WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2023

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  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,789 Member
    LisaInArkansas wrote: »
    Okay - so far the tofu is a stone bust, my only reaction is blerrrgh. Not from the taste, but the texture. I've got the drained, pressed and patted dry cubes in the air fryer (coated in corn starch and a little salt and oil) for ten more minutes, and maybe I'll try a couple with the miso. The soy sauce was a NO. Ah well, you never know if you don't try, right?

    Trying to decide what to try next...

    Love y'all,
    Lisa in AR

    Putting teriyaki sauce and frying them is the only way I can eat it. I get the firm tofu.
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,246 Member
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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,593 Member
    Whidislander wrote: »
    LisaInArkansas wrote: »
    Okay - so far the tofu is a stone bust, my only reaction is blerrrgh. Not from the taste, but the texture. I've got the drained, pressed and patted dry cubes in the air fryer (coated in corn starch and a little salt and oil) for ten more minutes, and maybe I'll try a couple with the miso. The soy sauce was a NO. Ah well, you never know if you don't try, right?

    Trying to decide what to try next...

    Love y'all,
    Lisa in AR

    Putting teriyaki sauce and frying them is the only way I can eat it. I get the firm tofu.
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa

    About the only way I liked the firm tofu was when I used a pastry cutter to break it down into pieces that sort of look like mince, and then cooking it in a spaghetti sauce.

    M in Oz
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,593 Member
    So much fuss for such a small bite!

    But, as you can see in the photo, it is/was infected (the white area above the bite), and it is so close to tendons which could potentially become infected.

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    Machka in Oz
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,593 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    Lisa- my dh is kind of like yours when it comes to leaving stuff when he is gone. He doesn't care because he will be gone, won't matter to him,(won't benefit him)
    KetoneKaren wrote: »
    The older I get, the more determined I am to spare our children disposing of our worldly goods. My plan is to own no real estate, have nothing in storage, own only one vehicle, and continue to dispose of personal belongings as an ongoing endeavor. Slowly but surely, I am accomplishing this goal. It will probably be another 2 years before I am satisfied with the absolute amount of our stuff, but I will get there. The only “extra” items that will be left to deal with at that time, I hope, are photographs. My spouse works against me, ordering things from Amazon that we already have, and I have talked myself blue in the face about it, to no avail, so I have given up on it. We send a lot of stuff back or give things away. I’m not sure why she does it, but it isn’t worth angsting about.

    Karen in Virginia


    My feelings about my stuff are similar to your husbands' (Debbie and Lisa) .. when I'm gone, I will no longer care about it all. So I enjoy it now.

    My only concern is that my husband is taken care of. If I go before him, everything goes to him.

    Not that there is much.

    Similar to Karen, we have disposed of many of our worldly goods over the years. We own no real estate. We have nothing in storage. We have very little from each other's pasts.


    Machka in Oz

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  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,040 Member
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  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,251 Member
    edited March 2023
    Lisa you can keep the value of your home out of probate either by putting it into a trust or making someone the beneficiary of your property. A friend's family had their mother make one of the brothers the beneficiary. He died, and it was his only asset. He died with medical bills and now it is very difficult for my friend to sell the property that they have been paying the up keep and taxes because there is a lean on the property.

    When it is in a trust it becomes part of your estate and it does not have to go through probate. Probate can get expensive because of lawyer fees. My parents had a trust and it made settling their estate so much easier and cheaper than if it had gone through probate.

    If a property still has a mortgage or a reverse mortgage I am not sure how that would be handled as part of an estate. I do not know if the principal could become part of a trust.
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 18,997 Member
    edited March 2023
    I have a leisurely morning ahead, and then going to a quiz after lunch.

    Intentions for March:
    🔹Maintain weight < 140 (I have managed to stay at the lower end off the 140s)
    🔹Continue with Solid Habit development

    Intentions for today:
    📍Weekly grocery shop✔️
    📍Solid habits✔️
    📍general chores✔️
    📍work on crochet 💚
    📍work on A/cs and prep for groups✔️

    valiant nature
    banishing winter doldrums
    with vibrant colour

    Virtual (((hugs))) and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for all those those who need them.

    🙋‍♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.

    ☘️ Terri
    March Action for Happiness:
    1. Set an intention to live with awareness and kindness. I intend to live with awareness and kindness
    2. Notice three things you find beautiful in the outside world.Trees silhouetted against the sky; the appearance of snowdrops in spring; the sound of waves breaking on the shore.
    3. Start today by appreciating your body and that you are alive. I meditate on this each morning when I wake up, and am grateful for each new opportunity to have a good day.
    4. Notice how you speak to yourself and choose to use kind words. Positive affirmations are very powerful. Be kind to yourself, always.
    5. Bring to mind people you care about and send love to them. We chatted with our girls about other family members, and raised a glass to them.
    6. Have a ‘no plans’ day and notice how that feels. I will do this tomorrow (7th)
    7. Take three calm breaths at regular intervals during your day.Resisting the temptation to plan my day. Serendipity reigns today.
    8. Eat mindfully. Appreciate the taste, texture and email of your food. ✔️
    9. Take a full breath in and out before you reply to others. I’m a great advocate of deep breathing, and find this works well.
    10. Get outside and notice how the weather feels on your face.I wasn’t looking forward to going outside this morning as we had snow overnight and it seemed very cold. However, the sun shone in a clear blue sky, and the wind had dropped right down again, and I spent time with my eyes closed feeling the heat on my face before I went into the centre for Latin Study.
    11. Stay fully present while drinking your cup of tea or coffee. Always! Gives me calm thinking time.
    12. Listen deeply to someone and really hear what they are saying. When I tried to do this with DH this morning, he got distracted by a discussion on What the Papers Say on TV. 😝 However, we often have in-depth discussions, usually over lunc and dinner.
    13. Pause to watch the sky or clouds for a few minutes today. The sun was valiantly trying to break through rain clouds just after sunrise, but the forecast is for heavy showers, but I’m watching the blue patches in hope that it clears up.
    14. Find ways to enjoy any chores or tasks that you do.Doing the task isn’t the problem 😝 It’s getting started that’s difficult. I sometimes put on my favourite music, or listen to a podcast.
    15. Stop. Breathe. Notice. Repeat regularly. Having coffee after putting away the week’s groceries. There is pink blossom on my prunus purpurea, magnolia buds are beginning to colour up, tulips and daffodils in the containers outside the window are beginning to bloom. There are lots of little birds flitting about in the trees. Spring is doing its best to banish the winter cold. This is a regular joy in my life.
    16. Get really absorbed with an interesting or creative activity. Now, that has never been a problem for me. I have the ability to totally zone out distractions whenever I want to.
    17. Look around and spot three thing you find unusual or pleasant.
    18. If you find yourself rushing, make an effort to slow down.
    19. Appreciate nature around you wherever you are.
    20. Focus on what makes you and others happy today.
    21. Listen to a piece of music without doing anything else.
    22. Notice something that is going well, even if today feels difficult.
    23. Tune into your feelings, without judging or trying to change them.
    24. Appreciate your hands and all the things they enable you to do.
    25 Focus your attention on the good things you take for granted.
    26. Choose too spend less times looking at screens today.
    27. Cultivate a feeling of loving-kindness towards others today.
    28. Notice when you are tired and take a break as soon as possible.
    29. Choose a different route today and see
    what you notice.
    30. Mentally scan your body and notice what you are feeling.
    31. Discover the joy in the simple things of life.

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,593 Member
    kevrit wrote: »
    I am doing this Happiness calendar for March. Feel free to copy or simply use it if you’d like!

    March, 2023 Action for happiness.org
    RVRita
    1. Set an intention to live with awareness and kindness. I intend to live with more awareness and kindness every day.
    2. Notice three things you find beautiful in the outside world.

    Sky, sand and ocean
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    3. Start today by appreciating your body and that you are alive.

    Yesterday's 54 km bicycle ride and 5 km walk on the beach ...

    4. Notice how you speak to yourself and choose to use kind words.

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    5. Bring to mind people you care about and send love to them.

    :heart:

    6. Have a ‘no plans’ day and notice how that feels.

    The only plans we had yesterday was a stroll through a neighbouring arty town to look at the shops.

    7. Take three calm breaths at regular intervals during your day.

    I do box breathing at some point just about every day.

    8. Eat mindfully. Appreciate the taste, texture and smell of your food.
    :)

    9. Take a full breath in and out before you reply to others.
    Many times.

    10. Get outside and notice how the weather feels on your face.

    Afternoon walk ...

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    11. Stay fully present while drinking your cup of tea or coffee.

    Not so much today. But usually. :)

    12. Listen deeply to someone and really hear what they are saying.

    Haven't talked to anyone other than husband today.

    13. Pause to watch the sky or clouds for a few minutes today.

    Love watching the sky. :) Our house is especially well located for that, and at certain times of year, we get fantastic sunsets!

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    14. Find ways to enjoy any chores or tasks that you do.

    Laundry! I don't mind doing laundry. :)

    15. Stop. Breathe. Notice. Repeat regularly.

    That's about all I can do today. I haven't done anything which requires effort.

    I looked up the vaccine I had yesterday. Boostrix: diphtheria-tetanus-acellular pertussis (whooping cough). I am set for 10 years!

    But headache, tiredness, body aches, sore joints and nausea are common side effects ... which I am experiencing.

    My doctor also informed me that the antibiotic "cocktail" I've been prescribed will make me feel ill and give me a horrible taste in my mouth. But it is only for 5 days and should do the trick.


    16. Get really absorbed with an interesting or creative activity.

    I've been colouring these days because I'm not allowed to do much more. Fortunately, I enjoy colouring. :)

    I've also been putting away laundry and rearranging a closet.



    17. Look around and spot three thing you find unusual or pleasant.
    18. If you find yourself rushing, make an effort to slow down.
    19. Appreciate nature around you wherever you are.
    20. Focus on what makes you and others happy today.
    21. Listen to a piece of music without doing anything else.
    22. Notice something that is going well, even if today feels difficult.
    23. Tune into your feelings, without judging or trying to change them.
    24. Appreciate your hands and all the things they enable you to do.
    25. Focus your attention on the good things you take for granted.
    26. Choose too spend less times looking at screens today.
    27. Cultivate a feeling of loving-kindness towards others today.
    28. Notice when you are tired and take a break as soon as possible.
    29. Choose a different route today and see what you notice.
    30. Mentally scan your body and notice what you are feeling.
    31. Discover the joy in the simple things of life.

    Machka in Oz
  • minicooper452
    minicooper452 Posts: 644 Member
    Welcome newbies and returnees! (((hugs))) to those who need them.

    Heather, I understand what he was laughing about. I just made me angry for you that he would laugh at you wanting to know that you wanted to be able to take care of him. But if you can't make him understand that, then yeah, leave him on the doorstep and let him fend for himself. Let him laugh at that.
    You already have SPRING there?!? I'm so jealous! We're getting snow again today and tomorrow! I'm supposed to go out tonight with my MoMs and I'm in charge of picking up our cancer-MoM this month. We haven't seen her for several months and we all desperately want her to be able to get out and join us, so if it's not HORRIBLE, I'm going out to get her and bring her to our function!!!

    I just can't believe Miles wouldn't be up for anything, Allie! That's too bad. Well, you know what they say, try, try again. Maybe it was just a bad day. He's also a busy boy. Maybe he just doesn't like to sit and listen at his age yet. Have a wonderful trip!

    16. Get really absorbed with an interesting or creative activity... I'll try that later today.
    Love and Blessings, Carla, in MN
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,693 Member
    edited March 2023
    Carla- because we are coastal, we are gardening area 9. We did have a few frosts this year, but it was rather exceptional. No snow. Half hardy plants can get through the winter usually and spring starts in February. We are in full flow now.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,593 Member
    cityjaneLondon wrote: »
    Carla- because we are coastal, we are gardening area 9. We did have a few frosts this year, but it was rather exceptional. No snow. Half hardy plants can get through the winter usually and spring starts in February. We are in full flow now.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

    I looked it up, and Tasmania is in the same gardening zone.

    M in Oz
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,878 Member
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  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,590 Member
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  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,246 Member
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  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,301 Member
    Finished pg. 49.
    March, 2023 Action for happiness.org

    Word of the year: Appreciate : today I appreciate STAR WARS movies and series.
    Exercise goals added
    Yoga 10 mins 3 times a week 7/15-(100%,100%)
    Walk 7,000 every day 12/31 (84%,86%,)
    Arm weights twice a week 3/10 (100%, 60%hurt my elbow, hurt my shoulder)
    Meditation: daily. 10/31 (82%(started Feb))

    1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 8/8–(100%,100%)
    2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 9484, 9104 (7,700,100%-9851,100%)
    3. Update budget every 2 weeks 1/2 —(100%,100%)
    4. Contact close family every week (4x) 9/158/ —(100%,100%)
    5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)25/64–(100%,100%)
    6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2—(100%,100%)
    7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 10/20-(100%,88%)
    8. Read 12 books at least this year. 8/12 (100%,100%)
    9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR——3/12—(100%.100%,100%)
    10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71(100%,100%,100)
    Decided that if I do more than stated I will not grade higher than 100% 2/5/23

    January Met —100%
    February met —-90%
    March met met
    April met
    May met
    June met
    July met — met
    August met
    September met
    October met —
    November met—
    December met—



    1. Set an intention to live with awareness and kindness. I intend to live with more awareness and kindness every day.
    2. Notice three things you find beautiful in the outside world. The blue water of Lea Lake, Snow on the mountains at a distance, walking a nature trail. All at Bottomless Lakes State Park.
    3. Start today by appreciating your body and that you are alive. I am healthy and above ground. I can walk,talk,hear, see, taste, and smell (mostly). I appreciate that I alive and have a healthy body.
    4. Notice how you speak to yourself and choose to use kind words. I will try…
    5. Bring to mind people you care about and send love to them. I sent texts to my long distance friends to send them love.
    6. Have a ‘no plans’ day and notice how that feels. Most days are like that for me. So much less stress!
    7. Take three calm breaths at regular intervals during your day. Sounds like a plan.
    8. Eat mindfully. Appreciate the taste, texture and smell of your food. Started at breakfast.
    9. Take a full breath in and out before you reply to others. I will need to keep this in the front of my mind all day.
    10. Get outside and notice how the weather feels on your face. Every day!
    11. Stay fully present while drinking your cup of tea or coffee. In the process of doing that right now!
    12. Listen deeply to someone and really hear what they are saying. I will have to really try to get this done today.
    13. Pause to watch the sky or clouds for a few minutes today. I love doing this!
    14. Find ways to enjoy any chores or tasks that you do. I made a necessary task to go for a liver scan enjoyable by buying lunch for myself for a change.
    15. Stop. Breathe. Notice. Repeat regularly. I really need to do this today! Didn’t remember to do this.
    16. Get really absorbed with an interesting or creative activity. I have stones to paint. Will be distributing along the trails in exchange for free peddle boat and paddle board rentals.
    17. Look around and spot three thing you find unusual or pleasant.
    18. If you find yourself rushing, make an effort to slow down.
    19. Appreciate nature around you wherever you are.
    20. Focus on what makes you and others happy today.
    21. Listen to a piece of music without doing anything else.
    22. Notice something that is going well, even if today feels difficult.
    23. Tune into your feelings, without judging or trying to change them.
    24. Appreciate your hands and all the things they enable you to do.
    25. Focus your attention on the good things you take for granted.
    26. Choose too spend less times looking at screens today.
    27. Cultivate a feeling of loving-kindness towards others today.
    28. Notice when you are tired and take a break as soon as possible.
    29. Choose a different route today and see what you notice.
    30. Mentally scan your body and notice what you are feeling.
    31. Discover the joy in the simple things of life.
    Barbie's Happiness Commandments

    Be Barbie
    Lighten up
    Do it now
    Dance more
    Choose strategy over willpower
    Cultivate an attitude of gratitude
    Come from a place of love
    Stay in the moment
    Act the way you want to feel
    Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good
    Don't expect praise or recognition
    It is what it is
    Don't take things personally
    Treat yourself like a toddler
    What's fun for other people may not be fun for you, and vice versa
    You can choose what you do, but you can't choose what you like
    Be kind, no exceptions
    Ask always, how could my life be better with less?

    RVRita
  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,664 Member
    Have we lost Katla? Katla, if you're still around, we don't care what your username is. We know who you are and love and miss you.

    Flea
    Willamette Valley OR
  • Joy1580vb
    Joy1580vb Posts: 429 Member
    Been enjoying the posts. Lots of interesting comments regarding trusts/estates/wills, etc. Talked to DH and will be reviewing our wills with a lawyer this fall as we haven't looked at them for years. Time to update everything and make sure things are in order. Son knows where everything is kept (safety security box at bank) and that he is one of our executors along with my husband's brother. Going to change it to our son only as he is older now. Lives in a different province but am confident he will be able to handle everything himself.

    Enjoying that it is getting warmer (+13C this morning). Went out for a nice long walk with my dog and he certainly enjoyed it (border collie/lab cross). Went through the gardening seed catalogues and put in my order for this year's planting. Cutting back on my garden again this year as finding it too difficult to maintain but certainly enjoy the fresh veggies. Trying a small patch of corn which I haven't grown in the last couple of years as a bear had been coming in and harvesting it before I could get to it. Haven't seen signs of a bear last year so hoping it has moved out of our area.

    Where is Katia? Was following the saga about her username. Hopefully she checks in.

    Enjoy your day everyone.

    Joy
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    edited March 2023
    Heather. Why won’t Johnny cooperate? He doesn’t have to talk about croaking to provide you with passwords. A death mask might also be handy for facial recognition.
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,878 Member
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  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,246 Member
    Stats for the day-

    Walk w/family- 1hr 59min 2sec, 85ahr, 106mhr, 3.01ap, 74elev, 6.04mi= 580c
    Strava app = 740c
    Walk to store- *stopped short, ran into my brother *, 1hr12min 16sec, 23elev, 3.44ap, 93ahr, 115mhr, 4.16mi= 417c
    Strava app= 510c

    Total miles 10.2 mi

    Total cal 997
  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
    Vicki thanks. Lesson learned! We will either be more boisterous about the agenda or never invite anyone but our kids that we never have issues with. It’s too bad that your coworkers are going through a tough time with jobs being cut. That’s stressful to for everyone.

    Katla we hope you are doing well and can get back with us 💕

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