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The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living

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  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,232 Member
    @tifano Thank you so much for this amazing, heart wrenching and heart inspiring post. I read it like a life line of hope. I stumble and try again. I don't feel hopeless, because I will never ever give up. I absolutely appreciate checking up on me and us. I will read this again and just try to let it seep into my brain. There is a lot of justification that goes on in the alcoholic's mind. I do see through my own B.S. most of the time! :)

    Thanks again for stopping by!! Sending you a warm hug. xo <3
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,232 Member
    Another quiet weekend here. It is a lovely evening in my part of the world and I'm sitting on my patio writing this. I am dog sitting for a couple of weeks for a couple who are in Europe...they travel extensively and I am blessed to be able to care for their canine pal.

    I hope that everyone is having a happy, healthy AF weekend :)

    I know you enjoy dog sitting. Hopefully no cameras!! :D
    *If I remember correctly the story.
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,232 Member
    aroze0928 wrote: »
    Thanks @lorrainquiche59. It feels most of the time the guilt will never go away..not just with drinking but other areas of my life. I appreciate these words. I really have to work on it. That and a whole bunch of other stuff lol.
    We usually drink to forget and now that we dont do that the feelings are all out there loud and clear and theres no booze to quiet it down.


    Guilt is a wicked thing. I have it too. And probably every single person on this thread has had it. Sometimes when I am feeling guilty, I find a helpful youtube about guilt and how it takes away the present moment where we are doing just fine and drags us back to relive those horrible times. I know I say this often but we did the best we could at that time. Just like we'd tell our dear friend, I forgive you. I love you. The only thing you get from looking into the past is a stiff neck! ;)
  • aroze0928
    aroze0928 Posts: 254 Member
    You made me laugh Ruby. You're right! I get a stiff neck often. I am going to look into those videos.
    Its been a busy weekend and boy they go by quick.
    @tifano congratulations on your sobriety. Thats a haul. I hope you are well and good luck on all the challenges you face. You're a brave woman.
  • lorrainequiche59
    lorrainequiche59 Posts: 900 Member
    @tifano Thank you for sharing more of your story. <3 What a struggle, but you have developed the courage to continue to struggle and that is inspiring for us all here.

    @RubyRed427 LOL Yes, no cameras at my place. I did confront the female of the other dog sitting gig with the camera situation. I left it for a bit wondering if she would mention it to me, but she didn't so I decided I could practice my assertiveness skills by addressing the issue and keeping it simple and direct...voila!! Practice makes almost perfect!

    Hoping everyone a courageous, successful AF day!! <3
  • dlbohl1991
    dlbohl1991 Posts: 786 Member
    Hi everybody friend of bill w in Northern Iowa checking in!
  • lorrainequiche59
    lorrainequiche59 Posts: 900 Member
    dlbohl1991 wrote: »
    Hi everybody friend of bill w in Northern Iowa checking in!

    Hi Friend of Bill W in Northern Iowa...WELCOME :)
  • SunnyDays930
    SunnyDays930 Posts: 1,513 Member
    Thanks, Quiche for reminding us that have been quiet, that our voices matter here and we need to check in every once in a while out loud. I wonder if people that are still drinking feel like they can't comment. PLEASE DO. No one is here to judge anyone else. That is not and never has been what this thread is about. We are here to support each other regardless of where you are in your relationship with alcohol.
  • SunnyDays930
    SunnyDays930 Posts: 1,513 Member
    Welcome, @mobuckl !
  • lorrainequiche59
    lorrainequiche59 Posts: 900 Member
    Welcome @mobuckl. Glad to know you're out there :)

    @RubyRed427 My heart goes out to you cause I know your path is not easy and as you shared after all the activity and once life begins to settle down, the feelings are surfacing. Although you don't regret divorcing it IS a loss and there is a grieving process just like any other loss. I could remind you of all the reasons alcohol is not the answer, but you know all the reasons it isn't the answer. I understand the craving to numb the loneliness and pain too. We all have our own path and process. My hope for you is that you will find peace within your process. I'm still trying to work out my food issue so I don't feel like I can offer any wisdom for anyone else's "whatever" issue. Just please know I care and hope you find your way.
  • lorrainequiche59
    lorrainequiche59 Posts: 900 Member
    @lorrainequiche59 I'm still here.. struggled a bit, but still working on it. I believe norm's challenge started March 1.. definitely in March though.. Hope everyone is well!

    Thank you...I was just curious about Norm's challenge...so I suppose it's old news now LOL Anyway, glad you're still working on it. :)
  • lorrainequiche59
    lorrainequiche59 Posts: 900 Member
    Checking in. I have failed on my sobriety journey. I think the thing is I can do my life, I don't black out, I don't have real issues but I know it is holding me back. to deal with work stress and loneliness I drink. I wish I would stop.Maybe I will try the alcoholic experiment again. It worked well before for 2 months but obviously did not work long term for me.

    Thank you for checking in. Perhaps it isn't that you've "failed" at your sobriety journey, but whatever you are going through right now is part of that journey. Obviously, you have felt at some point that alcohol is a problem for you on some level or you wouldn't be on this thread. So the fact that you recognize that alcohol is "holding you back" may be the beginning of your journey, but you haven't quite figured out if you want to give it up completely just yet. And the fact that you "wish you could stop" and that you're considering the alcohol experiment once more indicates that you're not ready to give up trying. At some point you will make a decision one way or the other, but for now perhaps you could think of it as being in the process of making that decision.

    I hope you continue to check in.
  • lorrainequiche59
    lorrainequiche59 Posts: 900 Member
    dlbohl1991 wrote: »
    I just got off of probation after 5 years so now that the heat is off alcohol has been on the fore front more often but I’m still keeping my daily reprieve going

    It can be a daily struggle but worth the effort and one day it could be less & less of a struggle if that's what you want it to be. Hoping the best for you.
  • NormInv
    NormInv Posts: 3,303 Member
    Hello to all my Sober Squad friends...I'm hoping everyone is on vacation and having a wonderful time and that is why the thread is SO quiet once again. I realize that everyone who reads doesn't necessarily comment, but what would be lovely is if those who read could once in awhile just say, "Hi" to let us know you're there.

    Anyhoo, all is well in my part of the "hood" and what I have been wondering lately is about the 3 month challenge started by @NormInv . If you are somewhere out there lurking @NormInv , please remind me when that started...I was thinking May? which would mean it is completed or almost completed. I know I could go back a million & one pages, but I won't...so if anyone can remember please remind moi.

    I truly hope that everyone is well.

    ahhh the 3 month challenge! i think i lost track of it but i am sure all of you did great on it :)