donimfp wrote: »
I'm wondering about that quote. I'm not sure what it means. Sometimes I miss what alcohol gave me, like a buzz, oblivion, an escape. I guess I could characterize that as "grieving" for what I can't have any more. But as far as grieving my old "self" . . . I'm not sure I understand that. My non-drinking self is better in every way from my drinking self. I can't grieve the loss of the old insecure, anxious, nauseated, depressed me. I understand more grieving the loss of that old lying, false "friend," alcohol.
I hope I don't sound like I'm trying to be argumentative. I'm not. I just so do not miss the old "me" that it's hard for me to understand the idea of grieving for that old "self." She was in every way inferior to who I am now. (I think! I could be wrong . . . maybe someone will enlighten me).
nighthawk584 wrote: »
Does anyone have friends or family who don't understand why you quit drinking? I DO! They say things like, "it's not that hard to stop at one or two." even though I tell them it was all consuming, and one reason my health deteriorated (both mentally and physically) and I was 100 lbs overweight, and one reason my health did a 180 and I lost 100 lbs after I quit drinking.... they still don't get it or even laugh at the situation. I am NOT one of those that give others a hard time about their choice to drink, even though some have problems with it like I did. Anyway, just a little rant...
PS....I just celebrated 1 1/2 years AF a couple weeks back and feeling incredible!
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »
I saw this quote today, "One reason people resist change is because they focus on what they have to give up rather than what they have to gain." Rick Godwin
Focus on the benefits of an AF life, they are many, many, many as we have seen enumerated on this thread.
donimfp wrote: »
@RubyRed427, that is so true. One of the insights I got from a person who has several years under her belt was that she stopped going to AA after a while because she felt the mindset (in her particular group, at least) of struggling to make it just one more day implied that alcohol was something desirable that she was giving up. Instead, she found it more helpful to think of it as something she was so glad to be free from and didn't even want to think about. I personally found that helpful. Again, the analogy to a bad boyfriend seems apt. After a while, why would we need to grit our teeth to get through each day without the jerk when we could move on to something better?
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