WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2019

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  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,663 Member
    Good morning ladies!

    Machka - hope your sinus problems clear soon. Thank you for posting the story about your husband's initial injury and the first few days/weeks of his condition. You really do need to write a book or pamphlet about it to educate others. He'd be a fascinating case study.

    Rho     - thanks too for sharing the story of your son's amazing recovery and reminder of the power of nutrition and good health and acupuncture. Sorry about your car! Mine breaking down on I-5 was a big worry last week when I drove it to the shop to get the alternator replaced. Hope you got it off the road without much hassle. What kind/make/year of car is it?

    Karen in VA     - thank you for the photo of Josephine. Great smile on that young lady. Do you know if there's a children's hospital close by (comfortable drive for parents/friends) she'll likely be sent to?

    Connie!     Applauding your success! Onederland is fantastic!!

    Julie - I'm not sure what you meant by high/medium/low expectations. My comment pertained to me having high expectations that I wouldn't eat sugar, then falling off the wagon and tricking myself into believing it should have been a low expectation to start with so it was OK. Like making an excuse.

    I normally don't gauge my success in that manner however. My DH says if you don't expect anything, you won't be disappointed. He and I differ in that I expect to have a wonderful day and see a lot of things to be thankful for. I beat myself up for many years for failure to eat/lose weight as "expected". It's now one day at a time and no matter what I weigh, if I am healthy and my clothes fit to suit me, that's success.

    Tracey     - Happy Birthday! Great to see you popping on here. We know you are super busy now doing a job you love, so no worries. Glad to see you when we can.

    Barbara AHMOD - Vacuuming the church....yes, right there's a case of no good deed goes unpunished, lol.

    Another quick comment on wills. Wills don't have to be done together as a couple to my knowledge. For you wives who can't get your hubbies off the dime, you can make an appointment and have yours done plus the necessary power of attorney for financial/medical stuff. That might inspire your DH's to get theirs done as well. And a good way to get up on the laws in your state with an attorney who can assess your specific case and any what-if's.

    Kay - great photo of you and your granddaughter! You are looking MARVELOUS by the way! And she's a cutie!

    Terri     - great post, love your philosophy about aspirations. Look at how well you've done!!

    Kim - Happy to see you are there for your DHN. He needs someone like you in his life.

    Ok I need to get going. Am I the only one here who can spend an hour on these posts? LOL!

    Have a great day ladies! <3

    Lanette
    Soggy SW WA State
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,259 Member
    M with you on the love and kindness trumps.

    I am so sorry you and DH had such an ordeal. Both of you are still living with what happened to you. Prayers for strength and comfort from whatever source works for you. Surrounding you with (((HUGS)))

    <3 Margaret
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,531 Member
    Did an hour on the recumbent bike today. The plan for tomorrow is to do one segment of the 10MS Butt Lift DVD and then take the extremepump class.

    Ginny OH – don’t you just love finding nice things at a thrift store? I know that I do.

    M in Oz – I have Windows 10 Gotta check on the Outlook stuff. One night it suddenly upgraded, I never told it to. What a neat ring!

    Got Medicare stuff in the mail…boo. I am really dreading going on it. One thing I know I don’t want is Advantage. My question is I wonder if there is any other supplement that includes Silver Sneakers. Not that you can only get it if you are on Advantage. It looks like you can’t get Advantage and any other supplements. Thank goodness Vince went thru this already so he can help me.

    Dandl – awesome results! You go girl!!

    Kim – how wonderful that you are there for your DHN. Physics – goes over my head, that’s for sure.

    Memorial services: Vince thinks they are totally unnecessary, that the person is dead. I feel that the memorial isn’t so much for the dead person as it is for the living. I know that I need closure

    Jess called last night. Seems when she had Shadow’s blood tested, it came back that Shadow is hypothyroid. She asked that if she needed to have the radioactive isotope treatment here, would we watch her? We’ve been thru this so many times that we already know the routine. Even tho she gets 15% off at the school, she’s going to look into if it’s cheaper to have it done here. I would think that Iowa would be cheaper, especially with her 15% discount. But we’re here. I know what’ll happen, she’ll need to stay at the hosp for about 3 days, then home and the first 3 days she can’t be in direct contact for any extended time with a person or other animal, all her litter will have to be held aside and can’t be thrown away for 2 weeks.

    Michele in NC



  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,663 Member
    Michele - I'm on a Medi-gap plan through Regence, which is not an Advantage plan. It included Silver Sneakers for a year then switched to Silver & Fit which I use now, they are just about the same thing. Both allow gym memberships and I can attend any classes/use equipment, etc.

    See if you can obtain detailed info on the plans you are considering, sometimes it's online. My Regence plan is nearly identical to the United Healthcare/AARP plan, maybe a dollar difference.

    Things vary in different states of course. Does your state medical insurance have a website that talks about Medicare plans and what is offered in your county? Washington does.

    You might want to call your gym - or one you'd consider going to, and ask them what Medicare memberships they accept.

    Good luck!!

    Lanette
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,616 Member
    margaretturk wrote: »
    M with you on the love and kindness trumps.

    I am so sorry you and DH had such an ordeal. Both of you are still living with what happened to you. Prayers for strength and comfort from whatever source works for you. Surrounding you with (((HUGS)))

    <3 Margaret

    Thank you! We do still have good days and bad days. He's not the same person he was before ... not that that's a bad thing. He's much more mellow now and very loving. But on the other hand, he used to take charge and do things and now it's me making the decisions and ensuring that stuff gets done.

    He used to have a memory like a steel trap, especially for people's names and I used to have a terrible time remembering people's names (mostly because I didn't care). Now he can't remember them ... and in order to help him, I've had to care enough to remember names. So I'm employing all kinds of name memory tricks ... and it's working! I'm surprising myself. But it means that when he's talking to someone and loses a name, I can quietly say the person's name, and the conversation continues.

    His short term memory is quite poor, so I've got to encourage him to write things down. That's been a battle! Because he's always had a good memory, he has felt that he didn't need to write things down. "I'll remember that!" But now, things have changed.

    And when I file, I take a random pile of paper and I divide it up into categories ... bank, internet bill, rental information, bicycle stuff, etc. I often sit on the floor surrounded by 47 different pile categories, and I madly work my way through the big pile. Then I'll file each category or if it is really big, I might divide it further.

    I'd get him to do the filing, but that's not how his brain works now. However, I've recently discovered that he does well if I get him to find one category. So recently he went on a hunt for bank statements ... and found them all ... and put them in order ... and put them into a binder all nice and neatly. Knowing that, I might be able to get him to do the filing ... but in quite a different way than I would do it.

    It hasn't just been a recovery and relearning thing for him. I've had to step up and learn things too ... or look at things in a different way.

    Then some days ... probably one or two days each week ... everything kind of shuts down. His fatigue overwhelms him, he becomes very emotional, and he's not able to do much at all. I've also had to learn patience.

    M in Oz
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,616 Member
    exermom wrote: »
    M in Oz – I have Windows 10 Gotta check on the Outlook stuff. One night it suddenly upgraded, I never told it to. What a neat ring!

    If you haven't put in a subject, sometimes the drafts can appear in an unexpected order. Just wondering if that's part if it.

  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,531 Member
    edited September 2019
    M - I have Windows Live Mail, not Outlook. Never put in a subject, but can't find it anywhere. Vince can't get it from a backup, either. What I've done now is made a Word document and whenever I want to add something, I just open that document.

    Lynette - thanks so much for the information. If I could get Silver Sneakers, that would save us about $700/year. Do gyms that accept Silver Sneakers also accept Silver & Fit? I'd like to be able to attend any class. Vince's company offers this service where they help you determine the best for you. And if they have to arrange a conference call with a provider, they will. They've been very helpful to Vince.

    I can't wait to get my IP for Christmas. Yogurt...here I come. And I saw a recipe for applesauce, can't wait to try that. But how can I portion out 4oz and then freeze it. I don't think an ice cube tray hold 4oz of something. I'd like to make some and then freeze it because I could never eat all the applesauce before it would go bad. But I'm so looking forward to it. I have read that if you use Fairlife milk, the yogurt comes out thicker. Can't wait to try it.

    Got a question for anyone. I have a bra that has a hook that the shoulder straps goes into. The problem is that the strap keeps coming out. Any ideas how I can make it so that the strap doesn't come out?

    Michele in NC
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,716 Member
    edited September 2019
    We wandered down to the Triathlon. The cycle turn around was at the bottom of our road!!! Got down to the finish and also watched the swimming. The sea was perfect, very calm.
    I looked at the results and the first three guys were all called Oliver. :o
    Here's a photo of a Sprint finisher.
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    You can see the masses of bikes behind him. At this point the Standard contestants were just finishing their swim.
    We finished off the morning with an ice-cream.
    Fabulous weather.
    I enjoyed watching a Swedish film last night on my tablet from Amazon Prime. With subtitles. If you like quirky, gentle films this is great. A MAN CALLED OVE.

    We are having Hairy Bikers chicken dish tonight. They are doing a new series on TV where they travel down Route 66 on their motorbikes and sample the cooking on the way. Great fun!

    Much love, Heather UK XXXXXX
  • Maritill
    Maritill Posts: 146 Member
    Good morning everyone. Had my morning walk and soon breakfast. Weighed in yesterday and it was 2 lbs. heavier than last week. I can't seem to get past 2 lbs. This is frustrating me. I've been with MFP for over 5 yrs, on & off. My weight today is 185 and GW is 130 but I could handle 140. I can't do much for exercising because of back issues.Hope you all have a wonderful day/evening.
    Marianne
    Moorefield,WV
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    edited September 2019
    @Machka9 I love the non-traditional rings. I gotcha on the different levels of expectations. I think doing a masters is not nothing. I guess maybe when very or rather young it's not unreasonable to set goals/expectations high if that there is or are some things in one's heart that seem to call for it. Cause when quite young, who knows where we will end up? no-one. As we get older part of the path seems really sketched out and the possibilities are narrowed. (not that I ever wanted to but I'm unlikely to become a doctor, lawyer, olympic swimmer, acrobat, etc., whereas at 15 or 25 or 35 the options were still, for some, (dr or lawyer) conceivable. (my lawyer who must be around 60 was a postman before become a lawyer: 12 years ago he said, meaning he presumably started law school in his 40s.

    @TerriRichardson112 I agree with you that if still working on it it's already something, and that working on dance at this point is a more fulfilling and realistic goal than being a professional dancer. nice goal breakdown. I'm so glad mindfulness meditation has become mainstream. I think that is a great even revolutionary thing for life and society. (in this rather mucky, in my opinion, political and climatic period)

    @lhscapil I gotcha on the high expectation on no sugar and falling off the wagon.That happens to me plenty. There are I guess lots of words that overlap in meaning: goals, plans, expectations, aspirations... it's more of a discussion than a firm definition I guess.

    expectations. I remember my dad saying this to us at some point when we were teens, joking around but also seriously. He must have been close to 50. He (who was rather ambitious and did rather well professionally by many standards, but was always disheartened that it wasn't better) said a colleague had recently said to him: "When you are young you want to conquer the world and when you are older you are glad just to have a good poop" (though he used the word *kitten*.) He laughed in a way I knew he must have partially felt that way, that it somewhat rang true to him then. My younger sister (now 50ish) pointed out to me what was interesting was that I remembered that, and it struck me enough to remember it. Of all the myriad conversations had only a few bits stick with us I guess 40 years later (for most of us). It was possibly the vulgarness of the joke (slightly uncomfortable to hear father speaking like that to us, though he didn't hesitate to swear plenty back then, and it was not out of character really.maybe it was to hear that his colleagues, all dressed up in suits and always polite and proper to us, also spoke like that). But the wiser moral stuck too. I think they were management at a conference, in the 70s, so kind of ambitious guys, but also probably around 50 and realising that they weren't going to all reach all ambitions, and had to bring some realism into their perspective.
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,663 Member
    exermom wrote: »
    Lynette - thanks so much for the information. If I could get Silver Sneakers, that would save us about $700/year. Do gyms that accept Silver Sneakers also accept Silver & Fit? I'd like to be able to attend any class. Vince's company offers this service where they help you determine the best for you. And if they have to arrange a conference call with a provider, they will. They've been very helpful to Vince.

    Michele in NC

    Michele - I am guessing yes, a gym that takes one will take the other. But please call around and check with gyms to really make sure; I don't think it's a given. The service Vince's company provides sounds great, I'd take advantage of it too.

    Lanette
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,616 Member
    bananasandoranges wrote: »
    expectations. I remember my dad saying this to us at some point when we were teens, joking around but also seriously. He must have been close to 50. He (who was rather ambitious and did rather well professionally by many standards, but was always disheartened that it wasn't better) said a colleague had recently said to him: "When you are young you want to conquer the world and when you are older you are glad just to have a good poop" (though he used the word *kitten*.) He laughed in a way I knew he must have partially felt that way, that it somewhat rang true to him then. My younger sister (now 50ish) pointed out to me what was interesting was that I remembered that, and it struck me enough to remember it. Of all the myriad conversations had only a few bits stick with us I guess 40 years later (for most of us). It was possibly the vulgarness of the joke (slightly uncomfortable to hear father speaking like that to us, though he didn't hesitate to swear plenty back then, and it was not out of character really.maybe it was to hear that his colleagues, all dressed up in suits and always polite and proper to us, also spoke like that). But the wiser moral stuck too. I think they were management at a conference, in the 70s, so kind of ambitious guys, but also probably around 50 and realising that they weren't going to all reach all ambitions, and had to bring some realism into their perspective.

    Or in other words ...

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  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,292 Member
    I struggle with writing a novel. Not sure if that's a goal or expectation or what. Sometimes I give it up entirely, but then it haunts me.

    Sugar also haunts me. I was thinking I could manage to sneak in some chocolate under 1200 calories, but mostly it leads to more bad snacking. I don't seem to lose at 1200, I need to be closer to 1100 because I am very idle, especially with my hip issue. Oh well, another day is another chance.

    I'm feeling disappointed because I joined a challenge to hit 156 by Oct1 and 150 by Nov 1. But I am stuck at 161, so five pounds in two weeks seems like a dream. I've never been good at setting goals which is why I hurt my hip.

    Annie in Delaware
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Rebecca: Athena is adorable! :heart:

    Karen in VA: Josephine the ballerina is lovely. I hope her biopsy results come out well and she is able to go home sooner rather than later. :heart:

    Michele: Chocolate is loaded with fat. Luckily, it is the good kind of fat. :star: Regarding chicken pox, DH and I both had it as children. We both have a chicken pox scar in one of our eyebrows as well. Having chicken pox puts people at risk for shingles. I’ve had my shingles vaccinations; it is a series of two. DH is being an idiot about it. :ohwell:

    Dr. Katie: I love the photo of you and your granddaughter. :star:

    Dandi1986: You are doing a great job and deserve to be proud of your accomplishments. WTG!!! :flowerforyou:

    Kim: “But as long as my loved one is safe and happy I never comment to them or to anyone else.” Perfect! :star:

    Machka: I drink peppermint tea when I have a cold. It soothes and reduces my congestion. Chamomile tea works, too, but I like peppermint better. I hope you have something available that works for you. :flowerforyou:


    We are having a rainy morning. I think this will be a day of rest indoors.

    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
  • 1948Peachy
    1948Peachy Posts: 1,511 Member
    Michele ~ Why are you afraid of the Medicare Advantage plan? We are on it along with United Health Care and have been for several years.

    Lisa ~ I like that paneling you have chosen.

    Don't read if you are tired of talking about wedding rings!
    Wedding Rings: I have my MnL's really nice wedding ring that she got later in life and the other SnL got another really nice ring filled with diamonds. I cherish mine and never take it off and she never wears hers probably because it's too fancy. My mother gave my sister our Aunt's and Grandmother's rings when they passed and when mom passed my sister got her very expensive wedding ring. Kind of Shows a bit of, "I like one daughter better than the other"...Huh? I got a smaller diamond that my Father bought her before they divorced and I am happy with that. When my son first got engaged (not to his wife now) he gave her my original wedding set. After they broke up, we got it back. Now his wife has a nice wedding ring they had made from the diamonds from one of my husband's aunt's rings.

    Yesterday, I had a very bad reaction to getting the flu shot on Friday. I threw up Friday night and the next day my arm was very sore where I had gotten the shot and I was achy all over. Today, I am fine.

    Sorry not to comment to other posts very much but I am far behind. Wishing all a good Sunday and week to come.

    Carol from Ga
  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    Katiebug - You look absolutely terrific girl. Good job. <3

    Janetr OKC
  • spikeyhair
    spikeyhair Posts: 2,078 Member
    Had to skim the last few pages as didn't check in yesterday. Welcome to all our newbies.
    REBECCA Athena is gorgeous <3

    HEATHER we have been so lucky here although we had thunder, lightning and torrential rain we didn't have it nearly as bad as inland areas. Benidorm is protected by a mountain range today we have been sheltering from the scorching sun instead of rain. Looks as though our last couple of days are going to be fine.

    Interesting topic re wills etc. DH and I have mirror wills but our kids know if we have our way we'll have spent most of our money and our house isn't worth a lot. We struggled when the kids were young as we sent them both to private school until they were 11 then they both got into good Grammar schools. My inlaws criticised us but DH said we would never be able to leave them a fortune so we gave them the means to make their own way. It worked

    Kate in sunny Spain <3
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,326 Member
    Just skimming today. In a mood..... finished reading up to pg. 52

    RvRita
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,278 Member
    Rho97070 wrote: »
    Sharon LglSec Welcome :smile:

    Snowflake1968 HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! :smiley:

    Pip Was that a black lab in the photo yours?

    Beth near Buffalo Re: it sounds like you've got a good handle on the subject of your parents :wink:

    KK - KetoneKaren I sure hope what's happening is figured out and they're able to administer the help Josephine needs very soon. What a sweetheart of a girl <3

    Heather UK
    I have a friend whose daughter had encephalitis at around 20. She had to relearn everything. She is now a doctor.
    Wow! That is incredibly amazing! Good on her ! <3!

    Reinventing Rhonda - Day 14
    Scale was up a bit today. Oh, well, it will go down again.
    I walked this morning, a bunch looking at "new" used cars with my BF this afternoon, and took an evening walk together after dinner. Pretty tired from yesterday's excitement and from today.

    Heading to bed early
    - _ -

    Rho (south of PDX)






    yup, that's my youngest, yogi
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,205 Member
    :)Michele, We went to a local insurance agent who knew about Medicare, Supplements, Advantage Plans, and prescription plans. We told him what we were looking for and he pointed us to a plan that would work for each of us. If someone at Vince's work can do that for you, I highly recommend getting help from a professional or someone with experience.

    <3 Barbie
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,326 Member
    :) All caught up.

    RV Rita
  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,953 Member
    Kim - when my Dad was sick he asked our opinion on services. He said he didn’t need one and that we shouldn’t spend money on it. I told him that services aren’t for the dead they are for the ones left behind. One thing we did do that he would probably laugh at was, he was a general contractor and licensed electrician and carpenter. He didn’t see the sense in putting a casket in the ground for wood to rot. When we had to Choi’s wan urn for his ashes we chose a wood one that reminded my Sister in Law and I of the jewelry boxes he made for us.

    Gotta run
  • klanders30
    klanders30 Posts: 2,569 Member
    Michelle you are going to love the instant pot-yogurt and applesauce are 2 routine things I make and bone broth, soup and chili, and hard boiled eggs. I haven’t used fairlife milk, but I strain my yogurt to make it thicker. You can leave it in longer to make it even tangier, yum!

    Kelly you are quite the “flipper” this weekend ;) turns out my DH ran the mower today, I did spend time picking up debris so I was burning some calories. Hope the sink/dish washer troubles are quickly fixed.

    My schoolwork is computer related so I have to take a lot of breaks—so tedious! It will be worth it when it is done.

    NYKAREN
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,716 Member
    Dr Katie - Looking goooood! :D

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,531 Member
    KJ – as silly as this sounds, I enjoy mowing the lawn/weeds. I like using the walk behind. Vince likes using the tractor so I let him. I have pork tenderloin that Vince needs to grill. Sometimes pork tenderloin can be a bit dry, so I marinated it in soy sauce and honey. We shall see how it comes out. Do you have a disposal? We had a disposal at the condo and when we ran the d/w the water would back up into the sink. We just removed the disposal since we never really used it. Good luck getting a new phone. Vince hates an apple, feels it’s too limiting. But I wouldn’t mind it since the kids have one.

    Got dinner ready so all I have to do is microwave it. It looks nice so I’ll probably go in the pool then maybe string some more popcorn.

    Went in the pool then strung popcorn. I have found that I do a little stringing, get hot, go in the pool and cool off, then do a little more stringing and repeat. Vince is grilling a pork tenderloin for us to have during the week and for me to put some in the freezer

    Katla – it was the powdered chocolate. Admitted there were chocolate chips in it, but not that many. IDK

    Carol – the reason I do not want Advantage is because you have to go to only doctors who are in network. Our insurance had that once before, and it was a real pain. I don’t want to go thru that again. Fortunately, our insurance changed to a PPO. So glad to hear that you are fine now

    Barbie – I’ve already made an appointment with ViaBenefits (from Mars) for Oct. 18 where we will discuss the different parts of medicare.

    Michele in NC

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