GUYS: HOW MUCH WOUND U SPEND ON A RING

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  • JesseDP00
    JesseDP00 Posts: 367 Member
    Three months salary IS the general rule. That's why you save for a ring. This also provides the prospective groom to really think about his decision and the selection.

    Yeah, "general rule" from those who want you to spend your hard earned money - in today's economy, spending three months of salary on a ring is absolutely crazy.
  • TinaBean007
    TinaBean007 Posts: 273 Member
    I don't really have a need or desire to have a wedding band. A nice engagement ring will do me just fine. Never saw the point of 2 rings.

    My wife's engagement ring was in the style of a half eternity ring set with (small) rubies, emeralds and diamonds (really small ones!) That ring means a lot more to her than the wedding ring ever will because the engagement ring is about love, the wedding ring is simply about formalizing what was already there ;-)
    And... congratulations!

    Exactly

    Well, I'll give you my side to this- but I warn that I'm an emotional sap. My engagement ring symbolizes something very special to me that I share with my husband only. It's the moment in time when we decided to connect our lives forever as spiritual partners. My wedding band represents my commitment to our marriage that I made in front of our friends and family. The two will be forever connected together but have distinct meanings. After 9 years, this hasn't changed, but I hold my husband and marriage as a top priority in my life.
  • kimosabe1
    kimosabe1 Posts: 2,467 Member
    go to a pawn shop-I got a high class diamond there for $900
  • Synapze
    Synapze Posts: 499
    When I was 16 i went to a Gumball machine and a little blue plastic ring fell out.

    I jokingly proposed, and gave it to my girlfriend.

    8 years later i brought an actual ring, and married her, but to this day...20 years later, she still insists on wearing the Gumball machine ring.

    :)
  • Fullsterkur_woman
    Fullsterkur_woman Posts: 2,712 Member
    I'm a material girl. De Beers all the way.
    Gimme one o' them *blood* diamonds! :laugh:
  • PixieGoddess
    PixieGoddess Posts: 1,833 Member
    Money is not important at all. The ring my boyfriend and I are looking at is $200 at a local antique store (it's from the 1920s) and is even better b/c it has a great story behind it:
    Our friend works at this antique store, and we were visiting her at work one day when we'd only been dating a few months. I teased my boyfriend by pointing out a ring and saying, "I'd like something like that - just a simple solitaire, very classy, in silver or white gold." Our friend glances at the ring I'm pointing at, looks back up at us, and says, "That's the cheapest ring in this case. It's $350." So I told my boyfriend, "See? I'm cheap!" :laugh:
    We've laughed about this for years now. Then a few months ago, we were at an event with this friend, and I decided to tease him a little more by telling her (in front of him) that we needed to come pick out a new ring, now that we were discussing marriage. She replied, "That ring is still there. It's only $200 now." My boyfriend told me to go try it on, and it fits, so at this point, I'm just waiting for it! :happy:
  • Blacklance36
    Blacklance36 Posts: 755 Member
    The diamond industry says you should spend three months' salary. But go with your instincts. An engagement ring isn't even actually required. If you'd rather spend the money on something useful, either forego the ring altogether or get something less expensive. If it isn't important to you to have an expensive, fancy ring, you don't have to have one!

    Listen to what she just said...its the diamond industry that says 3 months. Do you think they have a vested interest? Why listen to someone that is only in it for the money?

    engagment ring
    wedding ring
    suffeRING
  • Frank_Just_Frank
    Frank_Just_Frank Posts: 454 Member
    Find the kind of ring you want (never mind all the rules), figure out how long it'll take to save for that and do it. I don't know why people act like it's a bad thing, I loved getting her the ring she wanted.
  • Fullsterkur_woman
    Fullsterkur_woman Posts: 2,712 Member
    When I was 16 i went to a Gumball machine and a little blue plastic ring fell out.

    I jokingly proposed, and gave it to my girlfriend.

    8 years later i brought an actual ring, and married her, but to this day...20 years later, she still insists on wearing the Gumball machine ring.

    :)
    I love this story. Thank you for being man enough to share it with us. I wish you and your wife many decades more of happy, healthy, wedded bliss!
  • MyaPapaya75
    MyaPapaya75 Posts: 3,143 Member
    @Cherry I think its so cool you don't know how much was spent....its the surprise factor to me makes it more special
  • pchesnut
    pchesnut Posts: 347 Member
    My suggestion.... I really wouldn't spend a lot for 2 reasons...

    1. You are just starting out and you will certainly need the money whether you think you will or not

    2. Should your marriage succeed (and it takes a LOT of work) then celebrate it with a more expensive ring at your 10, 20, or 25 yr anniversary.

    My ring cost around $900 and I absolutely love it! I am not materialistic though and would rather my husband take me on a vacation than spend a lot on jewelry. It's a nice gesture to buy an expensive ring, but not a big deal in my personal opinion.


    So totally agree with this. When you hit 5 or 10 yrs...go upgrade it.
  • Kassidi21
    Kassidi21 Posts: 267 Member
    the ring I picked out (before we saw the price haha) is 2,299.99.... We're really tight on money but I offered to help pay for it... I realize "it's the guys job" or whatever to get the ring...but i feel since i got to pick it out i could help pay for it =P I dont know if this helps at all... but it's an option
  • Beastmode454
    Beastmode454 Posts: 340 Member
    My rings was a lil over $800.. its Tungsten and has 1/10ct dimond row down the middle its a beautiful ring i love it. It just says i'm married.. does not look like a casual ring that doesnt fit on any other finger. my wifes ring cost me $4,200 and it was a set.. we bought it before the date it was even suppose to go on display...
  • evgenythe2nd
    evgenythe2nd Posts: 36 Member
    350$
  • Mia_RagazzaTosta
    Mia_RagazzaTosta Posts: 4,885 Member
    I love my ring and my then-fiance bought it for me when we were piss poor. We literally had nothing and he was able to pull enough together to buy me what he knew I would like and it was exactly what I wanted. It's nothing fancy, but neither am I. If he wants to upgrade it on one of our big anniversaries, I won't stop him, but this ring holds a lot of sentimental value to me and I wouldn't do it on my own.

    I'd love it just as much if it were fake. Anyone with any class wouldn't walk up to you and ask if it's real. However, if you don't make a ton of money and people who know you know that, then walking around with a 3 carat fake will definitely tip people off. Get what is affordable. The ring does not make the marriage.
  • MozzarellaSheep
    MozzarellaSheep Posts: 100 Member
    My ring cost $60, and I cherish it.
    It shouldn't be about the price tag. It is about the commitment.
  • MrsPong
    MrsPong Posts: 580 Member
    I'm a jewerly person, so I love the bigger the better!
    YET...my boyfriend was just getting home from Iraq and we already had a baby so I said something like not "huge".
    Should of let him....he had alot of deployment money ;-)

    Anyways... He spent about 3 grand on my ring. I also have 2 diamond bands added on as of now (4.5 years later)....so maybe 4 grand now?
    So 3 months pay? --- was about right.
  • Codename_Duchess
    Codename_Duchess Posts: 2,042 Member
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    Practical, inexpensive, fits my macros. What else can a girl ask for?
  • cherryd69
    cherryd69 Posts: 340
    @Cherry I think its so cool you don't know how much was spent....its the surprise factor to me makes it more special


    I have a rough idea... but i dont know the actual figure. We had discussed what type of ring id like before the proposal (cant remember how it got brought into the conversation) but he got just what i wanted.


    Our wedding bands cost around £400GBP
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  • Julzanne72
    Julzanne72 Posts: 468 Member
    I read this today....."Neither the size of your diamond or the extravagance of your wedding will make your marriage last. That takes something money can not buy" I loved it. I don't know what my finace spent on my ring, and I don't want to know, nor does it really matter to me for that reason, yes I love it and it is beautiful, but it is not what is going to make our marriage last. He should spend what he is comfortable spending, and in my opinion, you don't really need to know what he spends.
  • tomwatso
    tomwatso Posts: 1,304 Member
    The rule I was told was 2 months salary.
  • tomomatic
    tomomatic Posts: 1,794 Member
    An engagement ring is a terrible investment in your future. If you look at the history of the engagement ring, it was a tradition that started in the 1930's as the result of a worldwide marketing campaign. If you can afford one, great. if you can't, please don't sell a body part to make the payments and start your future off on financially sound footing. The #1 reason marriages fail is over finances.

    With all that being said, I was young, foolish. I spent every penny I had saved since high school and college. I asked her to marry me in our senior year of college. Eventually, I had to sell a few treasured possessions to afford the down payment on our first house.

    Don't forget: You still have to pay for the wedding. (That's more money that you're not getting back!)
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  • Julzanne72
    Julzanne72 Posts: 468 Member
    Also, I don't think I would ever "upgrade" or get rid of my original ring because in the future we could afford more. Add to it, maybe? Anniversary bands are out there, but I wouldn't get rid of the ring he got for me, because to me there is nothing better than the one he gave to me on the day he asked me to be his wife, it is more about what it represents and less about what it costs.
  • sarah44254
    sarah44254 Posts: 3,078 Member
    $20
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    I would definitely go with a really inexpensive ring and then upgrade on an anniversary like someone else said.

    I don't think your advice will be taken. I think it needs to look good on Facebook.
  • YaGigi
    YaGigi Posts: 817 Member
    I'm a material girl. De Beers all the way.
    Gimme one o' them *blood* diamonds! :laugh:

    I eat meat, wear leather and fur. I drive cars, fly air plains.

    Lets be real. I can care less about those bloody diamonds.
  • redsk
    redsk Posts: 27 Member
    You should buy a lovely, well made used ring with some history rather than a new ring a Zales or another crap store. Your money is better spent elsewhere. This article is extreme but if you do some research you may come to find that it isn't any industry you're not willing to support. http://www.policymic.com/articles/51981/how-a-clear-worthless-stone-with-a-brilliant-marketing-campaign-conquered-the-world

    Basically what tomomatic said. It is a tradition founded in capitalism much like the wedding industry.
  • FishingGuy75
    FishingGuy75 Posts: 59 Member
    None. I made that mistake once in my life and I can't see ever doing it again.