WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR NOVEMBER 2019

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  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,711 Member
    Hi Gals,

    Barbie – I think our moms are sisters!

    Communication with parents – while in college every week I wrote one letter, made 2 carbon copies (remember carbon paper?) and then rotated the original went to Mom & Dad one week, to Dad’s parents the next week, to Mom’s parents the 3rd week, and back around. (my dad died while I was in college – so for most of my sophomore year I drove 4 hours home ever other weekend) Often the copy to the parents got an extra note. For a while after college I lived in the same area as my mom and called/saw her regularly. Now the grands have all passed, and I speak to my mom every 3-4 days and see her every 4-6 weeks.

    Janet- ((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))



    Kim from N. California
  • drkatiebug
    drkatiebug Posts: 1,982 Member
    Janetr, so sorry about your sister. 74 is still quite young.

    Barbie, you are one of the kindest, wisest, most disciplined persons I know. I’m sorry your mother couldn’t see that.

    ((((((Rebecca))))). My son has periods of ignoring us followed by times when he is quite sweet and attentive. I’ve learned to let go, but it is hard.



  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,981 Member
    Janet - sorry for your loss.
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,078 Member
    :)
  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,671 Member
    janetr7476 wrote: »
    You may recall me telling you about my older sister (74) that lived in Seattle and broke her ankle last May and was in rehab and got sepsis and blood clots etc she passed earlier this evening. My heart is hurting but I know she's no longer in pain and is with the Lord.

    Janetr OKC

    I'm so sorry, Janet.

    Flea
    Willamette Valley, Oregon
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,699 Member
    janetr7476 wrote: »
    You may recall me telling you about my older sister (74) that lived in Seattle and broke her ankle last May and was in rehab and got sepsis and blood clots etc she passed earlier this evening. My heart is hurting but I know she's no longer in pain and is with the Lord.

    Janetr OKC

    {{{Hug}}}
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,799 Member
    Welcome Julie and Stacey!
    Whereabouts are you in Scotland? I am down south in Brighton and Hove. We moved here a year ago and we are loving it. I have a good friend who has lived near Glasgow for 50 years. I visit her most years.

    So sorry Janetr for your sister's passing. I know she hasn't been well for some years, but 74 is young. <3

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • julieclarksfitnesspal
    julieclarksfitnesspal Posts: 26 Member
    Hi Stacey - I am new too but seem like a lovely group.

    Janet I am so so sorry about your sister. What a sad loss.

    CityJaneLondon, I am a Glaswegian born and bred. My son-in-law to be is from Bexhill - I think that may be relatively local to you.

    Have a great day everyone I am feeling strong.
  • wizzywig
    wizzywig Posts: 1,246 Member
    Hi everyone my weight is a bit up and down, I really need to plan meals especially for the rest of this week with no kitchen - I have been snacking too much.

    Karen many congratulations on the birth of Lilliana Belle, what a pretty name.

    Heather the cupcakes looked delicious what fun for the grandkids.

    Kelly Joaquin and Miguel are so cute, ahh brotherly love :)

    Janet so sorry for your loss <3

    Welcome to Julie and Stacey, as you can see we are a busy chatty group. We talk about everything and anything, but keep away from anything controversial.

    Have a great day ladies.
    Love to all

    Viv UK
  • LisaInAR
    LisaInAR Posts: 2,020 Member
    edited November 2019
    Morning, afternoon and evening, all,

    JanetR - I'm so sorry about the loss of your sister. As others have said, from here, 74 seems much too soon to go, but I'm glad her pain and suffering is done.

    Julie, Stacey, welcome!

    Machka - hope the meds help, that looks awfully angry.

    Up far too early this morning, but it does seem to be a pattern - I may well go back to bed after Corey heads for work. He'll be up in an hour and gone by 5:15. Sounding better by the minute.

    Still haven't gotten my eating under control, but I feel I get closer every day. *sigh* Every day is a new day.

    Love y'all,
    Lisa in AR
  • SuziQ113
    SuziQ113 Posts: 1,520 Member
    janetr7476 wrote: »
    You may recall me telling you about my older sister (74) that lived in Seattle and broke her ankle last May and was in rehab and got sepsis and blood clots etc she passed earlier this evening. My heart is hurting but I know she's no longer in pain and is with the Lord.

    Janetr OKC

    I am so sorry for your loss Janet.
  • ginnytez
    ginnytez Posts: 1,412 Member
    Sorry for the passing of your sister Janetr.

    Communicating with family-I used to call my mom about once a month when I lived in Maine and she was in Ohio. Checked in with siblings with much less regularity, but that was before cell phones. My siblings and I have irregular communication (two of them live in other states). I think part of that may be i am youngest and due to mom being widowed when I was 6 months old, I lived with my grandmother until she died when I was 9 (mom visited frequently) so mom could work and take care of us, so our bond was a bit different. My sons will text with some regularity but not always as often as I would like. I try not to pressure them because they are busy with their lives but when something big comes up I know they contact me or I contact them.

    Turned 65 this am. When I started back on MFP in March I thought it would be nice to be at 140 by my birthday. Happy to say I was around 138 so I met my goal and am hanging out in my maintenance range (doctor and I decided 135-140 would be good). Strange feeling in better shape now than 30 years ago! Goes to prove it is never too late.

    Off to do pt stretches before work. Go to physical therapy this afternoon so for sure will get two sessions in today. I think I am slowly seeing some progress after the first week being a little rocky.

    Enjoy the day all,

    Ginny in Ohio
  • klanders30
    klanders30 Posts: 2,569 Member
    janetr ((( <3 ))) so sorry for the loss of your sister.

    Kelly had to go back and find that pic of Joaquin and Mighty MiG, gorgeous boys both.

    Will have an easier morning and a busy afternoon, I’ll take it, most days are pretty packed so I’m happy for the time to clear out some things and get better organized.

    NYKAREN
  • LisaInAR
    LisaInAR Posts: 2,020 Member
    Ginny - happy 65th!

    Lisa in AR
  • okiewoman510
    okiewoman510 Posts: 1,321 Member
    Janet - Hugs and prayers for you and your family.

    Okie in the TX Hill Country
  • okiewoman510
    okiewoman510 Posts: 1,321 Member
    Happy Birthday Ginny!

    Okie
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,799 Member
    edited November 2019
    KJ - bet you can't wait to see those gorgeous boys again. :D

    Michele - The recipe was my favourite chocolate fudge cake and I divided it in two and gave them each a work station. The hardest bit was getting the mixture into the cake papers! :o
    We then made butter icing, while Edie covered the kitchen in clouds of icing sugar, and divided it into six and they each had a chocolate one, a neutral one and a colour of their choice. They both chose green. I had a lot of decorations and different sprinkles already, but I had bought the penguins and some 'gaming' toppers. It was all a great success, but my blood pressure was tested! :o You realise how techniques you take for granted, like getting the icing on the cake, is a learned technique, and not all that easy. Plus monitoring the sprinkles, glitter etc. :o:# They were very pleased with their efforts though. Edie said they were the best ones she had ever made. :D
    DH and I did not eat one! We carefully transported them on the bus to their house.

    Not surprisingly, I am knackered this morning. I'm always surprised by how much it takes out of me. I really admire KJ and Karen and others who take on child care. I know I am a bit older than them, but I never found it easy. DH had a long session of PickASticks in the afternoon as well. I bowed out of that!

    I felt a bit sorry for the au pair when we left at 4.30. New house, new kids, new food, new oven. I told her to put the tv on if they played up. :*:| I did put the oven on and showed her the food in the freezer and got the baking trays ready.

    Tonight is dancing and we will eat nearby at our favourite Persian restaurant. Healthy kebab and salad.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • SuziQ113
    SuziQ113 Posts: 1,520 Member
    ginnytez wrote: »
    Turned 65 this am. When I started back on MFP in March I thought it would be nice to be at 140 by my birthday. Happy to say I was around 138 so I met my goal and am hanging out in my maintenance range (doctor and I decided 135-140 would be good). Strange feeling in better shape now than 30 years ago! Goes to prove it is never too late.

    Off to do pt stretches before work. Go to physical therapy this afternoon so for sure will get two sessions in today. I think I am slowly seeing some progress after the first week being a little rocky.

    Enjoy the day all,

    Ginny in Ohio

    Happiest of birthdays to you Ginny! And, yes, I agree, it's never too late.
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,296 Member
    edited November 2019
    Janetr my heart goes out to you!

    Barbie I had a mother who believed if she complimented me it would give me a big head. Compliments from others used to be hard to know what to say because of this. I have learned to to appreciate them, smile, and say thank you. I also know it is important to also give them to others, too.

    A genuine compliment does not give a person a big head it shows love and support to that person. I learned thinking good thoughts about myself does not give my a big head rather it gives me confidence to face the difficulties life throws at me.

    Compliments acknowledge the strength in you and others.

    :heart: Margaret
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,367 Member
    Janetr- I’m so sorry for your loss, my heart is with you
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,709 Member
    edited November 2019
    Good morning ladies! B)

    Heather     - what fun with the grands! Where did you say the au pair was from?

    Ginny - Happy Birthday to you as well! <3

    Janetr     - ((((hugs)))) Wow, 74. So sad that she never recovered from that broken ankle and the complications. Did you have a chance to visit her when she was in rehab?

    Barbara AHMOD - smart thinking leaving the cookies behind. Got an email my BB&B DVD is on the way.

    Flea - I think we are married to the same man when it comes to communicating with family. And I too finally gave up sending cards/gifts to his family for birthdays and Christmas. His mother would call, I'd answer the phone, he'd leave the house. She wanted to know why he didn't want to talk to her, and I disliked being in the middle. I'd change the subject and steer it around to cheery things. He had a rough childhood and was kicked out at 16 which probably had something to do with it. :(

    Machka     - that spider bite looks nasty. Is there a certain type of spider that does that or are you just super sensitive? Glad you went to the doctor!

    Barbie     - you are generous, kind, wise. If I'd have been your mom I would be very, very proud of you.

    Kelly     - so excited for things moving along with the zoning board!! When do you see Miguel and Joaquin next?

    Karen in VA - are the grands back from France for good (or at least the forseeable future?) I was looking forward to your trip to France ;)

    NYKaren     - love the idea of a worry journal.

    Reminds me of a book I read and loved, "Back in Control" by David Hanscom about curing back pain w/o surgery, and one of the exercises is to do expressive writing twice a day. Take a sheet of paper, write about anything for 15 - 30 minutes, then destroy the sheet of paper. I am going to try that instead of immediately heading for treats after supper, and see if I still want them. I'm thinking if it works for physical pain, perhaps it works for emotional pain and worry.

    Missing Sharon and Meg - hope you gals are doing well <3

    OK ladies, better get on the move. Little dog going to the vet today to see what can be done for her crazy scratching. There has to be one flea left in the house with monster jaws that clamps down on her. Have her on Benadryl. Perhaps its time for the oral flea meds, tho hate giving them to her if her misery isn't caused by fleas and is an allergy. We've pared down treats now to only carrots and their kibble, hoping that helps.

    Welcome new gals!!

    Make it a fabulous day! <3

    Lanette
    SW WA State


  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,155 Member
    Janet - so sorry to hear about your sister so young
    My dear friend Zina that I work with lost her DFIL he was a well known dentist and had parkinsons. It was a blessing...
    I went to get bloodwork done and I have to do a 24 urine catch..so will have to stay close to home today.. but am meeting my girlfriend for tea at 1 in the next town over.
    Waiting on my bed coming today ..that will be interesting
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,799 Member
    edited November 2019
    Lanette - She is from Spain. But actually she is from Catalonia and speaks Catalan as her native tongue. (A lot of Catalonians want to separate from Spain and the independence movement is very active. Political turmoil) She speaks Spanish as well and my DDIL hopes she will be able to speak Spanish with the kids sometimes. They go to a bilingual school and speak quite a bit of Spanish with very authentic accents.
    She will be going on a course while she is here and my DDIL is going with her tomorrow to investigate. She is a university graduate. Her English is good. She is contracted for 5 hours a day plus two evenings babysitting. It's mainly for the school delivery and pick up. Bea's nursery and the kids' school are in different directions and when DDIL is in London (train at 6 am) my son finds it hard managing all that and a very exacting full time job. At the moment they have occasional days of after school club, child minder etc, which is tiring for them and complicated. My DDIL does the delivery and pick up on the days when she is here and always spends Friday with Bea.
    Just the thought of their hectic lives makes me exhausted. I hope Monica will make things easier all round. She won't have to do housework, just child minding.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,699 Member
    lhscapil wrote: »
    Machka[/b] - that spider bite looks nasty. Is there a certain type of spider that does that or are you just super sensitive? Glad you went to the doctor!

    Lanette
    SW WA State

    I don't know ... I didn't see it. But if I had to guess, I'd say maybe a white tail. Their bite results in something like this.


    M in Oz
  • spikeyhair
    spikeyhair Posts: 2,078 Member
    JANET so sorry for your loss

    Kate UK <3
  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
    Janetr- (((Hugs))) I’m sorry for your loss <3
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