WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2019

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  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
    edited September 2019
    Janetr - and even fat old man have them :*
  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    fanncy0626 wrote: »
    Janetr - and even fat old man have them :*

    I know right? Lol

    Janetr OKC
  • bwcetc
    bwcetc Posts: 2,826 Member
    Have finally used up the last of the produce my farmer friend gave me last Friday. Made Cabbage Roll Soup, Simple Cabbage Soup and Tomato Soup with Fresh Tomatoes. I made enough zucchini bread to choke a horse. Froze all the Swiss chard for use in frittatas later. Saved some of the soup for lunches this week, but froze most. Will be visiting my parents next weekend and like to take a cooler full of things they can use as they will.

    NYKaren ... that is not a nice adventure at all! Glad you didn't seriously hurt yourself.

    Beth near Buffalo
  • Rho97070
    Rho97070 Posts: 84 Member
    Allie My apologies for the fopaux.

    NYKaren Thank goodness you're okay!

    dandi1986 Congrats on dropping below 200! Yea! :smile:

    Barbara Sadly, the nearest animal shelter is an hour's drive one-way :'(

    M in Oz Good article on TBI that you posted. I already use some of those compensatory strategies, lol! Have to :# lest I may have a "senior moment".

    I'm familiar with severe TBI due to my mother (auto accident age 38) and #2 son (bicycle accident a few days before turning18). My son also suffered paralysis nipple down. He pretty much had to learn everything all over again. Mom was never the same.

    I'm not in the medical profession, but differ about the author's claim, “brain training programs and memory drills don’t really help". I think it's possible that they can, and that recovery has a lot to do one's age, one's will, and the support the suffer receives. Bike riding was one of the things the rehab docs pushed my son to do because it helps neurons connect :-) Brain training was also on the agenda, but not via computer. Only paper and pencil and verbal repetition were used. He'll be 45 next month, very athletic (though sometimes in pain) and the smartest and most successful of my sons. He speaks four languages, but can't write or spell worth sh#t! Some things he chose not to re-learn. He figured learning how to talk to many different people would serve him better than learning how to write well in English or spell. Here's a link you might find interesting: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5415868/ Lots and lots of patience, m'dear <3

    Reinventing Rhonda - Day 12
    Got two walks in today and now I'm sore.
    Under limits for total calories but over on carbs, sugar and fat. Ugh!
    Can't eat an apple, a banana and an orange on the same day and not go over my sugar limit.
    Sheesh! Eating to stay under all limits is harder than I thought it would be. :o
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    @JRsLateInLifeMom that's horrible about what you had to go through in terms of racism.did the woman with mixed ethnicity grandchild soften up or stop being racist. those bras look good.

    @cityjaneLondon I also often wear knit camisole bras a bit like the 2d one amber listed. I agree we have nipples.

    @auntiebk I don't know if microfibre is as breathable as cotton. it's supposed to be. I prefer cotton too. the sizes are oddly S M L XL.

  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    I sometimes play spades online on pogo.com to decompress or when I can't sleep. it's said to not have viruses worms, Trojans, etc, but I'm not sure.
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,087 Member
    Rho- no worries.thanks Fanncy for throwing that in there lol
    Rho- I got divorced a year ago march as my ex was cheating on me after 20 yrs of marriage..
    I have chosen to forgive him as I take care of his dad who has dementia down at the nursing home and we have 2 dogs together.. I go down after they go to work and take the dogs for a walk. One of them is eeking along and i have been able to get a bit of chicken into him in the mornings..
    These ladies have been here for me through thick and rhin.. and love each and every one xoxo
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    hi I wrote a long detailed post w several personals on various subjects yesterday! but all seems to be not there.
    did I not push send? or did the network go down when I did and I didn't check?

    sorry !

    I did read many posts and all personals and answer but it's too hard in working days to go back again (2 days = about 10 pages!)

    onward!
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    I haven't been tracking and have slipped into more more starches. not big binging, but more whole grain good bread, and so on. sneaks in. weight is slightly up as of this morning. disappointed but not surprised especially w difficulty walking. I didn't do much sport but potter considerably at time and always walked about 30 min at least per day on walk, errands outside. now it's been minimal minimal for past month due to knee.

    it has an effect on my mood. I managed to feel great at the beginning of the week but was cranky yesterday and today.

    I had to deal w dishonest hr guy at one school. I forgot that if I take one on one appointments he will smile and say yes yes and then do the exact opposite and probably use the time to get info that he can use as he wants. I'm very active in a sort of union like way and they do not like that. HR person is like assistant to director on that level. not there for the employees but for the directors.some union guy said it used to be the opposite somewhat at least.hr was supposed to be there to watch over decent conditions. I don't see that much at all where I am. lots of illegal contracts at this school and they pretend to be in favour of improving that but it's 100% BS.
    the hr guy is very young, soft-spoken and friendly but a slippery person and, after a summer of dealing with more straightforward people I hadn't forgotten the trickiness of this type of person.
    I feel in a bad mood due to this.

    high amount of work at present and over next month and it's super stressing me out.

  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    grateful

    café
    café cat
    the unsmiling waiter at café had an edge of a smile today
    the bank manager finally sorted something out
    some progress in administrative papers

    Accomplished in past 24 hours
    some paperwork
    house in medium ok shape (relatively speaking)
    sent several work mails and made some necessary calls

  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    edited September 2019
    I'm feeling pretty anxious and I find it hard to work on long term projects (that require a specific action today). gonna try to google some music to work by-that worked ok last time
  • okiewoman510
    okiewoman510 Posts: 1,313 Member
    janetr7476 wrote: »
    On the topic of bras, if they made training bras big enough to go around me, I'd be just fine.

    Janetr OKC

    P.S. Who ever heard of a fat old lady with no boobs? ;)

    Except you’re not fat!

    Okie
  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
    :)
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,251 Member
    9999999
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,696 Member
    Had a phone call with an old uni friend this morning. :D We have trouble finding a time to chat, so it was nice to have 30 mins or so. She called me while I was exercising, so I didn't answer the call, and then called her back. I hardly ever have a call on the home phone these days, but my DDIL also called us and we have provisionally arranged for her to visit for the weekend when we return from the cruise. She is always super busy as well, so an August visit has ended up as October!

    DH is home today as the cricket match finished a day early. Hampshire won! It was lovely to have his company while exercising. I really struggle when he is not here. I do it, but it takes every ounce of my willpower.

    Hope to run this afternoon. It seems ages since I last did a 5k. It might be too hot though. Turning humid.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,696 Member
    Lisa - are you still using the rower you bought? :)

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
  • KJLaMore
    KJLaMore Posts: 2,847 Member
    Good morning all! Happy Friday! My cold is still hanging in there; but seems to be content to just be a little niggling scratchiness in my throat. Grrr... I have been doing pretty good on my food choices the past couple of weeks; so last night I treated myself (I don't know why we/I do this; reward myself with food) to a meal at Burger King, since I was on my way to a meeting and hadn't had time for dinner at home. Well, a funny thing happened. I began eating in the car and got half of my burger eaten and a fly (Beth, I know you will appreciate this) landed on my french fries! He managed to crawl over them while I put my sandwich down, rubbing his filthy little front legs together like they do. I shooed him off my fries and he landed on my straw in my drink! Gah! I shooed him off that and, of course, that little flying bas*ard landed on my half eaten burger! Was it a test from God? God:"Hmmm...let's see if this glutton will continue eating her food if I put a disgusting fly on it!" Or some sort of "help" from the Good Choices Fairy? I don't know. Needless to say, the rest of my meal went into the trash, uneaten. I made it through my meeting fine after only half of a meal. Got home and laid out my clothes for this morning (a pair of capris I haven't been able to fit into this summer). AND...when I got dressed, the capris fit. So...maybe there is a use for flies?
    Rebecca- Oh, that Athena! And her thumb! She is adorable and please don't put her in a spoiler! No babies, grandchildren, fur babies in spoilers! These are the souls that help us/motivate us to be better people! Don't hide them!
    Dandl- Woo-hoo! Onederland! I am hoping to join you there, soon!
    Bras- I am (and since puberty) have always been bigger than a c cup. I LOVE a good support bra and if that means underwire...bring that on. I can't go braless. It is just one of those quirky things about me. I feel naked and sick (as in ill) without a bra. I would walk around without panties (yes, I was one of those people who would go commando before I would have a pantyline show, back in the day) before I would go braless. Just me.
    Karen VA- prayers for your friend's daughter! So sad!

    Well, kiddos are arriving! It is another rainy morning (it has been rainy all week). So glad it is Friday (hoping the full moon and the fact that it is the 13th will have zero effect on the kids)! ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,519 Member
    Will take the water class today. The plan for tomorrow is to do Jillian Michael’s Killer abs DVD. This is another new one for me so we shall see. Honestly, I never really wanted the killer abs DVD in the series, but I got this DVD so cheaply that I couldn’t turn it down.

    Rhonda – I’m always always over carb limit. I’m most times under calorie limit, but not carbs. And I know the reason is because I love my fruits too much

    Bananas – I’ve heard of spades, can you give me a really short synopsis of it? I know I made a post last night and it’s not showing. I bet what happened is that instead of pushing “post” I pushed the button “review post”. Well, I know it wasn’t long or anything.

    After exercise I need to go to this one lady to have her quilt a lapquilt for me. That’s one craft that I absolutely hate to do. Afterwards, I want to stop at the Salvation Army, then Big Lots to see if they have Vince’s bread, then WalMart if I have time, depending on the time I need to stop at the bank then the soup kitchen. If I run out of time, I’ll go to WalMart and/or the bank after the soup kitchen.

    Allie – you awe me in how you can forgive Tom after all he did to you. I honestly don’t know that I can do that, at least at first.

    Lisa – “boobs jumping ship”, you have a way with words, that’s for sure

    Ladies – I have somewhat a bit of a dilemma. See, for her whole life, since she could talk, Denise has said that she wanted my wedding rings. Well, when Pete told us he was going to ask Denise to marry him, he then showed us a ring he bought her “to show her he loved her”. I didn’t have the heart to tell him that’s not love. Love is not saying “I know what you want, I know what I want, but the heck with what you want I’m going to do what I want”. Love is saying “I know what you want, I know what I want, but I’ll put my feelings aside BECAUSE I love you”. He seems to have this idea of his plan. He wants to keep their townhouse for 2 or 3 years, then rent it out for the income and buy his “forever” home. Well, nothing is forever. I never in my life thought Vince would be transferred to Kennett Square. After all, Mars had been in the same area of NJ since year 1. When they built an ISI office, it was near Hackettstown. So never did I think they’d build another building away from the Hackettstown area. Yet, that’s what happened.

    Well, last night Denise was talking to us about how we needed to change our will to include the baby. Why she brought this up is beyond me. I don’t ever remember saying to my father how he needed to change his will to include my children. Anyway, when PJ was born I remember Pete saying things like “and I’ll play baseball with him”. I seriously wonder how he’d take it if PJ wanted to be, say, an artist and had no interest in sports. What if he felt he wanted to even experiment with a gay lifestyle? That’s not in Pete’s plan. I know Denise really wants my rings. I’d like to keep them in the family but I can see Pete thinking “I need to pay for the furniture (they bought all new), this townhouse (new) and my “forever” home, I’ll just sell these rings and get the money”. They are worth a pretty penny. Well, they’re over 50 years old. My mother was one of those people who preferred to have a small diamond but a good one. My father’s second wife was just the opposite, very materialistic. Had to have a big showy ring when they got married, but the fact is that it wasn’t worth anything near what my ring is worth.

    Denise said that she’d wear it on the other hand. Ahhhh…that’s not what it is. She said she’d wear it, just switch it out. Ahhh….I’d always be worried that it would get stolen or lost. I’d really like to keep them in the family. She did say that she’d fight Jess tooth and nail for the rings (Jess is the executor of our will).

    Vince and I don’t plan to die in the near future. Neither of us has any type of disease.

    Remember how Pete wanted to have the food he wanted on Mother’s Day, cooked the way he wanted, at the place he wanted? He said to me at one point “well, it’s really easier for you to come up here, after all, you’re retired” Does that mean that the only way I’ll ever get to see my grandchild is to come up there? For years we’ve had to convince Denise to come here at least for Christmas. Now is she going to use the “I can’t because of the baby” excuse. I’m sorry, to me that’s just an excuse. I had 3 small children, yet every year (ok, it was only once/year) we drove 2 days to spend a week in FL with my inlaws. What does he think we do with our time? Sit around and do nothing? “I really don’t want to drive” When they brought PJ home from the hosp. I went outside and said to him “why don’t I watch the baby while you and Denise greet the dog” “no, this is the way I want to do it”

    Deep down inside, and Vince says that I’m overthinking this and I could very well be, I have this worry that he’s abusing Denise, at least emotionally. When there was that Mother’s Day occurrence where I’d already bought the food, she didn’t say anything to Pete like, “well, my mother’s already bought the food, why don’t we ask your parents here”. Is it because she’s afraid of contradicting Pete? I know at one point I contradicted Pete and he didn’t seem to like it. I think it was when he said about the retired stuff I told him that we had commitments. He did abuse Lexi (although he and Denise never admitted it, the SPCA who seized her did), I know he verbally abused Denise when we lived in PA. I can’t help thinking “once an abuser, always an abuser”.

    From what they said, they paid for their wedding. I don’t know, wouldn’t surprise me if Maria helped so that she could get the wedding she wanted. Come on, paying for your wedding, then less than a year later living with your parents and 6 months later having saved up enough money for a home? No, I think Maria helped them pay for the townhouse because Denise was pg. She wanted to be sure they were near her. She did say something at the wedding shower to the effect of "when they buy a home near me". The father doesn’t like the dog, he probably felt that his house wasn’t big enough for 4 adults, 3 pets, and a baby too. So he probably insisted they move. I do remember that he paid for a truck for Pete a while ago and we’re sure it’s because he was tired of driving Pete to work.

    I don’t want to put in the will that Jess makes the decision of who gets my rings because that’ll put strain on her and Jess’ relationship should Jess not give them to Denise upon our death.

    Maybe I should put something in the will like “until such time as Pete and Denise are no longer married, the rings should be in the possession of Jess” or something like that. But that's like saying "get a divorce". Even if they do, who is to say they don't get remarried? I do trust Denise, but I wonder about Pete.

    I don’t know, what do you all think?

    Michele in NC
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,087 Member
    KJ - I'm about to go down to the nursing home.. let me just tell you that combo there holy cow will be wild today.. working 11-5 today .and then have the weekend off I think
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,519 Member
    Karen - welcome! What part of NE PA are you in? We used to live in Stroudsburg.

    Michele in NC
  • wizzybeth
    wizzybeth Posts: 3,578 Member
    exermom wrote: »
    Karen - welcome! What part of NE PA are you in? We used to live in Stroudsburg.

    Michele in NC

    Hi Michele! I am not far from Stroudsburg at all. I am near Lake Wallenpaupack in the northern end of the Pocono Mountains.
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,696 Member
    Karen - Really sorry about the ballerina. :'(<3
    The lunch party is going ahead. I'm fine about that - my worry was having my elder son staying so close to the cruise. I get pre-holiday angst. As you know, I'm OCD about entertaining. :/ I have decided to chill about it all. My son is not fussy and I am getting the cleaner in before hand and getting takeaway etc. The bed is made. I'm not sure if he's staying one or two nights. The trains are not good on Sundays.
    Thanks for thinking of me. <3

    Going out for a run in a minute.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • JRsLateInLifeMom
    JRsLateInLifeMom Posts: 2,275 Member
    Michele NC - I was with my abuser when Mom gave me her rings I still have them. Wearing them gave me hope for the future felt like she was near when times were hard. Talk to her if their not married best to air out your concerns.If married confide your concerns let her know your there if she ever needs to get out of the marriage. Hurting animals is a bad sign your mom instincts aren’t wrong if he can injury any living thing it’s not that far of a hop when a babies crying to hit mom or baby. Search your heart ❤️ decide give it or not. Things are things the rings someday could be turned into a necklace by a great grandkid. But lives are priceless especially our kids safety.

    MIL y me taking JR to grocery shop,eat out,y 1st salon haircut 💇🏾‍♂️ pray it goes good. Yikes going to be screaming can hear it now but need to see if it’s possible.

    Amber Tx
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,251 Member
    Uuuh
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,597 Member
    exermom wrote: »
    Ladies – I have somewhat a bit of a dilemma. See, for her whole life, since she could talk, Denise has said that she wanted my wedding rings. Well, last night Denise was talking to us about how we needed to change our will to include the baby.
    I don’t know, what do you all think?
    Michele in NC

    In my family things are passed to the next generation. We don't skip a generation unless there's a good reason to do that. So maybe in this case ... give the rings to PJ!! :smiley:

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