GUYS: HOW MUCH WOUND U SPEND ON A RING

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  • Hollywoodm55
    Hollywoodm55 Posts: 155 Member
    My ring was dirt cheap... and I picked it. We already had kids, and I wanted to buy a house. Honestly I've been forgetting to wear it recently because I have to take my rings off to lift and play sports so it's whatever your comfortable living with. Of course it would be nice to have expensive things but not important :)
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
    I don't care about price. If it means something to him or to me, that's what counts.
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  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    Perfect! Looks hyooge on Facebook. Costs very little...and is a constant reminder not to eat too much since licking it would reduce it's size and impress me factor. It's like an exercise in restraint.

    ringpop.jpg
  • chrisvinci
    chrisvinci Posts: 49
    Well in New York City, the man is required to spend about 3 Years salary as a minimum. 3 Months salary on a designer bag gets you the first date in this crack town.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    Also, there are wedding forums like, TheKnot.com where you can ask these questions. Brides are usually willing to share this kind of info.

    But then she wouldn't get to rub it in OUR face how much her BF does for her and appreciates her getting mad over his brother's not appreciating him?
  • TheBitSlinger
    TheBitSlinger Posts: 621 Member
    Didn't buy a ring, but I forged one myself. It was awesome. Into this ring I poured all my cruelty, my malice and my will to dominate all life. Then I lost this one ring in the most stupid, goofy way you can imagine (I don't want to talk about that). I looked for it for years while it changed hands a few times. The last possessor fell into a molten river with the ring in his hideous possession. I fear it is gone forever.
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  • YaGigi
    YaGigi Posts: 817 Member
    Well in New York City, the man is required to spend about 3 Years salary as a minimum. 3 Months salary on a designer bag gets you the first date in this crack town.

    Yes, God bless NYC :))))
  • BrainyBurro
    BrainyBurro Posts: 6,129 Member
    Perfect! Looks hyooge on Facebook. Costs very little...and is a constant reminder not to eat too much since licking it would reduce it's size and impress me factor. It's like an exercise in restraint.

    ringpop.jpg

    and it goes well with one of these. isn't it all about accessorizing?

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  • TKelly06
    TKelly06 Posts: 225 Member
    My husband and I picked out my ring together. We went to a Jeweler on a half off sale and got a great deal on a better cut diamond because someone ordered it then didn't buy it. He paid $1300 and was appraised at $2200 right after for insurance purposes but that was about 10 years ago. Buy what you can afford and take advantage of some kind of deal we did. You just never know what you might stumble upon. Good luck, and definitely make sure you put it on your renter's/home owners insurance!
  • PepperWorm
    PepperWorm Posts: 1,206
    I had a fake $5 costume jewelry ring to exchange with my husband when we got married.

    A few weeks later, his mother gave me a ring that was passed down from generations. Very special moment.

    We resized the ring a few months later and added gold for a total of $80.

    I never understood the need to spend so much money on a ring. I wear the ring I was given out of respect for my new family and feel it has sentimental value, but had I not been given one...I wouldn't have one at all.
  • Ed98043
    Ed98043 Posts: 1,333 Member
    3 months salary is ridiculous. If a guy making $6k a month spent $18k on a ring for me I'd make him return it. Conversely, a man who's just starting out and makes $2k a month shouldn't be spending $6k on anything that doesn't have a roof or tires. However, a couple of guys here have mentioned that 1% of take home salary is their opinion...really? So, about $400 for a man making $60k before taxes sounds about right to you?

    I think 1 month's salary is a good guideline, and only if you can afford it.
  • ElyseL1
    ElyseL1 Posts: 504 Member
    Find the kind of ring you want (never mind all the rules), figure out how long it'll take to save for that and do it. I don't know why people act like it's a bad thing, I loved getting her the ring she wanted.

    good man! my hubby did that for me too. I told him he could buy me the cheaper ring (a 1200 wedding set) and he refused, he said as his wife he gets me what i want and what he thinks will make me the happiest. I love it :)
  • Tuffjourney
    Tuffjourney Posts: 971
    As much as the ring you want costs - you have to wear it the rest of your life!
    Of course something you like within reason.

    Been married 33 years, havent worn the ring in 32.5 years. Not much of ring gal. :wink:
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    Didn't buy a ring, but I forged one myself. It was awesome. Into this ring I poured all my cruelty, my malice and my will to dominate all life. Then I lost this one ring in the most stupid, goofy way you can imagine (I don't want to talk about that). I looked for it for years while it changed hands a few times. The last possessor fell into a molten river with the ring in his hideous possession. I fear it is gone forever.

    maybe you will get it back when someone who is wearing it crawls out of the TV with wet hair?
  • CarlaMichelle
    CarlaMichelle Posts: 67 Member
    We skipped the ingagment ring and went stright to the wedding band which i wore thruout the engagement then i handed it over to him the day before th wedding :) Sorry I never asked how much he paid and i still don't know after 6 years of marriage LOL
  • TheBitSlinger
    TheBitSlinger Posts: 621 Member
    maybe you will get it back when someone who is wearing it crawls out of the TV with wet hair?

    RAWHAHAHAH! Say, what the heck are you doing in your profile photo? :huh:
  • c_tap77
    c_tap77 Posts: 189 Member
    My ring was about $2000 when my husband proposed in Feb 2012 and I cherish it. I had some say in picking it out but he made the final decision and decided what to spend. It was paid off before our wedding and we still have just a couple more payments on the bands (our wedding was in June).

    My best advice is to find a style you like and show your boyfriend pictures and let him go from there. If you want to try some on, tell him to give the person at the jewelry store a price and don't try anything on over that budget.

    They will give you a figure you can borrow based on your credit score but DO NOT LISTEN TO THIS NUMBER. My husband barely made minimum wage at the time and they told him he could purchase an $8,000 ring...and I told him that he'd better not because he would be paying it off for years!!!!

    If your boyfriend can afford this more power to him--no judgement at all. It was just more important to us to start off our marriage without debt than for me to have a huge diamond.

    You don't want to start your married life in a lot of debt so just remember that the ring is about the promise he is making to you!

    Best Wishes!!! This is such an exciting time in your life!!!! Enjoy every second of it!!!!!
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  • chrisvinci
    chrisvinci Posts: 49
    At least someone knows i'm not making a joke
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  • AglaeaC
    AglaeaC Posts: 1,974 Member
    Or you could just split. It is pretty old-fashioned to ask from a man to pay for a ring when we are supposed to be equals in basically all other areas.
  • Donald_Dozier_50
    Donald_Dozier_50 Posts: 395 Member
    Absolutely NOTHING ever again. After 34 years of marriage, being married at me 18 and her 17, if anything were to ever happen to her.......................... I sure as hell would never do that again.
  • FitterStrongerHappier
    FitterStrongerHappier Posts: 65 Member
    Well, my husband and I will be celebrating our 15th Anniversary later this month - been together for 19 years. Important to mention I think.

    That said, my feeling on this is that the ring should 'cost' the man in that it should be an investment and something he has to think hard about, and FEEL the effect financially. Mainly because I think it needs to be a financial sacrifice, to show that he is willing to invest in the relationship. This doesn't mean it has to be thousands of dollars. If all the man can afford, within reason, is $10 on a ring, then so be it.

    If he's a billionaire, then a mega ring would make sense. In my case, my husband paid zero for the rings - he used an old set of rings that I gave him, and had them melted down to make a unique, one of a kind ring for me. So the price of the ring, was the melting and design of it - about $400. We also got some comfort wedding bands, and I can't recall the price of them at this point.

    $400 and he was probably making around $30k at the time, so no where near the 3 month salary, but $400 definitely was not a drop in the bucket either.

    It's a sign of commitment, and if it's so easy to buy that the man could get 10 of them at that price, that doesn't mean so much, does it?

    Lastly, I didn't want him spending a ton of money - I'd much rather invest money in a home - SERIOUSLY - than a piece of metal and stone. I'm not materialistic at all - rarely wear jewelry, and am more concerned about real investments (rings can be, as someone pointed out, but they are also easy to lose).
  • JuzDuIt
    JuzDuIt Posts: 222 Member
    We ordered up mine online for about $700 and it's perfectly lovely. The diamond industry would tell you 6 months salary if they thought they could get away with it!
  • beckieboomoo
    beckieboomoo Posts: 590 Member
    Im not bothered as long as its pretty :)
  • Salekdarling
    Salekdarling Posts: 19 Member
    My husband and I decided on a ring that $500.00. It's a princess cut and sits up high so it looks bigger than a .25 carat. Plus, our wedding bands were bought on etsy for $80.00, and they look awesome. :) No need to go into debt for a ring.
  • FitterStrongerHappier
    FitterStrongerHappier Posts: 65 Member
    Absolutely NOTHING ever again. After 34 years of marriage, being married at me 18 and her 17, if anything were to ever happen to her.......................... I sure as hell would never do that again.

    are you saying you wouldn't marry again after your wife, or that you regret having married her in the first place? not sure where this was coming from or going?
  • quicklabs
    quicklabs Posts: 254 Member
    We were struggling grad students when we got engaged back in 1979. My husband bought me a solitaire "1/2 caret" cubic zirconia ring set in a simple 10 carat gold setting. It was around $70 at the time. While in a jewelry store recently, the clerk asked me if I would like it cleaned. I said sure. As he handed it back to me, he said, "That sure is a beautiful diamond."
    Without looking at it through a jeweler's loupe, no one can tell the difference.
    34 years later, though we could now afford a real diamond, I wouldn't trade my cubic zirconia for all the money in the world.
    My best advice is to be practical. If you can't afford a diamond, get something else. But never, ever stretch yourself thin financially over a ring. The real treasure is your love, which I hope will continue to increase in value through the years.

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