WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2022
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The reason why I posted that meme for the feel good challenge (breaking the rules here! ) is because that is so me! Hate it if people sit on my side of the sofa. And they have to take their shoes off. (I have hotel slippers for them) When I read it I had such a rush of relief that I am not the only one! The added comments were funny too, like "when exactly are you leaving?" Soooooo me! I also specify the exact hour of breakfast. I giggled for ages.
Strangely, people seem to enjoy themselves and think I am a great hostess.
My DSIL is happy to take a LFT before they arrive. This evening I feel really tired , despite a nap. Hope I'm not going down with something.
Nothing on TV tonight, so I will be upstairs with my tablet and Kindle.
For anyone finding small things getting in the way of marital harmony, I highly recommend the Gottmman books. Tiny things make a huge difference. They have a new one coming out in a couple of days.
Turning towards 'bids' for connection is really important and lots of positive reinforcement. Touch and compliments. Small, things, but I neglected it in my first marriage.
I remember once, being on a course, and the challenge was not to criticise your partner for the week. I well remember my then husband turning to me and saying, 'You know, I'm feeling so much better.' Whoops!
Heather , always learning in the UK..xxxxxxxx4 -
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TO THE women WHO IS SLOWLY FADING AWAY...
To the women who has lost their spark.
To the people whose get up and go, has well and truly gone.
This is for you.
This is to remind you, that you don’t have to be everything to everyone, every day.
You didn’t sign up for that.
Remember when you used to laugh? Sing?
Throw caution to the wind?
Remember when you used to forgive yourself more quickly for not always being perfect.
You can get that back again.
You really can.
And that doesn’t have to mean letting people down or walking away.
It just means being kinder to you, feeling brave enough to say no sometimes.
Being brave enough to stop sometimes.
And rest.
It starts the moment you realise that you’re not quite who you used to be.
Some of that is good, some of that is not.
There are parts of you that need to be brought back.
And if anyone in your life is not okay with that… they are not your people. Your people will be glad to see that spark starting to light up again.
So, if you have been slowly fading away my friend, this is the time to start saying yes to things that bring you joy and no to things that don’t.
It’s really pretty simple
Found this on Facebook.. thought it was spot on.. cool and rainy here..
Tom and Elena just got home I guess,
I give Miles another week or so and that boy will be running all over the house.. he is walking holding one hand.. and pretty soon all bets will be off.4 -
Hmm. I bought pork neck bones figuring they would make decent soup. Threw them in some water with carrot and onion and a pinch of salt. My parents don't like garlic or spices, such a shame. I guess I will let it simmer for an hour or two and then add some canned white beans and call it soup. I probably should have browned the meat and onion first, maybe next time. I have forgotten my old recipes cooking bland stuff for my parents. Oh well they seem to like it.
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Allie ~ I think you are blessed that Miles is still into taking naps. When I kept my two grands, getting them to take naps was almost impossible. The GD would keep going like the mad until she finally fell over flat on the floor and just gave out.
I like the quote you found on Facebook. I need to forgive myself for continuing to feel bad about not having the energy I once had.
Carol in GA5 -
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Yes today was a real blessing ,he slept from around 7:30 to 10 and then got up and had some fresh fruit and water,and his milk and puffs and daddy took a 1/2 day so he got home a few minutes before mom..
His new thing is to climb under the dining table lol.4 -
Allie ~ I think you are blessed that Miles is still into taking naps. When I kept my two grands, getting them to take naps was almost impossible. The GD would keep going like the mad until she finally fell over flat on the floor and just gave out.
I like the quote you found on Facebook. I need to forgive myself for continuing to feel bad about not having the energy I once had.
Carol in GA
with all of my daycare kids- nap time was a must!! For them and for me. having them up to 12 hrs a day I needed that break. They didn't have to sleep but they did have to lay down quietly(and almost all of them slept every day, even when they said they weren't tired. I would put a Disney movie on, have them on their blankets with the lights off- slept for a couple hours. They knew the routine from the day they started. After lunch they had to go lay down. They would get up at 3 for snack then play until their parents came in. When I had the triplets, they were here 11 hours a day, 5 days a week, starting at 3 months old. When they stopped coming at almost 6 yrs old, they still had to lay down and rest during nap time.
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Talked to the wellness coach- Very nice but no real idea how to help me. She wants me to go talk to a registered dietician to see if there is something I need to change. She said the amount of exercise I am getting and the amount is ok, maybe a little low but that will be up to the dietician to determine.
She did say bad sleep can effect weight loss so gave me a few things to try. I was surprised to hear that I should cut out caffeine 12 hrs before I want to go to sleep- I had been stopping at 2-3pm and going to bed 10-11. Also told me to change my phone to "night shift" mode(mine has night light, think it is the same thing) in the evenings.
Have to have my regular doctor send in a referral for the dietician
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Cool and rainy here today. So nice to go outside and smell clean, fresh air not stale, smokey stuff that made me cough. Dog is not happy however since she had to wear her raincoat.
I got my sitting room closet rearranged today and sorted through some of my yarn. Now I have space to put the Christmas wrap and some other things in there to free up storage in the library. I ended up with quite a bit of my mother's stuff when she died and have been slowly getting rid of most of it. I still have some things that need to be sent to my brother and sister. I would like for those to go before we have company for Thanksgiving.
Katla - I am sorry you are having such a hard time just now. Hope things improve soon.
Rebecca - wish they would speed things up for you. You sound miserable.
Everyone take care, Sue in WA3 -
This may b our last trip with Bette8 -
Pip- oh no why is that? I thought you guys loved camping..0
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LisaInArkansas wrote: »We've been together 14 years this month, and married for 13, and have to say, this isn't my favorite phase so far. Like my sister told me many years ago, "Do not EVER pray for patience, because the good Lord doesn't give you patience. He gives you the opportunity to LEARN patience." I guess I'm learning.
Later, y'all,
Love,
Lisa
Yeah, I don't think I'm ever going to pray for patience again.
My husband and I have known each other for 19 years, have been married for 14 years, and have lived together for 13 years.
We had our ups and downs in that time. Both very independent people = a certain degree of volatility. But we loved our long distance cycling and travel and helped each other through some difficult times (bushfire, DVT, living off the grid for a year, etc.)
But 4.5 years ago everything changed when he had his accident.
I'm married to a different person now, although there are still a few elements of who he was before.
However, I have to be so patient with him and our overall situation.
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dlfk202000 wrote: »Talked to the wellness coach- Very nice but no real idea how to help me. She wants me to go talk to a registered dietician to see if there is something I need to change. She said the amount of exercise I am getting and the amount is ok, maybe a little low but that will be up to the dietician to determine.
She did say bad sleep can effect weight loss so gave me a few things to try. I was surprised to hear that I should cut out caffeine 12 hrs before I want to go to sleep- I had been stopping at 2-3pm and going to bed 10-11. Also told me to change my phone to "night shift" mode(mine has night light, think it is the same thing) in the evenings.
Have to have my regular doctor send in a referral for the dietician
Do you weigh and log your food?
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grandmallie wrote: »Pip- oh no why is that? I thought you guys loved camping..
Mom called a couple of days ago, we will be inheriting her 2 dogs. Bette is too small to accommodate 2 more kids. Kirby found a bigger trailer that still can fit in the garage and we will be able to take those too. Thankfully they are smaller than yogi and they have met and get along with him. We will also have to get a bigger car to pull a bigger trailer… it’s only money right? Ughhh. I’ll post pics once I get them
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We're home from our weekly Sunday morning grocery pickup. On the ay we stopped to drop off our ballots. I love that we can vote by mail.
Our local council elections here are entirely by post or drop off at the council offices. We posted ours last week. I like that we can do that too.
M in Oz
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❤️ My husband is in the hospital and I am worried. I hope to see him tomorrow. I pray that he will be ok. Our daughter wants to talk to the nurse. I want to spend time with my husband.8
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So it turns out we are staying home for our entire holiday. We have had an incredible amount of rain in the northern part of the state with even more rain coming this week. There has been all sorts of flooding, roads are still closed and more will likely be closed when the rain starts tomorrow. The police are recommending no non-essential travel at all throughout the state.
But that's OK!
Machka in Oz
One of the reasons that it is OK we're staying home is that I have more time to work on my dry stream (if it doesn't get too wet in all the rain) AND I've started working on my home office.
My home office is the smallest bedroom in our house and when I say small, I do mean small. It's also the most cluttered room in the house. It's become the place we put stuff when we don't know what else to do with it. I would like to turn it into something more useful. It's very small, but still ...
Underneath all the clutter are stack and drawers of paper: documents neatly filed in a filing cabinet (buried by stuff), binders full of university notes, boxes full of other mail and whatnot that has made it way in. Ideally, I'd like to toss what I don't need anymore, scan what I do need a copy of (and toss the paper) and file what I need to keep for a decade or whatever.
My home office has also spilled out to the dining room area where my chair and laptop is (and several file boxes of paper) so it will have to be included in this organisational attempt.
I walked into the room and wondered where on earth to start.
So I reached out and touched the first thing ... and the next thing ... and the next thing ...
It's been like a game of pick-up sticks. Pick up something without knocking the whole pile over.
But it has begun.
Machka in OzKetoneKaren wrote: »Machka - My mom died about 20 years ago. She had a lot of belongings, but there was only one truly disorganized area in the house, a small office/breezeway between the house and the added-on garage. Every time I walked into the room, I turned right around and went to find something else to work on. Then my older brother came to pick up some items, and he offered to help with the cluttered room - his method was simple: we started in one corner, he worked counter-clockwise, I worked clockwise, and when we met we were done. It was a particularly good method for clearing out our disorganized, cluttered space. We stayed out of each other's way, consulted when needed, and were both motivated to keep going by the other person's industriousness. If I were doing an office clean out where the goal was to organize rather than clear out the space, I might use another method, but in either case, getting a clear corner or wall space is a psychological boost.
Katla, I, too, am glad your health is being looked after. And I am glad your husband is stable after his procedure. (((Hugs))) to you both.
Karen in Virginia
I've wanted a second person to help me with this for some time, but a second person has not materialised so I'm on my own.
However, my first step was to go through the biggest pile of .... basically ... whatever. Some of it belongs downstairs or elsewhere, some of it needs shredding for mulch, some of it was my cycling stuff. I hadn't realised so much of my cycling stuff was in there.
Now I'm onto the sort things into meaningful piles stage. All my cycling stuff is in one pile. University notes are going into another pile which I'll flip through at some stage (soon) and will shred most of it. Brain injury stuff is going into another pile.
Travel stuff ... I'm torn on this one. I'm a collector of brochures and information pages from places we've been. I probably don't need to keep all that because things change and most of it is available online now. Plus if something is a particularly important memory I can scan or photograph it. But maps ... I have a massive quantity of maps. I love maps. I pour over maps. My initial inclination is to keep all the maps ... but I do have a massive quantity of them and they take up space.
Anyway ... I'm pleased with my progress so far.
Machka in Oz2 -
We're home from our weekly Sunday morning grocery pickup. On the ay we stopped to drop off our ballots. I love that we can vote by mail.
Our local council elections here are entirely by post or drop off at the council offices. We posted ours last week. I like that we can do that too.
M in Oz
I love vote by mail. I spend so much more time studying the issues and can really think about my ballot and how I want to vote. I know I could do that if I had to go to a polling booth, but it's not quite as stress-free as sitting at my dining room table and carefully filling out my ballot. We have motor-voter in Oregon, as well, so as soon as you get your driver's license, even if you are under 18, you are pre-registered to vote, and as soon as you turn 18, your registration is activated and you will receive a ballot. My 16 year old isn't planning to get a driver's license any time soon, so he is filling out a form to pre-register so that when he turns 18, just two weeks before the next presidential election, he will be able to vote. He is already so excited to participate in our democratic process. He pours over the voter pamphlets to be sure that he is up on the issues. It's very encouraging.
Flea
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❤️ My husband is in the hospital and I am worried. I hope to see him tomorrow. I pray that he will be ok. Our daughter wants to talk to the nurse. I want to spend time with my husband.
I know this is so difficult for both of you. I pray that he will recover and be able to join you soon.
Flea
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