Who says plus size girls don't have curves?

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  • niktherip
    niktherip Posts: 69 Member
    Lovely curves! Here is my curvy pic :)
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    ETA: I am 5'4 and currently 203lbs
    Yep defo 9.5
  • niktherip
    niktherip Posts: 69 Member
    Yep nice curves indeed
  • Lleldiranne
    Lleldiranne Posts: 5,516 Member
    http://www.hanneblank.com/blog/2011/06/23/real-women/

    Real women do not have curves. Real women do not look like just one thing.

    Real women have curves, and not. They are tall, and not. They are brown-skinned, and olive-skinned, and not. They have small breasts, and big ones, and no breasts whatsoever.

    Real women start their lives as baby girls. And as baby boys. And as babies of indeterminate biological sex whose bodies terrify their doctors and families into making all kinds of very sudden decisions.

    Real women have big hands and small hands and long elegant fingers and short stubby fingers and manicures and broken nails with dirt under them.

    Real women have armpit hair and leg hair and pubic hair and facial hair and chest hair and sexy moustaches and full, luxuriant beards. Real women have none of these things, spontaneously or as the result of intentional change. Real women are bald as eggs, by chance and by choice and by chemo. Real women have hair so long they can sit on it. Real women wear wigs and weaves and extensions and kufi and do-rags and hairnets and hijab and headscarves and hats and yarmulkes and textured rubber swim caps with the plastic flowers on the sides.

    Real women wear high heels and skirts. Or not.

    Real women are feminine and smell good and they are masculine and smell good and they are androgynous and smell good, except when they don’t smell so good, but that can be changed if desired because real women change stuff when they want to.

    Real women have ovaries. Unless they don’t, and sometimes they don’t because they were born that way and sometimes they don’t because they had to have their ovaries removed. Real women have uteruses, unless they don’t, see above. Real women have vaginas and clitorises and XX sex chromosomes and high estrogen levels, they ovulate and menstruate and can get pregnant and have babies. Except sometimes not, for a rather spectacular array of reasons both spontaneous and induced.

    Real women are fat. And thin. And both, and neither, and otherwise. Doesn’t make them any less real.

    There is a phrase I wish I could engrave upon the hearts of every single person, everywhere in the world, and it is this sentence which comes from the genius lips of the grand and eloquent Mr. Glenn Marla:

    There is no wrong way to have a body.


    I’m going to say it again because it’s important: There is no wrong way to have a body.

    And if your moral compass points in any way, shape, or form to equality, you need to get this through your thick skull and stop with the “real women are like such-and-so” crap.

    You are not the authority on what “real” human beings are, and who qualifies as “real” and on what basis. All human beings are real.

    Yes, I know you’re tired of feeling disenfranchised. It is a tiresome and loathsome thing to be and to feel. But the tit-for-tat disenfranchisement of others is not going to solve that problem. Solidarity has to start somewhere and it might as well be with you and me.

    I think I love you!
  • pinkraynedropjacki
    pinkraynedropjacki Posts: 3,027 Member
    I was curvy at my biggest weight, I was curvy like a ball. Now at my ideal weight (and great BMI) I no longer have any curves at all... I'm a stick. thank goodness cause otherwise finding clothing to fit properly is harder.
  • swhiteism
    swhiteism Posts: 71 Member
    NVMD...!
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    Phenomenal topic Op! I absolutely love that you created a thread celebrating curves. I also hear people who say that they are annoyed by plus size women equating themselves with being curvy or "thick", and they feel that these women are being dead wrong about it. Whether obese and curvaceous or thin and curvaceous, people are always going to pick something to criticize you about. Who gives two sh*ts what they think?? Confidence is hot no matter what body shape/size you are, and you, op, are a great example of that.

    Unhealthy is unhealthy and no amount of confidence can change that

    You can be unhealthy and thin. You do know that right?

    This post is not about health status. It's about women being confident in their curves.

    Just because you hated being plus size doesn't mean other women should.

    No they shouldnt and if they are so confident then my words should not bother them either.

    More shaming. I find that so disgusting. People have a hard enough time building their self esteem and loving themselves even when they get to their goal weight/size. Learning to love 'themselves" isn't an excuse to not get healthy. Getting fit isn't just a physical thing, it is a mental thing.

    If you hate yourself or others that are taking positive steps in their mental health by accepting themselves, then I think maybe you should seek counseling because that has to be a horrible way to live. Please seek help and learn to be happy :flowerforyou:


    Also, for people that have taken to body shaming, being judgmental on others (like transsexuals), and trying to down on others improved self-esteem....I can only hope your children turn out better.

    same here. Body shaming is repulsive, regardless of the body type being shamed.
  • peeaanuut
    peeaanuut Posts: 359 Member
    can I still shame my toes? I have this one thats just a complete knucklehead.
  • hollyow1
    hollyow1 Posts: 3
    That is so great to hear you have such a supportive family!! Congratulations on your weight loss!
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    I read every comment in this thread and am happy to see that for the most part, people were positive and supportive. There were a few sour apples who felt the need to body shame, but honestly in a thread like this, I am happily surprised there weren't more. Confidence in oneself is awesome, especially when you don't have to put others down to lift yourself up. That is true confidence. Congrats OP for rocking it and I wish you much continued happiness, confidence and success along the way!
  • JDBLY11
    JDBLY11 Posts: 577 Member
    Wow, you look really good. Do you work out a lot? I am pretty much the exact same size as you. I have lost quite a bit of weight in the past 4 months. I am not near as shapely as you though. You seem to be a very thin 288 lbs. I feel so much better emotionally already and I can actually move again. I am wearing a body media fit every day and trying to get in my steps and calorie count so I can eat a little more and still lose weight, but actually have energy. Keep going! It is good to read a little about you.
  • JDBLY11
    JDBLY11 Posts: 577 Member
    Is the term "curvy" the first adjective a woman uses to describer herself who is at her goal weight?

    Or is it more likely to be used by someone nowhere near her goal?


    The popular meaning of a word is ascertained by who is using it and in what context and how often.

    When it gets used over and over again in an incorrect way then it will mean the new usage.

    Like when people talk about their throughput on their data connection they use the word "bandwidth" which has absolutely ****-all to do with speed but defines the literal width of the frequency bands the signals travel on.

    So everyone talks about "bandwidth" as "speed" and pretty soon everyone just uses it as "speed" because its the popular meaning.

    Now go back and read that first sentence again...


    I think both can use it. If you have an hourglass at 250 and an hourglass at 150...aren't you still considered curvy? I'm an hourglass at 288 and I'll be an hourglass at 250. I've always been an hourglass. Can I not say that I'm curvy until I get to my goal of 180?

    I disagree with the bolded part. I would be happy to be curvy in the best way I can be at goal weight. My husband always tells me how when I lose weight my curves start coming out more and he can see more of my hourglass shape ( to him). Even my boobs look better to him as I lose weight because they stand out more. Maybe that is why I associate the two?
  • JDBLY11
    JDBLY11 Posts: 577 Member
    i always thought the opposite- plus size girls DO have all the curves. I've been wrong this whole time lol.

    I would rather have the curves of my thin sisters and cousins than the curves I have being this heavy, honestly. Fat curves are not that great because I just do not do well when I am fat or gaining weight physically or emotionally. I do so much better thinner.
  • tlath70
    tlath70 Posts: 10 Member
    http://www.hanneblank.com/blog/2011/06/23/real-women/

    Real women do not have curves. Real women do not look like just one thing.

    Real women have curves, and not. They are tall, and not. They are brown-skinned, and olive-skinned, and not. They have small breasts, and big ones, and no breasts whatsoever.

    Real women start their lives as baby girls. And as baby boys. And as babies of indeterminate biological sex whose bodies terrify their doctors and families into making all kinds of very sudden decisions.

    Real women have big hands and small hands and long elegant fingers and short stubby fingers and manicures and broken nails with dirt under them.

    Real women have armpit hair and leg hair and pubic hair and facial hair and chest hair and sexy moustaches and full, luxuriant beards. Real women have none of these things, spontaneously or as the result of intentional change. Real women are bald as eggs, by chance and by choice and by chemo. Real women have hair so long they can sit on it. Real women wear wigs and weaves and extensions and kufi and do-rags and hairnets and hijab and headscarves and hats and yarmulkes and textured rubber swim caps with the plastic flowers on the sides.

    Real women wear high heels and skirts. Or not.

    Real women are feminine and smell good and they are masculine and smell good and they are androgynous and smell good, except when they don’t smell so good, but that can be changed if desired because real women change stuff when they want to.

    Real women have ovaries. Unless they don’t, and sometimes they don’t because they were born that way and sometimes they don’t because they had to have their ovaries removed. Real women have uteruses, unless they don’t, see above. Real women have vaginas and clitorises and XX sex chromosomes and high estrogen levels, they ovulate and menstruate and can get pregnant and have babies. Except sometimes not, for a rather spectacular array of reasons both spontaneous and induced.

    Real women are fat. And thin. And both, and neither, and otherwise. Doesn’t make them any less real.

    There is a phrase I wish I could engrave upon the hearts of every single person, everywhere in the world, and it is this sentence which comes from the genius lips of the grand and eloquent Mr. Glenn Marla:

    There is no wrong way to have a body.


    I’m going to say it again because it’s important: There is no wrong way to have a body.

    And if your moral compass points in any way, shape, or form to equality, you need to get this through your thick skull and stop with the “real women are like such-and-so” crap.

    You are not the authority on what “real” human beings are, and who qualifies as “real” and on what basis. All human beings are real.

    Yes, I know you’re tired of feeling disenfranchised. It is a tiresome and loathsome thing to be and to feel. But the tit-for-tat disenfranchisement of others is not going to solve that problem. Solidarity has to start somewhere and it might as well be with you and me.

    THIS!^^^ Very eloquently and passionately spoken. We all came to MFP for encouragement on our journey...not for judgment.
  • jennpaulson
    jennpaulson Posts: 850 Member
    5'11...somewhere in the 185 range.

    Measurements approx 42, 32.5, 42

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    WoW! I need to grow a few more inches! I did not look like that at 185lbs. Hell, who am I kidding? I don't look close to that at 163lbs.
  • linsey0689
    linsey0689 Posts: 753 Member
    People tell me this all the time, totally disagree. I mean yes some may but I don't think I do. This is me at 253 now I am 10 pounds lighter at 243.

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  • kaseysospacey
    kaseysospacey Posts: 499 Member
    Hey Marylin Monroe was a large size 16 (US 14) and her curves were awesome!

    Marilyn Monroe was a current us size 6. She's not heavy at all. A touch soft, but absolutely nowhere near a 16.
  • bunbunzee44
    bunbunzee44 Posts: 592 Member
    who says that? O.o ofcourse almost any size girls can have sexy curves.
  • Christina8585
    Christina8585 Posts: 73 Member
    288 isn't a typo. ^_^ I started at 315. I'm 5'11.

    A friend of a friend made a snide comment because a guy in a bar called me curvy and this nasty girl said, "Curvy is just a word that fat girls use to make themselves feel better." O_O BUt it's not just at the bar. I see it everywhere on the internet. People who say plus size models aren't curvy and they shouldn't use it. I've read threads from people who say that they are sick of people who are overweight saying they are curvy. Even if they have a natural hourglass shape while being overweight, they say they aren't curvy because they are overweight. So I wanted to create a thread for all the curvy plus size women out there who love their bodies!

    As far as I'm concerned you can be curvy as a plus size girl or a skinny mini. Today I saw a girl who basically looked like a complete skeleton. No shape whatsoever. But I've seen other women her exact size with va va voom. It's all in the hips. I have a love hate with mine. Mine are latin for sure, so basically I'll have curves no matter what, minus my ever shrinking boobs. Gah!
    But I gladly trade boobs for a better waistline.
    It's all in the body shape not the size.
  • Oliviamarie05
    Oliviamarie05 Posts: 528 Member
    It takes a person of character to know when to say something and when to keep their mouth shut. When did it become okay for people to say something rude and slough it off as "we'll that's my opinion and I'm entitled to it." If you don't agree, do everyone a favor and move on.

    Love all the curves in this thread!
  • iceqieen
    iceqieen Posts: 862 Member
    I am just now dropping into the "overweight" category for BMI.. my curves are getting more defined but I was definately curvy back when I started this as well.

    There are "overweight" women who do not look curvy, and there are "normal weight" women who have no curves.. its to do with genes and muscles.. some women have it naturally, others have to build the muscles in the right places.. either way curvy or not most women are beautyfull when they project confidence, no matter the shape or size :flowerforyou:
  • aliann30
    aliann30 Posts: 291 Member
    288 isn't a typo. ^_^ I started at 315. I'm 5'11.

    A friend of a friend made a snide comment because a guy in a bar called me curvy and this nasty girl said, "Curvy is just a word that fat girls use to make themselves feel better." O_O BUt it's not just at the bar. I see it everywhere on the internet. People who say plus size models aren't curvy and they shouldn't use it. I've read threads from people who say that they are sick of people who are overweight saying they are curvy. Even if they have a natural hourglass shape while being overweight, they say they aren't curvy because they are overweight. So I wanted to create a thread for all the curvy plus size women out there who love their bodies!

    You look SMOKIN', girl!!! I'm 5'11'' and 280 (we're twins!!! I started at 318!!!), and don't look nearly that hawt yet!!! Way to go!!!!
  • ngoziyvette
    ngoziyvette Posts: 9 Member
    You can be plus-sized and curvy and you can be underweight and curvy.

    The problem is when "curvy" becomes a euphamism for "overweight." They're two separate things.

    I agree! A lot of people use curvy to mean plus sized but they aren't synonymous. I know people who are big and curvy and I know people who are thin and curvy. You can be curvy at any size. Weight has nothing to do with curviness.
  • Carfoodel
    Carfoodel Posts: 481 Member
    I am still very overweight, but have always been curvy regardless, it is just getting a bit more pronounced as I shed the lbs :)

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  • aloranger7708
    aloranger7708 Posts: 422 Member
    Me at 185!

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  • So_Much_Fab
    So_Much_Fab Posts: 1,146 Member
    I don't think I'll ever be "curvy"...the only thing curvy on me right now is my belly! LOL! Hopefully with some more fat loss and weights I can be a little curvy. We'll see.

    OP, you look great in that suit! And I live in Pittsburgh too! :drinker:
  • redheaddee
    redheaddee Posts: 2,005 Member
    "What makes a woman a woman is between two things: her legs."
    -Selma Hayak, Dogma

    Although I disagree. Because transsexuals can have surgeries to have the right exterior parts, but they never have the hip sway we women have. Curvy or not.

    why do you hate transsexuals?

    O_o? What makes a woman is her HIPS is my point here. Not curves, not the plumbing, but the fact that wehave PELVIC BONES that men do not have. It's called anatomy. :noway:
  • jamieschraeder
    jamieschraeder Posts: 5 Member
    Y'all look beautiful :glasses:

    I wish I had curves like that!!! At 5'5 and 198 I still can't seem to find my waist in pics. Keep up the good work!!!!!:flowerforyou:
  • MissTattoo
    MissTattoo Posts: 1,203 Member
    Wow, you look really good. Do you work out a lot? I am pretty much the exact same size as you. I have lost quite a bit of weight in the past 4 months. I am not near as shapely as you though. You seem to be a very thin 288 lbs. I feel so much better emotionally already and I can actually move again. I am wearing a body media fit every day and trying to get in my steps and calorie count so I can eat a little more and still lose weight, but actually have energy. Keep going! It is good to read a little about you.

    a thin 288! I love you! ^_^ I imagine I'll hit Jessica Rabbit status at 250.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    "What makes a woman a woman is between two things: her legs."
    -Selma Hayak, Dogma

    Although I disagree. Because transsexuals can have surgeries to have the right exterior parts, but they never have the hip sway we women have. Curvy or not.

    why do you hate transsexuals?

    O_o? What makes a woman is her HIPS is my point here. Not curves, not the plumbing, but the fact that wehave PELVIC BONES that men do not have. It's called anatomy. :noway:
    Not all women have wide hips and men do have pelvic bones.
  • britzzie
    britzzie Posts: 338 Member
    You can be plus-sized and curvy and you can be underweight and curvy.

    The problem is when "curvy" becomes a euphamism for "overweight." They're two separate things.

    I agree! A lot of people use curvy to mean plus sized but they aren't synonymous. I know people who are big and curvy and I know people who are thin and curvy. You can be curvy at any size. Weight has nothing to do with curviness.

    Yea. I hate it when "plus-sized" people call themselves "curvy" when they're not. I mean it's such a "problem." I mean...who do they think they are? :sick: