WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY 2023

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  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,356 Member
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  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,146 Member
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    Little boy today at daycare,and i stopped after getting xrays..
    He was outside mowing.. well he grabbed moms phone and walks off with it and had me cracking up because he puts it to his ear and says hiya and starts jabbering away..to to funny..
    Had dinner at Trudys then watched the movie at our Movie theater.. a Mel Brooks movie always a laugh..
    Xrays from what i can figure is mild osteoporosis in both hands,spine a little bit of a curve and other than that fairly well off some of the bloodwork still a few weeks out..
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,689 Member
    edited July 2023
    ginnytez wrote: »
    Rita-hope kidney infection responds to meds quickly. Happy to hear son seems to be leveling out. And Rita-we all have good days and bad days!
    Debbie-you certainly have a lot going on! Hope you can find balance during all of this.
    Annie-you will figure out the rest of the computer. More important than scale-can you notice a difference in the look and feel of clothes?
    Lanette-I like the parts of day concept. I also follow that a day is 24 hours and I can restart counting first hour whenever I chose! Typically a whole day isn't horrible but we focus on the part that was.
    Barbara-hate hearing fires are still going.
    Allie-it's a hard thing for a kid to not get some of the junk that is out there. They will face it at school and other places. I think if parents try to set a good foundation they can balance it out. My grandchildren are making some pretty smart choices with a bit of junk sprinkled in.

    I wear dresses to work (not all of the time) but for big meetings I usually do. On hot days they are also very comfortable. I either wear pantyhose or go bare legs-never done leggings.

    Latest health faux pas:
    So worked at food pantry last night and the heat and humidity got to me. Was standing there helping, sweating profusely and started feeling strange-kind of weak and woozy. Went and sat down, felt like I might pass out so I laid on bench. They wanted to call squad and I tried to explain I have had it before with my thyroid stuff and to give it a few minutes. Tried to get up to walk inside-nope-laid on grown fro a few before I fell. They brought me cold water and towels and after a few I could make it inside (with assistance). After sitting for a bit I was ok to drive home. There is a nurse in the group and she kept an eye on me and let them know I was responding well and no need for squad. Biggest effect is the spells wear me out-couldn't take off work today so I am dragging tonight! I didn't pay attention to the temperature or the humidity and take some of the steps I usually take (ice scarf, etc.). I am going to go in and watch tv in bed pretty soon and just rest.

    Off to relax. Take care all,

    Ginny in Ohio


    That does sound scary!

    You've been with your company for a while ... surely you've got sick leave???


    I have never found a pair of pantyhose that I've liked, and I've tried a whole bunch.
    If it's warm, they make me very itchy.
    They're never long enough. Even during the years I was down around 125 lbs, my leggy 5'6" self was too long for even the bigger queen-sized pantyhose. I have no hope now.
    They often cut me at the top of my thighs, as above, even in a queen-sized pair when I was slender, they cut me. I have no hope with them now.
    I've tried pantyhose tights with cotton to ease the itching ... they're not stretchy enough.

    My body must be weird.

    I just don't understand why they can't make a decent pair of pantyhose out of legging material.

    These are the leggings I use in winter:
    https://www.target.com.au/p/heat-innovation-long-john-thermal-pants-style-llj42474/67128006

    Smooth and silky: Acrylic/Viscose/Elastane


    Machka in Oz
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,892 Member
    grandmallie wrote: »
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    Little boy today at daycare,and i stopped after getting xrays..
    He was outside mowing.. well he grabbed moms phone and walks off with it and had me cracking up because he puts it to his ear and says hiya and starts jabbering away..to to funny..
    Had dinner at Trudys then watched the movie at our Movie theater.. a Mel Brooks movie always a laugh..
    Xrays from what i can figure is mild osteoporosis in both hands,spine a little bit of a curve and other than that fairly well off some of the bloodwork still a few weeks out..

    Cute pictures but I can see him just throwing that phone to the ground...😂🙃
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    WA
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,072 Member
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  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,258 Member
    GodMomKim wrote: »
    Hi Gals,

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    Debbie – thinking good thoughts for your MIL to move and be content. The place I am looking at for my mom is in the 8-9,000 a month without medical services but does have meals, cleaning and laundry for sheets and towels (they strip and remake the beds) which is all she needs. But getting her to say yes is crazy hard. She offered to give me $300 a month and move in here. That was a great BIG no. Honestly after the hell she put me through I am not sure I would do it for $8,000 LOL - I would like her to have the social aspect that she would get in the senior living environment.



    Kim in HOT N. California

    That is crazy that your mom thinks paying you $300 a month to live with you again would be ok.Your sanity is worth sooo much more.
    I told a friend that if MIL were to move in here(it would never happen- dh couldn't deal with 24/7 with her, I would move OUT.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,689 Member
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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,689 Member
    Whidislander wrote: »
    grandmallie wrote: »
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    Little boy today at daycare,and i stopped after getting xrays..
    He was outside mowing.. well he grabbed moms phone and walks off with it and had me cracking up because he puts it to his ear and says hiya and starts jabbering away..to to funny..
    Had dinner at Trudys then watched the movie at our Movie theater.. a Mel Brooks movie always a laugh..
    Xrays from what i can figure is mild osteoporosis in both hands,spine a little bit of a curve and other than that fairly well off some of the bloodwork still a few weeks out..

    Cute pictures but I can see him just throwing that phone to the ground...😂🙃
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    WA

    My thought too!
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,146 Member
    Well he didn't throw it on the ground he was good and just put it on the ground lol,thats why its moms phone and not mine lol.
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,147 Member

    Annie: Well done on the inch losses. All your exercise is paying off. Sounds like you’re building some muscle.
    Barbie: You are so right. We use the technology for so much.
    Lanette: 🫶the chickens.
    Heather: Bravo for getting your next book to this important stage. 🥰 Going with the flow. It’s is fine for most areas of my life, but not for my food intake 😝

    For me, tracking is crucial, and with MFP, it is quick and simple. Any time I have eased off in the past, my weight has crept up, so it’s worth the 5 minutes a day that I spend planning my eating. I still weigh portions as my guesstimates tend to be too generous 😝 I weigh most days, but don’t stress about it. It’s just data. Weight fluctuates daily. It’s no big deal, as long as the trend is steady.

    🤗 🤗 🤗 and 🙏🏻 🙏🏻 🙏🏻 to those who want/need them.

    ☘️ Terri

  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,950 Member
    edited July 2023
    Beth - Enjoy your time with your mom - I'm so glad you were able to get her close to you so you can have her with you or visit anytime you want.

    Ginny - Totally missed your bit of a collapse, had to go back and find it. Glad there was a nurse, glad you're OK. Heat issues can be incredibly debilitating, and quite scary.

    Love,
    Lisa ETC
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,950 Member
    edited July 2023
    Annie - You're so welcome! I don't always comment, but I do read your stats every day and smile. I can see how, by being able to think of yourself here, you can gain some balance for the constant attention and worry and frustration of caregiving for your parents. It must be hard when every conversation is a completely new day. I hope your sister's visit will help some to just be yourself for a little while.

    Machka - My first calorie-counting was having to lose 60 pounds to enlist in the Air Force - I was 18, and I did it in 60 days (never did THAT again, and no one should!). I remember going through those calorie counting books one after another, one would have what I wanted, one wouldn't--starting a new notebook to start a new diet. MFP, especially with the barcode reader, was just blissful!

    Kim - Kinda thought that might be coming with your mom... $300 (or even $8,000) vs. your sanity? Yeah, you're making the right choice on that one. Love that the swimming is doing you good - don't forget that it's actually dehydrating, too. Your friend's loss of their dog is so tragic, I'm so sorry.

    Allie - So glad the tests were reasonably good. Miles is turning into a real charmer... Missing my grands, and Hawaii is an awful long way away :neutral: More on that in a bit.

    Rita - I look for your updates every day, and so glad that this thread is a small haven for you... glad to hear good news of your son, too.

    Barbara AHMOD - Always see yours too, and you keep me reminded of other people's I may have missed. It's always lovely to read your observations on everyone, I find insight in each.

    Heather - Did I say I love the newest piece? I can't remember whether I said it, but I do. I really struggle with representing light, no matter whether it's acryclics or watercolor... I do think you're getting there more than you might think, certainly better than I've done.

    Making a first try at foccacia bread this morning--need to get in and get it in the pan for a second proof. If it turns out well, I'll put a link. It's a no-knead type, so super easy to put together so far.

    More in a while~
    Lisa ETC
  • pipcd34
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  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,387 Member
    2023 Jump Back Up
    Word of the year: appreciate. Today I appreciate kind people.


    Meditation: daily.21/31 (82%(started Feb)94%,100%, 74%, 93%

    Walking and exercising slowed down because of record heat this month. Emotionally and physically feeling better otherwise.

    1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 8/8–(100%,100%,0%,0%,0%,0%)
    2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 5989, 6411, 5736,(7,700,100%-9851,100%-9526,100%-9,559,100%, -8347,100%—7465,100%)
    3. Update budget every 2 weeks 2/2 —(100%,100%,100%,100%,100%, 100%)
    4. Contact close family every week (4x) 150/208—(100%,100%,100%,50%, 83%, 100% should be 137 by August 1)
    5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)63/94 (100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
    6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4,174,(100%,100%,100%,0%,100%,100%)
    7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 15/15 (100%,88%,100,100%,100%,100%,93%)
    8. Read 12 books at least this year. 26/12 (100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
    9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR/Reach Financial 6/12—(100%.100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
    10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 +25 (100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
    11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700,200,200, 107, (100%,100%,100%)

    January Met —100%
    February met —-90%
    March met met —-90%
    April met——86.36%
    May met——-89%
    June met—-99%
    July met — met
    August met
    September met
    October met —
    November met—
    December met—



    1. Take a small step to help overcome a problem or worry. I am working on helping my son through this tough time by being in contact with his case worker and tracking his location.
    2. Adopt a growth mindset. Change “I can’t” into “I can’t…yet”. I try to never use those words. I follow Yoda’s ‘Do or not, there is no try”
    3. Be willing to ask for help when you need it. I will. My back hurts today so will easily ask for help when I need it.
    4. Find something to look forward to today. Missed posting this yesterday. So today I am looking forward to my therapy session.
    5. Get the basics right: eat well, exercise and go to bed on time. Will do!
    6. Pause, breathe, and feel your feet firmly on the ground. Will meditate today to help me do this.
    7. Shift your mood by doing something you really enjoy. I really need to do this today. Did not do this. Had a bad day all around yesterday.
    8. Avoid saying “must” or “should” to yourself today. I will try.
    9. Put a problem in perspective by seeing the bigger picture. Trying to see my son’s decisions through his eyes.
    10. Reach out to someone you trust and share your feelings with them. I did not do this.
    11. Look for something positive in a difficult situation. My son is bonding with his uncle and grandmother.
    12. Write you worries down and save them for a specific “worry time”. I will try to remember to do this. Write them in my journal.
    13. Challenge negative thoughts. Find an alternative interpretation. I worked on this. I also learned a breathing technique to help.
    14. Get outside and move to help clear your head. I do this every day, but the triple digit heat is preventing it.
    15. Set yourself an achievable goal and take the first step. I have to think about this.
    16. Find fun ways to distract yourself from unhelpful thoughts. Controlled breathing helped here.
    17. Use one of your strengths to overcome a challenge today. I use tenacity often so expect to use it here.
    18. Let go of the small stuff and focus on the things that matter. I will try!
    19. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. I need to really remember this!
    20. When things go wrong, pause and be kind to yourself. I will definitely try.
    21. Identify what helped you get through a tough time in your life. Therapy, someone to talk to, long walks alone all help me through tough times, medication as well.
    22. Find 3 things you feel hopeful about and write them down. 1. I hope my son makes good decisions. 2. I am hopeful that I will find the right place to retire. 3. I am hopeful that I will be able to visit family very soon.
    23. Remember that all feelings and situations pass in time.
    24. Choose to see something good about what has gone wrong.
    25. Notice when you are being judge mental and be kind instead.
    26. Catch yourself over-reacting and take a deep breath.
    27. Write down 3 things you are grateful for (even if today was hard).
    28. Think about what you can learn about a recent problem.
    29. Be a realistic optimist. Focus on what could go right.,
    30. Reach out to a friend, family member, or colleague for support.
    31. Remember we all struggle at times. It’s part of being human.
    RVRita in NM
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,258 Member
    barbiecat wrote: »
    :) This has been my new life since I found MFP in 2009. I know what foods are nutrition dense and healthy for me and those are the foods I eat. I seek every opportunity to be active. I don't eat for recreation, entertainment, or stress reduction. I don't eat to please other people. I make intentional decisions to deviate from my plan and don't have any "finish line". I want to live a long and healthy life. I make a point of seeking out people who are encouraging and stay away from those who aren't. It helps me to have a routine so I don't lose time and energy trying to decide what to do. It is because of MFP and this thread that I've figured out what works for me and get the encouragement to continue day by day.

    :)Kim, Bravo for telling you mom that she can't live with you. Saying no is difficult. My mom was difficult like yours so your stories ring true with me. My mother lived the last years of her life with a live in caregiver who was able to deal with her many quirks.

    :)Ginny, Your "collapse" story was scary. Glad you are OK.

    :) That reminds me that Jake had a scary almost collapse a few years ago one morning at the grocery store. When I asked him about it, it turned out that he had gone out having consumed only coffee with no water or breakfast. Fortunately, he learned quickly and now he is faithful to have water and a protein filled breakfast before he does anything that requires energy.

    :) My walk this morning will be interesting. There is a neighbourhood garage sale so people will be setting up at the time we'll be walking. It will make for different sights than the usual.

    <3 Barbie in NW WA


    I wish we could find a trustworthy live in person for MIL that wouldn't charge a ton. That would solve a lot of the issues. We did hire one lady. MIL spent the first day, not letting the lady do anything. Just talked *kitten* about dh and I. When the lady didn't agree with the bs she was saying, she made the second day terrible for the lady. DH walked in the house, MIL had the tv on highest volumn, wouldn't let the lady turn it down, was yelling at her. The lady was shaking and couldn't get out fast enough. It was supposed to be a one week trial but only lasted the two days.
    I think that needs to be the next step before putting her in a home. Then she can continue to cook, have her dog, have all her things with her. This will be something dh and I need to discuss.
    We would remove a few things from the house, as to not temp someone(Jewelry from Okinawa, etc. MIL has told dh a few times she wants me to take it so that one friend of the other son's who hangs out over there once in a while doesn't steal it- I am NOT falling for that trap- she will say I stole it- we can put it in a safety deposit box and I will pay for that). If we can get someone for like $500 a week plus a room to stay in- they wouldn't have to be there full time- They could work part time but just be there mornings and evenings or what ever. We had considered Ezie's grandpa to be care giver. MIL likes him. But dh doesn't trust him to not steal from MIL. That is what he got fired for the last two jobs.
    DH just needs to think with a clear mind, not a poor pitiful me/spiteful mind.
    Even if we had to pay them more, it would still be worth it for dh's mental health and cheaper than a rest home.

    Debbie

  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,556 Member
    After the pool went to WalMart because had coleslaw for dinner and I didn’t realize Vince didn’t have any coleslaw dressing (I just use ACV). Then went to Michael’s where I got thimbles and a ruler for free plus I returned some embroidery thread I bought. Then since I was right there stopped at Ross to see about tablecloths but they didn’t have any then went to a store 5 Below (I’d never been in it) to see if they had tablecloths but they don’t sell them. Did get a sign for Colby for Christmas. Then home to have dinner

    Sat. here:

    Rita – I’m so sorry about your infection. I do hope it clears up soon. Great about your son

    Ginny – take care of yourself, especially in this heat. I have an insulated thermos that really keeps the water cold. Maybe you could do something like that, keep cold water nearby to drink

    Just came in from cutting the grass. I was almost finished and it started raining so I just finished. Didn’t last long, I was able to go out and sweep.


    ‘The plan for tomorrow is to do Jillian Michaels Beginner Shred DVD. We shall see how it goes

    Started revitalizing my sourdough. We’ll have bread in a few days probably. Haven’t had that in a while

    Kim – there is no way on this green earth I’d accept $300. Or $3,000,000,000 for that matter. Good for you saying “no”

    Lisa ETC – I bet your foccacia tastes as good as it smells, probably even better

    Allie -= feel better soon

    Off to church in a few.

    Michele NC

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