Guys/Girls: What is your real opinion on..
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twitchandshout wrote: »KosmosKitten wrote: »twitchandshout wrote: »People-
Do you send your significant other funny memes, tiktoks, interesting articles, etc.?
And if so, do they ever respond to you or do you have to ask three days later “did you ever get that thing I sent?”
Wait.. there are couples that don't just do this to one another daily? We're constantly finding stupid *kitten* to send to one another. We sometimes send *kitten* to one another when we're sitting in the same room on two separate computers. We have good laughs over most of it.
You have something special 😊
I am slowly coming to understand this.
I'd be okay if he'd talk politics less, but.. it is, in fact, part of his job so I mostly just tune out those bits these days.1 -
Ladies: Handsomeness or humor?
What sparks the interest vs drops the underthings?
Humor, usually. There's always going to be some level of physical attractiveness I would assume, BUT what I consider handsome might be different than what someone else does... and that's okay!
But usually, the humor makes for a better, longer lasting relationships (as long as it's humor not at the expense of other people, anyway).
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Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »PDA? Yay or Nay?
I'll hold your hand all day long. Please don't touch the things in public, that's in poor taste.
Well then call me poor in taste, but rich with passion, Buttercup! 😉
Get a room! 😂😘
I'm way ahead of you 😉😂...1 -
Deadman_Diggingup wrote: »
You know I’ve seen your pictures, right? Don’t try to fool me1 -
twitchandshout wrote: »Deadman_Diggingup wrote: »
You know I’ve seen your pictures, right? Don’t try to fool me
Pictures of the bank account, no doubt.0 -
In the past I was strictly no PDA beyond the very chaste, old school, tuck my hand in the crook of his elbow. Over the last few years my boundaries have been pushed to the point that I'm more than comfortable with holding hands, hugs for someone other than immediate family and the closest of friends, and even a peck or two in a very populated place.
Twinsies0 -
will_it_go_round_in_circles wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »PDA? Yay or Nay?
I'll hold your hand all day long. Please don't touch the things in public, that's in poor taste.
Nothing over the top, but I'm not afraid of a good kiss in public. Always been a fan of a mild butt tap too, never really paid attention to where I was.
I wouldn't mind this kind of PDA at all. However, again a serious make out session isn't for the world to see. I mean, who knows where that could lead.0 -
Minimal PDA. Butt taps are fun.0
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PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Minimal PDA. Butt taps are fun.
If I can't quick squeeze a butt why are we even together!?2 -
twitchandshout wrote: »People-
Do you send your significant other funny memes, tiktoks, interesting articles, etc.?
And if so, do they ever respond to you or do you have to ask three days later “did you ever get that thing I sent?”
Once in a while but not often. It's on WhatsApp so I know when he's seen the message anyway. I sent him an article to read today because he was complaining about being bored, I'll never know if he read it or not. A lot of the time he just responds with "hmmm" so I have no clue.
He doesn't send selfies but he does send cute puppy/corgi gifs which I probably appreciate more.2 -
Kashmir_314_ wrote: »eatpolerepeat wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »PDA? Yay or Nay?
I'll hold your hand all day long. Please don't touch the things in public, that's in poor taste.
It's a yay, apart from that touching bits bit. Or while I'm eating, please don't be doing that stuff right in front of me, go in a corner or something, or get a room
So no footsies under the table? 😏
Is there a tablecloth?1 -
PDA? Is that even allowed these days, without glares and tsktsks from everybody else? I'm talking because of Covid, no other reason.2
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We’re really losing touch with all the worthwhile traditions that hold us together2 -
twitchandshout wrote: »
We’re really losing touch with all the worthwhile traditions that hold us together
I know. It gives whole new meaning for me to say “I’m gonna PDA strangers or die trying”......it’s a legitimate thread. But some traditions are worth keeping alive.2 -
No physical PDA unless it's neither impolite nor impractical to leave said public for a more private venue.
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Guys/girls:
Whats your opinion on your SO setting time aside for workouts...even if that means they can't hang out with you. Missed dinners, things like t1 -
PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls:
Whats your opinion on your SO setting time aside for workouts...even if that means they can't hang out with you. Missed dinners, things like t
That’s basic maintenance. It’s important. I’d prefer they try to schedule it at a more convenient time if possible, but we can all learn to be flexible.3 -
PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls:
Whats your opinion on your SO setting time aside for workouts...even if that means they can't hang out with you. Missed dinners, things like t
My opinion, nothing wrong with setting time aside for workouts. But if it is becomes detrimental to quality time with loved ones it usually means that someone is lacking in either scheduling ability, or scheduling flexibility. Once in a while there may be no other options, but honestly, there are a lot of hours in a day, most people if they are actually serious about it can find the balance.5 -
twitchandshout wrote: »That’s basic maintenance. It’s important. I’d prefer they try to schedule it at a more convenient time if possible, but we can all learn to be flexible.My opinion, nothing wrong with setting time aside for workouts. But if it is becomes detrimental to quality time with loved ones it usually means that someone is lacking in either scheduling ability, or scheduling flexibility. Once in a while there may be no other options, but honestly, there are a lot of hours in a day, most people if they are actually serious about it can find the balance.
☝🏿 What they said.
Personally, I tend to keep my workouts to an hour anyway so there are 23 more of them thangs to play with.1 -
PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Minimal PDA. Butt taps are fun.
If I can't quick squeeze a butt why are we even together!?
And the more uptight the crowd is the more I enjoy this one.2 -
twitchandshout wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls:
Whats your opinion on your SO setting time aside for workouts...even if that means they can't hang out with you. Missed dinners, things like t
That’s basic maintenance. It’s important. I’d prefer they try to schedule it at a more convenient time if possible, but we can all learn to be flexible.
And even better if you can both work out together. Not always possible but it’s fun and another interest you can share.4 -
PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls:
Whats your opinion on your SO setting time aside for workouts...even if that means they can't hang out with you. Missed dinners, things like t
That’s hard for me if it would mean they miss things. I have to get up at 3AM everyday to get the workout in I enjoy doing so...if someone like me can make arrangements that don’t interfere, anybody can. This is the part where priorities really show imo. But I would certainly do what I could do to help make it happen for them.2 -
PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls:
Whats your opinion on your SO setting time aside for workouts...even if that means they can't hang out with you. Missed dinners, things like t
In my experience, it isn’t always easy but you try to make it work as best as possible. Sometimes that means I can’t spend time in my basement gym for a week at a time, sometimes time is made for me.
For the 2 weeks of the month that my wife and I are on the same schedule, I change immediately upon coming home from work and head straight to the basement, where I do what I can within an hour.
For the 2 weeks of the month that we are on opposing shifts, after all the dishes are done, lunches made, cleaning up, and little one put to bed, I ask my stepsons to listen for their sister (she has a tendency to wake up from bad dreams) so I can go work out. If the boys are at their dad’s, I don’t workout at all as I am 2 floors away from her.
Sometimes that means it’s 1 day a week. Sometimes it’s 4. I try to tell myself that something is better than nothing, although I know that won’t get me to where I want to be. It’s a lot of starting over again.
The point of this long post is this: family first. If my wife needs me, or wants my attention, or merely needs alone time because she had a bad day, I skip the workout. In MY opinion (don’t come at me), my wants/needs (like working out) is secondary to my family’s wants/needs. I make the sacrifices.6 -
Deadman_Diggingup wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls:
Whats your opinion on your SO setting time aside for workouts...even if that means they can't hang out with you. Missed dinners, things like t
In my experience, it isn’t always easy but you try to make it work as best as possible. Sometimes that means I can’t spend time in my basement gym for a week at a time, sometimes time is made for me.
For the 2 weeks of the month that my wife and I are on the same schedule, I change immediately upon coming home from work and head straight to the basement, where I do what I can within an hour.
For the 2 weeks of the month that we are on opposing shifts, after all the dishes are done, lunches made, cleaning up, and little one put to bed, I ask my stepsons to listen for their sister (she has a tendency to wake up from bad dreams) so I can go work out. If the boys are at their dad’s, I don’t workout at all as I am 2 floors away from her.
Sometimes that means it’s 1 day a week. Sometimes it’s 4. I try to tell myself that something is better than nothing, although I know that won’t get me to where I want to be. It’s a lot of starting over again.
The point of this long post is this: family first. If my wife needs me, or wants my attention, or merely needs alone time because she had a bad day, I skip the workout. In MY opinion (don’t come at me), my wants/needs (like working out) is secondary to my family’s wants/needs. I make the sacrifices.
All of this sounds like a well adjusted way of pursuing things. I've done much the same over many years, and I respect your value set given the choices you must make. Good job.
The something is better than nothing part matters a ton. I say it all of the time, progress is built on the half assed workout. The days you could barely fit it in, or were low motivation but did it anyway, those are the days that matter most, because they keep you from going backwards, from starting over.2 -
Deadman_Diggingup wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls:
Whats your opinion on your SO setting time aside for workouts...even if that means they can't hang out with you. Missed dinners, things like t
In my experience, it isn’t always easy but you try to make it work as best as possible. Sometimes that means I can’t spend time in my basement gym for a week at a time, sometimes time is made for me.
For the 2 weeks of the month that my wife and I are on the same schedule, I change immediately upon coming home from work and head straight to the basement, where I do what I can within an hour.
For the 2 weeks of the month that we are on opposing shifts, after all the dishes are done, lunches made, cleaning up, and little one put to bed, I ask my stepsons to listen for their sister (she has a tendency to wake up from bad dreams) so I can go work out. If the boys are at their dad’s, I don’t workout at all as I am 2 floors away from her.
Sometimes that means it’s 1 day a week. Sometimes it’s 4. I try to tell myself that something is better than nothing, although I know that won’t get me to where I want to be. It’s a lot of starting over again.
The point of this long post is this: family first. If my wife needs me, or wants my attention, or merely needs alone time because she had a bad day, I skip the workout. In MY opinion (don’t come at me), my wants/needs (like working out) is secondary to my family’s wants/needs. I make the sacrifices.
All of this sounds like a well adjusted way of pursuing things. I've done much the same over many years, and I respect your value set given the choices you must make. Good job.
The something is better than nothing part matters a ton. I say it all of the time, progress is built on the half assed workout. The days you could barely fit it in, or were low motivation but did it anyway, those are the days that matter most, because they keep you from going backwards, from starting over.
Thanks buddy0 -
PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls:
Whats your opinion on your SO setting time aside for workouts...even if that means they can't hang out with you. Missed dinners, things like t
For me, I had to learn that self care, making my health and wellness a priority, isn't being selfish. A healthier (physically and mentally) version of me makes a much better partner for my wife in so many respects.
Of course, sometimes that self care means working out instead of spending time with her. Sometimes it means forgoing my workout to spend more time with her because it's what I need that day or what she needs that day.
For me the key was understanding that this was a choice and that I needed to make the best choice for me/us rather than feeling like I couldn't work out because I needed to spend time with her. It's also important to me that we can communicate what we need even if it means the other person may not get to do what they want and that this ask isn't made without consideration of what the other person may be sacrificing. Being there for my wife is an aspect of my self care as well.0 -
PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls:
Whats your opinion on your SO setting time aside for workouts...even if that means they can't hang out with you. Missed dinners, things like t
Pre-Covid we had completely different schedules because he had a gym at work. He prefers afternoons, I prefer mornings. However, now that he works from home, we workout together in the mornings during the week and afternoons on the weekends.
Some times schedules don't match, stuff comes up, things happen. Compromise is key.
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PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Guys/girls:
Whats your opinion on your SO setting time aside for workouts...even if that means they can't hang out with you. Missed dinners, things like t
In and of itself, it's fine. I want her to do things she enjoys and/or needs for her own sanity... However, if that's just another thing that takes priority regularly/consistently over the relationship, then at some point there could be issues. I don't need to be #1 all the time, but if you put me at the bottom of the totem pole for long enough, the relationship will suffer.1
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