The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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@RubyRed427, I'll bet we can all relate to that feeling. Way back when, I gave my BFF (who has been sober for 5 years now) a card with two women on the front. One says, "You can freeze leftover wine in ice cube trays and use it for cooking." The other replies, "Wow! What an interesting concept!" and inside the card continues, "Leftover wine!" At the time we laughed because we couldn't imagine such a thing either. There was never "extra" wine.
I've got a new doctor and told her I have recently stopped drinking. She said, "You can have one small glass of wine per day." I said, "No I can't. I can have none or ten."
I LOVE this, "No I can't. I can have none or ten" YUP!!3 -
@RubyRed427, I'll bet we can all relate to that feeling. Way back when, I gave my BFF (who has been sober for 5 years now) a card with two women on the front. One says, "You can freeze leftover wine in ice cube trays and use it for cooking." The other replies, "Wow! What an interesting concept!" and inside the card continues, "Leftover wine!" At the time we laughed because we couldn't imagine such a thing either. There was never "extra" wine.
I've got a new doctor and told her I have recently stopped drinking. She said, "You can have one small glass of wine per day." I said, "No I can't. I can have none or ten."
Exactly !!! One is too much and ten is not enough.... or something like that.
Thanks for your kind words before. Many of us started together back in 2017 on the Less Alcohol thread. And many of us have determined for us, less alcohol is not possible and neither is moderation. That made me smile when you and your friend laughed about leftover wine. So true!4 -
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »DAY OFF!!!!!! Had planned for a part of the day at the beach, BUT it appears from the forecast, which tends to change on a daily basis, that will not be the plan for today...SO, going for breakie with a friend and then hoping for the thunderstorm they've promised for this aft so I can just chill, lay in bed with my puppy and read a large portion of my novel...I just need one of those days
May we all have a relaxing?/productive?/fun?, AF day...the commonality in that sentence is AF...so whatever we end up doing may it be AF
Some days it is lovely to be "forced" to relax and read. Love a good thunderstorm for that reason! Congrats on your new puppy!!3 -
I decided to go alcohol free to support my husband who has quit drinking.8
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lol, my personal saying has always been "one's too many, and a hundred'd not enough". Funny (well not really) thing is, I used to say it about others. Karma!4
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Morning friends,hmm I don't have any favorite sayings except probably it's 5 o clock somewhere since I'd drink at any time of the day-didnt matter to me,one of the things I've been thinking about is my alcohol forum I've been on for years and I kind of want to just walk away from it but then on the other had I've made good "friends" there too,I just read from one of the members who just celebrated 6 years sober and he said he had to walk away from the forum cuz he just wanted to forget where he was at back then and doesn't want a constant reminder of those days,feels he's quit drinking and moved on from that life and doesn't want the constant reminder or the temptation of constantly thinking about what he's not doing anymore,to me it spoke alot about how I feel about it,like having it constantly shoved down your throat that you're a recovering alcoholic,I really hate that, people quit smoking all the time but they're not "in recovery" why can't someone quit drinking just the same? I dunno just something I've pondered in the past too like maybe that thinking is keeping me stuck,anyhoo enough rambling from me haha,wishing everyone an awesome AF day!💖5
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@whitpauly, I totally get what you're saying. That's how I've felt about counting days. And even checking in to this great group. I've wondered, "When do I ever get to stop thinking about alcohol?" It hasn't happened yet. And you['re right . . . none of the former smokers I know are so conscious every day of not smoking. I don't have any idea what the answer is. I just wanted to say that I feel the same way. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that alcohol is absolutely everywhere. At least it is in my world.4
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@whitpauly it’s over 11 years AF and 40 years non smoking and I consider myself a former drinker and smoker not recovering from anything but a family member over 20 years still goes to AA so she is recovering
I feel it is your attitude and frame of mind that dictates recovering or former I never consider I could revert back to drinking so I am former she fears a relapse so I guess recovering
I sit in bars restaurants where I just give back my wine glass when it’s BYOB and they pour for everyone else consider yourself a non drinker and don’t give it a second thought7 -
Thanks everyone for your input
I think I just have a particularly hard time with the forum I'm on because they are so judgy in a way,I've seen people chastised and told they're "back to day 1" after an accidental sip of something alcoholic,or some that have made progress yet aren't completely AF yet get beat up in away for that,plus some of the horror stories are triggers in a way( even though they're being told to help someone not pick up a drink) for me I'd just rather forget,I don't mind checking in here cuz we prop each other up in a way and listen with compassion instead of judgement,I like that about all of us😊 4 -
As a former smoker I can tell you the reason it doesn't seem as hard as quitting drinking is because smoking is totally frowned on, they make it harder and harder to smoke anywhere in public, there are no ads anymore glorifying it etc. Drinking on the other hand is expected, glamorized, romanticized etc etc. Alcohol is all over billboards, tv, greeting cards etc. You can't get away from it. I am finding quitting booze MUCH harder than leaving cigarettes in the dust. I rarely think about them anymore.8
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@RubyRed427 There's no "new" puppy ... it's my old puppy ... he's technically a "senior" (11 going on 12) but he's really a "puppy @ heart"
@lilarose1027 Very loving to be supportive of your hubby's resolve to stop drinking. Certainly he'll appreciate having an AF home to work on his issue. 3 -
I've always believed that drinking is only a "symptom" of the real problem lurking behind the drinking. It's not the drinking but the thinking that is the problem. Like most have commented alcohol is promoted to have fun, chill with friends, release stress etc etc etc. It is glamorized and romanticized etc, so it IS difficult to move on from that end of things. BUT it is a facade as we well know...it is NOT real and if we NEED a drink to have fun, chill with friends, relieve stress as is portrayed in the media then that is just evidence of a problem...so from now on perhaps we can think differently when we see all the ads that glorify POISON and the attempts to brainwash us into thinking we are somehow missing out! It is an industry that is making people sick physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually while they rake in the bucks from polluting others. It's actually sick!! and very greedy!! I am so glad I'm not contributing to that anymore by financing them through my own use.
I believe I will be in "recovery" for a length of time, but my recovery isn't from drinking too much & too often, it is recovery from what led me to drink too much & too often...which is the pain in my life that I was trying to drink down. When we are trying to stop doing something harmful to improve ourselves any "shame" from others really lies with them. THEY are leaking their own shame onto us...they are reminded of their own problem and still working really hard to deny they have a problem cause they either are not ready to stop it, OR do not want to stop. I know this cause I did it for many years, so I can now see it in others.
What I have found since I stopped drinking is that those who continue to, don't want to be around me so much anymore. It isn't due to me preaching the benefits of sobriety because I do not unless I am asked and I'm not asked often...I am a reminder to them that they are still doing what I stopped doing. So rather than feeling ashamed, I feel proud for fighting every day because some days it is not easy, but I never want to go back to "easy" cause in the long run it is the absolute hardest!!
We ALL should be proud of ourselves for fighting even when we put our gloves down once or twice because if we are still on this thread we are still fighting!!! HAPPY DAY to all here and may we all have a healthy, happy AF day!! 9 -
I love this thread. I am 8 days now. My runs are improving. I am feeling happier. I worked out every day this week.
Ruby red i totaaly get the need to finish off others wine. I hate wasted alcohol.3 -
Well put as usual @lorrainquiche592
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End of a happy AF weekend. I went to see the film "Yesterday" and found it so delightfully joyfully wonderful! What a fun experience. And I didn't even envy my mom's "Bloody Mary Comes to Me" cocktail. They were serving Beatles-themed drinks with the film. If you liked Slumdog Millionaire, I recommend Yesterday!5
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@donimfp I was needing a good movie! Thanks for the suggestion. I really loved "Rocketman" which I've already recommended on this thread.
@lorrainequiche59 You are wise!
I am nearing the end of the vacation with extended family. Six days in West Virginia- I did feel a pull towards the bar on a few occasions. I also saw lots of revelers last night in the great hall drinking, wine glasses full, three whiskey bottles on a table, etc. There was a huge family reunion hanging out and drinking.
I must say that my first thought was I do not want the hangover that some of them will feel tomorrow. I am still petrified of feeling that hangover. Sometimes, that alone, keeps me sober. I don't know what tomorrow will bring, but I do know that I spent this whole vacation sober and content.9 -
@RubyRed427 A sober vacation is such an accomplishment. Proud of you!
Today is a holiday here, but I must work. I could move it to another day, but will regret having too much work in one day just to have this day off. I've been feeling a little blue lately....something's brewing inside of me. My antidote is to count my many blessings, and to repeat as needed throughout the day....
One of my many blessings is this thread and the support I have here.
Another is, It is a beautiful sunny day with the cute wee birds chirping away...I bet birds don't get depressed LOL But if they do, they sing anyway...!
I have a reliable vehicle to get to work and I have work to pay the bills...AND before I know it, I will be done my work and glad I went!!
Hope everyone's day has many blessings
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RubyRed great work on the sober vacation. I always feel like drinking is part of vacation.
Lorraine-we should all count our blessings. I find when I am sober I realize when I am going down. You are strong and you will get past this.3 -
Good morning everyone.. It's been a while, but I'm ready to get back on the horse permanently.. I did my 90 days with one slip, then we were having company up to visit in wine country and that started my downhill slide.. I was the DD while everyone wine tasted, but played catch up once we were settled in for the night.. Since then, I've had drinks on more nights than I'd like to admit.. I didn't really enjoy it, but felt the 'withdrawal' and urge to drink on nights following.. I've felt more down also as of late and the alcohol only fuels it. I hope that at times when I have urges to drink that I can reflect on the last 2 weeks to keep myself in check.. I really wasn't missing out on anything at all, but the loss factor is a big thing/issue for me. It's also astounding how easily I can gain weight, despite how long it takes to lose it. So back to day 1 for me, starting the 2nd half of the year off right. At least my attempts in the first half of the year give me confidence in overcoming the first few tough weeks.. Hopefully this time I can stick with my mantra of 'If it ain't broke, don't fix it' and just let AF living be the peacefulness that it is.
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@RubyRed427 I love your new picture! You look so refreshed and happy and lovely! 5
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