WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY2022

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  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,008 Member
    edited July 2022
    Kelly: That must have been a shock. Please look after yourself.

    Rita: 😱😳 Close call!

    Katla: (((Hugs)))

    ☘️ Terri
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,645 Member
    I just ran across a 7 minute Youtube video entitled "Don't chase happiness. Become anti-fragile." I never looked at happiness this way before. Lots of food for thought in these 7 minutes. IF anyone is interested:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e-or_D-qNqM
  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
    Kelly I am so glad that you are okay and back home again. Thank goodness you had some aspirin handy. It also sounds like your husband and son are taking very good care of you!!

    💞 Mary from Arizona/ Minnesota
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,692 Member
    Oh, oh, oh, Rita ! :o
    Seems to have been a few days of close calls.

    I tried to renew my Senior Railcard today, so I can go to G's on Thursday. The payment didn't go through, so I did it again. No luck. I tried a different card. No luck. I thought I'd better check my bank account. Yes, two pending deductions. Nothing yet on the other card. I've emailed them, but I'm not expecting a reply until Monday at the earliest. Botheration.
    I expect it will get sorted out in the end, but my account is perilously close to being overdrawn.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,246 Member
    ginnytez wrote: »
    Flea-thinking of you coping with your mother. It is tough watching them wind down. Just love her. Glad your break was so good.

    Katla-I'm sure it is very difficult for you being so far from DH. It will be a relief to your children, also, when you are both there.

    Sue in WA-I find many of the things they ask in PT assessments I have never done on my best day! (nor did I ever really want to)

    Michelle-glad tumor is stable and you can back off of tests some.

    Heather-keep an eye on dizzy spells-they aren't normal! Grandkids are adorable.

    Annie-I always smile when you post your exercise updates-the pride comes through! You have got yourself in a good pattern. Glad visit is ok so far.

    Pip-I also notice difference in rug. Good job (and pretty rug!)

    Tracey-glad your daughters include you so much.

    Barbie-good to hear visit is going well. Those are a bit scary sometimes.

    KJ-Sounds like they were thorough in checking you out. Follow their advice. I think I read somewhere that it is not uncommon for women to have them (and I just now checked Dr. Google, and evidently the elderly and diabetics).
    Not much here. Had video call with Doctor Friday. Tests didn't show them any cancer spots (it is hiding!). Scheduled a brain scan (slim chance there is metastasis there at the time, but he thinks a good idea to get baseline). More bloodwork in 3 months. If level stable, wait some more. It up much or scan shows anything, new course of action to be determined. Most likely we will do nothing until next year and I will get a PET scan.

    On the non-cancer front, I received the biofeedback machine they want me to use to monitor strengthening. More on that once I check it out. I really want to voice surgery for prolapse if I can, so I will try whatever to strengthen.

    Went for walk this am right before big storm. Friend texted after lunch and wanted to know if I wanted to walk so we went to reservoir. Got over 6 miles in between the two. Now I must get some housework done (the cats are useless!)

    Take care all,

    Ginny in Ohio




    Thxs to you and Auntiebk for the compliment on my rug work, that thing was a bear to flip especially wet and with my shoulder not as strong as it used to be.

  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,246 Member
    Stat for the day-

    Walk w/family- 2hrs 7min 26sec, 101elev, 2.89ap, 87ahr, 108mhr, 6.42mi= 575c
    Strava app = 732c
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,517 Member
    Let’s see. Friday worked, then the soup kitchen, then went in the pool. Went for a walk around the block and then played mahjongg by the pool, but it was still hot. Worked today (Sat.), went in the pool, then Aldi since Vince needed bananas, will go to church then hopefully a walk after dinner. No work tomorrow so that means I can exercise. Yeaaaa. The plan is to do a Biggest Loser the Workout section and then some pilates.

    Flea – the tumor is in my left ear. No treatment. I just have diminished hearing in that ear (which sometimes works to my advantage….lol)

    Pool was 92 degrees today. I don’t know why they gave us stainless steel handrails for the pool/spa. You can imagine how hot they are. And we have a cover on them but you can feel the heat through the cover.

    There is some sort of mandatory meeting at BK tomorrow evening. Probably nothing much. The one day I don't have to be there this comes up. Well, I'm not there for 8 hours/day so I'll look on the bright side

    Welcome Cindy

    Barbara – I’m really not interested in joining the lunchtime yoga. For one thing, I need the strength training, I don’t have the equipment (bar, weights) at home, but I can do a yoga DVD at home

    Lanette – the avocado shouldn’t turn brown with the lemon juice

    Got a call from Denise yesterday (miracle!). Seems that PJ was in the pool while she was at work but Pete was home and he slipped on the floor of the garage, hit his head, and had to get 4 staples. I’m sure he’ll be fine, he sounded fine when she called us. Kids heal so fast

    Rita – great MD visit. I can relate somewhat to the money. Vince likes to buy these special t-shirts off the Internet, ones that are for a certain NASCAR driver, political ones, yet I STILL don’t have my stimulus money. I told him we could use it for other things as long as I got it back. How long ago was that????? Almost all of my clothes come from the Salvation Army. I don’t think any of Vince’s do

    Got these cauliflower crackers at Aldi today. They’re quite good

    KJ – how very scary. So glad that you’re OK. Please take care of yourself, at least for those kiddos. Where would they be without you?

    Anne DE – maybe the hotels are full because it’s supposed to be a hot and nice weekend and people want to go to the beaches?

    Oh Rita! So glad that car missed you

    Allie – have fun tomorrow

    Barbara – I hate when there are leaks. Yesterday our washer wouldn’t start for some reason. Well, we finally unplugged it then plugged it back in and it worked, thank goodness. I went to the laundromat in FL and, yes, they take quarters. But be prepared for sticker shock!

    Back in June I mentioned to Denise that we would be up Labor Day weekend. She hemmed and hawed saying something about not knowing what she'll be doing. I just said "you'll be hosting us, that's what you'll be doing". Well, she just sent Vince and me a text saying that Pete's birthday is the end of Sept. and he'd like gift cards to Lowes and Home Depot. What we'll say is "great, we can give it to him when we come up xxx (we won't say Labor Day weekend since she'll probably want to go to the shore but she probably won't realize that that's Labor Day weekend). We've only been able to see PJ one day this year.

    Michele NC
    who is going out for a walk
    Pg 49
  • suebdew
    suebdew Posts: 1,298 Member
    Kelly-so glad you knew what to do and chewed the aspirin. My DH had an episode the last time we went to Denverr. My son told him chew two aspirin and go to ER. (Son is heart surgeon). You really do so much for so many. Please put yourself in the front
    of the line and take the time you need to feel better. 😍
    Taught class, came home and walked pup then crashed. Finally went grocery shopping and they were out of so many things. I hate grocery shopping.
    SueBDew in TX
  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,703 Member
    Hi Gals,
    Kelly – thank goodness for your quick thinking with the aspirin and for the rest of the family being supportive.
    Barbara sorry to hear about the washer leak. What a drag! Is the burr you are talking about burr clover?
    Rita – What a close call! Glad you are fine, what was going on with the driver?

    Sending love to all.

    Kim in N. California

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  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,703 Member
    Barbie - glad everything went so well. Delighted to hear that DH daughter pitched in, and the boys did the "heavy lifting" of tables and chairs. You don't mention this family often so really glad it was such a good event, with now positive memories.

    I love entertaining and find it interesting to read so many posts about worries - The over the top drama -- leave me out! but so often folks are so happy to be "cared for" and really want to help that it all can go great.

    Kim in N. California
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,184 Member
    Kelly- glad you got checked out and realize this is a wake up call.

    Rita-that is toooo close for comfort, for sure.

    I have always had a joint account with both former hubby and current dh.
    I did start stashing money with former because he had a very hard time adjusting to non-military life. Had 8 jobs the first year out-would come home for lunch and just not go back. To make sure we had enough money for the lean weeks(he would always find something else, but I just was worried), I started stashing money away. I did the banking and bill paying so he didn't know.
    Worked out well because, out of the blue, he left, no notice, no explanation(got it 20 YRS later)
    That little stash helped me support myself, making my mortgage payment alone for almost 3 yrs. That and cutting way back. My big splurge at most once a month, was to get a kids hamburger from McDonalds. I would work 6 days a week, any hours the daycare parents needed including 4AM to midnight..
    When dh and I got married, we had a joint account. A few years later, I started selling Tupperware and also doing Mystery Shops. I started my own savings account that he knows about.
    I also started stashing money away that some he knows about-we both keep extra cash here BUT I have more than he knows about AND I have a savings /CD accounts in my name only that use my mom's address. Mom knows about it and understands why I do it- just to cover myself. Things have been very rocky with dh and I. I just need to know I have the money if I need it. Every six months or so, I make a deposit. Need to do another one- a bit hard beings he is always with me. Sometimes I can go in by myself- tell him I am putting money into the savings he knows about but then also into my other account- may do that Thursday.

  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,184 Member
    auntiebk wrote: »
    Bear knocked over garbage can and dragged to drive but couldn’t get in to spread trash around, thanks to Joe’s hand-crafted spike stick topper.

    Changed linens, started excavating laundry mountain. After one load done, found water running over floor into bath room and kitchen. Joe checked hoses for leaks, dry as bones. Something inside has given way. Now every towel and throw rug in the house needs washing from sopping up the mess, in addition to the load that was in the washer and the 3 loads that were waiting their turns. Taking a little break before loading up and heading to the laundromat. This is why I’m not to swear oaths, like the one I swore when I got my first Maytag “… as God is my witness, I’ll never go to the laundromat again.” Don’t even know if laundromats still take quarters, or if its currency or credit cards.


    Debbie chicken satay is one of my faves. Unfortunately for my budget the local Thai restaurant makes it soooo much better than I ever could. Agree with you about the brown rice. What is it with husbands and white rice?



    Done:
    7/22: Move: 1.5 set pt, active mins: steps:6563
    Fuel: protein=60g sugar=88g fiber=28g sodium=1815mg fruit=2 vegs=3 CI<CO=68
    Live: Joe, readings, BP, thank you note to PT, chiropractor, Freddie’s
    Wt: 140.2
    Lighter, lovelies!

    Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD

    2022: Be still and listen.
    July: Move more, fuel better, live NOW.

    The satay was a pouch that you add the veggies(I used frozen stir fry mix) and chicken(I had ground chicken to use up). The package was just about $1.50 so very cheap to make a big meal.
    Son wasn't hungry and husband did try a little bowl when he stopped at the house on his way to work.
    With my dh- it is not only white rice BUT it HAS to be Japanese white rice. Only time I use Chinese rice is for fried rice. He can tell the difference between brands even.

    https://smile.amazon.com/Passage-Foods-Asia-world-famous-traditional/dp/B08HXRSS1Y/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1J4HPWBWOJFKM&amp;keywords=passage+to+asia+satay+chicken&amp;qid=1658634303&amp;sprefix=Passage+to+A-+satay+chicken,aps,140&amp;sr=8-1
    this is the one I used but that price is crazy- would never pay that much for one pouch- maybe I am reading it wrong.

    I would look up the recipe for the sauce. I am sure it would be simple to make.
    Tried tika masala for the first time a few weeks ago-that one was already made- it was really good.
    Tried this one- again, for about $1.50 I think
    https://smile.amazon.com/SAFFRON-ROAD-Coconut-Curry-10/dp/B08TH98RV3/ref=sr_1_3_f3_0g_wf_sspa?crid=3SKJNJR4F1J67&amp;keywords=coconut+curry&amp;qid=1658634460&amp;s=grocery&amp;sprefix=coconut+curry,grocery,561&amp;sr=1-3-spons&amp;psc=1&amp;spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUEyUjhVWEFRM1RaN1pLJmVuY3J5cHRlZElkPUEwMTY4MDAxMUUxTFk4VFQ4OVpBSSZlbmNyeXB0ZWRBZElkPUEwNTcxMjg2MVJWM0hRV1dENEU4NiZ3aWRnZXROYW1lPXNwX2F0ZiZhY3Rpb249Y2xpY2tSZWRpcmVjdCZkb05vdExvZ0NsaWNrPXRydWU=

    All these I got at Grocery Outlet.

    Debbie
    Napa Valley,CA

  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,040 Member
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  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,008 Member
    edited July 2022
    Morning all.

    Our planned family get together yesterday had to be cancelled as both my SIL and my niece’s partner tested positive for Covid. Not surprised as there is so much if it around. We won’t be able to reschedule as we leave for Oxford on Wednesday night, and don’t want to risk getting sick before our holiday.

    @Machka9 How is the new job going?

    ☘️ Terri
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,692 Member
    Terri - Sorry about your missed get together. :s

    Max is here, bearing gluten free cupcakes that Edie made. I've just eaten mine. :o Very nice.
    They will be leaving shortly for their walk and talk and lunch. :p He seems in a very good mood.
    I will watch a foreign film I've been storing up. Dim Sum for lunch.
    As DH is having a full lunch out, I've suggested to him that he makes his own tea/dinner according to his appetite. I got some bacon out of the freezer and there are some organic eggs in the fridge. I am looking forward to Cuban Black Beans with a salad on top. Yummo! :p

    No news yet on my railcard. BOO! I'm not panicking yet.

    I've been having very intense dreams recently. Last night I dreamt of Oscar Wilde :p and later of an old boyfriend, who is the next chapter in my book. He was quite young and I was chatting with his mum about him. She wasn't happy that I was a bit critical.

    Thinking of you KJ. <3

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,246 Member
    Rrrr
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,191 Member
    :) My current audio book is "Four Thousand Weeks---Time Management for Mortals" by Oliver Burkeman. It is full of thought provoking ideas about living better. What I heard this morning was epic. He mentioned "the paralysis of perfection" which I thought went well with our oft cited phrase "The perfect is the enemy of the good".

    :) Family is not really a big thing in my life and having people visit is even less a part of my life so having a visit from family was hugely different and unknown. It was fun, but I'm glad to have everything back to normal.

    <3 Barbie in NW WA
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,086 Member
    Morning ladies
    Carla-Ugh sheesh you have alot on your plate...in times like this take it an hour at a time.. get a ice cold glass of something ,take a cool shower .. I just dont know what to tell you..but to leep your chin up and I'll keep you in my prayers..
    Machka - thinking of you too..going to be another doozy heatwise here today..
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,246 Member
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  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,878 Member
    edited July 2022
    Rita - That was too close a call! Any idea why they landed in the ditch?

    Heather - Hope the railcard thing gets sorted quickly.

    Carla - I'm sorry about the A/C! Right now, Walmart has the window ones for about $160 to $200, if they have any in stock. That might get you through to cooler weather.

    My thoughts on finances went on longer than I meant to:
    On the subject of finances, I have been responsible for them in both my marriages with one minor exception in the first one. I found myself making mistakes in the check register, and figured it was a signal that I was over-stressed at work and needed a break. So I handed them, kit and kaboodle, to my first husband. Hindsight being what it is, I can see from here that his inability to cope with our finances was the match that began the final conflagration that left us bankrupt about five years later.

    Older and wiser, I walked into my second marriage with the determination to pull both of us out of the financial hole (I insisted on seeing his finances before I married him). Strict budgeting, snowball payments, and continually talking to the credit card companies to get most of that debt forgiven took time and stress, but within three years, we paid off the $100,000+ debt we owed when we married. We've been in and out of debt since, but only for houses or cars.

    Well, I say that, but when we first got here, we needed to spend some money in a short space of time for a washer, dryer, stove, etc. So I got a new credit card with zero percent interest for the first year got all the big stuff on that and paid it all off before the year was over. Then never touched it again. The company got a little ootchy with me this summer, saying "use it or lose it," and I shut it down. Another one that my bank sold to a different company made too many vague pronouncements about what their points were worth, so I shut them down, too. We now have two cards, one for day-to-day purchases and the other just for automatic payments like utilities, etc.

    What I find really interesting is that people get all het up about what interest rate they're getting... but if you pay off your credit cards every month, the interest rates don't matter in the slightest. The same thought works for cars and houses. The first rule of thumb for us is, never buy a car that's at the top end of your ability to pay, and never buy a house that you can't pay off in five years. We also make sure cars and houses don't have early-payoff penalties.

    That's from a lot of decades of experience on both our parts of mistakes and partners who couldn't deal with finances at all.

    Got to get a few things done before the week begins... Love y'all!

    Lisa in AR
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,645 Member
    edited July 2022
    1948CWB wrote: »
    RITA ~ How scary! So glad you are safe. :*

    LANETTE ~ I think your reflections on what it was like during your husband's illness will help others of us as we go through the same things. I am also sure that there are others in our group of over 50 ladies that have had the same feelings and are having the same feelings at this time. Thank you for sharing. <3


    Carol in GA

    Carol- thank you for the comment. As I look back, I am seeing things more clearly now with my husband's illness and passing. I hope it is helpful to others. It's kind of cathartic to me :) And as I read what I wrote yesterday, I realize it was pretty one sided (mine). He wasn't able to tell you about MY faults, my spending, etc. :D He did own up the last couple years of his life that without me holding the purse strings, he (we) would have been in the poorhouse, and he was grateful I was thrifty. :D

    Debbie- I totally understand your secret account/safety net thinking. I tend to be a control freak, and my husband's failing health really rocked my world. Every day unpredictable. Being able to go online and see some money in savings anchored me every day.

    Rita - what's the story with that car? Was the driver OK? We are all sitting here in suspense, lol.

    Barbara- what a shame about that washer. Thankful there's a laundromat available even though it's a bit inconvenient.

    Carla- so sorry about your A/C! For a while I was tempted to buy a window unit just to have on hand. I see Walmart and Amazon have small "room coolers", might work for a bedroom. Glad its cooling down some for you.

    Barbie - so nice the visit went well. I understand the comfort in getting back to a normal routine. I really took to heart your reminder "perfection is the enemy of the good" this past couple years. And as I look at the lawn/weeds/overgrown shrubs, my motto is "90% is good enough." That still might be a bit high, lol. Be grateful for what I can do, even if it's just a little bit today.

    Bifidobacterium and C-19
    I've been catching up on health videos this morning and one of them was a microbiome researcher who discovered there's a correlation between a healthy gut highly populated with the probiotic Bifidobacterium (think yogurt, kombacha, sauerkraut, etc.) and negligible amount of C-19 virus in the intestinal tract.

    It appears many elderly people have little or no bifidobacterium in their gut - and demonstrated a very high C-19 viral load. The elderly (people lots older than us, right?) had a much higher C-19 death rate, so was this absence of this probiotic also a contributing factor? Research is continuing.

    Correlation doesn't necessarily mean causation, but I pulled Tim Spector's microbiome book out again and will take pains to eat at least 30 different plant kingdom foods per week, including plenty of blue and purple fruits and veggies. Need to keep my immune system beefed up to combat whatever germ is lurking!

    Sun is finally peeking out, I need to fill up the birdbaths and check to see if tomatoes need any water.

    Make it a great day, ladies! <3

    Lanette B)
    SW WA State





  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,878 Member
    Lanette - Thank you for the anti-fragility video. I've read some of Nassim Taleb's work on that concept, and am interested to see it being extended to people's overall well-being. His writing is a hard wade in terms of reading his stuff, so I take his books in small doses.

    The concept expressed in the video isn't new - it's just different names on it. My sister and I have discussed a lot that we're some of the happiest people we know. We chalk it up to our childhood being so horrendous. We grew up in a house filled with fear and loathing and pain, and both of us take the smallest things, like my domesticity posts, and acknowledge how happy and peaceful we are while in the midst of those small actions. I'll have to tell her that we're antifragile. I have a feeling the answer will be... "Well, duh!" :D

    Corey's making salmon patties for dinner... I need to get some cocktail sauce made so it has time for the ingredients to combine (chili sauce, capers, caper juice, black pepper, a small amount of lemon juice, and enough horseradish to clear your sinuses).

    Later, y'all,
    Love,
    Lisa in AR
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,301 Member
    Bad day all around yesterday beginning with car in canal behind my camper. I’m typing on my phone right now. Gonna switch to keyboard on iPad to tell the story!!

    Thanks for all your concern!

    RvRita
  • bethe
    bethe Posts: 79 Member
    LisaInArkansas wrote: »
    Lanette - Thank you for the anti-fragility video. I've read some of Nassim Taleb's work on that concept, and am interested to see it being extended to people's overall well-being. His writing is a hard wade in terms of reading his stuff, so I take his books in small doses.

    The concept expressed in the video isn't new - it's just different names on it. My sister and I have discussed a lot that we're some of the happiest people we know. We chalk it up to our childhood being so horrendous. We grew up in a house filled with fear and loathing and pain, and both of us take the smallest things, like my domesticity posts, and acknowledge how happy and peaceful we are while in the midst of those small actions. I'll have to tell her that we're antifragile. I have a feeling the answer will be... "Well, duh!" :D


    Lanette - here's another thanks for that anti-fragility video. I watched it and am working to absorb it.

    Lisa - thank you for your comment re: happiness and being anti-fragile. My siblings and I also had a pretty bad childhood, and we each have been very damaged by it to this very day. It is encouraging to read/hear others who can find happiness now in various ways.
    despite having also gone through the wringer. It makes me realize that I can do that too if I just adjust my thinking. I'm really bad about dismissing the things I do right, and end up focusing on the bad stuff. Your comment came at just the right time - I'm going to start recognizing and honoring how even the smallest actions I take make me feel positive. Thank you!
  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,590 Member
    Barbara ~ I am sorry to hear about your leaking washing machine and know that must have been a mess. A few years ago, our refrigerator leaked all over and we had to replace the flooring in a lot of our house.

    Barbie ~ Glad to know your visit with relatives went well. I too get anxious at the idea of visitors. For most of my adult life I was OCD about keeping everything clean. At this stage, I just can't do it. Am glad my DnL's mother has been really nice about inviting us to her house for holidays. I can bring food and don't have to worry about getting my home presentable.

    Money/Bills ~ We each have bank accounts of our own but we have access to each other's accounts. I pay all the household bills and DH pays the insurance and taxes. Works out pretty evenly. I have not used a credit card in years and never have cash on my person. Just rely on my debit card.

    Carol in GA
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,184 Member
    Carla- that is just too much at one time-
    Hope you can find a affordable solution to your AC problem.
    Dealing with dh with unmedicated depression is so hard. Dealing with that here. This past month with him(and me) dealing with his mother has really gotten bad for him. I was very worried, with some of the things he was saying. Not knowing how much was just talk and how much was things he really thought about doing.
    Hope things calm down for you and this next week is just boring and normal- NO extra stress

    saw your post about friending on FB- will send a request this afternoon.

    Debbie

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