WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MAY 2018

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  • bwcetc
    bwcetc Posts: 2,827 Member
    Evelyn ... sorry the wedding was difficult ... I'll be praying your OS opens his eyes soon. You and your husband look great though!

    Lisa ... was the house a foreclosure? Wondering why bids at a certain time. Hoping you get it!

    Rye ... kudos to you for fitting into your wedding dress! I just want to say, I really enjoy your perspective on life ... you have a lovely, kind soul ...

    Question: If you take curcumin/tumeric for inflammation, what dose are you using? My doctor ok'd me to try it instead of the NSAID I've been taking ... but she told me she was unaware of long term studies to suggest therapeutic levels or side effects.

    Finishing up what I'm calling "phase 1" of medical appointments ... these were the big ones I'd been avoiding ... gynecologist, internist, colonoscopy, mammogram and ophthalmologist. Everything is going well ... some unexpected results with the gynecologist, but not anything life-threatening. "Phase 2" to begin in June ... dermatologist for a skin check, podiatrist for some foot issues, urologist for recurring UTIs, and finally an audiologist to pursue cochlear implants. I've finally had enough with my hearing loss. I'm 55 years old and people treat me like I'm 100 because I can't understand anything being said around me. Sheesh.

    It is very hot here in Buffalo, NY. We started May with a snowstorm and we are ending the month with 90 degree weather! No transition at all.
  • LisaInAR
    LisaInAR Posts: 2,020 Member
    Beth (I think - @bwcetc ) - Yep, apparently it was. I did some research in the county files, and found that there were two different listings for the same property, one that said it was owned by a couple, and one that it was owned by the Department of Veteran Affairs. Which means that a veteran defaulted on a VA loan... and the VA is just trying to recover the amount owed, rather than actual value. Which makes more sense of the price... but makes me very sad. My fertile imagination keeps making up stories of what happened.

    And it makes more sense of some of the questions asked in the paperwork, including whether the offeror had ever had a VA loan, etc. And I have had one, which we successfully paid off, and I'm the veteran--oddly enough, I was the first name on the papers, due to the fact that, 9 years later, Corey's credit still suffers from his ex-wife's bad decisions, so my credit rating's higher.

    And, just got a phone call from the Quicken Loans people--which is who I used for this, and they told me they certified us with a "guaranteed close," which might affect the decision as well. Who knows?

    Lisa in AR
  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,952 Member
    evie1958 wrote: »
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    The bride and groom, my son and daughter in law. The professional photographer was taking photos and I just snapped this in between and from a different angle. Perhaps that's why nobody is smiling....yee5vnteg72f.jpg
    Hubby and I in our wedding finery.
    Glad the wedding is over with, got snubbed by the bride, she didn't even come over and say anything to us after the dinner, son came over, but only briefly. The bride's aunts and siblings were far more welcoming and friendly than she was. Our son, when he was standing and waiting for his bride didn't even look in our direction. We were less than 10 feet away, might as well have been on the moon. Our grandson was there, of course, but we hadn't seen him since Easter and he's not quite two, pretty sure he didn't know who we were. Knew his maternal grandparents just fine, but not us. All in all, I'm glad it's over. It was so nice to see our younger son, although his visit was much shorter than I would have liked, but he's the man in charge at his work, so.... He also brought his cat with him, said he couldn't find anyone to take the cat and apparently he has separation anxiety. lol. Fortunately, we like cats, and he's a sweetie. Picture following.wmm16c9wehae.jpg
    Younger son told older son that he didn't care if he forgot about him, but he should remember mom. Older son had, and probably still has, no idea what YS was talking about, I do tho. OS still hasn't said anything to me about Mother's Day. As in "Happy Mother's Day Mom". He tried to ask me what was wrong at the wedding, we were getting ready to leave. I just told him that this wasn't the time. I dropped their gift off the next day at the house, DIL actually said hello and got GS into the house to "say hi to gramma". He had been playing in the yard and didn't really want to come in the house and say hi to anybody. And when I left OS said "see you soon". Really? Will we?
    Oh well, it is what it is. I do hope we can get this all out soon and maybe open their eyes a bit.
    Enough of my pity party.
    Lisa, hoping you get the best news about the house.
    Kelly, hope you feel better soon!
    Rye, thanks for explaining the F stuff and aperture so well! I'm not that into photography, but I do like to know a bit about different subjects. I must confess to glossing over that kind of stuff because it's usually so dry, but using the kitties (beautiful cats, btw!) was just brilliant! Made it ever so easy to understand!
    Lenora, I think the plant you have is a hoya. I have one that hasn't bloomed in forever. sigh. I love the smell of the flowers!
    So many more to comment on, but have to settle for hugs for those who need them, kudos to those celebrating, healing thoughts for those who are unwell (or who have family members who are unwell!) and welcome to the newbies.
    Evelyn, Vancouver Island

    I hope your son realizes how important you are soon, he should have spoken up on your behalf.

    My daughter that is getting married next year wants to ensure her fiance's Mom is a big part of her wedding. She lives in Manitoba so we have to do some juggling, but she is coming in February for a week for her and I to go shopping for dresses together and so she can be here when we make the invitations. She, my daughter, also has created a fb group that includes her future MIL, her bridal party and myself so anything she comes up with is shared there. My daughter is changing things up a bit on the wedding day as well. His parents are divorced and they get along OK, but his Father gets on his Mother's nerves quickly. My future son in law will be walking both Mother's down the aisle at the same time and there is going to be one big parents table so we are all together. I think it's a shame that some brides are selfish and believe it is all about "their day" and not the grooms as well.
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,097 Member
    im home and tired ,didnt sleep well ,going to bed soon..
  • bwcetc
    bwcetc Posts: 2,827 Member
    LisaInNCNow wrote: »
    Beth (I think - @bwcetc ) - Yep, apparently it was. I did some research in the county files, and found that there were two different listings for the same property, one that said it was owned by a couple, and one that it was owned by the Department of Veteran Affairs. Which means that a veteran defaulted on a VA loan... and the VA is just trying to recover the amount owed, rather than actual value. Which makes more sense of the price... but makes me very sad. My fertile imagination keeps making up stories of what happened.

    And it makes more sense of some of the questions asked in the paperwork, including whether the offeror had ever had a VA loan, etc. And I have had one, which we successfully paid off, and I'm the veteran--oddly enough, I was the first name on the papers, due to the fact that, 9 years later, Corey's credit still suffers from his ex-wife's bad decisions, so my credit rating's higher.

    And, just got a phone call from the Quicken Loans people--which is who I used for this, and they told me they certified us with a "guaranteed close," which might affect the decision as well. Who knows?

    Lisa in AR

    Ok! That house was too lovely to devalue by half! Sad to hear about a veteran defaulting on a loan, but glad to hear that the lower price wasn't due to hidden problems.

    Beth near Buffalo
  • langman22
    langman22 Posts: 786 Member
    Evelyn, I’m sorry the wedding wasn’t something you could enjoy and feel included. I believe in karma so hopefully what goes around comes around. You looked lovely though.

    Got through the dentist appointment and only have to have an old filling replaced. Going to have that done in 6 months at my next cleaning. I usually go every 6 months for a cleaning but life got in the way and it had been 2 years!

    Wasn’t able to move my foot appointment any earlier. I’ll have to just stick with the 12th.

    DH wasn’t feeling well today so stayed home. His heart again. His appointment is on the 19th. We are hoping that they decide to do a procedure where they “zap” some nerves that are causing the heart to misfire or skip. The procedure should fix the problem for life. Guess it’s a fairly routine procedure.

    Well that’s about it for today.

    Terry In VT
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,659 Member
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  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Evelyn I like that blue dress.

    Karen in Virginia
  • ryenday
    ryenday Posts: 1,540 Member
    edited May 2018
    Oh dear, lost my post. My fault for trying to sneak it in at work, I guess.

    Beth that is such a lovely thing to say. The timing was perfect too, I was feeling a little down when I saw it, thank you so much!

    I don’t do turmeric but I do eat a serving of dried Montmorency tart cherries which also supposed t to have a good anti inflammatory effect. Also they are purported to help one fall asleep. I think Heather does tart cherry juice.

    Good for you making all those health tests and things a priority. I need to emulate you.

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    How nice that my aperture explanation was helpful to so many of you! I’ll be following up with another part soon.


    Rye
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,269 Member
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  • KJLaMore
    KJLaMore Posts: 2,847 Member
    Just checking in before I go to sleep.
    Beth-Oh, I am so excited for you and the possibility of cochlear implants. My daughter had a 60% hearing loss as a child and after many surgeries we were finally able to get her hearing corrected. She still remembers her hearing going from something akin to being underwater and hearing muffled tones of people talking to actually hearing words, water running, whispers...Seeing videos with people benefiting from cochlear implants, just brings a lump of happiness to my throat!

    lol It is raining here and DH just opened the door to see how much (if any) it had cooled off. He shut the door and said "It smells like fish outside!" I laughed and said "You mean it smells like dirt and worms?" He says, "Whatever, it's disgusting! I don't want to smell that!" Personally, dirt and worms are one of my favorite smells.

    Evelyn - First of all, I agree with the others; you look fantastic in that blue dress! Secondly, I just think when you are mother of the bride or groom, weddings are a trial. My own daughter's wedding week/day were a pain in my a**. I was so busy (and it was all stuff that I agreed to do). But, all of the mother daughter things that we were going to do that week before (hair and nails and lunch) all got cancelled by DD in the time crunch to fit in things with her bridesmaids (who were all staying at my home, along with three of the groomsmen and the groom). When the wedding and reception were over, I mentioned that I was SO glad they were over and DD took offense. To this day, I don't think she realizes what it was like for me or what it meant to be pushed to the side and not acknowledged. Oh, to top it off, my mother and father in law sat BETWEEN me and my husband during the ceremony! I wanted to clobber all of them! lol...On the upside; my DYS told me that he plans to just have a simple ceremony and pizza for the reception. (Good luck getting a bride to agree to that!) I really don't think kids appreciate anything their parents go through, UNTIL they are going through it themselves!

    Terry- truly astounding when heart issues are "routine"! Zapping nerves to regulate a heartbeat. Amazing!
    Rita - Lovely view!

    Time to shut down the screen and stretch myself out a bit. ttfn xoxoxo KJ
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,269 Member
    stats for the day:

    bike ride hm 2 gym- 7.34min, 128mhr, 12.6amph. 1.5mi= 69c
    apple watch- 61c
    TRX- 43.10min, 5sets of 10ea, 7 diff exer., 120mhr= 191c
    apple watch- 205c
    Floor exercises- 3.55min, 112mhr, box pushups, 2sets of 10ea= 24c
    apple watch- 27c
    bike ride gym 2 dome- 4.30min, 145mhr, 19.8amph, 1.4mi= 55c think that's a new speed record, max speed was 40.7mph!!
    apple watch- 46c
    bike ride puy 2 sumn sta- 13.10min, 13.8amph, 128ahr, 155mhr, 3mi= 152c
    apple watch- 126c
    jog sta 2 wk- 5.14min, 148mhr, 134ahr, 9.59min mi, .5mi= 54c
    apple watch- 51c
    jog wk 2 sumn sta- 3.49min, 115ahr, 152mhr, 8.27min mi, .4mi= 61c
    apple watch- 54c
    bike ride dome 2 hm- 15.37min, 10amph, 149mhr, 134ahr, 2.6mi= 166c
    apple watch- 150c

    total cal 772
  • suebdew
    suebdew Posts: 1,298 Member
    Mmmmmm
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,321 Member
    B) still too hot to walk!

    RV Rita in Caballo Lake State Park New Mexico
  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,703 Member
    B)
  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,664 Member
    barbiecat wrote: »
    :)Cherie, thinking happy thoughts for you on the move to your new house.

    :)Lisa, if this house is the one for you, I hope all will work out. If not, there must be something better out there.

    :)Katla, good luck on finding the RV you want.

    :) Our adventure today was to go back to Olympic National Park and walk the easy trails at Hurricane Ridge. Unfortunately the trails are still mostly under snow so we walked a bit, enjoyed the view, and got home in time for lunch.

    <3 Barbie

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    Beautiful! I have such fond memories of Hurricane Ridge. I am glad you had such a nice day.

    Felicia
    Willamette Valley, Oregon
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    edited May 2018
    Heather: The bride and groom look wonderful. I wish them happiness. :flowerforyou:

    Thanks for the good wishes on the RV. DH really wanted this so he can travel and feel in control of his medicines, food and sleep needs. We bought it, & it is now in our parking lot. It is an older model but in good condition. :wink:

    Evelyn: I'm so sorry that you had a tough time at your son's wedding. I hope you'll be able to step past this and will eventually form a fond relationship with your new DIL. :flowerforyou:

    Lisa: Good luck with the house. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you. :heart:

    Sue in WA: I hope that your family reunion in August is a great success. Where will it be held? :star:

    Cheri: Congratulations on your new home. I hope the move goes smoothly and you are able to avoid as much heat as possible. :flowerforyou:

    Barbie: I love the photo of snow in the Olympic National Park. Beautiful! I was able to enjoy the view & snow, too, thanks to your great photo. :smile:

    Becca: I'm sorry you aren't feeling well. I loved seeing the little owl and it is good to know he was finally able to fly. :star:


    We are hoping to take our new (to us) RV someplace for the fourth of July week. The fireworks and fire-crackers that go off here really upset our dog. We expect at least 7 days & nights full of bangs, booms & explosions. Last year the noise caused our poor little dog health issues for months. The bangs and booms of the fireworks caused severe anxiety & he had to take medications for months to get over it. We're hoping to find a quiet place to spend the week in the RV.


    Katla in beautiful NW Oregon
  • evie1958
    evie1958 Posts: 864 Member
    Thank you ladies for your comments regarding the treatment we received at our son's wedding. Haven't talked to him yet about any of it, thinking of sending an email, I'm not good in person, I tend to get emotional and cry. That makes it difficult to remember what I want to say. Don't think I'll be doing that tonight tho, I'm pooped! I've slept better the last few nights than I have for a long time, but always wake up by about 8, which is too early when it's well after midnight when I fall asleep. Tonight should be earlier, on the right track for sure! Stopped the grazing in it's tracks tonite, brushed my teeth shortly after dinner, so no midnight munching for this kid! Gotta keep doing that! Had a good workout at the gym this morning too! Had an orientation last week which has certainly upped my interest in using the weight machines. Unfortunately, the time that I'm usually at the gym, the machines can be quite busy. Managed to do most things, had to do triceps on a different machine, but at least they got done! lol
    Barbie, eeeek! All that snow! No thank you!
    Janetr, tentative congrats going out to you! Have to tell a short story tho. A good friend was getting ready to get married, they hadn't really set a date yet, but one day just decided to go ahead and do it. Just invited family and a few friends so his family all thought she was pregnant. She wasn't, they didn't have their daughter til about three years had passed, they just decided to forgo all the hoopla, do a quick, quiet ceremony and reception! It's almost 36 years now for them, so I guess it worked out! lol
    Enough for me for now. Shower and bed are calling!
    Evelyn, Vancouver Island
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,530 Member
    Took the deep water class Wednesday. Did a body pump DVD Thurs. The plan for Fri is to do a Sweet Step DVD.

    Wednesday: Exercised, stopped at the Salvation Army (found one shirt I liked) then to Big Lots, then finished putting the mulch out. Actually, we had so much left over that we just put it at the back of our property. Vince being Vince for some reason kept saying that we shouldn’t have it real deep, that I should push it to the back of the weeds. Who cares? It’s just going to disintegrate anyway. Besides, it’s at the back of the property, it’s not like anyone is going to see it. Well, he pushed it and hurt his back again, so he didn’t go to ceramics (again). I went, took the dragonfly that I broke and then replaced to repaint it, I think Monday I’ll probably finish the snail and I also took the other seahorse.

    Lisa – fingers crossed for you to get the house.

    Katla – good luck with the RV

    Rye – what gorgeous pictures. You have a great talent

    Heather – the couple look adorable

    Carol – about sending a cake, you really can’t do any special decorations. I was going to put a border around the bottom, but the cake boards I had were 10”. I thought that would be big enough for a border, but it wasn’t. I just sprinkled colored sugar on top. I WAS going to make these marshmallow flowers, but they would never have made the trip. Vince usually packs it well. But we all know that the post office will probably do its thing (upside down, etc)

    Been having a lot of rain. Went to mahjongg Tuesday because with all the rain, we haven’t been able to do much at all.

    Vince mowed the grass under the power lines. Personally, I wouldn’t worry so much about those weeds. But he doesn’t want them to get out of control. I honestly don’t think they would

    I planted some seeds today, watered them, now to let God take care of them. These tiny red ants moved to another location so I poured gasoline on them. Wish I could find another way to get rid of them.

    Terry – for the life of me, I can’t understand someone preferring something store bought. Newcomers prefer something from a store rather than homemade. Part of that may be that you know what you’re getting, whereas something homemade may have items in it that you don’t care for. But I honestly don’t know why she prefers a cake from a store. Last year for her birthday I made her a “litter box” cake. It’s served in a litter box with a cat litter scoop as a serving utensil, you soften tootsie rolls and mold them to make “turds”. Since she worked at a middle school I told her she should bring it to school. Middle schoolers would find eating “turds” to be hysterical. Instead she wanted to buy a cookie cake from WalMart. I sent a lot of cake, I don’t know what she did with it all. Yes, that procedure where they “zap” the heart is very, very common. Vince had it and now has no problems at all.

    Evelyn – lovely pics. I really like the tea length dresses. To me, gowns are too formal. I tried to get Denise to have us wear a tea length dress but she wanted gowns (boo, if you ask me). At least your son came over to see you, neither Denise nor Pete came to see us. And only one person from Pete’s side of the family talked to me at all during the reception. Weddings should be a time of joy, so sorry it wasn’t joyful for you. But it’s over and done with now. You’re like me, I do much better in an email.

    Heather – Denise’s wedding had almost nothing to do with the bride’s parents at all. We could have been invisible for as much as we were acknowledged.

    Beth – good thoughts that everything goes well with all you appointments

    Will go to ACMoore Thurs. evening. I got the loom to make a scarf. I’m thinking that I’ll make one for Pete since I made the hat for him. Gotta measure how wide the scarf for Denise is (I made her a hooded scarf – which she probably won’t wear since it’s not store bought)

    Janetr – what great news! Another wedding – for whatever reason it’s still a joy

    Becca – hoping you feel better fast. Vertigo is a horrible feeling

    Michele in NC
  • LisaInAR
    LisaInAR Posts: 2,020 Member
    JanetR, another quick story on the quick wedding line... my brother married his wife the day after they both graduated from high school, so of course, everyone thought she was pregnant, as well. She had their son four years later--and everyone in the family calls it the longest pregnancy in the history of the world. :smiley:
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,097 Member
    morning ladies~
    Crazy Alfie decided to ump up on me at 3:30 this morning, lil bonehead..
    Katla ~ how exciting about the RV I would love to do something like that.. maybe when I retire
    I am going to drop the boys off at groomers and then get my Tal on the bus, then go get my hair done , get a check cashed Sean has some friends coming over to get all the junk out of the basement.. so my friend gave me a check so cashing it will help pay the people hauling stuff out...
    then pick the boys up at groomers then come home and do laundry
    well speaking of weddings.. my daughters is on the 16th of june.. with us doing most of the work..there will be about 100 people there, but in a park setting.so there will be games and things for people to do.. butat the end we will be breaking everything down, so I am bringing a change of clothes..
    I know my daughter appreciates me,both her dad and I help with Tal through the week, and have done alot for them..
  • 1948Peachy
    1948Peachy Posts: 1,511 Member
    Weddings: I got married two weeks after turning 21. My DH was stationed at Ft Knox KY and we got married 6 wks after becoming engaged (I was not pregnant). I only had 2 quarters left of college but was determined to join him at Ft. Knox. Luckily, he did not get shipped to Vietnam and finished his tour there. My mom arranged the entire thing and I had nothing to do with it which suited me just fine. It was lovely but if I had to do it over again, I would have eloped. My father was kind enough to help me finish those two terms about 4 yrs later.

    Today I am going to the dermatologist to have broken facial veins zapped. I hope it works out OK.

    Beth ~ I so do hope you will be able to get the implants to have your hearing restored.

    Katla ~ Enjoy your new motor home.

    To all who exercise, I tried doing some simple movements the other day and could barely walk the next. That shows how much I need to start exercising. LOL

    Carol in GA



  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,659 Member
    It's Thursday!

    Lisa - what a beautiful setting and very nice house for the $$. The bluebirds might be an omen!

    Rebecca     - bet your little owl is perched somewhere nearby watching you. Even at that age they have substantial talons so had a kitty or something else decided to make a meal of him, I'm betting he would have come out on top.

    Evie - lovely dress! Great color for you! The best part about the wedding is that it is OVER. Am I right? I am inclined to believe that for big functions like this, no one is in their right mind, lol. Hopefully as time goes on, the memories of hurt feelings will fade and good memories will resurface.

    When in my early 20's, I was asked by my best high school friend to help with her wedding - I wasn't an attendant but had some important function. Well, she decided to have it on Thanksgiving evening so her old high school friends could attend since they'd be back home anyhow! The wedding was at a church in another little town. Turned out to be one of the worst blizzards in Northern Indiana history that day and people risked life and limb getting to and from that evening wedding. I decided then and there when and if I got married it would be teensy with only family present. And that's exactly how it turned out.

    Cherie     - I don't envy you moving in the heat. Good ideas on keeping cool. I can see us doing it all at night when it is cooler and keeping all the neighbors up with doors slamming, lights on, yelling, etc. >:) Welcome to the neighborhood.

    Took the dogs to the groomer yesterday. They are too FAT! Especially Rosie, she's a butterball despite being on low-cal food. I knew she wasn't all fluffy hair. So the chow is going to be cut back a bit and she'll get a bit of shredded cabbage and carrots (which she loves) on top of her kibble instead of a bit of rotisserie chicken and yogurt.

    Barbie     - going to explore the park is terrific, thank you for the photos. And your comments about how light it's getting.... we have black out curtains but it seems that the light starts seeping in around them at 3:30 or earlier. The bedroom is on the NW corner of the house so they really help at night.

    Rita - hope it starts cooling off! How long are you planning to stay in NM?

    Katla - enjoy your new motorhome, hope you can find a quiet place to park it during fireworks week. Any more news on your nightmare neighbor moving?

    Michele - you are so sweet to send Denise a birthday cake. When I was working in Seattle, my grandmother in Indiana decided to send me a birthday cake to my work address to make sure I'd get it. She and my sis had it packed well, and my sis kept calling to see if I'd received it yet. I didn't. Sis put a tracer on it, turns out the mailman delivered it to the office next door to us in the same building. I found it there and asked the DUFUS office girl why no one had let me know or directed the mailman to the next door when he delivered it. She just shrugged. No one had the internet/facebook or cellphones yet so she had no excuse, lol. The cake was nearly 2 weeks old and a shriveled stale hockey puck by then.

    Time to get crackin. Dentist early this morning for tooth cleaning, the hygienist is named Joy and she is a blast. Good name for her.

    By the way, where's Barbara AHMOD? And DJ?? I've been skipping around so maybe missed them.

    Have a lovely day! <3

    Lanette
    Cool and dry SW WA State

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