I DO NOT WANT my cake and I DO NOT WANT to eat it too...
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OK, ok. NO cake, how about cinnamon rolls?
MINE :devil:0 -
For a grown-up, you seem awfully motivated by the avoidance of ridicule by others. It's weird, because I recall generally liking your posts.Honestly, you could cut a watermelon to look like a cake, and use fresh berries to make a sauce, using their own natural sugars over the watermelon. You could do whatever you like or make these suggestions.
If I went to a birthday party and they served this concoction as the "birthday cake" I'd be rather disappointed. I have zero doubt that it would be the subject of conversation and laughter for years.
Other people's opinions of me are none of my business. I have to live my life according to what is right, regardless of what other people will say about it. Being laughed at doesn't absolve me of that responsibility.
Not motivated by. Aware of.
The basic choice here is to either eat a slice of birthday cake, with zero health or fitness consequences, or deal with people bringing up your "healthy cake" or "crazy diet" for years to come. One of these is a great deal less trouble than the other.0 -
For a grown-up, you seem awfully motivated by the avoidance of ridicule by others. It's weird, because I recall generally liking your posts.Honestly, you could cut a watermelon to look like a cake, and use fresh berries to make a sauce, using their own natural sugars over the watermelon. You could do whatever you like or make these suggestions.
If I went to a birthday party and they served this concoction as the "birthday cake" I'd be rather disappointed. I have zero doubt that it would be the subject of conversation and laughter for years.
Other people's opinions of me are none of my business. I have to live my life according to what is right, regardless of what other people will say about it. Being laughed at doesn't absolve me of that responsibility.
it seems his only focus- is if people will be talking about him.
For the record- I"m going to be talking about this later.
1. to my friends
2. to my gym friends
3. on my other forums.
just in case you were wondering buddy. and yes- I'm going to be laughing at you just so you have a heads up and you feel like I"m not doing it behind your back... I want you to know that it's going to happen so we are all square and fair.0 -
To each his own. I have plenty of weirdo idiosyncrasies that my family probably talks about me about behind my back. I know they do for other people, so I just assume that I'm included in that too. So what's one more thing?Not motivated by. Aware of.
The basic choice here is to either eat a slice of birthday cake, with zero health or fitness consequences, or deal with people bringing up your "healthy cake" or "crazy diet" for years to come. One of these is a great deal less trouble than the other.0 -
aren't you divorced now? should have heeded the signs...I vomited immediately after my wedding cake tasting.
I feel this is totally relevant and should be noted.
Cake is evil.0 -
So... I'm confused. If there's no such thing as sugar addiction and it's just a lack of willpower, why are you all berating the OP for attempting to exercise willpower by not doing something that (possibly the case here, not sure) she knows will make her lose control?
Maybe I missed a post, but where did the OP say she knew it would make her lose control?
She said she doesn't eat sugar and fat because they're so bad. Which is a ridiculous reason to not have a freaking piece of cake on your birthday if you like cake.
If you simply don't like cake, that's a different story.0 -
I'll probably have forgotten all about it by then, so not me. Sometimes I need somebody to remind me, "Carly, not every song is about you." :laugh:it seems his only focus- is if people will be talking about him.
For the record- I"m going to be talking about this later.
1. to my friends
2. to my gym friends
3. on my other forums.
just in case you were wondering buddy. and yes- I'm going to be laughing at you just so you have a heads up and you feel like I"m not doing it behind your back... I want you to know that it's going to happen so we are all square and fair.0 -
To each his own. I have plenty of weirdo idiosyncrasies that my family probably talks about me about behind my back. I know they do for other people, so I just assume that I'm included in that too. So what's one more thing?Not motivated by. Aware of.
The basic choice here is to either eat a slice of birthday cake, with zero health or fitness consequences, or deal with people bringing up your "healthy cake" or "crazy diet" for years to come. One of these is a great deal less trouble than the other.
Considering the OP started a thread on MFP worried about how a refusal will be taken and interpreted by those close to her, it's safe to assume she's at least somewhat concerned about what those people think and say about her. Don't you think?0 -
Its your birthday, you do what you want.0
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I would let her know so that she can make alternative plans. Failing that, I'd just take a small piece and work it into my calories for the day.0
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You can tell her to send it to me. I do not label food, I eat it and figure out how to make it work.0
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That's really pretty.0 -
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No, it's tall fruit salad . . . but it's still pretty.0 -
No, it's tall fruit salad . . . but it's still pretty.
Lol at tall fruit salad.
It is pretty, just not cake
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Can't you let yourself eat something yummy on your birthday??...
I know I could and plan to.
I just so happen to not find cake yummy enough, personally I'd rather have a 2nd helping of fried calamari or another cosmo. I'm puzzled by those who seem to think everyone finds cake yummy and push for others to feel the same.0 -
[/quote]I'll probably have forgotten all about it by then, so not me. Sometimes I need somebody to remind me, "Carly, not every song is about you." :laugh:
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oh but I'm shallow and have no life- so I need to make sure I mock as many people as possible.. makes me feel better about myself.
snicker.
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Lol at tall fruit salad.
It is pretty, just not cake wink[/quote]
it is what it is- and if she wants tall pretty fruit salad for her birthday- then LET HER HAVE IT!!!
Where did this whole "we must have cake for the birthday's thing come from anyway??"
I'd love to have a beautiful fruit salad and chocolate covered strawberries for berfday- sounds delicious.
or gelato cake > store cake nom nom nom0 -
Not even chocolate peanut butter cream cake coated in ganache and graham crumbs? :flowerforyou:
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I'd enthusiastically grab the first slice of cake, take one teeny bite and say I loved it, then walk away with my plate and leave it somewhere.
To the person who posted early in the thread that this is an anorexia-in-the-making strategy? Yeesh!! You got your tricks, baby...I got mine!!
This ^ is probably how I'd handle it too.
It was more the playing with it and pretending to eat it.
I don't necessarily think I need to clean my plate. I might eat half a cupcake if that's what I feel like doing. I don't, however, pretend to eat it. I would also suggest a cake alternative so that the issue didn't even come up.
Like ice cream? Cause to me birthdays are always cake and ice cream.
Chocolate covered strawberries! Yes, culturally, birthdays are cake and ice cream...so eat the cake. But if you have a real aversion to C&I, whatever your reason, it's not that hard to find a fun and festive alternative that everybody would love and think was original. You don't have to buy Hallmark cards for Valentine's Day either.0 -
Is it rude to refuse a piece of my own birthday cake?
My sister-in-law always purchases a store bought cake
for my birthday. I do not eat dessert/packaged or, in my view,
'unhealthy'(sugar, fat and other 'questionable' food-like products)items.
Will it be rude to refuse a piece? What can I say to her when I'm offered a
piece?
Thanks!!
yes, it will be rude to refuse. accept a slice and remove all the frosting. 1 piece of cake will not kill your entire diet.0 -
Not even chocolate peanut butter cream cake coated in ganache and graham crumbs? :flowerforyou:
I would NOT refuse this ^^
I would. It's nothing personal, I just don't like peanut butter cakes.
Yup, I totally get your point. A few posts back I stated I would not eat a slice of coconut cake cause that is just yukky *to me*.
And that's why it doesn't make sense to me to read others say "just eat it" ~ even if we really don't like/want it? That makes no sense to me. IME saying "no thanks" is perfectly okay.
Exactly. If you don't like it, why would you let a friend go through all the trouble of getting this for you?0 -
Don't cheat yourself treat yourself
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Just posted this over the weekend among me and my friends:
?Why are people afraid to turn down food? I've seen so many people discuss eating simply to be polite. I don't believe in this whatsoever. I have a right to control EVERY bit of food that goes into my mouth regardless of whose feelings it might hurt. Would you do drugs just to avoid hurting someone's feelings or just because some authority figure presented it to you? Heck, I turned down my own birthday cake at work this year. Is it really that you're trying to be polite, or is it an easy excuse? Or am I just a really nasty person with no regards for the feelings of others?"
If I'm mean and nasty, then I'm mean and nasty. If you're a family member, friend or co-worker YOU KNOW I'm trying to lose weight and busting my *kitten* to do so. If you STILL choose to buy me a cake - SORRY about your hurt feelings. You knew better.........
what she said0 -
Are you currently getting treated for an eating disorder? ( as per previous posts) if so I would discuss this with your therapist. IMO it would be good for you to have a slice of cake. No foods are unhealthy in moderation and you need fats and sugar as part of a balanced diet.
Are you people KIDDING me!!!?! This person is wondering how to politely decline cake, and all of a sudden she has a disorder? Come on people.... :noway:0 -
Oh, the horror.0
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I would be so disappointed to see this at a party, get cut a slice and find there's no cake in there :sad:0 -
lol this is one of my favorite threads of the day.
also, birthday tacos should NOT be left off the list of cake alternatives.0 -
I would certainly tell her ahead of time that you won't be eating cake, so that she's not expecting you to. If push comes to shove, you could always tell her you're trying to lose weight and have been doing well lately and you're afraid you might over-do it in secret later if you start 'cheat'-ing now.
Also, be certain to tell her you really appreciate her efforts and thank her for the thought, because that's what counts after all, init?0 -
Yup, it is rude. Unless you tell her in advance so that she doesn't go all out thinking she is pleasing you. Personally though, I'd choose my sister's feelings a gazillion times over a piece of cake. Especially a sister who would buy me birthday cakes. Happy birthday and be happy for the lovely family you have 0
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