The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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FeelinFooFoo wrote: »I cannot say I will never drink. I am learning to just drink moderately.
I'm planning to complete this 90 days alcohol free just to REALLY give it a go. I plan to see how I feel and make a desicion afterwards. I am pretty scared but also excited to see how I feel after 3 months completely free of alcohol. It's nerve wracking and exciting at same time!!
You can do 90 days easy. They say it takes 30 days to break a habit. After 90 days you will feel soooo much better and see the positive effects from not drinking you will not want to go back6 -
@FeelinFooFoo you might want to check out "Mrs. D. is Going Without" by Lotta Dann. It's written as a series of her blog posts day by day (Not every day . . . she skips some and narrates), but it's interesting to kind of follow along as she progresses and you progress. You can see how she felt during the first 90 days and then beyond. Her book goes all the way to day 365. Anyway, good luck on your adventure.5
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Hey friends! Nothing new to report- still sober 50+ days.. I lost track. My goal is to get to November 5 which would make 2 months. And I inadvertently am doing sober October so that's good.
@FeelinFooFoo Keep on going!! No matter what anyone else says. I agree with what someone said that when people question our goals to keep sober, it makes them take a look at their own dinking patterns. Typical behavior. Just keep laser focus on your goal- your body, brain and mind will thank you. And your skin too!
I read "Mrs. D goes without". It was great!
Typical sober evening is filled with hours and hours of free time. Tonight, I went to the trainer. Baked cookies and banana bread. Worked on my puzzle. Took a bubble bath. Cooked ahi tuna for myself with peas. And a few more things. Seriously, it's amazing what you can accomplish while sober. I am no longer wasting my time sitting on a bar stool, and then coming home for more booze. I am no longer tired early in the evening. I have a lot of energy most nights.
Still craving once in awhile. But it is getting a little bit less.10 -
@FeelinFooFoo a week is a BIG deal! Congrats, and your dinner sounds delicious!5
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Hope you enjoyed your dinner, @FeelinFooFoo.
Last night (Friday), my husband was drinking bourbon. He normally doesn't overdrink at all, but I felt like he was pushing it a bit last night. I didn't say anything, but I thought to myself, "Yeah, I remember when I started drinking right after work and pretty much drank until bedtime. Glad that's over with." I think it might have been the first time I was truly happy not to be drinking and not wishing I could join in at all. It was just something to observe. Day 118 today. I'm saying that as a point of reference for when that non-regretful feeling happened. I'm finding it an interesting experience to just observe how this all progresses.
Oh, and I had a virtual check up with my GP yesterday. It was so nice to be able to tell her I quit drinking and to report my weight loss (26.2 lbs. since July 5). @FeelinFooFoo, I've found that not drinking has sort of automatically shifted me into healthier eating, except for the occasional craving for an ice cream bar, which I never ate before. I do indulge that craving when it happens.8 -
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Thanks to those recommending Bex Weller. I just watched the video about sobriety vs moderation. Wow that was super motivating and really resonated with me. Happy Weekend y'all. Americans, don't forget to VOTE!5
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It is a beautiful fall day here in the Midwest. Happy Halloween! I do remember Halloween nights when the kids were little. They would go trick or treating with my husband and I would keep sneaking drinks out of our liquor cabinet.
Today, I will be sober. I do not miss those morning headaches or queasy stomach. It is getting easier, little by little, to abstain. I am pretty determined to get to two months on Nov. 5th. That will be the longest streak in the last two years.
@FeelinFooFoo sounds like the Bex program is all around excellent! 7 days is fabulous.
@donimfp congrats on the weight loss too. Yes, now I look at others who are drinking and think , I'm happy I won't wake up feeling yucky.
@JenT304 Love sharing our sober journey together.
@MissMay I also check your thread. Both threads give me motivation.
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FeelinFooFoo wrote: »I cannot say I will never drink. I am learning to just drink moderately.
I'm planning to complete this 90 days alcohol free just to REALLY give it a go. I plan to see how I feel and make a desicion afterwards. I am pretty scared but also excited to see how I feel after 3 months completely free of alcohol. It's nerve wracking and exciting at same time!!
You can do 90 days easy. They say it takes 30 days to break a habit. After 90 days you will feel soooo much better and see the positive effects from not drinking you will not want to go back
Love seeing your posts. The profile pic is so pretty!3 -
I just was on the Bex Weller website and joined the Sparkle Project! I'm excited!3
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You can never have to much information or support with our topics.👻🎃 Happy Halloween allRubyRed427 wrote: »@MissMay I also check your thread. Both threads give me motivation.
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It just occurred to me I did Sober October! A few of us have!
I think on @MissMay 's thread, she posted " A November to Remember" is next.
One of the negatives of being sober is isolation. I just don't feel like going to friend's house for football party. Or out after work for happy hour. I am slowly moving out of my isolation though.
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I don't think I shared this on here. If I did, please forgive the repetition. A couple of weeks ago we had a particularly stressful bit of drama at work. As I left at the end of the day, one of my colleagues said, "Go home and have a drink." I don't know why, but I said, "Yeah. I would, but I quit drinking in July." Another colleague piped up, "Well, we'll soon fix that!" Everyone including me laughed. It just made me realize I'm looking forward to our first happy hour together (The bars still aren't opened because of pandemic). That's when they'll see I'm serious. Of course, I know none of them would have ever suspected alcohol was even an issue for me. I typically had one drink at HH. But then I drove home and polished off plenty more. I'm actually thankful that COVID has given me time to get my bearings before having to socialize, but now I'm at the point that I'm looking forward to it.
Happy Halloween, everyone!
Oh, speaking of colleagues, here's a funny story that has absolutely nada to do with alcohol, so don't read unless you just want an extra laugh. One of my co-workers (in fact, the one who said they would "fix it") came in last Monday and said over the weekend she and a girlfriend ran some errands. At one crowded store, her friend let her out to run in while the friend circled in the parking lot. My colleague came out, saw her friend's candy-red Lexus, threw her bag in the back seat, hopped in the front seat, and they took off. She said she vaguely noticed her friend's jeans. They left the parking lot and stopped at a red light. My colleague commented that the store was surprisingly not too crowded. At this point, she and the driver (an unfamiliar man) looked at each other and screamed. She said, "I thought you were my friend!" He said, "I thought you were my wife!" He immediately took her back to the store and they both apologized profusely. I had to wonder if I, or my husband (!) would ever be that unobservant. I've been laughing about that all week.7 -
This is a great thread and I'm glad to find it. Last night my daughter shared a story with me about an incident that happened this week with a woman we know who had been "taking care of" her x-boyfriend. They lived in separate apartments in the same building and although the boyfriend relationship was over, she could not let go of feeling that she was responsible for his health. (She had not discovered al-anon) She came home late from work and thought to check on him but decided to wait until the next morning. The next morning she discovered that in a drunken stupor he fell, hitting the corner of a glass table with his head, and died. The funeral was yesterday and such a sad story for all, the man, the woman, his two children and many more. Alcoholism destroys so many lives, it's not just about me, when I drink. I know I use food the same way I used alcohol, but we CAN DO THIS. We can get healthy and have joyful lives.7
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@donimfp hahah very funny story- I laughed out loud about the car mix up.
On Friday, one of my teacher friends whom I do know likes to drink a lot said to me, "I think today we ought to go to happy hour after work!". I think she was fishing to see if I'd bite. I didn't really say much but just smiled. If I would have gone I am SURE I would have had some wine and ruined my streak.
So, I understand how your colleagues suggested happy hour after work- it seems like the perfect way to end the week- and I am like you - at home afterwards I would have polished off plenty more.3 -
This is a great thread and I'm glad to find it. Last night my daughter shared a story with me about an incident that happened this week with a woman we know who had been "taking care of" her x-boyfriend. They lived in separate apartments in the same building and although the boyfriend relationship was over, she could not let go of feeling that she was responsible for his health. (She had not discovered al-anon) She came home late from work and thought to check on him but decided to wait until the next morning. The next morning she discovered that in a drunken stupor he fell, hitting the corner of a glass table with his head, and died. The funeral was yesterday and such a sad story for all, the man, the woman, his two children and many more. Alcoholism destroys so many lives, it's not just about me, when I drink. I know I use food the same way I used alcohol, but we CAN DO THIS. We can get healthy and have joyful lives.
Welcome to our thread!! We are in this together. Very sad tale about the ex boyfriend. I am positive it happens dozens of time in a day all over the world. It is so tragic.
I remember watching a youtube video made by a young man who filmed his mom drunk lying on the floor of their house. HE was narrating it and talking to her. She was saying I can't get up and I dont want to. The young man was quite calm because he has seen this happen every damn day. He said his dad also enables his mom to drink because Dad is an alcoholic too. That sad image of a drunk mom lying on their floor is seared in my mind.
I saw a tweet on twitter that said right now 50 million people are drinking in the world. (Friday night tweet). Someone replied about what you miss from begin sober (like vomiting, hangover, embarrassment, memory loss). Then, I saw one reply that said "My mom is drunk now." and I figured it was a young person just sharing the pain on twitter. The comment was short but heartbreaking.4 -
Another sober first: a very important presidential election. I do know that if I were drinking, I'd be drinking a lot. I'm thankful I won't be drinking on election night--either to drown my sorrows or to celebrate. Bed with a good book and herbal tea will make this much more healthy for my body, mind, and spirit than the way I spent the last 3 elections. Let's commit to good self care on Nov. 3.10
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Another sober first: a very important presidential election. I do know that if I were drinking, I'd be drinking a lot. I'm thankful I won't be drinking on election night--either to drown my sorrows or to celebrate. Bed with a good book and herbal tea will make this much more healthy for my body, mind, and spirit than the way I spent the last 3 elections. Let's commit to good self care on Nov. 3.
My sister took off work tomorrow cuz she will be drinking tonight for the election. I have absolutely no desire to drink. At this point I really dont care who wins because we cannot change the outcome one way or the other. I will be going to bed so I can work out tomorrow morning.6 -
Another sober first: a very important presidential election. I do know that if I were drinking, I'd be drinking a lot. I'm thankful I won't be drinking on election night--either to drown my sorrows or to celebrate. Bed with a good book and herbal tea will make this much more healthy for my body, mind, and spirit than the way I spent the last 3 elections. Let's commit to good self care on Nov. 3.
My sister took off work tomorrow cuz she will be drinking tonight for the election. I have absolutely no desire to drink. At this point I really dont care who wins because we cannot change the outcome one way or the other. I will be going to bed so I can work out tomorrow morning.
I think drinking would exacerbate depression and anxiety over the election. I was sober too and am going for a walk. Have a good workout!3 -
RubyRed427 wrote: »Another sober first: a very important presidential election. I do know that if I were drinking, I'd be drinking a lot. I'm thankful I won't be drinking on election night--either to drown my sorrows or to celebrate. Bed with a good book and herbal tea will make this much more healthy for my body, mind, and spirit than the way I spent the last 3 elections. Let's commit to good self care on Nov. 3.
My sister took off work tomorrow cuz she will be drinking tonight for the election. I have absolutely no desire to drink. At this point I really dont care who wins because we cannot change the outcome one way or the other. I will be going to bed so I can work out tomorrow morning.
I think drinking would exacerbate depression and anxiety over the election. I was sober too and am going for a walk. Have a good workout!
Hope your walk was a nice relaxing walk. I am shocked it's been so nice here in Illinois the weather has been in the 60s and 70s all week well into the weekend!! Now that puts me in a good mood! LOL!3 -
Yay @RubyRed427 50 PLUS one day!!! Happy 51 AF days
Yay @FeelinFooFoo on 2 weeks.
I had a few pages of reading to catch up. @363days This IS a great thread. Very sad story you shared, but it highlights the reality of overdrinking and the hook of addiction.
I hope the woman who found her ex isn't plagued with guilt because she waited to check on him. Like you said alcohol ruins so many lives!!!
Hope everyone has a great weekend
Here in Ontario Canada we are having some really balmy weather...the last hoorah before chillsville 
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Before prescribing a medication for a fingernail issue I’m having (yuck) my doctor ordered a liver function blood test. It came back perfect. I feel quite sure it wouldn’t have been so great 124 days ago. Yay! I didn’t feel the need to “cram” for that test for a few days first.9
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FeelinFooFoo wrote: »2 weeks AF 😄
Already feeling better, about everything. Absolutely loving SS with Bex Weller.
I hear you! I'm happy for you- it is so worth the "sacrifice" - feeling better is a great reward.4 -
Before prescribing a medication for a fingernail issue I’m having (yuck) my doctor ordered a liver function blood test. It came back perfect. I feel quite sure it wouldn’t have been so great 124 days ago. Yay! I didn’t feel the need to “cram” for that test for a few days first.
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FeelinFooFoo wrote: »RubyRed427 wrote: »FeelinFooFoo wrote: »2 weeks AF 😄
Already feeling better, about everything. Absolutely loving SS with Bex Weller.
I hear you! I'm happy for you- it is so worth the "sacrifice" - feeling better is a great reward.
🤗 thanks! Yeah when I weigh it up, I can either feel good most of the time (When AF) or fling that all out the window for a very temporary 'buzz' which leads to me feeling AWFUL for days !! No contest 🤷♀️
Oh, I remember you said on here you have signed up for the sparkle project. I looked that up, I might try it too. At a later date once iv gotten more AF days under my belt.
I have completed the sparkle experiment, it seems that was a free prelude to the sparkle project. It was a wee extra on the SS membership site. It was only an experiment for 9 days, but I feel like I got a heck of a lot from it. So, I probably will try the project too! Let us know how you find it won't you ! 💖
Totally agree- for a few hours of perceived fun, my body and mind suffers so terrible. And then it takes me days to get it under control. It's simply too much effort drinking at this point of my life.
The sparkle project for week 1 was cooking for yourself. So, I got some groceries and veggies and made two meals. I didn't order take out like I usually do every day. I felt energetic after eating home cooking even though I am a bland cook.
I think you will be a motivation for your brother who drinks just like I did. He will live and learn and hopefully not make as many mistakes with alcohol as I did.4 -
Two months and three days sober today! I haven't done that in about 2 years. I will keep it going. I am starting to crave much less each day. Even at friends house last night, all were drinking and one friend was slurring and crying after wine. I felt almost smug that I was sober. I knew the pay off was a good workout this morning.6
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RubyRed427 wrote: »Two months and three days sober today! I haven't done that in about 2 years. I will keep it going. I am starting to crave much less each day. Even at friends house last night, all were drinking and one friend was slurring and crying after wine. I felt almost smug that I was sober. I knew the pay off was a good workout this morning.
OOOPs I misread one of your previous posts...HAPPY 2 months & 3 days sober 2 -
@RubyRed427, Well done!! Celebration and rewards in order!
I feel gratitude to Kate Bee for my newfound sobriety (18 weeks tomorrow). But I’m equally grateful to you. If you hadn’t started our original list ( Which Jen carried forward— Thanks, Jen), I feel sure I would never have persevered for over 2 years until things finally clicked. So thank you VERY much Julie/Ruby! Community is crucial and you got that ball rolling.6 -
Hi guys... still here and still sober.
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