WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2019

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  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,046 Member
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    Bananas, so sorry to hear about the reversed decision on your raise. Sometimes retirement is an ambitious goal. Hope things work out.
  • ginnytez
    ginnytez Posts: 1,337 Member
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    Oh my gosh, tied up this week and come back to 303 posts! Just going to jot down a few random responses.

    Dandl1986 – You are losing at a good rate. I think everyone wishes we could get rid of excess quicker than what we can (or should). Keep doing what you are doing and you will make it. Based upon your current loss trend, if you do go a bit over the 1200, you will still loses weight, just maybe a bit slower. Congratulations on getting below 200!

    BananasandOranges -interesting system you are working in. Sorry to hear they backed out of agreed upon pay increase. I agree it is a punch in the gut. Very tough situation to be in. In terms of expectations, why not have a high one but support getting there with a series of lower expectations that build to it?

    LyndaBSS – seems to be differing opinions on length of time replacements last. I know people have been told to do what they did before, so some run, etc. I have never been a runner so that isn’t a problem with my hips. Actually, I wouldn’t mind being around long enough to wear them out!

    DJMKT – so sorry to hear about leg break. Crutches for a few weeks will give you a core workout! Hope you heal well.

    Janetr OKC – four years seems like a short time span for replacement to go bad. I was on a site dealing with joint replacements for a while and read there that problems can happen and they never really figure out why. Possible a defective joint (they are man-made). I’ve never had that reaction to the dyes, you evidently have a sensitivity to them.

    Karen in Va -prayers for the young lady. St. Jude’s does wonderful work and has had some amazing results. It is especially sad when children are hit with such things.

    LisainAR – good news about stairs. I had similar experience with hips. Seemed like I two stepped forever, then one day I realized I wasn’t. Good job on weight.

    Trish – welcome. This is a good group and very active. Seem to have advice on any given topic.

    Machka -sorry you are not feeling well. There is something going around here, some sort of viral respiratory thing, that has really knocked people out. I am hoping to escape it. Rest and fluids seems to be best advice.

    Had strange situation with an individual this week. Found out something that really ran counter to what this person had been portraying for years. When I asked about it, they lied (I knew they were due to the fact statements were made in public setting in front of other people). A choice they may be making will cause some difficult work issues for me. I can deal with that and do with what needs to be done for the organization but it is disheartening the person would do what they are doing—runs completely counter to how they have acted and positions they have taken for several years. I am basically over the feeling of being stabbed in the back and know the steps I have to take. It is really her deal and makes complete sense she would be very uncomfortable with being confronted. It’s just difficult when you thought the person was a friend as well as a colleague.

    Off to do some Saturday chores and get ready to watch Buckeyes at noon (will try to have it worked out so I will do ironing during game so I don’t feel so lazy!)

    Take care all,

    Ginny in Ohio
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,347 Member
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    Did Jillian Michael Killer Abs DVD. The plan for tomorrow is to ride the recumbent bike

    Heather – I’m keeping a list of what I’d like to send to people for Christmas. Usually, I don’t get presents for my birthday except from Vince. I’m putting things on my list that we need but not urgently like a broom for the pool, landscape edging, an IP…those sorts of things. Happy birthday to you and your hubby

    Lisa – what a great appreciation gift that woman sent you

    Karen VA – Olivia looks so adorable. When will she be back for a visit? Do they know?

    Carol GA – allergies are NOT fun. Hope yours gets better real fast

    M – sounds like you’re overdoing it. Take care of yourself

    Michele NC
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 24,886 Member
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    The winter cold/flu has been going around and I've avoided it till now. I was starting to think I might make it through the winter and early spring without catching anything this year!! Work colleagues have been dropping like flies for the past couple months ... my husband had it last weekend (and surrounding days).

    I continued to feel good till Friday (yesterday) morning. And then it all went downhill.

    I'm resting this weekend and I'll see how I feel on Monday. I can't miss much work from now till the end of September so I need to choose wisely.

    M in Oz
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,347 Member
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    Marinating a pork tenderloin for Vince to grill for next week. Want to make him lemon bars, need to make these brownies (got a recipe for zucchini carrot brownies that I want to try), and something to take to Rummikub later this week.

    Michele in NC
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,344 Member
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    Happy Saturday folks!

    Julie - regarding high and low expectations, a trickster lives in my brain and could easily send something from high to low in a heartbeat, so it wouldn't be worth the effort for me. >:) Sorry to hear about the raise being yanked back; so interesting to hear how other countries operate in that regard.

    Barbara AHMOD - that Halloween gadget repelling bears is nifty. You have me thinking of other ways I could use it around here, lol.

    Barbie - good take on leaving possessions to the kids. I have a few treasured rings from my mom and grandmother - I remember them wearing them and talking about them. I'm not even sure nieces or nephews would want them, need to contact my siblings. THEY might want them!

    I sometimes fear if something happens to me, DH will get ahold of the bank accounts and hand them over to a telemarketer or floozie, lol. Then I quickly remind myself that I cannot control his behavior from beyond the grave so why waste time worrying. Doing the best I can to plan for our final years then I have to let it go.

    Katla     - sorry to read about the ring being sold. Good for you making peace with it.

    Lisa[/b] - what a neat surprise, gorgeous arrangement.

    Carol     - sorry to hear ragweed is getting the best of you. Do you take a good antihistamine? Hopefully the dirty air won't last long.

    I did well yesterday with the logging. Did give in after supper to a couple little Heath snack size bars, figured them into the total and kept added sugars at the recommended 4 teaspoons. Had a small handful of pecans before bed - no added sugar. Need to replenish my nut stash. My metrics - 50% healthy fat so they fit right in.

    Machka     - golly girl, feel better soon! Do you have any good remedies? Sounds like a good weekend to put the "to do" list aside and get some TLC.

    Karen in VA - Olivia has picked up the French fashion model style, lol. Happy ending to a tenuous first few weeks of life. Any word on how long they're staying in France and if you and your partner might plan a trip over there? Thank you for your explanation of the shingles vaccine. You have me rethinking it now. Shame that our medical providers rarely have the time to explain the "why" so well. B)

    Time to put on the shoes and get a walk in.

    Make it a super weekend, ladies! <3

    Lanette
    SW WA State
  • bwcetc
    bwcetc Posts: 2,752 Member
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    Welcome new ladies!

    KarenVA ... is Olivia permanently living in France? She is such a sweetie!

    Rebecca ... candy is my nemesis as well. Sugar. I've been known to just eat spoonfuls of brown sugar ... how disgusting is that! I'm fairly certain my plateauing right now is due to added sugars in my food choices (like ice cream and reeses peanut butter cups), so I've decided to temporarily discontinue sugar in my diet (not some fruit because it's apple season!! Yay!) and see what happens.

    Bananas ... "High, medium, low expectations" ... I'm not sure I understand this terminology. I do have minimum expectations. I have short term and long term expectations. Low expectations seems so unnecessarily pessimistic.

    Michele ... you said Denise called to remind you to put the baby in your will. That statement/sentiment bothers me. The only person who decides anything about your will (or your joint will with Pete) is you (and Pete).

    An expectation from others that you are "required" to do anything is just offensive to me. Our families owe us nothing. Inheritance is truly a thing of the past unless, I suppose, you come from a wealthy family. My parents are 90 and 88. I know for certain they have decided not to move into an assisted living community (which they desperately need to do) because they have this inheritance mindset and believe that seeking the help they need will reduce their ability to "leave something" to their children. It's utter hogwash! Stepping off box now ...

    Kelly ... you really do have a way of flipping the script! Flies. I'm shuddering.

    A lot of ideas about what I want to do today ... none of which will get done if I don't get off of here! Have a great day!

    Beth near Buffalo





  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,347 Member
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    I have 12 minute workout DVD (there are 4 different workouts), Biggest Loser Power Sculpt DVD and Jane Fonda's Firm and Burn DVD. These seem to all be for beginners and I'm just bored with them.

    PM me if you're interested for the price of the postage which in the US is a little less than $3

    Michele in NC
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,347 Member
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    can you tell I'm bored waiting for Vince to wake up so that I can start preparing this?

    Michele in NC
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,347 Member
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    Oh, forget it, I'm going to start baking. He should be up by now, anyway,

    Michele in NC
  • okiewoman510
    okiewoman510 Posts: 1,288 Member
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    Michelle - Add me to the people confused by adding PJ to the will. Does Denise think PJ should get an equal share to her siblings (so she would get more that way)?

    Okie (back in) the TX Hill Country after a week in VA.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 24,886 Member
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    On wills ... I've never been the recipient of anything from a will, nor do I expect to be.

    If my parents use whatever they've got for their care late in life ... that's fine. It's theirs. :)
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,344 Member
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    Michele - you and Vince are still pretty young and in good health. A safe way around this PJ/will business (since there might be more grandchildren before you and Vince pass away) is to say a certain percentage of your estate is to be divided equally all grandchildren (worded in a way to include/exclude any kids/grandkids that pop up out of nowhere years later, etc.)

    If PJ is the only one, so be it. If Denise has any more or Jess eventually has children, everything is covered without changing the will and worrying over being "fair".

    At least that's the way we are doing here it here WA State. NC rules might differ.

    Lanette
    SW WA State

  • JRsLateInLifeMom
    JRsLateInLifeMom Posts: 2,275 Member
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    Still here today fruit (grape y strawberries) with chicken chili y zero Gatorade for Brunch

    Going through JRs clothes yesterday car sickness incident made us realize the bag was full of 3T’s y praise God 1 sz 5 even tho it was tight! Yikes what if we had to evacuate (tornadoes) that’s the main bag we grabbed! We’d be in a pickle! So going through closet getting down a basket of 6-7’s to move in (He’s in 6’s been grabbing out of the basket lazy like!)

    Amber Tx
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
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    @machka9 it's for each of us to decide what is high low or medium expectations I guess. What do you think for your two subjects. I guess "realistic" would be "medium". but so much comes into play. it's personal.

    I would say graduating w masters is not low expectations and whether it is medium or high kind of depends probably on your habits, temperament, situation, classes, past experience and so on.

    The 50k is really impossible for me to weigh in on. But I would say not low.
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
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    Karen in VA: I took the two shot Shingrix series a year ago. I tried to talk DH into it then, but he refused. His MS doctor AND his primary care doctor both want him to take the shot series. They are in two different hospital systems and are working on opening up communications so they can function as the medical team that he needs. :heart: He previously had a diabetes specialist. The advice and office visits were good, but that office staff was incapable of providing prescription refill authorizations to the pharmacy so that DH could get his insulin when he needed it. :grumble: :flowerforyou:

    CathyMcMac: You joined when you posted. Welcome! Click the hollow star at the top of the page. It will turn yellow. After that you will be able to find us simply by clicking on the star. We have to renew this connection every month. :smiley:

    Rebecca: My preferred breakfast is cottage cheese and blueberries. DH likes eggs, or eggs and bacon. He has a box of Rice Chex in the cupboard but hasn’t eaten any for a long while. :ohwell: Your soup looks fabulous! :star:

    Michelle: I have wedding ring issues with my daughter, too. I’m in a no-win situation there. DS asked for my mom’s wedding set when he was marrying DDIL. I gave them to him without question. Then they sold those rings for the diamond and gold value and had a new ring made for DDIL. My daughter wanted mom’s wedding set when she married DSIL but it was no longer in existence. :sad: I have two lovely antique rings that I will give to her. I like Barbie’s advice. :flowerforyou:

    Allie: You’re turning into a fashion maven. WTG!!! :bigsmile:

    Trish from SW Sydney: Welcome!!! :star:

    Lisa in AR: Wonderful that your board member loves your books and brought them to a meeting for you to autograph. WOW!!! :star::heart: :star:

    Barbara: I love the Halloween scare bear idea. In our neighborhood we have deer and raccoons, but not bears. Thank goodness! Mothballs do a dandy job keeping raccoons away from under our house and deck. I have no idea whether they’d do anything toward getting bears to leave the area. :flowerforyou:

    Bananas & Oranges: I hope things work out for you in the long run. :flowerforyou:

    Machka in Oz: Lovely wedding ring!!! :heart: I am so sorry that you are sick! I hope you get better, soon. :flowerforyou:

    Michelle, Rebecca & TerriRichards: I love the chocolate that I found. Each square is individually wrapped so it is very easy to have only one. They are Ghirardelli Chocolate, Intense Dark. 72% chocolate, 60 calores per square. It is easy for me to have just one. They also have similar products with different percentages of chocolate. :bigsmile:

    Lanette: I made peace with mom’s ring easily enough but my daughter still hurts over it. I know that mom’s ring was not mom’s original wedding ring. They traded up as they could afford it. I have some beautiful antique rings to give DD at the right time. The ring issue has morphed into an issue about my dad’s guns. I’ll try to work on that one when I go to visit DD. A year ago my husband sent all of our guns away with our son. They’ve been stored in his father in law’s gun vault because DS doesn’t have one. My plan is simple enough from my pov. My dad’s hunting guns should be divided equally between my adult children. My daughter will need to have a lockable gun safe before she gets her share. I’m guessing the gun safe will be a gift from me to her. I have one in our storage unit that would likely do the job, but it would cost more to ship it than to buy one where she lives. :ohwell:

    Barbie: Good news about Jake’s health. YAY!!! :star:


    We’ve never made a will and it is time we get that done. Our plan is simple-each of our children gets half of everything. We’re giving some things away early. My dad’s hunting gun collection is a good example. I have two sets of WWII vintage dishes, plus our own set of fine china. We rarely use it and our every-day dishes are made by Corning. I expect to live a long life, and I’ll keep things I love with me a long as it makes sense to do so.

    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
  • LisaInAR
    LisaInAR Posts: 2,020 Member
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    Regarding wills - our son and daughter know our property will come to them in equal measure, hopefully free and clear, with mortgage paid off, at our death. What they choose to do with it is up to them... and there is nothing we're doing with the property that takes into account anything that they want. Once we're dead, it's their problem. :)

    Michele, I find the entitlement that some children have as to what parents plan to do with their stuff when just exhausting. And believe me, after watching my family's behavior after my mother's death, there's not a blinking thing you can do about how all that works out. I will say that people's true nature does tend to show itself upon the death of a loved one. All that said - make sure Denise and Jess have what YOU want to give them long before you kick the bucket, and leave the rest in their laps to sort out after your death. They will anyway, no matter how much control you attempt to exert over the situation. Their petty jealousy of each other is not your problem.

    Pausing for a moment to say that I adore my husband. And that husbands, and mine is no exception, are just attention hogs, bless their hearts, with a crappy sense of timing, both in the overall and the specific. That is apropos of nothing anyone else said, by the way, just an observation on mine. :smiley:

    Love y'all,
    Lisa in AR

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