WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2019

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  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,306 Member
    Hi everyone!
    About the pea protein- the first decision was whether to get unflavored or not. I decided it would save me time to get a vanilla flavor with a sweetener in it. It's a personal choice, but it's not fair to buy the unflavored then complain about the lack of flavor. So I got Bob's Red Mill Vanilla Protein Powder. It is sweetened with monkfruit. Tastes pretty good, just a little bean taste. The taste blends well with oatmeal. The ingredients aren't too bad for a powder. Nothing I wouldn't eat daily. I got it from Amazon. So far I am really enjoying it, and I feel better with more protein in my diet.
    Annie
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,557 Member
    Did the Peak Fitness Challenge DVD. The plan for tomorrow is to do Jillian Michaels Killer Arms and Back DVD.

    Barbara – Yes, Vince feels a bit better (his back) but he doesn’t want to push it, he wants to be all healed for when we take Jess to Iowa State. Which reminds me, I have to tell her that a truck rental would be a little less than $1100 whereas the Pod she was looking at was something like $2000. Vince and she can drive out to Iowa with Shadow and I’ll just fly out there, no problem. That is, IF she decides to go this route. I would think so since it’s less money.

    Newcomer tidbit: I noticed that new members aren’t on the mail list. I don’t know who is supposed to be doing this. I did explain that the mail list and the website have nothing to do with each other which is why you need to add a new member to both. Oh well…not my problem. One day someone will say something like “I’m not getting Newcomer notices”. Personally, I find it a bit funny, they’re so concerned about new members yet simple things like this aren’t being done. The last person who was added was someone I added in late May because I added them.

    You won’t believe what I started doing last night. Yup, went on the deck and started stringing popcorn. At least I can really take my time, plus I’m not sitting after dinner thinking about food.

    Lisa – that’s great that you got the larger of the two grants

    Anniesquatas – The Tone It Up protein powder comes in vanilla, chocolate, peanut butter and I THINK strawberry. Admitted, it doesn’t have strong, say, chocolate flavor but it does have a chocolate flavor. Plus, it doesn’t have any added sugars. Personally, I like the vanilla. I mainly like the fact that it isn't a strong flavor so the flavor of what I put it in is what you really taste.

    Will be leaving in a few to meet up with Jess.

    Michele in NC
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,699 Member
    edited June 2019
    bananasandoranges wrote: »
    Some say there is a tyranny of having to be happy especially in the Usa.

    In Europe there is, in many countries, a tendency to complain. it's kind of the opposite and can also be oppressive.In France if you are positive and optimistic, in certain circumstances, people often treat you like you are stupid and try to counter you or make fun or you, etc. It's much more normal and socially acceptable to complain and be suspicious here, than to expect the best.

    There was some of the pursuit of happiness (and the pursuit of "passion") in Canada too. Right from some point in my 20s I became aware of an apparent "need" to find my life's passion and attain happiness.

    Only ... I never did. I never found a "passion" (especially not one at which I could earn any money) and never found a place of constant happiness.

    Then I moved to Australia and stopped hearing about such things. :) However it wasn't until I had been here a few years that I attended a personal development seminar about writing CVs, and the presenter mentioned that in the US (and perhaps North America in general), people are encouraged to pursue a "passion" whereas in Australia the idea of finding a "passion" doesn't really exist or at least not very strongly. She just confirmed my perceptions. Maybe that's one of the reasons I feel comfortable here.

    During the early days of my husband's situation, a number of my Canadian friends did exactly what you've mentioned: "Like if you say things are not great, people feel a need to say something positive to counter it and get you to look on the bright side." I'd mention that he's still in a coma and they've no idea when he'll come out or what the results will be if he does come out of the coma ... and I'd get "At least he's still alive!" Whereas my Australian friends would say much more comforting things.

    LisaInAR wrote: »
    Morning, afternoon and evening, all...

    Love all the different perspectives! When our discussions range from panties to the perils of positive thinking in 48 hours, it's definitely a wide range... :smiley: We make me happy.

    I think the biggest impact for me in terms of happiness/joy etc. is simply being able to recognize when you are happy. So very many people who've walked through my life simply don't know when they're happy and continue to search for it, mourn for it, and believe they don't have it. Those "mini-moments" simply don't get recognized... possibly because they believe happiness means they are happy all the time, every waking moment. Not sure that, as humans, that's even possible.

    Regarding the happiness side of things, I mentioned I never found the place of constant happiness I felt like I was expected to find. In fact, I've never been able to nail down what "happy" is or is supposed to feel like. What I found instead was a general contentment with a portion of my life, and enjoyment in certain aspects of my life. I figure that's close enough.


    Machka in Oz
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,367 Member
    exermom wrote: »
    Did the RushFit DVD. I’m not quite sure how I feel about it. The plan for tomorrow is to do the Peak Fitness Challenge DVD. That’s not as long as I usually work out but I have to leave early to meet Jess to pick up Shadow. We’ll be watching her while Jess is in Iowa. She’s a worry wart so I was going to tell her that Vince was home cutting the grass but he feels that I should tell her the truth. I’m just afraid it’ll spoil her vacation.

    Rebecca – It’s nice to go away, but it’s nice to come home. How do you make the faux stained glass?

    JR – you really impress me taking in all those children. I honestly don’t think I could do it. It takes someone real special and that’s you!

    M – how right you are that our bodies change. I had a REALLY nice skirt suit, but when I went to try it on, it was just too tight around the waist. Still fit me in the hips but way too tight in the waist. My body just changed

    Lisa – I’m not even going to waste my breath trying to get Vince to not worry about things being perfect. I’ll just do it my way and if he doesn’t like it, he can do it himself! Of course, he didn’t go to ceramics last night, I did. He was turning the steering wheel on the tractor (if I’d done it it just would have taken longer – that’s all) and pulled his back.

    Pip – when was that pic of Bullwinkle with the underwear on taken? A friend of mine just had her dog spayed and the dog absolutely hated the “cone of shame” so what she did was buy an infant onesie and put that on the dog just until the stitches healed enough that she wouldn’t chew at them.

    Barbara – normally, I would tell Vince to do it himself. I have. But I know right now the excuse will always be “my back” and nothing will get done unless I do it. Like today I grouted the spillover from the spa into the pool. Sure enough, Vince was right there even doing it. Poor me had to stand in the spa to do it  Don’t you feel my pain??? Lol Anyway, there are things that I just can’t do (like screening, that takes 2 people), but like I said, if I don’t do it, it won’t get done at all. So rather than listening to complaints all the time, I’ll just do it myself

    Went in the pool. Boy, do I feel good even tho I didn’t have the sound of the waterfall. Tonight the plan is to put the sealer on the new grout and hopefully I can get Vince to let me cut this wood. See, we want to put the ceramics that will go by the house on a piece of wood because right now I have to put them so far into the mulch that you can’t see their feet. Update: the grout wasn’t dry so we couldn’t put the sealer on

    Welcome everyone new! Keep coming back and let us know more about you. Post when you feel like what you feel like

    Whenever I purge something, it goes to the Salvation Army if it’s decent

    Protein Powders: I use the Tone It Up. That was the only brand I could find that didn’t have added sugars or sugar substitute.

    Drkatie – Getting protein powders in individual packets isn’t an option around here either. The only place I’ve ever seen that is in a health food store in FL

    Kim – Yea for you!!!!

    KJ – you always have such neat things that you have the kids doing. Wish my kids had that when they went to preschool

    Michele in NC

    That pic was a long time ago, maybe when she was 2-3 yrs old? Old trick from when I was a kid. Works great with boxers
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,708 Member
    edited June 2019
    Karen in VA - very, very wise. I like your summation on using positive affirmations. Visualizing positive outcome and letting it go.... your mom was a peach. <3

    Lisa - "discussions range from panties to the perils of positive thinking in 48 hours" - LOL! Yep, what a unique group we have here. B)

    Margaret     - the Rumi poem is right on the money. He's one of my favorite poets/writers. His perspective is ageless and so very kind. o:)

    Barbara AHMOD - hope you can find a way to live in harmony with that bear and he/she doesn't turn into a rug in someone's den. I see there are bear repellent trash cans for $200/up. YIKES! Your blue garbage can looks like the one provided by our garbage utility. Our can sits out all the time by DH's shop.... I am surprised a raccoon or coyote hasn't tried to pry its way in. :#

    Katla     - WA State has very lax laws about 4th of July fireworks in my opinion.... too many days of the racket. That being said, every county has the option to totally ban them, and some counties have. What you are hearing and seeing is most likely fireworks purchased on reservations and being used illegally. Even with burn bans, the "kids" of all ages will set them off. And there aren't enough police to respond to the hundreds of complaints. Sigh. I've loaded up on "calmative" pills for our older dog. I'm going to try some CBD treats and see if that takes the edge off for her too. >:) Being the vengeful sort at times, DH and I always get a thrill from hearing an ambulance during the week of night-long explosions and hoping some drunken dimwit has lost a body part. >:)

    Machka - I see a lot of myself in your discussion about not being a natural caregiver.

    Heather - As I read our chatter here about positive thinking, I wonder what your DIL's take would be? I know I pick up little gems from everyone's viewpoints.

    A couple years ago, I ran across Dr. David Hanscom who wrote "Back in Control" about how to deal with back pain. (I know I've mentioned him in this forum before. Apologies for the rerun, lol. )

    One of his primary rules was to not talk about your hurting back - don't give that pain power. He's not saying to deny it. I've noticed when I'm out with my girlfriends, my aches and pains seem to disappear. I think of my grandmother and my dad (her son) who had various surgeries, and their motto was "don't give in to it" - move past it and get on with what needs to be done. As farmers, there was a lot to be done.

    And, they treated their pain as a temporary visitor, much like Rumi's outlook.

    On that note, time for some stretches. Make it a wonderful Friday, ladies!! <3

    Lanette
    Sunny & cool SW WA State
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,155 Member
    Spent some quality time with Alfie and my DFIL in rare.form this.morning.. he had me cracking up..
    Gonna be a hot one today so going to keep the shades pulled ..
    Working 11-5 today.
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,799 Member
    Lanette - Her take would be to be in the moment and see the reality of the situation. Not to catastrophize. Not to be blindly positive. She would say it's important to feel our feelings and listen to them. They are the best indicator of what we need to do in a given situation. Then you need to take action to improve the situation and be good to yourself. Being compassionate to ourselves is important, but so many of us ignore the messages we are getting from our feelings. We must distinguish between what is real and what is just fruitless anxiety. But it's ok to be human.

    For me....
    The minute I feel uncomfortable about a person or a situation I take notice. I don't let things ride and get out of hand. Listen to your feedback. The absence of feedback is feedback.
    Clarity of vision is what I aim for, not telling myself stories. But I have many times experienced the power of changing my negative thoughts into something more positive. Retreating from life in a negative slump is useless. Reaching out, taking a risk, going forward, acting as if - all this can work wonders as long as you don't kid yourself.
    When I was in my forties I spent four years belonging to a 'Personal Growth' organisation. There were a few woo woo elements to it, but generally its feet were on the ground. I experienced many examples of what can be achieved with a change of attitude, when you take the risk. It was a very worth while four years, but it did not inure me to sad feelings etc. Nor would they want it to.
    Today, for now, I am generally very happy. I am not complacent about that. Anything could happen at any time. But, like Lisa's mum, I will do what I can to change the situation and then, I hope I can let go.
    The thing is, we have much more choice than we think, we just need to think outside the prison we have confined ourself in.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,981 Member
    I got all caught up on reading 6 pages back this morning and had replies written when my ride showed up and I closed without posting. I’ll try again tomorrow.
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Lanette Thanks! <3 Yes, my mom WAS a peach. Such a good role model.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,367 Member
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  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Carol: Thanks for your good wishes on the RV repair. We hope it is ready in time, too. We’ve already paid for our spot in the park. We’re anxious to get the dog out of the war zone that will surely be in place for the whole week that includes the 4th. Hunting dogs with drop ears probably tolerate the noise better. :ohwell:

    Annie: Welcome! I thought I’d become allergic to milk, too. It turns out that I’m lactose intolerant, a form of sugar in milk. There is lactose free milk available in the grocery stores. It works for me. I take lactaid when I’m in a restaurant situation where I have no control over food ingredients. It works well, too. I need to take it before I eat the food containing lactose. I also know of some people who use almond milk. Good luck. :flowerforyou:

    Kim: Great news so far. Yay!!! :bigsmile:

    Machka: My DH also has chronic health issues although they’re different than your DH’s. I admire the ways you have managed to both cope with reality & include adventure and happiness. Your positivity and persistence is powerful. I admire you for all that you do. I know it isn’t easy. :heart:

    Heather: I’ve stopped consuming alcohol for the foreseeable future. Alcohol turns into body fat in a blink of an eye if I allow myself to indulge. I’ve also cut out dark chocolate treats for now. I’m down a tiny bit today. I need to get rid of enough weight that my knee quits hurting. :ohwell:

    Allie: 80 hours in two weeks seems good to me. I know you’ve been working less hours for many years, and it probably feels like a huge change. Don’t forget to rest when you can. :star:

    Karen in VA: Your mom was a Wise Woman. I think you are, too. :flowerforyou:

    Lanette: Our old dog is a gem and we go to great lengths for him. Like Pip’s Bullwinkle, he is showing his age. He now has hip trouble that we manage with a combination of a prescription from the vet and CBD oil. Spending a week in the RV at the park for $$$ is worth the trouble and expense. Fireworks are devastating for him. Our neighbor has a Goldendoodle with floppy ears. The noise doesn’t seem to affect her as severely as our poor little guy. When he eventually goes to doggy heaven I’ll be thinking about floppy eared dogs. :heart:

    Margaret: Your art is lovely. :star:

    Yoga today and I may go. I need to take care of my health in order to support my DH.

    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
  • klanders30
    klanders30 Posts: 2,569 Member
    cityjaneLondon wrote: »
    Clarity of vision is what I aim for, not telling myself stories. But I have many times experienced the power of changing my negative thoughts into something more positive. Retreating from life in a negative slump is useless. Reaching out, taking a risk, going forward, acting as if - all this can work wonders as long as you don't kid yourself.
    When I was in my forties I spent four years belonging to a 'Personal Growth' organisation. There were a few woo woo elements to it, but generally its feet were on the ground. I experienced many examples of what can be achieved with a change of attitude, when you take the risk. It was a very worth while four years, but it did not inure me to sad feelings etc. Nor would they want it to.
    Today, for now, I am generally very happy. I am not complacent about that. Anything could happen at any time. But, like Lisa's mum, I will do what I can to change the situation and then, I hope I can let go.
    The thing is, we have much more choice than we think, we just need to think outside the prison we have confined ourself in.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxx

    Love this Heather

    Margaret your paintings are peacefilled and I adore your son's peonies.

    Got tons of little things done today, including a start to some summer painting (railings and trim work, not artistic painting). I also made some delicious chopped salads, blackbean/corn salad, fatoush salad, pico de gallo and some pesto to freeze. I love to putter!

    I'm a loser (according to the scale) and feel better/lighter. Loads of veggies and no red meat is part of the reason. I am working on lowering my LDL #s, so oatmeal and oatbran are the start of everyday as well.

    NYKAREN


  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,397 Member
    Pg 86. Busy again!
    RV Rita
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Katla Thank you.t1825.gif
  • 1948Peachy
    1948Peachy Posts: 1,511 Member
    ;)
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,397 Member
    Finished pg 88.
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