My bf cheated on me
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I thought the thread was closed because of the swearing in the text. Are you sure she was the one who removed it?
I didn't remove them. I think the moderator did.0 -
MIltonBradley1 wrote: »
Interesting choice of foods.
My friend is ethopian.3 -
ButterIsGood wrote: »Guys my friend just told me more. Apparently a day before he broke up with me, he asked her to go out and try ethopian food with him and she agreed to go. He talked about me to her. Saying he wasnt happy. That he was gonna leave me but waiting until after Valentine's day but then about a day later, he texted her saying that he couldn't wait any longer and had broken up with me.
I don't think you have a very good friend. Why would she agree to go to dinner with him and tell you after the fact. This all sound really suspect to me.8 -
Pour_Decisions wrote: »
I don't think you have a very good friend. Why would she agree to go to dinner with him and tell you after the fact. This all sound really suspect to me.
Maybe she thought it was just as friends.
Why does everything have to be suspect? (Asking for a friend of a friend
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JustPassingTime wrote: »Okay I'll bite OP. What do you wanna do? Sit here and discuss and hear people say how sorry your ex is or move on from this or what?
Just wanted to get things off my chest. Idk about you but it feels better when you tall about things.9 -
If they were friends before you guys were then going out for food might not be so shady but she should have told you this before. Regardless of what your friend has done right or wrong in this situation doesnt change the fact that your ex guy is shady AF. Also, I have thrown away chocolate before.3
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ButterIsGood wrote: »
Just wanted to get things off my chest. Idk about you but it feels better when you tall about things.
Well I hope you are gaining useful perspective from all the feedback so far and will take it to heart.
He sounds 100% toxic, definitely a narcissist. I'm suspicious of your friend as well. I would have no further contact with him. There's no need to explain yourself, or ask him anything else. He's shown who he is. He's a liar and all you'll get back is lies.
Any self respecting man would not talk to anyone, especially a female/partner/someone he was supposed to care about, etc, the way he was talking to you in those screenshots.
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JustPassingTime wrote: »
But here though? I understand you need emotional support but I think you get those from people close to you
Almost everyone I know, knows him. I don't want him to find out that i'm hurt. That's why I posted here. Advice from strangers is sometimes helpful.14 -
Maybe she thought it was just as friends.
Why does everything have to be suspect? (Asking for a friend of a friend)
I don't know, if my friend's man asked me to go to dinner I would:
1) tell my friend (if it's supposed to be innocent then that won't be a problem)
2) probably not go11 -
Pour_Decisions wrote: »
I don't know, if my friend's man asked me to go to dinner I would:
1) tell my friend (if it's supposed to be innocent then that won't be a problem)
2) probably not go
Same.5 -
ButterIsGood wrote: »
Almost everyone I know, knows him. I don't want him to find out that i'm hurt. That's why I posted here. Advice from strangers is sometimes helpful.
Except you told him you were hurt and cried yourself to sleep??4 -
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ButterIsGood wrote: »He's been in about 2 serious relationships other than ours. He was with female #1 for about 10 years. He has 3 kids with her. His oldest kid is about 6 years younger than me. He was with female number 2 for 2 years. Also had a kid with her. And always talks about how he hates her guts and how it was their fault their relationship didn't workout but right now, I think I know it wasn't them and it was him the whole time.
LOL.
You should start letting your mom choose guys for you to date. You're not good at choosing yourself. That guy was NEVER healthy relationship material.
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JustPassingTime wrote: »But posting here will get mixed reactions from trollswho won't believe you to women who hates men for same reasons that happened to you or something else
meh...... posting online is always a risk. But sometimes it is easier to vent to a bunch of strangers than to friends. At least with strangers, if they say anything mean or give troll responses, it's not hurtful. And you will get a mixture of support as well. Its all a risk, but I have done the same in the past, and have found some peace from venting online to strangers.
Sometimes talking to friends is too close to home.
@ButterIsGood it's probably a good time to get your stuff and cut off contact. No use texting him if he is just going to accuse you of things and swear at you. There is no rationality there. There is no "talking" there. Just yelling, name calling, and swearing. It's not worth the headache. And when you get your stuff, don't you dare go alone.9 -
MIltonBradley1 wrote: »Speaking of food, my $16 pastrami sandwich isn't that great.
You paid $16 for a pastrami sandwich? Did it come a steak/seafood salad on the side or something?3 -
Pour_Decisions wrote: »
Except you told him you were hurt and cried yourself to sleep??
Yes I did. I was talking about the nights before I found out he was trying to get with mt friend. Right now I don't know if I'm hurt or angry. Maybe both.1 -
MIltonBradley1 wrote: »
Interesting choice of foods.
Maybe he wanted food that wouldn't make him feel full.
*ba dum tss*
Too soon? ¯\ _(ツ)_/¯
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JustPassingTime wrote: »
Everybody who knows your situation knows you are beyond hurt. Probably felt betrayed, not good enough etc. Just saying
I'm hurt. I'm angry. I feel worthless and not good enough. I dont think I can love anyone again. I don't think I can trust anyone again.7 -
MIltonBradley1 wrote: »Speaking of food, my $16 pastrami sandwich isn't that great.
$16 for a sandwich????
I actually was on the verge of buying a piece of cheesecake from Whole Foods last night but then I was all, "$6 for this? Vons has bigger for 1/2 the price. I think not!"1 -
ButterIsGood wrote: »
I'm hurt. I'm angry. I feel worthless and not good enough. I dont think I can love anyone again. I don't think I can trust anyone again.
I wouldn't trust that friend of yours either. I'm just sayin.6 -
ButterIsGood wrote: »
I'm hurt. I'm angry. I feel worthless and not good enough. I dont think I can love anyone again. I don't think I can trust anyone again.
This is why you should cut off all contact now. You are VERY EASY to manipulate in your current frame of mind. VERY, VERY EASY.7 -
Damn, I'm just way too emotional. I like your version better.
I'm the friend with nothing but good intentions and loyalty in this scenario, not the person that was dumped. Sorry OP, but that's the reality. I say that as a person that has been dumped a few times recently myself.
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Pour_Decisions wrote: »
I don't know, if my friend's man asked me to go to dinner I would:
1) tell my friend (if it's supposed to be innocent then that won't be a problem)
2) probably not go
Yeah but they all knew each other at work so she could have thought it was innocent. And then it turned out not to be.
As someone who was accused on here from people who didn't know me about having motives other than what I actually typed out, I feel the need to defend both the OP and her friend.4 -
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Your boyfriend also asked me out. But I turned him down flat.8
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Pour_Decisions wrote: »
I wouldn't trust that friend of yours either. I'm just sayin.
Yeah, her conversations with her have been the definition of a trickle truth. There's more that hasn't come out yet. Guaranteed. There's more...5 -
Yeah but they all knew each other at work so she could have thought it was innocent. And then it turned out not to be.
As someone who was accused on here from people who didn't know me about having motives other than what I actually typed out, I feel the need to defend both the OP and her friend.
Nope, not buying it. There's an unspoken code you just know, as a woman and as a friend. Even if it's innocent, I'm telling my friend. There is no harm in that. It's sneaky of him to ask her in the first place. Evidently he had ulterior motives.5 -
My advice.. when you go to pick up your stuff, leave a couple of prawn heads hidden in his place..
PS.. he just isn't worth your time.13 -
Pour_Decisions wrote: »
Nope, not buying it. There's an unspoken code you just know, as a woman and as a friend. Even if it's innocent, I'm telling my friend. There is no harm in that. It's sneaky of him to ask her in the first place. Evidently he had ulterior motives.
Yes, sneaky of HIM. But the friend told the OP not to tell him she talked to her. And, even if details are trickling out, the friend outright told the OP the guy hit on her.4 -
Yes, sneaky of HIM. But the friend told the OP not to tell him she talked to her. And, even if details are trickling out, the friend outright told the OP the guy hit on her.
Well I would've told her he invited me to dinner before accepting. In fact I would've invited her. Throw a wrench in his plans.5
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