The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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Things are getting a little stressful but it's amazing that they're actually easier to deal with sober than not. I would not have believed that little factoid a year ago. Instead of putting things off with another pint glass of corn likker, it's just easier to find a physical activity, open some fizzy water, and move on. No regrets, nothing said in a stupor to take back -- or just plain not remember.
We can do this!9 -
Good Sober Sunday Morning! This morning, I woke up and felt like I had a hangover. I think it was like "muscle memory". I have been having that feeling recently. I think my fear of hangovers and since I've had too many to count, has manifesting in me feeling like I have one!! Has this happened to anyone else?
It could also be Menopause and stress....6 -
Also, last night I didn't go to my drinking friend's patio; she invited a few friends over for drinks and apps. I said no thanks, I wanted to stay home. But throughout the evening I felt waves of depression like I was missing out on something fun. However, I know that is all an illusion; there is nothing rewarding about drinking.6
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Morning all, work was a madhouse! Super busy and I'm sure it'll be like that for a bit, I was happy the customers wore their masks, were respectful of each other's space and didn't complain about the price hike, the only bad part was they hafta wait outside and it's hot but that's the states rules not mine, RubyRed I wake up like that alot, coffee helps thank goodness, Jen I have that belly too, skinny legs and arms but the middle is puffy😒 think I might dig out our tae-bo DVD and do that in the evening with hubs, I just hate getting on the floor to do and, the tae-bo he has you standing up to work them, Donimfp glad you got your hair trimmed, makes you feel like a million bucks even if it's just a little bit 👌 6:25 am in Vegas another 24,hope everyone has a wonderful AF day 💗5
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Today was great!! I had brunch with my bestie - she didn’t have mimosas either and said repeatedly how proud she was of me for being AF. She said she was just not there yet, but was getting there.
Tonight DH and I had our “anniversary” dinner. Our anniversary is next week, but I will likely not be home.
My daughter is in the military and had her first son in February. Due to COVID fallout there is no childcare to be found. I will be moving down tomorrow to keep my grandson until she can find childcare. We are anticipating this to take 6-8 weeks. I’m sad that I will miss our anniversary, but a Mimi has gotta do what a Mimi has gotta do!! My car is packed and ready to go.
I plan to use this time to channel @FeelinFooFoo and get into an exercise routine. I have packed the running shoes☺️
I might find a local 5-10k to participate in.
Retraining my brain. That is what I need to do!!!!!
I remember when the baby was born and all this covid crap was just starting to get weird here in the US! I'm glad you're going to help out,it'll be awesome bonding time for you and your g-son💗 I absolutely adore my little guys they make me feel alive and are just such loves to have around and your daughter is lucky to have you🤗 also Happy Anniversary 💗3 -
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Today was great!! I had brunch with my bestie - she didn’t have mimosas either and said repeatedly how proud she was of me for being AF. She said she was just not there yet, but was getting there.
Tonight DH and I had our “anniversary” dinner. Our anniversary is next week, but I will likely not be home.
My daughter is in the military and had her first son in February. Due to COVID fallout there is no childcare to be found. I will be moving down tomorrow to keep my grandson until she can find childcare. We are anticipating this to take 6-8 weeks. I’m sad that I will miss our anniversary, but a Mimi has gotta do what a Mimi has gotta do!! My car is packed and ready to go.
I plan to use this time to channel @FeelinFooFoo and get into an exercise routine. I have packed the running shoes☺️
I might find a local 5-10k to participate in.
Retraining my brain. That is what I need to do!!!!!
I remember when the baby was born and all this covid crap was just starting to get weird here in the US! I'm glad you're going to help out,it'll be awesome bonding time for you and your g-son💗 I absolutely adore my little guys they make me feel alive and are just such loves to have around and your daughter is lucky to have you🤗 also Happy Anniversary 💗
He is ready and waiting for Mimi to arrive. I will be leaving North Georgia in about 2 hours and will arrive in Pensacola about 7 pm. Maybe dinner will be waiting 😆
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Today was great!! I had brunch with my bestie - she didn’t have mimosas either and said repeatedly how proud she was of me for being AF. She said she was just not there yet, but was getting there.
Tonight DH and I had our “anniversary” dinner. Our anniversary is next week, but I will likely not be home.
My daughter is in the military and had her first son in February. Due to COVID fallout there is no childcare to be found. I will be moving down tomorrow to keep my grandson until she can find childcare. We are anticipating this to take 6-8 weeks. I’m sad that I will miss our anniversary, but a Mimi has gotta do what a Mimi has gotta do!! My car is packed and ready to go.
I plan to use this time to channel @FeelinFooFoo and get into an exercise routine. I have packed the running shoes☺️
I might find a local 5-10k to participate in.
Retraining my brain. That is what I need to do!!!!!
I remember when the baby was born and all this covid crap was just starting to get weird here in the US! I'm glad you're going to help out,it'll be awesome bonding time for you and your g-son💗 I absolutely adore my little guys they make me feel alive and are just such loves to have around and your daughter is lucky to have you🤗 also Happy Anniversary 💗
He is ready and waiting for Mimi to arrive. I will be leaving North Georgia in about 2 hours and will arrive in Pensacola about 7 pm. Maybe dinner will be waiting 😆
What an adorable, happy baby! 💖 💕4 -
@Beka3695 What a cutie!!
Nothing new to report. My close cousin was texting me tonight; I can always tell when he's drunk. He and I have had conversations about OUR alcoholism. He says he just likes drinking and has no plans to quit. Well, tonight he was texting me.. a lot. Short , random texts.
I was completely sober. I did tell him I'm five weeks sober. I almost said we should meet for coffee, but I remembered coffee shops are still closed.
I sometimes miss the taste of wine but always in the morning, I am so happy I got through the cravings. I have a haircut and color on Saturday morning; it will be nice to have no hangover for it.
Before the isolation due to Covid, I had to go to a massage one Sunday and I was soooooo hungover. What a miserable experience. But I didn't want to let the therapist down and not show up. God, that was a painful massage. And I was so mad at myself for ruining such a good thing.7 -
Good Morn Everyone I am catching up on reading all the posts...still on page 223. Just checking in. I've been dealing with some stuff the past few weeks and thankful alcohol doesn't enter my mind as the 'solution' any longer. I can't remember whose post jogged my memory of promising myself each morning that I was NOT going to drink that day, but as the day wore on my resolve wore off, then dissolved and I would head to the wine shop and justify, minimize & rationalize what I was doing and resolve that 'tomorrow' I'd not have a drink, and THEN I'd resolve to only have one or two and once I began, my resolve would dissolve and as long as I didn't drink the entire bottle, I could continue to justify, minimize & rationalize and on & on the cycle would go and the guilt, shame, frustration and disappointment in myself. Phew!!! That's a lot of stuff going on right there that I am now free from. (I think it was Jen's post from Belle's blog)
At the same time, for me personally, this has been a bit of a rough ride because it has caused me to have to deal with some of the emotional reasons I looked to alcohol as the 'solution' in the first place. From what I have learned drinking is only a symptom of some underlying issues...it is the reason that we drink that needs to be dealt with before we can stay AF. This is not a secret if we have educated ourselves from those who have gone before us.
This is why this group is so invaluable because we educate each other through our collective experience no matter where we are in this process we ARE in this process together, and we all go at our own pace, but never underestimate the contribution each of us have in helping one another.
Today is my first day back to work and that is a mixed bag for me.
Hope everyone has a happy, healthy AF day 8 -
@lorrainequiche59 I missed you! best wishes on your first day back!
I'm proud of you! You are dealing with a lot of things sober. That is bravery!5 -
Good luck on back to work Lorraine 💗 I'm the same like I want to be there but I don't wanna be there, think I just complain too much😆 6:17 am in Vegas another 24,have a fab AF day all!7
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@lorrainequiche59
"At the same time, for me personally, this has been a bit of a rough ride because it has caused me to have to deal with some of the emotional reasons I looked to alcohol as the 'solution' in the first place. From what I have learned drinking is only a symptom of some underlying issues...it is the reason that we drink that needs to be dealt with before we can stay AF. This is not a secret if we have educated ourselves from those who have gone before us."
This was perfectly said -or at least it resonated with me!!
Today is day 2 with the little fella. Yesterday was challenging but I never thought about a drink. This morning was different.... I have chronic back issues that have required two surgeries. The aches come and go - many I have learned just to deal with. Some, however, are worse than others. I hardly slept last night. Kept waking in pain. Before I would have a drink to "loosen things up." This crossed my mind today. I have not. I am on my second coffee and things are slowly beginning to be right with the world.
Back to what Lorraine said - Alcohol is not the answer. My back issue is not corrected by alcohol, only my brain is numbed. We all have to find the solution that is not in a bottle. Unfortunately, old habits are hard to break.
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Well this is interesting.
https://www.hipsobriety.com/home/2017/8/20/yes-alcohol-is-making-you-look-like-*kitten*1 -
Good morning/afternoon! I recognize some of you from Less Alcohol, and I'm still on there, but being that I'm into a 2.5 month break, thought maybe I'd straddle the two for now.
Would I like to be able to drink "normally" someday--hell ya! Is that a reality for moi? Probably not. Especially given the fact I've not drank "normally" since I was 18. I did well most of the time (and abstained during pregnancies), but there was always an oops around the corner...Hanging in an elevator shaft looking for a phone (college). Missed picking up bf from airport as I was blacked out. Tequila was involved with both of those--I'm a Texan after all. 2 Christmases in a row where literally I was playing the game of trying to figure out who gave me what present on Christmas Eve without letting on I was clueless. Most recently, last fall, a trip to the ER (my one ambulance ride and I couldn't even enjoy it--or know it existed--but my wallet did). The good news is I'm starting to care a tiny bit less about drinking, except when I'm having a crappy day and don't want to deal with FEELINGS. I think this is truly due to habit changes.
BTW, the elevator and ER episodes very well might have involved rufies (according to bystanders, nurses, etc.). But it doesn't matter, because I wouldn't have been in a position to be rufied had I not been drinking.
@JenT304 Thank you for the Hip Sobriety link!7 -
Cute pic of you, FFF
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checking in...still AF, almost 14 months....it's nice to be high on life, not dependent on alcohol or drugs to catch a buzz. I know I would have never made it this far with my wlj and fitness journey had I not quit alcohol at the same time. Cheers to life!8
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Hello all, @Beka3695 I'm sorry for the back pain! I used to drink to kill pain too but it never worked for very long anyways 😒 @FeelinFooFoo yes! The sleep is messed up when I drink, sure I pass out hard but alot of wakening to use the bathroom and Fitbit had measured weird oxygen levels the last time I drank-no thanks! Pic is cute💗 Hi @mainelylisa ,I post in both groups too, the more support the better I say, 6:42 am in Vegas another 24 💖,hope everyone has a great AF day!4
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FeelinFooFoo wrote: »Well this is interesting.
https://www.hipsobriety.com/home/2017/8/20/yes-alcohol-is-making-you-look-like-*kitten*
I can't use the link for some reason but I'm gona check out this hip sobriety it looks really good.
On the link - replace the *kitten* at the end with the s word for poop.
Looks like they even monitor links 🤣5 -
6:41 am in Vegas another 24, FeelinFooFoo I'd rather have the cake too! Hope everyone has a wonderful AF day ❤️5
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Hi Friends! It's Friday and many happy hours are opening around here. I also notice the corner bar had about ten cars parked when a few days ago there was none. I can see how people missed their regular routine and went right back to the corner bar. I won't judge.
For me, Happy Hour Friday means nothing today. I have been waking up clean and sober. I am about 6 weeks into this sober run. I must say sometimes it can be boring to be sober but let's face it, in the long run there are too many benefits to list.
It's the three day weekend and I will get a lot done because I won't be in bed nursing a bad hangover.
I'd rather eat cake too!!
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What is UP with MFP? Lately every time I try to log on it is "down for maintenance". So I thought I'd jump in here while it is working and say Hi and have a great Memorial Day weekend!9
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My cousin stopped by with a housewarming gift - wine bottle ! I thanked her and thought for one moment, I could have some.
Then I thought you will ruin tomorrow !! You have a haircut and color (first appointment since January) and you don’t want to be hungover !!
So now I’m eating popcorn! Sadly my weight has gone up up up since quitting due to nervous eating.10 -
Happy Saturday crew!!!
Today is my 7th wedding anniversary. I was planning to stay in Florida with my daughter and her family, but decided to drive home to be with my DH. It is so nice to be in MY bed!! My pupper was so excited to see me last night. He slept beside me all night long.
I am so excited to have a Memorial Day weekend that I will remember and that will not take another week to recover from!
Hope everyone is safe and dry!
XOXO7 -
Happy Saturday crew!!!
Today is my 7th wedding anniversary. I was planning to stay in Florida with my daughter and her family, but decided to drive home to be with my DH. It is so nice to be in MY bed!! My pupper was so excited to see me last night. He slept beside me all night long.
I am so excited to have a Memorial Day weekend that I will remember and that will not take another week to recover from!
Hope everyone is safe and dry!
XOXO
Happy Anniversary ❤️ 6:37 am in Vegas another 24,hope everyone has a wonderful day!2 -
Happy Memorial day to all
Yesterday was my 12th anniversary of the beginning of my journey to health. I had all kinds of plans to celebrate the change in my life but unfortunately with the restrictions in NJ all plans and trips have been cancelled for now. I cant say it was easy but it did get easier as time went on. My weight continued to go down as my health improved I probably dropped about 15 pounds of fluid in the first 9 days. I stopped cold turkey that first day, fear being a big factor in my being able to maintain being AF. I guess quick math its 12 x 365 days or 4380 days AF
The health benefits from conversations with Drs as to not consuming alcohol and how they lessen my risks from Covid. At 72 I would have been considered high risk but they feel my cardiac fitness and respiratory system so improved it negates the risk factor of being older. I have been told consuming alcohol increases the risk of some cancers as well. So I never could have imagined that being masked outside at all times and not being able to go to many parks staying separate at 6 feet when around others would have become the normal.It certainly wasn't why I started this 12 years ago but I can say without a doubt I sure as he** am glad I did.
Stay safe and be well and enjoy the memorial day weekend11 -
My daughter, SIL and 2 granddaughters came over today to play on the deck and cookout. Daughter is getting less afraid of us....(we don't go anywhere but she has been SUPER cautious). Anyway the 3 other adults had beers. I stuck to my seltzer. I did have a hankering for a beer I must admit, but I quickly pushed the thought away and busied myself with the children. I DO NOT want those kids seeing Drunk Granny like their mother did growing up. No drink is worth that. Plus I've lost 5 lbs and I want to keep that off. I would like to come out of this pandemic looking better than when I went in, save the terrible hair
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Happy Memorial day to all
Yesterday was my 12th anniversary of the beginning of my journey to health. I had all kinds of plans to celebrate the change in my life but unfortunately with the restrictions in NJ all plans and trips have been cancelled for now. I cant say it was easy but it did get easier as time went on. My weight continued to go down as my health improved I probably dropped about 15 pounds of fluid in the first 9 days. I stopped cold turkey that first day, fear being a big factor in my being able to maintain being AF. I guess quick math its 12 x 365 days or 4380 days AF
The health benefits from conversations with Drs as to not consuming alcohol and how they lessen my risks from Covid. At 72 I would have been considered high risk but they feel my cardiac fitness and respiratory system so improved it negates the risk factor of being older. I have been told consuming alcohol increases the risk of some cancers as well. So I never could have imagined that being masked outside at all times and not being able to go to many parks staying separate at 6 feet when around others would have become the normal.It certainly wasn't why I started this 12 years ago but I can say without a doubt I sure as he** am glad I did.
Stay safe and be well and enjoy the memorial day weekend
Awesome post! Congratulations on your sober time👌 6:31 am in Vegas another 24,feel like I'm tired more now since I started back at work,I feel like I had more energy doing the grocery delivery and that was harder physically,not sure what is going on, maybe just alot of mental stress, hope everyone has a wonderful AF day!6 -
@whitpauly I bet it's underlying stress and angst over the past few months just catching up with you, along with a new routine at work which is a stressor.
I thought of you yesterday; I got my hair cut and colored (first time in five months). I went to a new hairdresser at a new salon (near my new home). The funny thing was I don't know what she looks like and she doesn't know what I look like, because we both had masks on the whole time. It was kind of sad; the personal connection of talking to someone and seeing their facial expression and even a smile was lost. But I am grateful nonetheless, that I can still get my hair done.5
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