When Peter shows up uninvited
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777Gemma888 wrote: »
Having shared the posts on this thread to my sister @K8eekins, she'd responded, "Receiving Peter pics is considerate. You need to know."
Tbh, I wanna know what I’m getting myself into. Do I need to like really brace myself and be ready......lol
I’m too nice to ever ask. I will wait for it to come up somehow and then if he offers i won’t stop him from sending it. 😋
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Okay... Here's my two cents (and this is going back 10 years to before I was married and was dating). To answer the question... Yes, I have sent pics in the past, but, there was always consent prior to sending the pic. Also, women definitely send unsolicited pics. The first time it happened to me was after a first date. The date went well and there was a good night kiss. WOW! I was really surprised when I got home and checked my text messages before going to bed. The other pic was from an old high school friend/girlfriend (and no, we weren't dating at the time). I have just chalked this up to life in the digital age.1
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Now I’m imagining a scenario in which both parties have kept all of that for after a commitment and then standing in front of each other naked and terrified and trying to keep the shock and disappointment from their faces.2
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your_future_ex_wife wrote: »Now I’m imagining a scenario in which both parties have kept all of that for after a commitment and then standing in front of each other naked and terrified and trying to keep the shock and disappointment from their faces.
Naked and terrified? Lol.
Sounds like the name of a TV show.
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your_future_ex_wife wrote: »Now I’m imagining a scenario in which both parties have kept all of that for after a commitment and then standing in front of each other naked and terrified and trying to keep the shock and disappointment from their faces.
Naked and terrified? Lol.
Sounds like the name of a TV show.
but can you imagine? how awkward on one hand but potentially wonderful?1 -
your_future_ex_wife wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »Now I’m imagining a scenario in which both parties have kept all of that for after a commitment and then standing in front of each other naked and terrified and trying to keep the shock and disappointment from their faces.
Naked and terrified? Lol.
Sounds like the name of a TV show.
but can you imagine? how awkward on one hand but potentially wonderful?
I think waiting a long time and then being disappointed would be bad. But if you really love them, you work with what they have....
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your_future_ex_wife wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »Now I’m imagining a scenario in which both parties have kept all of that for after a commitment and then standing in front of each other naked and terrified and trying to keep the shock and disappointment from their faces.
Naked and terrified? Lol.
Sounds like the name of a TV show.
but can you imagine? how awkward on one hand but potentially wonderful?
2 sec awkwardness followed by wonderfulness..
so I heard.. 😇2 -
your_future_ex_wife wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »Now I’m imagining a scenario in which both parties have kept all of that for after a commitment and then standing in front of each other naked and terrified and trying to keep the shock and disappointment from their faces.
Naked and terrified? Lol.
Sounds like the name of a TV show.
but can you imagine? how awkward on one hand but potentially wonderful?
2 sec awkwardness followed by wonderfulness..
so I heard.. 😇
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777Gemma888 wrote: »Consent between adults involved in the sexting is imperative. Perfectly legal under CA law. With the artistic license people take today, some "Peter pics" may qualify under unlawful peeking or an invasion of privacy, when a man redistributes "Peter pics" in this instance, or a woman sending intimate pics which aren't her own, as they qualify as non consensual transmission of intimate images.
Receiving or sending intimate pictures for me has always been about a fwb hookup during "the warm up phase" or when I am in a committed relationship. It's part of "the dating culture now."
Having shared the posts on this thread to my sister @K8eekins, she'd responded, "Receiving Peter pics is considerate. You need to know."
Absolutely. Politeness and courtship are drag-outs. I'd learnt the hard way as you well know, how that turned out for me, that one time I thought to, sticking to the parameters of decency, only to be shell-shocked.
With modernity and the fast-paced dating with insurmountable options, we all deserve to know the quality of the other face, since we'll all be acquainting ourselves to it eventually. I fear for some who're not inclined to, for with how science has advanced too for example, there are details some should be telling their prospects from the get-go. It's impolite and deceitful to not.2 -
I'd had a horrifying experience, going the traditional dating/courtship route, where at the very end, I was stuck in a moment of seeing what I could not unsee, which took me years to get over. If he'd told me about it from the get-go, I would've held on, for I'm not all about that either. His just was especially challenged, a side effect@extreme shrinkage, in length and circumference.your_future_ex_wife wrote: »
We can hope for the best777Gemma888 wrote: »
Precisely. A visual "taste testing" or a sample miniature.your_future_ex_wife wrote: »
it’s research, so to speak777Gemma888 wrote: »Consent between adults involved in the sexting is imperative. Perfectly legal under CA law. With the artistic license people take today, some "Peter pics" may qualify under unlawful peeking or an invasion of privacy, when a man redistributes "Peter pics" in this instance, or a woman sending intimate pics which aren't her own, as they qualify as non consensual transmission of intimate images.
Receiving or sending intimate pictures for me has always been about a fwb hookup during "the warm up phase" or when I am in a committed relationship. It's part of "the dating culture now."
Having shared the posts on this thread to my sister @K8eekins, she'd responded, "Receiving Peter pics is considerate. You need to know."
I'm of the mind because I refuse to be traumatised twice in my lifetime. The other face matters just as much, if we're all honest. It's impolite to not IMO because truthfully, there are details owed any prospect earlier in the exchange, where the prospect deserves enough respect to determine if they'll accommodate any of it and everything else that comes with it.777Gemma888 wrote: »Having shared the posts on this thread to my sister @K8eekins, she'd responded, "Receiving Peter pics is considerate. You need to know."
Tbh, I wanna know what I’m getting myself into. Do I need to like really brace myself and be ready......lol
I’m too nice to ever ask. I will wait for it to come up somehow and then if he offers i won’t stop him from sending it. 😋2 -
MIltonBradley1 wrote: »Sometimes you have to wait to see a woman nude. Like over 3 years.
Sexual abstinence by choice and not circumstantial. I'd walked away from my 1st American fiance because I lived this discipline (throughout my 20s and much of my 30s), still a student and a young professional. He needed intimacy and caved. His uncles tried to salvage what I'd accidently privied, but it was too late.1 -
BasedGawd412 wrote: »Am I the only one here who's been sent a unsolicited sex tape? 😬😅😅😅
No. VHS no less!2 -
When I get one, respond with
"😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂"
Seems to fix it.2 -
I also think its hard to send those kind of pics on MFP....no? Dont you usually need Instagram, or Snapchat or something like that? I dont have any other social media other than here. Anytime i have been asked to send such a pic its because they gave me another way to send it.....or i simply said no i cant.2
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tinkerhellraiser wrote: »i heard about a flasher at LSU a long time ago, he was flashing coeds at the dorms like classic wearing trench coat an everything. he would do it and they’d run off and he never got caught for months.
anyways one day he flashes these cleaning ladies and they start busting up laughing like hooting all loud and shouting things at him like “put that away boy, that ain’t nothing to be proud of!” like full on heckling him. So he wandered off and the cleaning women called campus police, who found him like 50 ft away on a park bench crying, still in his trench coat.
Lol. Reality check.
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Theres delete and block buttons.
And the laughing emoji.
And screenshot method.
Many methods to curbing ones Peter enthusiasm.0 -
BasedGawd412 wrote: »Am I the only one here who's been sent a unsolicited sex tape? 😬😅😅😅
No. VHS no less!
I always send them on Betamax..... so womenz don’t know what they’re missing.2 -
Sometimes the best response is to ignore it completely, not acknowledging it all and ending the conversation. The complex that the sender gets from that then becomes of his own insecurities.2
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If I had a "Peter" i would not call it that. I would probably call it Francis.4
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pizzamyheart wrote: »If I had a "Peter" i would not call it that. I would probably call it Francis.
because he needs to lighten up?4 -
GymGoddessGoals wrote: »Sometimes the best response is to ignore it completely, not acknowledging it all and ending the conversation. The complex that the sender gets from that then becomes of his own insecurities.
I like this, but maybe keep the conversation going without acknowledging receipt. If he asks, deny it was received and he can wonder about where that picture may have gone.1 -
GymGoddessGoals wrote: »Sometimes the best response is to ignore it completely, not acknowledging it all and ending the conversation. The complex that the sender gets from that then becomes of his own insecurities.
I like this, but maybe keep the conversation going without acknowledging receipt. If he asks, deny it was received and he can wonder about where that picture may have gone.
This wouldn’t work for me. It would feel like playing games and that makes me uncomfortable.
If it were a stranger I would just block contact and delete or junk box it as evidence in case he escalated.
A friend who made a faux pas would get a warning most likely.3 -
When Peter shows up uninvited....don't do Dick.1
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your_future_ex_wife wrote: »pizzamyheart wrote: »If I had a "Peter" i would not call it that. I would probably call it Francis.
because he needs to lighten up?
Sgt Hulka?1 -
your_future_ex_wife wrote: »GymGoddessGoals wrote: »Sometimes the best response is to ignore it completely, not acknowledging it all and ending the conversation. The complex that the sender gets from that then becomes of his own insecurities.
I like this, but maybe keep the conversation going without acknowledging receipt. If he asks, deny it was received and he can wonder about where that picture may have gone.
This wouldn’t work for me. It would feel like playing games and that makes me uncomfortable.
If it were a stranger I would just block contact and delete or junk box it as evidence in case he escalated.
A friend who made a faux pas would get a warning most likely.
Valid point.2 -
Honestly I think alot of guys who do this are expressing theyre frustration of a lack of a sex life this way so they are just like *kitten* it throwing up a hail mary which will more than likely not be caught.4
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your_future_ex_wife wrote: »GymGoddessGoals wrote: »Sometimes the best response is to ignore it completely, not acknowledging it all and ending the conversation. The complex that the sender gets from that then becomes of his own insecurities.
I like this, but maybe keep the conversation going without acknowledging receipt. If he asks, deny it was received and he can wonder about where that picture may have gone.
This wouldn’t work for me. It would feel like playing games and that makes me uncomfortable.
If it were a stranger I would just block contact and delete or junk box it as evidence in case he escalated.
A friend who made a faux pas would get a warning most likely.
I'm too old for games.2 -
I keep expecting this thread to go in a weird way and surprisingly, it really hasn't. Well played, Internet.. but I still don't trust you.
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If I had a peter, aka Francis, I would probably dress it up and show it to all my friends.2
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