WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR APRIL 2019

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  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Thith2003: 19/5 is 19 hours of fasting and 5 hours to eat your allowed calories. :star:

    Lala in Denver: What is NEAT? :huh: Last year we bought a gently used older RV. While we were out enjoying state parks we spotted a yellow school bus that had been converted to an RV. I remember noticing a chimney for a small wood stove, but didn’t get to see other details. It sounds like an interesting project & I hope you have a good time remodeling and then using your bus. Pictures of the project would be fun to see. :bigsmile:

    Allie: I’m glad you made it through your colonoscopy and don’t need to do that again for 5 years. :flowerforyou:

    Margaret: What you wrote is excellent. I am appalled at the poor judgement of the police officers who mistreated your son. Why were they there in the first place? If they were there because they’d been asked to help with transport, why would they behave so aggressively? I hope they learn a lesson and never treat another person the way they treated your son. :noway:

    RV Rita: I hope your DH’s colonoscopy biopsy results are good. :heart:

    Rebecca: You look lovely. :star:

    Janetr: Your granddaughter is gorgeous, like her grandmother. :flowerforyou:

    Carol in GA: Good luck helping your BnL. :flowerforyou:

    Okie: My dad and mom used to have crawfish boils. They were great fun. I enjoyed catching the crawfish, too. They used pickling spice as their boil spices. Yum. :star:

    Lisa: You are wise to be wary of ticks. Safety first! :heart:


    The river is deeper today than yesterday. Water is reaching the lower level of rock retaining wall. I know they need to put as much water through as they can, but I sure hope they are careful not to cause flooding. The Bonneville Power Administration is in charge of this for our area of the Columbia River.


    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,692 Member
    Dear Margaret - sending love as you proceed with this. Yes, do get legal advice. <3

    A new kettle has just arrived and I'm waiting to unpack it. My one I bought just before we moved still works ok, but you have to empty all the water out every time you use it, or it tastes funny, plus the outside drives me crazy with limescale marks. I have to keep wiping it down. The new one is black outside, steel inside. I'm hoping it will be better. ;)

    Yesterday a new top arrived that I had bought while I was having a sleepless morning in York. I think it will be really useful. It's a sapphire blue, (one of my jewel colours), in a faux wrap style, with chiffon sleeves with silver spots. I can see me wearing it for a lot of smart/casual occasions, especially with jeans.
    However, I do need to find some new pants. The ones I wear most of the time are about eight years old. Still good, but the black is beginning to fade. I HATE buying pants. HATE it. :sad:

    Coping a bit better with comfort eating today. On track so far.

    Much love, Heather UK xxxxxxx
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,251 Member
    edited April 2019
    I called a lawyer who is helping us set up a disability trust for our son. I explained to him what happened and he is going to refer to someone who has more expertise. He will advise me where to go from here. It may be best to not even write the Police Chief but straight to a Civil Law Suit. I will trust his advice. Again I will ask for legal fees and accountability to see they get the training the need to handle such cases in the future. Money unless it is for additional help for our son is not my intent. Justice is not on the table either. It is what is right.

    Writing here is helping me get my thoughts together so I am ready to proceed, so I can not thank you enough for your input and love you are sending me.

    I did sleep better last night. Listening to 428 hertz meditation so helpful. One of close friends said when you go through trauma to engage your 5 senses in healthy ways.

    Sight: flowers
    Hearing : meditation music
    Feel: Soft object to squeeze and hold
    Smell: lavender and clary sage
    Taste: good diet based on organics little to no sugar, watch cafenine, no alcohol

    Exercise: walking cleaning

    Good sleep: I did get 8 hours

    :heart: Margaret

    I do plan to go to Art in Bloom tomorrow to see the flower arrangements inspired by works of art
  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,945 Member
    Barbara - I am with you on the gardening, to me it’s just another thing to tend. I have too much in my life I tend already I don’t need more. In spite of my feelings my husband brings home tonnes of leftover plants each year and then bi**hes when I don’t tend them like he thinks They require. I think if he wants them he can tend them, but we have the same argument each year.

    Okie - I love your attitude. It’s funny how a week from now you’ll hear how little you contributed, but it will all be blown out of proportion and by the end of it you’ll have actually ended up causing trouble.

    Lisa - hope your minor health issue clears soon for you. I had a friend with Lyme disease it is terrible.

    Margaret - my heart hurts for what you and your son have gone through. I hope that you standing up and fighting this brings some much needed changes to at least your local police force.

    I spent yesterday with my youngest, we met with the photographer and decided a plan of action for getting the photos from our family shoot. I was very concerned that if we didn’t act fast they would be gone. She is not concerned if we don’t order anything until after the wedding. After the photographer left we spend about 4 hours going through a list of what needs to be done yet before the wedding. I now have a lot of projects!

    Today I am cleaning and rearranging my craft room. It is crowded, and just not a soothing place to be in there. I have some ideas I just need to get them all done. It should be a high calorie burn day.

    Have a great day everyone.
    Tracey In Edmonton
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    okiewoman510 wrote: »

    We are having a crawfish boil/fish fry tomorrow afternoon at a neighbors house. I am going to help get ready for it late this afternoon. I have made a batch of cranberry wine vodka lime slushies for us to day drink while we prepare. We'll have fun and get the prep work done while we do it. I think we are going to set everything up in their garage and if the rain moves out we will move it outside tomorrow. I dropped off the fries and hushpuppies yesterday and will take the paper goods down with me this evening so I can stroll in tomorrow with my water and look like I'm not contributing at all. That will start some tongues a wagging. Did you see her, she came in and didn't even bring anything. I love to start gossip over silly stuff.

    Have a great day ladies-

    Okie in the TX Hill Country



    >:):D:D:D

  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    edited April 2019
    Margaret

    Writing is helping you organize your thoughts. You have identified some real areas of concern. I believe the police are on shaky ground. I would not write to the police chief because you don't want to give the police a chance to make up a story, which, unfortunately, they sometimes do when they are in the wrong. I am so glad you consulted with an attorney. I know you aren't in this for money, but I, for one, hope your mentally ill son is well-compensated for being brutalized by police. I feel so bad for your son and for you.

    Karen in Virginia

  • grogers511
    grogers511 Posts: 477 Member
    edited April 2019
    lisa196922 wrote: »
    Ginger in Texas, your accountability post is impressive. I wanted to ask about the significance of tracking the fiber?
    I also thought it was nice that you have a group text with your siblings. I do that with my mom and oldest daughter we also have a lot fun with it. 😊

    Lisa in Ohio

    Lisa - After my last colonoscopy - my gastroenterologist recommended I get more Fiber. He recommended 30g. But, i find that hard to do. I aim for 25g. Fiber can also help slow the absorption of glucose from carbohydrates and keep my blood glucose level lower. And, it can help with weight loss. I found it very interesting to read about how fiber is processed and used by my body.

    —Ginger-in-Texas
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,246 Member
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  • okiewoman510
    okiewoman510 Posts: 1,313 Member
    Grass is cut. Now it’s not hanging over my head the rest of the weekend.

    Okie in the TX Hill Country
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Margaret: You have an excellent plan for dealing with the police who mistreated your son and mishandled the situation. I hope they never do anything like that again to anyone needing help and understanding. :heart:

    Pip: I love the photo. Is that your brother? :star:


    Yoga today was delightful. Some of the snowbirds who winter in AZ were back and the room was full of people.

    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
  • trucker743
    trucker743 Posts: 394 Member
    pipcd34 wrote: »
    stat for the day yesterday:

    This is what I’m working on
    https://www.facebook.com/HappinessHeroes/videos/2298300180190533/

    I think the astonished "woo!" Is apropos here!

    Sharon Surfacing For a Breath of Air In Late Tax Season Near Seattle (gasp!)
  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,664 Member
    Katla49 wrote: »
    The river is deeper today than yesterday. Water is reaching the lower level of rock retaining wall. I know they need to put as much water through as they can, but I sure hope they are careful not to cause flooding. The Bonneville Power Administration is in charge of this for our area of the Columbia River.

    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon

    The Willamette is flooding, too, Katla. The ferry near our house has been closed for days. So I fear that much more water is coming your direction.

    Felicia
    Willamette Valley, Oregon
  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,664 Member
    This picture is from a previous flooding, but you get the idea. Wheatland Ferry crossing the Willamette River.

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    Felicia, who loves living near and taking the ferry
    Willamette Valley, Oregon
  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,664 Member
    1948Peachy wrote: »
    Tracey ~ It is fun to read about the wedding preparations for your daughter! :) My husband was stationed at Ft Knox, KY when he asked me to marry him. The whole wedding was planned in less than 6 weeks. I guess he was afraid he would be sent to Vietnam. Even so, it was a fine wedding. We were married at the church I grew up in and then there was a reception at my parent's home. After we left the reception, my parents had a party for their friends. I had cooked boiled shrimp the same day for them to serve their party guests.

    We will have been married 50 yrs next August! :)

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    You look like a doll! So pretty. Your husband is also very handsome. Congratulations on your long, successful marriage.

    Felicia
    Willamette Valley, Oregon
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,246 Member
    Katla49 wrote: »
    Margaret: You have an excellent plan for dealing with the police who mistreated your son and mishandled the situation. I hope they never do anything like that again to anyone needing help and understanding. :heart:

    Pip: I love the photo. Is that your brother? :star:


    Yoga today was delightful. Some of the snowbirds who winter in AZ were back and the room was full of people.

    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon

    Yup bro #3
  • grogers511
    grogers511 Posts: 477 Member
    edited April 2019
    Margaret - I’m so sorry for you and your son having gone through this bad experience with the police - and now having to deal with the aftermath.
    ➡️ I thought a lot about this. My husband is retired police officer veteran of nearly 30 years in a major city. They certainly don’t get the training they need to deal with mental health issues. And as you experienced - they can have very little understanding of mental health issues. (He’ll get help when he’s ready? Really? What if he isn’t capable of “being ready”? That’s like saying a quadriplegic will walk when he’s ready.)
    I’m proud to say my husband was one of the better officers. He was generally a problem solver. I remember he once responded to a call about a drunk guy sitting passed out at a stop sign at 7am. Doors looked. Couldn’t stir him. Looking through the windows - he spotted what he recognized to be an insulin kit. He immediately called for an ambulance and got the door opened. It could’ve gone much worse. He was also good at negotiating with people. Talking to family members before taking extreme action - unless his life was in danger. But, in my opinion - not all officers have this instinct or care enough to do more than steps 1, 2, 3.
    ➡️ I think it’s good to write to the police chief. I like what you’ve written in comments. I have a suggestion for your consideration to add to your comments. In your letter - ask for an explanation of procedures (and current training) for officers responding to a call for a person in crisis. And, perhaps an understanding for how 911 operators handles or shares info about the call. Tell the chief - you want to know how to help increase awareness of - and better communication and responses - for calls for people in mental health crisis. Ask if there’s another way for you and the mental health professionals to get police help when safety is a concern. Let him know the month of May is Mental Health Awareness Month. So it’s a good time to share awareness with officers and find ways to respond without doing more harm.
    ➡️ From what you’ve written - I think what you want is to see a willingness to change (and actual change!) on the part of the police in their response. I’ve always found it goes more smoothly and is received more openly - when i approach these issues with the attitude of “seek first to understand, then to be understood”. So... let me understand your procedures and then I’ll explain what i need - and together we can try to figure out a better way. The fact that May is Mental Health Awareness month is timely. There is some good information available online. Here’s one: https://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/issues/position-statement-59-responding-behavioral-health-crises
    ➡️ If your letter doesn’t get a good response.. if you feel “blown off” - I might ask for a meeting with the chief - or even file an official complaint with Internal Affairs.

    Much respect. Good luck to you. Hugs for you. ❤️ I hope you get a good response. I pray your son gets the help he needs.
    —Ginger in Texas
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,645 Member
    Margaret, Ginger has some great points.

    When I mentioned earlier about checking with 911 - I wasn't clear. Dispatch (911, I tend to use them interchangeably) and the police generally have access to the same database and can sort by address, name, etc.

    I don't know if the responding officer who first arrived checked any more with Dispatch after he responded per your request for stand-by.

    This is a circumstance where a flag could possibly be put into the system for your address to let the Dispatcher and the responding officer know there's someone living there with mental health issues. Same thing with anyone who has medical priority such as diabetes or even someone who is utilizing a medical device that requires constant electricity.

    In your son's case, the active warrant complicated it, but it appears officers in your jurisdiction need to revise their protocol on how to prioritize these things. You made a great point - what if he'd had a heart attack, would they have hauled him off to jail? Perhaps there's already a policy/procedure in place, and this officer disregarded it.

    When I was at 911, these were the types of calls we were always tracking and procedures were constantly re-addressed. We kept 2 database administrators busy fine-tuning the database.

    I heard many complaints like this and took my lumps, but always turned them into training issues... how could we have made the outcome of this call better?

    So that's why I recommended starting with a call to the 911 Manager - this person should be able to tell you if it's possible to put these flags on addresses if they aren't already. Then you'd have a better idea of where it fell apart. And, 911 Managers/Directors might be willing to share a bit more about procedure and give you some suggestions.

    Wish I lived close by, I'd love to help you with this. Good luck!

    Lanette
    SW WA State
  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,945 Member
    1948Peachy wrote: »
    Tracey ~ It is fun to read about the wedding preparations for your daughter! :) My husband was stationed at Ft Knox, KY when he asked me to marry him. The whole wedding was planned in less than 6 weeks. I guess he was afraid he would be sent to Vietnam. Even so, it was a fine wedding. We were married at the church I grew up in and then there was a reception at my parent's home. After we left the reception, my parents had a party for their friends. I had cooked boiled shrimp the same day for them to serve their party guests.

    We will have been married 50 yrs next August! :)

    xrguikpy3lu8.jpg


    That’s a wonderful story! My wedding and my eldest daughters weddings were also planned quickly. My husband and I were planning on being married in August of 87 and I got pregnant in April so me moved the date up to June. We got married in a friends backyard with 12 guests. I had miscarried 2 weeks before the wedding.

    My eldest also got pregnant right after becoming engaged and they were not going to move the wedding up bit his grandparents pressured them. His Uncle married them on the Santa Maria boat in West Edmonton Mall.

    So because of those two stories I am incredibly happy that this daughter is having the huge event, but I must say I am glad they are paying for it mostly by themselves.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,246 Member
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  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,039 Member
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  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,246 Member
    stats for the day:

    bike ride hm 2 gym- 6.38min, 14.3amph, 150mhr, 1.57mi= 80c
    ARM DIP/CHIN UP ASSIST MACHINE- 38.03min,1st of 10ea w/55# assist, thenr 1st 10ea of 2 diff standing floor exercises, then bosu ball, 1sts 10ea 4diff exercises w/2 8# weights, then 1st of 10ea, 4 diff floor exercises, on ground. squats, repeat 3 times, 136mhr= 261c
    bike ride gym 2 dome- 5.01min, 134mhr, 17.7amph 1.47mi= 59c
    bike ride puy 2 sumn station- 15.29min, 11.8mph, 149mhr,3.05mi= 145c
    jog sta 2 wrk- 5.20min, 10.14min mi, 145mhr, .52mi= 59c
    jog wrk 2 sta- 4.38min, 10.10min mi, 144mhr, .45mi= 50c
    bike ride dome 2 hm- 18.40min, 8.4amph, 141mhr, 2.62mi= 174c

    total cal 828
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,251 Member
    edited April 2019
    Rebecca love the house!

    Rebecca and Ginger thank you for the feed back.

    The Mental Health Court is behind me. They had helped to call the police to this situation and they are horrified by the outcome. They thought they had made it clear that the police was there to help in a hospital transport. I need to tell my attorney that too. Because son was additionally charged because of how officier handled situation and how son reacted to it our son is is still in jail. Mental Health Court is working hard to try and remedy this situation. There is some health service in jail but it like health service in a school. He needs to be in a hospital. When son showed up for his charges I would have gone but was advised not to because seeing me might have upset him even more. He thought I willing let the police into his home. He is not well enough to hear what really happened. His case manager told me they are going to issue a Rule of 20 which means he does not understand the charges against him because of his mental state. When I go to my attorney I need to tell him this because that means he did not understand the charges the day the arrested him and his rights under disability were not followed. I also need to get our attorney to request the body cam footage.

    Today I went and took pictures of his bed. There were blood stains that were my son's and pieces left behind from the tasing he got. I witnessed 2 of them. He might have had more. By my pictures and the body cam footage they should be able to tell how many times. If there footage does not match my pictures they will be in even more trouble.

    I did do and energy cleansing of his home. I hated to leave the bed but for me it a crime scene. I know the police think it is an arrest scene. They are wrong. I did do what I could to clear the negative energy from the bed without disturbing the scene. I have this ritual I did with my hands to capture the negative energy. What was interesting when I did this in other parts of the home my hands only slightly shook. When I did that over the bed my hands shook uncontrollably. I took that energy wrapped it in the snow that was on the ground and threw it as far as I could out of the house. I also played some healing music over his bed and place the cross he had next to his bed over the blood on his bed. I also opened the windows to the space and lit a candle in his room. Doing this cleansing rituals made me feel better. I will honor what my son wants to do about the bedroom. I will ask him if he wants me to remove his old bedding and put on new or if he wants to do this together with me. No matter I will save that blood stained sheet. For me this is evidence. I now understand why women who are violated want to immediately to scrub themselves clean.

    I will find out if my son wants me to buy him another bed and have it set up in another place in his home. When he recovers we can go shopping for new sheets and bedding if he so wishes. Fortunately he does have other bedding.

    The Mental Health Court is going to have meeting next week to see what they can do on there end to change protocols with the police.

    The woman from NAMI who works with police and in the legislation was also horrified and was going to contact those she works with in the police department who are part of this training. She has not gotten back to me yet.

    So I have started others that have more clout them me to start the process of change.

    Still this unfortunately does not change it for my son.

    Ginger I wish there were more police like your husband. There would not be the problems between the police and public if there were.

    I have a call into an attorney who was referred to me by the attorney who is setting up his disability trust. I hope to get to talk to him early next week.

    Once John gets to the hospital then my focus needs to be on him once he is willing to see me.

    :heart: Margaret

  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,191 Member
    :)Rebecca, Your house looks wonderful. I hope you will be very happy there.
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,251 Member
    Love the wedding photo!!
    What a handsome couple!
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,517 Member
    Went to the deep water class. The plan for tomorrow is to do the YRG Fountain of Youth DVD. Tomorrow we’re supposed to go to a baseball game at night. They’re calling for rain, so I guess we shall see. I bet they still hold the game

    Need to stop at CVS, then exercise, then the Salvation Army, then Big Lots to see if they have any bread for Vince, then volunteer at the soup kitchen then Aldi since Vince needs milk and I need a few other things (plus, they have butter on sale for $1.99)

    I like to look at flower catalogs, too. Never sure how they’ll look at my house, but I like to look at them

    Tea kettles: I like the glass ones. You can see how much water there is. We have a stainless steel one in the condo, and I’m always concerned that there isn’t enough water in it.

    Carol – I’m thinking that your husband was at the reception. It’s such a shame that not many at all couples today make it to 50, not even to 30

    I’m still feeling sorry for what they serve at the soup kitchen. I realize that they have to go with what’s donated/cheap. Today they had pizza (boy, did it look terrible, looked like it was burned almost) and a salad. So many people put ranch dressing on the pizza (yuk). Then cheesecake for dessert.

    Cooked some turkey burgers for me to have another day.

    Rebecca – oh, I’m so happy for you

    Michele in NC
  • lalalacroix
    lalalacroix Posts: 834 Member
    Katia49: NEAT is non-existent exercise active thermogenesis. It is the calories we burn doing everyday things like pushing the grocery cart, carrying groceries, unloading the dishwasher, etc. Improving NEAT is a great way to burn extra calories. And I will definitely add some pics about the bus renovation sometime.

    Margaret: just wanted to say that my heart goes out to you and so do my prayers. 💜

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