What’s a red flag for you?

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  • Cutemesoon
    Cutemesoon Posts: 2,646 Member
    edited September 2019
    dodea48 wrote: »
    Cutemesoon wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    I'm not actually good at seeing red flags until after the relationship. Or I am really good at ignoring it.

    This meme illustrates what I just said.

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    Story of my WHOLE life! :s

    you can fix it :)

    How?

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  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    "Our kids are gonna be named (whatever)"
  • Keep_on_cardio
    Keep_on_cardio Posts: 4,166 Member
    k8eekins wrote: »
    Dishonesty.
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    When I catch people in lies, or even exaggerations
    I have an excellent memory, (for random stuff that doesn't benefit me in life) I never call people out on their lies or exaggerations...but I remember, and it is a red flag for me
    nooshi713 wrote: »
    If he lies about anything.

    If he’s mean to animals or other people.
    Lets see since it’s been a long time.

    Not honest if they have std/sti’s
    No ambition or faux ambition
    Lacks confidence and drive
    Very loose
    Speaks of their sexual experiences too openly
    Has had sex with men poked or poker
    Racist or into fetish unless its for my profits
    No follow through
    Has children unless he has been married or committed not intrigued by those seeding up the earth

    I fear false flags' more than any red flag, 'cause where there's room for recovery with one post impact, the other, not so much.

    I feel the same

    Being open and honest is a start in something positive.
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    When he asks to borrow my credit card cuz his mama ain’t home

    When she only responds to my questions by sending selfies of her wearing different shirts with different sayings on them.
  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    cee134 wrote: »
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    When he asks to borrow my credit card cuz his mama ain’t home

    When she only responds to my questions by sending selfies of her wearing different shirts with different sayings on them.

    😂
  • Cutemesoon
    Cutemesoon Posts: 2,646 Member
    MizzouWins wrote: »
    Only texting and not talking LOL

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  • mmultanen
    mmultanen Posts: 1,029 Member
    mmultanen wrote: »
    - Self- distressing damsels/dudes with *kitten* problem-solving skills, a solid victim narrative and a fetish for being rescued from the consequences of their decisions.
    - People who are all up in my face 24/7 because they don’t have anything better to do.
    - People who post a slew of self-congratulatory social media posts every time they do anything more impressive than roll out of bed before 1pm. Adulting is like so hard heehee.

    Do people really hand out phone passcodes when they’re dating, rather than married/cohabiting? Weird. I’d probably let my current guy use my phone if he promised not to mess up the unsolicited dick pic collection, I’m doing a collage for my mum’s Facebook profile photo.

    As someone who has recently put herself back on the market I believe I'm going to have cards made up that I can handout with my phone passcode on them just so people know I'm redflagless and completely dateable.

    Pre-qualifier so you don't waste cards ;)

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  • ArmyVeteranM1A1C
    ArmyVeteranM1A1C Posts: 1,045 Member
    mmultanen wrote: »
    mmultanen wrote: »
    - Self- distressing damsels/dudes with *kitten* problem-solving skills, a solid victim narrative and a fetish for being rescued from the consequences of their decisions.
    - People who are all up in my face 24/7 because they don’t have anything better to do.
    - People who post a slew of self-congratulatory social media posts every time they do anything more impressive than roll out of bed before 1pm. Adulting is like so hard heehee.

    Do people really hand out phone passcodes when they’re dating, rather than married/cohabiting? Weird. I’d probably let my current guy use my phone if he promised not to mess up the unsolicited dick pic collection, I’m doing a collage for my mum’s Facebook profile photo.

    As someone who has recently put herself back on the market I believe I'm going to have cards made up that I can handout with my phone passcode on them just so people know I'm redflagless and completely dateable.

    Pre-qualifier so you don't waste cards ;)

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  • Cutemesoon
    Cutemesoon Posts: 2,646 Member
    edited September 2019
    mmultanen wrote: »
    - Self- distressing damsels/dudes with *kitten* problem-solving skills, a solid victim narrative and a fetish for being rescued from the consequences of their decisions.
    - People who are all up in my face 24/7 because they don’t have anything better to do.
    - People who post a slew of self-congratulatory social media posts every time they do anything more impressive than roll out of bed before 1pm. Adulting is like so hard heehee.

    Do people really hand out phone passcodes when they’re dating, rather than married/cohabiting? Weird. I’d probably let my current guy use my phone if he promised not to mess up the unsolicited dick pic collection, I’m doing a collage for my mum’s Facebook profile photo.

    As someone who has recently put herself back on the market I believe I'm going to have cards made up that I can handout with my phone passcode on them just so people know I'm redflagless and completely dateable.


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    I'm so oblivious to guys interest in me so I'm TOTALLY gonna need to buy this shirt! :D
  • George_of_the_Jungle
    George_of_the_Jungle Posts: 3,316 Member
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    SwannySez wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    A piece of cloth with a wavelength of approximately 620-740 nm on the electromagnetic spectrum

    It took me entirely too long to figure this out

    I'm always thinking one step ahead
    Like a carpenter
    That makes stairs

    That's so close to a haiku.

    The *kitten* is a haiku?

    Japanese K-Pop.

    You both hurt me right in my heart

    Haiku is poetry for people who like math and syllables at the same time

    Is that where algebra came from?
  • ArmyVeteranM1A1C
    ArmyVeteranM1A1C Posts: 1,045 Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    mmultanen wrote: »
    Between this t-shirt and the whiteboard I'm confident I won't be raising red flags for anyone.

    Basically the only flags being raised will be white ones, from them, as they totally surrender to you with your amazing transparency

    Wait, nobody said these shirts were transparent and i already paid for 7 🤨

    You must have accidentally clicked on the "Stare If You Want Me" version
  • Reckoner68
    Reckoner68 Posts: 2,139 Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    mmultanen wrote: »
    Between this t-shirt and the whiteboard I'm confident I won't be raising red flags for anyone.

    Basically the only flags being raised will be white ones, from them, as they totally surrender to you with your amazing transparency

    Wait, nobody said these shirts were transparent and i already paid for 7 🤨

    One for each day, you're gonna have a LOT of flags
  • Reckoner68
    Reckoner68 Posts: 2,139 Member
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    SwannySez wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    A piece of cloth with a wavelength of approximately 620-740 nm on the electromagnetic spectrum

    It took me entirely too long to figure this out

    I'm always thinking one step ahead
    Like a carpenter
    That makes stairs

    That's so close to a haiku.

    The *kitten* is a haiku?

    Japanese K-Pop.

    You both hurt me right in my heart

    Haiku is poetry for people who like math and syllables at the same time

    Is that where algebra came from?

    Alegbra is the...yes, actually. I think you're right.
  • George_of_the_Jungle
    George_of_the_Jungle Posts: 3,316 Member
    nooshi713 wrote: »
    dodea48 wrote: »
    nooshi713 wrote: »
    Accuses me of cheating - it means they are cheating

    Secretive about their phone

    Goes more than 24 hours without contact

    Has been broken up less than 6 months

    When they claim they don’t do social media or when they have a bunch of half naked women as their friends on there

    Can’t keep a job

    Always plays the victim and has a long list of sob stories about what women have done to them

    Goes more than 24 hours without contact -- reminder to self, set phone to call her at 3 am everyday

    This is 100% real. If he can go that long without talking to me, then he doesn’t really care.

    So not true
  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    nooshi713 wrote: »
    dodea48 wrote: »
    nooshi713 wrote: »
    Accuses me of cheating - it means they are cheating

    Secretive about their phone

    Goes more than 24 hours without contact

    Has been broken up less than 6 months

    When they claim they don’t do social media or when they have a bunch of half naked women as their friends on there

    Can’t keep a job

    Always plays the victim and has a long list of sob stories about what women have done to them

    Goes more than 24 hours without contact -- reminder to self, set phone to call her at 3 am everyday

    This is 100% real. If he can go that long without talking to me, then he doesn’t really care.

    So not true

    the queen is correct
  • GymGoddessGoals
    GymGoddessGoals Posts: 2,146 Member
    dodea48 wrote: »

    when are you supposed to tell a new gf/bf your phone password?

    Right before you change it 😂

    Ok this made me choke a little.
  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    edited September 2019
    nooshi713 wrote: »
    dodea48 wrote: »
    nooshi713 wrote: »
    Accuses me of cheating - it means they are cheating

    Secretive about their phone

    Goes more than 24 hours without contact

    Has been broken up less than 6 months

    When they claim they don’t do social media or when they have a bunch of half naked women as their friends on there

    Can’t keep a job

    Always plays the victim and has a long list of sob stories about what women have done to them

    Goes more than 24 hours without contact -- reminder to self, set phone to call her at 3 am everyday

    This is 100% real. If he can go that long without talking to me, then he doesn’t really care.

    So not true

    the queen is correct

    For instance, I used to work out of town semi regularly. They were always pretty big jobs and let's say I'd be given a week to complete it. I'd rather arrive onsite and work around the clock to have the job finished early so I could get back home with a whole extra day or two to spend than slow everything down with lots of phone calls and personal time.

    I’m assuming your partner would know about that ahead of time. It’s different IMO. Idk how queen feels about it though
  • tinak33
    tinak33 Posts: 9,883 Member
    nooshi713 wrote: »
    dodea48 wrote: »
    nooshi713 wrote: »
    Accuses me of cheating - it means they are cheating

    Secretive about their phone

    Goes more than 24 hours without contact

    Has been broken up less than 6 months

    When they claim they don’t do social media or when they have a bunch of half naked women as their friends on there

    Can’t keep a job

    Always plays the victim and has a long list of sob stories about what women have done to them

    Goes more than 24 hours without contact -- reminder to self, set phone to call her at 3 am everyday

    This is 100% real. If he can go that long without talking to me, then he doesn’t really care.

    So not true

    the queen is correct

    For instance, I used to work out of town semi regularly. They were always pretty big jobs and let's say I'd be given a week to complete it. I'd rather arrive onsite and work around the clock to have the job finished early so I could get back home with a whole extra day or two to spend than slow everything down with lots of phone calls and personal time.

    Makes sense. But if I dated someone who did that, he would need to text me at LEAST 4 times a day so I know he is alive and still interested..... 🤷‍♀️
    I don't need extensive phone calls though. It can wait till the work is done.