The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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RubyRed427 wrote: »
This stuff is good. Maybe for New Year's Eve I will buy a six pack.
Ruby I drink this a lot when I am out. Funny story, we were at a Summer(2019) pig roast, very festive place with a live band and it was a HOT August day. I was having so much fun I had no idea how many of these I was pounding down. Well when it got time to leave we were saying our goodbyes, I had my car keys in my hand that people could I guess see or hear. 2 men wanted to know if we needed a ride home because they "saw" I was drinking a lot. I really had to laugh and grab a bottle to assure them I was fine as kind.
Happy Holidays gang
Drink responsibly
(P.s. I am going to borrow this pic for our thread for the New Year....if you don't mind)5 -
@RubyRed427 I had a day too yesterday. We had my partner's family out to the cabin, and drinking has been going on since Christmas Eve. They went to go get more champagne about 3, and I about lost it, between in-laws, not seeing my kids, not drinking when all the other women are, and *kitten* rain. So no enjoying outdoors, no x-country skiing. Grabbed my Girlie Girl and headed for a long muddy icy walk. It helped, but upon arrival, partner was in truck about to come looking for me (it was getting dark at, yes, 4, and asked what I was doing, etc. which brought about the tears which I'd just dried upon arrival. My therapist is off this week, but will def be looking forward to a deconstruction session week after.6
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@mainelylisa I was listening to Gabor Mate who implies we have to be honest about our feelings, don't hide them behind a smile and say yes to things we want to say no to....
So, your tears were healthy and cleansing. Get all that emotion out. Or it will eat you up.
@donimfp @MissMay Yes these AF beers are great when you're out and don't want to feel left out. I like holding the bottle and going home sober. Yes, Miss May, please share on less alcohol thread.
I was in a bar watching Army/Navy a few weeks ago and my friends were all drinking and the AF beer made me feel so happy- I typically feel left out when everyone else drinks without abandon. It's my mental challenge to overcome! It's all perspective, I know.5 -
RubyRed427 wrote: »One of my goals this new year: go to therapy once a month ! I know that many of my issues around food and alcohol stem from difficult childhood. Not blaming my mom ; she did the best she could.
I just think by actually talking through the painful memories might do me good. Get it all out and then allow myself to heal. I already feel better writing this.
I think therapy is a great goal to work toward healing. In order to heal we need to understand why we developed certain unhealthy coping strategies to deal with our pain. These helped us survive our childhood, but unfortunately interfere with our adulthood. It is an act of courage to share with another what can be very painful. I'm cheering you on...you are a strong, kind soul and you deserve to find your peace.
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RubyRed427 wrote: »One of my goals this new year: go to therapy once a month ! I know that many of my issues around food and alcohol stem from difficult childhood. Not blaming my mom ; she did the best she could.
I just think by actually talking through the painful memories might do me good. Get it all out and then allow myself to heal. I already feel better writing this.
I feel the same. My sons gf was quizzing me about my past just the week prior. And upon disclosing things in front of my kids my voice was breaking. And I didnt sleep well that night. And the thoughts rolled into the next day. And it occurred to me I never dealt with things. I need to do that to heal and then maybe I wont stuff my feelings with food.7 -
I may be young (lower 20’s) but i have struggled with alcohol on and off since i was young. Today marks one month and one week sober on my first ever attempt and I couldn’t be more proud. To all those working at it you can do it ❤️14
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I may be young (lower 20’s) but i have struggled with alcohol on and off since i was young. Today marks one month and one week sober on my first ever attempt and I couldn’t be more proud. To all those working at it you can do it ❤️
Excellent. Keep at it. Dont waste your life on alcohol. Take it from me. There's no happiness at the bottom of the bottle.6 -
I may be young (lower 20’s) but i have struggled with alcohol on and off since i was young. Today marks one month and one week sober on my first ever attempt and I couldn’t be more proud. To all those working at it you can do it ❤️
Good for you for recognizing your struggle with alcohol at such a young age. Proud of you 6 -
@shredsx, Good for you! Speaking for someone on the very far side of early 20s, you are giving yourself a great gift that I would have loved to have in my twenties or thirties. Keep it up!
Foo Foo, thanks for the recs. The Freixenet may be promising for NYE!
I forgot to take my 6-week selfie last Monday. Yesterday was week 25. So taking one today. Just a face selfie. The progression is really noticeable and encouraging. My daughter keeps asking me why I'm all fancied up on FaceTime. She can't put her finger on it.
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Boy, I had a lot of catching up to do!!!
@rubyred427 I was never a huge beer drinker, but I think I might try the Heineken. Also, love the WARNING post. I can see a huge difference in myself.
@mainelylisa the mocktails look delicious. I think I'll try the Kombucha and Pom.
@FeelinFooFoo - Congrats on the sober Christmas. I love the tattoo idea. I am considering one for my one year. Not sure what yet. Maybe something small on my wrist.
@Donimfp - I would love to see a pic of your 100 days bracelet. I have one that my running buddy gave me before our half marathon. It is just a silver cuff, but the inside says "KEEP F^(K!N@ GOING" I have found that it applies in soooo may situations. I look at it a lot lately.
Therapy posts - Although this forum is a great place for support, I think we could all use a session on the sofa. I have also found over the holidays that my relationship with food is not what it should be. It is far better than it was a year ago, but still not where it should be. I am just glad that I avoided the bottle. However, I did sniff the bottle of Grand Marnier... my cordial of choice.
@shredsx - yay for you getting this under control in your 20s! My drinking has scarred my daughters and for that I am so sad. I wish I had realized in my 20s and not waited till my 40s!!!
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My post-holiday check in:
I am still sober. I hit 300 days on the 26th. I am just proud to still be sober.9 -
I know there's been mention of various sober/recovery schools. Can y'all share any recommendations? I've watched a couple of videos from Kate from thesoberschool.com. But the course in Jan is close to $600. Ouch! (Totally worth it if it works--would just love a recommendation.) Looked into Tempest where they have a $150/yr community support level. Thanks in advance!3
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@mainelylisa, Kate’s sober school was worth every penny and more. It’s 397 pounds. At the time I took it the exchange rate made that right at $500. Obviously the money saved on booze quickly covers that. But here I am at day 176. Priceless. The thing I appreciated most was Kate’s daily involvement with the class. You can ask her questions and she will answer. Plus you feel like you have women friends from all over the world who are in this with you. There were 125 in my class. She isn’t just selling a “curriculum “ but is providing a community and real time support. I’m sure Bex Weller’s is good too. I can only personally wholeheartedly recommend Kate’s. I took the plunge knowing she has a 7-day no questions asked cancellation policy with a full refund. But I never wanted to cancel.6
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FeelinFooFoo wrote: »Intresting article, hope it posts okay !
Sir Anthony Hopkins sends emotional message to mark 45 years sober after ‘drinking myself to death’ – Metro
https://metro.co.uk/2020/12/29/anthony-hopkins-marks-45-years-sober-after-drinking-myself-to-death-13822582/amp/?ito=upday
That was so lovely! I Love A. Hopkins in many roles. And this is extra special because he is sober.
It is black and white: do I want to live or die?
Thank you for sharing!3 -
I have been taking a break from MFP for a very good reason. I got inspired to create my own brand for a future company involving my passion : teaching. I bought two domain names, have an artist designing a few logos for me to choose from for my brand, and much more.
It was like an epiphany. I signed up on tiktok. Within a day, I watched some guy's tips for making money (side hustle) and I was off and running with an idea.
I have been so excited and rejuvenated, because I found a new purpose.
I am absolutely positive I would not have been on this creative kick and endeavor if I was drinking.
Over the holidays, I would have been carrying on with friends, drinking bottle after bottle and nursing hangovers.
Instead during this winter break, I am developing my own brand and perhaps future business.
I'll still keep my day job as a teacher but who knows... maybe in a few years, I can quit teaching and focus on my own business plan.
I can dream!
Nearing four months sober on Jan. 5th, and I am so grateful to be sober.11 -
mainelylisa wrote: »I know there's been mention of various sober/recovery schools. Can y'all share any recommendations? I've watched a couple of videos from Kate from thesoberschool.com. But the course in Jan is close to $600. Ouch! (Totally worth it if it works--would just love a recommendation.) Looked into Tempest where they have a $150/yr community support level. Thanks in advance!
For free, you can join Annie Grace..
https://learn.thisnakedmind.com/the-alcohol-experiment-registration
It's a program for 30 days and you can watch daily videos and participate in a forum and share what you're learning.
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@Beka3695 Your profile pic is so beautiful- you look happy!!
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I may be young (lower 20’s) but i have struggled with alcohol on and off since i was young. Today marks one month and one week sober on my first ever attempt and I couldn’t be more proud. To all those working at it you can do it ❤️
Many of us would say "keep it up!!" ; don't waste your time drinking and making bad decisions while drunk.
I wish I had all those hours back that I spent wasting my time with fellow drinkers who weren't even my friends.
I'm so proud of you to discover that alcohol has become a problem and not a solution. Congrats on 5 weeks sober!
You are so brave and smart!4 -
Dec 27 2020, one year alcohol free
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Hey @RubyRed427, in 1998 I created an educational publishing company and in 1999 quit teaching to run it full time. It grew so big I sold it to an investor in 2006 and continued on as VP product development until 2018. I’m just sharing this to say that if I can help in any way, holler.8
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Who is going to be happy to not have a hangover on January 1?! This girl right here. Let's kick 2020 out the door and hope for a much better, healthy, happier and sober 2021!6
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Every famous person that reveals a story like this, surely helps many many others.
https://www.cnn.com/2020/12/30/entertainment/chrissy-teigen-sober-scli-intl/index.html4 -
_canadianbakin_ wrote: »Dec 27 2020, one year alcohol free
Bravo!!! Amazing and wise!3 -
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Hey @RubyRed427, in 1998 I created an educational publishing company and in 1999 quit teaching to run it full time. It grew so big I sold it to an investor in 2006 and continued on as VP product development until 2018. I’m just sharing this to say that if I can help in any way, holler.
Yes yes yes- I will need some advice. I do not have a business mind; I'm creative but not in business. I will message you my phone number and we can talk sometime. Thank you!2 -
Think the Alcohol and Sugar lobbyists might be sleeping with our wonderful U.S. government? https://www.wsj.com/articles/new-u-s-dietary-guidelines-reject-recommendation-to-cut-sugar-alcohol-intake-11609254000
Two of the most addictive and detrimental substances on the planet. I have no words for this. Yes, I do. Disgust.
Thank you for the sober school tips. I'll let you know what I decide and how it goes. Funny, I just saw Anthony's post before coming over here--love that man.
@RubyRed427 That's wonderful you're inspired! I'm hoping that I can kick *something* into high gear while not drinking. Memoir, business idea, becoming the next Chess Queen. I think this is where patience meets my fav slogan of all time--"Just Do It." So bravo to you for jumping in and be fearless! I'm full of marketing ideas (and cheesy slogans), so hit me up if you ever want to brainstorm.
I'd personally rather be posting on here the intentional things I'm doing (because I'm not letting alcohol get in the way), than the # days I've gone without drinking. Because *that's* the ultimate goal.
Cheers to a Hangover-Free New Year!4 -
@mainelylisa OMG that is disgusting! That article and the refusal to limit alcohol is definitely lobby based.
The lobby groups are the most powerful especially tobacco and alcohol groups.
I once read an article that the American Health Association will sell their logo to food companies for a good price. The example being on a box of Frosted Flakes , the company purchased the "healthy heart label".
We know that Frosted Flakes cereal offers no nutritional value and they were able to put the National Heart Association label on their box!!
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Happy New Year friends! I will be sober as I know many of you will be.
The payoff will be a good night's sleep and a hangover free January 1st.8 -
RubyRed427 wrote: »@Beka3695 Your profile pic is so beautiful- you look happy!!
Thank you!!!!6
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