WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2018

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  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,234 Member
    morning ladies~
    I am up and showered and having my tea,, wont be able to feed my DFIL this morning as I have to get the oil changed on my car, which I will do over near where I am working today.
    I have an appointment with attorney next tuesday to do my funded trust...i feel this is the best for me , my SIL is hounding me to use the attorneys she used or her dad used,, but I will just not tell her what I am doing...
    It is hot and humid here and I am dressed in long pants and will bring a sweatshirt with me, it was 68 degrees in there yesterday and thank goodness I dresssed for it ..
    Barbie~ I sure hope you find relief soon, I know how much you miss walking the pups and your line dancing,,,,
    Lisa ~ good luck today..
    Heather~ hope you hear from the solicitors today.it is frustration at its worst..
  • klanders30
    klanders30 Posts: 2,569 Member
    Morning, Lisa I too must bring my own coffee setup when traveling, it is a life saver for me. Love the predictability of chain hotels but the charm and surprises of boutique hotels. Our favorite hotel experience was in Morocco, each one was more unusual than the next and part of the adventure—anything is manageable with good coffee :p

    Feeling good about stretching my nitetime fast to 15 hours. Am drinking a lot more water. My BP has been on the rise and I think it is due to some overeating of salty food. Back to regular monitoring (3x daily) and cutting back on snacking on salty food-my guilty pleasure.

    NYKAREN

  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,340 Member
    Katla love the HALT as a way to stop and self reflect and do what you can for yourself!

    Pip feel better soon.

    Terry good to see you.You sound like me a two months ago. I made up my mind to regain my health. I was on the upper end of weight and had other markers that showed I was heading to diabetes. Changing to healthy habits will also more than likely help you heal faster too. Healing thoughts for a good recovery.

    :heart: Margaret
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,837 Member
    KJLaMore wrote: »
    Sorry if TMI: I have my period again! I thought I was pretty much through menopause, but this year started getting my period. Saw my doc in January and she said that the final year of menopause some women experience something called a "show" when they have two or three periods that are heavier/longer than normal. Well, I have been having periods about every 15-20 days apart. I called my doc and am going back in to see her, but first she has ordered bloodwork and a thyroid panel. I will get those things taken care of by next Wednesday and then will go see her after those results come back. Machka-thank you. It was your words (of caution, perhaps) that pushed me to contact my doc. Hearing about your outcome with the bleeding so often made me realize that this could be something that requires attention. I, personally, am thinking it could be a thyroid issue. lol there I go. Dr. Kelly; diagnosing herself!

    I'm glad you're getting it checked.

    I waited a year, figuring it was just how things were. Mine turned out to be precancerous polyps ... but they had to do a couple of different ultrasounds to find them. The first one took up 1/3 of my uterus ... no wonder I was having issues!!

    I hope they're able to figure out your situation and solve it quickly and easily.

    M in Oz

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,837 Member
    langman22 wrote: »
    Hi ladies. Remember me? I’m dropping back into the group again as I definitely need some help.

    I was just thinking about you today and wondering how you were doing.

    And yes, if you start now ... even in just a week's time things may have improved a little bit. My husband is working on rebuilding his strength. He used to be so strong, but since being able to get up and around after the accident, he has had a lot of trouble getting up from a sitting position. But he's been doing exercises for that all week, and it does seem to be getting a little bit easier.

    All the best!!

    M in Oz

  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,763 Member
    Happy cooler Friday!

    Kelly - MY DH's first year with RA was on a weekly oral dose of methotrexate and anti-nausea meds which he would take every Friday night and be horribly sick all weekend but well enough to go back to work on Monday, and there might have been another pill thrown in there. He was diagnosed in early 1990's when he was about 45 so he's going on 25+ years. So he's now on 7 mg of prednisone per day which really works well - for his age, which is 72, his rheumatologist (who is 75!) says he will never switch from it. He is not swollen from the side effects. He is also taking Celecoxib (generic Celebrex), Gabapentin, omeprazole and Soma - many of them have nasty potential side effects. :( He has been taking these drugs for years and until recently when the vascular problems started to hit, was able to stay pretty active, just got tired a lot more which is also RA. Oh, and he also uses medical MJ - which is around 60% CBD and 40% THC. Teensy joint, a few puffs in the afternoon and few puffs before bed. Only on days he has bad pain - like on low air pressure/rainy type days.

    He is not on any type of anti-inflammatory diet and refuses to consider doing any "natural" things. I guess the only good thing about the drugs he is taking is that they are inexpensive and he's on the generics, cost getting them from his doc or GoodRX is less than $1.50 per day. He also takes 5000 IU of Vitamin D3 per day.

    Rye - glad your toe is getting better and thinking of you as you prepare for the family get-together!

    Lisa
    - what a disappointment not having a microwave. Sounds like a busy day coming up for you! Hey, when I saw all the pix of the property clearing John did on your new place, it occurred to me that if he lived around here he could make a good living doing that. Is it something he enjoys? My DH was a landscape supervisor when his RA hit - he loved working outside with plants rather than people all day.

    Barbie - sounds like you are feeling some better! I've had two "steroid packs" during my experiences with back pain - one of them a herniated disc - and had relief both times. What a weird altered state tho, lol. Glad they were short-term.

    Gotta get ready to hit the road, lots of errands to run this morning. Take care ladies!

    Lanette
    Cool SW WA State where we got a little measurable rain last night. Frizzy hair day, lol.

  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
    Morning! :)
  • lilnoramitchellandre
    lilnoramitchellandre Posts: 144 Member
    Hi ladies - Again, I have 'deactivated' my FB account; I made friends with some of you; and, some I was able to put the addresses into my 'snail email' address book; but, when I sent a 'joke' I had received a couple of them got bounced back. Please, any of you, who would like to be a 'snail email' friend send me a current email address and I will forward the 'jokes' and little 'stories' I receive from a couple of my friends all the time. Some of my former HS classmates are on FB; but, they still have an email address to receive communication that isn't meant to be 'public' on FB. I have had so many issues with FB; that I tend to want to sail my laptop across the room. Really want to 'dough pop' my oldest son who just cannot understand why I always have problems arise as he has never ever had them occur to him. The page I am reading with blink and it will either take me back 3 days of posts I have already read, or send a message that a page is not available, and every time I check my icon with the posts that have been shared with me … have to do that BEFORE I read what others have shared with me. It has gotten worse since Markie ZipperButt appeared before the Congressional Hearings. He made the comment that FB would make it so that people would not have any trouble finding others. Maybe I am paranoid; but, I don't want my info out there for others to see. Yes, I am 'crazy' and I can admit that. Just a lot more drama than I am willing to take.
    I just don't want to lose contact with any of you. But every time I come to this 'community' I have over 100 posts to get through and that is checking it every day. Over that is just 'too overwhelming' for me.

    I did not realize how going through 2 'surgical' procedures would drain me; but, at least I no longer have any 'acid reflux'. Tuesday I went back to the surgeon and he said he 'knew' when I walked in that the surgery had been successful due to the 'big smile' I had across my face. Then yesterday I went to my GYN for a follow-up; and had had pain in my left nipple (something that tends to occur often), so they did a sonogram on it and the Radiologist came in to see it done a 2nd time and said that it really had not changed that much; but, they are still going to do a 'diagnostic' mammogram and a repeat sonogram in 3 months. He did not want to wait 6 months. I have 2 sisters who are breast cancer survivors; and, my Mother had ovarian cancer that went to her brain, so I am guessing that it probably also went to her breasts before she passed away. I'm not 'scared', just very concerned. Please keep me in your prayers for whatever I might be faced with. My DDnL#2 had to have a mole cut out and it was biopsied and came back 'severe' so on Monday Will took her to the MD and he cut out the rest of it. Tami had also made an appointment for Will to have his body checked and they sliced off 2 moles and sent them to the pathologist for a biopsy. Tami wrote me yesterday to tell me about it and said that they will get the results back, probably on Tuesday. She said that Will gets 'blindsided' by her because she will make MD appointment for him, if she sees 'anything' that might concern him in any manner. She said he is probably a little 'tired of it'; but, always tells her "Thank You" after it is all over. Both DDsnL are due to start having mammograms this year as they both turn 40. One has 'large melons' and the other has had 'breast augmentation'. I told her the worst thing about that is the extra slides they make and having someone push the implant back out of the way to take them. Thankfully, my GYN got rid of the last technician he had who had some sort of 'evil idea' that she needed to be rough and man-handled a woman's breast - it really should not hurt; it will be uncomfortable; but, she had been complained about by others … so when I told him how rough she had been the first time - it waived it off; then I told him to go in there and put his "Johnson" in between the plates and let her smash it, like she did my breasts.

    Margaret - I was trying to de-clutter my house with the help of my oldest sister and had worked through 3 rooms to the point that it takes me only 5 minutes to make them look great; but, after the angel I broke when I fell and broke my wrist in January reappeared on our kitchen counter (Louis felt like he could glue it back together), it pissed her off and she told me the last time I went up there to have a psychological session that she would never help me again try to de-clutter the rest of it. Louis has turned into sort of a 'hoarder' … not like the ones you see on TV; but, he 'hates' getting rid of stuff that he thinks are useful. Well, they are only 'useful' if you use them. I sent 3 bags of linens to Goodwill, two more bags to send to Gameboy to try to sell what I had in Wii products back to them. Trey brought them back and said that Jenn would come down and take a picture of all I had and try to sell it on FB or Craig's List. I'd get more that way (if they sell). After a couple of months, then I will just take them back to Goodwill. I use a 'list' to do the things I want to get through daily and it helps make me stick to it, most of the time.

    Gee, I had about 10 pages of MFP posting to read today and I wanted to respond to more of you than I can have, without going back and re-reading them. I might do that because I will also be taking a break from MFP. I took the icon for FB off my laptop since that would make me take a lot more steps to get back into FB. It had become way too time-consuming for me and I would spend hours on it. When I needed to do my chores and do some reading.

    Lenora - EMAIL ADDRESS: lilnora.rembrandt.mitchell@windstream.net


  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,508 Member
    Katla49 wrote: »
    Pip: I hope you feel better soon. There are zillions of possible reasons a person feels crappy. I look to the obvious physical things as a place to start. This is what I taught my kids at home and my students at school: Ask yourself these questions: Am I hungry? Am I angry? Am I lonely? Am I tired? Each of the questions leads to practical things a person can do to help herself or himself feel a little bit better. This is part of a system called HALT Stress. :heart:

    (((Barbie))) I hope you feel better each day. :flowerforyou:


    Our house wifi system has been damaged and DH is working on a plan to rebuild it. It has worked flawlessly for years & this is an unwelcome event.


    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon

    katla - i know why i feel crappy, it's cuz i'm sicker than a dog!!!!!! i know i know, you should give your body a break when you're like this, actually for me doing what i've been doing IS giving my body a break, believe it or not. i know i know, don't preach, i know
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,508 Member
    KJLaMore wrote: »
    Good morning all! Happy Friday! I really haven't put up my monthly goals due to the later thread set up (thank you Lisa) then due to me sleeping in yesterday.
    My word for the year is Resilience
    -I am sitting pretty much where I was in the beginning of July due to the fact that I gained four pounds on my vacation. BUT...that has all come off in the past two weeks and I am back down to 228.
    August goals:
    Stick to the meal plan
    Log, log, log
    walk daily
    add 30 minutes of cardio/strength training
    get my water every day
    stay AF
    get myself taken care of *see below

    Sorry if TMI: I have my period again! I thought I was pretty much through menopause, but this year started getting my period. Saw my doc in January and she said that the final year of menopause some women experience something called a "show" when they have two or three periods that are heavier/longer than normal. Well, I have been having periods about every 15-20 days apart. I called my doc and am going back in to see her, but first she has ordered bloodwork and a thyroid panel. I will get those things taken care of by next Wednesday and then will go see her after those results come back. Machka-thank you. It was your words (of caution, perhaps) that pushed me to contact my doc. Hearing about your outcome with the bleeding so often made me realize that this could be something that requires attention. I, personally, am thinking it could be a thyroid issue. lol there I go. Dr. Kelly; diagnosing herself!

    Heather - I know you don't feel very patient; but my hat's off to you! You are so patient the way you are dealing with the delays with this house you are looking at and the whole moving process! This would drive me insane!
    Meg- Oh, I hope your message gets through to your DH! lol I giggled when I read it, for I also have a dark and twisted sense of humor.
    Lisa-Hang in there! I am sure, now, that you are settling into your new place, there are other things you would rather be doing than traveling and staying in a hotel. There is a part of me that is envious of your travel and crappy hotel! lol
    Michele- I like snakes; but I think if one rubbed up against me while I was in the water, I would panic!
    Lanette- Wondering how long your DH has been dealing with RA? My DH was diagnosed in spring of 2015, spent about six months on methotrexate, then they put him on plaquenil in late 2015 (November or December). The plaquenil seems to work to keep him moving, but we are having a hard time finding a pain med that works for him. Does your DH stay on an anti inflammatory diet? What has he found to help with the pain management? I know that everyone's RA journey, like everything else, is different. But just trying to get an idea of other options for my DH. (Other than me knocking him over the head with a hammer).
    Pip- Are you sick?
    Wendy- I wish I were close enough to you to bring my kiddos over for an "adventure" on your property! LOL! It is like a fairytale place with something interesting going on in every corner of your place! I am sure they would happily shovel, clean, feed chickens in return for a "field trip" day! lol

    Well, time to get busy! love and hugs to all ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)



    yup sicker than a dog! i don't remember the last time i was sick
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,837 Member
    Maybe I am paranoid; but, I don't want my info out there for others to see.

    Lenora - EMAIL ADDRESS:

    Sorry but ...

    If you don't want your info out there for others to see ... don't ever post your email address on a highly public forum like this. That's just asking for spam.

    I hope you can still edit your post and remove it. If not, ask the mods to remove it.



    M in Oz

  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
    edited August 2018
    Hotels - we expect to have refrigerator and microwave. If there isn't a microwave that isn't bad for a night but would not stay a second night and maybe not even the first. I'm like Heather I need quiet. We never stay in an attached room where you can open the door between rooms because you can hear everything in the next room. We generally always stay where they provide a hot breakfast even if we don't eat it. They usually have eggs and bacon or sausage. We stayed at hotels once or twice a month when my husband was working. So sometimes we would get a jacuzzi suite. Usually a complimentary upgrade because we stayed at their chain of hotels so often.

    Pip- sorry you feel terrible. Hope you rebound quickly!

    Barbie - i'm sure glad that you didn't get hurt when you fell. Take care of yourself!

    Lisa- sure is tough staying at hotels! I loved going with my husband on his work trips. Glad to hear that your son is helping getting things done around your new place!

    Heather - sorry that the solicitors are not keeping you in the loop! Can you fire them and hire someone else? Not sure what solicitors are. We have sales agents that we have definitely gotten rid of one or two if they didn't do what we wanted.

    Terry VT- glad to see you're back but sorry about the conditions under which you have been going through. Great advice moving or doing whatever you can and making little changes. Stick here with us we will help you through this.

    Have a great day everyone!

    <3

    Mary from Minnesota \ Arizona
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    edited August 2018
    :flowerforyou:
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    linder4866 Posts: 11,496 Member
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  • okiewoman510
    okiewoman510 Posts: 1,324 Member
    Terry - Welcome back! Vent all you would like. We’ve all been at the point where we just needed to get it out there. Hugs!!

    Okie
  • lilnoramitchellandre
    lilnoramitchellandre Posts: 144 Member
    Warning long post; you can either skip over it or scroll down to see if I had something said in response to one of your posts

    Lisa – I think that everybody has been cranky lately, due to the crazy weather we are all experiencing. Just plain crazy. I am not even going to the ‘millennials’ … just NOT going there … I don’t drive my husband pick-up because every time you stop or take off the seats go back and forth; and the key is hard to turn over for me with either hand. My broken wrist has healed; have good range of motion; but, still hurts with some movements but PT said there was nothing else they could do about it. Orthopedist gave me some cream to rub on it at the point of the break, it will take the pain out of moving it some more.
    My surgeon told me to drink hot tea with my meals, so my coffee intake is cutting is easier to take. I don’t drink sodas other than if Louis leave one in the refrigerator, I will take a couple of swallows; something that makes me burp or belch and helps keep me from having the ‘walking farts’. LOL!

    Pat – When I declutter our main bathroom, I threw out 4 big trash bags ½ full (so we could carry and lift it) away; and, then another one went to Goodwill – with towels and that type of thing. Kept on 2 sets of sheets for each bed – one on and one off is all I really needed to keep. I ‘hope’ that the ones I kept for my queen-sized bed in the other bedroom are actually ‘queen-sized’ sheets and not ‘king-sized’. But, some of them I have had since I married 46 years ago. DUH, do you ‘think’ I really needed them? I offered my son the ones that I was not keeping, he kept telling me he was going to get them; but, after the 8th time of asking him, I just donated them to Goodwill this week. I finally got rid of the two big heavy club chairs I inherited from my grandmother. They went to the little store in Bronwood and asked if they minded putting a picture up on a board they have of ‘want ads’ and the lady working there said she wanted them. So they are gone – finally. Just took them an entire year (sitting in my foyer are); but, I had turned them so that they looked like maybe I had meant them to be there. Turned my dining room a 90° and it gives us a lot more room (even ‘if’ it isn’t exactly centered under the light. So right now I have the choice of hitting the kitchen or utility room (which is the first room you see coming into the house from the carport. My house is decorated like a ‘hunting cabin’ so it will NEVER be like Suzanne’s house which is quite minimalist. Just isn’t going to happen. I’m sure I could declutter my bookcase more; but, that is for another time. When we get to buying appliances and maybe even deciding on replacing the counter top (and maybe even the flooring; I told Louis I would either like to have a bookshelf built at the end of the counter (where a metal one is) or either have the top covered with whatever we choose to do the countertops with; but, even them, I could probably declutter my cookbooks as well. I’m a ‘recipe’ nut/’cookbook’ nut. Finding it difficult to let any of them go.

    Kelly – Love the view of the carnival. My oldest sister and brother in law have a ‘screen saver’ on their new TV that is a night scene of downtown Atlanta. It is gorgeous! I’d like to figure out how I could get that on our TV. I think they said it was a app that they could download and transfer it from their cellphone somehow.
    We’re going to visit youngest son the end of the month for his birthday and having good old Cajun food. I know that isn’t going to help; but, having to eat only a dime-sized piece of food will only mean I will be the last one to get up from the table and probably have food left over if we go out to eat. At least one day we’ll go to this country store just north of Natchez, MS because the food is ‘to die for’ and the old black man comes around to each table and sings a song.
    When I was a teenager, my periods were 15 days apart from start of one to the start of the other; and usually lasted about 8 days, too. Then, I was late on one and coming home from vacation I started bleeding and did not even realizing it until I was standing in a pool of it. When my middle sister and her husband ‘at the time’ rolled around when they were roller skating, my BnL scooped me up, my sister stole towels that people’s bathing suits were rolled up in to cover me, and they ran about 7 blocks from there to the motel my parents were staying in (if you were counting the blocks by the ones that came up to the boardwalk and used as parking spaces. I was hemorrhaging and when we finally got home about 5 hours later, my Mother called our family MD and he told her to just raise the bottom of my bed and if I was still bleeding in the AM to bring me to him. She told him, I’d be dead by the AM and demanding that he put in a call to any OB/GYN. At the age of 16 and never have gone to one; it was a terrifying ordeal. Humiliating as well.

    Terry – I remember you made beautiful jewelry. I was carrying around the same amour of a bag of 40lbs of soil when I first started out. My GP really noticed when I went to him, I no longer felt bad and he said that is the best I had ever looked since he started treating me. I now buy my ‘shakes’ at GNC and bars from the grocery store and some of them there, too. I lost 3 lbs after my LINX procedure and the surgeon said that by no longer being able to ‘wolf down’ my food, I will probably continue taking off the pounds.

    Barbie – Hope you will start to feel much better soon. For the past 3 or 7 nights the back of my calves have been so sore … feels more like they are bruised; one night I went to bed; because putting them up on the footstool just seemed to make it worse and I thought lying flat in the bed would help. Then later, I got up and my legs felt like ‘jelly’ so I slide down the kitchen cabinet doors and sat for a while, even though I knew I was going to have to pull myself up off the floor – or turn over and push myself up. It has made the middle of my back hurt right in the middle ½-way down my spine. Sometimes it ‘catches’ if I bend over too far, such as picking something off the floor.

    Michelle – Loki, the cat might be ‘upset’ that a ‘visiting cat’ is a problem and he is doing the peeing on the beds, because he is stressed out about it. I think I would have to tell the water exercise instructor how it make YOU feel when there isn’t music, especially since the one woman is not there a lot. It probably slows down most of the people. The instructor should be trying to appease the ones that come all the time. Not just one. If you do not, at least, say something she might not think about that. You might want to mention to some of the others in the class how much you miss the music and why. Then, you might have more back-up if they are willing to say something, too.
    If Shadow did not growl and Loki maybe did … I think it might be a bet that Shadow has taken over being the head cat of the house. Any time a ‘new’ dog or cat comes into what a fur-baby cat or dog, they do get stressed. When Will brings Lily with him, as soon as she gets out, she goes around a pees everywhere; and then Cracker goes right behind her peeing in the same area. Each of them are trying to establish that ‘this is MY territory’.
    Shadow is smelling Loki on the cat tree and she probably ‘knows’ that it takes a lot of time to take over the tree because Loki’s scent is so engrained on it. Like sleeping in a new bed … not nearly as comfortable on one you have been sleeping or, or even a couch. I know our ‘new’ chairs are not nearly as comfortable as the old ones; but, we had them broken in. If I sit up in the chair instead of slouching down the arms are too high.

    Margaret - I’ve got a total of 6 filing cabinet drawers to go through; but, at this time, since ‘out of sight, out of mind’ they will be one of the last things I do.
    Hoping that they will be able to ‘soon’ get into the property to cut some of the trees; then we’ll have more of a chance to replace the appliances that are not working. I need to wash a basket full of my clothes.

    Pip – You’re right – depression is totally different from one person to another. While I am bipolar (manic-depressive) I usually go off the rails from being ‘too manic’. I can only remember once being depressed and believe me – that is NOTHING I want to ever do again. I think one of the things that probably upsets me the most is how everything (especially on TV) is because the person doing the ‘bad’ things is considered ‘bipolar’. That isn’t the case … some of them are down-right ‘evil’ and that has nothing to do with the ‘freaking’ emotions. I think that is one of the single most reasons that having any kind of ‘mental issues’ is kept in the closet. IF you use the “M” word, it is somehow worse than using the “C” word (which I grew up hearing all the time). But, when women started ‘talking’ about Cancer – they started doing a lot of research on it and for a lot of forms of cancer – they can get them into ‘remission’ or even totally cure them. I’ve often thought about being a ‘spokesperson’ but, I don’t want to deal with the patients. The last time I was in the hospital to get my medication for my bipolar disorder; the psychiatrist I saw was NOT my regular one. By the end of 4 weeks I was beginning to ‘hate’ just about everyone. I had my clothes stolen, other than the ones I had on my back; so I would have to put on a hospital gown and wait for them to wash my clothes. It pissed me off and then having another patient tell me some of the things I ‘did’ when I first got there were so totally ‘out of character’ for me. At least I won’t ever run into them on the street. I think there was only one or two women out on the ‘open’ unit that they finally moved the 3 women out of the ‘locked’ unit because it was ‘co-ed’ and getting really ‘testy’ because one man called himself the “Archangel Michael” … I was about to ‘freaking’ DECK his @$$! I don’t like screaming; but, I really wanted to. I remember laying on the bathroom floor one day and banging the back of my head on the floor and praying to God to please get me ‘out of there’ … there were some seriously ill people back there and I wasn’t feeling any better about myself. He, somehow, has a visit from maybe his sister – in his room; but, none of the rest of us ever had any visitors until we were out on the ‘open unit’. I hope that my medications that I am now on, help me keep stable … now back to all the same dosages as I was before I had to go in. No longer on any antacids because the LINX procedure stopped the stomach acid from coming up into my esophagus. They call it Barrett’s Esophagus and it is a ‘pre-cancerous’ condition; but, as soon as they can stop the acid from coming up; the cells will start regenerating into good cells – does that every 7 days. Not all at once; but, it starts the process. The perks of having this procedure is repairing the hiatal hernia I had; preventing acid reflux, learning a ‘new’ way of eating even ‘if’ that means I will be the last up from the table – or taking ‘doggie bags’ home with me. Best thing is I lost about 3 pounds. Now under 160lbs; but not by much; but, at least crashed through that plateau.

    ElizabethGA – Where in Georgia do you live? I can understand your Dad wanting someone to take the sterling silver flatware for 12. I have things that I would like my sons to have; but, I think all they really care about is getting their mounts and divided up the pictures in the house. I have some things that I have inherited; but, about the only thing that I know I will put down as going to a particular DnL is Mimi’s Hoosier kitchen cabinet because she actually ‘asked’ for it. They won’t have any place they could put it now in the 2 places they have; but, maybe they will if they buy or build.
    I was thinking yesterday that if Louis passes before I do, I will pay off the house, divided the 2 tracts of land to the boys (so they won’t have to do that after my death and maybe have issues in doing so). And then pay Will rent on the house – or maybe he will just let me live here free and not have any type of rent or mortgage payment to pay. I made this decision after riding home from a MD appointment and listening to what my oldest was saying. I told him that they both needed to have Wills drawn up and also NOT to put the beneficiary to their life insurance as the Estate; but, to specifically put a name of a person or persons to inherit it. As long as we have a ‘mortgage’ we have to keep life insurance. Pay though the @$$ for insurance on Louis and that would put a lot back into my pocket – and I mean a lot. And if I predecease him; he could also pay off the house and drop the life insurance on me.

    Rita – You talked about missing the ‘contact’ of someone you love. I know where you are coming from … ever since I lived without my DH – being in the hospital; he says that since I have come home, I about push him out of the side of his bed, just to be able to touch him with my body while sleeping.

    Katla – Maybe it is because y’all remind him of better times when they lived next door to you and his wife was not sick – or you did not know it. It is hard to be the one watching your loved one go downhill.

    Rebecca – We use refrigerated Aloe. Makes you want to jump out of your skin; but, once you start putting it on, it is really a big relief from the burn. I’ve never heard of Tiger Balm. I don’t think I would have wanted a massage unless there had been a shower to get under to wash the sand off my body. I grab the pants of my GYN every time he touches my breast to exam me and he is pretty gentle; I am just very sensitive. Once, without warning me he checked to see if I was having any type of discharge and I little grabbed his leg and squeezed. He let go, then I did. He laughed and said, “Oh, guess that hurt’. “NO $#*T, Sherlock!”

    Heather – I had been on Nexium; which really did not help that much and then started having all sorts of health issues; so I was due to have a colonoscopy and endoscopy; and found out that I had “Barrett’s Esophagus” due to 12 or more years of acid reflux that was not being taken care of with Nexium. WOW! I feel like a ‘new’ woman. No acid reflux from having the LINX procedure. My GYN told me I could go to a Gastroenterologist; but, he thought I needed to go ahead and go to a general surgeon who could also do the tests I needed. At least by going directly to the surgeon, he knew what needed to be done. But, the tests I had to go through in order for my Medicare and personal health insurance to pay for, they had to get permission to do the test and the procedure.
    Have y’all sold your home already? Maybe staying in an apartment complex with a month-to-month lease might be better than having whoever NOT check out the deeds or things you have found wrong with the house in “Hove” (isn’t it)? You certainly want to make sure the title to the place is ‘free and clear’ of ALL types of liens. We did not find out until after we had sold our house in Albany that the IRS had not cancelled out a lien they had placed on our property; but, it was ‘fixed’ in very short order. When we got the title to sign it over to the new person who had bought it … there were at least 7 liens from the IRS and we had paid them off YEARS ahead of selling it. Really pissed that they had apparently placed a lien on the house for the entire time it took us to pay off the lien. There should have been just one stamp of “2nd lienholder” … not 7. We usually stay at Hampton Inns because they serve a good Continental breakfast in the morning and at other motels/hotels I ‘ask’ if we can take a look at the rooms before checking in. We chose NOT to stay at a Holiday Inn because the room was NOT like the pictures shown on the registration desk. It’s a big ‘chain’ motel; and, they are both owned by the same company. But, very different.

    Katla – I think I like your saying that the HALT Stress is the way to look at things. It certainly is something I find has helped me through my bipolar life-style. I am ‘in my body’ therefore I ‘know’ when things are going badly for me; it sometimes just takes Louis to realize that I am not hungry, or even really angry, unless he tells me I need to go to bed, when ‘tired’ isn’t the solution. I live out here ‘alone’ during the day; but, I am not lonely; although still being on a ‘driving restriction’ is a tad bit frustrating this time; because the DR from my seizures is over; but, my ‘sleep apnea’ MD said, ‘no driving until we can figure out why you get sleepy during the daytime hours’. But, that sleepiness has been coming on when I am ‘home’ and not moving. The weather here has been awful and the ground is saturated, so I don’t trust walking for fear of falling and not being able to get up. I think I will be ‘happier’ when they call and give me a date for my next follow-up appointment and that isn’t going to happen until they move into it. their new office. But, I really thought it was going to be the end of last month. I will give them a few days more.

    Lanette – The Miralax that I am supposed to take 2x a day has ‘finally’ started working and I am also taking Magnesium Citrate, about a swallow or about a Tablespoon and a ½. The surgeon said I was doing the right thing because it isn’t unusually for that to get low after the procedure.

    IF YOU WANT MY SNAIL EMAIL ADDRESS; PLEASE PRIVATE MESSAGE ME, SO MAYBE IT WON’T BE ON THE PUBLIC PLACES. I FORGOT TO PUT IN THE INFORMATION AFTER THE “@” SIGN. I WAS WONDERING WHY IT DID NOT TURN BLUE WHEN I TYPED IT IN INCORRECTLY.

    Carol – I have to go back in 3 months and they will do a ‘diagnostic’ mammogram (so my insurance will pay for it) and another sonogram – and I guess that one will also be a ‘diagnostic’ one as well. The radiologist told me that it had not really changed from the last time; but, since I have a very strong family history of ‘breast cancer’ he wanted to keep on top of it. My GYN asked if I had had any type of ‘genetic testing’ and I told him that according to the only place all get sent to, that the only way they would find out would be only AFTER I had had breast cancer. She agreed with me, that it is backwards to how it ought to be. I guess if you had enough money (about $5000) you could choose to have it done and then another $10,000 to have reconstruction. Sisters have both told me that it is Federal law that they have to pay for reconstruction or make all insurance companies pay for it. [Copied] “The Women’s Health and Cancer Rights Act (WHCRA) helps protect many women with breast cancer who choose to have their breasts rebuilt (reconstructed) after a mastectomy. Mastectomy is surgery to remove all or part of the breast. This federal law requires most group insurance plans that cover mastectomies to also cover breast reconstruction.” I’m going to call my insurance company to make sure it would be covered. Called them and asked and they said, ‘yes it is covered under my policy of insurance’
    I was in the same sort of storm while at the grocery store. When I got to the lobby there were probably others there; I could not make out any car, even the once close and Trey, my “Driving Miss Daisy” said he could not even see the store. I still had to go out with an umbrella when it lightened up to try to find me. I did not want the bag lady to have to go out in the rain since there was a man with me who could do it. She was all dressed up with a yellow rain suit, even with a duck bill on it.
    I’ve been told you should not have anything to eat or drink 3 hours before you plan to go to bed. I eat my ‘big meal’ during the middle of the day because that is when Louis eats his big one.

    Well, long email; but, I haven’t said anything in a month of Sundays.
    Lenora
  • coastalgosgal
    coastalgosgal Posts: 2,900 Member
    Ooh I have a raspberry bush! I'm a happy girl! Neighbor's just moved in. My husband was upstairs being nosey looking thru our window at them moving in. He wanted me to see them to, so he pounded on the upstairs floor. I ran upstairs like a crazy woman, because when he had his episode with vertigo that's how he informed me he was in trouble! So I respectfully informed him 1 pound on the floor is bad because it sounds like he's fallen. Two pounds on the floor shall mean all's good but come upstairs. Three pounds in the floor shall mean I'm in trouble. Hmm, life in a 3000 sq ft home!

    Dang I am up 2 lbs, so really mindful today! Yesterday I drove all hell and gone with son, going to the commissary. An afternoon of fun aisle conversation, and he bought a lot of stuff! My plan is spending $146 a week. My commissary run was $195 so I asked son to pay for a later in the month commissary run. I suppose we could've separated the cart a bit but I just wanted to get home.

    I had asked what he wanted me to do for his birthday that's coming up. A cake? He wanted cheesecake, but in a flat pan. So I bought two jello dessert mixes, (ok I am lazy baker), and a tub of cool whip. Maybe a restaurant visit, or I might make an Asian night with potstickers, fried rice and spicy chicken!

    Everyone enjoy family and friends this summer!
    Love
    Rebecca
    Whidbey island
    Washington
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