WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2022

grandmallie

Evening ladies
Had a lovely dinner with my son Dan,we dont get to spend alot of quality time together.
Went down and got Homer out and gave him his pain pill and a few treats as Tom and Elena are at her daughters wedding.
I did show him a video and a few pictures but until he finds out exactly what happened to the place then there is no use worrying. 75 is closed from north port to down to Englewood because of Water.. the water got sucked out because of the storm and now its all coming back in.. and rt 41 is closed in both directions over the Peace river in and out of Ft Myers
Thanks Barbie as always for keeping us going. Our fearless leader.
Found out one of my dear friends who owns the local farm in town and has a couple of farm stands passed away today.. he was a good guy.. hard working.and always donated to town things and school functions..

pipcd34

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pipcd34

So far I’ve raised $1615.00 for MS. I got my medal and jersey. I increased my goal from $250 to $1000 to $1700. I will be completely happy if I don’t get anymore donations, after all this is the most I’ve ever gotten. If anyone is interested, I’ve provided the donation link.

Click here to donate now: https://bndfr.com/flCd5

One more medal for my wall.

skuehn48

Machka9

auntiebk

October is my favorite month! Thank you Barbie for your faithful leadership. I’m in awe of your consistency.

Alas, I’m sooo far behind. . . Will read and catch up much as I can tomorrow.

September details below. In short: Fuel better: Doing ok on veggies so abandoning the list for this update, may reinstate for October. Need to up the protein and reduce the demon sugar. Move more: Average steps 7330 still short of 7395 goal. BUT able to walk and dance longer than before. Average weight down a smidgen to 138.6 from 139.3 so updated ticker. Live Now: improved mindful time with Joe, satisfying volunteer activities, need to invest more attention in the dogs.

Done:

9/30: Move: 2 sets pt, dogs to powerline. active mins:289 steps: 7961
Fuel: plants (running count for week) so far: . CI<CO= 426
Live: Joe, readings, BP, chiropractor, Post Office, Grocery Outlet, Freddie’s, finish goat cheese.
Wt: 138.5
9/29: Move: 2 sets pt, dogs to powerline, active mins:242 steps:4225
Fuel: plants (running count for week) so far: . CI<CO= 468
Live: Joe, readings, BP, Thrivent phone call and file purge, start goat cheese, two loads laundry, play with plants.
Wt: 138.5
9/28: Move: 2 sets pt, line dance class. active mins:246 steps:5972
Fuel: plants (running count for week) so far: . CI<CO= 701
Live: Joe, readings, BP, play with plants.
Wt: 138.7
9/27: Move: 2 sets pt, line dance class. active mins:324 steps: 7537
Fuel: plants (running count for week) so far: . CI<CO= 1027
Live: Joe, readings, BP, sandwiches, reconciled checking and savings statements
Wt: 138.9
9/26: Move: 2 sets pt, line dance class. active mins:261 steps: 5885
Fuel: plants (running count for week) so far: . CI<CO= 490
Live: Joe, readings, BP, sandwiches for hungry.
Wt: 139.6
9/25: Move: 2 sets pt, dogs to powerline. active mins:306 steps: 7593
Fuel: plants (running count for week) so far: . CI<CO= 555
Live: Joe, readings, BP
Wt: 138.7
9/24: Move: 2 sets pt, dogs to powerline, Shadow to dog group. active mins:332 steps: 10259
Fuel: plants (running count for week) so far: . CI<CO= 778
Live: Joe, readings, BP
Wt: 139.1
9/23: Move: .5 set pt, active mins:276 steps: 5951
Fuel: plants (running count for week) so far: . CI<CO= 605
Live: Joe, readings, BP, TJ’s pickup, Wal~Mart, explore back road from Jacksonville to Grants Pass, next time take it all the way to Wilderville.
Wt: not weighed
9/22: Move: .5 sets pt, active mins:252 steps: 7427
Fuel: plants (running count for week) so far: . CI<CO= -392
Live: Joe, readings, BP, Winco, skin scan, Ahuva, See’s, Trader Joe’s, Natural Grocers, over indulgent meal both budget and calories.
Wt: 134.9
9/21: Move: 2 sets pt. active mins:269 steps: 7723
Fuel: plants (running count for week) so far: . CI<CO= 576
Live: Joe, readings, BP
Wt: 138.2

Lighter, lovelies!

Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD

2022: Be still and listen.
October: Move more (make that 7400 step goal), fuel better (more protein + veggies, less sugar), live NOW (continue mindful time with Joe, pay more attention to Shadow and Tumble).

cityjaneLondon

Hallo everyone in October, my favourite month.
Thank you muchly, Barbie.

Picking up the girls from Art Class, just around the corner, this afternoon, and letting them choose snacks at the Co-op supermarket for the evening's tv. Strictly Come Dancing. Early gorgeous tea, changing into jimjams and then it begins. Don't know about Max. He and DH will probably do something else.
On Sunday morning it is my birthday! I chose to have the kids with me for that. We have pancakes, gluten free, cooked by DH, and other patisserie delights. Then the parents pick them up. I have gluten free Millionaires Shortbread snacks for them, with coffee. On Saturday night they are going out to a new restaurant.
The rest of the day is mine to do exactly what I want, with delicious, no cook food. Manzanilla sherry. Weather not promising.
I am very happy. And grateful.

Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

wizzywig

Thanks Barbie for setting us up for a new month. Welcome October.

Barbara I like your October goal to fuel better. I aim to do better myself in eating more protein and veggies and definitely less sugar.

At my health check yesterday, I found out I have high blood pressure, I've been advised to take my blood pressure twice a day and send the results to my GP. I had blood taken, and the results should be ready in a week. I am overweight for my height, (I knew this already) hence the plan to fuel better in October. I should get a printout of everything discussed and need to make an appointment with my GP in a week or two to discuss the blood pressure readings. I'm hoping not to have to go onto Statins (which the healthcare assistant thought was normal for my age group!)

It's my friend's birthday in October and she has invited our group to a party at her house. She has also invited the husbands as well, I'm not sure if I want to go. I know I shouldn't feel this way, but it hurts to see them as happy couples having fun, when I miss my DH so much. Am I a bad friend?

Better get a move on.

Love to all
Viv UK

Machka9

Saturday -- Spent a while outside in the garden, pulling weeds and digging the trench for my dry stream. Digging the trench is slow going because many of the flowers I planted last year decided to come up again and bloom so I'm having trouble finding a place for the dirt I'm digging up.

Then we went for a bicycle ride ... nice ride, but a bit cool.




And of course, I walked Rhody for about half an hour before dinner.


Machka in Oz

LisaInArkansas

From Viv UK: ... At my health check yesterday, I found out I have high blood pressure, I've been advised to take my blood pressure twice a day and send the results to my GP...
... It's my friend's birthday in October and she has invited our group to a party at her house. She has also invited the husbands as well, I'm not sure if I want to go. I know I shouldn't feel this way, but it hurts to see them as happy couples having fun, when I miss my DH so much. Am I a bad friend?...

Viv - When things were at their worst, the home blood pressure cuff was the first signal that there was something going awry with my heart. Getting these readings now, and NOT at your doctor's office when you're not under white-coat stress can tell them whether you actually do have issues or not--it's so important. I hope they show you don't have issues at all. As far as your friend's house party - it doesn't make you a bad friend to not want to go, not at all. That said, you might find that the pain will be momentary, and the love and laughter that surrounds the celebrations for your friend will be healing for your wounded heart. Joy has a way of doing that. We can't avoid the pain of our greatest loss, but we can enjoy others' happiness when we're ready. You'll know if you're ready.

Heather - Happy birthday a day early, dear heart! Sounds like a happy weekend in progress already.

Love y'all,
Lisa in AR

Rosemarie2972

Katla: Hope your DH makes it to the apartment today and that you are re-united! A new home! That would be exciting as well.

Annie: It is not you, it is your metabolism. I stay at 1200 calories but any carbs or sugar and my body just can't metabolize them like they use to. Ground turkey and cabbage or cole slaw do help. Hang in there!

RVRita: I need to go to Wally World some morning while it is organized and fresh and clean...and before the Christmas rush picks up. I use Amazon so much now, that I have not given Wally World much business the last couple of years.

Debbie: Congrats on being so active! Yes the room mate should go!

Pipcd: Congrats on raising 1k for MS!

Machka9: So sorry about your husband's accident and health and hope issues with your own health stay under control. Congrats on the weight loss! Small changes do make a difference, especially around carbs and sugar. I see Chobani is making a no sugar yogurt now...I really like it and hope it makes a difference for me!

I read an article on friendship in the New York Times this morning. How difficult it is to make friends as adults. Apparently there are apps for friendships. What do you think? Do you think I should try an app in Middle Georgia to find a friend to walk with 2x a week? I have mixed feelings about it.

Rosemarie from Georgia

1948CWB

Rosemarie2972

Machka9: I love the Boundaries post! I have trouble asserting myself and often over do it. A few lines like these would help a bunch!

Rosemarie from Georiga

SophieRosieMom

Machka9 wrote: »

Machka - I LOVE THIS! Thank you

On boundaries:

I emailed my walking buddy a couple days ago that I was taking some much needed alone time to just clear my head, was still recovering from covid and going thru some grief stuff from DH's passing in May. I was fine. I have a doctor's appointment to check out my hips which had been aching after walking on the pavement a lot. And that if she saw me walking alone past her house to get a little fresh air, please honor my space.

The email I got back from her was "are you mad at me? Sounds like you are trying to avoid me. What did I do to you?" I emailed her back and she calmed down.

We'll walk together again. I'll give her a loving tutorial about friendship and boundaries. Which is, if a person asks for space, honor that. Say "OK" and back off. Don't apply pressure or go into "hurt feelings" mode.

Honestly, I've walked away from other friendships in my life for that very reason. They are a lot of work. I just want peace, and giving up that up to placate someone else doesn't work out.

Again, Machka - thank you.

On my shopping trip to town yesterday, I hit the gym to see if my insurance was still good there. It has plenty of treadmills and low impact cardio stuff I can use. The doc will likely give me some good hip flexor stretches.

I'm so looking forward to getting back out in the world.

Lanette
SW WA State where we are going through a warm spell for a few days. More great weather to hang out the laundry.

This just popped up in my Facebook feed....

KetoneKaren

Viv- Put your own oxygen mask on first - even before your children's and your friends' - no, it does not make you a bad friend at all. Leave your options open and do what is best for you.

Much Love,

Karen in Virginia

grandmallie

Morning ladies
Slept pretty well..today I do laundry and get the Flu and covid shots.. and thats the extent of the day.. depending on the effects of the shots.. yes keeping your arm moving helps alot.

LisaInArkansas

Goals for September:

✅ - Be lighter: I was 170 on the first of September and 168 this morning. I dropped down as far as 160 this month, but those sharp drops are always followed by sharp gains, as well. The last few years have taught me, finally, some equilibrium about the scale and its impact on my day-to-day mood.
✅ - Be healthier: I did what I call "intentional exercise" three times this week. Not yard work or housework, but dancing on an aerobics step and as of yesterday, starting to lift some free weights.
✅ - Stick to the budget: We did well in September, no unexpected massive expenses.

My October goals remain the same - be lighter, be healthier, and stick to the budget. For the new folks with us, setting specific, numbered goals was one of the things I decided to stop doing when I found myself feeling that I was a failure if I only lost a pound, or if we went over the budget by just a few dollars or I ate a calorie past my limit. When I backed off of beating myself up about these things, it removed a lot of the stress and negative self-talk. Lots of peace in that.

The cool mornings and warm afternoons of early fall are here! So lovely to sleep with windows open all night...

Later, y'all,
Love,
Lisa

SophieRosieMom

wizzywig wrote: »

Thanks Barbie for setting us up for a new month. Welcome October.

Barbara I like your October goal to fuel better. I aim to do better myself in eating more protein and veggies and definitely less sugar.

At my health check yesterday, I found out I have high blood pressure, I've been advised to take my blood pressure twice a day and send the results to my GP. I had blood taken, and the results should be ready in a week. I am overweight for my height, (I knew this already) hence the plan to fuel better in October. I should get a printout of everything discussed and need to make an appointment with my GP in a week or two to discuss the blood pressure readings. I'm hoping not to have to go onto Statins (which the healthcare assistant thought was normal for my age group!)

It's my friend's birthday in October and she has invited our group to a party at her house. She has also invited the husbands as well, I'm not sure if I want to go. I know I shouldn't feel this way, but it hurts to see them as happy couples having fun, when I miss my DH so much. Am I a bad friend?

Better get a move on.

Love to all
Viv UK

Viv - Yes, I bet you'll get better BP readings at home. I'm always sky-high at the doc's office but normal (with the help of a mild BP pill) at home. I send my readings to the doc every month or two.

Even when my DH was alive and healthy, he was "anti-social" in his later years so I'd attend events alone if I felt like going. Having my own transportation and driving alone was key - when I was ready to go, no waiting on someone. Generally, I was glad I went. I agree with others - you aren't a "bad friend" if you don't want to go. But if you want to pop your head in a for a bit, you might find a lot of folks very glad to see you.

You might also find older ladies getting you in a corner and wondering how you are coping with being a widow. Concern about your welfare, yes, but they see that possibility in their own future and are curious about how to prepare. It even happened to me yesterday with a store clerk I chat with! I told her - make sure you have a will, financial and medical powers of attorney, etc. Take as much stress off beforehand if you can. It's not always easy if spouses have determined they are going to live forever and don't want to bother.

Annemarie - I feel so fortunate to have worked and lived in this community for decades. So I don't have to look very far to find someone to meet for lunch if I want. Our local gym has a lot of "Silver & Fit" and "Silver Sneakers" classes, that several of my Master Gardener acquaintances and former co-workers attend. They even have once a month "snack" events there, lol. Not sure if they bring carrot sticks or cookies.

Here in WA State, it seems most of the Medicare insurance plans cover the membership.

It's a good place renew old friendships and find new friends. Just an idea when you are able to get out more and are looking for some company.

And the Master Gardeners attracted a lot of retirees. There's a volunteer requirement for working in a demonstration garden that I eventually couldn't keep up with due to extra work I needed to do around our place, but I know it was waived for some who had physical limitations.

Katla - great news about your DH coming home! Sounds like he's getting great care and the medical/ rehab services in the area are top-notch.

Heather - Happy Birthday!

Lanette
SW WA State

pipcd34

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KJLaMore

Good morning all! Happy October! First, a big THANK YOU to Barbie for leading us into another month of companionship!
In reading these first few posts of October, I just have to say, I love you ladies! To have a group of friends who put their hearts and thoughts up for others to see and glean this vast quantity of experiences and knowledge; just astonishing and it truly makes me feel like the luckiest person to know all of you (even if it is through an online group). I feel like I could show up in your town and meet any of you for a walk, chat, or coffee and would be welcomed. I have found, coming though the covid shutdowns, aging and caring for a spouse that I need to be home with quite often, and working a job out of my home (all things have been very isolating); I value those times I can get out of my house, and I value those moments when I can't and am able to find all of you, right here, just a few strikes of some keys away. Sending you all the biggest of hugs!
Machka- My DH is very fair skinned (as was his mother) and freckly. I have begun "mapping" his freckles and moles each year. I do this every September. I have also begun taking pictures with my phone. He does the same for me, although I am darker complected, and so far have no skin issues. His mother and aunt, both have had to have moles and areas biopsied, removed and treated for skin cancer. He doesn't like to wear sunscreen (he doesn't like the feel of it); whereas I go through large quantities of it every summer. Even though I don't usually burn, I kind of look at it more as "wrinkle prevention".
Lanette- I love the boundaries diagram! I see myself with others in a few of those! The bottom row is how I am with my own children. There are three others in the upper left corner that I use with my DH. lol It is funny how different people cause us to take different boundary approaches. The last one in the second row, is the one most used on me by my DH. He often tells me how he feels and what he is going through, and my brain (and mouth) always jump in to save the day. AND that is not what he wants; it is taking me a long time to realize that he is just talking things through and venting and not looking for answers from me. In other words, I need to shut up. lol
Rosemarie- It is funny that you mention the difficulty in "making friends" as we get older. I think it seems harder, because we have an established set of likes, dislikes, expectations, and desires in friendship. Sometimes I think it is easier to move into friendships if you begin with a common interest. A club, a class, an exercise/walking group. Is there a local social media page you can check for community projects/groups? Or a page you could even put your heart/wish out there for people of similar desire to meet, walk, chat? I think you would find there are a great number of people that are looking for that type of connection. Sometimes I think our mental health would be so much better if we just did what children do; find a playground, walk up to the first kid we see and say "Do you want to....(play tag)?" Then just do it. So many times, my kiddos and I have left the playground only to have one of them turn to the unknown child they have been playing with and say, "I have to go home, now. Maybe I will see you here, next time I come. What is your name?" lol
Pip- Whoot! Whoot! on the jersey and medal! I love the colors of the jersey and the gear shape of the medal! You are a rockstar fundraiser! Your knickknack makeover is adorable!
Well, on my to do list this weekend. I have about two hours of housework, two hours of yard work, two hours of paperwork, grocery shopping, mattress shopping, and DH. Until DH sees a doctor and is on meds that make it easier for him to get up and move around unassisted (fingers crossed he will improve to that level) my away from the house errands will have to wait until he is up and moving each day. I am okay with that; he would do the same for me. My DYS is up north (Leelanau peninsula) camping and trying to get some night sky pics. I am very proud of him and his new found ability to travel solo. I think covid really pushed him out there. The prices for airline tickets dropped and due to resorts and other places being closed; it pushed him into the "camping and hiking" arena. He has met up with many local nature photographers and is getting quite good at landscape and sky pics. He now has a second "test" to take for this position with DTE. The test isn't until mid October. His score on this test will determine whether he is hired in nearby GR or Traverse City (which is near the Leelanau peninsula). He is hoping for TC. I want whatever he wants, of course.
Anyway, time for me to get busy. Sending love and hugs to all! ttfn xoxoxox KJ (Kelly)