WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2023

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  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,894 Member
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  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,390 Member
    March, 2023 Action for happiness.org

    Word of the year: Appreciate : today I appreciate blackberries.
    Exercise goals added
    Yoga 10 mins 3 times a week 7/15-(100%,100%)
    Walk 7,000 every day 12/31 (84%,86%,)
    Arm weights twice a week 3/10 (100%, 60%hurt my elbow, hurt my shoulder)
    Meditation: daily. 9/31 (82%(started Feb))

    1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 8/8–(100%,100%)
    2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 9484, 9104 (7,700,100%-9851,100%)
    3. Update budget every 2 weeks 1/2 —(100%,100%)
    4. Contact close family every week (4x) 9/158/ —(100%,100%)
    5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)25/64–(100%,100%)
    6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2—(100%,100%)
    7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 10/20-(100%,88%)
    8. Read 12 books at least this year. 8/12 (100%,100%)
    9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR——3/12—(100%.100%,100%)
    10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71(100%,100%,100)
    Decided that if I do more than stated I will not grade higher than 100% 2/5/23

    January Met —100%
    February met —-90%
    March met met
    April met
    May met
    June met
    July met — met
    August met
    September met
    October met —
    November met—
    December met—



    1. Set an intention to live with awareness and kindness. I intend to live with more awareness and kindness every day.
    2. Notice three things you find beautiful in the outside world. The blue water of Lea Lake, Snow on the mountains at a distance, walking a nature trail. All at Bottomless Lakes State Park.
    3. Start today by appreciating your body and that you are alive. I am healthy and above ground. I can walk,talk,hear, see, taste, and smell (mostly). I appreciate that I alive and have a healthy body.
    4. Notice how you speak to yourself and choose to use kind words. I will try…
    5. Bring to mind people you care about and send love to them. I sent texts to my long distance friends to send them love.
    6. Have a ‘no plans’ day and notice how that feels. Most days are like that for me. So much less stress!
    7. Take three calm breaths at regular intervals during your day. Sounds like a plan.
    8. Eat mindfully. Appreciate the taste, texture and smell of your food. Started at breakfast.
    9. Take a full breath in and out before you reply to others. I will need to keep this in the front of my mind all day.
    10. Get outside and notice how the weather feels on your face. Every day!
    11. Stay fully present while drinking your cup of tea or coffee. In the process of doing that right now!
    12. Listen deeply to someone and really hear what they are saying. I will have to really try to get this done today.
    13. Pause to watch the sky or clouds for a few minutes today. I love doing this!
    14. Find ways to enjoy any chores or tasks that you do. I made a necessary task to go for a liver scan enjoyable by buying lunch for myself for a change.
    15. Stop. Breathe. Notice. Repeat regularly. I really need to do this today!
    16. Get really absorbed with an interesting or creative activity.
    17. Look around and spot three thing you find unusual or pleasant.
    18. If you find yourself rushing, make an effort to slow down.
    19. Appreciate nature around you wherever you are.
    20. Focus on what makes you and others happy today.
    21. Listen to a piece of music without doing anything else.
    22. Notice something that is going well, even if today feels difficult.
    23. Tune into your feelings, without judging or trying to change them.
    24. Appreciate your hands and all the things they enable you to do.
    25. Focus your attention on the good things you take for granted.
    26. Choose too spend less times looking at screens today.
    27. Cultivate a feeling of loving-kindness towards others today.
    28. Notice when you are tired and take a break as soon as possible.
    29. Choose a different route today and see what you notice.
    30. Mentally scan your body and notice what you are feeling.
    31. Discover the joy in the simple things of life.
    Barbie's Happiness Commandments

    Be Barbie
    Lighten up
    Do it now
    Dance more
    Choose strategy over willpower
    Cultivate an attitude of gratitude
    Come from a place of love
    Stay in the moment
    Act the way you want to feel
    Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good
    Don't expect praise or recognition
    It is what it is
    Don't take things personally
    Treat yourself like a toddler
    What's fun for other people may not be fun for you, and vice versa
    You can choose what you do, but you can't choose what you like
    Be kind, no exceptions
    Ask always, how could my life be better with less?

    RVRita
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,306 Member
    Lanette, my knee brace is a Bracoo adjustable compression knee patellar tendon support brace from Amazon for $16. It has no metal, and supports the kneecap really well. Instead of a sleeve, it has three long straps that wrap around your leg so the fit is very adjustable. Let me try to post a picture here ..
    Hmm. Well that's not working. You can look it up on Amazon though. Good luck with your knee. Do you have a diagnosis? My issue is my kneecap doesn't sit right.

    Annie in Delaware
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,703 Member
    edited March 2023
    Lanette, my knee brace is a Bracoo adjustable compression knee patellar tendon support brace from Amazon for $16. It has no metal, and supports the kneecap really well. Instead of a sleeve, it has three long straps that wrap around your leg so the fit is very adjustable. Let me try to post a picture here ..
    Hmm. Well that's not working. You can look it up on Amazon though. Good luck with your knee. Do you have a diagnosis? My issue is my kneecap doesn't sit right.

    Annie in Delaware

    Annie - thank you! I looked it up. It looks ideal - I'll send a link to my doc and see what she thinks. She'll prob tell me to come see her, which is fine. I get to see videos of her gorgeous twin boys, 1 1/2, getting into mischief. Miles x 2.

    No diagnosis, I figure it's tendonitis - I've had it before. Normally my knee "snaps" when I first get up, but the past few days it doesn't which tells me there's a little swelling.

    I went ahead and did a short "power walk" (at a fairly rapid clip with small hand weights to up cardio) with new shoes, and it seems that helped a bit since they have good cushioning.

    Lanette B)
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,294 Member
    edited March 2023
    Mary We went to one of those presentations on trusts to get us started. I would recommend rather than go with the law firm they recommend in the presentation is to find one by word of mouth. The first law firm did not follow through and put our main residence into our trust. I did not realize it for a few years. When we went with a different law firm it came out. I contacted the old law firm and nothing was done. I think the presentation is worth going to because they explain how a trust can keep an estate out of probate. Another point I learned if you own properties in more than one state unless the properties are in your trust you may end up in probate in two states.

    Good to see Shep!

    Kim when my mom was in a nursing home I learned the hard way to buy her clothes at Goodwill or Salvation Army. At first I bought nicer things at a department store. Because I was not there I live in Minnesota and she was in Missouri she had to rely on their laundry service. Clothes went missing and were often ruined by how they had to wash her clothes. I still was able to find nice things for her to wear but at a fraction of the price and if they got lost or ruined it did not upset me so much. Easy on tops and pants worked best no turtlenecks or deep V's.

    (((Rosemarie)))

    I have mentioned this book before "Beauty in Broken Places" is another book I found spoke to me when I was going through a tough time. It is a story about a woman whose young husband in early thirties had a stroke in an airplane when they were on their way to a Babycation.
  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
    edited March 2023
    Thanks ladies for the remarks on the picture of Shep. Also, all the information on end of life is vital for everyone on here. I’m not familiar with any of it, so I appreciate you talking about it!

    Margaret thanks for the information! We definitely are just going to go to hear what they have to say at this point. And thanks for the heads up on owning property in two states because we do. We just have no idea what a trust is so we definitely need schooling!

    💕 Mary from Arizona/Minnesota
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,072 Member
    Sunny but chilly morning here. My crocus have come up and there are at least a dozen this year. They are the most beautiful shade of purple. At first we had only 2 but they have continued to multiply each year. We had no idea they existed until we had been living here a couple of years but we pulled out a huge barberry bush and the next year the crocus came up near where the bush had been.

    Rosemarie - glad the service went well. Continued thoughts sent your way.

    I have done some work on organizing things so that they will be easier for my children when the time comes but need to finish it up.

    KJ - hard to believe how much those boys have grown.

    Allie - safe travels and have fun.

    Everyone take care, Sue in WA
  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,657 Member
    Kim ~ I really admire you for all you are doing for your mom! I pray that her stay with you will lead to a good outcome and she will be able to return home and live independently.

    Kelly ~ I also admire you for so many reasons! Your care for your husband's needs shows how compassionate and thoughtful you are. Happy birthday to Joaquin (sp?).

    Rosemarie ~ You have been given great advice from the ladies here about this new phase of your life you are moving through. Take care.

    Heather ~ The time you and Johnny devote to the grands is great. The crafts, games, and experiences you provide will last with them forever.

    Allie ~ Have a safe trip.

    Tracey ~ Hope your family will be able to get your mother-in-law out of the mess created as a result of her husband's untimely death.

    Carol in GA

  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,789 Member
    edited March 2023
    Carol - What was interesting today was the chat around the craft. Edie is a bit of a perfectionist, and will give up if it's not perfect. We had some interesting discussions on 'Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good '. In the end she persevered with her task and I think she was glad she finished, even though it was a bit of a mess! I also think it was good for her to see DH trying to do something he had never done before. Much better than me doing it well. I tried to draw Bea, and it came out looking like a teenager. I said I was trying it because I was no good at life drawing, especially faces, so I wanted to try. Edie said, "Good for you!"
    Having battled all my life with crippling perfectionism, I think these lessons are really important.
    I was happy for Bea to take time out because I could see she was still tired from yesterday. Normally, she has amazing application.
    They still had a whole afternoon of art ahead of them. :o:o:*

    I was absolutely knackered after they left. Cooking three different lunches and clearing up an art studio! Glitter everywhere! I slept for over an hour.

    Yesterday DDIL asked us to have all three for a day in the Easter holidays so she could go up to London. I blenched at the idea, so my son said he would arrange some course for the girls. They know I find three at once hard. Fortunately, my diary said that DH has his first day of the cricket season that day, so it was not possible anyway. :) Max kept saying, "I'm sorry to be a nuisance, ", but I explained that he wasn't the problem. So now the girls will be doing something, and I am going to hang out with Max for some of the day and go out with him for fish and chips for lunch. Perfect! :p

    My son and DDIL are under a lot of stress with the building work and enormous expenditure. Edie has stomach migraines. They have taken on a lot, but I would never say, "I told you so." !!!!!! We want to do as much as we can to help, without compromising our own equanimity.
    Tomorrow Edie gets her turn to be a zookeeper for the day! It's her delayed Christmas present. It's a one to one experience and the zoo is booking now for November! Hoping for photos when my son remembers.

    Love from Heather UK, in the thick of it. Xxxxxxxx
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,953 Member
    Okay - so far the tofu is a stone bust, my only reaction is blerrrgh. Not from the taste, but the texture. I've got the drained, pressed and patted dry cubes in the air fryer (coated in corn starch and a little salt and oil) for ten more minutes, and maybe I'll try a couple with the miso. The soy sauce was a NO. Ah well, you never know if you don't try, right?

    Trying to decide what to try next...

    Love y'all,
    Lisa in AR
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,357 Member
    Stats for the day-

    Walk w/family- 1hr 52min, 95elev, 3.23ap, 92ahr, 112mhr, 6.10mi= 575c
    Strava app = 748c
    Walk home to gym- 10.05min, .53mi= 59c
    Strava app= 66c
    Lateral machine- 20min, 5resist, 10w, 104ahr, 133mhr, 9laps, 2.11mi= 145c
    Elliptical machine- 24.50min, 5resist, 5incl, 126ahr, 153mhr, 2mi= 219c
    Walk gym to store then home- 17.04min, .86mi= 86c
    Strava app= 105c

    Total cal 1084
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,262 Member
    edited March 2023
    Lanette- this is the type of knee brace I have used in the past. Thankfully they are feeling really good lately.

    https://www.amazon.com/Avalanche-Studios-Brace-Support-Large/dp/B09RGYPMZB/ref=sr_1_4?crid=21OGCQQCL5BRR&keywords=knee+braces+for+knee+pain+women&qid=1678915064&refinements=p_85:2470955011&rnid=2470954011&rps=1&sprefix=knee+brace,aps,285&sr=8-4&th=1


    Lisa- my dh is kind of like yours when it comes to leaving stuff when he is gone. He doesn't care because he will be gone, won't matter to him,(won't benefit him)
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,953 Member
    Mary - One last thing on trusts, in my conversation with the lawyer, he noted that trusts move with us, no matter which state we end up in. We don't have assets in another state, so that's one question you really need to get settled with the presenter.

    Margaret - I know it's horribly nosy, but why did you not want your home of residence to go into the trust? It's one of the things I want to make sure of, that the house goes into the trust, but am really interested in your answer. Feel free to tell me if it's too personal... :

    Finally got ahead of the pain, but am a little blurry from the fix for the pain. This too shall pass, and dinner is easy sneezy--Corey's meatloaf he made this weekend, with mashed potatoes, gravy and peas. None of which I will eat as is... But there is still quite a bit left of the spaghetti sauce I made out of part of the meatloaf on Monday, so will probably hot that up. Sounds really good, actually.

    Later y'all,
    Love,
    Lisa
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,306 Member
    Well, my eating plan crashed today. I was busy and skipped my two o'clock feeding, then had some of my parents food at six. It was half of a thick breaded and fried pork chop. I called it 350 calories for four ounces.

    Now I have to do extra exercise tonight to see if I can get back with the program. I probably wiped out any weight loss for weigh-in on Friday. Oh well. Lesson learned: no skipping my food plan.

    Annie in Delaware
  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
    Lisa thanks for the additional information on trusts! We do have assets in both Arizona and Minnesota now. Looking forward to Thursday’s presentation. I’m hoping to get information so that we can get everything done quickly!

    💕 Mary from Arizona/Minnesota

  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,703 Member
    dlfk202000 wrote: »

    Debbie - Thank you! Please tell me again why you were wearing it? Did you have damage from overuse, arthritis, ?? It looks like it likely stayed in place well with the strap.

    Lanette


  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,147 Member
    Reasonably good day.

    Continuing prayers for Destiny.

    Intentions for March:
    🔹Maintain weight < 140 (I have managed to stay at the lower end off the 140s)
    🔹Continue with Solid Habit development

    Intentions for today:
    📍Weekly grocery shop✔️
    📍Solid habits✔️
    📍general chores✔️
    📍work on crochet 💚
    📍work on A/cs and prep for groups✔️

    valiant nature
    banishing winter doldrums
    with vibrant colour

    Virtual (((hugs))) and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for all those those who need them.

    🙋‍♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.

    ☘️ Terri
    March Action for Happiness:
    1. Set an intention to live with awareness and kindness. I intend to live with awareness and kindness
    2. Notice three things you find beautiful in the outside world.Trees silhouetted against the sky; the appearance of snowdrops in spring; the sound of waves breaking on the shore.
    3. Start today by appreciating your body and that you are alive. I meditate on this each morning when I wake up, and am grateful for each new opportunity to have a good day.
    4. Notice how you speak to yourself and choose to use kind words. Positive affirmations are very powerful. Be kind to yourself, always.
    5. Bring to mind people you care about and send love to them. We chatted with our girls about other family members, and raised a glass to them.
    6. Have a ‘no plans’ day and notice how that feels. I will do this tomorrow (7th)
    7. Take three calm breaths at regular intervals during your day.Resisting the temptation to plan my day. Serendipity reigns today.
    8. Eat mindfully. Appreciate the taste, texture and email of your food. ✔️
    9. Take a full breath in and out before you reply to others. I’m a great advocate of deep breathing, and find this works well.
    10. Get outside and notice how the weather feels on your face.I wasn’t looking forward to going outside this morning as we had snow overnight and it seemed very cold. However, the sun shone in a clear blue sky, and the wind had dropped right down again, and I spent time with my eyes closed feeling the heat on my face before I went into the centre for Latin Study.
    11. Stay fully present while drinking your cup of tea or coffee. Always! Gives me calm thinking time.
    12. Listen deeply to someone and really hear what they are saying. When I tried to do this with DH this morning, he got distracted by a discussion on What the Papers Say on TV. 😝 However, we often have in-depth discussions, usually over lunc and dinner.
    13. Pause to watch the sky or clouds for a few minutes today. The sun was valiantly trying to break through rain clouds just after sunrise, but the forecast is for heavy showers, but I’m watching the blue patches in hope that it clears up.
    14. Find ways to enjoy any chores or tasks that you do.Doing the task isn’t the problem 😝 It’s getting started that’s difficult. I sometimes put on my favourite music, or listen to a podcast.
    15. Stop. Breathe. Notice. Repeat regularly. Having coffee after putting away the week’s groceries. There is pink blossom on my prunus purpurea, magnolia buds are beginning to colour up, tulips and daffodils in the containers outside the window are beginning to bloom. There are lots of little birds flitting about in the trees. Spring is doing its best to banish the winter cold. This is a regular joy in my life.
    16. Get really absorbed with an interesting or creative activity.
    17. Look around and spot three thing you find unusual or pleasant.
    18. If you find yourself rushing, make an effort to slow down.
    19. Appreciate nature around you wherever you are.
    20. Focus on what makes you and others happy today.
    21. Listen to a piece of music without doing anything else.
    22. Notice something that is going well, even if today feels difficult.
    23. Tune into your feelings, without judging or trying to change them.
    24. Appreciate your hands and all the things they enable you to do.
    25 Focus your attention on the good things you take for granted.
    26. Choose too spend less times looking at screens today.
    27. Cultivate a feeling of loving-kindness towards others today.
    28. Notice when you are tired and take a break as soon as possible.
    29. Choose a different route today and see
    what you notice.
    30. Mentally scan your body and notice what you are feeling.
    31. Discover the joy in the simple things of life.
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,262 Member
    dlfk202000 wrote: »

    Debbie - Thank you! Please tell me again why you were wearing it? Did you have damage from overuse, arthritis, ?? It looks like it likely stayed in place well with the strap.

    Lanette


    not sure why it acts up some times. It just starts hurting really bad for a week or so, wearing the brace really helps. It stays up really well, even during an hour of Zumba

    Debbie
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,357 Member
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  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,306 Member
    Hello ladies!

    I ate 1420 calories, a lot for me. Then I exercised for a final deficit of 117. We shall see whether I ruined my week at weigh-in on Friday.

    Annie in Delaware
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,557 Member
    Did Cardio Core Dynamic Core DVD. The plan for tomorrow is to do a Ttoal Body Strength Training DVD. After exercise stopped at Brevard Charities thrift store and got (another) blouse, then SPCA thrift store and got an outdoor extension cord. Not sure that we need it, but it was cheap enough and it looked to be in good condition. Then went to lady’s lunch. Pretty good, this place was an Asian/Mexican place.

    Spaceship Relativity (the 3D printed one) is now scheduled to go up on Monday. Unfortunately, after we leave. ANOTHER SpaceX is going up Friday.

    There’s going to be a condo board meeting tomorrow a.m. I’m surprised they’re having it so early. Well, they might have scheduled it before Relativity was scheduled for Monday. It was supposed to go up tomorrow at 1, but now it won’t. then vince wants to go to this pizza place. Not that I'm particularly looking forward to it. I'll check the menu online.

    Then Vince and I went for a walk around the parking lot. It was very windy so Vince didn’t go for much but I walked more. I also walked some on the treadmill since I wasn’t sure we’d get a walk in today since it is so windy and chilly.

    It’s supposed to be warmer tomorrow so maybe I’ll go to the pool and then cards at night

    Mary – Shep is looking real good, and so his his “friend”. How cool with that bit of red fur!

    Rosemarie – glad the service went as good as it can and you are now taking care of yourself. What strength you have! As much as Carol, even if she doesn’t think she does

    After lunch played mahjongg. I have a feeling that this will be the last time I can play here.

    Allie – have a great trip. At least you tried taking Miles for the story time, even if at this point he wasn’t crazy about it. Perhaps in a year or two

    Kelly – 6 years! Where did the time go????

    Beth – I heard a while ago that ice cream helped with migraines. To a certain extent, that makes sense, the ice cream causes brain freeze. Just never really found out if this was true or not

    Again I mentioned to Vince about how much I had in my “landscape fund”. He says I have less. I just said “I don’t know what you’ve done with my money, but you can see I’ve kept very detailed records”.
    We shall see what happens. I did tell him that when we get home, I want to sell his mother’s china. I know that he’s asked me not to since it means something to him. I just told him that I don’t use it and I can use some of that money to repay the pandemic money I should get. So that’s what I intend to do.

    Annie – I have a feeling that you didn’t wreck things for your weigh in. You’ve been at a deficit for so long. Sometimes it really helps to “trick” the body and once in a while eat over calories.

    Michele thinking about having to leave (boo)
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,690 Member
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    Lisa- my dh is kind of like yours when it comes to leaving stuff when he is gone. He doesn't care because he will be gone, won't matter to him,(won't benefit him)
    The older I get, the more determined I am to spare our children disposing of our worldly goods. My plan is to own no real estate, have nothing in storage, own only one vehicle, and continue to dispose of personal belongings as an ongoing endeavor. Slowly but surely, I am accomplishing this goal. It will probably be another 2 years before I am satisfied with the absolute amount of our stuff, but I will get there. The only “extra” items that will be left to deal with at that time, I hope, are photographs. My spouse works against me, ordering things from Amazon that we already have, and I have talked myself blue in the face about it, to no avail, so I have given up on it. We send a lot of stuff back or give things away. I’m not sure why she does it, but it isn’t worth angsting about.

    Karen in Virginia


    My feelings about my stuff are similar to your husbands' (Debbie and Lisa) .. when I'm gone, I will no longer care about it all. So I enjoy it now.

    My only concern is that my husband is taken care of. If I go before him, everything goes to him.

    Not that there is much.

    Similar to Karen, we have disposed of many of our worldly goods over the years. We own no real estate. We have nothing in storage. We have very little from each other's pasts.


    Machka in Oz
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,690 Member
    Well, my eating plan crashed today. I was busy and skipped my two o'clock feeding, then had some of my parents food at six. It was half of a thick breaded and fried pork chop. I called it 350 calories for four ounces.

    Now I have to do extra exercise tonight to see if I can get back with the program. I probably wiped out any weight loss for weigh-in on Friday. Oh well. Lesson learned: no skipping my food plan.

    Annie in Delaware

    Remember, it takes about 3500 calories to make up 1 pound.

    Machka in Oz
  • teklawa1
    teklawa1 Posts: 678 Member
    <3
    Betsy in NW WA