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This is jealousy, pure and simple. She's trying to make you feel insecure and make herself feel better. She also might have some boundary issues. Asking to see a heavier pic of you after you said you didn't like to show people old pics is crossing the line.0
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My first thought isn't jealousy- it's honesty. I know everyone has a different take on things, and everyone has a perfect potion for body fat/height/fitness level maybe she was trying to nicely mention that you look a little thin and maybe she is worried that you might not be in the best mind frame......... some people get obsessed about loss, and you do seem to post pics that show ribs, and teeny tiny legs..... don't be so skeptical about people. She probably did not anticipate you over thinking what she did either.
THIS!! I just saw a picture of your ribs and thought oh my...but the picture with the red colored shirt is really nice of you. Anywho, if you feel great, then so be it! Congrats on your success :drinker:0 -
The red colored shirt is the "before" picture.
I can let you take a guess on which pic I feel better about.
Again, I am not underweight, and have seen a doctor several times who verified this. The fact that the previous gentleman said I look pale, weak and frail cracks me up. The fact that he thinks I do too much cardio and eat too little makes me laugh too.0 -
some people just don't have any tact !!!!
In real life, and in this forum. Seriously, who the hell thinks they have the god given right to comment on somebody else's body?
Rude.
Apparently...you do:
"Hello - I was over 200 lbs in that picture. I did not feel beautiful, was not healthy, and was eating like crap. I personally don't think ANYBODY looks good with excess fat on them, and I am not an exception. "0 -
I relocated out of state for a job about a year and a half ago. Nobody in this office has ever known me to be overweight, although I have shared with a few people my weight loss journey.
One woman who I normally get a long great with asked to see a picture of the overweight me. I really don't like showing those to people, and told her so, but pulled one out anyways off my phone.
She said, "Wow you look beautiful there. You actually look better with a little weight on you than you do now."
Ouch.
Hello - I was over 200 lbs in that picture. I did not feel beautiful, was not healthy, and was eating like crap. I personally don't think ANYBODY looks good with excess fat on them, and I am not an exception.
She then started asking others to see if they shared the same opinion - nobody would touch that one with a 10 foot pole, especially the men.
She herself is a very fit person, eats right and exercises, so I know this didn't stem from jealosy - I think she was just being honest. Maybe she was trying to make me feel better about showing her that picture, but in my head all it did was confuse the hell out of me.
I know other people's opinions shouldn't matter, but I would be lying if it didn't hurt my feelings. The message I got from that was that even though I'm now healthy, have more energy and can perform physical feats that I couldn't before, I look better when I'm pudgy, squishy, can't do a push up to save my life because I'm too heavy, and can't fit into normal sized clothes.
Thanks for listening to me vent.0 -
I find it hilarious that you see me as result off too much cardio and undereating.
I haven't done pure cardio in about 3 years. I lift heavy 3x a week, incorporating free weights and body weight training.
I eat about 2200 calories a day.
Go ahead and keep defending your choice to skinny/body shame somebody. Better yet, I would love to see you do it to somebody in real life. Let me know how that black eye works for you.
Wow. Hopefully someone who TOLD him a story wouldnt blacken his eye if he said "You know what, you do seem to have lost too much weight"
You say it is rude to comment, but YOU are the one who presented your "rant" in the first place.
I have to agree. I am concerned about your weight and that you do not look healthy... it isnt shaming to want to make sure someone takes care of themselves.0 -
If you were 200# in the red shirt picture... damn, girl, you wore it well. That is all.0
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I find it hilarious that you see me as result off too much cardio and undereating.
I haven't done pure cardio in about 3 years. I lift heavy 3x a week, incorporating free weights and body weight training.
I eat about 2200 calories a day.
Go ahead and keep defending your choice to skinny/body shame somebody. Better yet, I would love to see you do it to somebody in real life. Let me know how that black eye works for you.
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...to learn more about people who actually throw punches over being told that they may be a little underweight..
(I've always been told that I wouldn't say in person what I say on the forums...which I believe to be totally untrue and am actually more outspoken IRL...but if there are people out there who routinely throw punches over stuff like this, maybe I need to reconsider...for my own physical well-being.)0 -
I find it hilarious that you see me as result off too much cardio and undereating.
I haven't done pure cardio in about 3 years. I lift heavy 3x a week, incorporating free weights and body weight training.
I eat about 2200 calories a day.
Go ahead and keep defending your choice to skinny/body shame somebody. Better yet, I would love to see you do it to somebody in real life. Let me know how that black eye works for you.
In...
...to learn more about people who actually throw punches over being told that they may be a little underweight..
(I've always been told that I wouldn't say in person what I say on the forums...which I believe to be totally untrue and am actually more outspoken IRL...but if there are people out there who routinely throw punches over stuff like this, maybe I need to reconsider...for my own physical well-being.)0 -
^kinda got my comment out of order there...but you know what I mean :blushing:0
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jealous people always give digs, sucks to be them!0
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Maybe she doesn't like having attractive competition in the office? :P
This was my first thought too. Watch out if she starts bringing a lot of cookies by your desk.0 -
It's not different than achieving a six pack. A six pack is not an indicator of health either, and can only be achieved depending on your body type. However, it doesn't seem to induce the anorexia scare that the thigh gap does.
A thigh gap is about body type and not anorexia. I'm still 30 pounds overweight and I have a thigh gap. People need to chill out.0 -
OP: You are wonderful. You have accomplished so much and have gotten so far. Don't let anyone put you down for that. I am definitely not skinny right now and the way my body is my ribs almost always stick out a bit (I hate it, but whatever. That's what I was dealt).
You seem to be eating plenty.
You are strong and maintaining your strength. Your doctor has commented on your good health.
Are you happy with your body now? That's what mattersYou are not starving yourself.
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I agree with the lady. I would have NEVER said that. I have my own demons to fight. If you like it, I love it.0
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Thanks of all of you who have been supportive.
This unwanted critique on my own personal body is very demeaning and offensive. Not only did I experience this at work, but I got to experience it again here. So thank you for that.
I never asked for a critique, nor for anybody to creep my profile. I was highlighting a situation at work.
I am ecstatic with the body I have. If I was not eating enough or saying I wanted to lose more weight and having trouble, I might be able to see the concern. However, that is not the case.0 -
I think she might have just been expressing her honest opinion obviously that doesn't make it okay or tactful. I think a good friend/ family member should pull someone aside to discuss it, not really sure how close you are to her. And I also don't think that kind of behavior belongs in the work place.
However I know from experience when family or friends lose a lot of weight that if we think it looks unhealthy, we will bring it up out of nothing but pure concern. Please try not to feel like anyone is judging you or your body. It seems like the comments here are coming out of concern. Try not to be so defensive about it. I mean if you are truly happy and comfortable with your body, then there is nothing to be defensive about. Just be happy that you are part of community where people care and will speak up if they think something might be wrong.0 -
Maybe she doesn't like having attractive competition in the office? :P
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I think she might have just been expressing her honest opinion obviously that doesn't make it okay or tactful. I think a good friend/ family member should pull someone aside to discuss it, not really sure how close you are to her. And I also don't think that kind of behavior belongs in the work place.
However I know from experience when family or friends lose a lot of weight that if we think it looks unhealthy, we will bring it up out of nothing but pure concern. Please try not to feel like anyone is judging you or your body. It seems like the comments here are coming out of concern. Try not to be so defensive about it. I mean if you are truly happy and comfortable with your body, then there is nothing to be defensive about. Just be happy that you are part of community where people care and will speak up if they think something might be wrong.
I think this is a great way to look at the situation.0
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