The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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@IWillTakeBackMyLife Happy for you for the 10 days thats great.
Sorry to hear about your money mix up. Will this be resolved soon I hope?
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@IWillTakeBackMyLife Congrats on 10 days!!
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Where is everyone? Dont be strangers peeps, at least a quick pop in once in awhile 💗4
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Hi All! My daughter was just in from London for a few days. This was probably the first time in her memory that I had absolutely zero alcohol in front of her. She didn't say anything but she surely must have noticed. I loved our 4 days together and I loved being fully present and attentive to her while she was here. I will remember every moment of it, thanks to be being sober.8
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Hello to all
@JenT304 Glad you had a great visit with your girl.
Not much new with me...surviving the winter so far so good...looking forward to spring LOL How many more sleeps?? Too many to count from this end. We had sun first thing this morn for the first time in too long and then the clouds took over!! Oh well, this too shall pass........eventually!!5 -
Hi Friends! Nothing new here. Just working a lot! Looking forward to a fresh start for many reasons January 1st. 2019 was a year of transformation for me and my family ; I'm hoping 2020 will just be easy and calm. xo
@JenT304 Happy you had a beautiful time!!
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Hello all. This is so weird but I think I have the first job in my life I’ve truly loved. I’m super overqualified (don’t even need a bachelor’s and I have several post-grad degrees) and took a huge pay cut but the job brings me joy! There’s sadness in juvie but also hope and hilarity. I’m slowly winning the battle against the “occasional” drink. It just doesn’t work for me. Holidays are a challenge. Wishing us all a joyous strong few weeks.8
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I've been AF for 210 days. I started with the Alcohol Experiment - 30 day challenge, then I just kept going. I bought and read Annie Grace's book (This Naked Mind) and it has reinforced my decision to remain AF for the foreseeable future. I'm also watching my carbs (loosely following Target 100) and with these too systems I've lost 19 pounds.10
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Not much new to report, but still here, going strong. Hope everyone is well! Happy holidays to all, whichever ones you celebrate!5
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All good here, wishing everyone the most joyous of holidays. I haven't had a drink in 9 months and part of the reason is you guys bringing me to the realization that it's ok to admit something no longer works in your life. In fact, looking back....made it worse6
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@janthemom8 Yay on 210 days...and @no44s4me Congrats 9 months...it gets easier & better.
Another Soberversary for moi...my Quitdrinking app alerted me this morn to 500 days AF ~ 2019.1 drinks passed ~ $3230 saved (not literally, but in theory lol) and a whole lotta health uppers!
Good way to begin the day other than some sadness for me as I realized that today is the 5 month anniversary since my beloved brother died....I posted a pic on FB and bawled away...tears are good cleansers of sadness & grief. Lesson for the day: Do not hold the sadness in, it will just come out some other way and it will make you sick and make you want to drink to dull the pain.
Hope everyone can find some joy in their AF journey this day 11 -
So nice to see everyone doing well. Funny thing my husband said to me today. I told him we had to go to the liqueur store to get gifts that I know people want and he asked me if I thought I would have a relapse.
I only drank beer and theres beer in my fridge everyday because hes never giving it up. If I was going to relapse Im pretty sure it would have happened by now. Theres always a chance.
Anyway Im staying strong and I hope you all do as well. This is the toughest time of the year I think.4 -
So nice to see everyone doing well. Funny thing my husband said to me today. I told him we had to go to the liqueur store to get gifts that I know people want and he asked me if I thought I would have a relapse.
I only drank beer and theres beer in my fridge everyday because hes never giving it up. If I was going to relapse Im pretty sure it would have happened by now. Theres always a chance.
Anyway Im staying strong and I hope you all do as well. This is the toughest time of the year I think.
Agreed,I thought it would be easier for some reason but no it's waaaay tougher but I'm sticking to my guns cuz I don't wanna be sick🤮 hope all are well💗4 -
Hi Everyone! I had my physical yesterday. My cholesterol was slightly high, and she said I should lose 15 - 20 lbs but my other numbers are great! My liver is fine. I was slightly shocked. I guess it really can recover if you let it. Sadly I just found out this morning that a woman I used to work with died last week of cirrhosis of the liver at 64. She was such a sweet woman but apparently could not fight off the alcohol demon. I feel so bad for her son who lost his mom far too young.
I want to wish those that celebrate a very Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays. And lets have some Peace of Earth for a change. ~ Jen
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Good Morn to ALL 1
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Ok something weird just happened as I was typing Oh well, not first or last time that weirdness will happen when I'm using any form of technology as a true Techno-tard lol
@JenT304 Congrats on your good numbers and I "wish" I only had 15-20 lbs to lose...you can do it!!
Sad too about your former workmate...My Dad died of cirrhosis at 54 yrs of age...he had a death wish and it came true for him. I read this thing the other day that stated that an alcoholic will not get help until the pain is too great...so obviously not until the point that the alcohol doesn't do the trick to dull the pain anymore. Some people never reach that point obviously and it is so sad to see those who are left behind to suffer that pain!!
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Jen, way to go.......my ASGOT liver readings, what ever that means, dropped from 44 which is a bit high to 24 which is excellent...........so, congratulations, I had my physical last month and the Dr was really happy with all my lipids........it matters now, because when you get old you dont want to have regrets about how you treated your body........again, congratulations on a job well done.....
I know of a girl who died as well because she couldnt give up alcohol.........it destroyed her marriage and after her divorce she went into a tail spin and was found dead in her apt because of her falling and not seeking help. She died in her sleep after hitting her head .......really sad. I used to spend hours talking to her , but she just couldnt give it up........she even lost custody of her 2 children because of her drinking..........she lost everything.
best wishes to you all........4 -
18 days sober now. Sobriety is going well as always. Lots of stressful things going on in my life but today has been free of the stress so far. I'm around all kinds of tempting junk food food ATM that will be in the house for awhile since I'm not eating it. My room mate will be the one eating it lol. Lucky for me there is no temptation since there is no point in doing anything to hinder my progress. Nothing really tastes good anymore except for the food which I know will help me reach my goals.6
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Good morning friends! It's been a busy weekend but all good. The kids are home from college and staying with me - one on the couch, one in the spare room. I am happy.
Speaking of pain and alcoholism... my cousin who is like a brother to me, drinks a lot. His wife found three bottles of wine on the kitchen counter one morning. He also seems to text me late at night - I assume when he is drinking. Anyway, when we go out (which is rare- because I don't want to drink to excess like him), he always says "Well Il'l never make it to 50." "I'll die young anyway." I tell him to not say that because what you say to the universe can come true. His philosophy is sure he drinks a lot, but he loves it and doesn't want to quit. I said join the club! We all like it- too much. That's the problem!!
So, you're right when you say, that someone will not stop until the pain gets too great. It is a deeply personal journey being an alcoholic. Like my sister says, some families have illness, some families are violent... and our family has alcoholism.
By the way, I bought her two beautiful bottles of Pelligrino - I mean holiday bottles in a box. Looks just like a fancy bottle of booze. She will love it.5 -
Hello all, Jen, glad everything looks good with your health, Lorraine, my biological father died of the same at 53,that SOB drank straight vodka from morning till night all day everyday, I never really had him around in my life except one summer I went to stay with him and my two older brothers and it was hell on Earth ! He was mean and just a drunk, I always wonder what he was running from in his head with the drinking? Anyways I barely knew him but defo got that gene, as did those two brothers, they're financially doing well but their personal lives are a mess and they're both mean drunks like he was so they're not in my life anymore, Ruby, you sound good 💗,glad the kids are home for Christmas, waves to all and have a wonderful AF day!5
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Ruby red..........your post reminded me of my old friend from high school, my first girlfriend who I did stay friends with for years. My friend Bev, the one who died of a fall and did nothing to get medical help, would have become a grandmother this month.......her only daughter gave birth to a healthy baby boy.............
the sadness, the pain, the hurt that her daughter is going thru because her mom isnt there to help her ,to share her joy really says it all.........I just wished my friend Bev could have seen the devastation and pain that her death caused.....maybe , just maybe she would have changed her life.......don't know if she would have , but the pain her poor daughter has had to endure because her mom died because of alcohol is devastating..
I thought, wow..............if her mom died in a car accident, or cancer, or some unpredictable disease that there was no cure for , maybe it may have soften the blow, but her mom refused to stop drinking..matter of fact, I begged her to go to AA, and she laughed and said she didn't believe in God or a higher power.....and she did once check her self out of a rehab clinic that helped deal with alcoholics because she swore she didn't have a drinking problem.....
alcohol destroys people and destroys the people who are left behind.............5 -
6:45 am in Vegas another 24 💖 hope everyone has a great AF day!7
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Well, hello everyone. Wishing you all a blessed holiday this Christmas Eve, however or whatever you celebrate.
So, I have been up since 4 a.m. Anxious, mind everywhere, ear ringing (as always now). Yep, alcohol on board. I realize it's been almost 2 years since Ruby started the original thread that brought me here. I'm still struggling, but I have a definite sense of what I need to do. I just went back and read my posts from my longest AF streak to remind myself how different my life is when not drinking. Especially the anxiety. I came across a post of a picture RubyRed posted that said "Anything that takes your peace is too expensive." Amen. Alcohol definitely takes away my peace, and though it may stop or deaden the ear ringing for a bit, it's not worth it because I wake up at 3 with it ringing away.
I noticed that in the successful streaks I've had, I've posted here almost daily. So y'all may have to put up with me. This group is such an important support. I'm loving my new job. It's pretty much stress free. So now is the time to give myself the gift of an AF life. I don't know why it's such a huge struggle. I'm going to consider this my Christmas gift to myself.
A funny thing: @whitpauly, I'm assuming you live in Vegas? For a long time, I've seen your "6:45 in Vegas another 24" posts and thought, "Man, that woman takes a lot of trips to Vegas! Strange choice for someone committed to sobriety." It finally clicked that you must live there.
Have a wonderful day, everybody.8 -
Hi everyone and Merry Christmas....Even though I have some mild holiday blues going on, my mind is not telling me to reach for the bottle. That is my gift to myself this year.7
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nighthawk584 wrote: »Hi everyone and Merry Christmas....Even though I have some mild holiday blues going on, my mind is not telling me to reach for the bottle. That is my gift to myself this year.
I've had the blues a bit too😭 this is a TOUGH time of year but I'm trying to look on the bright side,I'll be 160 AF tomorrow woo-hoo,so I gave myself a gift of no hangover (although some mornings still suck) no wasted money on booze,no driving under the influence,no blackouts,no dry eyes,no ignoring family and all the many,many things being AF(I like Al free instead of the word 'sober' for some reason) so yeah it's good👍 @donimfp yep I've lived in Vegas on/off mostly on since 1999 I'm a NV native anyways but my hometown is waaaay too little to make a living so I'm here, Happy Christmas Eve and I'll take 24 more, have a wonderful day 💗6 -
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Happy Holidays everyone!
I am so grateful to you all for your recent posts, and for being able to share here. It’s helped to keep me grounded these past couple days. Today is ay 156 AF for me (@Whitpauly - I too prefer the term alcohol free to sober.)
I celebrate Christmas, and my whole life Christmas Eve and Christmas Day were high-volume drinking days. This is the first year since my late teens that I won’t drink. I am struggling with feelings of missing out on the fancy cocktails and nice wines, and breaking tradition (?? Of drunkenness and hangovers??). There will be booze all around me, and we are hosting both days. Tonight will most likely be when our guests are more rowdy, as we play games and time will get competitive in a fun way. (hope it’s a fun way. First Christmas AF, so I don’t; really know how things will look through my new perspective) Also, it’s a smaller group and nobody needs to drive. I’ve decided that if I become annoyed with the behaviours of the drinking folks, I will excuse myself to my room. I will be pleasant and kind, and not act a *kitten*. If things get too loud, I am prepared with earbuds and Netfilx on my tablet.
Wishing you all a warm and loving holiday *hugs*
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T'was the night before Christmas and all through the land, people were celebrating without a glass in hand! (Okay, I never claimed to be a good poet!)
I'm also feeling the anxiety a bit as this will be my first AF Christmas in several years. But I've almost made it an entire year being AF and I'm not about to let one stressful holiday be my downfall. Yes, I will want my holiday wine tomorrow and it will be difficult to pass by that little mini bar that my family sets up and to see others drinking, but I'm just going to sit with that feeling, acknowledge it and move past it. Because the urge to drink will pass and it helps to remind myself that I will feel so much better the next morning because my body will be free from poisons. I am healthy and well and life is about so much more than those moments of temptation.
Wishing you all a blessed and peaceful Christmas! Be good to yourselves!4 -
Merry Christmas to my MFP Family. May you all have a joyful and happy holiday! 5
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Merry Christmas friends! I caught up with five posts. @donimfp I agree with you that the anxiety you get from drinking sure is exhausting. I get the shakes (tiniest of tremors) after drinking and always nausea. Yes, please check in daily. I do think that helps!
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