WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR NOVEMBER 2016

cityjaneLondon

Hi all!
I'm back home now. I fell asleep in the car (not driving!), took in the supermarket delivery and then fell asleep on the sofa! ! This morning we took the kids to the park, with their parents, but I don't know why I am so tired! They were all adorable and I got on really well with DGS which was lovely. Now he is older he enjoys having serious talks with me about science and history etc. We speak a bit of Spanish together. (He goes to a bilingual school) DGD was learning to ride her new grown up bike, so there were a few tears, but she never, ever gives up! Bea just smiles and laughs at everything, all the time. Never seen a happier baby.

Ordered DDIL a beautiful wall clock for her Christmas present. She wanted a colourful one for the playroom as she tries not to take her phone in there with her as it keeps her too linked to work. (She is a psychologist with a practice). Then she doesn't know the time! I didn't want to make an aesthetic choice like that for her, so we looked at a few together and she picked a lovely, multi coloured one out.
Now I've only got to order a winter dress for Bea and get the grandkids something their mother suggests and I'm done! I've even bought my flashing earrings for the yoga Christmas lunch. :laugh:
Perhaps a couple more stocking fillers for DH. I have bought him shoes for Christmas already, but we always have a few small things to open in bed.

Love Heather UK xxxxxxx

cityjaneLondon

cityjaneLondon

grandmallie

afternoon ladies~
having a cup of fireside vanilla tea.. lord knows I need something much much stronger...tried having a discussion with Tom about things and didn't go well..there was no shouting .. but I was sharing my feelings and he ays there is nothing he can do about it, he doesn't love me.. he cares about what happens to me but I feel I come home to a house where the only ones who care for me are the dogs..(which I think is true) he says dont talk to him about going to florida,, because I go up to new hampshire and the cape and ,well thats my travel time, he said go have a good time.. but money wise... well thats a whole other story... he said if we do split that he wants it to work were we will both live comfortable.. well gee isn't that nice...
for right now, I am going to take a nap. and when he gets back I am telling him I want to order a new bed for my room..

Charleen2

Looks like it's gonna be one of those days. Already spilled my coffee.


Charleen in Colorado (We are in for colder weather)

Charleen2

Grandmallie - Life sucks when a punch to your gut hits you in the heart too. He doesn't deserve you. Put money by for you that he doesn't know about (or can get to) because it looks like he could leave you in a bad spot financially whenever he wants and only you can protect your future. {{{hugs}}}

grandmallie

Charleen- easier said than done

fanncy0626

Allie- I would start searching for hidden cash at home and in Florida. Tom probably has a stockpile hidden in walls and under floorboards!

Peach1948

Allie ~ Do y'all have joint accounts? You need to send your check to your own account.

GodMomKim

Hi Gals,

Rita – thinking of you, a less expensive place sounds like a good thing to think about. Hugs!

Cheri – feel well quick

Glo- so funny that you should ask about where community tab opens to… as mine had always opened to my last post, but the other day it did not, and I realized that I had left it open on my phone, and so it was continually updating and thought I was reading along… So close the app and it should work.

Lisa – adorable grands

Pip – I love the pic

Barbie – love the boots… I have nothing waterproof or even water resistant for my feet they are always cold when I walk…

Karen in Virginia - what a funny mental picture of you in the shower with a dog and all watching from outside!

Allie – you can make a will without Tom, you can leave your things, even your ½ of things to whom ever you want, A bit more difficult with a primary residence but it can be done… Please realize how valuable you are!


Yesterday was going to the mountains and cutting down Christmas trees, my Mom and I went, it was fun, but she can not help much any more (she’s 89) We hiked for about 2 hours, found the “perfect” trees, then I cut them down and hauled them to the truck – they were both very heavy, I did my “weight lifting” I really need to figure out who I can bring with me next year to help, as I was pushing to my edge… and lifting them into the truck (we borrow a truck), the tail gate was at about neck level (I’m just 5’1”), was just about impossible! Luckily a nice man helped lift them in.


November Goals:

Write Christmas letter, and have all cards ready to send by Dec1…
Read and report on a book
Log everyday to the best I can, over if need be.
11,000 + steps everyday
Work on water consumption -

Smiles.

Kim from N. California

cityjaneLondon

Allie - I've said it before and this is the last time I am going to say it -GET YOURSELF TO A LAWYER. What he is doing is considered abuse in this country and is a criminal offence - COERCIVE CONTROL.
Even if it isn't an offence in the US it is awful. Value yourself enough to get out of this abusive situation with some shreds of dignity. You need to protect your assets, including your share of the property. Get away from this horrible man. If it were me I would lock him out of the house and ask my friends to protect me. You have more than enough grounds to get a legal injunction against him so he can't approach you.
Enough said, because you don't listen.

Much love, Heather UK

grandmallie

have joint accounts~ and It is already tense around here.. if I took my paycheck and did that.. all hell would break loose, and I dont need that right now
Yes I would be losing alot ,if we split, a warm comfortable home,,, and money in the bank.. I do have all information on our accounts on a memory stick that is at my DSIL house in a safe.. so if he tries to pull a fast one,It wont work... I have been down this road before and it wasn't pretty, hurt my children alot..
I am not leaving without the dogs and,and he wouldnt leave without them either.. so we shall see what becomes of all this...I would be living close to poverty level and don't know if I want to go that far yet.. 20 yrs is along time to put up with bull whooey and it has gotten worse over the last yr and a 1/2 ..
just keep me in your prayers if you can.. physically he will do no harm, mentally he has done a job

lhannon062709

Thinking of you, Allie. Sorry if you feel we're badgering you, honey--we just worry about you.
Lisa

GodMomKim

Allie - holding you close! I live under the federal poverty level and it is possible and to do it with grace... your mental health is far more important than cash. You are loved, and valued.

pipcd34

KetoneKaren

DamitJanit

Hello My friends,
I've been missing you but just too much going on to spend time on the computer. Therefore I've missed a lot of what is going on in your lives. I hope all had a good Thanksgiving here in the states. Ours was good but I stayed on my feet too long and my back has been paying for it.
Today I decorated our Christmas tree. It is beautiful as always. It's a lot of work but I just love it so guess I'll keep doing it as long as I can.
Allie and any others with strife in your life, I send my best thoughts and good wishes. Congrats to all with victories.
DH went to Costco and was going to get a pizza for dinner. I told him I would cook as that is the last thing I need.
I hope to be able to read more before the cruise on Dec. 2nd, but my buddy comes in Tuesday night and will be helping her pack until we cruise.

I love you all,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC

csofled

GRITSandSLUTS wrote: »

Cheri – See the link for emojis; how to get them on computer (or MFP) to use? Quite often my computer blocks the emojis I have found before. If I get it added to my computer, can I use them in other sites, such as in my Outlook 2013?
Lenora

What I do is open the website. Click on Animated GIFs. The one with the winking bunny. At the bottom of this page I type in what I am looking for in the :Search for your perfect graphic. For example I will type in "hello". When the choices load on the page I click on the one I want. You will see 3 boxes with code to use in different scenarios. You want to copy and paste the 3rd box: To post on Glitter-Graphics.com and forums, use this BB code. Copy and paste this to the forum box in your text. Press preview to make sure it's what you want and there ya go! Hope this helps! For using them elsewhere it is tricky so much so that I haven't figured it out lol.



Cheri
feeling much better today in breezy, beautiful Texas

grandmallie

thank you for all the love~ im so greatful to have you all in my life.
Heather~ I understand you getting upset with me.. I dont have the confidence and were with all to deal with it all right now.. hoping to make it through the holidays in one piece and deal with all of this in the new year.. have to get a plan together .. and get my ducks in a row...

pipcd34

stats for the day:
my chest strap is working again, i did a comparison, interesting:

w/wahoo chest strap:
jog- 14min, 6.4-7.0sp, 9.28ap 152mhr, 1.48mi = 147c
jog= 18.32min, 9.17ap, 138ahr, 173mhr, 2mi = 207c
stairclimber- 30min, 60flpmin, 105fl, lvl6, 130ahr, 139mhr, = 272c
other- sidestep/skip/scissors- 15min, 137ahr, 161mhr, = 163c
789c total cal

w/fitbit:
jog- 14min, 6.4-7.0sp, 9.28ap 179mhr,, 140ahr1.48mi = 146c
jog= 18.32min, 9.17ap, 138ahr, 182mhr, 132ahr, 2mi = 184c
stairclimber- 30min, 60flpmin, 105fl, lvl6, 130ahr, 139mhr,127ahr, = 222c
other- sidestep/skip/scissors- 15min, 119ahr, 156mhr, = 122c
674c total cal

cityjaneLondon

Allie - Sorry I lost my temper. The one thing you could do is ring a domestic abuse helpline and get some support and advice. It would be something you could do without your husband knowing. Any step forward is better than none.

My very best wishes, Heather UK xxxxxxx

Annr

klanders30 wrote: »

morning early risers. As I sip my coffee I just knew I'd find a post from you lisa glad the trip was great and those grandkids are adorable. Good that you know the terrain you are looking for and taking your time about going about it. It is a big exciting step.

Well back on track, made a grreat big pot of stock and had a very delicious cup of chicken broth for dinner last night, felt great after all that overindulging. Even went shopping for DD yesterday, found a pair of warm boots (kind of like Barbies) for her and about 4 sweaters. She is a frugal bargain hunter, from a long line of women who could squeeze a nickel till it squeaks the whole weekend was filled with friends, family and a little business, banking, RX refills, and paying her tuition all in all a very busy 5-days.

I am looking forward to the joy of a normal week or what constitutes for normal in December! Simple goal for the week, making the gym a daily goal and eating down the contents of my fridge with little food waste- have a lot of soup to enjoy

NYKAREN

knocked me off me computer chair with your shouting....heehee.....too cute. (((hugs))) Becca

Annr

Allie~ (((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))) That is like a bear hug but no claws.... Know we love you, and would love to put Tom on a roasting spit...(said in jest but not really). Know this is your haven to rant and rave and most importantly BE VALUED. We love ya....ok I said that already.....
Becca

that wants to just adopt ya and
fan you with a fan and
feed ya grapes in the sunshine...no wait
I will let some handsome waiter named GUNTHER, or SWEN do that.....

Annr

cityjaneLondon wrote: »

oh she is outright Gerber Baby cute!!!! Want to just nibble those cheeks!!!
(sons make babies already) I am needing to be a Grandma!!
Becca

fanncy0626

Still working on our bathroom remodel! Best wishes to everyone!

GloworminWA

Allie - I know you're scared at this time in your life to have to make it on your own. When I left my abusive husband (not just mental abuse but physical as well) I still had 3 children to raise. I was afraid to let him know I was leaving because of the abuse so I made a plan. I wrote him a letter, left it in his car at work and got a truck and moved out. Yes I left behind a house and a lot of other stuff but leaving was the best thing I did. Yes I had to start over and for a while I had to stay with friends here and there but I took the time to better myself and I've never let anyone treat me like a doormat again. I went to counseling, went back to college and got a career. I know it will be a mystery to some that I still felt that I loved that man when I left but the truth is I only loved the fact that he supposedly loved me. If I had been more confident about my self worth at the time I would never have married him. If you make the decision to leave maybe you could find someone to room with so you could share expenses. I would never tell you to leave him as that is a decision only you can make and I too believe in the sanctity of marriage but I'll tell you what a minister told me when I thought the right thing to do was stay. God gave us the freedom of choice because sometimes the choices we originally make are not the best ones in the first place. Is it possible for you to go to counseling before you make a decision? As someone else said - please stay safe. You said he would never do anything physical but there is no guarantee of that. Tom sounds like he could be a ticking time bomb. Do you have anyone close to you who you can confide in? I never told my family as I was ashamed (very common with those being abused). You could also talk to someone at a Domestic Violence shelter if not for anything other than to find an attorney who deals with this. Please be as kind and loving to yourself as you are to others.

Gloria in WA

skuehn48

Hello everyone: Hope you are having a good Sunday. Went to church and sang with choir this morning. The choir participated in the children's message by using masks and making animal noises. the back row of guys was quite a hoot, they really got into it. DH has not been following orders after his kidney stone treatment and is paying for it. Will not take advice from either DD or me. He sees urologist again tomorrow. Hopefully the doc can straighten him out. Not doing so well on food today and it is raining again so no outside work and not much exercise. Yuck!!

Forgot last time to say welcome to the newbies.

Barbie - Like the new shoes and boots. I bought some waterproof BearPaws shoes and really like them especially for around here.

Lisa - At least you have narrowed down an area and can make your search easier.

" What you do today can improve all your tomorrows." - Ralph Marston I need to remember this.

Healing angels to all who need them and congratulations to those with victories. Sue in WA

Charleen2

Score! Found the first of two white elephant gifts I need to get for gatherings this season. A free standing pink flamingo umbrella. Love it's little feet and ruffles. I can picture a nice manly man as the recipient.

https://www.walmart.com/ip/Flamingo-Ruffled-Umbrella/149355105?wmlspartner=wlpa&selectedSellerId=288&adid=22222222227051087816&wmlspartner=wmtlabs&wl0=&wl1=g&wl2=c&wl3=147659283985&wl4=pla-260977080446&wl5=9028898&wl6=&wl7=&wl8=&wl9=pla&wl10=111840139&wl11=online&wl12=149355105&wl13=&veh=sem

Grandmallie - you have been married for more than 10 years to Tom so you are entitled to a financial claim on his Social Security and any pensions he might collect or is collecting. Don't be fooled into thinking you are starting from scratch, you don't need his permission to make your claim on SS or pensions and he can't stop you either.

pipcd34

barbiecat

My new shoes are wonderful. I wore the tall ones this morning and the others this afternoon. It's worth the money to buy good quality shoes. They felt great. Didn't walk in the rain, but walked the dogs in the wet grass and came home with dry feet....17,000 steps today--maybe that's why I'm exhausted....the Physical Therapy exercises are really working on my back and I can feel the effect.

Barbie from wet NW Washington