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  • MaltedTea
    MaltedTea Posts: 6,286 Member
    Reason #2,337 for why I'm convinced the Interwoobs "listens" to all conversations. My Google Podcast stream which runs in the background while I'm working just updated with NPR Life Kit's newest episode. You can find it on their website too:

    https://www.npr.org/2021/01/25/960423678/how-to-set-boundaries-with-family-and-stick-to-them

    @looneycatblue it's ~20 min long and covers (I kid you not) COVID conversations, intergenerational disagreements, adult children dealing with trauma, and family estrangement 😱 Wut? How?!

    Anywhoo...

    Until I got to the last part with the trauma, I was going to suggest the three of you listen together. It may still be possible. Or maybe listen separately, try the exercise and come back for a "family circle chat" type of deal afterward?

    I dunno. Sawbones' episode is up next...
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    MaltedTea wrote: »
    Reason #2,337 for why I'm convinced the Interwoobs "listens" to all conversations. My Google Podcast stream which runs in the background while I'm working just updated with NPR Life Kit's newest episode. You can find it on their website too:

    https://www.npr.org/2021/01/25/960423678/how-to-set-boundaries-with-family-and-stick-to-them

    @looneycatblue it's ~20 min long and covers (I kid you not) COVID conversations, intergenerational disagreements, adult children dealing with trauma, and family estrangement 😱 Wut? How?!

    Anywhoo...

    Until I got to the last part with the trauma, I was going to suggest the three of you listen together. It may still be possible. Or maybe listen separately, try the exercise and come back for a "family circle chat" type of deal afterward?

    I dunno. Sawbones' episode is up next...

    Ah, still listening to Sawbones, eh? :smile:
  • MaltedTea
    MaltedTea Posts: 6,286 Member
    *snip*
    Ah, still listening to Sawbones, eh? :smile:

    They're fun. Ever grateful for the recommendation 👌🏿
  • Deadman_Diggingup
    Deadman_Diggingup Posts: 3,082 Member
    It's really funny how life works. For many years, I've had a career that I loved but overworked myself, I've even tried other jobs to see if it was better for me mentally because I've suffered from depression and anxiety most of my life and I was exhausted mentally.

    Now I think of myself before cancer and I miss her but in a way I really don't. I wish I could tell her to take better care of herself. I wish I could have given that girl more love, grace and appreciation instead of working myself crazy, not eating right and not doing things that really made me happy because I always put others first.

    It's easy to get caught up in working crazy hours, jobs that don't make us happy because we always want more, a bigger house,  more stuff... but at the end of the day, none of it matters if you don't have your health.

    It may be a little too late for me but I refuse to be a statistic and I will not be scared to live anymore, I refuse to do things that don't make me feel good or that doesn't make me a better person anymore.

    Health is the real wealth and only the ill truely understands this. For anyone who is reading this, please be kind to yourself 💙 you deserve a long healthy life.

    I’m so very proud of you ☺️
  • twitchandshout
    twitchandshout Posts: 1,591 Member
    It's really funny how life works. For many years, I've had a career that I loved but overworked myself, I've even tried other jobs to see if it was better for me mentally because I've suffered from depression and anxiety most of my life and I was exhausted mentally.

    Now I think of myself before cancer and I miss her but in a way I really don't. I wish I could tell her to take better care of herself. I wish I could have given that girl more love, grace and appreciation instead of working myself crazy, not eating right and not doing things that really made me happy because I always put others first.

    It's easy to get caught up in working crazy hours, jobs that don't make us happy because we always want more, a bigger house,  more stuff... but at the end of the day, none of it matters if you don't have your health.

    It may be a little too late for me but I refuse to be a statistic and I will not be scared to live anymore, I refuse to do things that don't make me feel good or that doesn't make me a better person anymore.

    Health is the real wealth and only the ill truely understands this. For anyone who is reading this, please be kind to yourself 💙 you deserve a long healthy life.

    You are a gift. Thank you. ♥️
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    @Miss_Chiev0us_ <3

    Simply {{HUGS}}
  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    ReenieHJ wrote: »
    Argh
    I hate when medical professionals give a time frame. :( Why can't they leave loved ones without those feelings?
    My sister was told by Hospice nurses on Monday to call the funeral home because dh has only got 4-5 days. Nurses came yesterday and reiterated what they told her Monday. Back in Oct. Hospice felt he only had 2 weeks.
    Obviously her dh has his own agenda. Don't tell people things like that. :( It doesn't help and will happen when it happens. Don't make people feel even worse during the last days. :(

    I'm so sorry your sister is going through this. :'(

    I really don't think the funeral home wants to be notified until he's actually gone, particularly since these hospice nurses seem a bit off in their predictions.
  • jjpptt2
    jjpptt2 Posts: 5,650 Member
    A serious question for hopefully some serious responses...

    Why do you think some people find "their thing" - the thing they love or the thing they were "meant to do", while others simply go through the motions of day-to-day life?

    Is it just chance?
    Is it drive and desire for more/better?
    Is it... ?
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    A serious question for hopefully some serious responses...

    Why do you think some people find "their thing" - the thing they love or the thing they were "meant to do", while others simply go through the motions of day-to-day life?

    Is it just chance?
    Is it drive and desire for more/better?
    Is it... ?

    I have wondered this too
  • twitchandshout
    twitchandshout Posts: 1,591 Member
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    A serious question for hopefully some serious responses...

    Why do you think some people find "their thing" - the thing they love or the thing they were "meant to do", while others simply go through the motions of day-to-day life?

    Is it just chance?
    Is it drive and desire for more/better?
    Is it... ?

    a high degree of proficiency in many areas together with wide-ranging interests. It makes it hard to choose and hard to specialize.
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    A serious question for hopefully some serious responses...

    Why do you think some people find "their thing" - the thing they love or the thing they were "meant to do", while others simply go through the motions of day-to-day life?

    Is it just chance?
    Is it drive and desire for more/better?
    Is it... ?

    I have always been a go-through-the-motions person. I still am when it comes to earning a living.

    I am 40 and I have very recently (very very recently) discovered I have a passion for causes. Like all causes are worth fighting for. I ran for breast cancer awareness, I ran for gender based violence awareness and did 16 Days of Activism in various platforms. Now I have signed up to bake cupcakes to raise funds for children with cancer. None of this brings in any form of money for me, but it makes my heart sing. I would never have got to this point if it hadn't been for my past experiences.

    I don't know if that answers anything though

    I LOVE this ❤️❤️
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    dsc84 wrote: »
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    A serious question for hopefully some serious responses...

    Why do you think some people find "their thing" - the thing they love or the thing they were "meant to do", while others simply go through the motions of day-to-day life?

    Is it just chance?
    Is it drive and desire for more/better?
    Is it... ?

    I have wondered this too

    I'm a go-through-the-motions person, and I'm jealous of people who have found their thing. I think for me it's having something to identify with/as... I don't have that so I feel kind of pointless. If that's not too abstract...

    I'm a lot like you at times, but then I stop and think about it and what I'm jealous of. Most of the time it is because someone has found their thing and it's defined as their job. When I think of that, I realize I don't necessarily need what I do to be what defines me. I think of what is more important to me like my family and friends, and things I enjoy like going to the gym, music, food, movies, etc. and in those moments I've realized that I've actually have found my thing, it's just not that it isn't my job or what some would define as a their thing.

    It's healthy and normal to want what others have, but it's also just as important to me to be thankful for what I have! Sometime I think if I could make a career out of the things I like to do and Love, and how awesome that would be. And in some cases it really would, but in other cases the enjoyment just may come out of it.

    I have a passion for food, and good food. I worked in a kitchen for a long time, and at first it was great. However, about halfway through I was not very passionate about it, and it was more of go through the motions and burnout. Once I got out of working in the food industry, that passion reignited because it was no longer a chore but an enjoyment.

    Just my thoughts.

    So simple but so insightful. Thanks
  • jjpptt2
    jjpptt2 Posts: 5,650 Member
    Revolu7 wrote: »
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    A serious question for hopefully some serious responses...

    Why do you think some people find "their thing" - the thing they love or the thing they were "meant to do", while others simply go through the motions of day-to-day life?

    Is it just chance?
    Is it drive and desire for more/better?
    Is it... ?

    I can speak only for myself, and yes desire and the want for something more has something to do with it. Being able to take risks is huge too. However, there is some chance involved. Like if i had a family i may be less inclined to go all in and take big risks. I have always said ill bet on the one thing i have the most control over, myself 10/10 times. But im not sure it would be the same if setbacks or temporary failure impacted loved ones negatively. I still think anyone can search for better, but i think each path is going to be different.

    The idea of risk taking and who those risks might impact is an interesting point... thanks.