WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MAY 2017

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  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    GloworminWA wrote: »
    bowling-fall-smiley-emoticon.gif made me think of Terri - hope she's doing well <3

    There are many I think of and miss. Hope they are all doing well. ((( hugs))) for you dear Gloria. Hope your load lightens. <3.

    Janetr okc
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,259 Member
    Happy belated Birthday PIP!

    :heart: Margaret
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,661 Member
    barbiecat wrote: »
    :)Kelly, A gratitude list is a good tool in dealing with any negativity. Meditation is another tool that has served me well. Also, personal inventory....take stock of the things you want to do that DH is opposed to--is there merit in what he says, have you taken on too much, listen with an open mind in case you can learn something. Then just be like the clock in the thunderstorm and keep on ticking. Thank him for his concern and suggestions and keep on preparing. Also vent with us and not with him.

    <3 Barbie

    Very, very wise, Barbie. I found that's the best way for me to deal with my DH's negativity and depression. And strangely, I catch him using that strategy on me... B)

    Lanette
    SW WA State
  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
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  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,326 Member
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  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Machka: I'm so happy that your test results brought good news and the feeling of relief. Yay!!! :heart:

    Gloria: Thanks for mentioning Terri. We haven't heard from her in a very long while. I think she was posting to us from work and she had to stop. I hope things are going okay. :flowerforyou:

    Kate UK: The yellow shirt is certainly eye catching. Your DH would fit right in wearing it in Eugene, OR. That is an Oregon Duck color. The other is green. :wink:

    NYKaren: Enjoy your DC getaway. :smiley:

    KJ: I have two suggestions for effective anti-depression tactics. The first is Vitamin D3, also known as the sunshine vitamin. I take capsules year round, more in winter and slightly less in summer. The second suggestion is exercise. Moving more increases optimism. If I could only get my own DH to do that. :grumble: These are both long term strategies and not instant fixes. I also like Barbie's advice. Good luck!

    Pip: Love the family photo. Is there one with you in it, too?:wink:


    I have yoga this morning and plan on a dog walk, too. My poor dog had to get shots to comply with licensing requirements and also for his own sake. He got one in each hip and is clearly sore. Perhaps a walk will help ease away the pain. I have yoga today, but I may be able to squeeze a short walk in before I go, and then another after I get home from the gym. If I was sore from shots that is what I'd probably do for myself. I would also take aspirin. I wonder if we have any baby aspirin around.

    Katla in beautiful NW Oregon


    "So many of us believe in perfection, which ruins everything else, because the perfect is not only the enemy of the good; it's also the enemy of the realistic, the possible and the fun."

  • klanders30
    klanders30 Posts: 2,569 Member
    Kelly so many insightful comments from others! Barbie's advice was super wise about self care. I will just add from my own experience with my DH, that the more positive I stay, the less his pessimism brings me down. Also my dh's point of view is just another way of looking at things, and there is no harm at looking at things from another perspective as long as you keep being true to yourself. You are an excellent "flipper" as we all know, but it is exhausting staying positive and proactive. Sometimes my husband's very different temperament feels like the yin to my yang, other times its just jarring and dissonant. We're in a bit of a low point right now, hoping a get away will improve things.

    NYKAREN

  • spikeyhair
    spikeyhair Posts: 2,078 Member
    LENORA - love the aging list, we should all try to live by most of this advice.

    Kate UK <3
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,661 Member
    Lenora - Love your list!!! <3<3

    Becca - Thank you for keeping us laughing! <3

    <3 Heather - I have a start of French Tarragon I'm going to pot up shortly - the slugs got to my nice plant from last year. Thankfully our local nursery gets in a dozen little plants each year, and not that expensive. Love your fuschia and self watering pot.

    Penny - I will savor the photos of you and the snow this weekend - looks like 90 here on Monday. <3

    Katla - you are a sweetie for taking flowers to the graves. I think this Monday, when the cleaner comes, I'll spend a little time at a pioneer cemetery our friends maintain, then perhaps head to some thrift stores to find a cheap gardening shirt with pockets and/or an old sturdy wooden chair to put in the potting shed. The one I have now is a little wobbly. <3 Was going to work at one of the MG Demo gardens...but might wait on that until it's cooler later in the week.

    I'm in taking a quick break from gardening. So thankful I only worked in town on Tuesday... DH and I have gotten so much done around here these past few days before the hot weather this weekend. B)

    Later my friends!

    Lanette
    Sunny SW WA State
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,716 Member
    Lanette - I had no luck finding French tarragon. I have only ever found it once. Neither could I find small Rosemary, thyme or sage. There were all kinds of fancy, ornamental varieties, but I want the boring, culinary kind. Wrong time of year I guess. We are taking out some of our raised beds, so I need new plants as our old ones are much too big to move.
    I did sow sorrel, arugula, curly parsley and flat leaved parsley. The cilantro and dill have self sown. :D

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
  • gotu52
    gotu52 Posts: 315 Member
    KJ I try not to feed negativity so I walk away or change the subject unless I really need to engage in the subject. In those moments I try and it is not always easy, to remember all the things I love and appreciate about my DH that at times I can cut him some slack.

    Worked out at the gym early this morning, ate well and feel great!

    <3 Sarah, Ontario.
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,531 Member
    Took the deep water class today. Before the class went to give the Humane Society my aluminum but the container to put it in wasn't there! After exercise went to the Salvation Army (you never know what you'll find), stopped at Dollar General for a toy that was on sale, got gas, then Aldi. Came home and helped Vince cut the grass. Tonight we have a baseball game to go to with the Newcomers. I already have my "Pocketbook" packed -- a veggie burger on a whole wheat round, carrots, tomatoes, a clementine and some Just Peas

    The plan for tomorrow is to do the "6 Weeks to a 6 Pack" DVD that I just got. We shall see how it is....

    Joyce - when we first got Loki he was only a few weeks old. He had the loudest "purrer" I've ever heard. Unfortunately, that went away. The way we introduced the cats to him was we had him in the back bedroom (we had a litter box and food in the bathroom adjoining the bedroom) and one-by-one we brought the other cats into the room and let them sniff each other. We took them out when they seemed to have had enough. Little by little, the time they spent together extended. Good luck to you!

    katla - glad the glasses worked so well. Isn't it amazing?

    Kate - great job sewing. Well, look on the bright side, whenever your dh wears the shirt, you won't lose him in a crowd!!!!

    Just talked to Jess. Told her that I was getting my food to take with me since I really don't care for greasy hamburgers and chili swimming in grease. She said "ma, you know it's OK to take a day off once in a while". I don't mind taking a day off, but I also know that I won't feel good at all and I don't want that to happen. So I'm taking my own food

    KJ - congrats to your son on the promotion

    Carol - these robes are something that I believe the girls will be wearing when they get their makeup done. To me, it's an expense that you really don't need, but that's just me. I need to keep after Vince to do things. Sometimes I think he does it mainly to shut me up. But I'm still waiting for him to put the quarter round in my exercise room. Well, it's only been going on 4 years right now. I got rid of the filing cabinet in the garage that's been there for 10 years only because I did the work. Now Vince needs to go thru the papers to see what we need to keep. I may start going thru them since there are some papers we don't need -- like receipts for getting the lawn cut in our old house

    Lenora - loved your list, but one thing...if you use all your money today, what happens if you become an invalid and have to pay for a nursing home or someplace like that?

    Michele in NC
  • lhannon062709
    lhannon062709 Posts: 1,140 Member
    Well, mixed blessings... the Big Giant House deal fell through. I still don't know why I went slightly crazy and convinced my husband to put in that bid. Not sure why it drew me so. But HUD countered at more than twice as much as we bid, so we took the out the universe offered us and simply said no, we wouldn't counter. That was part of the decision we made this weekend that I spoke of earlier. If we were able to withdraw, we would, so we did. With the warehouse still unsold, we don't have the cash reserves to do what that wonderful old house needs. So, one potential weight off our potential plate.

    And the roller coaster is chick-a-chick-a-chicking up the next incline... just clinging on to the safety bar. As we have for the last year.

    Love y'all,
    Lisa in West Texas

  • coastalgosgal
    coastalgosgal Posts: 2,900 Member
    edited May 2017
    Beeeautiful day. You know what I'm doing!
    Becca!
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Heather: We have a number of garden centers that have veggies as well as ornamentals. If you have checked the ones in your area and not found what you want, I wonder whether there are specialty plant nurseries nearby that would have things you want. You can probably order seeds. It is slow but flexible and practical. :flowerforyou:

    Becca: Don't forget your sunscreen. :devil:


    I just planted a row of royal burgundy bush beans. I hope the seeds germinate & thrive. In a week or two I'll plant another row. I'm putting them where I've traditionally planted my cherry tomato. I didn't want one this year because it gets to be overwhelming. It grows huge and I can't keep up with all the tomatoes. I made the change for the fun of it.

    Katla in beautiful NW Oregon

    "The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another." - William James


  • suebdew
    suebdew Posts: 1,298 Member
    Missed so much but I have been reading.
    Happy Birthday Pip. Love the puppies picture.
    Penny - awesome pictures of your wonderful area. We are so hot and humid here and you said below freezing. Hard to imagine we live on the same planet.
    I am trying to get myself back on track with eating and posting but somewhere along the way lost my momentum. I went to water aerobics this morning at our outdoor pool and water was so cold. Still not warm!!!
    Welcome to all the new ladies. Seems like there is another Texas girl but I forgot the name, could it be Ann?
    SueBDew in TX
  • mikesmom1983
    mikesmom1983 Posts: 582 Member
    Dana, I loved Cheyenne, WY when I stopped there on a cross country trip About 20 (wow has it been that Lon) years ago. A friend and I stopped for the night and couldn't get a room because the asphalt convention was in town, in July! I very nice young man at one of the hotels did find one for us in a run down motel. Better than nothing when you are hundreds of miles away from civilization. Had the most fantastic steak dinner. Bought an authentic cowboy hat to commemorate the visit, i smile every time I see it.

    Enjoy your visit. Safe travels.

    Chris in MA
  • mikesmom1983
    mikesmom1983 Posts: 582 Member
    Kate in the U.K., you made that?! Wow are you talented!
    Chris in MA
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,047 Member
    Nice day, nothing planned for the weekend but possibly a little shopping with DD. We will finish cleaning up the gazebo area and probably eat out there for Memorial Day.

    Katla - Glad the new glasses are now working well.

    Penny - Gorgeous pictures.

    Becca - Don't sunburn. Have you ever considered being a laughter yoga instructor? I think you would make a good one. I took laughter yoga classes a few years ago and really enjoyed it.

    Joyce - Hope the kitties continue to adjust.

    Everyone have a wonderful weekend, Sue in WA
  • GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS
    GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS Posts: 2,573 Member
    Michele – While that is a ‘good point’; I try not to ‘fret’ over it. We’ve got all our bills paid, so really the only thing we have to pay for is mortgage, utilities, phone, car, gas, and groceries. We decided to ‘cash’ in some of our retirement [my inheritance] and live off our SSI and my retirement. We call the money that Louis takes out of his business, our ‘fluff’ money and we have an Emergency fund. I guess in a way our DOS and DDnL#1’s bankruptcy brought to mind how things can get pared down and live within our means. They were going to have ‘more’ spendable income that we did. I told my DOS that I would no longer pay towards ‘tuition’ and that the 3 years of ‘property taxes’ we have paid for them would need to be paid back. Basically, I will ‘forgive’ the debt by what I was paying for ‘tuition’ each month. He agreed to do it; and, our DYS paid the final $2500 still owing on the FASFA loan when he went off to college. I hope that ‘good genes’ will be for both of us. They’ll just have to sell the land if they can’t pay for me to be in a nursing home, otherwise. Same for Louis … but, each of us had parents that lived well into their 80’s as well as grandparents and aunts and uncles. We have Medicare and other health insurance. I don’t want to live with my children, healthy or otherwise. DYS is more likely to help with finances that DOS; but, DOS will check on us, daily if necessary. But, it is my belief that we don’t ‘know’ what the future might bring … today is the present we have received and be thankful for. It isn’t like we have ZERO money … we have money we can get to immediately and other money that is invested. Paying off bills that had ‘high’ interest rates was like saving a $600 a month. When you look at the bills, they show how long it will take you to pay them off if you only pay the minimum; and, we always paid more. We agree that we will no long use ‘credit cards’, especially ‘bank credit cards’; because it is the ‘interest’ you are paying that they are making their money on; they don’t want you to pay them off monthly. Some still charge interest on the month you carry a balance. We sat down and, for maybe the first time in our marriage, made out a budget that covers everything that we might even ‘consider’ spending. If Louis could no longer work, and that is a possibility with a job that is psychically taxing as painting house is, then that money will go away and I would like to think we ‘could’ live off our SSIs and my Retirement.

    I think about my parents, as well as my in-laws, who did not have any retirement and they made it. They had insurance and that was it. We have a stand of timber that 'if' times really got rough, we could clear-cut it; but, don't want to. We've thinned it twice and probably won't cut it in our lifetimes. Our grandparents had a totally different life-style. I’m sure it is not for everyone. I have a medical condition that could easily mean ‘long-term care’; but, as long as I take my medication and it continues working for me – that is great in my opinion. Louis is 75 and he works a psychically taxing job; but, he is also a “Type-A’ personality. He is always doing something. I wonder, at times, if he is ‘mowing the grass’ just to sit on it with his earplugs and not a worry in the world. Sure, I’d love to travel. My oldest sister and her husband are always going somewhere. Usually with friends. I have a HS friend who is in a ‘committed’ relationship and she’s been places with him that she never ‘dreamed’ of going. She is always posting pictures on these faraway places and it is almost like I am along with them. We have lunch together 4x a year and they tell us all about it. Not in a bragging way, her S/O is really a very humble man.

    I guess I just don’t worry about a lot of things. As for you, you have a very active life; I’d like to have ½ as much energy and places to go ‘for fun’ as you seem to have in your community; but, we live ‘out in the country’; but, the ‘peace and quiet and unhurried time’ is special.

    Louis had Madison’s boyfriend’s Dad come over and look at the porch. Finally! I can see it being finished and I am so excited that ‘if I knew how to line dance’ I’d be doing it. Does hopping around count as dancing? When I started buying plants and putting them out there, I think he realized just how important (to me) that it was to have it finished. I’ve been opening the French doors to it from the bedroom and in the afternoon he comes in and makes a remark about the doors being open. In the mornings, it is a lot cooler out there than it is inside. In the afternoon the thermostat is set of 75 and I am comfortable. I’ve enjoyed just going out there in the mornings and reading. I have got to get him to look at the rocker (metal furniture) we bought several years ago and show him what I ‘think’ will ‘fix it’. I might have to do it myself and if so, I will. But, that is just me … I can do things that need to be ‘fixed’ if I have to. It’s nice when he does it for me. I think the only thing that upsets me is when he talks about ‘if he had been smart he would have gotten a 15 year mortgage, that way the house would be paid for’. Well, it isn’t, so stop talking about being stupid … we did what we had to do; and, I refinanced it one day without him being in on the decision and the interest rate went to the ‘lowest point’ it has ever been and we knocked off $45,000 right off the bat. I think I surprised him by doing something that he wasn’t in on the decision, although we do talk about ‘big things’ like that. DDnL#2 sent me a book on finances and it prevented us from making a ‘really stupid’ move. But, some of the stuff in the book was geared to younger couples, not ones that are retired or only working because that is his choice.

    Lenora
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,204 Member
    :) I love my Friday morning dance class. It was smaller than usual, most likely because of the holiday weekend. I was happy to see one student who has been gone in her RV for many months. She and her husband came back to town for a few days and she had him bring her to dance class. She has been dancing in classes in many other states and said nice things to me about how much she missed my teaching compared to teachers in other classes. I don't need compliments to keep me going, but it did feel good.

    :)Lenora, those were great reminders.

    :)Katla, what good news about your glasses

    :) I didn't sleep well last night so I welcomed the opportunity to take a nap this afternoon with the whole family.

    <3 Barbie
  • coastalgosgal
    coastalgosgal Posts: 2,900 Member
    Yep Katla. I am a smart nudist! My husband is my one and only oil man! Course he swatted my behind as I was lying on the sleeping bag on the deck! That man tsk! tsk!
    I have never heard of a laughter yoga teacher?!! I shall research that!
    Well I have a small chicken in the oven, gravy, mashed potatoes, dressing and peas with bread. Its like Thanksgiving for chickens! Well this little chicken is probably not to happy, but whatcha gonna do!
    Becca
  • pyanko7
    pyanko7 Posts: 153 Member
    To all my American friends, have a wonderful Memorial Weekend. Take care and stay safe.
    Attached is a picture of the lap top quilt i have just finished.

    Hugs everyone
    Paula Y
  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    Paula Y - the quilt is gorgeous. I love the colors.

    Janetr okc

  • clowe1028
    clowe1028 Posts: 137 Member
    I really enjoyed the first day of a 4 day weekend. Spent most of the day outside cleaning and enjoying the pool. Scrubbed the tile and grout. I love crepe myrtles and have 6 of them in the small backyard, but they really can put a lot of debris in the pool.

    My daughter an granddaughter dropped by for a bit. They didn't stay in the pool long. The water may have felt a little chilly to Madison.

    The high was 93 today with a heat advisory for tomorrow. It seems like the temps have stayed in the 80's for longer this year.

    No big plans for the rest of weekend. Need to do some yard work and hope to start a new book.

    Hope everyone enjoys the weekend.

    Cathy, Arlington, TX
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