GUYS: HOW MUCH WOUND U SPEND ON A RING

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  • chrisvinci
    chrisvinci Posts: 49
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    At least someone knows i'm not making a joke
  • AglaeaC
    AglaeaC Posts: 1,974 Member
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    Or you could just split. It is pretty old-fashioned to ask from a man to pay for a ring when we are supposed to be equals in basically all other areas.
  • Donald_Dozier_50
    Donald_Dozier_50 Posts: 395 Member
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    Absolutely NOTHING ever again. After 34 years of marriage, being married at me 18 and her 17, if anything were to ever happen to her.......................... I sure as hell would never do that again.
  • FitterStrongerHappier
    FitterStrongerHappier Posts: 65 Member
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    Well, my husband and I will be celebrating our 15th Anniversary later this month - been together for 19 years. Important to mention I think.

    That said, my feeling on this is that the ring should 'cost' the man in that it should be an investment and something he has to think hard about, and FEEL the effect financially. Mainly because I think it needs to be a financial sacrifice, to show that he is willing to invest in the relationship. This doesn't mean it has to be thousands of dollars. If all the man can afford, within reason, is $10 on a ring, then so be it.

    If he's a billionaire, then a mega ring would make sense. In my case, my husband paid zero for the rings - he used an old set of rings that I gave him, and had them melted down to make a unique, one of a kind ring for me. So the price of the ring, was the melting and design of it - about $400. We also got some comfort wedding bands, and I can't recall the price of them at this point.

    $400 and he was probably making around $30k at the time, so no where near the 3 month salary, but $400 definitely was not a drop in the bucket either.

    It's a sign of commitment, and if it's so easy to buy that the man could get 10 of them at that price, that doesn't mean so much, does it?

    Lastly, I didn't want him spending a ton of money - I'd much rather invest money in a home - SERIOUSLY - than a piece of metal and stone. I'm not materialistic at all - rarely wear jewelry, and am more concerned about real investments (rings can be, as someone pointed out, but they are also easy to lose).
  • JuzDuIt
    JuzDuIt Posts: 222 Member
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    We ordered up mine online for about $700 and it's perfectly lovely. The diamond industry would tell you 6 months salary if they thought they could get away with it!
  • beckieboomoo
    beckieboomoo Posts: 590 Member
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    Im not bothered as long as its pretty :)
  • Salekdarling
    Salekdarling Posts: 19 Member
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    My husband and I decided on a ring that $500.00. It's a princess cut and sits up high so it looks bigger than a .25 carat. Plus, our wedding bands were bought on etsy for $80.00, and they look awesome. :) No need to go into debt for a ring.
  • FitterStrongerHappier
    FitterStrongerHappier Posts: 65 Member
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    Absolutely NOTHING ever again. After 34 years of marriage, being married at me 18 and her 17, if anything were to ever happen to her.......................... I sure as hell would never do that again.

    are you saying you wouldn't marry again after your wife, or that you regret having married her in the first place? not sure where this was coming from or going?
  • quicklabs
    quicklabs Posts: 254 Member
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    We were struggling grad students when we got engaged back in 1979. My husband bought me a solitaire "1/2 caret" cubic zirconia ring set in a simple 10 carat gold setting. It was around $70 at the time. While in a jewelry store recently, the clerk asked me if I would like it cleaned. I said sure. As he handed it back to me, he said, "That sure is a beautiful diamond."
    Without looking at it through a jeweler's loupe, no one can tell the difference.
    34 years later, though we could now afford a real diamond, I wouldn't trade my cubic zirconia for all the money in the world.
    My best advice is to be practical. If you can't afford a diamond, get something else. But never, ever stretch yourself thin financially over a ring. The real treasure is your love, which I hope will continue to increase in value through the years.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,695 Member
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    One will never get what they paid for a ring (with maybe an exception of an auction or selling to a collector), so why not just buy a style ring you want and get a diamond of your choice put in? My wife and I did that and a ring that would have sold for $3500 on the market or store, actually only cost less than half of that. Same look, same carat for gold and stone.

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  • Donald_Dozier_50
    Donald_Dozier_50 Posts: 395 Member
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    My boyfriend mentioned saving for a ring since he just started a great new job. We talked about it and neither of us really know an appropriate amount to spend on a ring. I have heard something about 3 months salary, but that seems...a little crazy to me. How much would you spend on a ring? Any women who are buying engagement rings are welcome to respond too. No judging here.

    FACT: It is not about making sure to spend a certain amount of money to meet some artificial standard, you buy what you feel you can afford and you and he like. Saving ahead is a heck of a lot smarter than financing. You have a smart guy there.
  • vienna_h
    vienna_h Posts: 428 Member
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    I'd rather skip the engagement ring, and just get a pretty wedding band.

    Most girls won't agree with me, but I never liked engagement rings, feels like being "bought". How about I marry you because I wanna spend the rest of my life with you, and not because you bought me fancy jewelry... not impressed by material things.
  • LuisHmfp
    LuisHmfp Posts: 7
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    Maybe I should change my id to "ElCheapo". Thirty-six years ago I spent $250 for a 1/3 carat diamond engagement ring and matching simple wedding band. Had I spent significantly more than that (Probably transtlates to abou $1000) my wife probably would have killed me. After thirty-five years of marriage she does not wear the rings. They are too small and she isn't about to leave them in a jewelry store to be resized. But we still love each other. What you pay for a ring does not matter if it truly symbolizes your life-long commitment to each other.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
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    ...remember ladies, you're going to give the ring back later when it's over, right? So, it shouldn't really matter to you at all.

    inorite. you should totally quote that thread here. so we can see who the hipocrites are.
  • AglaeaC
    AglaeaC Posts: 1,974 Member
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    I'd rather skip the engagement ring, and just get a pretty wedding band.

    Most girls won't agree with me, but I never liked engagement rings, feels like being "bought". How about I marry you because I wanna spend the rest of my life with you, and not because you bought me fancy jewelry... not impressed by material things.
    Oh, I'm probably in minority here too. I asked him to marry me and there was no askings of hands in marriage but simply a "We are engaged now".
  • southerndream24
    southerndream24 Posts: 303 Member
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    Well in New York City, the man is required to spend about 3 Years salary as a minimum. 3 Months salary on a designer bag gets you the first date in this crack town.

    Oh come on. We're not that bad. I'd let the bag slide to at least Date 3:wink:
  • Bankman1989
    Bankman1989 Posts: 1,116 Member
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    I paid $11k for my ex-wifes (which at the time was 2 WEEKS salary now its more like 2 months). Obviously it was a mistake on my part but I am no Mario Williams. I paid straight cash HOMEY so thay part I didnt have to endure years later. I would pick out something nice and affordable. Its the commitment not the ring that matters!
  • SueInAz
    SueInAz Posts: 6,592 Member
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    My current profile pic is the ring we just purchased for me for our 25th anniversary in June. It's not fancy but it's something different and it's ME. I think that's more important than how much it cost (which was only about one month's salary). It's my fourth ring over the 29 years we've been together, each a little nicer than the one before, although this time I wanted just the band, no solitaire. There's no rule that you have to wear the ring you get before you get married for the rest of your life.

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