risers. We drove past there Friday night at 6 p.m. and there were ten cars... not my idea of a good time, fighting a crowd to fold my undies.
Love y'all,
Lisa in West Texas, where the high temp is supposed to hit 87 degrees today. In October.
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Margaret - ((Hugs!)
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margaret. Sending you strength and love
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lisa. You sound at peace with your decision to stay the course right now. I can relate, we are staying put for at least 3 years even though we hate the winters here in NY. In reality we will probably have to stay for a total of 7 years to reach a better retirement but I am keeping options open for my own peace of mind.
Grocery shopping and meal planning/preparation today. Long week ahead so want to get my dicks in a row
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Yikes ducks in a row.
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Margaret - Sorry to hear about your mother.
Allie - My thoughts are with you in what must be a difficult time. You have lost a lot of dear ones recently.
Haha NYKaren. That duck typo conjured up a highly inappropriate and thoroughly amusing image in my (dirty) mind. Thanks for correcting it in an additional post rather than editing it out! :laugh:
Heather - I've just left a pot on the stove with my first attempt at Barbacoa Beef. We'll see how it turns out. I know you like it, but I also know you're more into spicy and hot-peppery than I am. I'm such a wimp!
The sun officially still goes above the horizon for a couple more days, but since we have mountains in the south, we've seen the last of it in town for this year. Tomorrow it's supposed to rise at 11:24, climb to 0.3° above the horizon, and set at 1:57. Ah, well. I'll see it in Stockholm when I go there in a couple to teach.
/Penny, at the cusp of the dark season at the North Pole3 -
Good morning everyone. I have a challenging food day ahead. We have the Giants playing football at 9:30 a.m. and the Jets playing at 1:00. A couple of friends are coming over for the games. That means - bagels, quiche, french toast casserole, mimosas, then buffalo chicken dip, stromboli, pulled port sandwiches and wine. Hopefully the guys will eat the food before I can get to it.1
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Good morning ladies! Happy Sunday! Wow! three pages since yesterday! So many I want to respond to, so I will work my way backwards.
MountainMomma58-Game day! What fun! A bagel and a piece of quiche would be a good choice for breakfast. Plan on 150-200 cal count for the mimosa. Will you put out a veg tray or fruit tray with the food? That would help you make better choices. Have a bite of something "naughty" and fill your plate with fruit and veg. Either way, just enjoy your day with friends and family! We celebrated last night with the Cubs win! Wooo! Go Cubbies!
Penny-You live in such an amazing and beautiful place, I envy you that. But two hours of daylight?! Ugh! And I have been dreading the shorter days in Michigan. I will not do that anymore, because I will keep you and the people of Svalbard and Longyearbyen in my mind.
Karen- giggling at the typo! Yup, my mind went there.
Margaret- So sorry for the loss of your mom! 98 years! What a life and the things that she had seen experienced in that lifetime! I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Gloria- Ugh! Getting hacked is the worst! I told my DH the other day that I will never want the technology where you control your home, etc through your phone/computer. This has been the way the latest group of hackers have been able to invade peoples lives. I even have issues with DH paying our bills online. We have a separate account for online ordering, so that the bad guys can't get into our savings.
DJ- I love sleeping on cooler nights! My DH however ends up wearing his fleece and a winter hat to bed. LOL! He's a trooper, he never asks me to close the window.
Cheri- So glad you ventured out and made the trip to see your daughter! Have a wonderful visit and safe travels back home.
Mary-Safe travels!
Joyce- It is wonderful that Charlie was able to share some of his past. My DH is very quiet about his childhood/school years. Some I don't think he remembers UNLESS some one triggers something. I remember the oddest things and have shared pretty much everything. Some things in my past will go with me to my grave, however.
Janet-LOVED hearing about your wonderful day! You so deserve to have as many of those as you can get!!
Charleen- We are working on winterizing around here, also. Haven't done a thing with my driveway, yet, and it is full of cracks. Getting the hose put away, outside faucets covered and pipes drained and turned off, AC unit covered, gutters cleaned, chimney re-capped. BAsically all ready to hang lights for the holidays. It does seem to be never ending.
Pip-Does the cold bother Kirby (muscle and bone pain/stiffness)? I began running in the winter, so I tend to do better in the cold weather. I don't mind sweating, but I HATE running in the heat and humidity. The only relief is to run to the lake and jump in mid run (which is what I often do). The chafing from wet clothes is the PITS, though!
Debbie-Welcome! Thank you for your service! It sounds as if you are making great progress. You truly are an inspiration! You've got this!
Becca- Rest is important! Take care of yourself. I have been dealing with the crud for four weeks. FINALLY felt well enough to get my lawn mowed yesterday. Been coughing a little more and have more dirt being blown from my nose, but it feels good to get things done!
Marcelyn- BEAUTIFUL grandkids! Lucky you! So many! You bet your buns that as soon as grandchild #1 is born, I will be flooding these pages with photos!
Carey- Love the Pokemon joke! My kids were into Pokemon when it first came out. I thought it was going to drive me crazy, then; and here it is again. My boys are 29 and 23 and they spent quite a bit of time this summer "chasing" them. Seems to have calmed down a bit, though.
Kate UK- I would start by changing what you are eating. I know what I need to eat, but don't always stick to it. Which is why I have been sitting at the same weight for about a month or two. I guess it's time to get the boot out and give myself a kick in the butt and start making healthy choices so that my weight starts moving in the right direction. I stay under calorie, but I am not getting the protein that my body requires. I am spending my calories on starchy and high sugar foods.
We can do this! 
Liz- So wonderful that you have your husband's support in your meal choices and preparation! So hard to eat right when you are making special meals for yourself and a different meal for family!
Carey- Your racing horse emoji made me think of my daughter. She works in Fort Worth, TX, for a family/business that raises/breeds racehorses (among other things). Anyway, the owner has a particular horse who has been performing well this year and she had my daughter order personalized Hershey bars (with the horses name and picture on the wrapper) and sent to friends. For some reason, this just tickled my fancy and amazed me at the same time!
Well...I think I have hit up about every one who has posted! LOL! Hello to all I didn't respond to Barbie, Heather, cmg2305 (was it Connie?),Lenora, Gayle, Lisa, Michelle (getting ready for her Halloween blow-out!)etc. I think of you all often! 3 -
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KJLaMore - Thanks for the words of encouragement. Congrats on the Cubs. We'll be routing for them too.0
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Hi all!
Just got back from spending my 20% off voucher at the store. We went to get DH some more cargo pants, but he didn't like the only ones they had. So I bought a winter coat!
It's probably 8 or more years since I bought a smart, "city", winter coat as I don't really need one in the countryside, but I hope to wear it in Brighton on days and evenings out. It's a black/grey fleck, calf length.
We also did quite a big food shop. Lots of offers in my favourite shop.
Our nights are getting colder, but the tender plants are still blooming so far. My pots are still going strong. Leaves are mid colour. I do notice the dark mornings though.
I'm always the first one up to make a cup of tea, currently in the gloom.
Spicy Salmon tonight (I use chipotle paste) with mushy peas and broccoli.
Tomorrow I'm going to make a venison stew, cooked in cider.
Penny - I have just one pot of Barbecoa Beef left in the freezer. I usually serve it over roasted butternut squash, or roasted cauliflower if I'm short of calories. We both found it delicious. Last time I had a whole heap of kale with it as well, so we felt very virtuous.
Margaret - I'm reading a fascinating book called I CONTAIN MULTITUDES by Ed Jong. It's about bacteria etc. I asked for it as part of my birthday present from my son. I think you would like it. It requires attention, but it's not hard going.
Lots of love to all. Heather UK
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Good morning ladies, I hope this post finds all of you doing well. I'm a bit tired. I went to a Holloween party last night that my friends put on. I just about froze to death because it was outside and boy was it cold. I slept last night in my sweatshirt because when I went to bed I was still thawing out . Thank all of you for your words of encouragement. I have definitely chosen the right community. To those of you who have thanked me for my service, you are very welcome. Even though it cost me my leg, if I had it to do over again, I would serve my country proudly. Does anyone know how to get a picture from facebook to here? I would like to do that so everyone can see who they are talking to but I don't know how to do that.
Debbie Blackburn
Birmingham, Alabama2 -
Hi ladies! I have been lurking but not posting. Barbiecat and exermom both encouraged me to get back on the thread. Good advice. I really need the support. More to come.
Rita from CT3 -
This is how I got my first cat! On my birthday (many, many years ago), my DH brought a present with the box top not quite on. It popped up and a little gray head appeared. I screamed, "What did you bring me? A rat?"
Then I discovered my beautiful Siamese kitten. Love him dearly.2 -
Janetr – Well, it was something I was told was high in protein (would be something to eat if I exercised during the day). I have no doubt that it is high in sugar; but, I was going on with what I had been told to eat if I was still hungry after I had reached my CI because of CO being high. Dipped in peanut butter. I’m not diabetic, so I don’t know the restrictions they have to be careful of taking in. But, at the same time, I think it is very important for anyone on a weight loss program to check with their MDs for any restrictions. Thank you for that information.
Glo – My first FB account got hacked, so it was closed down; when I set up a new one, FB would not allow me to do so. But, with the ‘drama’ … I figured that was a ‘sign’; so I just let it go. A few days ago, set one up under my ‘other’ name; but, they will probably eventually cross-reference the email and lock it down, too. But, I did not realize that I could not transfer my contacts and I do not want to make any friend requests other than just a few. One emailed me, by snail email, to ask if that was how I was setting it up and I told her that it was. Not too many know my other name, especially since I have been married. But, I did find that when it got ‘hacked’ it infected my entire computer; so I had to get my technicians to run a scan and remove the viruses, other malware on my computer, etc. Was a P.I.T.A.; because it took several hours to do both computers. I really did not like giving the information that it took to make a new account. If I never make any friends on it, I won’t miss it. Just wanted it so that I could 'see' the pictures of my DGDs - I can still see those, if they have not changed that. I have not gone in to see if I can get to my old account; but, I have been told by many that it is still up. That I definitely did not like to hear. I would have thought if I had ‘deleted’ it; then they would have taken it down completely. I just no longer trust them. When I have been on FB, it always was getting hacked. Way too much ‘personal information’ on the site to suit me, anyway.
Katie – After I had a wreck in my ‘new’ car; we got a check for $1300+ as ‘depreciation of value of car’ … I had never heard of such a thing. Called insurance company and that is what they told me. It was an ‘unexpected’ thing; but, came at a good time.
Lisa – Have you thought about those ‘condos’ that are all on one level; have a firewall between them and look like they are individual homes from the looks of them? Usually have about 6 to a strip of them. DH and his workers just got finished painting some in a ‘gated community’. The biggest part of the job was painting the iron fence that surrounded the community.
Date Night! I love it! Just need to drink 4 cups of water between now and when we leave so I won't be too hungry.
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Rita welcome back! Hope you enjoy posting, and of course, reading. I have found this group to be fun, supportive and real. Just what I needed to support improving my health and my habits for the better. One step at a time.
Debbie if you have pictures on your computer then you just download them. Go to the profile page on mfp and click on add a photo, you follow the insert a file from one of the pics you have on your computer. I surprised myself when I learned to do this myself....I am really slow on the computer but getting a little better.
Decided to stay home and prep, plan, pay bills etc. and glad I didn't go with DH to visit his mother. DH seemed a bit disappointed but I really needed this day to get my week off to a better start than last week, including going to the gym, grocery shopping, laundry, meal prep and now on to paperwork! I am on fire!!
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morning peeps-
kjlamore- kirby says the cold doesn't bother him so far... i don't mind sweating at all and i am what i call a drip sweater. kirby doesn't want to go to the gym. i am for a slow short run, stretch then the hot tub.1 -
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Mary - Your photos are fabulous. Thank you.
Gloria - My book is the very first one the Hairy Bikers wrote about dieting. I think it's called The Hairy Dieters - how to love food and lose weight. Some people think that the second one is even better. I use about 3 recipes from the book and always adapt them to my taste, but all the ones I've tried so far have been tasty and satisfying.
I think it is so important to cook your own food, boost up the protein content, eat LOTS of vegetables and avoid sugar and processed food. Good fats are good for you. Fermented food is good for you. If I am hungry I eat carrots and celery. :laugh: What distresses me is our food culture. It is distorted and enslaved to big business who are only out to profit from our addiction to carbs and sugar. If you give them up you will not crave them. Eat beautifully. The freezer and the slow cooker,or pressure cooker, is your friend. Portion control is very important. Weigh everything. Log everything. I have been at maintenance now for 2 years 9 months and I still weigh and log every day.
Good luck! This is for life, not a quick fix. Just because other people are killing themselves with horrible food doesn't mean you have to. Love yourself enough to make good choices.
Of course exercise plays it's part in the balance. Any moving is better than no moving. I eat a lot because I exercise a lot. Trying to get by on 1200 calories a day for very long is doomed to failure. I can't even imagine it!
Lots of love, Heather UK6 -
Mary... beautiful! I've been to Glacier a half dozen times or so (my best friend lives a few miles from the Western Gate) but it never gets old.
Lenora - um... we're in the back of beyond, there is exactly one set of condos here, and they're truly awful. Long story, but the DH and I lived in them shortly before and after we were married. Would never do it again. That's OK - things have a way of working out. If we're meant to stay, we'll find that a way opens. If not, then we'll go.
Regards,
Lisa in West Texas2 -
Glad to hear that, I'm assuming "everthing" is in a row.klanders30 wrote: »I am on fire!!
NYKAREN
Janetr (in Tampa where I worked out for an hour in the pool this morning)
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To those of you who have or are having family problems or have conflict. I saw this on face book when I got home from church. Hope it shows up.
https://www.facebook.com/findingyourpeacewithin/photos/a.606580366113332.1073741828.606568546114514/638704126234289/?type=3&theater Oh, I guess you have to click on it, hope it works.
Yes, I went to church!!!! I set the alarm to get up and take a shower. I have been taking it on Saturday nights so that I can sleep later or if i do sleep a little late, I can usually get ready pretty quick, maybe no make up but am clean. So I woke up at 8:30, realized my back hurt A LOT, put my heating pad on in bed, at 9 got up and took my shower. Had to go back to the heating pad on the couch. But then was good to go. I do need to take a pillow to church. Yes, I will be one of those old ladies at only 66. Pastor has been having his massages on the Sermon on the mount. He does know how to step on toes. He says if his messages don't step on his toes then they aren't good enough for us.
Joyce, Indiana
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Thank you for all your kind words.
Heather I will look for the book. It does sound like a book I would like.
Mary we were in Glacier about 20 years ago. One of my favorite trips. Loved the smell of the pine in the camp ground we where we stayed. When I walk under pine trees it reminds me of that trip.1 -
Hidee Ho~
I am home, and exsausted... that was a rough fast 24 hrs.... went to see Ruth and brought most of her family pictures and important papers to her.. she was wearing one the new nightshirts I got her looks great...
then went back to see Ray.. I feel just awful .. I just wish I could sit there and be with him when he passes, he is there all alone.. with music.. talked with the nurse, it will be anytime now, guessing either tonight or sometime tomorrow.. I gave him a kiss of the forehead and told him I loved him.. what more could I do.. he was out of it today, glad i got to see him a bit lucid yesterday. I am praying for an easy transition for him...
went to breakfast, and then went to the house for a couple of hours, going through and trying to find important stuff.. did get a flat screen t.v. still in the box, and some of Ray's etchings .. will see if I can give them to the cancer society to auction off..
but heavens to betsy it is alot of driving for what I had to do...2 -
Carol - so timely that you put that up about forgiveness. Yesterday after hearing from my son I was thinking that I need to let him know that I have forgiven him for what he has done to both myself and the boys. No it doesn't mean that I think it's OK I'm just tired of being mad at him. Someone on here once said that they try to look at people's actions as doing the best they knew how to do at that time and under the circumstances. I realize that as reprehensible as how he left was it was probably the only way he could handle doing it. Again it wasn't OK but I need to let go of the anger as it affects my reaction to everyday occurrences and my relationship with the boys.
As I was laying in bed last night I was thinking about better days in our home and how I was working really hard at having more laughter in our home and starting the days off better. I used to get up and turn on the Happy song by Pharrell Williams and dance around the livingroom. The boys thought I was cuckoo but at least we were laughing. At that time I was walking a lot, following a no sugar low carb program and using kettlebells.
Today I choose to let go of anger and bring happiness back into our lives.
Thanks for listening - it's all part of being healthier in mind, body and spirit.
Gloria in WA currently listening to the Happy song and doing armchair dancing but thinking about getting up and trying moon walking!
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Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .
Good Evening Ladies,
Debbie, I’m glad you are finding some helpful words from our group. Just reading about what you are doing and seeing your progress is encouragement enough for us. We all love to see each other succeed. Keep up the great work. You can do this.
Barbie, my DH often wants to go to breakfast after I have eaten. Sometimes we compromise but I usually say no and offer to fix him one at home.
Gloria, that’s terrible to have a broken washer with so much laundry to do. Our dryer just stopped drying well and DH bought one off of Craig’s list. They delivered it yesterday and we had to change the plug as it had a 3 prong and our house has a 4 prong. We got it hooked up and it seems to work fine. Thank goodness. I didn’t understand where you did all that laundry but I hope you get your washer fixed soon!! (((Hugs)))
Charleen, you are smart to seal the cracks in the driveway before winter. I’m sure it saves some expensive concrete work over the years.
Janetr, I was told the same thing about bananas when I was Type II diabetic. I still rarely eat any because of the sugar although I do love them.
Kay, wow that $600 rebate was a nice surprise. That is “found money” to do something special with.
Lisa, I hope what I’m about to say comes across the right way. Please know I say it with love, but I’m not the wordsmith that you and some of the others are. I’m glad you have decided to stay put for the time being and it’s always nice to plan ahead, B U T please remember to live for today, this week, this year and not so much always be looking to the future. Life never really looks that different, no matter where you are or when it is. I want you and that wonderful husband to enjoy each moment you have together because as someone once told me, “This is it”.
KJ, I have an image in my mind of your DH going to bed in his night cap. So cute and so nice to let you have it freezing in the bedroom. LOL
Rita, come on out of that corner and visit with us. We miss you when you lurk!
NYKaren, hope your DH is okay with you not going with him, but it’s nice to have time to prepare for Monday.
Mary, beautiful pictures.
Allie, you are a saint. I’m glad you got to go tell Ray good bye and spend some time with Ruth. (((Hugs)))
to any Newbies that I missed. Come often and join in the chat. This thing works!! Please sign your post with what you want to be called. It makes it easier for us to respond to you. Also a location is great, be it specific or general. We are happy to have you join us.
Today I made chicken soup. I really get into the soup mood when the weather turns a bit cooler. Tomorrow I go to the doctor to see about this knee. I hope we can do something other than surgery. Grrrr Will let you know.
Sending love and good thoughts to all of you and I hope you all have a Happy and Healthy Day!
Words I live by:
Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
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Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
I Love you,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC
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Sun jog- 15.37min, 10.02ap, 5.5-5.7sp 155mhr, 138ahr, 1-1/2mi = 151c
Jog- 5min, 10.2ap 4.2-11.3sp 146ahr = 73c
Stretch- 5min =61c
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