The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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OMG! I have been away for awhile and just logged in to find 41 new posts including YOUS, Lorraine. I am so unbelievably sorry for your loss. I’m sorry I wasn’t “here” for you but obviously all our group has been. You are incredibly strong and your posts as you go through this are an inspiration.
I’ve been drinking more days than not and I hate it. @RubyRed for me alcohol is a super fuel for anxiety. I was just yelling at myself for dosing myself with an anxiety producing drug and then hating that I’m filled with anxiety.
It’s so damned hard to “start over” so I’m very happy those 2 bottles remained unopened Lorraine.
Hugs in abundance. I too firmly believe a reunion with your brother is in your future but for now you’re handling the present like a rock star.5 -
I can't express how much all these posts mean to me, and probably to others that follow our thread, silently. You people are really, really kind and care so much about each other. It just moves me so much. Quiche, you are so strong. I'm still praying for you and for strength and comfort in this terrible time6
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RubyRed427 wrote: »Here’s a blessing from not drinking : being able to drive anywhere at a moments notice.
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Last night I had very disturbing dreams and in the dream I was drinking and then saying “oh no I forgot I quit.”
Love that Blessing for certain AND I'm thinking your dream was called a nightmare...I'm thinking of hitting up the morning AA meeting in that far away town tomorrow. I'm off again and love to drive and just filled my tank so I can't think of an excuse not to...
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OH btw one of those bottles of wine went back in the wine rack @ my client's and the other to my non-drinking friend's place Temptation averted this time around...phew!!!!6
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Hi @whitpauly Thinking of you these days.
@donimfp You are here for me NOW!! Your timing is perfect & @JenT304 Thank you
There is NO shame in starting over, in fact it is a sign of humility & strength...one definition of humility is "teachable" and that is a strong quality that will help us to learn the lessons along the way...this is ALL a big huge learning curve and none of us has it perfected, but we DO truly care about each other as @JenT304 said above and we are helping each other as we learn that it is perfectly ok NOT to be perfect...in fact it's impossible because we are all imperfect, and so we struggle together!!!3 -
By the way, @lorrainequiche59, I loved the saga of trying to recommend the interview with Dick Van *kitten*. I’m sure Mrs. Grundy will change my version of the name. Im surprised his name doesn’t become Kitten Van Kitten. I admire his youthful outlook very much so look forward to the interview.6
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Thank you for starting this thread. I am on day 2,733 lol. I quit drinking and smoking, and any mind-altering substances over 7 years ago. My life has improved immensely. Food is still a struggle and source of temporary comfort for me. I'm heavier than ever and wish desperately to get myself under control. I try to combat my food issues the same way I combated my drinking but it hasn't worked for me. But I'm stubborn and refuse to give up. People change their lives for the better everyday...I can too.6
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hows ya'll doing tho4
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JuliBiGoolee wrote: »Thank you for starting this thread. I am on day 2,733 lol. I quit drinking and smoking, and any mind-altering substances over 7 years ago. My life has improved immensely. Food is still a struggle and source of temporary comfort for me. I'm heavier than ever and wish desperately to get myself under control. I try to combat my food issues the same way I combated my drinking but it hasn't worked for me. But I'm stubborn and refuse to give up. People change their lives for the better everyday...I can too.
WELCOME to the best thread EVER!!! LOL Food is my last hold out and I still use it for comfort and need to get back to finding other ways again. I'm thinking that food was likely your first love as it was mine and a deeply entrenched source of comfort, not a healthy way to comfort ourselves but familiar huh?? I'm also thinking that our reasons for turning to substances for comfort/numbing/stuffing our feelings are also likely similar. Hugs to you for having the strength and courage to change. The food thing will change to if we don't give up trying to change it.3 -
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dlbohl1991 wrote: »Hey all
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AS a dear friend who I don't see often would say when he was about to reveal something "Buckle UP!!" So my revelation today is that I AM going to the town far, far away (sounds like a fairy tale doesn't it?) Actually only 33 mins from my house once I googled it...to my first AA meeting in decades. I vaguely remember going to my very first decades ago with my Xhubby...NEVER ever thought I would again. As I was thinking about going, and different times that others have shared that they go, I wondered WHY is it SO hard to go through the doors at an AA meeting and the word shame popped into my brain...BUT since then I disagree that it is shame because there is NOTHING SHAMEFUL about saying "I need help" and then taking the steps to get the help...THAT is COURAGE...
So if it isn't shame then what is it? After listening to Kitten Van Kitten (LOL Thx Doni for the AKA for D VanD aka DICK Van *kitten*) I think it is the STIGMA that people attach to AA...and to alcoholism aka alcohol use disorder or whatever other label someone may attach to a drinking problem. The stigma is that somehow we are defective, not mature, weak etc. But there is a physical/genetic component of alcoholism...our bodies process alcohol differently, but as Dick VanD brought out in his interview there are many people who are not alcoholics but they may still be heavy drinkers or irresponsible drinkers (drive over the limit) The consequences are still the same...an alcoholic may be more extreme and may die younger or tragically, but maybe not. I know alcoholics who are still kicking whose non-alcoholic spouses died way long ago. BUT it is our "quality of life" right now that matters. It doesn't really matter as much what specific day we are going to die but how we live our life up to that point.
SO, y'all KNOW that later today I'm going to fill you in on my first EVER AA meeting in decades, so I will tell you in advance to "Buckle UP!!!" One of my friends who has been one of my rocks this past week asked me why I felt the need to go to this particular meeting...I dodged the bullet and why not wait till next Tuesday eve for the local woman's meeting? Because, this IS what I need to do for ME right now today...will I be ok till next Tuesday? Maybe/Maybe not, but it is a resource that I am going to reach out to TODAY, and it will ease me into going to the other meeting on Tuesday PLUS it IS a beautiful day in the hood and I love to drive...it relaxes me So I'm going on an abbreviated road trip...no dogs either!!!!!! Just Moi!!!
May everyone PLEASE take care of yourself this day and IF there is anyone you've been thinking about lately or pops into your brain today please call/text them to let them know how much you love them.2 -
@lorrainequiche59 awesome! I think you will
Find such nice people and the stories are so relevant to what we’ve been through. I like how you’re following your instincts. It surely can’t hurt to go; you may find some good nuggets of wisdom too.
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Morning all,well it's taken me about a week off the booze to start feeling human again 😣 I dunno if it's cuz I had been off for so long or cuz I just drank TOO much but it hit me like a freight train! The madness has to remain stopped,I scared my husband,my daughter called him to come home cuz she caught me throwing up in the kitchen sink! How's that for sinking low?!?! I'm still very ashamed of myself and tbh a bit stunned by my behavior I was just so out of control yet couldn't stop,I'm glad I finally got some sense back but omg that's it! Wishes for a happy and healthy AF day 💗4
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Lorraine, I just wanted to say I'm sooooo happy that the wine stayed sealed and you didn't give in! Alcohol is a liar and a thief,it's not a friend it's out to kill me!3
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@whitpauly, you are so right. Alcohol, like depression, is a liar. I am far too quick to forget that about both of them. I hope you can let the shame go because I believe "it" is yet another liar that tells us we aren't worthy and precious people made in God's image.
@lorrainequiche59, I hope you have a wonderful experience. I am also driving to a city about 31 miles away today to see my awesome therapist. It's also a beautiful and pleasant (as opposed to sweltering) morning in my neck of the woods, so I will think of you on our parallel adventures today.
I had some wine last night while sitting on the back porch with my husband playing with Alexa, our new toy. I'm not hungover at all today, but I know if I continue to indulge the couple of glasses will inevitably increase to hangover and anxiety land. It really is a liar, and my almost 100 days of AF living this spring/summer were SO pleasant once I just did it. Pellegrino and the occasional AF beer had me feeling and looking my best. Sigh.
Have a great day, everyone. It seems almost everyone in North America needs some kind of break as far as weather goes. We're getting our break today, so I hope that translates to wherever you live.5 -
@whitpauly dont beat yourself up.
Its a guarantee we've all been there..
Keep going today and dont look back and feel shamed. You got this5 -
One word sums up my first AA experience OVERWHELMING!!! It is a small group of 10 or so where I went and they were very friendly and welcoming as I bawled through most of the meeting. I listened & could agree with lots said and I even decided to say a bit...don't ask me what...just a mishmash of stuff and as I passed the piece of paper with the "theme" for our sharing, I realized I didn't stick to the theme, but no one cared. There are a TON of meetings in our area....I do want to check out the other woman's meeting in town Tuesday eve and at some point will join a mixed group...but for now this is good. I don't know how long I'll attend, perhaps I'll become a "lifer" but time will tell. For now I made it to a meeting today...YAY me!!7
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Im glad things are working out for you @lorrainquiche59. Credit to all of you that can go to those. Id be terrified.
I have a kids slash adult bday party Saturday. Theres plenty of drinking and drinking games once the kids part of it is wrapped up. Im coming up on 5 months and it would be 7 if I didnt find that beer receipt. So thats it. Im just going to drop my daughter to play and have cake and pick her back up. I am positive that I would drink if I stay. Id come up with a thousand reasons why I deserve a drink at this point and they would help me find one more.
Coming up on the weekend I hope you all sail through with ease.
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