WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2019

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  • drkatiebug
    drkatiebug Posts: 1,983 Member
    spikeyhair wrote: »
    Message from daughter, she has another tear in her retina waiting for laser treatment in the eye hospital. We live a few hours away by train so can't just go and be with her at the drop of a hat. I worry so much about her sight as this is her 'good' eye which has isn't all that good anyway, she is only 51 and has disabled child and other family problems. Do others sonetimes wish they had remained childless, sounds awful I know but sometimes it's hard not to wish that you could be in their place.

    Kate UK <3

    I must have missed the earlier posts about your daughter’s retina tears. My husband went through a series of these about 10 or 12 years ago. His issue is glaucoma. He has had two tears in one eye and one in the other, I think. They finally got his under control with a combination of two different eye drops. What is your daughter’s underlying issue causing the problems?

    I know what you mean about sometimes wishing you were childless. We worry so about our children. They bring us our greatest joy and our greatest sorrow. But most days I am thankful for mine.

  • spikeyhair
    spikeyhair Posts: 2,078 Member
    drkatiebug wrote: »
    spikeyhair wrote: »
    Message from daughter, she has another tear in her retina waiting for laser treatment in the eye hospital. We live a few hours away by train so can't just go and be with her at the drop of a hat. I worry so much about her sight as this is her 'good' eye which has isn't all that good anyway, she is only 51 and has disabled child and other family problems. Do others sonetimes wish they had remained childless, sounds awful I know but sometimes it's hard not to wish that you could be in their place.

    Kate UK <3

    I must have missed the earlier posts about your daughter’s retina tears. My husband went through a series of these about 10 or 12 years ago. His issue is glaucoma. He has had two tears in one eye and one in the other, I think. They finally got his under control with a combination of two different eye drops. What is your daughter’s underlying issue causing the problems?

    I know what you mean about sometimes wishing you were childless. We worry so about our children. They bring us our greatest joy and our greatest sorrow. But most days I am thankful for mine.

    Her problem is apparently due to a lifetime of extreme short-sightedness something to do with the actual shape of the eye.

    Kate UK
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
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  • LisaInAR
    LisaInAR Posts: 2,020 Member
    edited March 2019
    Morning, afternoon and evening, my dears,

    NYKAREN - Small things in families seem to drive the worst confrontation, where large things can bring families together. Sorry yours is in an uproar, pleased for you that you didn't turn to stress eating.

    Machka - My rowing machine should be delivered today as well, but doubt we'll put it together until the weekend. :)

    Kate UK - Hope they can correct your daughter's issues with her retina.

    Barbara - Have made some spectacularly unsuccessful breads and cookies with oat bran. :wink: Hopefully you'll have better luck!

    Karen (prisoner2food) - Small victories add up, good for you!

    JanetR - I was struggling with feeling like a bad mom, as I got my two kids when they were 15 and 17, without an instruction book, and I asked my sister how she felt about the whole thing. She said her hope for her kids was that they would feel about her like we all felt about our Mama, and I think she achieved that. I think you have, too.

    Heather     - you felt about your mother much the way I felt about my father, so I fully understand.

    Sorry I made y'all sniffle over my Mama's note - it has been a talisman over the years, reminding me that no matter what else happens in my life, I was loved by the one who mattered most. The things she left behind, I've given to her granddaughters, a ruby ring, a beautiful quilt, but the note and the mouse stay with me, and have traveled with me over these umpty-thousand miles of a peripatetic life. The 40-year-old note is faded but readable, and the mouse is much the worse for wear, but they are infinitely precious.

    Speaking of notes, have learned to wait to figure out my reasons for doing things until my mind has time to process it. Woke up from a dream with Sonny Bono in it (have no idea why him in particular! :smiley: ) with the realization that I shut down my personal blog because I am not free to write the things I want to write. As an employee of Girl Scouts, even with the disclaimer at the bottom of each post, I feel constrained to stay away from the controversial. It's not a matter of feeling like they'll fire me, but because I don't want to represent the organization in the wrong light. Doesn't mean I've stopped writing, just means I've stopped publishing for now.

    Off to the races, my chickens...
    Love y'all,
    Lisa in AR
  • okiewoman510
    okiewoman510 Posts: 1,321 Member
    Tracey - I’m so sorry for your loss. Hugs and prayers.

    Okie in the TX Hill Country
  • okiewoman510
    okiewoman510 Posts: 1,321 Member
    Michelle - You really need to step away from Newcomers membership . Why do you keep allowing the drama to upset you? Is it really worth it? Why not just be a member and enjoy yourself?

    Okie
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,158 Member
    Morning Ladies~up and dressed and ready to head out the door.. got my lunch together and will grab a hard boiled egg for breakfast...
    had my cup of tea and watched Joyce..well a few weeks ago I bought a 1 x pair of jeggings most comfortable because they stretch lol, i tried them on but still a bit snug. pulled them out today and said what the heck and tried them on :) they fit and feel good.. slow but sure they are going down..
    makes me feel good.. I am having issues with my health insurance and can't change my payment, i am paying less than I was last year for better coverage, but have automatic payments taken out and they are taking out the higher amount, and I have to change that.. grrrr but will call them again today..
    yesterday was just a day , crazy busy at work.. and we really do need the office manager as both Mary and I are getting burned out real quick. im hoping when we do get one, that I am going to tell them I will no longer do weekends, I have no time to spend with anyone because of it..
  • lleeann2001
    lleeann2001 Posts: 410 Member
    prisoner2food wrote: »
    Gotta tell you.. I REALLY wanted to eat carbs before bed but I stuck with an apple. Am too tired to get out of bed for anything else.
    I will call it a win. Lol

    Karen

    Good on you sis!!!
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,267 Member
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    “The secret of contentment is knowing how to enjoy what you have, and to be able to lose all desire for things beyond your reach."-- Yutang Lin
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,370 Member
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  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    NYKaren: You are a good woman, wife and DIL to make that drive in order to support your MIL! What a loving and kind thing to do. WTG!!! :heart:

    Barbara the Southern Oregon Coastie: DH’s doctor gave him the all clear for the road trip in the RV. Yay! :heart: :star::heart: :star:


    I think I know what my husband’s biggest concern is regarding the RV road trip, and that is driving in VA to see our son and his family. I think I might have a good work around for that. My idea is to have DS meet us outside the high traffic zone and drive our rig to his place or lead us there. At least I now have hope that we’ll be able to follow our initial plan. Departure is still a couple of months away. Weather will determine when we can go and what route is the safest.

    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
  • 1948Peachy
    1948Peachy Posts: 1,511 Member
    Katla ~ That sounds like a good plan to have your son drive the RV through the heavy traffic. My FnL drove their Air Stream through downtown NYC. I have no idea how they did that. LOL

    Carol in GA
  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,982 Member
    Lisa - what a lovely note your mother gave you.

    Janet - my girls are my everything, I have worried about them of course, but I think they have given me more than I have given them.

    I understand Katie’s sentiment though, sometimes they just break your heart with worry. Katie, I hope your daughter has a successful surgery.

    Barbara - sounds advice. I have decided to go, I think hubby and I could use the break. We are getting on each other’s nerves a bit and there is not enough space to get away from each other. She may have all of the junk food in the world, but nothing can force me to eat it unless I choose to. If we go out to eat I can choose sensible options.

    NYKaren - I hope all the family drama settles for you. I am very blessed to have a brother I can talk things out with and we agree on most things. My husbands family has lots of drama but we are too far away to be included.

    Kelly - it seems that your talks with Tim has paid off. How lovely that he had already shovelled for you. That the family has hired cleaners and trucks. I’m so happy for you.

    My parents were like yours Kelly in that there wasn’t a lot of talk about furthering education. I think it is because of their own history that it wasn’t important. My Dad had to quit school in Grade 7 to help the family and my Mom quit in grade 9. I’m not sure why, her Mom was a teacher. When I decided in the middle of grade 10 to quit my Dad took me for my first ever real conversation with him and made me promise to complete grade 10. I did, but didn’t finish high school until I got my GED as a 24 year old.
    My Mom stayed at home and my Dad worked continuously. She was very involved in our lives and still is visited by some of my friends. As a matter of fact, one of my daughters friends contacted my brother yesterday to ask if it was ok to go visit my Mom in the nursing home.
    Dad worked too hard trying to support us that he had no time or I’m sure energy to attend any of our activities. I miss them both like crazy and only hope they knew/ know how much I loved them.

    Katla - that’s a great idea, that should ease your husbands mind a bit.

    It is very cold again today, but the Hoar Frost is beautiful on everything. The fog and frost is so heavy that the sun looks white. It is supposed to get above 0 on Saturday!

    Tracey in Edmonton
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,267 Member
    :) I have virtually no family except my husband and his kids who live two states away. My parents died decades ago and the good I got from them lives on in my memories and my good habits and attitudes. My only sibling died in 1969. My mother's only sibling died in 1949. My father's sister died in 2004 and I was never connected in any way with her children. The only relative I keep in touch with is my mother's cousin who is 93 years old and lives in a nursing home in Manhattan. I call her almost every day and most days she knows who I am and we have a short conversation. Thus I have no family drama and no need to be concerned about family issues at holidays. I am extremely grateful for my lack of family.

    <3 Barbie from chilly NW WA
  • 1948Peachy
    1948Peachy Posts: 1,511 Member
    Family: I have 4 siblings and we all have always lived in Georgia. I live about 70 to 80 miles away from the others. 3 of my brothers live in the community we grew up in and my sister lives in the next county from the town we grew up in. Even though we do not hear from each other that often (well...my sister and I do), we are all there for each other whenever a life event occurs. My brother was recently in the hospital for a week with complications of emphysema from having contracted the flu. We all were very worried!

    Carol in GA
  • LisaInAR
    LisaInAR Posts: 2,020 Member
    On family - My parents are long gone, father was an only child, mother had one sister, who broke contact with all my family after their mother's death in 2004. I have 9 brothers and sisters, one died 22 years ago, and am truly only in contact with one sister, the baby, the one I was closest to all my life. One brother stays in touch with her, as well. Like Barbie, I am grateful more often than not that I'm not close to the rest. My mother's death 20 years ago shattered us as a family, as my sister predicted it would, and I'm content with the very minimal knowledge I have of them and their lives.

    My husband's extended family is huge (he's ninth of 12, with one brother that died about the same time mine did), and the older sisters get everyone that can attend together every three or four years, which is plenty. The next reunion is in July, and I may send him without me. Like dairy, I just don't travel well these days, and the main event usually involves alcohol at prodigious levels. Not my bag. :)

    Love y'all,
    Lisa in AR
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
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  • spikeyhair
    spikeyhair Posts: 2,078 Member
    My parents too are long gone, they both worked hard, Dad was typical of his generation, didn't get too involved but Mum encouraged us, she was a great reader and always said that she learned more from her children than at school. They were so proud when I passed 11Plus and went to Grammar School. Mum didn't live to see me go to University in my Forties she would have been so proud. All my aunts and uncles are gone but I have lots of cousins and 2 brothers

    Spoke to my daughter this morning and the latest tear was in a different part of the retina, they say all they can do is laser the tears as she is high risk due to her long term short sightedness. She is very brave and just gets on with life. I do worry but I am good at compartmentalising so don't let it drag me down.

    Kate UK <3
  • suebdew
    suebdew Posts: 1,298 Member
    Lisa- I loved your mon’s gift and note before your deployment.
    I had four siblings two older and two younger. My older brother died several years ago after a long illness. We all went to VA to visit with him in hospital and helped bring him home on hospice. The rest of us stay in touch but one sister, the younger one, is not as good at calling. If I call her she talks for hours. Because we were military, my kids weren’t close with their cousins and I regret that.
    Katla- I hope you get to go on your summer trip. We always plan the times we will arrive In high traffic arrears to avoid rush hours.
    Kelly- so glad you had a fun Mardi Gras and had a night for you.
    Carol- good advice from these ladies who have been there. Get prepared mentally and physically and trust your medical team.
    Going out to the ranch since the weather has improved.
    Suebdew in TX
  • stltrimom1015
    stltrimom1015 Posts: 56 Member
    Falling behind again :/ . Partly because I stay off the computer pretty much on the weekends (except for paying bills) and partly because work has been busier than usual lately. I’m taking a short break now and trying to catch up.

    Our neighbors have several small birdhouses attached to their fence. We can see them from our kitchen window. This morning I saw a bluebird there taking material into one of them to make a nest. I’m taking that as a sign that spring may actually be on its way finally. Hard to believe our 2 coldest days of the winter were March 3rd and 4th – those usually happen in January.

    Work break over – papers are piling up again. Have a good day all!

    Janet in eastern MO
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