WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2022
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SophieRosieMom wrote: »Early Saturday morning here!
Lisa - "Camping is just pretending you're homeless." Agree! My idea of camping is in a 35' fully equipped Winnebago with toilet, shower, etc. With some fun girlfriends.
Meg - DH and I raised several litters of beagles. Loved them, very affectionate. But I know what you mean, ours were ruled by their noses. We once nearly lost Trooper and Scout overnight in a forest near North Bend, WA, where they took off after something and there was no calling them back. We were heartbroken. The next morning I called in sick, returned to where we last saw them, near a busy logging road, and there they were, no worse for wear. Little twerps.
Debbie - so glad MIL is willing to use the commode. My DH actually quit smoking the last week of his life, though he had cut down considerably prior to that. That last week, he would say "I'm going out and roll a smoke" then either was too frail to roll one or forgot and would sit on his bench and watch the birds. It's interesting looking back now at how rapidly he was deteriorating, things I didn't realize when I was in the midst of it. That tobacco has mega control over their brains like any drug I guess. There are still pouches of tobacco stuck here and there I need to collect and toss into the garbage. I am pretty sure tobacco contributed somewhat to his death (he didn't have any cancer), but I think the main culprit was the many drugs he was taking for his Rheumatoid Arthritis and their various side effects. And more drugs to handle THOSE side effects. Sigh.
Barbara - I didn't sleep well, dreaming about grass in the driveway and re-graveling it, lol. Our house is about the same distance as yours from the county road. With houses beyond yours, it makes sense your lane is more heavily traveled and subject to wear/ruts. Since there's a new home, I'm guessing the building department assessed the road recently in conjunction with issuing that building permit, so road graveling/maintenance should be fine.
Rita - whenever Elon Musk or whoever gets that teleporter going, make sure to sign up! That way you can come visit us for a change of pace and get away from that heat and your DH if he's having a grumpy day. A balmy 62 predicted here for today so bring a sweater or two.
Like Lisa, when DH was in the Marines I got to live in Arlington VA for a year and we went exploring a lot, spend time on the beach at Chesapeake Bay, hike a bit along the Appalachian Trail, see some historical sites. So I've dipped my toes in both oceans, and have had my fill of flying and traveling.
Visitor - with my broken toe keeping me from walking with my buddy for a while, she has taken to come visit me. A lot. Other than Rosie barking and pestering her, it's pretty peaceful here in my living room. The first couple times were good, but now she's been keen to come every day. Half an hour would be fine, but 1 1/2 to 2 hours at a time makes me really tired and we are starting to rehash prior conversations we've had and it makes me antsy
I know she has had a stressful week with one of her kids suffering mental illness and her upcoming knee replacement surgery, I'm glad I was here for her. She had to shed a few tears, it's safe here with me. She's doing better and the conversation is back to how she is washing all of the blinds in her house, lol. And I'm getting tired of hearing myself comment about how my broken toe and the weather is keeping me from getting stuff done outside.
And, I think she feels like with DH gone I'm lonely and need company. Nothing could be further from the truth. I truly am enjoying peace and quiet and being alone with my thoughts, planning the budget, planning meals and grocery shopping (Sue ) doing a bit of cleaning. When I need company I call someone or email. There were so many things I didn't have control over when DH was here, and now I can start to regain some control over my time and activities.
My INTJ personality is coming on strong and the "I = introvert" part means I don't get energy from being around other people for very long. Small doses are energizing but beyond that, very tiring and stressful.
Carol - so sorry to hear about the A/C on the fritz for your renters. I saw little "room coolers" at Walmart, when I guess they blow cool air on folks and can cool a small room. I'm hoping the renters can make do. I know it can be a worry. Until we had the thermostat replaced, our heat pump seemed to always go on the fritz - turn the heat ON! during hot weather so we got used to open windows and fans on the rare occasions the temps hit the mid-upper 90's here.
Pip - Poor Kirby! And you! What a year for you both. Hope Yogi is on the mend and Kirby feels good enough to run the marathon.
OK kids, that's the quick catch up for now. Make it a wonderful weekend!
Lanette
SW WA State
Kirby is definitely not in shape to run a marathon. Tomorrow’s run is supposed to b a 10k run. They have two options, a 2 mile or a 10k. He can’t run either of them so he decided he is going to walk the two mile one even though he signed up for the 10k..
I’ve noticed that a lot of people think any run is a marathon or that’s what they call it. We do marathons but those are a different bird altogether.
Here is the distance
5k = 3.1 miles
10k = 6.2 miles
1/2 marathon = 13.1 miles
Marathon = 26.2 miles
When we do any of those, they are always running only, no walking. I feel bad for him not being able to do what he signed up for. I offered to run it for him and just use his bib, he wanted to do it himself but he won’t b able to run it.
Those are the same distances we have down here at events:
5k = 3.1 miles
10k = 6.2 miles
1/2 marathon = 13.1 miles / 21.1 km
Marathon = 26.2 miles / 42.2 km
There is usually a 1 km or 2 km option offered for kids.
And the 5 km option is comprised of sprinters and walkers. They send them off at the same time. The sprinters finish in a few minutes and the walkers stroll in an hour later.
The other distances are "running" but runners can walk a bit now and then. That's OK.
I've done a few 10Ks and a half marathon.
M in Oz
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I took this one on my walk yesterday ... the sea mist was coming in ...
Machka in Oz9 -
Machka— I love the sea mist. Your photos are excellent.3
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TerriRichardson112 wrote: »Debbie: and others with elderly relatives. Much sympathy. Having gone through similar experiences, I know the frustration of trying to do your best for them, often in the face of fierce resistance from them. (((Hugs)))
My sympathies too. I also know how our elderly feel. Don't know if I mentioned that, when I was at my sickest, my daughter wanted to come help, and I told her "no" over and over again, I'd be fine, she had a job as a soldier, and three kids to take care of as well. Her husband told her he'd be fine, and to go take care of me, so she went ahead and started driving down without telling me.
On the way, Kelsey sent an FB message to my best friend and fell apart on the phone with my BFF, saying she was afraid I'd lock our gate and not let her in. My best friend called me up and gave me a scorching lecture, telling me that by saying no, I was hurting myself and my daughter and my husband. When I begrudgingly said "Fine, " my BFF said "Good, she'll be there in about an hour."
I did not want to disrupt my daughter's life, and had a really hard time believing it wasn't a disruption. We love our kids so much, and try to protect them, to make their lives easier (Debbie - your MIL may be the exception to that, and I'm sorry). This is just a reminder for all of us that when our grown kids want to help, we need to give them that gift of acceptance of their help instead of saying no. We might damage our own pride by letting them help, but in fighting off that help, we hurt them even more.
Just Sunday morning thoughts.
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR9 -
Good morning all! Happy Sunday! After being so busy last weekend with the historical event, I was kind of hoping to have a day to just rest this weekend. I got up early yesterday and got my grocery shopping done and ran a couple of errands for my childcare week. Came home, put groceries away, then off again to pick up a father's day/birthday gift for DH. My DD and DYS and I went in together and bought a new office chair for DH. I asked my DOS, if he wanted to go in on the gift with us, but he told me he couldn't afford it. (a $25 contribution?) Grrrr. Sometimes it is so glaringly evident that DOS was not raised by me (he is my stepson). He makes a good living, pays very little in rent, has very few expenses, is extremely frugal. I know he must have thousands in the bank, and I am glad that he does. I am glad that he is "planning" for his future. But $25 for a father's day/birthday gift is too much? The past couple of Christmases, he got us his old tv and a 250 piece puzzle. lol I love this kid, but he has a very selfish heart. Anyway, back on topic. Bonus, the office chair came with a free desk. So...back out I went to get the chair, the desk, then I stopped at the Home Depot and picked up four bags of dirt, a few pots of flowers, and five 9 ft poles for a couple of projects that I am going to get done today. I guess I could just rest today, but I really want to get these things done.
Machka- I am in the same boat as you, when it comes to girlfriends. I have had a few girlfriends in elementary through high school. But for the most part, I have always gotten along with boys/men a lot more. I just felt that they aren't quite as demanding of my time and emotional involvement. Except my dh, of course. lol That is a beautiful misty picture. I have the same kind of phone as you, by the way.
Lisa- I didn't care much for camping when my kids were small; but I really enjoyed going last year with my (now adult) DYS. It took us about 15 minutes to get the tent, hammock, and fireside set up then we were able to just relax by the fire, read, have drinks. I am sure I would enjoy camping for longer than a day. To NOT have a house and yard to look after, to have the time off work, every one pitches in on dinner around the fire or cold foods out of the cooler...bliss.
Pip- Sorry to hear about Kirby's fall/injury. Walking the 2 mile is probably for the best. No risk of further injury and he can safely heal and be ready for the next race. Glad you are doing better!
Heather- Your cruise time is getting closer! My travel brain/heart are getting ready with you!
Rori- Great pic! Are these the friends that you went to the concert with? I think you have a pic on facebook and you are wearing a green dress (you look stunning, by the way).
Rita- I feel for you and your desire to travel. I am the same way. If I get in the car to run errands and it is a lovely sunny day; a thought goes through my head..."I could just keep driving...I wonder how far I could get on a tank of gas..." lol I am not running from anything; but I love an adventure. Would your DH be up for little excursions to explore places within say 25-50 mile radius? Pack a picnic. Maybe make a rule that you each have $5 to spend on whatever you want. My philosophy is that pics make the best souvenirs and are FREE! Also...could you save $10/week for a year? That would give you $520 to spend on a bigger trip each year. What about changing parks that you work at? Would hubby be up for a change for a while?
Lanette- Perhaps your neighbor/walking friend would understand if you told her you need some time alone to process everything. I am guessing she is alone, as well? I always read your posts so carefully, as my DH is also dealing with advanced RA. We have both read the articles and facts on the RA meds that he takes/has taken. He does not take them every day, which means he is in major pain every day, which means he is so very, VERY irritable every day. Your DH went downhill so fast. Sending you all of the love!
Well, here it is 8:30. I better get my butt in gear and get my projects done. ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)
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Hello everyone,
Turning 51 in August and getting myself together.8 -
All packed!
My back is a bit achy, but not too bad. I must have gone up and down the stairs loads of times! I am wearing my inside trainers as my slippers are a bit slippy. Plus I was carrying one handed as I needed one hand for the banister rail.
Just got to wash my hair, put my face on, and change. Then sit down and watch 'Paddington' with my focaccia and small cup of tea at 4 pm. Car coming at 5. They are often a bit early.
Feeling a bit wobbly right now. Waiting is the worst.
Love to you all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx9 -
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Heather, Have a wonderful time!
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grandmallie wrote: »Debbie- not free services my FIL owned his house.. they do an assessment of her finances he had a couple of pensions and social security
And this was when he was more ambulatory, they got him into adult day care, with transportation, meals on wheels, that didn't work out well he would lock them out lol. companions and homemakers would come on the weekends and they got him a life alert which he promptly put on his walker..
But anyway you get the idea..
See if you state might have a similar type of program..i hunted it down.. that wasn't through the hospital but i kept up with things.
THANK YOU Allie... I was going to say that if you didn't come back and explain.
Yes Debbie, LOTS of services, but not many free because of her financial situation. You should still look into them though. You and your husband, especially, should not be dealing with this alone. It's SO HARD. I get it. When we were left with Freddy's mom, we found out just how much his dad had been covering for her and it was devastating to him. We were both working full-time and just couldn't do it. Freddy ended up retiring to take care of her, but even then, emotionally, couldn't watch her decline like she did. Thankfully, his dad left her financially able to afford many services and we were able to bring in home health care aides and nurses. We used a service called Home Instead. They were wonderful. Pretty sure they're nationwide. God Bless you both.
Carla, MN
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Rita I feel you! My DH is a homebody. He never has been good at traveling especially to unfamiliar places. Being blind most likely has a lot to do with it now. I find happiness in driving in my car and finding cool places. We can both dream!
Lanette I know just how expensive black top is! Our driveway is 1/4 mile long and we just blacktopped it last year. We were able to share cost for most of it with SIL who shares driveway.
I leave for one day and am 5 pages behind. Catching up as can!
Kylia in Ohio2 -
Ugh ,i feel so bad for my Son in law and my daughter today...
They ran out of oil so no hot water.. Carmine has just been totally unruly and nasty so this Father's day isnt wonderful and poor Kyle is just so hurt..I offered to pick them up dinner but Tracy said today isnt a good day.
I did text him and told him I loved him and wished him a Happy Father's day .
I know his mother wont do that..
I woke up early at like 2 am and finally went back to sleep around 4 .. going to do some laundry and try and get some stuff done around here to get ready for the new bed ( yeah )3 -
Lanette- Perhaps your neighbor/walking friend would understand if you told her you need some time alone to process everything. I am guessing she is alone, as well? I always read your posts so carefully, as my DH is also dealing with advanced RA. We have both read the articles and facts on the RA meds that he takes/has taken. He does not take them every day, which means he is in major pain every day, which means he is so very, VERY irritable every day. Your DH went downhill so fast. Sending you all of the love!
Well, here it is 8:30. I better get my butt in gear and get my projects done. ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)
Kelly - my neighbor/walking friend is married, though she was widowed twice. So she's had some experience at being a widow. She was young with little kids at the time, first was an accident, second was a suicide.
A new wrinkle:- she and her hubs both had C a month or two ago. They were going to take their mini-home on vacation for a week starting tomorrow, and she texted me yesterday that they may cancel since her hubs is sick (not sure with what). They both are part of the music team for their church which is broadcast on YouTube, will look and see if they are playing.
My toe/foot is slowing getting better, I have a lot of things to catch up on outside as I am able (a week of warm and sunshine starting Tuesday!). So I can't risk catching anything, even a summer cold at this point, that would sap my energy for a while. Allergies are bad enough.
My fog is lifting. Because of my husband's compromised immune system, we had no visitors in the house this past couple years and I was careful to do shopping early in the morning before stores were crowded. When the cleaner came, he went to his shop and napped in the recliner there. I need to keep limiting visitors in the house for any length of time while my own immune system is getting tuned up.
I am anxious to start walking again with her! Fresh air, exercise, appreciation for the beautiful neighborhood we live in. Beats sitting in my living room putting up with Rosie the pest.
My husband's RA case was complicated. I recall he was involved in the first trials using methotrexate in the early 90's. He took it weekly for a year, (and maybe also plaquenil? I can't remember exactly.) It arrested joint deformity but he still had resulting pain and used low dose prednisone the rest of his life along with other prescription pain relievers, muscle relaxers, omeprazole. He also self-medicated with MJ and some alcohol. I have a feeling this whole brew contributed to his memory loss.
Kelly Looking back, I think he needed anti-anxiety meds for the past several years. He always put on a brave face when he'd go to the doctor, claiming he had very little or no pain, he was still able to active, etc. Macho man. When he got home it was a different story. Would your DH consider this?
Better get crackin'! Happy Fathers Day to all the dads in your life!
Lanette
SW WA State
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Bonus, kirby got to walk with yogi. Yogi got his own medal and they didn’t come in last.
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Heather: Bon Voyage!
Just back from a visit to DED for Father’s Day.
DYD tested positive for Covid yesterday morning so wasn’t able to join us.
DH has just put the dinner on the table. I’m a lucky girl.
☘️ Terri5 -
We ate a large snack at 4 and threw out all the food, milk etc. Waited for the car. No show.
After half an hour I phoned the car company. They said the car was coming at 7 because the ship was so late docking.
Of course, I said they should have let us know. He was very apologetic and gave us a £25 voucher to spend on the ship.
I found some cottage cheese. I have bars in my bag. We won't starve, but a text would have been nice.
All shall be well.
The worst bit was waiting for them to come. I feel better now.
I really enjoyed Paddington. 😉
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx5 -
We’re having a quiet morning at home & DH is asleep in his chair. He needs the rest. I am enjoying the view from our windows. The Osprey is sitting on the gazebo roof. I enjoy watching birds, from the Osprey & hummingbirds to herons. I am not a fan of a local bird eating yellow tomcat. :noway:4
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I meet all of those criteria except the crying. I don’t cry and there would really be a mental break if I did.
KJ I brought up the changing parks and about everything you suggested. He won’t budge. Claims no money, need tires for RV, have to take dogs, any excuse at all. I’m just giving up in everything right now. I really hope I get an appointment for mental health care soon. I’m trying.
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All caught up! Hugs!
I have had a relaxing day so far. DH wanted to go to The All Ford Garage for dinner today. It is a no go. They have a 2-3 hour wait without call ahead seating or reservations. It would be different if we only lived 20 mins away as we could put our name in and go home. We live an hour away. One of these days we will get there.
Girlfriends- I have a couple that I keep in touch with on FB . Two are from elementary school. One from Jr High. And two from HS. One local. My closest girlfriends are from the Philippines. We don't see each other often, but are always a call or text away. My BFF was killed in a car accident on the 4th of July 11 years ago. She was part of our Philippines group. We did a girls trip a few years ago and it was fabulous! I miss them.
More later. Started this then helped DH with something, then took a nap. Nap? Yes really. Strange dreams which I don't usually remember, but nap at any rate. Heading out for food.
Kylia in Ohio2 -
Happy Father's Day to all the dads out there.
Heather - have a wonderful cruise.
Pip - congrats to Kirby and Yogi.
Went to church this morning. Going to work on filing some papers this afternoon and do a little yard work. I figure I can do some trimming along the sidewalk and driveway and won't have to stand on uneven ground that makes my ankle hurt.
Everyone take care, Sue in WA5 -
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Please, anyone that is willing, to share thoughts/opinions about antidepressants - have they actually helped any of you with anxiety, depression, inertia, follow-through, sleep, etc.? I have been feeling so low for over 6 months now, and I have so very much to do to purge our house, give away most of our belongings, etc. Major downsizing and a move in the offing, and I cannot see through the fog...
Karen in Virginia11 -
Picked a bowl of fresh strawberries from my strawberry patch for DH for Father's Day. He looked at them at Farmer's Market and they are $10 a pint. It made them taste even better.
Watered, watered, watered today. Over 100 degree heat index. Now in 70 degree A/C.
Learning more about the negative effects of over vaxing in dogs. I believe this is the root of DrewB's anemia. It has made me relook at vaxing without checking for antibodies before agreeing to more vacinations for myself and Drew. In dogs they are called titer tests.
I think of the young man I worked with years ago who was sceduled to go overseas. Because they were in a hurry to get him over there they gave him many shots in a short amount of time. He was never the same after that. He had on going seisures. Some dogs end up with seisures for life and other side effects from an unnecessary rabies shots.
It is hard to question those in authority. I try to remind myself it is my and DrewB health that is on the line not theirs.5 -
Karen - i am on 100mg of zoloft and it seems to help me alot...
I was on 50 mg and felt i needed it upped a bit.. i have been on and off them for years..
Right now they are working.. find the ones that work best for you..
I have bloodwork in the morning,so nothing after midnight.
Heather - have a great time on the cruise !!!
Tracy boiled water on the stove for Miles bath.. they went to Popeyes and gotnlunch,Walmart and for ice cream ,Carmine was miserable but at least they were all together...2 -
Stats for the day-
Walk w/family- going to Father’s Day walk- 43.17min, 35elev, 2.95ap, 1.94mi= 181c
Strava app = 222c
Housecleaning etc- 2hrs 33min 58sec, vacuum, dust, laundry fold and put away, make new hummingbird bird food, fill fountains = 681c
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KetoneKaren wrote: »Please, anyone that is willing, to share thoughts/opinions about antidepressants - have they actually helped any of you with anxiety, depression, inertia, follow-through, sleep, etc.? I have been feeling so low for over 6 months now, and I have so very much to do to purge our house, give away most of our belongings, etc. Major downsizing and a move in the offing, and I cannot see through the fog...
Karen in Virginia
Was on them for years. Went through therapy. My husband had passed and that was the straw that broke the camels back in bringing out a bad home life, mom disowning me for 10 years and too much more to type about. I would say that I had to try 3 different kinds of meds for about a couple of months each to see if they were working. The last pill worked. Along with therapy and support groups I wouldn’t be here today. Seek help, my husband died when I was 36 and am now 63, I did make it through the fog, u can too12 -
KetoneKaren wrote: »Please, anyone that is willing, to share thoughts/opinions about antidepressants - have they actually helped any of you with anxiety, depression, inertia, follow-through, sleep, etc.? I have been feeling so low for over 6 months now, and I have so very much to do to purge our house, give away most of our belongings, etc. Major downsizing and a move in the offing, and I cannot see through the fog...
Karen in Virginia
I've been on Wellbutrin for nearly three years now, and it has been a lifesaver. I like that is not an SSRI, I couldn't tolerate those. It doesn't change me, just kind of calms the waves.5
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