WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2019

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  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,287 Member
    Bananas, so sorry to hear about the reversed decision on your raise. Sometimes retirement is an ambitious goal. Hope things work out.
  • ginnytez
    ginnytez Posts: 1,400 Member
    Oh my gosh, tied up this week and come back to 303 posts! Just going to jot down a few random responses.

    Dandl1986 – You are losing at a good rate. I think everyone wishes we could get rid of excess quicker than what we can (or should). Keep doing what you are doing and you will make it. Based upon your current loss trend, if you do go a bit over the 1200, you will still loses weight, just maybe a bit slower. Congratulations on getting below 200!

    BananasandOranges -interesting system you are working in. Sorry to hear they backed out of agreed upon pay increase. I agree it is a punch in the gut. Very tough situation to be in. In terms of expectations, why not have a high one but support getting there with a series of lower expectations that build to it?

    LyndaBSS – seems to be differing opinions on length of time replacements last. I know people have been told to do what they did before, so some run, etc. I have never been a runner so that isn’t a problem with my hips. Actually, I wouldn’t mind being around long enough to wear them out!

    DJMKT – so sorry to hear about leg break. Crutches for a few weeks will give you a core workout! Hope you heal well.

    Janetr OKC – four years seems like a short time span for replacement to go bad. I was on a site dealing with joint replacements for a while and read there that problems can happen and they never really figure out why. Possible a defective joint (they are man-made). I’ve never had that reaction to the dyes, you evidently have a sensitivity to them.

    Karen in Va -prayers for the young lady. St. Jude’s does wonderful work and has had some amazing results. It is especially sad when children are hit with such things.

    LisainAR – good news about stairs. I had similar experience with hips. Seemed like I two stepped forever, then one day I realized I wasn’t. Good job on weight.

    Trish – welcome. This is a good group and very active. Seem to have advice on any given topic.

    Machka -sorry you are not feeling well. There is something going around here, some sort of viral respiratory thing, that has really knocked people out. I am hoping to escape it. Rest and fluids seems to be best advice.

    Had strange situation with an individual this week. Found out something that really ran counter to what this person had been portraying for years. When I asked about it, they lied (I knew they were due to the fact statements were made in public setting in front of other people). A choice they may be making will cause some difficult work issues for me. I can deal with that and do with what needs to be done for the organization but it is disheartening the person would do what they are doing—runs completely counter to how they have acted and positions they have taken for several years. I am basically over the feeling of being stabbed in the back and know the steps I have to take. It is really her deal and makes complete sense she would be very uncomfortable with being confronted. It’s just difficult when you thought the person was a friend as well as a colleague.

    Off to do some Saturday chores and get ready to watch Buckeyes at noon (will try to have it worked out so I will do ironing during game so I don’t feel so lazy!)

    Take care all,

    Ginny in Ohio
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,519 Member
    Did Jillian Michael Killer Abs DVD. The plan for tomorrow is to ride the recumbent bike

    Heather – I’m keeping a list of what I’d like to send to people for Christmas. Usually, I don’t get presents for my birthday except from Vince. I’m putting things on my list that we need but not urgently like a broom for the pool, landscape edging, an IP…those sorts of things. Happy birthday to you and your hubby

    Lisa – what a great appreciation gift that woman sent you

    Karen VA – Olivia looks so adorable. When will she be back for a visit? Do they know?

    Carol GA – allergies are NOT fun. Hope yours gets better real fast

    M – sounds like you’re overdoing it. Take care of yourself

    Michele NC
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,597 Member
    The winter cold/flu has been going around and I've avoided it till now. I was starting to think I might make it through the winter and early spring without catching anything this year!! Work colleagues have been dropping like flies for the past couple months ... my husband had it last weekend (and surrounding days).

    I continued to feel good till Friday (yesterday) morning. And then it all went downhill.

    I'm resting this weekend and I'll see how I feel on Monday. I can't miss much work from now till the end of September so I need to choose wisely.

    M in Oz
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,519 Member
    Marinating a pork tenderloin for Vince to grill for next week. Want to make him lemon bars, need to make these brownies (got a recipe for zucchini carrot brownies that I want to try), and something to take to Rummikub later this week.

    Michele in NC
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,648 Member
    Happy Saturday folks!

    Julie - regarding high and low expectations, a trickster lives in my brain and could easily send something from high to low in a heartbeat, so it wouldn't be worth the effort for me. >:) Sorry to hear about the raise being yanked back; so interesting to hear how other countries operate in that regard.

    Barbara AHMOD - that Halloween gadget repelling bears is nifty. You have me thinking of other ways I could use it around here, lol.

    Barbie - good take on leaving possessions to the kids. I have a few treasured rings from my mom and grandmother - I remember them wearing them and talking about them. I'm not even sure nieces or nephews would want them, need to contact my siblings. THEY might want them!

    I sometimes fear if something happens to me, DH will get ahold of the bank accounts and hand them over to a telemarketer or floozie, lol. Then I quickly remind myself that I cannot control his behavior from beyond the grave so why waste time worrying. Doing the best I can to plan for our final years then I have to let it go.

    Katla     - sorry to read about the ring being sold. Good for you making peace with it.

    Lisa[/b] - what a neat surprise, gorgeous arrangement.

    Carol     - sorry to hear ragweed is getting the best of you. Do you take a good antihistamine? Hopefully the dirty air won't last long.

    I did well yesterday with the logging. Did give in after supper to a couple little Heath snack size bars, figured them into the total and kept added sugars at the recommended 4 teaspoons. Had a small handful of pecans before bed - no added sugar. Need to replenish my nut stash. My metrics - 50% healthy fat so they fit right in.

    Machka     - golly girl, feel better soon! Do you have any good remedies? Sounds like a good weekend to put the "to do" list aside and get some TLC.

    Karen in VA - Olivia has picked up the French fashion model style, lol. Happy ending to a tenuous first few weeks of life. Any word on how long they're staying in France and if you and your partner might plan a trip over there? Thank you for your explanation of the shingles vaccine. You have me rethinking it now. Shame that our medical providers rarely have the time to explain the "why" so well. B)

    Time to put on the shoes and get a walk in.

    Make it a super weekend, ladies! <3

    Lanette
    SW WA State
  • bwcetc
    bwcetc Posts: 2,826 Member
    Welcome new ladies!

    KarenVA ... is Olivia permanently living in France? She is such a sweetie!

    Rebecca ... candy is my nemesis as well. Sugar. I've been known to just eat spoonfuls of brown sugar ... how disgusting is that! I'm fairly certain my plateauing right now is due to added sugars in my food choices (like ice cream and reeses peanut butter cups), so I've decided to temporarily discontinue sugar in my diet (not some fruit because it's apple season!! Yay!) and see what happens.

    Bananas ... "High, medium, low expectations" ... I'm not sure I understand this terminology. I do have minimum expectations. I have short term and long term expectations. Low expectations seems so unnecessarily pessimistic.

    Michele ... you said Denise called to remind you to put the baby in your will. That statement/sentiment bothers me. The only person who decides anything about your will (or your joint will with Pete) is you (and Pete).

    An expectation from others that you are "required" to do anything is just offensive to me. Our families owe us nothing. Inheritance is truly a thing of the past unless, I suppose, you come from a wealthy family. My parents are 90 and 88. I know for certain they have decided not to move into an assisted living community (which they desperately need to do) because they have this inheritance mindset and believe that seeking the help they need will reduce their ability to "leave something" to their children. It's utter hogwash! Stepping off box now ...

    Kelly ... you really do have a way of flipping the script! Flies. I'm shuddering.

    A lot of ideas about what I want to do today ... none of which will get done if I don't get off of here! Have a great day!

    Beth near Buffalo





  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,519 Member
    I have 12 minute workout DVD (there are 4 different workouts), Biggest Loser Power Sculpt DVD and Jane Fonda's Firm and Burn DVD. These seem to all be for beginners and I'm just bored with them.

    PM me if you're interested for the price of the postage which in the US is a little less than $3

    Michele in NC
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,519 Member
    can you tell I'm bored waiting for Vince to wake up so that I can start preparing this?

    Michele in NC
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,519 Member
    Oh, forget it, I'm going to start baking. He should be up by now, anyway,

    Michele in NC
  • okiewoman510
    okiewoman510 Posts: 1,313 Member
    Michelle - Add me to the people confused by adding PJ to the will. Does Denise think PJ should get an equal share to her siblings (so she would get more that way)?

    Okie (back in) the TX Hill Country after a week in VA.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,597 Member
    On wills ... I've never been the recipient of anything from a will, nor do I expect to be.

    If my parents use whatever they've got for their care late in life ... that's fine. It's theirs. :)
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,648 Member
    edited September 2019
    Michele - you and Vince are still pretty young and in good health. A safe way around this PJ/will business (since there might be more grandchildren before you and Vince pass away) is to say a certain percentage of your estate is to be divided equally all grandchildren (worded in a way to include/exclude any kids/grandkids that pop up out of nowhere years later, etc.)

    If PJ is the only one, so be it. If Denise has any more or Jess eventually has children, everything is covered without changing the will and worrying over being "fair".

    At least that's the way we are doing here it here WA State. NC rules might differ.

    Lanette
    SW WA State

  • JRsLateInLifeMom
    JRsLateInLifeMom Posts: 2,275 Member
    Still here today fruit (grape y strawberries) with chicken chili y zero Gatorade for Brunch

    Going through JRs clothes yesterday car sickness incident made us realize the bag was full of 3T’s y praise God 1 sz 5 even tho it was tight! Yikes what if we had to evacuate (tornadoes) that’s the main bag we grabbed! We’d be in a pickle! So going through closet getting down a basket of 6-7’s to move in (He’s in 6’s been grabbing out of the basket lazy like!)

    Amber Tx
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    @machka9 it's for each of us to decide what is high low or medium expectations I guess. What do you think for your two subjects. I guess "realistic" would be "medium". but so much comes into play. it's personal.

    I would say graduating w masters is not low expectations and whether it is medium or high kind of depends probably on your habits, temperament, situation, classes, past experience and so on.

    The 50k is really impossible for me to weigh in on. But I would say not low.
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Karen in VA: I took the two shot Shingrix series a year ago. I tried to talk DH into it then, but he refused. His MS doctor AND his primary care doctor both want him to take the shot series. They are in two different hospital systems and are working on opening up communications so they can function as the medical team that he needs. :heart: He previously had a diabetes specialist. The advice and office visits were good, but that office staff was incapable of providing prescription refill authorizations to the pharmacy so that DH could get his insulin when he needed it. :grumble: :flowerforyou:

    CathyMcMac: You joined when you posted. Welcome! Click the hollow star at the top of the page. It will turn yellow. After that you will be able to find us simply by clicking on the star. We have to renew this connection every month. :smiley:

    Rebecca: My preferred breakfast is cottage cheese and blueberries. DH likes eggs, or eggs and bacon. He has a box of Rice Chex in the cupboard but hasn’t eaten any for a long while. :ohwell: Your soup looks fabulous! :star:

    Michelle: I have wedding ring issues with my daughter, too. I’m in a no-win situation there. DS asked for my mom’s wedding set when he was marrying DDIL. I gave them to him without question. Then they sold those rings for the diamond and gold value and had a new ring made for DDIL. My daughter wanted mom’s wedding set when she married DSIL but it was no longer in existence. :sad: I have two lovely antique rings that I will give to her. I like Barbie’s advice. :flowerforyou:

    Allie: You’re turning into a fashion maven. WTG!!! :bigsmile:

    Trish from SW Sydney: Welcome!!! :star:

    Lisa in AR: Wonderful that your board member loves your books and brought them to a meeting for you to autograph. WOW!!! :star::heart: :star:

    Barbara: I love the Halloween scare bear idea. In our neighborhood we have deer and raccoons, but not bears. Thank goodness! Mothballs do a dandy job keeping raccoons away from under our house and deck. I have no idea whether they’d do anything toward getting bears to leave the area. :flowerforyou:

    Bananas & Oranges: I hope things work out for you in the long run. :flowerforyou:

    Machka in Oz: Lovely wedding ring!!! :heart: I am so sorry that you are sick! I hope you get better, soon. :flowerforyou:

    Michelle, Rebecca & TerriRichards: I love the chocolate that I found. Each square is individually wrapped so it is very easy to have only one. They are Ghirardelli Chocolate, Intense Dark. 72% chocolate, 60 calores per square. It is easy for me to have just one. They also have similar products with different percentages of chocolate. :bigsmile:

    Lanette: I made peace with mom’s ring easily enough but my daughter still hurts over it. I know that mom’s ring was not mom’s original wedding ring. They traded up as they could afford it. I have some beautiful antique rings to give DD at the right time. The ring issue has morphed into an issue about my dad’s guns. I’ll try to work on that one when I go to visit DD. A year ago my husband sent all of our guns away with our son. They’ve been stored in his father in law’s gun vault because DS doesn’t have one. My plan is simple enough from my pov. My dad’s hunting guns should be divided equally between my adult children. My daughter will need to have a lockable gun safe before she gets her share. I’m guessing the gun safe will be a gift from me to her. I have one in our storage unit that would likely do the job, but it would cost more to ship it than to buy one where she lives. :ohwell:

    Barbie: Good news about Jake’s health. YAY!!! :star:


    We’ve never made a will and it is time we get that done. Our plan is simple-each of our children gets half of everything. We’re giving some things away early. My dad’s hunting gun collection is a good example. I have two sets of WWII vintage dishes, plus our own set of fine china. We rarely use it and our every-day dishes are made by Corning. I expect to live a long life, and I’ll keep things I love with me a long as it makes sense to do so.

    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
  • LisaInAR
    LisaInAR Posts: 2,020 Member
    Regarding wills - our son and daughter know our property will come to them in equal measure, hopefully free and clear, with mortgage paid off, at our death. What they choose to do with it is up to them... and there is nothing we're doing with the property that takes into account anything that they want. Once we're dead, it's their problem. :)

    Michele, I find the entitlement that some children have as to what parents plan to do with their stuff when just exhausting. And believe me, after watching my family's behavior after my mother's death, there's not a blinking thing you can do about how all that works out. I will say that people's true nature does tend to show itself upon the death of a loved one. All that said - make sure Denise and Jess have what YOU want to give them long before you kick the bucket, and leave the rest in their laps to sort out after your death. They will anyway, no matter how much control you attempt to exert over the situation. Their petty jealousy of each other is not your problem.

    Pausing for a moment to say that I adore my husband. And that husbands, and mine is no exception, are just attention hogs, bless their hearts, with a crappy sense of timing, both in the overall and the specific. That is apropos of nothing anyone else said, by the way, just an observation on mine. :smiley:

    Love y'all,
    Lisa in AR
  • Rho97070
    Rho97070 Posts: 84 Member
    Reinventing Rhonda - Day 13 (yesterday)
    Didn't walk, didn't log food, and didn't check in here.
    Dealt with my car breaking down along the freeway, getting it home, and researching what it's going to take to replace its transmission - a lot of moo-la :#
    I wanted ice cream sooo bad :o but settled for watermelon. Body rejected :s it so ended up eating saltines and sipping 7-Up while watching movies with my BF. Feeling better this morning. Already went for my walk. ;)

    Whew! Lots to catch up on from Friday! Sorry this is a long post :|

    Newbies You found a friendly and supportive group. I'm new too, as of the 1st. Welcome and good luck on your journey :smile:
    barbiecat wrote: »
    :)MIchele, . . . Come from a place of love with your children and leave the results to them.
    I'm with Barbie on this - Trying to control things often ends up in misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and emotional energy and time spent that could be used on things that bring joy and happiness. I'm also with your DH's thinking that you're over-thinking stuff . . .

    Who is included your will and to what extent is your business. If you're concerned that the rings, wait to see how things turn out and/or pass them on at a later date when you are ready to pass them on. The best you can do with your DD is build the relationship so she feels comfortable confiding in you and provide her with a safe landing spot should she need it. As for your grand-child, if interests differ from one/both parents, its between them to work out. All you can do is provide unconditional love and cherish the time you have together.

    My adult children sometimes say things that are weird or off-the-wall more so as adults than when they were young! It used to be I was pretty free with my opinions about what they were doing and how I wanted things. I'm their mother and felt I had the right. To avoid issues and let them live their lives (and me, mine) I've trained myself to redirect conversations swiftly so they don't turn in to controversies and respond sweetly, simply and non-noncommittally by saying things like "I hadn't thought of that" (even when I had) or "Hmm, really? Do you think so?" (then just keep quiet) and "Okay, sure." (agree to do things their way when the result really doesn't matter). I also exercise my boundaries: "I'm sorry. I'd love to be able to loan you money, but if I do now I might end up on your sofa later!"

    I also like Lanette's suggestion. <3 and I hope I haven't offended with supplying my feedback :neutral:

    Wills, in general: My divorced parents died, mom had no will. Dad had a will, but it split things up unevenly. Both messes took years to clean up and resulted in me being the only one that speaks to all four of my siblings. My will is in place - every thing split equally between my children. I'm determined to leave the smallest possible footprint/physical/financial or emotional mess.

    M in Oz "I read a recent report and he was a hair's breadth away from dying . . . "
    Yup, they don't tell you that. Hearing it could make some people hysterical and/or lose hope.

    My son was an athlete, slated to debut snowboarding in the Olympics the year his accident happened. We (me, the ex and his 2nd wife) took turns being with our son nearly 24/7 throughout his ordeal. My ex is a fairly renowned acupuncturist. He treated our son with acupuncture almost every day beginning with day 2 after the accident. Of course, rehab folks are incredibly helpful, but I firmly believe that my son's progress was due to the acupuncture and his own will.

    His coma lasted about a month, during which we read stories and poems and sang songs that he loved as a child. He regained speech (simple thoughts) and the use of his hands and arms fairly quickly after waking up. After he woke up, we brought him fresh/healthy organic foods to eat, got him out in nature by wheelchair as much as we could, and watched surfing and skiing movies with him. He remained paralyzed nipple down, incontinent and unable to walk after he woke up. We brought him fresh/healthy organic foods to eat, got him out in nature as much as we could, and watched surfing and skiing movies with him. A lot.

    About six months after the accident, my ex and I talked about whether we should scale back our encouragement for our son to try to walk and accept that the doctors were right - he never would. That same day, my son announced he was going to walk and did - two steps forward and back despite having no feeling nipple down. He stayed in the rehab hospital 10 months and received out-patient rehab for nearly two years afterwards. It took about four years for things to normalize - for him to walk well, do everything on his own and for his thinking capacities to get better overall. Five years after the accident, twenty or so family and friends gathered for a day in of downhill skiing and snowboarding with our son to celebrate. Statistics can point to probabilities, but they are not an assurance that things will turn out one way or another. Hang in there!

    Thank you for sharing what happened with your hubby and how he's doing. Having seizures is/can be a very big factor in how things proceed. Your husband took quite a blow. He's done well, no doubt with a lot of your support <3 P.S. I hope YOU are feeling better soon!

    Karen VA Your Olivia is absolutely adorable ! <3 !

    Lisa in AR Who here doesn't appreciate getting flowers? What a nice gesture and stunning arrangement!

    Okay, nuff said - Today's a new day.
    Meditate
    Log foods
    Take another walk, maybe
    Complete tasks not done yesterday
    Prepare for day Grand D's b-day surprise tomorrow. A day with her and a friend at a water-park :smiley:

    Have an awesome Saturday, everyone!

    Rho (south of PDX)









  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,194 Member
    :)MIchele, The question Denise should be addressing about P.J. is regarding her will along with her husband. Do they have provisions in their will for who will care for P.J. is they both die at the same time? That is their responsibility. Asking you if you've provided for him is more greed or entitlement. When I was a child, I knew that my parents had a will because they reviewed it every year and had the same fight about which relative would be a suitable caregiver for my sister and me if they both died at the same time.

    :) When writing our wills, our lawyer crafted the language that made sure that if one of the three adult children were to predecease us, that their share would go to their children who were named specifically in the will. When Jake's daughter died, we revised the will to have her daughter be the one third recipient and her children (our great grandchildren) be the ones to share her share if she predeceased us.

    <3 Barbie in NW WA
  • 1948Peachy
    1948Peachy Posts: 1,511 Member
    When my Dad passed, all of his possessions went to two of my brothers and their family. We were told by my brothers that he really didn't want to leave my sister and I anything, although, in the end we did get a small sum from land that he had designated my brothers buy from us. My brothers arranged for my sister and I to get my mom's house and possessions when she passed away...she had no money but she did have some beautiful furniture. My sister and I gladly told my brothers that they were welcome to take any of her things that they wanted. The whole episode from the death of both parents left us with a bad taste. I am no Saint...I did go through a time of being hurt but am glad to say I have put the bad feelings away and am just happy that I am out of it now.

    When my in-laws passed, the two sons divided everything between them and I think there were no hard feelings in the end.

    Carol in GA
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    I work for the government and we are not allowed to work past 67 here, when for the government and possibly for many large companies too.

    @ginnytez thanks for your sympathy and understanding. I'm sorry about your friend and colleague. I'm not sure quite what you are talking about. It sounds like embezzling, or maybe cheating. If you feel stabbed in the back, and it makes things difficult for you, I guess the thing has impact on you beyond the person's lying in an abstract sense. I think you should protect yourself and do what's right but if you're able it might be helpful to feel less stabbed in the back to see if you can find compassion and understanding for the person (if that's possible). Even horrible cheats and liars are probably not ok somewhere deep down, even if they are psychopaths. It doesn't mean one wants to be anywhere near them. I think when I've been deeply betrayed I also am at some level unhappy with myself for having trusted the person, for not having known. On the other hand there is something healthy about trusting people.

    @lhscapil what do you mean about the trickster inside moving things from high to low expectations.

    @bwcetc terminology: I'm talking about our own expectations of ourselves, not others. I'm probably exceedingly unconcerned about others expectations of me on a personal level, but probably working in higher ed with eveluations and untenured position I can't help but be someone concerned with others perceptions of me and expectations of my work (as functioning art of a team in a place of work) high expectations: putting the bar very high. low expectations: not exactly pessimistic but requiring little of oneself. tomorrow Sunday I'm going to take a shower, get dressed and watch Netflix. high expectations: get up at 5am, meditate, write for an hour, clean, go to the gym at 7, work from 8 to 12 on writing project, and so on. also long term not goals or goals.


    @barbiecat small expectations to be able to accomplish them sounds sort of relaxing in a way.

    @janetr7476 in France there is a very standard way of divying up belongings will or no will: other than certain rare exceptions, the spouse gets x, the children, estranged or best buds get equal parts between them, if no kids no spouse, goes to next of kin, etc. I think there are ways to give money to some degree before death but it can still be counted as part of the whole estate (if you gave 50K to one kid and not to the other). I'm not too up on it but did look into it some years ago for friends for various reasons. do you think you could get a common friend to talk to you guys about it (or to him) or surely there is a little video that warns about things that could come up if there is no will. it would be such a shame for yous to be fighting for years if there were no will. can you ask him if that's what he wants? can you make a will without him, for if you die first? I think you must be able to. maybe that would put the thought in his mind. he would see you were looking out for him and maybe he would look out for you.is the house in both of your names? will it go to you if he dies? sorry if that is a sensitive subject but you brought it up.


    I was going to make a will a few years ago. but I didn't get around to it. I think I made an appointment and then cancelled it so as to wait for a modification in something or other. I do have beneficiaries to a bank account. I don't have kids nor spouse so it doesn't really matter that much. I don't really care all that much where the money (if there is any) goes. I don't have any or much but I will possibly have the value of a very modest home or something like that. I'll have to look into that deeply some day (or not). I think in France whatever there is (If anything) after taxes would simply be split equally amongst my next of kin (4 siblings, or probably also the children- or grandchildren- of those who might have died before them). My impression is that none of them clearly will need money (all in 50s or 60s), so giving to their kids might be more logical, to the Nieces and nephews from about 18 to almost 40, but then probably also great nephews also around 18, and I guess step niece around 25, not sure about niece's adoptive son (about 12? that I've only seen 2x max very minimally at family gathering or my step nieces two babies, seen 1x for 2h at family thing). Or maybe I can set up a fund for struggling friends around me here: there are and surely will be some. it would be nice to be a ghost-trustee and give to friends and family who need it: struggling cousin with cancer, old friend P. who wants to do x and can't quite, etc. that would be an interesting job as a ghost. LOL if I live to ripe old age I will probably just use it up to pay for expenses in the end and maybe splurge if I see there is some spare. a will would be useful if I die on the early side.
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    so much starch today and not doing well w eating. 2000 calories and almost no exercise. 84 carbs 92 fats 54 proteins.
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    @Rho97070 wow that's amazing about your son's recovery. what a heartening story.
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    I did almost nothing today. I translated a page and went to the big pharmacy that was able to try out different knee braces. since I have an appointment w a specialist on Tuesday they suggested I wait to see what he says. I took a picture of the one that seemed best: one with kind of stiff side ribs and rather thick. the stretchy thin ones really didn't seem to be of any use at all. at the pharmacy they have a whole space for trying on that kind of thing and measuring and so on. one of the guys there is a specialist in that area and as a meniscus torn at present so he was of rather good counsel. apparently even the high quality one with ribs that is around 100+ euros is also mostly reimbursed.

    I guess I will translate some more this evening.

    that is low pressure non-social work.

    felt so much better at the beginning of the week.

    I saw a Ted talk that said that people who are deeply thrown by disappointments are not too pessimistic, they are too optimistic. they think nothing (or many things) will never go wrong and are taken aback when it does.

    I had a nice talk w a neighbour today. She's an ethnologist I found out. She's really upset about the color the inside walls of the common space of the building will be painted (light brown or some kind of yellowish color instead of white). I think white would be nicer, as most people apparently do, but I surely won't lose any sleep about this. she made and circulaTed petitions (which I signed amicably as many others did) and speaks about it regularly with a passion every time I see her for months. we spend very little time in the common space so I don't care very much. just a corridor. maybe I'll feel differently when I see it.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,251 Member
    at work, adding to the kitty
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,254 Member
    Barbara love the Bear Scare!

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