WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MAY 2018

pipcd34

Katla have fun rv’ing

ryenday

I was 29 when I got married. John and I expected at that age to take care of the wedding ourselves. But my decisions about the wedding were making my mother unhappy. We ended up compromising. We would do it the way John and I had decided and John and I would pay for it. But If mom and dad had a recommendation, and wished it to take over any extra expense said recommendation would entail, We would most likely accommodate that. And we did. We ended up with a much more formal wedding and at least three times as large as what we had initially planned on.

But my mother was so happy!

My brother however, hurt my mother in what seems to be a not uncommon careless fashion with his disregard for her at his wedding. I saw how hurt she was, and that was one of the reasons I was so willing to acquiesce to things she wanted for my wedding.

Rye

kevrit

Katla I live traveling and living in my RV, except for the excessive heat of southern New Mexico! Lol

We will be heading 6 hours toward Northern New Mexico on Monday. Excessive fire watch due to drought between Albuquerque and Sante Fe. Campers and parks are closed because of that, so stuck here until Monday.

Very nice park with a lake so not so bad. Cool in the morning at least. Glad my RV air conditioner works so well for an old 1999 model!

RV Rita in Caballo Lake State Park New Mexico

KetoneKaren

Cheri Happy plant-moving day! Sounds as if you are totally organized. Not surprised. Your new home is GORGEOUS!!!

Katla Congrats on your new RV! Happy Trails!

Janetr I had to smile reading your post & the ones after it. I married my high school sweetheart when I was 18. My little town had only 2000 people in it, so the rumors flew fast and furious. My son was born 5 years later. I know a lot of people were sooooooo disappointed, LOL!!!

Evie Here is my perspective on weddings and the role of the parents of the bride and groom: First, it's way more stressful for the bride & groom than it is for anyone else. They worry about everything & everybody and can end up pi$$ed off, exhausted, or anxious when they are supposed to be having the best day of their lives. Secondly, squeaky wheels usually get the grease. At my stepson's wedding, my daughter-in-law's parents were squeaky wheels; they required a lot of grease and provided a fair amount of drama. My stepson's parents (his dad, mom, me, and the other step-mother) were low maintenance, and were largely ignored for the nuptial events except where we were "part of the plan". I looked upon it as a sign of trust to be ignored in a situation where there were so many demands on the time and attention of the bride & groom. They knew we would & could take care of ourselves, and we all tried to keep our eyes & ears open to see where we could ward off tiny disasters. I took my stepson into the beer cooler twice and wiped sweat off his face while he chilled out (the wedding was in New Orleans). He appreciated it, even though he was irritated initially. The second time he needed a break he caught my eye and pointed with a questioning look. I knew exactly what he meant and gladly played the role of the demanding step-mother as I dragged him away for another chill-out break he sorely needed. That was about the extent of my time with him the day of the wedding, except for the pictures. His mother (my partner) had one dance with him. That was it for her. We were totally fine with it. My daughter-in-law is a total extrovert and was having the time of her life. She is an ED doc so she thrives under pressure and can juggle multiple tasks/decisions at once with ease.

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Today is my grandson's last day of school! I am beyond relieved. He has his band concert tonight, and then he is free at last.

Today I am going to do the general decluttering/straightening so Catalina can clean our house, plant some more of the iris (I swear they are multiplying), go to Costco for a few items, and go to the concert.

For some reason, I started off the day by watching several tear-jerking YouTubes of some memorable "Britain's Got Talent" vocalists. I love it when they make Simon choke up.

Lots of rain in the southeastern part of the USA. Stay safe.

Karen in Virginia

kevrit

Weirdest sky on first night here. Moon was behind clouds lighting them up.

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kevrit

This is the Truth or Consequences Walmart parking lot. The panels you see are solar and power the entire store! Love this idea: shaded parking and running the store as well!

KetoneKaren

Rita. That is brilliant. Oh so smart of Wal-Mart. (Do you like my littly rhyme?)

kevrit

ketonekaren. LMAO!

LisaInAR

Wedding days - Mine was nine years ago next month, and I was incredibly stressed--not least because I made my own wedding cake. Was stressed and oblivious to the point that I inadvertently hurt my absolute favorite niece because I didn't show appropriate appreciation of her handmade gift, which was T-shirts for all the bridesmaids and me, with our titles (bride, bridesmaid, etc.) painted across them in big letters.

Please note, I have ZERO memory of this--my niece's mom, my sister, told me much, much later. I've since repaired the relationship with an abject apology, but honestly have quite a bit of sympathy for stressed-out brides and grooms as a result. They know not what the heck is going on around them, or at least I didn't. Every relationship is different of course, but ever since my own, I tiptoe carefully around all those about to get married.

Lisa in AR

csofled

Rita we need that in Texas! Cannot even find free shade in these parking lots.

Karen cute!

pipcd34

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ryenday

Rita those useful parking lot shadings are fantastic! Thanks for sharing them and I too wish we had those in Texas parking lots.

(Texas parking lots were even the morbidly obese, infirm and injured are willing to park at the far edge of the parking lot and walk if it means they can get park the car in a partially shaded spot!) Lol

OregonMother

lhscapil wrote: »

Barbie - going to explore the park is terrific, thank you for the photos. And your comments about how light it's getting.... we have black out curtains but it seems that the light starts seeping in around them at 3:30 or earlier. The bedroom is on the NW corner of the house so they really help at night.

I'm quite a way south from both of you, but I know what you mean about the light in the morning. By 5 am, it is light out. I kind of like it because it wakes me up early and it is a lot easier getting the boys up for school than in December when we don't see the sun until after 8 am. I hate sending my kid out to the bus in the dark.

I remember running around outside as a kid at 10 pm and it just being dusk. I loved that! Crazy PNW -- but not as crazy as the North Pole!

Felicia
Willamette Valley, Oregon

Snowflake1968

janetr7476 wrote: »

All this talk of weddings made me decide to share my NEWEST event. My 18 yo granddaughter (turns 19 in August) informed us all today that she got engaged today and if all can be arranged, will be married July 7th. Oh my. Ok so don't ask cuz I dont know, but of course we all are thinking it. Am I going to be a great-grandma twice just a few months apart? We shall see.

Janetr OKC

I was married at 18 in June and turned 19 in September. Will be married 31 years next month. I was pregnant when we announced the wedding but lost the baby three weeks before. My grandmother, for the first time ever in my life, truly hurt me when I told her I was pregnant. I have never been able to get those words out of my head. It sounds to me you might be a little excited to have another great grandbaby. If that is the case. I love your attitude towards it. To me there is so many worse things that can happen to a young woman than having a surprise.

OregonMother

Regarding store-bought and home-made baked goods.

No argument that home-made is better, but I know a lot of schools and organizations don't allow home-made baked goods because of the liability. Having seen other some people's kitchens, I agree with that policy.

Felicia
Willamette Valley, Oregon

Snowflake1968

OregonMother

RE: Weddings

My first one was supposed to be small, and it was, but because I wanted it small, I chose a very small church, and we had people overflowing into the hall way. My mother was annoyed. But she didn't like my choice for a husband (and it did end up to be a bad choice), so she was not very cooperative and was very critical of everything. The second time, we really did have a small wedding -- maybe 30 people. We threw it together in a couple weeks (I wasn't pregnant yet), and it was just fine. In the end, no matter how much you spend or don't spend, everyone is married the same.

We've had two of my husband's children's weddings (the oldest eloped). I'm just the step mom, so I just try to stay out of the way, be polite, and smile. At the second wedding, I was the wrangler for my mother-in-law. I volunteered to drive down the mountain, gather her oxygen tanks and her, and ferry her back up to the venue. I told my daughter-in-law, "Don't wait for us." She was devastated, "We're not doing this with you!" It was really sweet. My mil moved pretty quickly, for her, so I did get us there in time, but she (my mil) made a big show of it and had to act all faint and sick. Then she ignored me for the rest of the celebration. (She is not my biggest fan.) But I just smiled and was polite.

After it was all over, my step daughter thanked my husband because she was afraid her family would be the one to cause loads of drama, but we were chill. Her husband's family, on the other hand . . . Lol Oh, I guess I did cause a little drama with my step mil because I called her out on my fil's drinking. He was being a drunken *kitten* in front of my kids during one of the dinners before the wedding, and having had alcoholic grandfathers, I was not going to put up with that.

I have only boys, so I have accepted that I will be in the background in all of their weddings. I will stay out of the way, smile, and be polite.

I cry at every wedding I attend. Can't help it. I also cry at christenings and baptisms. I'm a sap.

Felicia
Willamette Valley, Oregon

skuehn48

grandmallie

OK you ready? I dont know if I am, I want honest opinions from all.. so far the people who have seen the hair say it was made for me and it looks fantastic.. because I haven't had my hair colored in so long ,im just sorta still in shock....sorry for the squint not great at selfies lol

SophieRosieMom

Allie - love it! Cute hairstyle too! Did you end up with semi-permanent color?

Lanette
SW WA State thinking about coloring her hair again....

ryenday

Allie, when I colored my hair, that was the color I always wanted but never quite managed to get. I think it looks great, and I like the haircut too!

Rye (who honestly has been thinking a lot about trying to add colored streaks to her hair like highlights)

pipcd34

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okiewoman510

Love it Allie!

Okie

grandmallie

permanent, she said wouldnt look right with temp color,,,

OhCaroleM

Hi all,

I am new, sort of. I have been using this site since January to log my journey from 166 lbs to 144 lbs. Along the way I got my husband onboard and together we have been doing what we can to eat better and get exercise.

I love that I am able to go for long walks with him now, he used to just say "See ya when ya get back!"

I didn't really have official goals for May, but below are my goals for June:

1) Don't over eat when traveling or at my daughter's graduation
2) Don't talk about my weight journey to everyone. (I'm excited about my loss but I know it isn't that exciting to everyone else.)
3) Up my running stamina from 1 mile to 1.5 miles
4) 10,000 steps or more per day (at least 5 days a week)
5) Break the 143 lb barrier (my scale is teasing me ... I can't seem to talk it into seeing things my way!)

Feel free to friend me!

Carole
Edmonds Washington in the Pacific Northwest

grogers511

Allie - love your hair. I once wore my hair in a similar color and style. I've let the color go natural but the style is still similar. Yesterday I was in Walmart shopping and I seriously thought about getting a temporary color - something wild like blue or purple - honestly just to tease Mama (91). I've tried to talk her into doing something wild with hair color just for fun.

--Ginger in Texas

1948Peachy

Allie ~ Love the hair. You need to add some lipstick and cheek color so your face isn't drained out.

grandmallie

ahhh on to make up ay?

bwcetc

evie1958 wrote: »

Thank you ladies for your comments regarding the treatment we received at our son's wedding. Haven't talked to him yet about any of it, thinking of sending an email, I'm not good in person, I tend to get emotional and cry. That makes it difficult to remember what I want to say.
Evelyn, Vancouver Island

Evelyn ... don't send an email. Emails are for conveying information. They are horrible for communicating feelings. No matter how talented you are at writing, emails cannot convey what you need to say personally. Your son needs to LOOK at you and SEE what words can never express.

Beth

Bethebestmeforme

Are you doing a June challenge would love to join in!